This One Study Will Change How You Think About Your Entire Life

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Today’s episode is a wake up call.
Before you waste another day of your life, you need to hear the 6 shocking statistics from a ten-year long study about what you’re doing with your time.
Because the hard reality is that time is passing you by.
And if that bothers you, this episode will get you doing something about it.
You’re probably spending too much time on things that are not important to you, and not enough time on what is.
It’s time to change that.
In this episode, you’ll also learn:
- Surprising life changes that happen at ages 18, 21, 29, 40, and 70
- 6 things you must pay attention to if you want to make the most of your life
- The most important decision you’ll ever make (it’s not what you think!)
- The ten-year research study that Mel couldn’t stop thinking about
- The truth about your relationship with your family
- The advice you need to help you find the right person for you
- A short quiz to help you see what matters most in your life
- The big takeaway that will change how you see your relationships.
To go deeper into the topics shared in today’s episode, including the study Mel shares, the graphs, and the resources mentioned, click here for the episode resource page: www.melrobbins.com/podcasts/e...
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In this episode:
00:00 Intro
02:50: A short quiz to help you see what matters most in your life.
04:35: The shocking study that Mel can’t stop thinking about.
08:50: A massive milestone that happens at age 18.
10:45: Do the math this way and you’ll never see your family in the same way.
12:00: One question to ask yourself if you’re not getting along with family.
13:55: The big takeaway that will change how you see your relationships.
19:15: Choose these people carefully- you spend half your life with them.
24:00: This is what happens at age 21 if you’re not paying attention.
28:00: The 2 “P’s” that will help you keep your friends.
35:25: The most important question to ask about the person you’re dating.
36:20: The advice you need to help you find the right person for you.
42:50: Your most important job as a parent.
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@ScottGonzalez-yl6ze 5 күн бұрын

*The problem today is most people always think that, you only need a good job to get rich... These millionaires are operating on a whole other playbook that many don't know exists*

@TeresaFroster 5 күн бұрын

Success depends on the actions or steps you take to achieve it. Building wealth involves developing good habits, such as regularly setting aside money for sound investment.. .

@PamelaArmstrong-zc4ik 5 күн бұрын

Money invested is far better than money saved, when you invest it gives you an opportunity to increase your financial worth

@HenrikSkog-jz2zc 5 күн бұрын

It's remarkable how long term advantage people like us have gotten trying to be consistently not stupid, instead of trying to be very intelligent

@BrielleSmith-in5fd 5 күн бұрын

The wisest thing that should be on everyone's mind currently should be to invest in different streams of income that doesn't depend on government paycheck. Especially with the current economic crisis around the world , this is still a time to invest in Stocks, Forex and Digital currencies

@JakobLarsen3 5 күн бұрын

Even with the right technique and assets some investors would still make more than others.. As an investor, you should've known by now nothing beats experience and that's final. Personally i had to reach out to a financial adviso (Ava Brenda Harry) for guidance which is how i was able to grow my losing account back to $150, 000 withdraw my profile right before the corrections and now I'm buying again.

@kathygaber3801 3 ай бұрын

I enjoy my alone time, I can do what I want, no interuptions, I dont have to talk or listen.

@Volkskomissar 2 ай бұрын

FYI Humans are not created to be alone. That's not normal.

@jdudefun1755 2 ай бұрын

Who’s going to be there when you’re dying all alone? 😢

@kathygaber3801 Ай бұрын

We all die alone.

@jdudefun1755 Ай бұрын

@@kathygaber3801 not necessarily. But what I’m referring to is when you are dying on your deathbed who is going to be there next to you comforting you?

@kathygaber3801 Ай бұрын

I know I was just messing , I have family....

@followtango 3 ай бұрын

Dear Mel, people who cut ties with family are struggling with lots of doubt, pain, guilt, loneliness and invalidation. Their position in family is such that family IS the most terrible waste of their life, time, love, effort and potential. I think it would be important to validate them more. 🙏 Family ties are powerful both in best and worse ways.

@user-iu4nu4dd3q 3 ай бұрын

Totally agree. I spent 30 years trying to keep contact with my family, but they put me down every time. My only option to ”survive” myself was to end the contact with them totally. So family is sometimes the ones you should avoid. I only regret that I spent so many years trying, so many wasted years. all I ever wanted was to ”have that happy family, meanwhile, I was the one suffering to the point that I gave up my own life.

@jpr9863 3 ай бұрын

Patrick Teahan's YT channel has viewers and commentors who would love to spend time with their extended family and/or family-of-origin, but cannot because those toxic family members are unwilling to have healthy relationships with them.

@UnlockYourRockStar 3 ай бұрын

My true loving family is my furry son, my pup. Family are people whom you are “accidentally” related to by blood ties, NOTHING ELSE NOR MORE. Some are lucky to have a nice family, but family or not , if you don’t feel good around them or mistreated or if they don’t encourage or value you , they are NOBODY, just garbage

@UnlockYourRockStar 3 ай бұрын

Btw , I needed this , thanks Mel, truly grateful , sending love ❤

@wendyface6473 3 ай бұрын

Yes. I skipped family toxic holiday gatherings. Because I chose myself.

@lisakingsbury9471 3 ай бұрын

And sometimes you spend you whole life up until you are 59 trying to make every other person in your life happy and you realize you forgot about yourself. And now you are stuck with this person you don’t love and don’t really know.

@heidiho3089 3 ай бұрын

*not too late*, enjoy getting back to yourself! ❤

@sydneyhama1668 2 ай бұрын

That's my case dear,what's the solution?

@Catalistabil 2 ай бұрын

Just say “fuck it” and do what you want now! Those that truly love you will adjust and still love you.

@jdudefun1755 2 ай бұрын

That just means you did it wrong.

@tonia5110 Ай бұрын

I can so relate to this! How do we change that?

@terridubois6160 3 ай бұрын

When my kids were young and I was first divorced, I used to feel so sad being alone! Then I learned how to take myself on "dates". I learned HOW to enjoy spending time with myself. And I really like spending time alone with myself now. ❤

@juliabrown900 3 ай бұрын

Àaqq11 1Rva1

@MelissaGarcia-bx1ki 3 ай бұрын

My biggest fear is being alone and it's been so hard for me to be alone. I always feel that something will happen to me. It is really weird what I feel.

@Goodbyeeveryonehere 2 ай бұрын

@@MelissaGarcia-bx1ki I know. You feel stuck. I do too

@Islam101_Uganda 2 ай бұрын

Until you get long term illness

@niluferermete1934 2 ай бұрын

Me too

@yvonnesheehan9079 2 ай бұрын

It takes two to remain friends . You alone cannot be resposible for a relationship.

@natashahernandez2272 3 ай бұрын

My siblings and I schedule a rotating monthly dinner where each of us take turns hosting dinner with a theme. It allows for us to stay connected and always have something planned to see each other at least once a month.

@bmbrooklyn 3 ай бұрын

Great idea!

@thirdwaycomms 3 ай бұрын

Yah we have a family gathering on the first Sunday of everything month ... 25 years later we still doing it. The young people (next gen) love it and seldom miss it even though they are all busy and spreading their wings. It has kept us connected.

@Cityheart221 3 ай бұрын

What a great idea. I may borrow this idea. Thanks

@davidcox8838 22 күн бұрын

@@Cityheart221 I wish I could do this, but it's not for me. All the best.

@paiiininthebuttt2477 3 ай бұрын

I turned 40 in September. After 7 years of being in the same rental, I moved in with my parents just before Christmas 23. I am currently on the hunt for a fully contained caravan. I’m going mobile! For how long? I don’t know! I’m going to travel and I am going to visit so many friends I haven’t seen in years. I can’t bloody wait ❤

@rosiecortez6763 3 ай бұрын

Congrats. Live your best life 💞

@JoshuaPerks1128 2 ай бұрын

Fabulous lessons. Thanks for this!

@gordon9177 2 ай бұрын

Becareful on visiting your old friends. I did that & it back fired on me.

@gayathri3821 2 ай бұрын

What about earning ?

@Ikr2025 3 ай бұрын

I have ZERO desire to see more of my brother. That would simply mean hearing about how great he is. And then hearing about how great he is again. And then hearing more from him. And about how great his family are. And more of his opinions. My only permitted role in all that (unless I want to attract his sarcasm and silent contempt) would be ‘silent observer’ and ‘being supportive’. No room for the thoughts of a younger sister in his life. So no thanks.. much happier without that!

@katherinem502 3 ай бұрын

Haha, same!!

@maryannalbertson3349 3 ай бұрын

Ditto

@janaabbott2237 3 ай бұрын

My sister is exactly the same. Better to avoid her....😢

@LisaGaylordFitnessProgram 2 ай бұрын

Same❤

@barrycomer3688 2 ай бұрын

I have one of those - no desire to see him at all.

@evelyncortus6357 3 ай бұрын

With the friendships, it’s tricky because I feel like the one who prioritizes but very few prioritize back. It gets me disheartened at times

@peachesandpoets 3 ай бұрын

Switch "friendships" to "romantic relationships". If you wouldn't tolerate it from a significant other, don't tolerate it from friends. Nobody is that busy, nobody is so obtuse that they don't know how much they're putting in you, etc. If you love yourself enough, you won't accept nonsense.

@christinetasche2750 3 ай бұрын

My best friend pops in and comes over a lot. I’m a home body, but my door is always open. Hoping you find a match like that ❤

@gialollobrigida1713 3 ай бұрын

Yes, I used to feel that way, then just started applying the "Let Them" & not take it so seriously, & embraced that I tend to be that organizer or the initiator and go with it.

@Liam69400 Ай бұрын

I had the same thing with my step sister! I called her regularly for about 5 years. I stopped calling her and she never called me. I guess you kind of wonder if they really like you as much as you thought they did! Unless it is a two way street, I just don't put the effort into relationships anymore. I don't miss it!

@SandyLoyall 29 күн бұрын

People are creatures of habit! If you’re the one who always calls, it turns off the part of their brain that needs to think about calling you! It’s never personal! ❤

@JugglingG 3 ай бұрын

I once attended a 90th birthday meal gathering. I was aged 20-something (no kids) and an older relative suddenly turned to me and said 'just think, when you have your 90th, you have no idea who will be there do you'...that really made me realise that one day i will be living a completely different reality.

@P1nkBanj0 3 ай бұрын

I lost my Dad, my best friend, my person, in October. It's hard, we were close. And I lived with him and took care of him the last few years. You can only prepare yourself so much for their end and how you'll live on without their physical presense. Now I'm watching Mel's video to learn to make the best of my time now. No regrets.

@bmbrooklyn 3 ай бұрын

@P1nkBanj0 I’m sorry for your loss. It’s heartwarming that you used your time wisely to spend time with him and care for him. You are an amazing daughter! I hope you can now take care of yourself and share your heart with others who will appreciate the diamond 💎 that you are.

@cwright821 3 ай бұрын

Big hugs hunny 🤗 that's so hard, let yourself grieve as much as you need to, these things are a sucker punch but you absolutely did spend all the time you could with him, and I love that you know that ❤ And YES get out there and LIVE once you feel ready! I'm sure your dad's cheering you on and is still your person!! You carry him with you in your heart and memories, and as you grow into this 'after' time, you will meet him in all the beauty and fun around you on your path ❤ sending you my very best wishes X

@P1nkBanj0 3 ай бұрын

@@cwright821 Thank you so much. I'm grateful for your words. ❤

@P1nkBanj0 3 ай бұрын

@@bmbrooklyn I appreciate that very much. Thank you. ❤

@UnlockYourRockStar 3 ай бұрын

I didn’t get to say goodbye to my dad as we lived in different cities and only visited him in holidays .. he didn’t even tell me he was terminal I had no idea , when I flew he was still alive , when landed and rushed to the hospital he was no more .. this was in 2017 and I’m still full of shock and regret, he was my bf too. So please see how fortunate you are you were being with him ., getting to share his last moments . I wish I could have . I wish I could go back in time . My sibling knew and never told me .. till it was too late ..

@Teal_Seal 3 ай бұрын

My mom is 80. When I moved out of state 7 years ago, I started texting her goodnight/I love you etc every night. I also call once or twice a week on my way home from work to touch base. ❤

@sunnyside9988 2 ай бұрын

Living with no regrets is amazing!

@susiespr 3 ай бұрын

My high school friends and I started to struggle with not seeing each other when we were getting married. From there we planned dinners out every 3rd Friday of the month. Everyone took a month and picked a restaurant. Whomever could make it did, some regularly and some sporadically but just planning the dinners even kept us in touch. This was back in the day when we had to pick up the phone and call. Fast forward 30 yrs later. We still have our monthly dinners. Back at 35 we started a girls trip every 5 yrs. We are 55 now and going strong all 16 of us, clicks within a click, some closer than others but we are all still here and still together.

@debbiemcdonald4745 3 ай бұрын

When you grow up in a family where their is so much abuse and you feel you have the responsibility of keeping everything together it’s a relief to get away. I can take the time to talk to my parents & siblings when they’re not abusive. I am so Blessed to have my own family now.

@anitabenton2340 3 ай бұрын

I need this video today! Definitely been thinking about how I’m wasting good time. I’m single, kids are 22 and 33 and since the pandemic, I don’t enjoy the things I use to. So I need new hobbies/interest. It’s hard to make new friends at 55. But I need to start being busy happy again, not just work.

@chandrahardy972 3 ай бұрын

Right there with you!

@julieburkhardt61 3 ай бұрын

I can relate to this. it feels harder to make friends after a certain age. living in a small community also contributes to this, among other factors. I miss my friends!!

@spyder1664 3 ай бұрын

Completely unrelated but you had your first kid at 22, second at 33, and they are 22 and 33

@rakheepatel9212 3 ай бұрын

Close that chapter you are stuck looking at …turn the page and get excited to write and do what hobbies and place and activities you always wanted to do and do it 🎉❤

@rakheepatel9212 3 ай бұрын

Like Nike and Mel always say…Just Do it one baby step turn into leaps and bounds !! You are worth it so go have fun you’re allowed😊

@melissabrown4001 3 ай бұрын

I love you but what about people that don't have friends to make them laugh, or have hardly any family, like it's me and my dogs most time, but I'm not lonely or anything, I just want better my health and my life

@user-en1kt7kl4f 3 ай бұрын

You changed my life. You brought me back to life . 2020 was the year of a life changing . I was at my lowest miserable just hiding in my bed and one night you was there in front of me talking about yourself and the rocket and your Hi5 method and that was it. I did it because you showed me the way. You was the light in my darkness. I’m 58 and you made me feeling happy and young again. And every time I feel depressed sad and lose interest in life and feel overwhelmed you show up on KZfaq and guide me again. Thank you so much for saving me and gave my kids their mother again strong again and alive . Thank you

@alirussell-hayward6279 3 ай бұрын

Wow - wonderful 💜 We love Mel for her amazing advice 💜

@moniquetimmermans7808 2 ай бұрын

Me 2😂❤😂

@timshelton5120 3 ай бұрын

I took care of my little brother and both of my parents as they passed on over the last 15 years.. I speak with my son and daughter daily.. My nephew and I are absolute best friends.. My sister is my rock.. My brother-in-law is a brother to me.. I am very fortunate for all this.. ⭐⭐⭐⭐⭐ Highly recommend!!

@hopefully2224 3 ай бұрын

Good for you. Lots of people dont have that.

@jenniferlayton3067 3 ай бұрын

You are lucky. My family of sisters are so jealous of my life, personality, fun busy prosperous life, etc etc that they are so horrible to me. Make each other dislike me. I have friends that have replaced my sister's and their family as they would stress me with their lies and hatred, every time! I'm at peace staying away from them.

@GinaSherman-gc2cx 3 ай бұрын

My mom is 96 years young . Good advice

@sejalmalik3284 3 ай бұрын

MAke a podcast on depression

@meesamagill1193 3 ай бұрын

Mel isnt a therapist. There are bound to be other podcasts out there that would help you with that subject

@sejalmalik3284 3 ай бұрын

@@meesamagill1193 yes I know she isn't a therapist..but I meant she can invite someone experienced on that subject

@inthepinkconsultingboutique 3 ай бұрын

@@sejalmalik3284she has

@rgsander1 3 ай бұрын

A lot of her podcast will help with depression.

@fuggetaboutit70 3 ай бұрын

If you're literally clinically depressed, see a psychiatrist, not Mel Robbins. Otherwise, her entire existing body of work is to get you out of a rut.

@katia2139 2 ай бұрын

Great reminder. Thanks for talking about this. We are all getting older too quickly. Took a break from work today, To focus more on my son, even though he's 16. Picked him up from school playing his favorite music on the radio. Made him his type of yummy lunch and had a great conversation. His smile to me said it all. 👍

@unknown-is9lm 3 ай бұрын

Since small I have grown up in abusive parents since small,until age 21 I realize how toxic they are ( they talk so badly about me Infront of other family members,humiliate me, beat me for no reason,I have to beg for them to buy even basic things) now I amm 21 still staying with them waiting for another two years to get out from house but they told me I have to be they servant for the rest of lives because they gave birth to me just because they born me up ,my mom always travel and leave me I used to live with my cousins such a narcissist parents, because of them I used to get bully at school because of my appearance then I have like almost zero friends at high school too,I have a lot of unheal trauma thatt I am trying to heal...I now happier and stronger thatt I have gone through all this ,and in near future I will embrace more people

@corneliaonyekweli1097 3 ай бұрын

Please 🙏 you have to be strong and find a way and courage to leave them. You are not their servant as they are not showing love ❤️ Remaining with them whilst you may need to plan your exit should be a priority and please don’t let them know. You deserve better in life .

@maryannehusar8222 3 ай бұрын

In my 6th decade of life I’ve come to the realization that with “things” that we need/buy makes me think that they are probably the last 1 of them (i.e. a matress; car; new roof, etc) that we will be replacing!

@debbied8525 3 ай бұрын

I have been having that realization too. Especially weird when thinking about my next car,

@amynaddra7230 3 ай бұрын

After my husband died is when I stop seeing friends and family. When I needed them most. I wouldn’t get invited to parties, bbqs, even holiday gatherings. Sad but I accepted it and removed all of them from life trust circle.

@donna.downey 3 ай бұрын

My husband and I are in our early seventies. We have always built our life around our families. He worked with his Dad (construction) in the family business and I worked with one of my brothers (CPAs in our own practice). We spent so much time with our parents and siblings. We never stopped by his parents home and said, "hey, would y'all like to go get something to eat?" that they didn't respond positively. They all passed in their nineties and we miss their presence so much. We have no regrets about spending so much time with all of them. We do the same with our dogs... as they are a part of our family as well. My two Aussies go to work with me every day and my clients love it. I will never regret spending every day with them either. Last July, one of them (Rusty) was diagnosed with an aggressive cancer. He lived six weeks (he was only eight and had never been sick at all). It was devastating and trust me I cherish every moment spent with him and now with his "brother" Spencer. Thank you for bringing out how important planning to spend time with those we love is and how we won't regret it... ever! Love you Mel!

@debrapahl7573 3 ай бұрын

Could you please inform yourself about the lives of the physically disabled. We all tend to be socially isolated especially the seniors.

@theprairierose4613 3 ай бұрын

We moved across country, 7-1/2 years ago to be closer to my daughter and grandchildren, my other daughter moved here a year later and now we all live within 30 minutes to an hour from each other. It is important to be a part of each other's lives. And I have a lot of friends that have done this as well.

@DivorcePropertyInsights 3 ай бұрын

I'm 42 and my children are 14 and 8 years old. I'll be 52 when my youngest launches. I'm glad that my career path has allowed me to be more present in their lives these past 8 years. I cherish those moments even more because of these stats. Thank you for highlighting it.

@lilatueller 2 ай бұрын

The biggest take away for me, and it’s been my personal motto for years (I’m 63) is… “you don’t have to be the statistic. You get to choose what your life looks like. You are not the average”

@JLoArora 2 ай бұрын

My kids are 9 and 5. I wasn’t close with grandparents. And while I love my parents I didn’t really get to be close with them. And they really didn’t try, I always had to be the one traveling. So I’ve already warned my kids and decided, I am following them as adults. Because I want a relationship with them in the healthiest, least stalkerish way I can 😂 I want to be in their lives while they build a life and of course build my own flourishing community wherever I am as well.❤

@superpoodlehead 3 ай бұрын

Data on friends is not at all true for me. It seems I got NEW friends every decade because we grow and change. Some stay, some go. I volunteer a lot and made friends that way and some at work too. It wasn’t until I was 55 and my husband died that most of my friends vanished within 10 years. I stopped working and volunteering. That friend network and “connection” has been lost and it’s really difficult now.

@veearya562 Күн бұрын

Dear Mel, amazing sharing and so funny that when you were sharing about the 5th statistic, I was already thinking about how important it is for us to cherish being alone. I thought I was way better at this than I am, so still have to do a lot of work but happy to do it because this is the most important thing in my mind. I realized recently that's all about training and reprogramming myself to fulfill the person that I want to become. You are amazing Mel and keep up the great work 💖🙏

@nikhilmattaguitar 5 күн бұрын

Thanks for this video.

@MandyJRoss 3 ай бұрын

It’s never too late and you’re never too old to turn your dreams into reality.♥️ PS: Age only matters if you’re a wine or cheese.✨

@INgirl812 3 ай бұрын

..Or, if you’re a job applicant!

@TheRialGlamLife 3 ай бұрын

@@INgirl812 tell them you identify as 25 yo

@MdARIF-wv9lp 3 ай бұрын

Plot twist: I am here to improving my listening skill but now finally I find a channel where I can also improve my lifestyle, mind-set, thinking ability 😀

@whoazesm 3 ай бұрын

Same!

@louiseaa7609 3 ай бұрын

Listening skills.... interesting. Why, if i may ask

@whoazesm 3 ай бұрын

@@louiseaa7609 I am not а native speaker

@premaajith3991 3 ай бұрын

Thank you so much Mel. ❤ 100% my situation here.

@mirashin8400 6 сағат бұрын

Thank you ❤😊

@faithbrandt8365 2 ай бұрын

I sent this to 6 family members and we are planning a family trip!!! Thank you Mel💖

@katiamfuentes7338 3 ай бұрын

Thanks Mel❤❤ love you encouragement and podcast ❤️❤️

@tanyaw2532 3 ай бұрын

This was such an awesome message Mel. You are the best! Thank you for sharing this! ❤

@itstime9986 3 ай бұрын

I shared this way before she suggested I share it. This was so healthy for me to hear. I had kids late so my kids are just now the nest. And I can't imagine it. As for coworkers and friends, this helped me see I'm normal. I needed this today!!

@29riverad 3 ай бұрын

This is one of my favorites Mel, because it's important self reflection as I'm over the 50 hump. I need to reevaluate what's important and who I want in my life. I think the pandemic made it hard for everyone, and it changed soo many dynamics, especially the way we communicate. It's hard, and it's definitely a process I need to be reminded of, and I'll definitely use the 2 Ps. Thanks, Mel. You always give such good food for thought. ❤

@JDA4 3 ай бұрын

Gut punch. Great reminder and inspiration. Thank you!

@barshi11 10 күн бұрын

Thank you Mel❤

@marialuziamouradealmeida6150 3 ай бұрын

Thank you Thank you Mel. I needed to hear this. Feeling grateful xx

@keikokobay4617 6 күн бұрын

Thank you for your advise❤

@martamitchelldesigns 3 ай бұрын

Thanks for passing all this on, eye-opening!!

@jeanettehigginbotham 3 ай бұрын

Thank you for this. Up 7ntil retirement, i spent my life caring for others and putting them first. I am now finally at age 66, scheduling my priorities daily. Spirit (daily bible reading), body (exercise) and mind (reading, learning something new). I feel balanced doing this and weave in time with my husband, family, friends and volunteering at my church.

@Lilithmoon22 3 ай бұрын

Subscribed and so happy, motivated and inspired by what you share!

@cynthiahansen9395 3 ай бұрын

Love this episode, Mel. Thanks!

@tiotavopregunta502 3 ай бұрын

THANKS MEL greetings from Guatemala.todays topic was very touching and deep❤

@t4qjjqdq5y6 2 ай бұрын

Thank you, Mel! Wow did that ever hit home! Thanks again!

@brixferera8938 Ай бұрын

THANKS! I really needed this today.

@dovewhite7472 12 күн бұрын

I just love you! Thank you for your channel!

@daisyrowaro44 3 ай бұрын

Thank you so much Mel all the way from Papua New Guinea! Loved this show so much !

@bmbrooklyn 3 ай бұрын

“Safe, Seen & Supported” great tip! Thanks ❤

@juliaantoni-ff8vl 2 күн бұрын

Thank you Mel! It was I love you and I love this podcast!

@lindahillan712 Ай бұрын

That was an excellent video Mel. Loved every sobering minute of it... Many Thanks

@anitadiener2307 2 ай бұрын

Mel !!!!!!!!!!!! Exceptional video! Beautiful!

@ashleymcgowan1987 3 ай бұрын

One of my favourite episodes. That’s saying something. Massive messages Mel I love it. Thank you.

@lindahebb4832 2 ай бұрын

After watching this podcast a couple days ago I turned in a request for time off so I can go see my dad in a month and I’m going to have my son come with me to he’s gonna be 80 in September and I seen him over Christmas but it’s definitely time to reconnect and I appreciate your Contant. You are making a big difference we appreciate Robbins.

@skemp2006 2 ай бұрын

Thank you so much for this conversation Mel! My daughter is 17 and a senior and I find myself breaking down crying at the drop of a hat the past year (in private of course). This is exactly what I needed to hear to get through this without looking like psycho mom to my daughter😂 we are inseparable and I know that’s not going to change but it will just be close in a different way❤❤❤ anyone else going through this as well?

@lifeswork4550 3 ай бұрын

Amazing Mel! Thank you.

@smac1823 2 ай бұрын

I needed to hear all of this today. definitely bookmarking... love that Mel is so honest with herself and all of us

@wasselghazi9093 3 ай бұрын

I love you mell, I am thankful to world that have someone like you

@Rose77745 3 ай бұрын

Love ya Mel~Thank you for this eye opening episode ❤❤❤

@dianejoseph4468 3 ай бұрын

Estranged from my surviving twin adult son for almost two years. This means the world to me right now, and both sorrow and joy are struggling within me. Thanks for trailhead guidance, Mel. I'm hiking on. 🥰

@mmiller1011 3 ай бұрын

I happily left the career to raise my kids. They have all launched. I was not seen, safe nor supported in my childhood. Hard as I tried to be the generation that changed that through what I thought was doing, safety support and mentoring my Ds walked away and never looked back once their college was paid for by us. Son is building his life and has chosen an exciting but challenging road. We are not a priority. Estrangement is so hard. Please do an episode on the parents who have been estranged and how we move forward. You did one on estrangement and why but I didn’t feel there were tools for the estranged. It is an epidemic and largely we are not monsters. The happy take away is “going to the college dorm for old people”. I’m 66 and my life has been challenging Thank you for what you do, Mel. I love growing with you.

@user-uu7gu5fw7p 3 ай бұрын

I'm just listening to this today after learning I need to make a major career change. It's just what I needed!!! This change would allow me more time/freedom to spend with my 85 year old mother, my new grandson and all the other people in my life I want to spend time with.

@ozzyoscar22 2 ай бұрын

This was a perfect listen for me. Thank you

@brendadavis5391 3 ай бұрын

Thank you, Mel!

@tygrrrmoore9815 2 ай бұрын

Thank you for this Mel, needed to hear the message. Will henceforth make the effort to leave the office by 6.

@danahcorrigan6234 3 ай бұрын

Shared with my kids. 43 and 38. I have lived in another country for 20 years. That is about to change. Can’t wait. We will still live in different communities, however the commute will be easier. They have children , and this will be an eye opener. Also for the time they don’t spend with each other.

@edy8546 3 ай бұрын

Such a moving episode. I think about these things alot, and I have been even more intentional about creating more time with people I love and less time and energy with things and people I have less affinity for.

@amycopeland1701 3 ай бұрын

This is great to reflect on these good words. My siblings minus one don't want me in their lives. I feel somewhat sad that I can't be close to remaining aunts & uncles & siblings. But I just cannot tolerate dysfunction, disrespect & all kinds of toxicity from these people even I do care about them. Had too much of a large dose of these things to last me a lifetime.

@dianaflegal4495 3 ай бұрын

Thank you, Mel! Wow!

@mercedesruiz3182 3 ай бұрын

Thank you, Mel.

@Bassoonlizzy 3 ай бұрын

Absolutely wonderful episode! I've listened for over a year now, and this is one of my favorites ❤️

@dianabakervevang2972 2 ай бұрын

Thankyou Mel I really needed to hear this!! My kids, my mom and dad are gone. I spend most days home alone but I never feel alone. I feel content with myself. My kids get in touch now and then. It's ok they were a gift. I raised then independents. They don't have time for me and I am good with their gone. I do volunteer work. My kids don't complete me and it's good. I too apologize all the time with my know it all kids. I am a writer and cherish alone time.

@emanalsulaimani3096 3 ай бұрын

Mel you are a great human being!

@whatlifeisabout 3 ай бұрын

Saw some graphs the other day about these statistics and loved to hear about these in more detail. It is so true, time is precious and we should seize it more with the people we love. Not only that, but it is proven that cultivating meaningful relationships during the course of our life, allows us to live happier and even longer.

@aniazurek7258 3 ай бұрын

Safe, seen, and supported! ✨👏🏻 My mantra moving forward Thank you Mel Xx

@nomiharper 3 ай бұрын

Thank you Mel. I agree. Family has ALWAYS been the most important thing to me. I know this. I am grateful for everything in my life, friends, especially. It’s important to prioritize and make them be a part of our lives to the degree in which we can; after all, they are 50% of the equation.

@vanessavillada2208 3 ай бұрын

Eye opening! God bless you ❤🙏

@adelitasoto6593 3 ай бұрын

Thanks Mel your podcast is always interesting take care 🙂❤️

@pearlg6628 3 ай бұрын

Thank you this is really helpful and eyes open

@eyecab 3 ай бұрын

Great show, well said!

@shawnbruce6934 2 ай бұрын

Thank You Mel!

@chandlerc4606 3 ай бұрын

Great podcast. Great topic. First time I've listened to you and you gained a new subscriber. As for work, that hit home. I strongly dislike and do not respect my 2nd line supervisor and don't trust my 1st line. I've caught them in lies. They turned some of my team against me. It's toxic and not worth mee damaging my mental health. I've applied for two new jobs. Fingers crossed things work out. I prefer not spending my time in an environment with folks I don't care for. Friends- as time went on I got injured and had surgery. One close friend totally was not there for me. I've moved on. When I can be there for friends and when I need them and they are not there, they're not truly friends and I don't need them in my life.

@lynneaiken773 3 ай бұрын

Thank you for this video!

@cvckuhn-ug8wg 3 ай бұрын

I love you - your caring approach is just as important as the advice you provide

@user-pj1vd5hl9s 2 ай бұрын

Omg! I forwarded this podcast to my two daughters. I hope they listen to it. THANK YOU. Right now, they are not talking to their troubled brother- which breaks my heart.😢 and yes life it's too short.❤❤❤

@andrewchristie9165 3 ай бұрын

Thank you very much for this! I live in Prague, my parents back home in Australia, I have not seem them for 8 years, I speak to them, but that's not enough now that I've really thought about it, and this, it REALLY made me think about it. Again, thank you.

@bselgamal 12 күн бұрын

Thanks Mel , it is better to split the long Vedio into short ones ,,, thanks again

@tamaraveze3196 3 ай бұрын

I'll always remember 5vs in my life! The people who encouraged and supported me in my professional and personal growth, the situations in life I never chose to be and had to show up for myself to create better life, the time of shift of my consciousness that changed my beliefs, values and priorities in life and gave me sense of higher purpose! And I'll never forget those 5vs that intended to destroy me, who tried to dim my light, and those who turned their backs on me when I needed them the most. I've looked at all my 5vs and I am grateful to all, as without I wouldn't be able to tap into core of my being to find my way to the higher version of me. I am celebrating my 5vs! Much love to all!

@janstricos8958 3 ай бұрын

I love you Mel and this Podcast

@shelleypetersen1608 2 ай бұрын

I needed to hear this❤. As always, I appreciate your content.

@aprilgrasse401 3 ай бұрын

Hearing about the timeline thing did help but it is so unique to the individual I got married when I was 21 and moved away from my family and friends to be with my husband and I'm now been divorced and living on my own. The value of connections with those we love is immeasurable, And I have known this for years.❤

@soxlearning 3 ай бұрын

Thanks Mel. This was an inspiration that even now...i can change my relationships for the better.

@kristiedcox1971 3 ай бұрын

I always enjoy your advice and videos. I felt guilty for years for wasting my ““ wasting my life, but now I look at his. I had some great experiences that I have learned from. And to me that’s priceless. ✌️💛🤗