Check out the full article on this topic here: www.scienceofpeople.com/underestimated/

A good quest for confidence is "meet 100 people in 1 month" that could be as easy as asking for directions or trying to have a full on conversation with somebody new (has to be new people), a good way to make this even more effective is talking to people you find attractive, by the end of the month you will see that speaking to others is so much easier than before

I love to be underestimated, it allows me to move in silence and make big moves until it's too late for them to want to stop me. :)

Takeaways: reflect on if you underestimate yourself, operate from a position of power not need, put yourself in a project(increases confidence), listen to dream killers to improve but when need to be motivated listen to dream builders, make a list of technical skills and people skills, make list of 10 people to move on from

I have found your videos by chance, because I'm trying to improve my English skills. However, that's a such a great content, I'm in love with your thoughts, thank you so much for them!!!

I pledge to develop the following technical skills : 1. Excel 2. Ms office People skills . 1. Learn another language

You are a beautiful and powerful influence in my life! I feel lucky to have found you Venessa❤️❤️❤️

The giving story reminds me of a talk you've done with Lisa on the Women of Impact Show because what you said about focussing on other people instead of trying to sound smart, be savvy or something like that but when you engage with the person or group of people you take the focus off yourself and you start looking for and reading into their cues and by listening to them, making them feel heard, valued that they have something interesting and worthwhile to contribute it makes sense you'd leave with offers rather than tying to drum your business across to them. It all starts with connection.

thank you. my quest to becoming a good video editor, videographer and a good script writer just being ignited with your big words, miss Vanessa.

This is the first time I've commented on a you tube video! My quest is going to volunteer at my local humane society. I want to be able to walk dogs confidently. Being able to walk different types of dogs successfully can be a challenge. Dogs can sense your emotional state without saying anything. Today is my first day volunteering. That's why I stumbled upon your videos because I was nervous about meeting the other volunteers. Thank you for the great tips. I'll let you know how it goes.

My quest is to improve my storytelling and videos I started making on KZfaq. I went from barely posting online so sharing things I’m learning and putting out videos consistently. ☺️ The success file is a great idea! I think it’s so easy to forget the how good we really when we are only focusing on all the things we don’t do right 😅. I’ll be starting one right away. Thank you

The success file is a terrific idea! It has become easier for me to appreciate myself more since I have limited my exposure to toxic religion. Much of my childhood and a good part of my adult life was spent in church. We were taught that it was a virtue to be humble and that all pride is sinful. I had no idea how harmful these thoughts and ideas were to my self esteem. I began to realize the main reason I felt unappreciated was because I downplayed myself to others. I put a lid on my light to allow other people to shine at the expense of my self esteem. That is no longer the case and I am still learning how to be better at this as time goes on.

Love the idea of Quests....and your energy. Thankyou for the inspiration.

I have social anxiety that’s been getting worse due to isolation and losing almost all my social skills 😂 but i’m so glad i discovered your channel. Watching this helped me restore some faith in myself and gave me motivation to keep pushing. Thank you! 🥰

Yes Vanessa completely agree with you. Around my past I had negative people underestimated me and at the end I improve in a lot of areas of my life personal and professional, resulting on several international certifications, learn a new Language and be involve in a continuous learning process thanks a lot for your videos your improve the life of thousands people around the world.

One of your most informative and mind-boggling vids ever! Watched it 3times and took 2A4 pages note! Thanks!

Actually, I watch your KZfaq videos as a mean to improve my English. Especially my listening skills. In fact, you have helped me a lot with them. Thanks so much :)

You know I've done a lot of stuff around the city. From cleaning alot o junk that was in front of Walmart and other business to picking up trash on my way walking home. It gets frustrating cause at the time I was homeless and doing to stay warm at night. I appreciate the positive resourceful information that can help me out in all areas i need improvement on. I really hope I accomplish some in life. Thank you again ✌️

So much value from a single video. If people actively and assertively work on 75% of the tips you mentioned, they'll definitely see improvements in their lives and relationships. Thank you vanessa❤

Hi Vanessa, greetings from Turkey. I was in search of a book in Goodreads when I have heard about you. As soon as I start to digest your work online, I see improvements in myself, starting from my general mood. Your "quest" is really admirable! Thank you very much!

My quest: Go to a barber and get my haircut. I've avoided barbers for 28 years. Thanks for the courage to make change.

Love the idea of quests and to be constantly improving. If you are constantly improving, your own worth and value will increase!

I'm having a cup of coffee ☕️ and watching your lovely videos that just radiates a lot of energy and passion 😍 Please keep them coming, I'm sure I and so many others enjoy/need them! ❤️

Great video. Thank you Vanessa. I've been underestimated whole my life by people mostly because of my awful people skills (I especially hate being around pushy loud people, alpha male or female type - I just can't get along with them and trying to avoid this kind of people at all cost).

Your Amazing! Thank you for making these videos! I NEEDED TO HEAR THIS!

This is one of the best videos you' ve made lately, it has so much useful information and you put it on a way that makes you want to do it !... A video to be seen several times, thank you !

Such a practical ways to over come my gosh! I actually started making my success file once I started my job , because I am said I was not doing enough , so I did it in anger that helped me further a lot ! I also have to be list but never heard of people skill list wow !

WOW. I am very pleased with your energy and talent. I been learning so much from you. Thank you Vanessa!

i love you! thank you for all the good advice you give. how i didnt discover you sooner will be a mystery. but the fact that i did is one of them most memorable experiences of my life

I love your books and all your videos. I learn from all your resources. Thanks for sharing.

I love all of your videos. I share them with people. Thank you!

You are one of the reasons I have changed a lot! I love your videos and I am so happy to see your success♥️🔥 wish you all the best😍

I am happy to have found your channel and I love your content and how you articulate every thing. I surrounded with alot of negative energy and improving each and every day by watching your videos. I love your confidence

Thank you so much Vanessa! Your video is brilliant! About how to deal with dream killers, it’s very insightful. Instead of avoid them, embrace them! Translate their negative whistles into constructive suggestions👍

I got rid of my toxic friends and now I have no friends! She keeps me strong!! I can find new better friends ez.

Really glad I watched this. Really need to build many more people skills and be very confident. Hope I will follow your advice.

I loved the video... It's very complicated in our Globalized world not understimate ourserlves. It seems everyone is better than us... BUT, we have to switch the key, our MINDSET and feel more confident.

I'm so happy I found you. You have changed my life. Thank you so much

Hi I’m Evelyn J. Albina from the Philippines, I wanna let you know that I really love watching you giving ideas to encourage people become the very best of themselves, may you be blessed always! Stay sound and safe! ❤️❤️❤️

My Quest the first time I listened to it was go back to school... now graduating in Oct.. (Masters, MBA) Thank you Jesus

Vanessa, great pep talk with concrete steps to boost self-confidence. So much fun to watch.!! I'm psyched to be more prepared and excited about choir directing so that others feel happier and more confident following my direction, and to finish painting our Church's deacon doors with prayer, grace, love and beauty.

Just found you and you are my people! I too read microexpressions and feel like an awkward person and grossly underestimated! Have Captivate on order and am binging your videos. Thanks for making me feel more comfortable knowing others like me can actually be successful doing something you love!

My new quest is learning American Sign Language and be able to have a simple ASL conversation in 2023. ❤️ Thank you for your encouragement.

I'm so glad I decided to revisit your videos. To be quite honest I feel like I've lost a lot of my confidence trying to rebuild my business. It's pretty unnerving when your supposed to hold your head up high and walk like a queen. I have a bunch of messages from former clients I can go through to help me gain some of my courage back. Thank you!! 🥰

Wow what a video. Your energy is so magnetic . Your a great teacher and make lessons fun. I learned so much from this video that I will rewatch to take notes to now apply. I was doing a lot wrong and I feel like I just got the solutions. Thanks Vanessa Again!!

you are such a blessing and amzing woman. Thank you for making those videos…Just want to add some people might seems to be dream. builders and to be positive but if they are discouraging you, they are toxic and worst dream killers…avoid them at all costs and be careful!

I need to learn how to build a solid network (technical skill) and I need to learn how to sell (human skill). Thank you, Vanessa!

Thanks, nice video

Wow! Your video is so informative! Its an entire workshop condensed in this 16 minute video. I took so many notes and will take the steps. As a life coach myself, I am so impressed! Thank you for giving so much of yourself so we can grow!

I'm uplifted by your steps on the video right now. Thanks for carrying for those who are or fill underestimated and stand to help us. wish u the Best

Thanks for make difference in people's lives you're a bless to those struggles to make their lives easier

I'm from Uzbekistan and ur videous are fantastic and I'm getting used to watch them every day. Thank u soo muuuuch❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️

Vanessa, you always come up with a fresh way of presenting positives to help people, Thank you

Your message is like an apple in a golden basket..very timely in my current situation

Hi Vanessa.. I watched many of your videos. You always try to help people And share your own experiences. I learn. Something new each time. Thanks for all you do

Hey Vanessa ! Was just thinking about you! And here u upload, it's just so interesting to watch your videos!

Wow! This is amazing!! So so informative, transformative, and relatable.

Great pieces of advice, Vanessa! I just realized I have been applying all your suggestions unconsciously.

Hi Vanessa. Thank you for the video! I wished you could have met my dad. He was the most social person I have ever seen. His influence was unmatched... Over 1,000 people showed up to his funeral from Big cities to rural towns. He was a journalist and believed in dialogue and respect. He was so well liked that he never needed to make appointments. He just went to where the person was at... and usually the other person would see my dad and invite him in no matter what because they liked him around. I wish I could write down everything he taught me and share with you. Thanks for the great content...

Hi Vanessa, Thanks so much for this video! Amazing 🤩 inspiring and informative. My quest will be to do yoga daily and take better care of myself. The one area I’ve neglect all my life.

Hey Vanessa! Would you or have you ever considered doing a study on whether or not certain Meyer's Briggs types, (INFJs for example) are better at subconsciously picking up on micro expressions? I've been learning a lot about personality types, how intuition works, and following your work. I'm totally hooked on this stuff and dying to know more lol! I've been wondering if that's the reason some people or personality types are more empathetic or better at reading others? Love love love your work and your book! Sarah

Love from India. Vanessa you never know how badly i needed this tips. Will start preparing the list and act on. Need some videos on how to manage relationship after marriage.

This is such a valuable training ! Thank you, Vanessa !!!

Don’t find your worth in other people and you’re golden

Yes I feel like that thanks for the tips your videos are great ❤

What a video, Vanessa! I love your energy and smiling face while talking.

You're amazing. I'm so glad I've found your KZfaq page. ❤

You are amazing venessa. You are changing my life! thank you for this great video 😊

It's really a great lesson learned from this video about underestimate. Thanks again.

You are amazing..I love how you explain things and break things down..I am so grateful you went on Lewis Howles because I follow him and I would have never known about you otherwise..you’re amazing… Grazzi mile for your quest it’s working!

I’m in a 90 day health challenge. Feeling excited. Thanks a lo for you videos...!!!

my quest is to finish a book a week including captivate and cues! i also would like to embrace fasting and do a couple extended fasts this month

This video is GOLD!!!!! SERIOUSLY!!!

Quests and skills are so important for building up your confidence. It's not that important what kinds of skills you have but try to be good at something! Great video Vanessa!

Thank you for the push in the right direction! I tend to dream long-term, and don't accomplish as much toward my "goals" as I wish. But setting a manageable *chunk* of the goal--with a DATE on it!--that offers real potential! So, here's my list for the immediate future--the 60 days you suggested: 1. Learn how to fire vitreous paint on stained glass, in a microwave kiln. [Finish the glass-on-glass mosaic window for which the vitreous paint is needed.] 2. Develop a small chorale group at church. [We sang once, but following through to to sing again--and again and again--will require not only reawakened musical abilities, but also people skills. I can't be a choir all by my self! 😄] 3. Make a dress form. [I've been needing to sew new clothes for myself, to fill gaps in my wardrobe. Having a dress form that exactly mirrors my body, with its scoliosis and the late-60s pudge that I haven't been able to throw away, would greatly facilitate fitting.] 4. Reconcile with a friend who misunderstood me and tried to "humble" me. [What did she see? What could I learn from her? Or do I need to let her stay in the category of "acquaintance"?] Those four would make a good start on a long list. It'll be exciting to grow!

Tons of thanks Vanessa. I really love your tips. Some of them I have been doing them naturally already and they worked. I recently started a new job, big company and almost not my specialty and a language that I am still learning. Your tips gave me a gigantic boost...

Nice audio. Sounds clean and clear. Great job, it's rare

this woman is AMAZING

Great job Vanessa 🙏 you explain things very well, very informative.

I’m impressed.You are amazing.Your videos are beathtaking.Thanks a lot for possitive impact.❤️

Subconscious. Is the . thing.. you put second v by second ..that makes you a personality...no one can overnight..luv ya. More than I can.

My technical skills I’m learning is cooking & cleaning. I just invested in joining a online group dedicated on those two. My soft skill is negotiation. I’m taking a online Yale class on negotiation. Excited for it.

4 mins in and I'm sold. Great video! 🙃

Number 9 deserves to be #1- everything flows from

Where have you been all my life? So grateful to of come across you Vanessa!!! Pleased to meet you!!

There is a Quote that blow my mind "We all have something to say or do, don't take away from the world, the opportunity to know it, by being a selfish person."

You're a bestie I ever needed in my life!

Thank you so much for this, Vanessa! I'm a long-time follower and first-time poster. I felt compelled to comment on this video as it really resonated with me. The biggest take-away for me is to have learning quests to keep growing and learning. I have felt so stagnant, and I understand now how it's not only impacting my confidence but also how people are underestimating me. I am inspired! I will make the list and pick one new quest for each month. I think this will also help me feel like I've accomplished and grown more by the end of the year. Many thanks! :)

Ms. Edwards, I wish I had ten thumbs to thank you for this great lesson!

Keeping a "Success File" is a great idea. I've done something similar for years, calling "Victory Journal." Thanks for the nice videos!

You're never too anything (old, young, immature, whatever your too is) to learn from Passionate Vanessa. Simple ideas you can easily do.

This rings very true for me. Ever since I finally landed my first full time position, I immediately hit up the backburner and stopped learning. I can see all my classmates of the past moving onto the next stages in life, and Im on my own still longing for things of the past i never did.

Great video! I've learned quite a bit from listening to your videos while I work out. Do you any content specifically regarding how to set appropriate and effective boundaries at work? This is something I have experienced as often overlooked or dine poorly, both top down and bottom up.

I wish I'd found this channel years ago. Not only are you breathtakingly beautiful, you're breathtakingly intelligent. Subscriber for life

Thank you for great work you do! My quest will be to finish you book 😊 I made lots of notes 📝 and plans)) the timing of this video was great for me 🙏

Red is your color! Thanks for the pep talk! A success file is a fabulous idea for when those negative thoughts try to creep into our minds. Reminds me of a joke around our house. Our small town internet company was having months of continual widespread issues. I am sure they had one mad customer after another for months. I did have to call in several times but was always kind. They sent me a handwritten card to thanks for always being so kind to all of the staff. I kept that card as my ace in the hole when my husband thinks I am being grumpy. I jokingly remind him with the card that I have proof that I am nice! 😅

I've been learning English on my own for some months and I can start to understand what you say for a few days. I really want to thank you because I can learn so much from your video. Improving my English skills of course but stuff about daily life as well. I particularly appreciate the positive way you get your message across. Your video's contents are always benevolent and relevant to me. Thanks again and please keep going. Take care!

You're a life saver! God bless

I have a Done Did It bucket where I put in all of my accomplishments and events that I have done. It is similar to the Bucket List that people want to do. But mine is of WHAT I DID! As for a quest: I am redoing my kitchen. I want to finish it by the end of February 2022 ( it is now January 30, 2022). The roadblock is money for material.

Thanks Mom!