Stop telling men everything you are looking for in a man. Reason, he will put on a show and act like he is at your standards when in reality he is manipulating you into thinking he is the man you're looking for. Once he has you hooked, he will drop you like a hot cake.

They lie because they want to lie. Lying takes energy. And men put more energy into their lies than they do their lives.

I've said it over and over..Alot of women talk to much..Tell to much..If he dont ask you..Dont volunteer the information...Sit back and let him lead..You follow..

A married man told me he was single. I found out he was married later on my own. Why did he lie to? He wanted me to have no issue sleeping with him. I could care less about his pain when I have pain of my own: Men trying to use me for sex. I am no man's therapist. That is a job I don't want.

I'm not taking a lie from another man!! If your broken go get fixed!!!🙏🏾✊🏾

“When a man lies, he is lying from his insecurities” 🙏🏽🙌🏽

Men do tell alot of lies to get the woman they want especially if the woman seems to be out of his league. Getting to know someone and being in a relationship is a risk because you just never know how truthful someone is being.

All lies cost you... if he lies about the little things, he’ll lie about the big things

Sometimes men just lie for no reason. This is good stuff. Be Blessed

😞 So much selfishness... so many double lives... too many lies... all their anxiety and treating us like a prescription without any regard for the damage they're causing. Thank you for addressing this very painful, deceptive, hidden agenda and far too common and timely topic, Tony. Be blessed.

"Neospeern"... lol

Always observe and listen men tell on themselves...pray God will direct you

"They say money don't buy happiness but everyone wants to find out for themselves. " Wow. Such a powerful statement! And as a Licensed Clinical Social Worker, you are so right Tony. I've told clients this as well. When someone lies, it's not a reflection of you but instead of themselves.

If he married and separated he definitely lying!!!!!

My father once told me that you can tell when a man is lying because his lips are moving 🤣.🤷🏾‍♀️ That was it. Thanks, Bro. Tony for the context & explanation! #blessedtribe

The last man I dated lied to me and said he dated one of his female friends. He then told me he never said it and made me feel like a fool for “believing” him.

We as women are so blessed, that you're breaking the man code for us, Thank you!!

I’m not even 5 minutes into it and you have said a mouth full. This was my son father; losing his soul to gain an empire and too self absorbed to be a father. I’m going to finish this video, Be Blessed Mr Gaskins, and safe travels

At this point in my life it's all about me. I have to take care of me so 3 Bs in full affect! Ladies at this point focus on yourself and if a man comes along he's a bonus feature 🤷🏾‍♀️ Be blessed! 💫

This video is so valid and true. I love to listen anyway. I use to fire back when i was younger but now i live in peace and healing. My friends always say we call to vent to Tiffany because she listens and have great feedback. Even in dating, males have said dang i talk too much with you and i say nooo tell me more please. Whole time I’m doing a full evaluation 🧐🧐 lol

It’s scary to deal with men who don’t understand...you don’t have to lie to kick it. When a man’s self esteem is grounded in the self...it does not matter who bombards him with ideas of who he should be! Lies keep him from being seen as a positive, necessary, and welcomed addition to the lives of others. Who wants to deal with this???

A lie don't care who tell it.

The way you explained their reasoning in the first 5 mins is SO TRUE and that can apply to anyone with things stacked against them.

I let the men do most of the talking and I listen and HEAR exactly what they are saying, which has saved me from going into some very bad relationships and also getting out of a few after a short while. I will continue to let the man talk and I listen, this will be a great way to find out his true intentions and also to learn about him. I also watch to see if his actions match his words.

Again this is why I stay single. Period.........

For women it's having a child making you a women. They feel like you don't know what life is if you have no kids. I prefer to bring one into the world with my husband. We have enough kids with dysfunction .

Thank you, Tony. I’m heading to the Himalayas to become a monk. This is soooo messed up. I don’t have the time for the games and someone to deal with their issues. In their 20s, is acceptable. What about a man 35, 40 or 50? I used to wonder why a lot of older women used to say they want to be by themselves. Now, I see. I think I’m getting to that point...

The question of the century 😩

Lord have mercy. I'm sharing this with all my girls

These are lies/betrayal to himself that manifest in our relationships.

You are speaking the truth. I'm currently dealing with a man that has deal with a lot in his life, and its soooo hard to understand him ALOT since I been with him. He is a hard worker, but after the work is over, he tend to forget the importance that surrounds or in his life. He drinks ALOT, not compassionate at all its like I have to be the one getting affectionate & its getting old. He said he been hurt in his past with woman, but I'm not them & I let him know that several times. I'm getting to the point where I'm tired of trying. I'm a good women with a good heart.. I deserve BETTER..

“If a man is not married and faithful, he is a liar.” My husband literally told me this a couple of weeks ago.

Yes lawd!!! Because inquiring minds want to know why...smh. Too much lying going on!

I need to implement interviewing the men. I’m the worst for talking over someone 😞

" This sun on me now" "Im out here like a snicker bah" .. "I be done lost my eye sight" looool!!

my Ex lied about almost everything... - He lied about his age, - He lied about him temporarily living with his parents because his dad was sick while He actually never moved out of his parents’ house at 35+, - He lied about being a man of Integrity while he cheated on almost all of his exes (Me included, and even got that woman he cheated on Me with pregnant), - He lied to the woman he was cheating on me with that he can’t break up with Me because I’m his boss’ daughter and he will loose his job if ever try to leave me, - He lied about wanting to start a business so that he can secure a good future for us and our future kids, while the whole time He was trying to get me to invest my parents’ money, but got frustrated with Me because I was too smart and difficult to convince (according to his pastor and his ex)...

As a wife of 13+ years, it is definitely a turn on when a man can fix things or build things around the house as opposed to having to call someone else and pay them to fix it. But you are right that no one is perfect and we all do the best that we can.

I agree that women shouldn’t expect for people to be honest and well intentioned by default, it’s not practical - in business it’s you, your desires and instinct. That was my mistake. I spent so many years working on and refining myself - therapy, books, spiritually, audio books 8-10 hours a day (just like you) while I was building my business out of my kitchen. At some point my default (trauma based) view of life changed, I became more heart centered and deeply authentic. Somewhere along the way I just started to assume that everybody was that way. You get to a space where you are so healed, you “Become Love” (I Love that BTW) loving of everyone and everything that you want nothing more than to contribute to Humanity in a positive way. I went into corporate Tech with this line of thinking and logic - it made me a great leader and I advanced quickly right to the top without trying. We ended up build the fastest growing Unicorn in Silicon Valley history ....in 18 months. I found out the hard way that my view of life and people....I had to keep myself isolated, most people, especially pathological traumatized men are absolutely NOT about connection or growth. They are anti social and anti Life. Vet all men with callous ruthlessness - that’s my advice.

Hershey's kiss...milk dude..and today Snicker's bar! 🤣🤣🤣🤣😂😂 Tony, you crazy!! Lol

Oh, I know this is going to be good!

So real Tony 💯..."Do less talking and more listening when dating a man"...it's about us knowing what we need to know because this man may be insecure, hurting, lost & broken which leads to a whole bunch of lies. 🙌🏽

The last part was the most important of this video be a good listener. Thank you!

The thinking i was with him lie costed me a lost baby a marriage and years of my life why i don’t understand... he had multiple women thinking he was with him. It made me into a terribly angry and mean person.

Women you don't have to compromise when you know your worth.!! Learn, unlearn an relearn.the game is always changing.😎🤔😐😐

The pronunciation of “Neo Spurin” Just Took Me Out!!! 🤣🤣🤣 #Neosporin

Anytime that I am out with a man, I just ask questions. I volunteer little or no information about myself or what I want in a man. I realized long ago that they are liars. I just let them talk, talk and talk. Plus they love talking about themselves. I don't know why or how we ladies put up with them. It is all so draining.

I’m out here like a snicker bar 😂😂😂 time to go Tony

Be blessed. It takes a healed woman to bring the best out of a man. As women we complain about no good men but fail to look at ourselves and realize that we just may be a no good woman. We need to value ourselves by being patient and not desperate for love. Ask the right questions and make sure his actions line up with what he says. #EyesOpenLegsClosed in my TG voice. I’ve learned and am still learning so much from you Tony! Thank you for walking in your purpose!

My bestest friend from JHS til this day, her boyfriend at the time called me inviting me to dinner of course I wondered what happened he said they were not together anymore, well I called her asked her how did her man get my number I told her what he said. Well she said keep the date and we both showed up at his front door, well the lying back stabbing sob was choked for words.

Hey, Hey Tony! My day is looking up just bc you took the time to the time to teach us again! 2 months ago I was going astray in regards to my dating habits but because of your teachings I have repented and I am abstaining and waiting on the Lord to be my fulfillment. Thank you for your ministry to us.

Be blessed! I pray for all these men that are under trauma and past hurt... that they seek the way to heal forgive and forgive themselves so they can move on to better and more fulfilling relationships in general! God bless us ladies too so that we know how to listen with compassion and kindness... that can be very healing for all involved!

Tony is 1000% correct especially the point about listening. I have done that in every relationship and men tell me that they love how attentive, open minded and a good listener I am. They feel safe to express themselves without judgement but the downside is...when I'm ready to walk away they have a hard time letting me go because they've never had that type of interaction with other women so they hold on for dear life making promises to change 🤦🏽‍♀️

I said in my alarm, “All men are liars.” Psalms 116:11 AMP Be blessed and healed in the name of Jesus.

You have my full attention. I mean they will lie about anything.

“Oooooooooo” in my Tony voice “ooooooooooo” ( inserts woman’s complaints) oooooooooo Lol

This is "GOOD WORD".....food for life. I thoroughly enjoyed. 👍🏽👍🏽

Lmao your woman impersonation is so funny “ooohhhh” 😂😂 i love your videos !!

PREACH IT 👌🙌👏👍👋💒🙏🤗 AMEN HALLELUJAH 👌🤗🙏💒👍👍👏🙌 PRAISE HIM 💒🙏🤗

When he reenact a woman i be laughing so hard that really how it is .

Understandably, most of us are adult children with childhood traumas. Nevertheless, it is not a Man’s fault that he is broken, but it’s his fault if he chooses to stay broken, and set out to break other people. Broken people, men and women, need to fix themselves before they try to date.

Safe travels, thank you Tony!

Be Blessed Mr. Gaskins. Keep dropping that knowledge. Much appreciated. 😎

This man done brought the house down with this message. 🙌🏾

“Out here like a snicker bar” last video it was a milk dud 🤣😂🤣. Lovin the videos, the truth and the transparency is needed. Can’t wait for the event in Atlanta next week. Keep doing what you doing!

People lie and manipulated at the level of their personal internal pain..... People lie out of fear....I just feel that many individuals shouldn't date until they figure out how to heal. as

A lie is a lie is a lie. They all cost you.

He is less than a man until he gets Becky. I'm not responsible for this, I'm responsible for self. If he is broken send him to therapy. Not my problem.

Be blessed😊 This was surely a powerful and insightful word today☀️👍🔥

Point blank periodddd❗️

Thank you for your time. You are truly appreciated and a Blessing. Thank you🙏🏾 Be Blessed 💜🤴🏾

Good afternoon Blessed Tribe❤, Ears are open Bigbro Tony 🗣🧠👂👩‍💻✍

Do KNOW that this Video here has Blessed me!! Another confirmation!! Sometimes we can run across ppl that are use to operating in certain ways due to their inner pain. But it don't mean its required for us to stick around. What they have to offer, may not fulfill our cup. Then we wonder why our relationship/ marriage is so miserable. ONLY GOD can help change man. The best we can do is Pray for others. Thanks Tony for your Advice! Sound Advice

This explains alot and puts the pieces of the puzzle together for me!

“point blank, periodt” Bye 😭😭😭😭

Thank you for your message and your ministry...you are increasing my awareness. Stay blessed Tony!

My God the lies are sooooooo ridiculous, help your male children lord.

I get that. But at some point men need to come themselves, and realize what it takes for them to be a man. They need to stop letting society tell them who they are supposed to be, and seek who they are supposed to be in God. I understand some people have a rough upbringing, and all of that. But it comes a time when we have to stop making excuses.

Why do married men lie and still be lying about every thing

PERFECTION!!! Undestood Sir!!! WOW, Love That Ending BAM💥!!! 😇😇😇

This was needed so much!!! It helps so much to hear the underlying truths behind a man's behaviors and mindsets. It is helping me understand what & who I'm Really dealing with. The part that made a Large Impact was LISTENING Instead of talking so much. That advice is Priceless! Thank you Tony! Please don't stop letting GOD Use you in this way. It is a True Blessing❤

They say you lie when your scared or insecure, that figures💯

Be blessed!!! Tony killing it again. Wisdom!!!

I couldn't click fast enough💋

Awesome advise -> well received God Bless🤗

What wisdom you have. Thank you again. BE BLESSED

Ladies...let’s all get some tissues and shed some tears for all of these hurt grown boys that hurt women on purpose! 😢🤪🤣

Dang, what about the woman that loves to cook, makes the goodT money AND loves to workout 6 days a week, +no kids, 800+ credit score....sheesh. 🤦🏾‍♂️🤦🏾‍♂️ Keep teaching me TonyG. I appreciate you.

A-maz-ing! I really needed to hear this. In the past and present...I have been dealing with men lying to me. I could not understand why. You have put my puzzle pieces together. I see the picture now. I know what I need to do...Be a better listener and try to understand-instead of dismissing him because of his lying record. Thank You!

Thank you Mr. Tony Gaskins. I needed this...

Beautiful! Thank you Tony. Be blessed.

Hello Mr Gaskins. Thank you for the all the awesome advice that you're giving I have been a cross watcher on your videos when you talk about men I love it it's making me value myself more. And also given me more to think about who to invest my time and who not to..

This video changed my whole understanding!! Keep coming with that good knowledge... you hear me 💯😊

Thank you, this explained so much.

👍👍 THANK YOU, Tony. God's Blessing back. Happy Easter.

Bring the truth Bro! “The truth will set us free”🙏💕

Eye opener indeed. Blessings.

Be Blessed..Thanks for the information....

2:27 NeospErin 😂😂😂 i love my bro, he's so country!

Thank you so much for your guidance Toby. God bless you and your family always!!

"Swagu on Ragu" lol