☯️ Therapist Explains the Paradox of Binge Eating Recovery

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Ай бұрын

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In this video, I'm diving deep into the often misunderstood concepts of self-compassion, acceptance, and permission to eat, which, though they may seem counterintuitive, are crucial for healing and recovery from binge eating.
For years, I battled with binge eating, believing that my failures were due to a lack of discipline, thinking I was weak and lazy. This view was reinforced by a culture that equates hard work with results. However, my relentless effort didn't seem to bring any change, leaving me exhausted and stuck.
Imagine trying to drive a manual car by only pressing the gas pedal without engaging the gear; that's how I was approaching my recovery. It wasn't until I embraced the softer, less tangible aspects of healing-like self-compassion and acceptance-that I began to see progress.
In this video, I share my personal journey and professional insights into how these principles can fundamentally alter our relationship with food and ourselves. Self-compassion isn't about letting yourself off the hook, as many might think. Instead, it's about understanding and acknowledging your pain without judgment, which allows you to manage your behaviors more effectively.
Acceptance plays a pivotal role too. It's not about liking your situation but rather acknowledging it without resistance. This can reduce the suffering that comes from constantly trying to fight reality. By accepting that binge episodes might still happen, we can prepare ourselves to respond to them with kindness rather than self-criticism.
Moreover, the idea of permission to eat tackles the restrictive behaviors that often lead to binge eating. By allowing ourselves to eat without guilt, and setting intentions to enjoy our food, we can begin to break the cycle of binge eating and restriction.
Throughout this discussion, I provide practical tips on how to apply these concepts in everyday life, highlighting the transformative power they hold. If you've struggled with a similar path, know that you're not alone, and change is possible with the right approach.
For those who want to explore these themes further, I've linked additional resources above, including a transformative retreat called Hero's Journey, which was a game-changer for me. Also, check out my Connect and Recover groups for more support.
Thank you for watching, and remember, this journey is about progress, not perfection. Let's continue to learn and grow together. See you in the next video!

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@roseannbarks9327 Ай бұрын

Thank you for not making us feel - lazy, disgusting, weak, hopeless

@WiseMindNutrition Ай бұрын

Such a breath of fresh air right?

@roseannbarks9327 Ай бұрын

@@WiseMindNutrition Yes, so wonderful!

@surcitta Ай бұрын

I wish you lived in my head steering me away from my chaotic and crazy behaviours. Your videos are so helpful and give such good advice. Thank you so much for your hard work on producing all your output.

@carlyhunt1787 Ай бұрын

It SO hard finding a middle ground between restricting and binging. It's one or the other for me. So black and white. I can't just intuitively eat, that makes me want to restrict. I can't let go of the want to lose weight. It seems impossible to accept who I am or give any kind of compassion to myself.

@TheBingeEatingTherapist Ай бұрын

It can be SO hard to break that cycle. Most people in the binge/restrict need to give up the restriction first, which does often mean some backlash compulsive eating. The primal hunger tends to calm down after a while, but this can take months, which can be pretty scary. Have a look at some stories on people who have done ‘all in’ recovery. It may help normalise some of this stuff for you, even if you don’t think it’s the best approach for you ❤️

@carlyhunt1787 Ай бұрын

@@TheBingeEatingTherapist Thank you

@genomeara6922 Ай бұрын

That’s exactly where I’m stuck - and have been for decades. Thank you, Sarah, for your positivity. ❤

@thebeefyleaf Ай бұрын

Try structured eating!

@ilovethismuzik Ай бұрын

I relate completely to your comment

@kristinnreinhard6297 Ай бұрын

I'm SO glad to have found your channel, Sarah! Your videos are helping me change the way I deal with my emotional binge eating. One thing that has really worked for me, that you're talking about in this video, is allowing myself to eat. I've tried the advice of not having anything unhealthy in my home. When my cravings hit, I am out of control going through my kitchen cabinets to find something - anything - to stuff in my face. A while ago, I decided to try your method. I have chocolates, cookies, salty nuts, and chips stored (out of sight so that I'm not triggered when I open a cabinet looking for something else) and when those strong cravings hit, it's ok. I can have what I'm craving as long as I eat it slowly. Since I made this change, my cravings are fewer and weaker than ever before. Thank you! 🤗

@lisaaamoun3520 Ай бұрын

Your videos have helped me so much. My eating has been so much better. Things you’ve said stay with me even when I’m not struggling. I’m able to see my progress. I don’t worry as much about what’s going to happen and I’m better able to relax around eating. Thank you so much. Who am I without the pain I inflicted on myself unknowingly.? This makes me sad to even say it. Now I can learn what a great person I am underneath all that pain. There really is a skinny girl waiting to get out and she is the most beautiful inside and outside. That makes me happy. Seems weird to believe in myself but I think I like it after I take a few deep breaths. Thanks again.

@alexlindstrom555 Ай бұрын

I’ve had little glimpses of “success” lately. I guess IE would call it “crystallization.” Making food choices and choices to listen to my body’s cues…because it actually feels good in the long run. All though compassion and permission to eat! Sometimes letting go of self-judgment…leaves my mind kind of empty…cause the critical voice is so often all that’s there. But it’s a nice break for something nicer to come in!

@user-jx3yf9mt5n Ай бұрын

You express the thoughts that so many of us have so articulately. You have so much insight. Thank you for the work you do ❤

@michele3631 Ай бұрын

Your message about accepting our past actions is so helpful. You're right. Fighting with reality is a sure way to stay stuck in despair. I tried to eliminate the parts of my past self that i didn't like. The result was that i buried anger, shame, and grief further down into my pysche, which created deeper pain and suffering. Now i practice self compassion, and I've befriended the parts of myself that I labeled as bad and unworthy. I give myself love and respect instead of judgments and criticism. I feel more peaceful and alive now. Dr. Kristin Neff has some wonderful books on self compassion you might enjoy. She has a channel as well.

@benetabarr6043 Ай бұрын

🙌🏼 I need to listen to this daily 💞

@butterpecan447 17 күн бұрын

i have had food issues so many years, i havent a clue real hunger, real cravings, appropriate amounts, and I really dont KNOW what i really WANT to eat. I found that restriction completely is the only thing i do! Doesnt matter what i weigh, i feel out of control unless i just DONT eat much. Just enough to survive. That is safe for me.😢. These videos help so much to try to understand all this.

@TheBingeEatingTherapist 16 күн бұрын

❤‍🩹

@vegascharles Ай бұрын

Thank you so much for your content, I am recovering from binge eating and that's largely because of you. You are a blessing

@lennawisehart4888 Ай бұрын

You are soooo correct. I stumbled on this a month or so ago. I have trouble binging on chocolate in the evenings… so i began eating an appropriate amount in the mornings right after a healthy breakfast. It really seemed to help me. Thank you Sarah for all you do for us ❤

@alicialacroix Ай бұрын

This is so helpful. I'm going to watch it again soon to help it sink in

@fornamnefternamn4869 Ай бұрын

TRhank you! I am trying recovering from ED ana, but do not succeed with any "all in" or planned. I am trying a combination of "all in" and mindful eating. I found your channel looking for that. This video is a help for us who cant do some boxed package of "recover doing THIS" but need something in between and a lot of thinking to prevent extremes.

@susankovar817 Ай бұрын

You say exactly what I have been needing to hear. I’ve learned so much from you and have been making progress. I can’t thank you enough!

@ozgunnehirkortik3035 Ай бұрын

I would love to hear an answer 🙏Is it okay for me to say “I’m gonna stop focusing on weight loss for now and heal from my ed than I can focus on exercising, watching my calories that way I can lose weight and have my dream body.” Because I can’t get over the dilemma of when I say to myself I’m not gonna focus on weight loss I eventually think that what’s the point in healing . If it’s okay to think about losing weight after recovery I will be extremely relieved.❤

@roseannbarks9327 Ай бұрын

I get so frustrated that I seem to fight with my brain, can’t we be on the same team?😂

@karenwalmsley7817 Ай бұрын

Hi Sarah I'm struggling so much with my binge eating I need some help

@user-ff5ey9dh7k 14 күн бұрын

Please put this in a book. It's life changing. Xxx❤

@TheBingeEatingTherapist 12 күн бұрын

That is the plan 🤫

@d_chatz8353 Ай бұрын

Thank you for putting out all this content! I think listening to you more often will help!

@amb13nt59 29 күн бұрын

Always love the analogies you use.

@em945 Ай бұрын

Thank you so much for your efforts! ✌❤😁

@asd_ratio 4 күн бұрын

For one year I am really trying to change and get rid of this. Before , I was not aware of that much maybe my binges never were severe it happens once in a week sometimes once in twice a week. But for one year I am so aware of and I am trying to change but I am failing a lot. Actually I was just 2 months free from binges but then it started again, and every time I say to myself it is okay try again start from now but it is not okay it is definitely not okay. My only focus for my life now this because I want to end this and continue to my future life. It affects my productivity, my willingness, my happiness, my confidence. It will be much more hard times in my life in my work and if I cannot get rid of this bad habit, I cannot get through of other bad events in my life

@eringiesler6485 25 күн бұрын

This video is life changing

@asd_ratio 4 күн бұрын

Dealing with failure it is so so hard. Because my binges not so high level as used to be. But still I have some over eating problems maybe slight binge sometimes I am trying to change this behavior so hard for this year. I am going okay okay then falling this trap again but I promised myself I was okay but then I failed after two days I failed again. When we fail that much I am losing my confidence anymore and that’s also bad. Sometimes I don’t trust myself. Especially this two weeks I have failed a lot and I lost my confidence

@sinclairlanier4081 3 сағат бұрын

The REBEL! That is sooooo meeeeee!!!

@Ellie655 Ай бұрын

Your insight and guidance is invaluable! Thank you so much 🙂

@juliemoore6957 Ай бұрын

So good!

@marvaSunshine Ай бұрын

So helpful. Thanks a lot ❤❤❤

@paulab501 Ай бұрын

Great video Sarah thank you ❤

@sibastoune Ай бұрын

Two months ago I started eating my fill three times a day without restrictions. No more eating at night, no more snacking between meals during the day...I felt free. This lasted about a month. Then one day two co-workers told me I had gained weight. I got on the scale and saw the extra ten pounds. I dropped everything and went back to my chaotic eating. I know it's stupid but the idea of gaining weight (me who is already overweight) is intolerable to me.

@carylfrench4067 Ай бұрын

I feel guilty eating my lunch because people see a fat person not eating a salad and you feel the judgement

@adamfilip Ай бұрын

How do you feel about Vyvanse and Mounjaro? Id love to hear about your thoughts on both in a video or podcast

@TheBingeEatingTherapist Ай бұрын

I have pretty nuanced opinions on this; I think these can help some people and make it worse for others. I deliberately stay away from discussing these on social media as they are a medical intervention and I don’t feel comfortable from an ethics perspective being an influencing factor in people making these medical decisions. Never say never, but at the moment my stance is to avoid talking about these on social media and focusing on the emotional and psychological.

@thatraccoonqueen Ай бұрын

After you've gotten a handle on binge eating, how do you then transition into healthy weight loss if one actually does have weight to lose?

@TheBingeEatingTherapist Ай бұрын

I’m not able to answer that. As an eating disorder therapist I focus on helping people heal their relationship with food and stop bingeing. If someone has done that and they want to try to intentionally lose weight there are many other voices out there they can listen to. My approach is weight neutral, which doesn’t mean I think trying to lose weight is wrong, just that I see it really messes a lot of people up. My approach would involve building up health supporting habits rather than chasing weight loss as the focus on weight directly seems to trigger many people back into disordered eating (if they struggled with disordered eating in the first place). It’s so individual. What’s ok for one person may not be ok for the other. Each person needs to figure out what works for them.

@thatraccoonqueen Ай бұрын

@@TheBingeEatingTherapist Thank you very much for replying. That was my worry, that going back into a weight loss space or focusing on weight loss would mess me up again, and I didn't want that at all because now that I am in a place where I am not binging all of the time or obsessed with food and mentally knocking myself down, I never want to go back there. But, I am trying to be realistic about my physical situation as well. What you mention about health supporting habits over intentional weight loss sounds like a much kinder way to go about looking at my health. It' is very different being a position where I am needing to lose weight for medical reasons as opposed to reasons that are unhealthy or unhelpful to me. I'm really going to think on what you've said, thank you so much!

@lucysnowe3571 Ай бұрын

I see it as an addiction. So do we think people who are addicted to smoking are traumatized and numbing out? I don't feel guilty about bingeing and am happy....

@TheBingeEatingTherapist Ай бұрын

The human experience of this or any addictive-like behaviours is so diverse that what is true for one may not be true for another. For me, treating my bingeing eating as an addiction only made it worse, but for someone else it could be helpful. Trauma is a risk factor for addictions AND I think addictions can develop independently of trauma. Smoking cigarettes just doesn't have a numbing effect on the body whereas drugs, alcohol and food do so it's always going to look a bit different

@lucysnowe3571 Ай бұрын

I do chase weight loss though and have been stuck in the restrict,/binge cycle. I find Ur suggestions re chaos and planning helpful as I think I'm on the ADHD spectrum especially with food

@darlenecrotts2102 23 күн бұрын

Im a diabetic for 25 years and I binge. How do I be ok with bingeing? My sugar goes up and down and without restriction my sugar stays higher and then goes all the insulin I have to take. My indo is not happy with me 😩

@TheBingeEatingTherapist 22 күн бұрын

Check out this account as she talks about diabetes and blood sugars from a medically-informed, non restrictive perspective instagram.com/foodfreedomdiabetes?igsh=MTFhdzUxdHl5Z253aA==

@harukostein 13 күн бұрын

I eat once a day for almost a decade but I have serious issues that are impacting my life negatively. When I see "binge eating" in your titles or thumbnails, I always think "hmm, I'm not a binge eater so this is not for me" :D Am I wrong to think that?

@TheBingeEatingTherapist 12 күн бұрын

Not wrong at all! You are the expert of your experience and you can use whatever language or concepts that make the most sense to you

@harukostein 12 күн бұрын

@@TheBingeEatingTherapist Thanks for the reply. let me put it a different way. When you use the term "binge eating" does that mean you are not targeting people who only eat once a day? Or, who is your target audience when you talk about binge eating?