I love how Shan waited until SHE was ready to be a mother, I feel that has definitely contributed to her being so positive about motherhood! If i ever become a mother, I’m definitely gonna wait until welllllllll into my 30s

Can Jared do a things he didnt know about fatherhood??

“i dont be listening” 😂😂

One thing that happened to me and that I wasn't expecting was that I could never look at a glass of milk the same way. I couldn't avoid thinking that the cow had given birth just like me, and their child was taken away for humans to exploit their motherhood through their milk and even their sexuality. It broke my heart as I could feel it as if it was me going through that, because I felt so attached to my baby and all that breast-baby connection was so strong. I did some research and learned that cows cry for days when they take their babies.

Look at those wittle *FEEET* 🥺🥺❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️

Awww Ryu is such a unique and beautiful name and she’s adorable, and Shan, sis you are GLOWING 😍

Motherhood is a gift but it’s also very hard doing it when you’re not financially stable, don’t have a partner and doing it all by yourself. I always pictured that when I eventually have a kid it would be in a two parent household and it wouldn’t feel so lonely. Doing this in a pandemic and basically alone is DIFFICULT. Her dad takes her 24 hours a week but we’re not exactly “a team”. Seeing her beautiful face and hearing her laughing and enjoying herself helps me get through it because most of the time I feel like I’m failing her. 🤦🏾‍♀️😟

When Ryu pooped the little girl was like “oh hell no, you gotta go. You cute, but you gotta go!”’she let little Ryu slide and then remembered she’s a baby! 😂

The best advice I give anyone is that you should always do what works best for you and your baby. Everyone else’s opinions can go in one ear and out the other

I love the new Shan as a mom. You hav this new light and new wisdom shinning through! I’m a mom myself and just feel so connected to you more than ever!!! I’m such a fan!

I work as a doula❤️, one of my clients just gave birth last week, and there’s something so special about watching a woman become a mom for the first time🥰! I have 3 of my own and I also make motherhood content on my channel 😌! You cracked me up with this🤣! Glad to see you’re enjoying being a mom, just wanted to let you know you are rocking it🙌🏿👏🏿🙌🏿!

Even though I don’t have a kid and not even planning to have one, I absolutely love watching your videos about motherhood and about relationship after having a child , the way you explain things is just so interesting 💕 thank you Shan.

My mom always talks about that after she had me she was in the grocery store, heard a baby cry from across the store, and her boobs started leaking 😂😂😂

Imagine how Ryu will resonate with Otis from sex education one day 😁

Jesus Jared whole face 😭😭😭🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣

I love the point that you brought up that while your baby is learning as they grow, you're learning to be a mom as well and you're in it together. I think that's a good way of looking at motherhood. It's learning and growing along with your child.

My baby is 1 month old and I found this really helpful. I'm normally not that much into mantras, but I see myself citing "keep it curious, apologetic and light" a few times during the next days! A very warm thank you from a fellow first time mom!!

Great advice! Also the editing was fun and lighting was beautiful. Enjoying your videos and teachings so much. Thank you !

Shan this is so amazing thank you!! You make me excited about being a mother eventually because you're so damn cool and chill about it, not like many other others

My baby girl is 15 months now and I have watched you for a while now. So happy you have a family of you own. As a first time mom I appreciate you talking about your experience and can't wait to watch more. You really help me and give me a peace of mind ❤️

I love the “mommy and me” and “daddy and me” vibes this channel is giving now! Keep it up!

I feel you and I hear you. Nothing can ever truly compare to being a parent for the first time it’s an experience like no other .

Love this video! More content on motherhood/being parents, etc. :)

I could listen to you talk about anything. I can't explain why or how much I love hearing you. I think it's because you're incredibly articulate, wise, and compassionate.

Thank you for this video! Amasing postive vibes!

Thanks Shan! I’m an mom and this video was so encouraging. 💕

Congrats queen it suits you and you’re going to be so awesome as a mother

All true!!! I’m glad you covered all of these mama ❤️❤️

Yay I’ve been waiting for this 😍 I just knew you would thrive🔥

Stumbled across your channel... loved your honesty about your journey. We would definitely advocate for women to wait until they are super ready

Beautiful mom and baby 🥰 Watching mothers talk about their experiences helps a lot with getting prepared and also in reminding myself I'm not ready yet when I start wishing I had a little squish of my own 🥺

Currently 23 weeks, doing this by myself so it’s definitely gonna be a journey. Thank you for sharing this video it was very helpful💕

Omg that last one is so true. I find so many people are quite negative about motherhood. Like freedom, dirty nappies, tantrums etc but like you said. We’re both learning and I find it’s amazing!. I love it 🥰

You doing great Shan! Ryu is lucky to have you and Jared xx

When you showed the baby crying 🤣🤣🤣🤣 Thank you btw. After 3 babys i still question myself.

She is too precious and adorable! I’m really so happy for you guys! ❤️

Thanks for sharing Shan, you look incredible ❤️

I’m not a mom but I do want kids and I love this video. It certainly makes me a little less anxious. I think you’re doing great and she’s so precious!

You are my sister for days🥰. A lot of what you have said has put me at ease as a new mom to my sweet two month old baby and given me a sense of confidence. ❤❤

Motherhood is a very unique experience.. Ryu is beautiful and I wish you and your family nothing but the best

I LOVE THISSS!! More HONEST baby videos! 😍😍😍❤️ motherhood looks good on you girrrl!!!

Loved every word! From a fellow new mom. 🙏🏽💖 beautifully blessed

I'm so glad you're sharing your experience as a first time mom! I'm 30 with zero children and although I do plan to be a mom some day, I've heard and seen plenty of horror stories that make me want to deviate from that plan. You've restored hope for me as a future mom 😅✊🏾

Gorgeous mama! Thank you for sharing! So happy for you guys, such a beautiful family☺️☺️☺️☺️

Thank you so much for this video !!!! 💖💖💖💖💖💖

Congratulations again on your bundle of joy and happiness in life!

Aaaaw love your number 3! I always think this when people are mad negative about things 😆

Lol this is so cute, I knew this would be from a perspective of a new mom and I have 3. But I still appreciated this video and can definitely relate!

Love the honesty!

Awwww... the brush story. You go girl

I feel like y’all are my parents. I learned so much from you guys!

Ryu is a perfect blend of two photogenic parents! Motherhood looks good on you Shan.

You’re a great mom. Btw I can’t thank you enough for what you do. Please don’t stop.

Shan you look amazing, btw editing is so quirky and cute

Haven't been on the channel for a while. Congrats to the both of you!

This was such a cute update but also hilarious I choked on my food twice

LOVE your point about practising apologizing to your kid. I've made a note of it and will definitely be doing this when I get kids of my own! It's also a good practice in staying humble and admitting your own flaws. I think I'll be implementing this to my new dog 😅 I'm a first-time dog owner and god I mess up now and then.

I love this! And I agree! I had my first baby in October so she is three months and I’m soooo enjoying this. She has a relative nanny that I take her to because I am a full time teacher, but I’ve gotten into the groove of the schedule. she only wakes up a couple times at night to eat. And she’s just a chill baby. Super cute, and so smart! She wasn’t an easy pregnancy though. I was sick the whole time. But i could tell that she was going to be a chill baby because she was pretty calm in the womb. She wouldn’t beat me up while she was in there which was nice.

The song “this will be” insert lol hilarious

Look at you, you glow!! And what a precious baby girl❤️

Mamma you got this! Best advise I’ve heard from a new Mom!

You create the most engaging content! You’re amazing!

you're always so refreshing! ps you look amazing

It’s so wonderful to hear your all doing well 😂❤️

Awwwwwww Shan’s got a baby!!! 👶 congratulations.

Great video Shan! ❤️

OMG! Too much cuteness in that little face!!!

Ryu is the cutest baby, you are looking great.

Didn’t think it was possible but you seem even more confident as a person than before

Oh wow...this was wonderful to watch. Gave me nostalgia about when I had my son. It was wild...he's 10 now.

I'm so grateful to you sharing this experience with us. My partner and I are planning to start trying to conceive around July or August and I'm just soaking up all this information. Thank you

You’re rocking motherhood! Congrats! You also look amazing!

It's so crazy that other people truths is not for every one else. So glad you see that you're having your own truths. My friend ask why I didn't tell her she would find everything funny, that is her experience and I told her to stop listening to people.

Definitely feel everything you said. Five months postpartum here.

You both look amazing! I also find that your voice changed a bit here? It sounds to me so much more sweet and motherly? Great video

I love how you are sharing all sides of you ☺️ so true such an individual journey!!every kid is so different with different needs and wants.. thanks for the nice list haha can't believe my "Baby" is turning 2 soon..your carrier looks so nice and comfy too I just wanted to tell you that the position ryu is in isn't the best ..usually her legs should have an M shape so that it can promote healthy hip development.most likely it's the carrier unless you can widen the part that holds her on the bottom (it supposed to cover most of the thigh) hope I can share my knowledge in case you didn't know yet.. really appreciate your loving authentic Aura on all of the channels

Loving all of the pregnancy content as I enter my last month. 🙂

Shan!!! I had no clue you were an extra in Mean Girls?!?! Literally watched the movie yesterday and saw you and flipped to my bf “omg that’s my fav youtuber!!!” Actual comment; this is so cute and wholesome. Keep creating content please, it’s great 😊

Love these videos 💕

Aww this was beautiful and made me less fearful lol

Super random question... what kind of carrier is that!? Would love to try for my second child 👍🏾

Love this, a lot.

Oh man, saying sorry as a Mom and the dream. That's powerful.

Lol those crying photos are so precious

You’re GLOWING ✨

love the motherhood content!

I feel you're pain as a first time mother it's a scary experience but worth it.

Motherhood is a journey everyone's journey is different. Crying is okay baby understand mama and papa will come get her. She's securely attached that's good! You've got this motherhood journey that mindset. No expectations just constant on the job training.👌💕

Loooove the vertical format!

You've grown more and more beautiful since motherhood🔥🙏

About to become a new mom and I needed this 🥰

Mom of 2, you made me laugh... washing the scissors with the soap left over, that is a typical Caribbean thing. Trust me. We all do that. Nice to see your view as a mom, I’m also a mom of mix Caribbean and I have to say I’m proud of you as a mom.

So informative.....💯💥👍💞

you’re glowing in that thumbnail wow!! 🥰

I love you so much shan! Ive followed ur videos for years and learned so much about, sex, relationships and life in general 🥰 thankuuuu❤️❤️ you’re like the big sister I never had 💕💕

SHANNNN !!!! 😭 Ryu is so beautiful 💖💖

Your amazing! Keep it up momma 😘

She is such a sweet little cookie! 😍

When a couple I'm friends with adopted their first baby the one guy's mom helped them out and gave them some really good advice. She's a mother of 7 herself, and pretty much an expert through experience by the time #7 came along. She said don't go into parenthood with any major expectations. When she had her first everyone was saying how wonderful the experience was, and how much she was going to love that baby. She did and does love her firstborn, but that connection that society says should be there on day one just wasn't, and there were days when she was frustrated. She felt like something must be wrong with her. Then she opened up to her own mother who told her not to be so hard on herself. Her mother framed it as her bond with her husband didn't appear overnight, why would a bond with a baby be any different? Bonding is a process. The second piece of golden advice was that sometimes babies are just fussy assholes. Not being able to soothe them doesn't make you a bad parent. Just like adults get in bad moods and just have to ride it out, so do babies. You should still try, but there will be days where all you can do is sit on the floor by the crib and cry with them. That's not failure at being a parent, that's life. All you can do is take life a day at a time, and deal with what comes the best you know how.

why are there dislikes? like actually lmfao. haters!!! love you Shan!❤️ bless your baby + your growing family