my entire life ive felt im like 'watching over' normal people. I can see everyone living normal lives and behaving normally but that was something i can never have or had. yknow how sometimes you can only admire what others have from afar because it wasnt meant for you. idk how to explain but i feel im just watching a movie im not involved in

I get depressed when I see everyone having the best time with their friends and I'm just staying here doing nothing. Everyday I wake up and I don't even have a message. Its just horrible.

Having a friend group but still feeling like you don't belong is so exhausting, it feels like being stuck with some people just to not feel lonely. Hey, this is me 4 months later...It does get better, I started Uni with a whole different mindset from highschool, If you search you find. Feeling lonely is soo normal, but there's always people that are actually worth it. Fist step: Change your mindset so you can actually see yourself and other people from a new perspective.

Its weird how so many of us exist but can never find eachother yk? Like theres so many lonely people that have common interests yet it always feels like literally everyone else has that super social normal life style? Idk maybe its just me, hurts to see others online talking about feeling left out bc all i wanna do is sit with them and let them know they can be themselves and still be appreciated by the right people, social status means nothing.

It’s both comforting and sad how this message speaks to so many people. We need a solution to finding community more than ever

All of what you said is exactly how I've been feeling pretty much my whole life, especially as I'm still in school. Usually when we're lonely, we blame ourselves: "What I've done wrong?", "Am I really that unlikeable?", "Youth isn't as fun as everyone tells, I'm wasting these years". Well, I try to convince myself being alone is better in some ways: I'm independent, I get to know myself better, discover new hobbies and focus on studies. But still, sometimes I just can't hold back sadness when I see other people having so much fun with friends and having another person to share feelings with, while I have no one but myslef really 😕

In university I also sat alone during lunch for quite a long while... Now almost 5 years later I am such a strong person and go to concerts or movie theaters alone and I am happy - because I can ❤

If you ever feel lonely, just remember that there are trillions of cells inside you, that literally can't live without you

I don’t have a friend group. I literally only have 3 people that I talk to. But I feel like they’re their own friend group. And that im just there. I really want to fit in with them.

so true... because of how introverted i can be i feel like i just come across as a boring person to other people. i can't speak to people very well, not because im shy but i just can't move a conversation forward and then the relationship never progresses. and whilst most of the time i dont mind being by myself, and enjoy my own company, sometimes i wish i made a new friend or two after starting college to make it a bit more bearable. everyone is walking around in big groups and most of the time im by myself. even if i have friends they have their own friend group that i just cant see myself becoming a part of ever, and i start thinking that they'd rather be hanging out with them instead of me because im not as much fun. im happy most of the time tho, just those odd times you start thinking too much 😌

idk how to describe it, but this video and this comment section feel like a safe and comforting space. the vibes are just so chill here, and i dont feel lonely :)

yep, I feel the same way, no friends in uni, introverted and also being neurodivergent all contribute to feeling like the wallflower, but it’s so crazy how many of us feel the same way and how we haven’t met each other :( just sucks that the best people are alone

After watching this video , i highly suggest starting a podcast because even though the things you talk about are so relatable for so many people but also because your voice is so comforting , you are becoming my comfort person to watch and listen to😭🤍

You’ve just described how I’ve been feeling my entire life that I couldn’t put into words.

It’s crazy how people from all over the world have the same worries. This is an amazing video. I definitely relate to this. Thank you

I am literally crying you just described my entire life, watching this video and reading comments I have first realised that I am not alone like this

The way she validates so much of my own experiences is one of the many reasons she'll forever be my favourite person on the internet

growing up as an autistic girl i feel like such an alien. always having to put myself through a filter and trying my hardest to be a certain way to make other people comfortable, but even when i put so much effort into masking every day of my life i feel like i’ll never be able to fit in properly with my peers. i feel like i’m missing something everyone else has, something that comes really easy to them but i can’t mimic properly no matter how badly i wish i could. being neurodivergent is so isolating for this, and i’m scared i’m gonna feel this kind of loneliness and separation my whole life. i know it sounds cliche, but i just want to be really, really normal.

The reading a book to not feel like a loser is so true haha

I can confirm that when you grow up with this trauma, as an adult, it really handicaps you in the “real world.” We need more awareness of this, and we need people to stop feeling bad about being this way. THERE IS NOTHING WRONG WITH YOU! You are your own unique being, and I wouldn’t change anything about you. Leave the trauma behind - of eating school lunches by yourself, of constantly comparing yourself to other people in your high school friend group - it does not define you (probably has only made you more beautiful on the inside, because you’ve learned how to have compassion for people who are struggling). Bring what you were into what you are now, and just shine like the beautiful you.

Just 16 seconds of the video and I am crying “the need to constantly wanting to fit in,but at the same time you just don’t fit in,bc I felt like I don’t belong I feel like I shouldn’t stand out“ this is literally how I’ve felt this last two years of high school and until now I am facing the fact that that’s what I’ve been feeling all this time,I knew I didn’t fit in but I just couldn’t put it into words I just had the feeling but couldn’t even explica it to myself THANK YOU SO MUCH ❤

this is one of the times i love the internet because im able to find people like me, people who have the same experiences and thoughts as me when in real life it feels so isolating

i also think people romanticize being like awkward and having social anxiety. not so fun when u lose opportunities because of it... and i felt this so much. even with my closest friends (i've known them for 12 yrs) i can't be fully open. I literally have a group chat where i send vocal messages to myself lmao.

As a middle schooler who rlly doesn’t have any friends, this video rlly made me happy. It gives us unpopular kids hope that we can become cool like u :)

Here i am again sharing my trauma lol, i was bullied when i was in school and i was always alone. I used to have a big friend group when i was really young but that friend group started making fun of me from elementary school to hs etc. I never felt i truly belonged and i actually started copying their mannerisms and they way they existed just to fit in. I always wanted a best friend or a shoulder to cry on, but i didn't find it yet. I am not talking about family, but friends. Now in college i have like 2 friends? And they told me that i am very unapproachable, they way that sit, stare and everything. At first i got sad because i really wanted to look fun and bubbly and i tried too hard to do so that my social battery started slipping through my hands and i was exhausted and sad and angry. I just came to the conclusion that idc if i look unapproachable, if someone wants to talk to me they can, even more if they know me. I feel like an alien and i always watch people having fun, talking yk chit chatting and i trully don't know how to do it. I always try to be more of everything which leads to just creating a fake personality of mine, that's why i feel like an imposter, because I don't know if they would like the real me and not the one i was always presenting. I'm trying to be myself and the closer i come to my true colours the more comfortable i feel with my own company. I don't say I don't want friends or anything but at this moment i want to be with me and find people who treat me kindly and with love, not people who just tolerate me and they show it . Via, you are so sweet and your videos make me feel better and i am happy seeing you gaining confidence and sharing your life with us 🩷✨🫶

Hey Via, this is a long post so bear with me. I went through a very similar situation as you did in terms of isolation, etc... I'm 23, I was very isolated my whole life despite being a mix of introvert and extrovert. I had some "friends" here and there but no one really stuck around. A considerable amount of time was spent where I was questioning my self worth - wondering if I was fundamentally "different" than everyone else which did manifest itself into anger later on. Lots of walking around alone, feeling lost, wanting to join with others, comparing myself to people on social media (I'm guilty of this). Basically I understand you 100%. There's nothing wrong with us. What it is, is that we were pushed into isolation - and that isolation manifested itself into our growth. The only way to fix that, like you said is to be yourself and just keep meeting with people. That's it. Hope you found this helpful 🙏

I didn’t know that there are other people like me, all of this has always been so hard to put in to words. How I always feel like, nothing that the normal people do is meant for me. All I can do is watch the ”normal” ppl do things I’ve always dreamed of and just wish that I could someday experience all that. Like normal life, hanging with friends, dating, none of that belongs to me. I just can’t have any of that. I now finally have friends, but they never see me, and they do things with each other that I wish I could do. But they never invite me. My dreams are so small and yet I still can’t have any of them come true. I’m tired of watching other ppl do things I wanna do and just admiring others. I’m trying so hard to belong, and well still today I was alone at the lunchbreak as usual.

I have never resonated with a video more than this one, in the past couple of years especially I've never felt so lonely. I'm someone that connects with others better one on one, groups have never really worked out for me - I'm usually left out of the loop & just can't seem to click in group situations, I always end up keeping to myself. It's just so mentally & emotionally draining to even just have a light convo with someone & need days alone to recharge my social battery. I'm still trying my best to be comfortable in my own company, of course its hard but it gets better :)

I wish I had a friend like you. I'm also an introvert and it has been really hard for me to fit in anywhere. It feels like I'm annoying people. They never come talk to me. But I've realized that maybe having 1 real friend is so much better than having an actual friend group.

I loved this video because I resonated so well with it. I’m a quiet, shy, introverted black kid from Boston but went to school in a predominantly white town on the south shore. All my life I felt like “the outcast”. I never really had the hottest things, kept up with trends, or had a solid friend group. Now that I’m in college, the pressure of trying to fit isn’t as present but sometimes it still lingers. It’s weird because I don’t like being lonely and think it would be nice just to have friends I can call or hang out with but at the same time, I love my solitude and I realize being alone is okay. Social media really encourages that pressure of loneliness and trying to fit in. I found that cutting it out helps especially with self improvement.

Have been going through this since I was 16, it's terrible and isolating. My last year of high school was horrible, loneliness took a huge toll onto me that I isolated myself and talked few words a day, never had any friend groups in my class and felt out of place at times, couldn't even come up to someone due to my social anxiety. I'm currently in university and oh boy it's even far worse, it's utterly isolating and lonely, even more difficult to find someone to talk to, I'm one year in and have barely talked to anyone and haven't made a single friend. I don't know how to work in groups anymore and too scared to even reply to messages to the point I wait for hours to find the courage to reply. I feel like I am wasting my youth away, when I was told that it will be fun years of my life, which was a big lie. I wish there was more groups and communities to join and find somebody, but those are unfortunately are very scarce. It's comforting to see that I'm not the only one going through this...

I’m so happy I finally found someone who I can relate to. I’m currently in middle school and usually no one would sit with me so I would just sit alone and go on my phone to make people think I’m busy. Even in my class I wouldn’t have any friends so when it came to group projects I would be by myself or with people I’m not comfortable with. Even though I’m sad that via had gone through what I’m going through right now I’m also really relived because watching people with the same struggles really makes me feel more like a real person and that I’m not alone

your videos are always posted at the right time for me. i’m a junior in college and i just finished an interview for an internship that i feel went horrible . i immediately wanted someone to talk to abt it but i only have two friends and i knew they were probably busy with classes. it really hit me how i rlly don’t have many ppl to turn to and talk to whenever and just when i was abt to feel down i saw you posted this. i rlly relate to everything in this video. i had a friend group in high school but things went bad and i learned im better off friends with people individually. however it does get lonely sometimes since i know even those friends i have individually have their own friend groups. i’ve come to accept that i’d rather feel comfortable with the few relationships i have rather than force myself into ones that feel toxic just for the sake of not being alone

I'm listening to the preview on loop crying because I feel just like that . I used to be alone having no friends ,and I really struggled In finding a group of people where I didn't feel out of place. Even now I often feel like I have to act in a certain way, or my friends won't want me

I’ve never looked at an entire comment section before and been able to relate so much. Thank you. 🦋

It feels so comforting knowing that I’m not going through this alone but at the same time it makes me super sad that so many people can relate with this and are going through the same thing 😔

I've seen so many influencers who can get to make me feel smtg but they're relatable at certain points of my life, not like truly relatable, and it feels so comforting to finally find someone who's authentically relatable to me🌹🐺 [im trying so hard not to cry rn]

this really resonates with me, i was homeschooled so i have basically lived my whole life so far without any friends (except some online friends). it's been really hard to deal with- going out and seeing other people my age all hanging out in their own little groups. i just feel like i'll never be able to have that experience. even if i try to hang out with people, i always feel so left out because i'm not as close as everyone else is. i'm basically just an outsider wherever i go. i don't think i'll ever truly "fit in" or have one of those close friend groups. but in 2023, i'm really trying to learn how to be okay with that. this video helps a lot :) thank you for sharing your thoughts. i'm glad i got this in my recommended!! i definitely needed it right now

I’m sooo sad when I see others having fun w their friends, when I try to fit in they just don’t care about my words like there’s a shield between us, and that makes me feel worse than watching others having fun. I’m so confused and always can’t figure out why.(i don’t think i can’t socialize with people, but i think they just kind of childish and mean sometimes.）

This is my first comment ever on youtube, with my other comments on internet maybe 3. So its a huge step for me Knowing that there are a lot of people feeling the same way made me feel less alone. Thank you so much you all (sry for my english)

Watching your videos and stories and TikToks made me more comfortable with being alone,and not trying to force relations with anyone, thank you so much ❤

Really don't know what i did wrong. Even the "weird" kid has their own friends, their own little group, and im just simply there. I feel like im not supposed to belong in here

Damn gurl 0:35 hits hard because I feel the exact same way, "being shy and introverted, and growing up ugly". So so true, nobody told you how being ugly as a kid / teen impacted your social life and overall self-confidence no matter how significant your glow ups are in your adulthood.

You are not alone. We are all not alone. Our world is full of beautiful, kind and talented people who all feel lonely. It takes tremendous courage to admit that you are lonely. If you reach out, you will find many other lonely people willing to give you the gift of their friendship. Just be yourself. Hello friends all around the world!

Tbh I feel so comforted by the fact that I’m not the only one who feels lonely (I’m super introverted)

I used to be like this too, I think I have an undiagnosed neurodivergent condition, when I was in middle school other kids would call me weird and bully me. I had (and still have to some degree) the lowest self esteem imaginable, I couldn't look in the mirror even when I had to brush my hair. The only way I could stand out was to make a fool out of myself, so that's what I was doing to get some attention even if it was at the cost of my dignity. Highschool I was very depressed, didn't talk to anyone, managed to make like 1 or 2 friends. But at 17 something clicked, it was as if I had enough of it and wanted some change. I knew that people wouldn't approach me, so I went out of my comfort zone and started talking to new people, being as extroverted as possible, and it worked. I developed my sense of humor and kindness in the years prior, so making friends was easy. I now have tons of friends, and my close inner circle is around 5 people besides me. I can easily go talk to somebody, and I don't take it personally anymore. Talking to my friends made me realize that a lot of people just don't take initiative, they may see someone and think they're very cool but they still won't approach that person. Out of the dozens of people I know I'm the only one who does it, so it made me think that it's not actually me who was at fault. I wasn't too ugly, too lame, too whatever. It's just that people lack initiative and are afraid of approaching first. So don't take it personally, there's nothing wrong with you, and I'm well aware I'm a happy case that was able to change. I still suffer from depression, and I highly suggest getting therapy if possible. If not keep in mind it's not YOU that makes people not approach you, it's other people not taking initiative to do so. I assure you there's been lots of people in your life that you met who thought you were cool af and never approached. And normal is subjective, my close friends are also neurodivergent, and for us this is the normal. Just find your normal, don't try to be something you're not, I assure you there's people just like you who you'd get along with greatly.

We have to normalize that some of us are really struggling to make real connections. The society stigmatizes loners too much and makes us think it's a personal problem but there are many factors that contribute to a person being almost or actually friendless, such as they enjoying solitude, friends moving away or growing apart for future pursuit, or just discovery of incompatibility to certain aspects with current friends. I almost broke up with my only friend group the beginning of this year and now still trying to form a new friend group. But my ex friends have spread rumors about me within our bigger mutual circle and that definitely has affected how some perceive my character. Now I only have 3 friends i talk to individually. Still trying 😅

I feel this so much. I'm 26 now. I've always been introverted and shy, it's difficult for me to strike up and maintain conversations. The thing is, I do usually have friend groups and I even have a bestfriend. Despite that, I just know I'm not a priority in anyone's life, I know our values etc don't exactly match. But since I'm older I have noticed that it's one in a million that you'll find someone that matches you and your values 100% and most people just make sacrifices and learn to like others despite the differences. Anyhow, point is I also do feel lonely that my state of relationships are this way. And I genuinely feel like it will always be like this because I know myself.

Wow! I could relate to so many aspects you shared. Struggling with the sense of belonging somewhere just gets worse due to social anxiety :'( Anyone who's reading this rn know that you're not alone. There are so many of us who have similar stories. You never walk alone 🫂

I know exactly where you're coming from! At 9 years old I went to an all white school (I'm Filipina) and felt so ugly. Kids would comment negativities about my nose, my huge lips, eyes, and color. They literally called me ugly N...word. I was filled with self loathing. This went on for a few years until I moved away. Took me decades to heal myself through self-help books. Now that I'm 50, I've learned to embrace my uniqueness. Somewhere along the way, the features I once hated about myself are now considered attractive! Go figure! What I'm trying to say is embrace your uniqueness. Act confident even if you're not. You'll notice people will gravitate your way. Most important thing you can do is self love. Self acceptance will set you free from wanting validation from others. As you get older, validations from others doesn't matter as much. By the way, you are beautiful! Keep telling yourself that!

This video speaks to my soul, literally teared up. I'm in my second year of uni and completely let go of the idea of fitting in. I didn't have any real friends in high school, I lost my friend group that already made me feel trapped so I don't really care about them but it still hurts that I'm all by myself in a city far away from my family. I'm keeping myself occupied, training every day, trying to learn language, basically anything to avoid the fact that I'm lonely. It's almost like I've given up the idea that I'm compatible with people, although on the internet I see many like minded people. Seeing that other people feel similarly to me gives me hope that my life has the potential to change.

You belong to this beautiful community you created with your videos. 💞Watching your videos made me realize that I'm not alone, that there are so many people who share the same feeling with me. Thank you for your efforts!

Thank you for making this video. Truly amazed by the comment section! Makes me feel less lonely so that you everyone ! Personally, I have grown up shy and introverted with very strict parents. Although I was not considered "ugly", I have always felt that it was hard for me to form meaningful friendships. I am slightly awkward and nervous in social settings and I hated myself for it. Just the other day I hung out with my closest coworkers and felt so out of place. The only thing that went through my mind were things like " I just wanna go home and be with my dog" or" If I drink more i wont feel time go by"... It is so exhausting yet I still crave for a close bond with someone. I also despise social or group events... I am much better hanging out with someone one on one. What I can say is take the time to get to know yourselves and what your boundaries are and if people cannot respect them , then let them go. If you keep hanging out with such individuals you will simply build up resentment (aka negative energy) inside! Learn to accept yourself and determine your strengths. Practice self- validation ; what I have started doing is writing down one thing that I did that I am proud of during my day in my journal before bed every night. You will in time acknowledge yourself more and more and will n:)

i’m literally gonna cry because this finally explains what i’ve been going through my entire life and i feel relieved that other people could relate with me. being a hijabi girl in america is not the easiest, especially in highschool. it doesn’t help that i go to a predominantly white school. but everybody i know even the other muslim kids have their own friend groups. they’re social, they’re fun, they’re cool. i’m a sophomore in highschool and this entire year i’ve been friend group hopping. i also know individual people like i say hi to them in the halls and i talk to them in class but they don’t reciprocate the same energy i give them so this entire school year i’ve been hoping to find “the right ones.” a few days ago i realized i don’t need to find the right ones. i don’t need to have friends. if these people really actually cared about me and gave a damn about me, they would come up to me and say hi. yet none of them do. i’m not gonna chase after them like i have been for the past two years. starting junior year in the fall, im doing me. i’ll make friends but i won’t be reliant on them bc i’m not gonna risk getting my heart broken like i have been with the last 5 friend groups i’ve been in.

I’ve had social anxiety most of my life yet I was always fortunate to have friends around in some way. People kept wanting to “adopt” me I guess. But I never felt like I truly belonged in groups. It always felt like my friends didn’t get me and would often say so. As I gotten older and worked on lowering my social anxiety, I knew exactly what to do to fit in different groups. And my long time friends and I came to understand each other a lot better. That said I still always felt a bit different. It’s like everyone interests and way of thinking was still fundamentally different. Even though I can appear to be like everyone else at a party and my friends started to act more like me, it still didn’t feel quite the same. That’s when I realized I feel that this is something internal I’m always gonna feel to some degree. And yea I’m always going to be a bit different and now I think that’s great. Fitting in at parties or with friend groups is a nice feeling. But it is not as fulfilling as you think if you don’t genuinely love the people you’re with. So just be you and focus on the people you know are good for you. They dont have to get you, they just have to care and be willing to try.

Sometimes i isolate myself people around me because its comfort and ı realized when i isaolate myself too much i cant talk people “normal”. I judging myself because i cant feel and act “normal”. And its keep repeating it. Only way to get out this cicycle is accepting yourself and accepting anxiety is part of me, not me.

please please make these type of videos often -when you have time ofc♡- your videos are really healing for me. i feel connected what you've gone through in every videos??! i can relate so bad! idk how to describe it my eng is not good 😭 but your channel is like a therapy for me, im glad i found about your channel!!! thank you thank you 🩷

My experiences in high school and college were a lot like yours, but reversed. I had a friend group in high school that I didn't feel like I belonged in because they were all wrapped up in their own relationship drama, but in college I didn't regularly hang out with anyone. That feeling of not belonging really sticks with you - for most of my twenties I held on to this belief that everybody else only tolerated me out of obligation or politeness, and that if I did something "wrong" or stood out too much then they would realize that I didn't belong and hate me or reject me. I still struggle with being afraid to express myself or speak my mind; I got so used to being quiet and not speaking that it became my identity.

being held back by anxiety is the worst, sometimes i'd like to approach someone and maybe be friends but those thoughts pop up about what could go wrong, and it feels bad that the person in question could be going through loneliness and axniety too which could have been helped if i werent so anxious. (on a brighter note, i feel proud that i could recognize some of the places that you showed in the video)

i have never related to someone so much! oh my goodness i’m so glad i’m not the only person that feels like this

It feels a little better to know that i am not the only one who deals with loneliness or just feeling lonely. This video describes my situation perfectly in every second

watching this felt so comforting, finally knowing I wasn't alone in this type of problem 🥹

you don't know how relieving it is to have someone finally verbalize what i've been feeling throughout 4 years of high school its hard for me to even get close to people because i subconsciously sacrifice my own feelings and needs for the sake of fitting in, and it left me with no close friends that i can truly depend on, and ultimately an unfulfilling high school experience. now that im going into college, im so terrified of repeating this pattern of changing myself for others. im a very extroverted and energetic person that relies a lot on other people and other external things to make me happy, but i'm coming to a stage where i need to find peace with and within myself. thank you for helping me in this huge step of realization.

I love how you perfectly worded everything. You literally said everything that I wish I could scream out to the world. I feel so seen and I’m glad that I’m not alone in this lonely journey.

I'm so happy I found your channel. I'm a uni student far from home and I feel so lonely sometimes... The people around me (specifically my roomies) are not so caring... So I'm happy I found someone whom I understand where she's coming from ♥️🙂

personally i also find having individual friends so much better for myself overall. i have 3 friends from my class that i suppose i could consider a mini friend group, and even with just the few of us i find it much more complicated than my individual friends.. i often feel left out because they are part of a much larger friend group outside of school that has a LOT of drama, and while i definitely dont wanna be part of the drama, they often talk about their other friends around me and it makes me feel almost lonely around them. but it also makes me feel so grateful for my friends that i can just be alone and comfortable with, and not feel pressured as i would in a group

this is soooo relatable, it's so comforting, thank you for being vulnerable on the internet, you have no idea how much your videos helps me🥰🥰 i've always felt like an outcast especially when i turned 13, then i amplified my isolation during the covid years and my mental health got sm worse not only because of my own mistakes (locking myself up emotionally and physically, being an edgy angry kid at the world), but stressful external factors like trying to get into uni (i relate to what you said in your other vid about growing up ugly, having academia as your only goal and focus and not caring about anything else, being a 1st gen etc), family... it's been almost a year since i've been actively trying to get better physically and mentally after that period of life ended (highschool), and now im done with my 1st year of uni and i definitely see improvements, even though i have setbacks i dont give up and i keep trying. i dont care anymore if im an outcast, i accept myself fully and unapologetically. i dont have a friendgroup and im kinda a loner but it's fine, nobody cares so i just do what makes me happy and keeps my soul and inner-child at peace, i mind my business and do what works for ME not what others do ;) damn im rambling, im done now haha

You may not know how I love your videos and the things you share with us, I feel like I'm not alone here, I needed this, it's healing

I was literally having a terrible day today and then you just popped in my screen I’m so glad, I felt alone my entire life, doesn’t matter how many people I’m surrounded by that feeling never goes away. These vid brought a little relieve from my daily struggles, thank you so much ❤️

Everything you said is exactly what I’ve been feeling/experiencing all my life.

i'm so glad i found this video, it saved from having a depressive episode. knowing that i am not alone in feeling this way really comforted me.

you explained my life of 3 years in just 8 min ,this made me so relatable this is the first video i am watching of your channle thx

Your videos are so comforting because it really feels relatable, and also i love watching these lil « vlogs » while listening to your voice in the background. Tysm for this 🫶

My whole life I've struggled to make and keep friends, I've never really had a friend group. Last year people from my highschool aranged this meeting so we could get to know eachother better .We went to this park and I just sat down next to a tree, watching kids talk, but I had no idea how to do that, I was too scared. It is comforting to know that I'm not the only one who's felt this way

watching this makes me realise i’m not the only one going through this, sending you love xxx

I'm so glad to hear that others feel the same way as me! Always felt so alone so watching your videos and reading the comments makes me feel a little better about myself, thank you ♥️♥️♥️

When you're both shy and introvert it's really hard to be in a group of people and its more comfortable to be alone eventho it can be awkward sometimes. I really enjoyed being alone at home but when going outside sometimes I do wish I have 1 or 2 friend to hang out with cause I have anxiety in public & I don't want to stand out.

Your videos are so relatable, I'm actually autistic, and I relate so bad when you talk about trying to fit in and also trying to be fine by yourself and be independent but also how it gets lonely sometimes... I really agree with your advice in the end, just be yourself bc it's still better to not have friends than to force yourself to be something you aren't in order to have company

I have watched your video twice, bc sometimes I feel lonely in my own room, which I’m supposed to feel alone, but not lonely. I’m an ambivert I love talking to people, but I also like my own space. Ty for telling me ur story.

All your videos are such a blessing in this time in my life rn. I feel so seen when u talk?? Not a single word misses😭

The "friend group" thing is so relatable… I used to have an all girls friend group when I was in school and it was the best time of my life - but there was also the drama and that was part of the reason why it ended. Now I‘m in college and I don‘t have a friend group anymore. It does get lonely tbh and I get jealous of people who have that :( I feel like I‘ve gotten even more picky about the people I befriend. Also, I genuinely enjoy my own company. I feel like ever since I left school and started college, the "weird" side of me has been showing more and more. I just care less about what people think. In school I was so self conscious about literally everything all the time. But I also fit in better back then. Because I tried harder I guess. Idk. Just felt like dumping this here :,) Thanks for the video anyways!!

This is so me , i am literally going through what you've felt , i am studying in last year of high school in Belgium and i have no friends, because i was born in nepal and they were born here , so i dont fit in , your video is really helpful and i am shocked that we people in the comments and you have so many things in common. Now what i do is just be in comfy space and accept my loneliness, and nowadays its less painful than before

When I was in middle school, I used to do this, and I really wanted to blend in strongly with any group of friends. So, I did things I regret now, and it's a horrible feeling, especially when you realize that these actions were somewhat embarrassing and childish. I needed someone to tell me that it's okay to be alone without friends, and I couldn't also get into relationships because I'm Muslim (I love being Muslim, please don't misunderstand me). After those actions, I somehow managed to make long-lasting friends, but I also felt a bit uncomfortable as if I didn't fit in with them and wasn't like them (they were and still are nice to me, it wasn't entirely their problem). I also realized that I'm better off on my own, just like that. I decided not to force myself to join another group or try to grab someone's attention. It was great; I noticed that I was getting to know myself again and became more understanding of myself. Of course, I get a bit crazy sometimes, and if someone says something or talks to me nicely, there's still something inside me that says, "They seem like a good person, I want to get to know them and be friends," or "That was a pleasant conversation; maybe we should talk again sometime." But I realize that it's a false voice that will lead me to more problems in the future. I tell myself, "What if it ends up like every time I got a friend and ended up alone again, I won't be okay." Then, I stop myself from delving into the conversation, personal details, exchanging numbers, and such. I suffered for many years from some hurtful friendships, so with the knowledge that not everyone is the same, I try to strongly close my door because I know I am fragile and very sensitive. I love and attach to people quickly. I'll leave my story here :>

i just started watching your videos while sipping tea and "self-caring" and I was taken aback by how calming yet fun your entire persona is, it makes me feel so seen and it feels like i have someone with me right here. i really learn something from each one of the videos to keep going and blooming every =day by myself. i love your entire vibe and that of the videos too, keep it up!!

This video made me feel less alone. I'm somewhat of an introvert-extrovert too. But really felt like you described my life here.

so real, the video appear to me with KZfaq recommendations, I'm in school, and honestly, I am alone most of the time, I feel like, I should change, be more extroverted, talkative, to fit in, but at the same time, there's emptiness and I feel like I don't "match" with those people or be a part of it, especially at school, I'm trying to focus more on studying and being with myself, but it's not hard to think about those things sometimes...

Wow, this video has opened my eyes. I've been struggling a lot in my teenage years and early adulthood with this same situation. I thought I just had low self esteem in the past but even when I felt good about myself I wouldn't ever want to put myself out there. Like I wouldn't really comment on things online or in person cause I felt so different or like my opinion didn't matter, like I was some alien. I used to be alone a lot too because of it. I didn't really pin point what it was until I watched this.

I grew up living with my grandparents and mom and her siblings. As a 29 year old now, I relate most to people my parents age or older. I was an only child but I blended in almost like a sibling to my mom and her siblings? Anyway now I see it as such a blessing. I adore my grandparents, and I am similar to them and I don’t fit in.

I started entertaining that I’m neurodivergent, high functioning autistic. Would explain a lot for me, but yea this video speaks nothing but facts. I also know though I’m “different”, I also hold aspects\views that I wish humanity held. There’s something unique about me,that makes not fitting in worth it at times. It’s lonely at times, but I learned to love my a attributes and see my strengths and advantages.

as a introvert guy 25 having a same issues too , i often feel lonely and isolated when dont have many friends and no body call u or text u or ask to go out or play games together either male or female friends. Even right now in university still the same even i already 25 but trying my best to be happy and dont feel lonely even if it hurts a lot,

hi Via, I just wanted to say I even though we are no doubt very different I really related with much of what you spoke about. In particular what you said about being alone and deciding that going on social media shouldnt be a source of fear because there is nothing to lose really resonated with me. I was inspired to do something small, just a post on a small facebook group for small business, but it got a ton of responses and I was encouraged to continue, start making reels and vlogs and even write a book. It was a really needed boost and I am starting to work on developing it. Thanks for the inspiration!

i can’t express how much your videos have helped me 😢you’re a great person Via! Thank u :) ❤

I so relate to this video. Thank you for being so honest and raw. I had a bad day today and just typed in "I'm sad and lonely" and your video popped up. Thank you for making me feel less isolated. I do have friends - but the depressing thing is - I'm the one who puts in all the effort. I hardly ever get approached to do something or go out to lunch, etc. I'm always having to approach people. It's doubly depressing when I approach friends for some activity and they're like, "I'm so busy this week and next week, etc..." and I'm sitting here with no social activities on my calendar.

really appreciate you being so candid. i sometimes find it really hard to put into words how i feel, and i end up thinking whether they’re even valid. what you’ve shared in this video in a way validated how i feel at times. also i was one of the kids that didn’t get to watch the cool shows back in primary school, because my grandma had to get her fill of foreign soap operas. also, the amount of “quirky” editing is perfect 🤪

“People talk of “social outcasts.” The words apparently denote the miserable losers of the world, the vicious ones, but I feel as though I have been a “social outcast” from the moment I was born” from osamu dazai’s ‘no longer human’ stood out to me so much and the knowledge that i am not alone in this is comforting bc yes it might not be necessary to belong but it also gets lonely which everyone ignores :/ thank you for this entry!

Sis Thank Youu so much for posting. There are many people who really need to hear this. The moment i hear you, i felt like you are literally talking about me. You expressed yourself so clearly that i can resonate with each and every word you said. I seriously cried watching your video. My entire life i have felt exactly what you are felt. thank you for making this video.

Feeling lonely and craving wanting to be in a friend group, but then when you find a group, you’ve been so socially isolated that it’s hard for you to remember how to socialize again is something I deal with a lot.

Feeling like you never fit in just hurts. All my life I've been called an "oreo", so I felt like no matter who I speak with, I'm never gonna relate to them because I'm a black girl who "acts white". Since college, I've been trying so hard to belong when deep down I know people didn't care nor wanted me there. I went to thearpy over this and cried numerous times when my thoughts get overwhelming. I'm so ashamed to say that I genuinely think people would like me better if I were white, and for some dark reason I think it's true. I don't know if I'll ever overcome this feeling, but it's nice to know that I'm not alone in this funk.

I've never had a real friend in all my 27 years of living on this planet. It's always been me, myself, and I 🥲 I've grown to not give a fuck anymore cause I'm the only person that's gonna make myself happy by the actions that I do for myself and as long as I have my momma and God I'm happy. Plus I know I'm good ass person so I'm very proud of myself there's just days that are harder than others but you get used to being alone in a good way. Also surround yourself with good vibes when you feel alone, don't give in to the negative of loneliness ✨️

A video has never described my life so well. I have a habit of not being able to maintain friendships just bcuz idrk how to show affection or just not enough energy to match them. And this has led me to being alone pretty much a lot of the time. Your video really points out all the things I couldn’t admit to myself a few months ago. But recently, from my experience, I’ve really came close to God by reading the Bible and praying and I realized I don’t feel so lonely anymore. It made me realize how I can’t force to belong somewhere just as you said in the video. Instead, I’m just going with the flow that God is taking me to and trying to better myself by being productive and not dwelling on how lonely i may seem. I also want everybody to know that there IS a God watching all of us and will be with us through the ends of the earth.