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"He has deeper issues that he struggles with honesty, being selfish, and lacks maturity. It's truly not about you. Trust your intuition when it's time for you to go."

i would rather crush a woman with truth and have her leave than lie to her. my integrity is more important that a sexual or romantic relationship with a woman.

I believe you hit the nail on the head exactly. Our intuition tells us every time BUT we question it because we want so bad for it to be wrong. I’m guilty of this myself.

When someone is too good to be true, he or she is mostly not the truth...

Stop lying to self✔ Stop being self deceptive ✔ When anyone, man or woman, shows you who they are, believe him/her!

My husband lied to me before I got married about who he is. Now I'm dealing with all the consequences because our values are so different when I thought we were on the same page.

Good advice. Not following my intuition in the past has caused me unnecessary heartache.

I cannot stand when someone constantly lies just to make themselves look good or to make you feel bad,or to hide things from you that'll hurt you. It's very low. I rather be with someone who is honest with me then telling me lies all the time.

I like said this to my ex..." THE LIE IS ABOUT HOW YOU FEEL ABOUT YOU, NOT ME. GROW UP!!! This is so true, FACTS.

Liars have to remember so many things eventually they get tangled in their own 🕸 webs.

If a man lie in the beginning he will continue until you address it and let him know thats not accepted by you and move on to someo e more honest and really wants you without lying to get you! Good advice.

Fear is the common denominator of all of these lies. My intuition usually read right into it. The truth is just so much more attractive. "He's Lying Sis" is a great read! Thanks for sharing 💜

Ladies- simply pay attention to the character of a man. Then decide- if he qualifies to be in your life. Lies & deceit are the same thing, no matter the ‘reason’ behind it. Don’t need to read a book to figure it out...

I think this is definitely true. They know they cannot be honest and get what they want. It pretty much sums everything up!

Right. I never understood why lie when we first meet? Lay it all out on the table, just so I can CHOOSE if i'm cool with it or not. Thank God for discernment, certain places on my body can tell me if one (men, women, or kids) is lying. Thanks for another on time video.

I been single for 5 years im good on relationships men lie to much..

Sometimes they lie because their use for the woman is short-term and they don't want the truth to hinder what they are trying to acquire. By the time truth is revealed, it wont matter to him because he had planned to already have moved on. Selfish which is why women have to proceed with slow caution when choosing to interact with any man.

All these liars are so ungodly. And to actually have a character like that. There is no excuse for that. And their reasons are also dishonorful. So liars just please stay far away from any of us forever!

I just got lied to today about a simple situation that he could have easily told the truth about. He,s a fool to think I believe that ish. Blocked!!

Thank you @Stephan speaks. We are said to be crazy when it comes to our intuition.

Yes! Yes! Yes! Intuition! And as a believer, you have the Holy Spirit.

I give up. No more dating for me for a very, very long time. I refuse to take the blame for someone else's bad behavior. I take responsibility for my part for ignoring red flags, intuition, whatever we want to call it - but that doesn't take away their responsibility for their part. I wish men were raised better but sadly, they were not. Atleast in my GenX generation.

It’s definitely frustrating. I had a guy I was starting to date and I discovered he was lying about his name. 🙄. Ridiculous

This came at the perfect time. It also applies to fathers who lie to their children instead of just being honest in the first place. Something me and my children have struggled with and I feel like I have had to explain why their father continues to lie to them.

Great explanation Stephan! Some people want to be technical and say they don’t lie because instead of telling an outright lie, they lie by omission. Like that’s better. Then they think they can’t be labeled a liar. But telling half truths is just as bad! It’s misleading.

I can only give the benefit of the doubt to someone I have history with, in other words, it must be "earned".

I'm hurting so bad by a lie that my boyfriend told me" and even though it is not a major lie a lie is still a lie. We both agreed that we would not have friends while we were dating. I found out he has been talking to a woman from his job he lied to me and told me that she was an older lady in her 60s. he told me that lie with a straight face. I'm thinking to myself well she's an old lady so ill let him have an older friend. I recently found out because I looked through his phone that this woman is not old he was talking to her but the things that he was saying I did not agree with he tried to justify it and say he was trying to help her because she's been having problems with attracting the wrong men but that is not his place to save a broken woman he is not a therapist. So to make a long story short I still feel betrayed he still lied to me. I told him to cut off all Communications with this lady he told me he would and he apologized but something still isn't right the feeling that I have towards him is I don't want to let this go he betrayed my trust. Plus his perspective on friendships is so double standard he doesn't want me to have guy friends but he's trying to make friends with a female that is not right.

Is true. When men tell me upfront they want sex. It's a total turn off lol & I dont even want another date. Ladies its still up to you to not give it up to him

You are absolutely right on all accounts. My intuition told me this man was lying to me from left and right and I said to him this is what I feel and I ask that he not involve me in any drama cuz right now I live a drama free life. Needless to say he never told me truth but ghosted me AFTER he got what he wanted. I'm angry with myself because I knew he was lying and I still pushed forward. Trust I will not be fooled again.

Absolutely true💖 trust your intuition and protect your heart💖

Ladies at the end of the day if you keep your legs closed from the beginning and wait til marriage. That will weed out all the bullshit dudes 🤷🏽‍♀️

For every reason he gave, a name came to my head! I have always sought answers to this question "why do most men I meet lie to me?" Thanks for this my dear, am glad the answers came from a man, now I understand.

Ooo number 3! Not internalising it and allowing it to devalue my own self worth... Thank you, I really needed to hear that!

It's Manipulation period !

What I needed to hear today. Some understanding 😩 Lacking maturity and feeling like he won’t get what he wants if he is honest. “Simply time for you to go” 🙈🔥🔥🔥 Your books are amazing ♥️ Your content is appreciated

What really gets to me is not that they lie - but that they expect you not to.

Thank you Stephan for this. I love your ability to make information concise and direct. Alot of times I have given empathy and made excuses for my partners. When in reality emotional mature was an issue and also me not being clear about my boundaries and what I needed from my partners in the past. More clarity to remain single and just walk in my purpose. Let God bring my Boaz 🤣

If you can’t prove he is lying then it’s not you putting up with it. Most liars makes an effort to cover their tracks! Even to the point of discounting people they think may have told you something that your intuition has told you! Some men don’t realize that Spirit speaks! 💋

Such great advice Stephan. You are such a blessing to many. Thank you for all your doing. I can’t wait to read your books. I also can’t get enough of your videos.

Shared it to my Bestie, Hope she pays attention to your advice because she is going through it and I care about her 🖤🖤🖤 YES SIS

So true!💯 His unwillingness to deal with the consequences.

Preach! Speak on it! Honesty! I have been there. I felt in my spirit and Holy Spirit showed it was a lie. Thank God for discernment! Thank God for wisdom! Thank you, Stephan! I got the book! Love the title! It is great! Thank you for honesty, clarity, and transparency! You did not sugar-coat the truth. It gave us advice so we are aware when the man is lying and understanding the past lies. You helped us to see our own bad decisions as my sister said. You help us to see ourselves, knowing how to move forward. Thank you!

I can appreciate this insight! It's sooo hard though because you try to give people the benefit of the doubt and believe people but not at the expense of your peace of mind. Ijs

It was real smooth how you slid your book in lol but I have all your books and I love them all very informative 🥰🥰

Amen!! I needed to hear this speak on it

1) Fear of rejection 2) Fear of being misunderstood 3) Fear of condemnation 4) Fear being shamed or silenced 5) Emotional Conflicts 6) Trauma-related issues

No man owe me no lie. Honestly, no one does.

I WAS CALLING HIM AND IT SAID LINE BUSY ! And I asked HIM WERE U ON THE OTHER LINE HE SAID NO !!! OVER AND OVER ON DIFFERENT OCCASIONS WHERE HES NOT ANSWERING MY CALLS THEN HE SAID yes IT WAS A HOMEBOY BUT I DELETED THE CALLS AND MSGS BECAUSE I KNOW U WOULDNT APPROVE OF THAT GUY FRIEND ??? THATS SUSPECT ITS BEEN A YEAR ! AND I ENDED IT TODAY ! & HE HAS LIED TO ME ABOUT OTHER THINGS ALSO HE JUST KEEEEEP LYING

Basically, Stephan Speaks is very much on point w/this video, particularly when it comes to reason #1. Reason #1 Is PRECISELY the reason why. In other words? The male mind thinks "if I be 100% transparent where my INTENTIONS are concerned, I won't get what I'm after. Therefore, I'm not going to be forthcoming." LADIES, please know this ~~NO ONE...NO MAN ...has the right to waste your time. ONLY person permitted to waste your time is YOU! NO MAN HAS PERMISSION TO MAKE CHOICES ON YOUR BEHALF!! ANY MALE (OR FEMALE) WHO IS NOT BE FORTHCOMING W/THEIR ACTUAL INTENTIONS ARE IN ESSENCE MAKING CHOICES FOR YOU! NO ONE HAS THE RIGHT TO DO THAT! GAME PROOF YOURSELF! B.S. REPELLANT YOURSELF!!

Well said. Thank you, brother. All praises to the Most High🙏🏾📖👑

If a man lies he doesn’t love. Truth is love. And if you live in fear you’re not living in love. Love yourself enough to own and speak your truth. The person that you can be 100% honest with is the person that you love. That’s intimacy.

🙌 so right! People lie because they can! Again, Thank you! Ramona

Thank you Stephan! Very Good advice👋👋

Real talk Stephan. Some men just don't know to keep it real now days. They are to busy worrying about their ego. Yes they are lacking maturity. That is why i am single to this day.

If someone shows their true colors, you don't have to reward their "honesty" just for being upfront. You still have the option of running for your life! No one changes no one.

Great Explanation!

At what age does this stop because my ex has been a liar and immature since I’ve known him. Better question when do they grow up lol

Love your videos!

Thanks for the video. The 3rd reason reasonated with me

Sometimes it’s chronic they are so used to it! Reprobate ..run when they run the lies ladies /gents..

Many times I have addressed the issues ( men who have tried to get in relationships with me) then I get accused of being to needy or stop speaking to me for a while and then try to call me months later. Thank U for confirmation, I am saving myself from heartbreaks☺️

Very nice, thank you for you great content!!!

Address with a calm loving approach😏

I don't care about men or women lying because God will reveal the truth.

Subscribed! Thank you.

Thank you! ❤

Cause a woman wants what she wants..you either do what she wants or shes out.. no exceptions

I just had a "Situation" today as why I looked up this topic. In my Situation I'm still like why lie? I think it was definitely #1 and #3 of what he said. 🤦🏽‍♀️🤦🏽‍♀️🤦🏽‍♀️

This is a healing video 🌟❤🍀

I DONT KNOW WHAT TO BELIEVE I ORDERED THIS BOOK AND THEY SENT ME SOMETHING ELSE. VERY UPSET

He lied to me that he never hooked up with anyone nor met anyone after he ended his relationship . He said after he met me, he ever talked to any woman nor got attracted to any of them. After I found out about it , he said “ we were not in a relationship at that time” “ you must be delusional to think that you are the only woman im attracted to”. Imagine hearing that from your own partner. I don’t judge him for hooking up with women before me, the lying part is the problem. He lied to me and made me believe a lot of things

Very good! Thanks

Every time I see you I get reminded of the artist impression of King Nebuchadnezzar😅

I just got out of a relationship with a guy that lied about the number of children he really created. Thank God the relationship only lasted a week.

Expecting my Copy from amazon today!

Very true... thanks.

I really appreciate it your great advice @StephanSpeaks 🙏♥️

YOU CANT HANDLE THE TRUTH!

I love ur bead thank u for your advice 🌸🌸🌸🙏

I like your book title. I just started writing a book to my younger self and it's not as ... NICE ... ha ha ha ... and I agree with the reasons for why PEOPLE lie ... However, I have a cousin who can't shake women off and he tells them exactly what he wants. They either don't believe him, think they can change him, or they really want to see if he's telling them the truth, then cry & fuss about the outcome when he was open and honest & up front about it. I honestly don't get how confused women are today. Me & my female friends would NOT have even given guys like him the time of day ... which is why some guys lie ... full circle huh?

I tell my man I'm not looking for lies. God will soon give me a full report and that includes if he is really honest too. And I know God is showing him to be very atentive with his intentions. The other day he called me by accident and I listened (for 15min ppl) to the conversation he was having with his friend after a married lady tried to hit on his also married friend😐 He had no idea i was listening. They got in the car and drove away talking about how that married woman tried to hit on them but they wanted to remain faithful to us (the teasing eachother guy way of talking) And then he looked at his phone and realized i was there for 15min listening to that conversation. My husband is black... but i think at that moment he went white. He said a very nervous "hello!?!?" To see if i was there and I said... Who was that woman you and Ronald were talking too??? Tell me the truth because if been listening for 15min. Lol inside i was laughing. Trust God. If you believe for God to look after your relationship he will. So now my husband is on his toes about what he does when no one is watching. Because truth is... we are all being watched. So you don't need to worry about it. The truth will always come out.

My husband has lied to me about not having children. I found out by accident from his estranged sister that he has 3 kids from previous relationships. When I confronted him about it, he tried to lie about it again. I am done, I want to divorce and leave. He has lied to me for the past 5 years and I now caught him. I am done.

My needs: honestly, trust, loyalty. Love: NO

This is exactly why I lie to men. Most men are not trying to be honest so why should I? I try to give you the truth but you don't want to it. So let's play this game, but best believe I'm going to play it better than you. Not only that, I'm going to get what I want out of you before you ever get anything out of me, if at all.

This is an excellent video! Straight forward, to the point. Men are so, so, selfish. Women must start a new dating relationship with a bias towards the conclusion that he's lying.

Thank You.

I never lie. I enjoy the reactions I get from telling the cold, hard, uncanny truth. Lying is boring

HE'S NOT LIEING TO ME HES LIEING TO HISELF.😐

REally!! To lie to a person is no good way to start a friendship... You must be friends first before engaging in a relationship, to see if you even really like that person..No need to start off with lies...Be real to yourself First...Peace

I just bought all three of your books on amazon. Can’t wait to read them 👌🏾🤗

Very helpful coming from a Man to understand why a Man lies...

So many woman are taught to not not ask so much questions when it comes to a man . I never believe that. Suppressing our intuition because taught that way for slave mentality reasons. Just glad we are coming in to the knowledge of the truth

Thank you

Stay by yourself until God sends you your spouse. Your spirit will know.

No Lies to protect feelings

I believed him and I realized that made him confortable to lie even more.. It's Sad when someone IS Just joking aroud with people. Hope Someday he pays for his stupidity. I feel stupid now.

Thank youuuuuu!!!!!!!!!!

Everybody lies and the lie could be for certain reasons we shouldn't lie but we just do as humans. I raised 3 young black men as a widow and most of their friends as well. I listened to them from a young age until now in their late 20s early 30s. My sons are virgins waiting for God to send them their wives because they know if they seek First the Kingdom of God then He will do what He promises. God does not lie thank and Praise Jesus for that truth. If we do not have God's Holy Spirit inside we cannot do what is right. The sad thing is we do not walk in His Spirit often we mostly walk (as looking at the world today) many walks in the flesh. No one seeks God so we will lie at any minute. If we are honest with ourselves we do not have to lie we just lie to lie most of the time. Some of the lies they told these women I understood why they were told. Women tend to be desperate which I do get at a certain age but desperation is not necessary. These women force these young men to want to be in a relationship when evidently these young men do not want these women. They know what they want and these men are waiting for their specific time. Women make men nervous by their desperation and this scares the man off. Since raising my sons this has given me a different way I see men. Many women are missing out on some great men due to their lies and unnecessary acts of desperation. I have studied people and relationships for over 40 years and nothing has changed same games get people left alone. I watch women interact with my sons and their friends and these women say and do things that are not necessary just to lie to these men to be noticed. People will lie this is our nature we cannot help but lie to avoid confrontation. No one wants to argue so they lie. No one wants to be judged so they lie. No one wants to be without money so they lie. No one wants to be alone so they lie. I know you are trying to help these people with your videos and books. I do seminars with the same people having the same problems waisting time and money not changing anything. If they do not practice the advice given they will not succeed and will keep being rejected and in misery. If you want to heal you must do the work to get healed nothing is easy but it's worth it after the work is done. As the bible says let the ignorant be ignorant. I used to be frustrated when they did not listen come to find out most people love their misery and do not want to change they just want to stay miserable. Psalm 116 11 I said in my haste, “All men are liars.” Proverbs 19 9 A false witness will not go unpunished, And he who speaks lies shall perish. Titus 112 One of them, a prophet of their own, said, “Cretans are always liars, evil beasts, lazy gluttons.” 1 John 4 20 If someone says, “I love God,” and hates his brother, he is a liar; for he who does not love his brother whom he has seen, how can he love God whom he has not seen? 1 John 1 10 If we say that we have not sinned, we make Him a liar, and His word is not in us. Proverbs 19 22 What is desired in a man is kindness, And a poor man is better than a liar. Proverbs 19 5 A false witness will not go unpunished, And he who speaks lies will not escape. Proverbs 17 4 An evildoer gives heed to false lips; A liar listens eagerly to a spiteful tongue.

What about a 26 year relationship (23 yrs married and 2 kids later...) and the lies involve such middle school, not even "highschool" level bs? Your last line says it all..."It's time for you (me) to go"!