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@peachwedding2 жыл бұрын
As soon as you realize he has an avoidant attachment style... Run girl.
@amytiffanyhemingway2 жыл бұрын
well rationally speaking yes, but logic does not often come in when you fall in love with someone. It's often too late to go 'I can do better or much easier relationship.' Life is not meant to be easy necessarily - we are meant to learn things and well if you look at Jesus for example we are meant to love even our enemies, not judge them but see that we are all flawed and all deserve love.
@rebeccajones86282 жыл бұрын
Oh yes. He was a VERY bad boy. He told me he has the black sheep of the family. Bye, bye....
@anupamaraianvirai11832 жыл бұрын
😂😂😂
@dijonvolner60242 жыл бұрын
I have avoidant attachment and I'm a woman 💕
@Cathy-ux9xd2 жыл бұрын
🤣🤣🙌🙌
@cherrylane79 Жыл бұрын
When I'm stressed out because he makes me insecure by avoiding me, I don't feel like flirting or inventing jokes.
@whitneymiller51392 жыл бұрын
Avoid the avoidant more than he avoids you and he’s all yours 😂
@sarahsummers40932 жыл бұрын
So true!!
@GaisSacredCreations2 жыл бұрын
Love this! Priceless!
@shaleceelynne65042 жыл бұрын
Made me laugh out loud! Truth!
@Dolly222292 жыл бұрын
does it works?
@amytiffanyhemingway2 жыл бұрын
@@Dolly22229 I should add a caveat. It works if he does actually love you. If he doesn't actually love or care about you at all it was just casual, he may well just bugger off and mean it. But if deep down he does actually want the stable loving relationship with you and just can't 'do' it very well, he will always come back when you back off. I think I am coming up to being his longest relationship now - all the rest were very short lived because presumably they didn't know how to handle it, didn't put up with it, gave up. I love him so I watch these videos to understand the issue and try and work on myself in order to make him feel safe being with me. Avoidants feel safe so long as they feel they can cut and run if they need to, and still be independent and do what they want to. If you can allow that space and still be happy in yourself, they won't have a reason to leave you.
@GTO.0072 жыл бұрын
Just run away when you notice a dude is an avoidant. Your time is precious and life is too short to bear the pain to be with them, constantly fight for reciprocation and attention.
@Vixinaful2 жыл бұрын
This is my exoerience aswell. His ex also left. Je has beeen chasing us both for 6 amd 8 years now.. These fudes are sevetely disturbed and he also fits covert narcissism.
@jenniferlorence19507 ай бұрын
@@Vixinaful Correct.
@jenniferlorence19507 ай бұрын
@GTO.007; Correct.
@jenniferlorence19507 ай бұрын
Matthew 7:6 6 “Do not give that which is holy to dogs, and do not throw your pearls before pigs, for they will trample them under their feet, and turn and tear you to pieces."
@TheCoffeeCat2 жыл бұрын
So basically, with an avoidant, accept that you won't ever have a full fledged grown up relationship, just a fling. And then you'll be okay. Maybe have a serious grown up relationship on the side with someone else in the meantime.
@sylviam.castillo9931 Жыл бұрын
Comment of the CENTURY. 💯💥🌋🌪🌊
@onestarfillednight Жыл бұрын
Hahahahahahaha !!!!! Thank you Coffee Cat for the super good laugh. So right !!!
@Virvepaulina Жыл бұрын
Yep!
@ash00001 Жыл бұрын
Lol
@sage2181 Жыл бұрын
Run! And then work on your own self esteem regarding why you would accept so little from a partner. I ran and I'd rather be alone than dealing with that sort of toxic crap
@artisnotaboutart783211 ай бұрын
I have an idea. Let’s heal our wounds so we’re no longer attracted to these types of people and let avoidants date each other.
@Ramanhere4683 ай бұрын
I dont want them either!!! 😂😂😂 says the fearful avoidant.
@iamaliveyoucantstopnow5 ай бұрын
I am exhausted just listening to this. 🤣
@FrenchRelationshipExpert4 ай бұрын
Lol I understand why... So don't go with an avoidant :-)
@goodvibes7424Ай бұрын
😂😅
@Michelle-qq4sd2 жыл бұрын
Nothing works with an avoidant. You will begin to feel empty like them.
@erib1562 жыл бұрын
so true!
@amytiffanyhemingway2 жыл бұрын
I was at this stage and get that feeling a lot when it is bad. But..... with anything it's about understanding what is actually going on. Try to focus on the good things, like wow he actually showed me his emotions DESPITE being an avoidant. That means so much more than it would if he were secure/ stable. So see the blessings and focus on those wins, rather than the bad elements which you know are always going to come up.
@TheCoffeeCat2 жыл бұрын
@@amytiffanyhemingway I understand where you're coming from, but I've come to the conclusion that thinking that way is to view crumbs of love as if they were a banquet and denying that you're still hungry.
@financeMR Жыл бұрын
Yea it's conditioning women to accept crumbs. An be happy with it
@ash00001 Жыл бұрын
@@financeMR why can’t women give crumbs also? We do have all the power.
@yogawithkaya Жыл бұрын
How about avoidant men actually doing the inner work to heal rather than us having to play games and manipulate them in order to be with them !!!!!!
@Ytdeletesallmycomments Жыл бұрын
They wont. They like being the victim and stay 2 years old 😂😂
@FriendMariaAdrianna4 ай бұрын
Yeooooouuup. Even when they're 50.
@Ytdeletesallmycomments4 ай бұрын
@@FriendMariaAdriannamine was 60 😂😂😂😂 And the other indeed 50 Both diagnosed. The older the crazier 😂😂
@DrSoapp3 ай бұрын
"WHY DON'T THEY HEAL???" *has a picture of herself in a bikini*
@vernedaadele3 ай бұрын
@@DrSoapplet's stay on topic 😅
@vp51342 жыл бұрын
The truth is if he's avoidant, you're in for a lifetime of needing to be "playful". Exhausting.
@vjcarter4657 Жыл бұрын
It is exhausting.
@ash00001 Жыл бұрын
Just cheat.
@MIMIDSH Жыл бұрын
Yep. Gotta act like you're always on a first date or something
@guchavela4721 Жыл бұрын
Yeah this works till a certain extent. I actually did this just out of intuition and yes it worked until it didn’t. Eventually you’ll have relationships demands and/or life circumstances that you need him to step up for you like illness. Then they withdraw again. They’re exhausting. You never win with them no matter what. Just move on to someone normal that values you.
@jhlfsc8 ай бұрын
"Normal" is a loaded word. Clearly you aren't or you wouldn't have gotten into a relationship with him to begin with. 🤷♂️
@jenniferlorence19507 ай бұрын
Matthew 7:6 6 “Do not give that which is holy to [a]dogs, and do not throw your pearls before pigs, for they will trample them under their feet, and turn and tear you to pieces."
@jhlfsc6 ай бұрын
@@jenniferlorence1950 Americans always put dogs 1st.
@miladyfeliciano8012 жыл бұрын
Say goodbye 👋🏽 do not waste your time or energy if he is avoidant he is avoiding you. Move on ! Doesn’t not want you
@1224polo Жыл бұрын
You have to ask yourself why do you want to be with a person like this? A person who loves to be alone, who doesnt share feelings, who is distanced, who cant give yo the warmth, love, and affection. Its like dating a rock with a difference that the rock will not leave you out of the blue
@peachwedding4 ай бұрын
lmao so true.
@kkdream993 ай бұрын
Well said.
@lynnlombardo9087 Жыл бұрын
Who the hell wants this? It’s so hard and heartbreaking
@JB-zc6ov Жыл бұрын
Let him swim in silence | go and flash your flirty smile to the next fellow..
@stormvet380611 ай бұрын
Running as far as you can and leaving them the f*** alone works wonders.
@yvonnelygo681Ай бұрын
I spent 20 years with a guy. Deffo avoidant. He had a home office. And worked all weekend. When relaxed took out the kids while I did DIY. He spent evenings in his home office. Never come out. We slept in separate rooms.
@heatheran47835 ай бұрын
I was trying to avoid narcissists and fell for an avoidant.
@FrenchRelationshipExpert4 ай бұрын
I'm so sorry to hear about this!
@aying8094 ай бұрын
I divorced a narcissist, and fell for a avoidant
@rhe8053Ай бұрын
Same
@DroitMaritimeDZАй бұрын
Same..
@CorvidLove3 күн бұрын
Sorry to hear Heather. I hope you will find someone who isn't an avoidant or a narcissist.
@MIMIDSH Жыл бұрын
We have awesone chemistry together but as soon as we start getting emotionally connected, he pushes me out. He needs a huge amount of distance and space and I've been very accepting of that. We got together last night, and I told him I'll be busy for a couple of weeks. When I'm a little distant and detached, he's more attentive. But as soon as I show loving behavior, he goes cold. I've started casually dating other men to keep me feeling desirable and flirty.
@KereolaPatunia5 ай бұрын
I've been dealing with the exact same issue. Once it feels too "relationship-y" he ignores me or finds a stupid reason to be mad at me. Hes also a Taurus and he's stubborn as Hell.
@simpleliving4205Ай бұрын
Exactly
@sage2181 Жыл бұрын
Run. Run away and never look back. I miss the possibilities of my partner but it's so toxic and you will never have your emotional needs met with an avoidant. Run. I've had to question my own self esteem spending months trying to build a relationship with an avoidant until I finally had enough and got out
@shekar2225 ай бұрын
Many avoidants get bored once they know everything there is to know about you. So, even if you use all known tactics to get them back, you'll constantly live with the risk of them wanting to avoid you again--not worth it. Give the avoidant the space they need, eternally.
@aying8094 ай бұрын
his ex is addicted to plastic surgery, makes me wonder now
@yvhishiryo3 ай бұрын
eternally .... hahahahahahahaaah
@fidelismaina7700 Жыл бұрын
Look for a person who is secure. Especially, if you are anxious. It will save you a lot of hurt. Only stay unless he is willing to work on his attachment style to meet you somewhere.
@MichelleECKHU89 ай бұрын
In all honesty I won’t date an avoidant man again. ❤
@CorvidLove3 күн бұрын
The problem is that you will not know the first months... :(
@breemds Жыл бұрын
If he’s great sexually. It’s basically friends with benefits. But if he thinks you’re using him. He will be offended. 😂 LMFAO
@Ytdeletesallmycomments10 ай бұрын
This 😂😂
@marioct1305 ай бұрын
An avoidant partner needs too much work and attention, while you do not receive the same attention from him. It's a very unsatisfying, sad relationship. Run.
@FrenchRelationshipExpert5 ай бұрын
I'm so sorry to hear about this!
@lisafoster3494Ай бұрын
Im thinking Im dating an avoidant one minute we are talking about getting a house together the next he is mad out of nowhere and leaving or hanging up on me...just yesterday he asked my opinion on what he should do about working extra and I gave my opinion then today he said hes working thIs weekend so of course I was excited and asked where and he told me it was none of my business and why did I need to know? I have gained weight feel the lonliest ever lately...he just told me we shouldnt be in a relationship if I need to know everything..My head is spinning its makes no sense at all????
@ChristineNaibei-eb6vsАй бұрын
,😂😂😂@@FrenchRelationshipExpert
@auemmjeeАй бұрын
@@lisafoster3494unless you are in his will as the sole heir of that house, it's very unwise to purchase a house with someone you're dating. If he dies his next-of-kin will become co-owner of that house.
@ivy38392 жыл бұрын
Yes don’t be too available to Avoidants, speaking from experience as I am one ☝️
@kjshow417329 күн бұрын
It was heartbreaking 💔 I love her unconditionally. She did help me discover self-love, self-respect respect, and self care. Now, I'm alone. And I really don't care anymore.
@CorvidLove3 күн бұрын
Get help please. It's not healthy to be an avoidant. If you cannot get help or you don't want to. Buy a book about the subject. You hurt people around you by being like this.
@zeldapowers80942 жыл бұрын
Those types will continue to disappoint with the come and go as they please. Unfortunately women get so worked up to hear from him when he invites her out, after not hearing from him for 2 weeks, they just brush it off and think if they try harder this time, he might just commit. No! The hell he won't! He sees it as an easy target
@brigittebieber7132 Жыл бұрын
Very true!
@Ytdeletesallmycomments Жыл бұрын
They are toxic
@aliyaalqureshi5492 жыл бұрын
This video came right on time! I literally disappear from his life, when he becomes distant. I let him taste his own medicine! He needs to learn that others come with feelings too! This small smack on his hand makes him behave well!
@amytiffanyhemingway10 ай бұрын
I do that too but sometimes you have stuff you need to actually plan and it's very infuriating.
@CorvidLove3 күн бұрын
That was two years ago. Are you still playing this game with him or did you leave him? I couldn't stand such a relationship where you have to hide who you really are.
@vjcarter4657 Жыл бұрын
One thing that I’m noticing is a lot of “I’m busy” or “I’m distracted”, “Ill text you when the kids are asleep”- Lately I’ve been thinking, “Well, I might not be available when the kids are asleep”. Like, MY TIME is precious too
@Ytdeletesallmycomments Жыл бұрын
@@radianceactivations888 Nah parents also have time to send a quick message. Even on the toilet. 😂
@aying8094 ай бұрын
yes, I get that all the time too -- only his time matters, not mine! Im taking a break from him: no contact till April fools day, not too sure what happens then ( its only been 3 days, I already miss him, but trying hard to hold my ground)
@kkdream993 ай бұрын
@@aying809update?
@laurelbeyer85532 жыл бұрын
I don't know I have the energy for that. 🤣 I think find someone who is secure
@beyondher10 ай бұрын
Great advice - yes you can get him to chase you - but the problem is these cycles will continue for the rest of the relationship. He will break up with you and stonewall you every time he’s overwhelmed. The only way to make this work is by getting the man to heal his attachment trauma, which could be impossible in some cases. It’s impossible when it’s at the level of narcissism. They can be so dead inside their heart that nothing will ever awaken the life force. Women can spend their entire lives trying to change these men. It’s best to focus on our creative passions and friendships. And the best solution is to just be friends with these men. So don’t give your power away by having sex with them.
@waterlilynymph8 ай бұрын
Learn to give time and space to them. Don’t push for communication or double text. Just let it go ladies, and focus on yourself while he is.
@Sarajb5173 ай бұрын
Or focus on other people. These people are boring as fuck
@CorvidLove3 күн бұрын
Do you think that is a good solution? You then show him that his behaviour is acceptable?
@taylorlane62892 жыл бұрын
My guy is avoidant and it’s so frustrating the only time he shows emotion is when I’m distant but then I eventually give in and come towards him which builds resentment lol
@celestialhappiness2 жыл бұрын
Oh gosh. It's so exhausting I've experienced this . JUST LEAVE your mental and emotional health will thank you
@FM-zg5hz2 жыл бұрын
Please leave! Don’t waste your life.
@whoosh_angel Жыл бұрын
I haven’t watched this yet but I can say with 100% certainty the only way to resolve being with an avoidant is to become secure yourself. Secure attachment heals anxious attachment wounds, nothing else. 💞
@laurabeigh283 Жыл бұрын
Yesssss! A secure person will not be interested in such an unhealthy person.
@cookiecatz3227 Жыл бұрын
Avoidants can make securely attached people insecurely attached. Has happened to me in the past. It's called abuse and manipulation
@beccf.s.8012 Жыл бұрын
@@laurabeigh283 lol indeed I am starting to question myself for liking this avoidant so much.
@Ytdeletesallmycomments Жыл бұрын
@@laurabeigh283exactly. 😂
@faithrance94110 ай бұрын
Funny how l was secure until l met him.
@BryBee44 ай бұрын
Love is actions and the avoidants actions are very selfish. They only care about their own feelings Do not waste your time walking on eggshells trying to love someone who puts no effort into doing the same for you. Avoidance turn secures into anxious.
@rachelatkinson525Ай бұрын
True story!! It’s so exhausting. And when I complained about the emotional chaos, he had no clue what I was talking about. Bruh… 🤦♀️
@mariqueflores68152 жыл бұрын
Everything you are saying is true, I realized he is an avoidant. The number one thing he says is that he “doesn’t have the energy for a relationship.” But yet he misses me and always wants to see me!!! I’m frustrated and don’t know what to do. I’m tired of the one putting in the effort.
@arnzgel2 жыл бұрын
Any updates ?
@eileenbeckett42532 жыл бұрын
Listen to his actions and his words. If they aren’t both a yes, then it’s a no.
@ak-47intelligence752 жыл бұрын
Stop putting in effort. Let him be the one who invests. Otherwise, bye!
@amytiffanyhemingway2 жыл бұрын
Sometimes they push you away BECAUSE they love you. They feel bad because they know but won't ever admit that they can't really fulfil your needs and so feel crap about themselves as a partner and think you deserve better. So when you stop needing so much from them, and just appreciate well whatever they ARE able to give you, then he feels better and more sure of himself and will slowly be able to open up and trust the relationship more and more. One analogy I saw is like fishing. Don't pull the fish in on the rod straight away. Do it gently and slowly, reel it in, let it loose a bit, reel it in again or the line will snap and you lose the fish.
@anitarogers28772 жыл бұрын
@@amytiffanyhemingway : Don't you want to live with a man, have stability, a home together, family, children? I was in a similar situation: he said I was "too much, too full-on, " he "needed his space," etc., yet remarkably he flitted around casually seeing other women, yet would loop back around to me..... I do want foundation and stability with a man, a proper relationship. I am perfectly happy single, but I know being in a decent, loving, reciprocated relationship will fulfill me. Being around an avoidant is a challenge I no longer need to experience. It's made me realise all the more what I do deserve, and what I don't!
@Aussie.in.America8 ай бұрын
As an avoidant - if my energy isn’t matched in the friendship stage, or any stage for that matter, I disconnect and am out faster than you can blink.
@waynejenner36358 ай бұрын
You're in a Rinse repeat cycle
@hotpink3459Ай бұрын
I tried to match my avoidant's energy--he would barely initiate texting so I did the same. :(
@northshorelight35 Жыл бұрын
To get the avoidant to commit is all about timing. Get him during his "needy" stage. That's why they are not good for long-term relationships.
@PiscesSun2429 күн бұрын
Why do you want this guy? Run!!!!
@FrenchRelationshipExpert28 күн бұрын
Thanks for your insight!
@aqua6613 Жыл бұрын
My avoidant was pretty much up front about needing space. It fits in with my busy schedule. I know I'm a hyper active ball of energy and I'm not easy to absorb for most, I am overwhelming and sometimes even to myself, so I don't take someone distancing themselves from me as a rejection. When we're together it's really good and somehow he calms me down and I perk him up and inspire him to do more. I guess my favourite playground toy was always the sea saw. It's no fun when you try to play it yourself and you need the right partner that doesn't leave you up in the air too long and pushes off to bring you down and vice versa. When you find a rhythm and understanding it can be the most fun way to play.
@Addease Жыл бұрын
Dang well said
@loristromski1334 Жыл бұрын
Great analogy
@ingrained2train11 ай бұрын
I think this is ultimately how my relationship will wind up My girlfriend is currently showing signs of avoidant attachment and its so interesting because She communicates with me very well, we talk about everything, and even though she was saying she feels overwhelmed and pressured Now that I give her space, she’s regularly contacting me with sweet messages, very affectionate when around each other Shes an amazing woman and honestly the see saw dynamic as you described sounds like it would be a perfect dynamic for us
@jenniferlorence19507 ай бұрын
So You're a Booty Call, Good for You!
@jenniferlorence19507 ай бұрын
@@ingrained2train; Booty Call Relationships have Always Existed. But with TODAY's EASY WOMEN You just Don't Have to PAY for it Anymore!
@Meeks_Beats Жыл бұрын
Things take time.. it is up to you to decide what’s worth it and if your heart can bare mixed signals in love
@karenhowe369510 ай бұрын
This is spot on. 2 years. Hes chased me until i fell in love with him. Then out if the blue, I have no feelings for you. Youre nothing but a friend with benifits 🤬💔
@breefabulous2 жыл бұрын
This actually makes perfect sense. It’s natural to set the pace when you have your own life and have established boundaries. I just tried this and it sent my* avoidant squirming. It felt great 😌
@XFalcon_GamingX2 жыл бұрын
Thank you Mr. Alex! This is very excellent advice I heard... I learnt so much from this topic. Great knowledge...thank you for this knowledge. God bless you more and more wisdom👍
@patience8572 жыл бұрын
You arr truly a genius... I needed to hear this this minute.
@hillsgoodson84802 жыл бұрын
This is exactly what I have been wanting to hear,,thank you so much Alex,,
@carmelthormeyer381 Жыл бұрын
This makes total sense thank you
@pinkrose58332 жыл бұрын
Thank you Alex for some advice I'm always watching you here, God bless you
@nipaparekh16782 жыл бұрын
Set boundaries and expectations
@mbakuanuh70742 жыл бұрын
My favorite French relationship coach,you have said it all
@FrenchRelationshipExpert2 жыл бұрын
Thank you so much for your support Mbaku!
@maricelgund2 жыл бұрын
Excellent advice Alex. Thank you. 😊🤍🌸🎀
@margaretabuandaway62342 жыл бұрын
Deeply grateful for this timely counsel Alex! You do care for us women with your inspiring and enriching sessions! Cheering you on! One of your best episodes ever! Yey!
@FrenchRelationshipExpert2 жыл бұрын
Thank you so much for your support Margaret!
@margaretabuandaway62342 жыл бұрын
@@FrenchRelationshipExpert Cheering you on from the Philippines. Yey!
@daphnen52962 жыл бұрын
Love your work.
@BGivka2 жыл бұрын
Very true about the way he just stops. This has happened to me, with the same man, a few times. I was never serious about him, and he kept returning eventually. Now this time, I am giving him space but not sure If I want to go on and on.
@hifiunicorn5 ай бұрын
My strategy is to just be myself and that level of transparency and intimacy scares them away by and this saves me the trouble of having to keep them around 😂 Avoidant men are good for a fling and nothing more.
@LejlaEnigma91-oy1mj2 жыл бұрын
Oh i needed this really ❤️🙌
@Callie0818 Жыл бұрын
I wish I had seen this months ago! Now I realized this is how he is. I noticed that when I ignore him he gets intense. Now it makes sense
@vanithabalaji6284 Жыл бұрын
Well said , amazing Alex 💕💕💕💕
@tizianadicastri71512 жыл бұрын
This puts a lot into perspective.
@deondrah7992 Жыл бұрын
I understand you perfectly! Thank you so much! However, My question is how do you get rid of a narcissist! I avoid him but yet he still want to argue with me! So I ignore him more! The more I ignore him he gets upset and mad then ignores me until he can't take it anymore then try to be nice just to want to argue again! I can't play this game! I need & and a Real Man not a boy! So how I get rid of him! I've even stop calling, texting and told him to loose my number!
@Asgvu2 жыл бұрын
Thank you Alex, this helped a lot ❤️
@FrenchRelationshipExpert2 жыл бұрын
Thank you so much for watching Alwina!
@therightchick2 жыл бұрын
Thanks Alex! Love from India, your words are so good to hear at these moments in our lives 😊
@FrenchRelationshipExpert2 жыл бұрын
Thank you so much for your support!
@ginadiodati196511 ай бұрын
Omg you're incredible!!
@bettinaschlechmair9531 Жыл бұрын
Really worked out for me 😂
@angelheart4082 жыл бұрын
Alex your English may not be perfect but when you say when you will be live at ‘ Easter time ‘ it makes me smile and I just want to squeeze your cheeks because it is so cute 🥰 I love your French accent so please never change!
@PriscillasWorld2 жыл бұрын
Respectfully, he may have an accent like everyone does but his English is perfect.
@GaisSacredCreations2 жыл бұрын
@@PriscillasWorld I agree, his English is better than most English speaking people I know and I speak both English and French perfectly!
@tj47879 ай бұрын
Thank you makes total sense we tend to forget about flirting ❤
@feebsfilms2 жыл бұрын
Great advice! Men need us to set the PACE. If we don't, many men burn out and pull away.
@pascalinegentille82372 жыл бұрын
Your telling the truth on that point
@Bianca-sw5id Жыл бұрын
So true 100% , Alex 🥰
@dimashapi51942 жыл бұрын
Thanks Alex this is excellent advice really appreciate
@FrenchRelationshipExpert2 жыл бұрын
I'm always happy to help Dima!
@titinagancheva774110 ай бұрын
Thank you Alex ❤
@Twighlight3338 ай бұрын
This is true! I was always saying yes to our hang outs then recently there was a few times where i genuinely busy and i had to pass up on a few of our hang outs and all of sudden he had all the time in the world to txt me, however i dont know if this is with all avoidant but in my case making him wait made him upset so he plays the game of revenge, although he would be more persistent he would still make sure he got the "last laugh" at the end... im a FA sooo i pick up on small changed behaviors i ignore them like children's tantrums though because he has something im benefitting from as well so i just dont discuss these things with him
@vhayashi7369 Жыл бұрын
We have to care less than him. That's the key.
@tsegeredatesfaye735 Жыл бұрын
Dear Alex thank you for this education
@FrenchRelationshipExpert Жыл бұрын
You're always welcome!
@tobiased56422 жыл бұрын
This is absolutely the best advice. I will let you know how it works. My guy is this guy to a t
@FrenchRelationshipExpert2 жыл бұрын
Thank you so much for watching!
@hennabypankti67462 жыл бұрын
Very helpful.
@boitumelomoshugi27102 жыл бұрын
Thank you for this video, very informative. Love your channel 😄✨
@FrenchRelationshipExpert2 жыл бұрын
Thank you so much for watching!
@carolebitz32072 жыл бұрын
He texted me but I turned him down feeling like I should have let him come over...ahh I don't know what to do ...
@carolebitz32072 жыл бұрын
If he contacted but I turned him down Could I text to reply to his contact.. Saying how well I'm doing etc
@suzansuzan93722 жыл бұрын
Thank you alex!!
@Leighsha72 жыл бұрын
Thank you!
@FrenchRelationshipExpert2 жыл бұрын
You're always welcome Wynter!
@Anetekonjo Жыл бұрын
It’s a waste of time, and it’s like a cat and mouse chase. It’s painful!
@melpita92 Жыл бұрын
yes it make sense 👍this is helpful :) thank you
@BlueRaySoda7 күн бұрын
Thank you 🙏 that was really helpful!!! Love the accent- my Australian twang would never measure up! 😂
@FrenchRelationshipExpert7 күн бұрын
Thank you so much for watching! I hope this video was able to help you!
@Dreamweaver777 Жыл бұрын
OMGosh you are so sweet, this was a lovely video.
@FrenchRelationshipExpert Жыл бұрын
Thank you so much!
@susanlawton5848 Жыл бұрын
So true Alex ❤️
@ActivateDivineDNA Жыл бұрын
A million thanks and dollars to you!! Your amazing I will do this ♾🙏🏼✨🎁💯❣️
@FrenchRelationshipExpert Жыл бұрын
Thank you so much for watching! I greatly appreciate this!
@milliycheby43722 жыл бұрын
Thank you soo much Alex 🙏 be blessed ,good work,👍please this will work in LDR ??
@timelesswords6826 Жыл бұрын
Mirroring them behavior is the best you can do. We don't care about a narcissist ex partner. We didn't deserve a handsome animal. They don't deserve to be happy and feed their ego💪
@ginnybenett4285 ай бұрын
Yes, just went through this with someone I met online. We had great connection through long phone calls but after a couple of weeks he didn't want to meet and said he wants to take it slow although he is the one who suggested meeting for coffee. I'm secure attachment ready to give but he is avoidant not ready to receive. I ended it because I don't want to invest the time but I left it open for him to reach out to me. Meanwhile I'm going to live my life. I will take your advice if he does reach out and not be so readily available. We are both older (I"m 62 and he is 73). I admit I'm not good at flirting.
@juliekaloki61952 жыл бұрын
Thanks so much Alex
@FrenchRelationshipExpert2 жыл бұрын
You're always welcome Julie!
@juliekaloki61952 жыл бұрын
@@FrenchRelationshipExpert Alex have this guy we online Dec late we didn't meet because he had already left Poland where i live back to US he has some investments in Poland so we have been chatting so today he said he will be coming to Poland this Dec.so we can meet .He actually asked me how i thought about it if it was too far but because i didn't want to show him that i love him much i said its ok i can wait but honestly it's not ok i still think it's rather to far what should i do
@JessiesFamily2 жыл бұрын
Omg I believe I'm I'm this situation. Fuck that I'm out!!! Done!
@ivla8712 жыл бұрын
Love this
@FrenchRelationshipExpert2 жыл бұрын
Thank you so much for watching!
@CorvidLove3 күн бұрын
I am 47 now. I got in a relationship with an avoidant. After a few months the fights started. I got upset because she was gone drom the planet most of the days. At first I thought it was me being too needy because she told me this. And now I would have to play games in stead of listen to my heart, just to have a relationship with her? I can't do that. I dont play games. I will have to look for a new person that will be happy with my love 24/7 and that is willing to give me love 24/7. If you are out there, find me.. I need you..
@hillsgoodson84802 жыл бұрын
Thank you Mr Alex,,,
@MM-iy7xm2 жыл бұрын
He’s an old friend but we do connect. He says he’s broken and needs to work on himself. I understand that as I’ve been there before. He calls everyday, but we don’t get to see each other because of his work…
@sedakuday6102 жыл бұрын
He s keeping you in the loop ; just to make sure you re sticking around at his absence: sorry but this looked like a bit manipulation. It's great he is thoughtful enough to call everyday but there might be altering motives , beware
@akeishaharris Жыл бұрын
Yeah, I'd rather be by myself. I don't have time to play games with wanna be grown ass man. I'm engaged to him right now and it's unhealthy for me. I'm about to call it quits..
@arieljingjingsun8 ай бұрын
I love your French accent!!!!
@FrenchRelationshipExpert8 ай бұрын
Thank you so much!
@kariencoetzee84395 ай бұрын
So, basically I'm up a creek without a paddle!! I have to do all the work (set the pace, be fun and flirt) and he gets to do whatever the hell he wants. And when he is always in a downcast mood because he thinks only about himself and his problems, it would seem very exhausting I'm afraid.
@cancersun7346 Жыл бұрын
This is so true, but its hard.
@patriciaviii2 жыл бұрын
Im going through that right now.
@angelasellon86832 жыл бұрын
That's tea!
@tanlight452 жыл бұрын
You dont need 2 RUN head towards him and solve 2gether. If yah feeling it..... If you are BOTH ready. . . 💝💝💝
@jennyl20082 жыл бұрын
Would love a video on how to gain control of a situation when a man/husband wants to end a marriage for their career/new identity