I identify as a Michael Jackson. My pronoun is "He-He".

I really hope this weird crap goes away

I identify as a billionaire. However, the bank doesn't see me that way. How can I sue them?

It is hard because you are ONE person, not MANY, so you cannot appropriate a Plural pronoun and expect people to refer to you as if you were a group of 2 or more. It makes no sense, and it is an enforcement on other people's use of the language, that I now have to figure out if THEY or THEM means only one person or multiple. It's ridiculous. I identify as incapable of doing that, cuz when I say "They are coming" I don't care what gender they are, it only means that more than one individual are coming. And you cannot pretend to deprive the meaning of a prural pronoun to now be also a single pronoun, because it defeats the purpose of having prural pronouns in the 1st place. Choose a different word, not an already established one, that's all.

Heather and Dan went for a walk to the park. Dan was deciding what they should eat while Heather was on a diet so they did not want to eat, all of the sudden they screamed at the top of their lungs, "take a look at them!" They turned around as fast as they could to see what they was talking about but they had no idea. At this point they were very confused and Dan decided that they needed a coffee so they told them that they should go get one when they realized that they needed some cash for a tip so they lent them a couple of bucks. After their coffee they went to the mall to finally get lunch.

Im gay but please don't associate me with this kind of people 💀💀💀

Sorry if this seems harsh, but what makes this seem gimmicky is that 10 years ago, no one was on the they/them, ve/ver, etc. wave. This makes it seem as though we are just witnessing a copycat effect via social media. There is no way that people across America (not the world) are just independently deciding to change “their” pronouns, instead it’s likely that they got the idea via social media from someone else and decide to follow.

One thing I do that I think helps me, and can help the people around me, learn to use they/them in a singular sense, is to use it to keep anonymity when talking about your friends/other people whenever gender is irrelevant (which is usually). Of course if these friends have other pronouns that they really prefer you use, you should use those, but most cis people won't mind they/them being used, especially when their name is left out of the conversation. It's really useful for when you don't have many non-binary people in your life to practice with AND helps keep people from guessing who you're talking about.

Apparently singular they has been in use since the 1300s, and longer than plural they. They’re also not that hard to use, you’d use them when talking about, say, people in general or someone who you don’t know the gender of.

in germany we slowly start to implement "they/them", but it's still a little bit wonky, despite german and english being similar. german is sadly a very *very* gendered language, but new ways were and are implemented to neutralize it a bit. I personally prefer and use it/he it - cuz it's the closest to gender neutral. it's seen as dehumanizing tho, but I love it, since it's the closest pronoun to be void of any gender there is. like a sexless object and I'm genderless. so a perfect fit :3 he - to make it easier for my family and at work. after all "it" is seen as a slur by most people and since many people see my absolutely androgynous hobbit existence as female, I think the best way to neutralize that is to use "he" and "mr." at work. sidenote: commonly we don't use our first names on nametags or when talking to coworkers in front of customers. it's seen as rude and unprofessional here, so I have "Mr." on my nametag also I'm more compfy with "he" than with "they", but generally I try to keep gender out of my speech. definitely far from easy in german. over here a spoon is a he and a fork a she, cuz "der(masc) Löffel" and "die(fem) Gabel" lol

As someone who english is not my first language, and im not used to speak with people, you are just making it soo complicated to understand. If someone say they or their I will definitely not think it's about one person . I'll think it's about More than 2 people. Honestly, it shouldn't be this way. You could add something more same as he she the, phe whatever just they and them doesn't make any sense By the way you are lovely

In the upcoming Monster High movie Frankie uses they/them pronouns as a major character. They introduce themselves with their pronouns to Clawdeen and she shares her pronouns to them as well. I hate how lightskinned Clawdeen is to her original toy though :/. I do hope this one of the things that helps normalize they as a singular pronoun.

I have an odd question basically I want to know if the pronouns I use actually exists and I'm I allowed to use them : (he/them) dose this work?

I have a few non-binary friends and I don’t understand how it’s difficult. Since it’s a gender neutral term it’s just natural for me lol

I think a video about gender neutral pronouns in other languages would be cool, the pronouns definitely exist and it's really cool.

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I do appreciate your pleasant tone in discussing this sensitive and personal matter. And, while I have reservations about using they/them, my heart and mind are open to the concept certain individuals do not feel their self-identity or "relationship with other people" fits within the masculine-feminine duality. For anyone who feels that way, "To thine own self be true." However ........... 1) Please consider the difficulty you impose on others when you're asking them (pl) to use they/them (sing). If you were not adept at using they/them for over a year, less motivated individuals (with less incentive to put in the same effort as you) may take much longer to gain your skill level in using they/them. Please consider problems with using they/them in certain instances. --- Unless there is a signal that someone else is non-binary, people who are uncertain about somebody's gender identification will reasonably struggle to know what they/them was intended to mean. --- When being introduced to someone new, not everyone wants to start the conversation discussing sexual identification. There is a bit of irony that a non-binary person, who does not embrace the normative feminine-masculine duality, compels another person, in the first instance, to consider the variations of this duality. --- The improper use of they/them can negatively effect other people --- even when the non-binary person is not present. Example. Using "they/them" with a person who identifies as a male or female can cause them embarrasment. Example, a man who does not exude obviously masculine traits might be extremely embarresed to being publicly referred to as they/them. It should be no surprise that men might chafe at a social order that results in an implied public questioning of their masculinity. ---- There are challenging social settings, where people struggle to just remember the "names," where the need to correctly identify they/them requires extra effort. In times where there is limited bandwidth, the proper identity of the non-binary can be at the expense of recognizing other people . ---- In public spaces, I have seen instances where the public announcements about the willingness to use they/them is simply viewed as a waste of time for people for whom this is not an issue. The cause of acceptqance is not furthered when people are forced to listen to announcements viewed as a waste of time. 2) Pronounds are used, instead of names, because it is a simpler and easier way to refer to another person. Forcing people to think abou the "they/them" option is complicating a form of language that previously allowed for simplicity. 3) It seems that the goal is to create a social order where it is "impolite" to misgender someone. This may help to "affirm" the feelings of non-binary and trans people. However, there is a potential cost. It seems to me that compelling others to use "they/them" is causing a backlash by people who might otherwise be indifferent to a person's sexual identification. Is asking/compelling others to use they/them worth the cost? That is a question each person must answer for themselves.

Anyone who is confused with the singular/plural debate I shall give an example: A: My friend told me something B: what did they say? We know that the friend is singular, they is singular too since we don’t know which friend or their gender. If you’re against it then my example might bring too much attention to the debate but the truth is you’d probably use it self-consciously. If you used he/she I’m guessing that’s conscious

My mum started off being unsure how to grammatically use they/them pronouns whilst I had zero issues.

Another thing when we use the word there in a sentence “like I’m going to watch their dog” aren’t we using different types of words they’re and their? I’m trying to figure this out and not make this sound backwards the way y’all be talking about it

I identify myself as John Cena

every time someone gets mad about other people’s pronouns i feel like im gonna have a brain aneurysm

As a scandinavian it is confusing with they/them for third person singular, AND I can learn.

Thank you Lynn, as a Trans/Nonbinary person and individual, I keep getting deadnamed and misgendered

I’m so glad you made this video. My mom is confuse with the they/them pronouns. I tried explaining it to her but she still doesn’t get. She sad it not proper English and they/them is not a singular. I might show her this video, maybe it will help.

If the person is an amalgam of two or more persons, I would use "they", but if a single person, that person may select from "he", "she", or "it".

When someone says they use they/them pronouns, we know exactly what you are, what political party you favor, what mental disorders you have like DID anxiety and depression, there’s nothing unique about you, you’re just one of “them”

Pronouns are very easy to use. Example. 'Did you speak to Jamie and Kamala yesterday?' 'I spoke to them, but she wasn't there.'

The comment "I don't care about their gender, you can't use they/them for a single person." still keeps me awake at night. It's mindmelting how people who complain about pronouns use "they/them" is the sentence complaining about pronouns. You... you... you literally... you literally used singular they them right there.

'They' implies more than one person. By that,it seems like someone is saying that 'they' are at least twice as important than anyone else in the world. Get off your high horse. You are at least half as good as any person who stands up for their own REAL self.

In my native language it's a bit weird as it's zij and zij. Which is female and plural. It indeed is amazing when they address you the right way. Also when they make an effort.

Hey Lynn and other lovely folks! Does anyone have any advice or resources for addressing transphobic and and not lgbt+ friendly language in the workplace? I am a relatively new employee and have experienced people saying negative stuff that I have a hard time ignoring but don't know how to address in a professional setting especially being a newbie. Thanks

Excited to see this tonight! 💛🤍💜🖤

In english is very easy to use, but what can I do, romanian has so gender neutral pronoun, when I talk about non-binary people I try as much to not use any probouns and say their name, other way would be to call them "elea" wich is just a translated version of heshe, so I'm stucked and idk what to do, lucky for me I talk more about this stuff in online foreing comunities where is a releaf that I can use they

I have a friend who came out as nonbinary about a year ago. Retraining by brain to use they/them pronouns for this person came very easily, but I keep accidentally addressing them by their deadname. I always feel really bad and apologize immediately however I’ve known this person for nine years, so I’m just so used to their old name it’s hard to remember to use their gender neutral name. It makes me feel awful. They know I’m trying and completely understand, but I still feel really bad…

I’m a french non binary, and i’m learning english but the pronouns they/them confuse me. In french, we use sinngular neutral pronouns, but in English you use a plural pronoun, so i don’t know what to say after it: they are or they is? Because it’s still only one person (well except if they have a DID) and it sounds really strange to me, but i don’t want to make any mistake

How do you know that your cat prefers he/him?

I have a non-binary person in my class, they're quite cool to be around and would like to be friends with them, they're also quite good at photoshop. Also I would quite like to see a video on neopronouns, I want to be a better ally and I think knowing more about them and how to use them in a sentence would help

Singular ‘their’ is ambiguous. It can be used when referring to either male or female. ‘Nobody in their right mind would do _______.’ It’s either or. The term ‘androgynous’ makes more sense to me.

Nice video! Thanks for sharing the info 😃

But why plural tho? Me don't really understandings...

I respect everyone's gender pronouns and sexual/romantic orientation or lack there of I would consider myself to be a supporter of the lgbtqia+ community I also identify as aromantic but Im heterosexual as well

What an absolute freak of a person

The real question is, and I thought this was the 1st person to actually explain it to me but why, “they/them”? Is it because they feel like 2 ppl living in one body? Why pluralize a singular thing? Please explain (if able). Thanks.

Does anyone else have parents that don’t believe in this stuff or say it’s a regard of this generation making things up because mine does and it drives me crazy a lot to see how ignorant and an ass she’s making out of herself the time will come where she’ll be forced to accept this truth

Question how come you used the word boy when introducing your cat? Wouldn’t it be just they are the cutest cat?

Hi! I have to plan a lesson plan for my master's homework, where I have to explain students how to use the pronoun They/them/their as an inclusive pronoun. This was really helpful, Thank you!

I use proper grammar.

Originally, the neutral pronoun "It" is positioned between "She" and "He". However, there are negative opinions about it as it generally evokes associations with animals or objects. While "They" is plural, using it for singular can lead to confusion in conversation. Substituting "They" for "It" is grammatically incorrect in English. So, how can we coexist? The answer lies in reusing the Old English term "Hit". "Hit" is a third-person singular neutral pronoun that, when viewed from a modern perspective, evokes human qualities and conveys notions of strength and success. Though an old word, it has a casual charm. Let's make this word popular again.

As a gender nonconforming person myself, I do still slip up and misgender people sometimes, but the more I practice using the correct pronouns and the more I’m around other gender nonconforming people, the easier it becomes. Also, as someone who uses multiple sets of pronouns (I’m he/they/she), it feels really validating when people use more than one pronoun for me. I’m comfortable with he/him, and most people default to that because I’m AMAB and “look like a boy.” But when I hear someone use they or she I get a rush of euphoria because I know that person is listening to me and cares.

I know I keep posting, but I’m really trying to figure this thing out and sis when people use those terms and every day sentences we really just be using bad grammar sometimes that as people in society talk with lazy tongues and that’s it…… it’s like y’all really reaching it seems and is quite rude to try to force someone else to call you by some thing that you just made up for yourself when let’s be real gender determines lot to say it doesn’t exist huh are we robots because that’s what y’all are starting to try and sound like but y’all say non-binary but then completely act like a bot in terms for yourself 🤦🏿‍♂️ so help me understand what y’all are saying I really don’t want my children thinking backwards like this it’s gonna make life hard when they’re old

And can somebody tell me who they and them are? I’m really missing something and the people who wants to call themselves by these terms can’t explain it in a way that makes sense. It’s like all made up regardless of the rules for grammar

What if I’m not sorry and move on anyway? 😂

Multiple personality use they them

Can I go as he/them as a nonbinary person? I'm lost on this and questioning to hell and back

Why so hard to just accept your gender?

I'm not a cis person im just a person

Tldr: Words dont mean anything and we can use whatever word we want for whatever thing we want because you can choose to decline the accepted common English and do your own thing.

It’s messed up the only reason I came to this video was to find out how they and them is ok to apply to your single self🤣

I am gay and LGB should drop the TQ , we have nothing in common

Great vid lynn! Also love the hair, it really suits you!

Wait, hold on you said you get euphoria from people saying your pronouns you need to do a video on that.

There should be gender-neutral pronouns, such as "ze/zir" (singular, unlike "they/them"), and they should be widely adopted. That's it! I don't need to know whether you have a d*** or a v*****, or who you sleep with. Shouldn't need to memorize hundreds of pronouns!

THEY THEM in the first person is WE. Shouldn't you use WE instead of "I"?

They and them are plural pronouns. You're obviously not an English teacher.

So question without people getting all offended. If they/them refers to a third pronoun why not make up something? I mean these words are madeup but so complicated that only diehard keyboard warriors from like the extremist part of the lgbt only knows. Since they/them refers to a couple or a group of 3 or more. It seems people who get furious about questioning that, seem to almost have no idea why either. So is there someone with a brain to answer the question or am i gonna get a bunch of keyboard warriors calling me intolerant? 😂😂😂

Ignore the hatters and do what makes you happy

Thank you! This video i really helped me. I make a lot of mistakes with pronouns at this point so I'm determined to practice and improve. I think it'd be wonderful if you decided to make another video on some of the other nonbinary pronouns, like the ones you showed us. I use different sets of pronouns for myself including ze, zir zirs, and I'm not even sure why I use them, except they make me feel free. Thank you for showing us your lovely cat.

I came to learn what They means but I guess I need to learn what non-binary and gender nutraul means also.

Male and female. Everything is either male or female. Period!!

If you would be open to talking about it. How dose she / her not work for you? Or hurt / make you not feel whole of like your self ? - I’m %100 asking to learn and grow.

why not use "it"

Do "They" have to pay double for everything or do "They" get half off? 🤔

Nope, us older folks are not interested in joining this foolishness... They and them are already taken!!! they are plural so really not appropriate...Why not new words or acronyms? Like T for transitioning or Twin Spirit? and TIM for transitioning to male or TIF for transitioning to female? these cover the need and make some sense... Leave old words as they are and end the confusion...much easier to use I hope it catches on. If you are going to CREATE new gender identities MAKE NEW WORDS!!!!!

So if I identify as They/Them, can I vote three times in the elections.

I am very supportive of the LGBTQ+ COMMUNITY. However, I am also 56 years old. Relearning basic English and everything that I've been taught for so many years is very difficult. You are young and these words are easy for you. My point is that there are a LOT of people out there trying to learn and be respectful. However, while asking others to respect you, please respect us. Don't immediately become angry or defensive or offended when we get it wrong. Be patient, as we will with you. Educate us kindly and know that some of us are trying.

Why they/them people always looks like this

I am an effeminate gay male who came out in my 20s in the 1980s, except to my parents. When my mother would ask me who I was going out with on a Saturday night, I would always say a friend of mine from school and only refer to him as "them" to hide his bio-sex. The pronouns "she" and "he" refer to bio-sex. And none of my dates would be "she". Years later, when I was "out" to my mother, she told me that she guessed I was trying to hide things from her by my use of "they/them" pronouns. The use of "they" as a singular has become more common since the 1960s. And when the actual bio-sex or trans-gender of a person is unknown, then the use of "they" is perfectly acceptable because the phrase "she or he" is too cumbersome. However, when the bio-sex or trans-gender of the person is actually known, then "they" would not be appropriate. Using "they" to describe a known person keeps that person as an object, rather than a subject. For example in these sentences: [I am unfamiliar with your friend. Who are they?] Both the "friend" and "they" are descriptors of some person about whom little is known by the speaker. That "friend" remains objectified. And since we would still say, "who are they", rather than, "who is they" because "they" is predominantly used to refer to a group, the singular "they" keeps the person objectified just like a group of people are more objects rather than individual subjects. Once the bio-sex or trans-gender of the person is known, that person becomes more of a subject, more personal. So, the use of "they" as a singular for a known person would actually be impolite as it tends to objectify the person. At that point we would use "he" or "she" as in: [My friend is a trans-gender woman. She and I graduated from university together.] I will say that I would disagree with using "they" to describe postmodern philosophical non-genders, as these categories are imaginary. There is no evidence of a gender spectrum in humans. How a person expresses bio-sex may be wide and varying. But the science is clear as to humans being males or females. And there is sufficient evidence that supports the existence of the brain dysphoria of truly trans-gender women and trans-gender men. And the polite use of "he" or "she" as pronouns for trans-gender persons is appropriate. And this would be true regardless of how far the trans-gender individual has transitioned. Sincerity is important. I learned that from my mother. So, let me be clear, I remain convinced that there are people with true trans-gender dysphoria. There are just not very many of them. The postmodern trans idea, which has recently exploded onto the scene, that someone is both female and male or is neither female nor male remains in the imagination or spirituality of the holder. And in polite society, there is no obligation for non-believers to deconstruct the English language to satisfy other people's imaginings. The one limited exception to use "they" for a known person would be for that extreme minority of people who are born intersex. And in that case if their sex is not deducible from outward appearance and general conversation, then just respectfully wing it and hope for the best.

F THE PRONOUNS

and I don't have to try to please your delusion

I'm not even sure how it's expected to abide by these pronoun requests when you keep using the offensive word "cis" as a way to describe us. We're not cis anything, we're just what we are. If someone is a biological male then they're just a male, same for female. Adding "cis" to it is very offensive, learn from this.

Your mother is slipping up on your pronouns and not calling you they them because you are one singular person, and to say that someone says their dog it is THEIR dog

Please keep declaring pro-nouns - it helps people know who to avoid, and who not to employ.

In my language, Thai language. First person pronoun (I) has sooo many words. Both male/female and gender neutral. 1.These are male words. ผม( pǒm), normal formal speak, can use in most situation, but not with your friends. กระผม(kra pǒm) very formal speak, posh kind of word, not many people use it. อาตามา (attama) monks and priests use it, there isn't this type of word for female because female are exclude from priesthood in Thai Buddhism. It was very later that we have female monk, still a lot of people don't accept them or revere them as male monks. เกล้ากระหม่อม(klāo kramǿm) 2.Then there are female words ฉัน(chan) normal formal speak, can use in most situation, somehow, it works with friends too, but not that popular. ดิฉัน(dichan) very formal speak, posh kind of word, not many people use it. หม่อมฉัน (mǒm chan) for talking to monk, again, it is result of male dominant religion culture here 3.And these are gender neutral words กู (kū) , for friends only, quite rude word to use for other people that aren't close to you, I don't like it as well, it is more of asserting dominant kind of word. lol ข้าพเจ้า(khāphajao) very formal word, more often use for letters and very important speak, like apology letter or resignation and other serious matters. ข้าพระพุทธเจ้า (khāpraputtajao) the same as above, but more formal, more asserting improtance of the message. เรา (rao) , it is like "we" in English, but singular, if we want to use "we" prural, it is พวกเรา(phūak rao). Phuak is literral translate as "group". And you see, I haven't move on to 2nd or 3rd person pronouns and we have so many words to choose. I alternate between them a lot, and people aren't confuse because our language lack grammars. lol

I always got confused with the whole genderfluid pronouns, to me "They/Them" sounds like your talking to multiple people and not an individual person. They are now here, and We should tell Them to leave. If people dont wish to be refered to by their assumed gender, why not just call them "IT" ?

Identify as Xe/Xenia

Thank you, Lynn. So many people being ignorant with this thing and said using they/them are stupid. It's like you want to borrow someone pencil and you said please use it carefully. And then they break the rule. That's the example of how misgendering look like. Like you need to ask their pronouns first before you call them. It's used so hard for me to use they/them at first because I raised at bigots country. But I hope this info is useful someday. ❤❤❤❤❤

I have a shorter explanation. Bored cushy western narcissism.

I Identify as God/God, if you dont refer to me as god i will be mad, and probably yell at you for misidentifying me.

This is insane

Lynn do you have discord

*my family won’t use They/Them for me because I don’t have a ‘valid reason’. i actually hate this household*

Very informative lynn any time i think of people like i will always think of using they/them

We, you and they are plural pronouns, I, he, you is single pronouns The feminism of he is she, which is also a single pronouns. It is a single pronouns, referring to single animal or thingso, it is I am I put are He, she, it is We are You are They are Divided in Single pronouns I, you, he, she, ioueal pronouns we, you, they. So, They is not ever a single pronouns Got it?

Funny how all the links are now broken except for a no name one. Indeed it's not that hard, but it's definitely useless.

A lesson on compelled speech. 🙄

Great video and commentary on the backlash that people get for using the pronouns that make them happy and fulfilled!!

I need to talk to someone

Did theys Mom and thems Dad forget to swallow theys plan b??

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