Nowadays I found the silent treatment from any narcissist, GOLDEN TIME!! The less they interact with me, the better!❤😁

The relationship is truly over when she gives you the silent treatment and you feel nothing but relief.

I feel like Dr. Ramani is my mom ,helping me through a tough narcissistic marriage

I'm an introvert! Most of my life is silent so jokes on them 😎 2 can play that game 😎

My ex gave me the silent treatment for 4 hours on a road trip once. When I gave in and apologized, he screamed at me and said “F**k your apology” and made us go through a whole cycle of fighting 🙄 I’ve been out of the relationship for 10 months which has been hard, but my life is so much more peaceful now

Primary drivers behind "silent treatment": 1. Stonewalling 2. Gaslighting 3. Lack of emotional skills 4. Dysregulation of emotions 5. Victimhood 》The Narcissist is behaving like a child, thats not getting what it wants (the childish tantrum) 》The key: Do not give in to break the silence with a Narcissist 》Silent Treatment = big red flag very unhealthy

I felt like a non-person, a shadow in my own home. My ex NEVER talked - everything was perceived as an insult or slight towards him. I walked on eggshells, and it was horrible. He started coming home from work later and later and honestly I was relieved that he wasn't in the home. Each night when he got home, it was like a cold front rolling in... I finally left him in 2016. The first night I spent in my own apartment was the best night's sleep I had in YEARS. I feel like I've aged in reverse since then - gaining pieces of ME that I thought were lost over the years. I haven't spoken to him in a very long time... and it's BLISS. Stay hopeful, friends.

The silent treatment was used time and again by my x narc partner. It occurred after questioning super shady behaviours or asking him what’s going in other shady ways. His other response was RAGE that was terrifying . Rooms getting ripped apart, eyes bulging, arms flailing, swearing at me etc. I went NO contact a year ago after watching your videos . Right now im sitting quietly listening to the rain. I’m so free and happy. You gave me my life back. God bless you.

People have tried the silent treatment with me. But what they don't realize is that I stop caring about them very quickly when they pull crap like this. And then get all upset with you when you play their game.

The silent treatment is your best opportunity to exit stage left and get away from the narcissist. Be smart, take the gift they are giving you and pay it back with your absence. ✨

When They gave me Silent for a week I gave it back for life Hard but getting beter day by day 🙏🤲

silent treatment is also different from ignoring an abusive person because you want them out of your life for good ❤

"Your reality is sacred" - best advice I've heard in a long time. Thanks Dr. Ramani!

My childhood was spent with my mom who would give me the silent treatment….without warning and very arbitrarily. I was always anxious and walking on egg shells.I was constantly scanning my actions to see what I could have possibly done wrong. It made life hell. After 54 years I finally found Dr. Ramani and pulled myself out of all these crazy relationships. Thank you, Dr. Ramani!🙏

“My way or the highway” is the unwritten universal motto for narcissists.

Dr. Ramani, I think via youtube you are helping a lot of middle-aged men like myself who would not usually seek therapy, realise where a wound has been all this time, or that is existed at all; allowing for healing to actually happen in many people either too stubborn or shy to speak to someone, or without the funds to. Sending much gratitude.

This was one of my ex's most consistent behaviors. We went to marriage counseling where the therapist told us our communication was too toxic to continue since it was not positive, so he recommended we have very limited verbal interaction daily to put the brakes on it. This was horrible advice since my husband LIKED to use the silent treatment to punish and manipulate me. He actually told me that the silent treatment was the only way he could teach me a lesson. Anyone who uses silence as a way to interact as a means to express their anger, dissatisfaction or disapproval is a lost cause. DUMP THEM!

My mom use to use the silent treatment until I would apologize for whatever she was upset about. After dealing with it my whole life I have decided to just cut her off I’m exhausted from the whole relationship and everything that comes with it it’s just not worth it

My own reality is sacred and I will not Let any narcisist or any other abusive and toxic person deny or question it. Thank you dr Ramani.

"Their disrespect is manifested as manipulation." This became clear to me when I was called an ineffective loser who couldn't get anything done - because I waited my turn and did not manipulate others to get more than my share or jump in line. The most outrageous was when the narc said my unwillingness to "break laws" to benefit my Dad was proof that I didn't love him as much as they did - although the law breaking they wanted to do was install hidden cameras in his assisted living center to try gain intel on the staff. My working with the staff instead of having an antagonistic relationship with them was then called proof that I cared more about the staff than my own father. Sometimes when you write out this manipulative statements, the illogic and manipulation becomes much clearer than just listening to them, when you can just feel like you are drowning under the sheer volume of their criticisms, complaints and self aggrandizement.

After "my" narcissist gave me the silent treatment, I took the chance to get away from him. Then I gave him the silent treatment for 3 years (he was SO sure that I couldn't live without him but once he was away my life became MUCH better). So after years of my silent treatment he tried to come back a few times, indirectly begging for my attention. He probably hates the idea that I live a successful life without him. Peace over drama. He put me trough hell and back.

21 days of the silent treatment before I fled one night when he was gone to work. 31 years of that kind of treatment and worse, which helped me make the final decision to put an end to it.

Life is too short for that. Remaining in this type of toxicity will take a huge toll on our health. If they aren't willing to get into therapy, the only solution is getting out and getting into therapy ourselves to learn how to identify these behaviors and avoid them. Thank you, Dr. Ramani!

😳In my experience Telling someone they’re gaslighting you, and explaining HOW they’re gaslighting CAN stop the gaslighting, IF they didn’t realize that’s the pattern they’ve learned in childhood. ➖HOWEVER, if the gaslighter is a narcissist, they won’t change, they won’t apologize, and more gaslighting will come. ➖Thank you for the info. It’s eye opening.

I feel like I'm the "crazy" abusive one. The audacity. Recently experienced the enablers and the shamelessness, the cruelty of the aging -- well, now very much elderly narcissist. I've also seen that it's not just me. Still, no accountability, no remorse, ostentatious flailing and 'behind the scenes' bigotry. I was raised into a dynamic like this and now, at 40 re-experienced it over and over again, ad nauseum. I got literally sick. I gaslight myself often. I isolate myself because i don't know if i have the wherewithal to grey rock for the millionth time. After a decade, life interrupted by pathological malignant narcissist parents, believing them. I am doing what i can to get out of here. Truly go no contact. It took a long time to get back to a place where I feel like that same horrified 7 year old, so... i pathlogized myself, pre rejected myself, didn't say anything. Once i did, stonewalling, silent treatment, withholding of information ... after wanting to be in contact *all the time* .... Like you say, doing the deep dive, and trying to tame the toxic inner critic (parent) that invalidate or poo-poo on my very real efforts. Thank you for being part of my day everyday, with your videos, and, just the way you deliver the message.

She is spot on about the neglectful narc. This is so on point. It used to bother me but I got to the point where I was glad when he didn't because when he did it was only when he wanted/needed something other than that, I was invisible. So I stopped engaging and didn't feel bad about it at all.

I use silent treatment against the narc because it drives him nuts. I on the other hand love silence. Give me a blanket and some books and I won't talk for days. Better than wasting my breath trying to communicate with a narc. Why spend my time arguing pointlessly just to give him a buzz. Whenever he is silent it's heaven.

I makes me sad because they mimic our experience. Where we really are a victim of abuse and neglect, they take that experience for themselves and make themselves a victim instead. It leaves a person feeling like a crazy narc when we aren’t either.

This is feeding my soul! I'm crying at just how played I was by my ex husband for over 30 years. Thank you so much Dr Ramani ❤

This was what my ex’s have used against me constantly and now I’m terrified and triggered when I’m having any heated discussion and the person stops talking The last ex baited me and gaslit me so that when they did something to me and i got justifiably angry they could go “omg you’re so psycho why don’t you just calm down” It almost got me to the point of suicide because i felt so defeated and confused and for months after I could barely even make a cohesive decision because I felt like everything would make my life worse so my whole body shut down Its only been in the past two months through my DBT therapy research, my psychologist, my family, and your videos validating my horrific narcissistic abuse that has gotten me into a routine for my life and my two baby kitty cats. Thank you for being the voice of a far too large group of abuse survivors

I was depressed after my second daughter and started taking medication (for what I:ve learned through the years of therapy he was the cause for all of the above!) .. He said sometimes take the happy pill so you will be nicer . In other situations if I complained he told me " you are such a pitty most women in town want to have your life so don' t complain " " you don:"t know what you're talking about " "Do you see what you're saying" "You choose the worst moments to say something " " I think you wake up and try to make my angry" " you make me feel this way" " you are on your period " .... so it was never the right moment or the right thing to say. IT was like living in a twilight zone!

I had the silent treatment all through my 40 + years with my husband. Never new or understood what a narcissist was until very recently, and finding Dr. Ramani's videos has been a god send and explains so much. Thank you Dr. Ramani!❤

Silent treatment for a year while I was pregnant. I told him to leave when my son was 5 mos old. We had to be separated for a year before we could divorce during which he was online seeking his next wife and refusing to go to counseling. After we divorced I had to give him a ride somewhere and he had the nerve to tell me he felt guilty as if he was hoping I would say something soothing like “Oh it’s ok, don’t worry about it.” Guess was he got: THE SILENT TREATMENT!!!!!

Thank you Dr. Ramani, I wish more therapist just used language such as this. You change thousands of lives! Thank you for your work!

My husband is a master of the silent treatment. Unfortunately, over the years I've been the "enabler" by bringing the relationship back to what I thought was homeostasis. A few months ago, I decided not to, and boy am I "paying the price," or so he thinks. He'll talk pleasantly to me IF I initiate any verbal communication; but if I don't, he's as sullen as the grave. I'll greet him after he comes home, normally. But if I'm busy and don't say anything, he barely even looks at me. How childish is that! It has taken a toll though on my health, both physically and emotionally. It is indeed a spiritual battle. I have been once again trying to eat right (boo to sugar and grains--lol) and do some easy exercises. But, yeah, I'd like to get away if I can...think about it most of the time. I have three dependent teenagers so it's a little trickier financially. Oh, also, very strange now: he sleeps with his head at the foot of the bed. He said I gave him a cold once after he told me to wash my hair every day and I didn't. My hair was long at the time, so it was a big deal to wash it every day. He's very covid-conscious and punishes anyone who doesn't comply with his strict procedures (even though he himself doesn't --he'll leave his face shield on the dining room table.)🙄

Thank you, Dr. Ramani. I'm finally able to cut people off when they exhibit bad toxic behaviors. I no longer ruminate on if they are diagnosed, or if I'm being mean. I'm tired of being the one waiting for people to get it together. I'm tired of being the ear, shoulder and lending a hand and then those people bite back and shock me. Most of the people I know are 30+. They have the responsibility to get it together on their own. I went to counseling and still do when I need help or need a perspective. They need to put in work too. I'm being selfish and taking care of myself and my daughter and I don't have to feel guilty about that. Thank you.

My husband would always give me the silent treatment after yelling at me if I didn’t agree with him on anything. Now that I left , I’m giving the silent treatment and it’s hard. I’m on the road to healing from emotional abuse and I listen to Dr Ramani… don’t explain, don’t engage, don’t defend.

The narcissist was the only person to really rave about my cooking, and practically the only person in over 20 years that I've shared my cooking with. Flattery got him everywhere. Today I cook for myself and don't have to clench my teeth in anger. Thank you, Dr. Ramani.

Thank you for this. I’m right in the middle of a 2 month silent treatment from my NM. I’m 57. I only learned about narcissistic people and that both mother and step father are ones in the last 4 years. It was a revelation. It has been a self healing journey w the help of course from people like yourself. It’s the first time in my life I’ve not felt guilty or stressed over the silent treatment. It’s such a positive force in my life. I’m holding strong. I’m living my life and not giving up my tears or worry for someone who has none for me. I am learning so much from you. It’s changed my life. I thank you so much.

My mother (who is the quiet, "respectable", self-martyring, "woe is me" type of narcissist) loves giving others the silent treatment. She's an absolute master at it, too, turning it into this grand performance with a permanent scowl on her face, pretending to hide while also making absolutely sure everyone in the apartment is aware of her and her mood at all times. She's persistent, too. When I was 14, she was so enraged by me standing up to her and refusing to let her beat me unfairly (there weren't any ski boots available in my size during a class trip to an indoor ski hall, which she blamed on me for some bizarre reason and tried to punish me for) that she refused to exchange a single word with me or my sister (who had nothing to do with the situation at all) for 3 whole months. What she didn't expect was that my sister and I had no interest in giving in to her massive tantrum. In fact, we relished every moment of it, because it gave us a reprieve from her constant passive-aggressive nagging and afforded us a lot more autonomy than we'd ever had in our lives. Our mother hated it. Every day, she got more and more desperate, deeply offended that we didn't value our relationship to our own mother enough to be in any way distressed by her radio silence. In a way, she was right - as far as we were concerned, that relationship wasn't worth salvaging. It had become nothing but a constant source of stress for us - we were old enough not to need her inserting herself into every minute detail of our lives, and neither of us dared to approach her about the actual problems we were facing (we were both struggling with bullying, self-esteem issues and several undiagnosed disorders), for fear of having our trust abused by her, so what was the point? (We didn't trust our father, either. The whole time, he never even noticed anything was off. None of us ever talked to him about anything if we could help it, and he only spoke to us to yell at us or use us as a captive audience for his self-important ramblings.) Of course, to our mother, it was because we were simply ungrateful and spoiled, without compassion for her emotional agony ... never mind that it was entirely self-afflicted (the worst I had done was slightly bruise her ego). Eventually, she broke down. One day, she just went back to the way things were and pretended the whole thing had never happened. My sister and I were disappointed, but went along with it, knowing that fighting it would only have made things worse. We never spoke about it again.

This is why I keep my tribe small. I still have extroverts telling me I need more of a social life, and more friends. No, I don't.

Dr. Ramani I just wanna say that your channel has helped me a tremendous amount when learning about narcissism, you make me understand my mother and the things she does. Instead of fighting back with her I come to your channel to reflect on the actions. No longer wanting to engage with her to continue the cycle.

I haven't finished watching this video yet but the opening made me about fall on the floor laughing because Dr. Ramani nailed this perfectly

Oh yes! I ended up feeling it was my fault. I struggle with an Anxiety Disorder and he used that to his benefit.

I made an appointment to a counselor together bc he had ignored me for a week. He went beyond silent treatment by taking different routes in the house to avoid me. The counselor asked about my childhood & when he learned my mom left me when I was one the counselor instead of telling him how wrong & hurtful & unhealthy it was to ignore me, he told my husband that I had abandonment issues (I really don't. I worked through this a long time ago). So essentially told my husband that I was the problem with the silent treatment by telling him he shouldn't ignore me bc I would feel abandoned. How it makes me feel for a narc with no capacity to empathize onky served to make me look pathetic & neurotic in my husband's eyes. He treated me worse not better after that session bc he had no ownershipor shame in givingme the silent treatment. My husband only felt that I was weak bc I couldn't handle not going without talking to him.. i never went back to the counselor & that was also used by my husband to make me look broken.

Thank you for the extended video!!!!!you are so generous.sending love and support to all.xx

This happens along with the eye roll or the glazed expression while gritting their teeth. then they are nearly volcanic when they finally figure out the words they want to destroy you with.

My now ex-husband, many years ago, used to do the silent treatment for 4 days at a stretch. As I was working my way out of the relationship and had recognised the pattern I came to enjoy the freedom the silent treatment gave me. It was 4 days that, because he had set it up, he couldn’t ask me where I was going or where I’d been. So I’d go out and visit friends without telling him. I enjoyed myself.

My dumb ass told him silence makes Me uncomfortable so he doubled down, boy bye.

I love Dr.Ramani. She is spot on with all of these narcissistic things. Thank you for giving us light in the darkness of narcissistic relationships we are dealing with. 😊 go get them girl lol

I get the rage silent treatment WITHOUT ANY PROVOCATION! No prior argument and nothing to base it on. Fantastic video.

I had a narcissistic coworker (who wasn't my manager, but acted like she was), and our desks 4-5 days a week were maybe 6 ft. apart. I eventually decided to be semi-silent, and cloaked all of my expression because in order for her to exact abuse, she needed to get a read on my energy and what was on my mind. Inspired by stealth submarines, I would remain as even keeled and steady as possible as long as she or one of her friends were nearby. If I needed something to calm my anxieties, I had a spiraling Microsoft Paint file that I'd work with in a mandala meditation type of way. I would keep mental notes of anything I wanted to write because she or her close friends (mainly two work-wives) would read over my shoulder if they heard me typing any form of communication. It felt like I was working behind an iron curtain and had to encrypt messages to outside individuals who could potentially help.

That’s my mum right there. Punishing others for having a different opinion than hers by refusing to talk to them. Very mature. Although it‘s actually quite nice that they shut up for once and leave you alone. And triangulation was a big one growing up (and still is).

Wow! The Narcissist’s Playbook is a legit thing. I found myself in some of the very situations she described. So grateful that we essentially get the silent treatment for 3-6 months at a time & haven’t had to deal with him any more than a few text messages a year. Grateful for the opportunity to stretch & grow though, I wouldn’t be the person I am today without that transformational experience.

I did not have any of those emotional triggers such as guilt but my ex knew I hated confrontation and exposing our children to ugly exchanges so that is what she would use. I swallowed hard several times when in retrospect I shouldn't have because as much as I was trying to shield my children from relational ugliness I was also exhibiting meekness and subservience in the face of tyranny. What was my son learning from this "weakness?" What were my daughters learning about how to treat their eventual spouses? I see now my strategy was wrong but my intensions were good. What a terrible environment I exposed my children to by choosing the wrong mate when I saw the red flags before marriage and "reasoned" them away. I so regret the entire mess I created. It would have been my own fault if I ruined those 17 years of my life but I have to live with the fact that I did not provide a nurturing place for my children to grow up in. All of them have "scars" (some worse than others) from this bizarre environment in which they grew up in. Oh yea, "I never said that" "That never happened" "Where are you getting that?" "I didn't mean it when I said it and you know it" I was never allowed to have an alternate point of view or emotion. If I did she would quickly bring the spotlight back on her emotion or viewpoint as if it was the only one (and in her mind it probably was).

Oh you are ringing all my bells this morning. I finally told myself that I was on holiday and from then on did not take the blame for whatever was going on. I wondered for years if this was abusive but could never find any information on it. Playing on the vulnerable places! This work is making my grief work so much more endurable. Thank you so much for this healing program. You have no idea how much it has been helping me to recover not only from a long marriage with narcissism but also dealing with his death. Resolution was not possible with him living. So sad.

You consistently nail word for word my upbringing. Both of my parents are narcissists and exhibit everything you talk about. Specifically the growing up and not knowing who you are. Every move, every thought is second guessed because of this. Leading you into the sense of not knowing who you are. I finally took a stand last year and we haven’t spoken since. The personal growth I’ve experienced over this time the biggest leap in my lifetime.

Lots of NPD gaslighting is also through body language which strengthens the massage of diminisishing, ignoring the partner. Condescending body language is their potent weapon.

The Narcissist that WAS in my life has ghosted me one too many times. What she has shown me is how nice life is without her in it. It has taken awhile but I no longer sit in fear of what is coming at me next. She is a nasty piece of work and the silent treatment has shown me that in more ways than having her in my life ever could have.

It's like a regression into a pre-verbal toddler state. It's exhausting to live with such a person. Like "cold war"

I learned the silent treatment is a partial vacation from them. It's awesome! I don't have to listen to their BS for days if I'm lucky. And the biggest plus is they think I'm suffering and they have the upper hand. Whatever floats their boat! I live with them for financial reasons, just as they do.

maybe tomorrow i will watch this video, today has been hell enough. These videos are so helpful but also so draining for me, so i try to watch these and learn when i can actually appreciate them...

Just a few days ago a relative did her drama explosion irrational insult thing followed by her (ongoing) silent treatment thing. I've experienced this pattern over and over again, so instead of letting it bother me as it's designed to do, I've learned to enjoy it as an opportunity to take a break and concentrate on other things😎...it's funny I realize just in the past few days I've gotten all these things done I wanted to do, and my creativity is improving i think, and the only difference in my life right now is that the narcissistic input is in gag mode...🤔

My mother did this to me as a really young child, throughout my entire childhood, and still does even though she’s 74.. anything can trigger it, perceived slights, oversights, not reading her mind, etc. So emotionally immature. Complete inability to discuss anything with maturity.

I would get the silent treatment, dirty looks for spans of months. I’d ask what I did-“nothing”. I asked what can I do to fix it-“nothing”. All while raising children. I’d cry myself to sleep right next to him and he’d fall asleep and snore. Then he’d wake up one day and “love” me again. I wasn’t allowed to bring it up because it was the “past”. And I was just bitter.

I have saved this video and I will listen to it on a regular basis. It is the equivalent of a nourishing meal.

My husband loves to tell me how I remember things wrong or how I twist events... He is the king of gaslighting

your videos just keep confirming I was right all along and I hate it. It goes against the teaching to never say never and never say always, but my abusers have found a way to be the exception to that rule. they will always be abusive narcissists

It's my mom and brother for me. I'm also an extremely sensitive Empath. I'm only about a year and a half "awakened". You're spot on with all of it !!! Up until maybe 3 years ago, I barely knew what a narcissist or Empath even was. I definitely had no idea how bad my mom and brother really are. Long story, but I was diagnosed with extreme depression in November of 2018. I am to live with my mom to try and sort things out and get moving again. My brother was actually staying here at the time, and he's an extreme narrcisist. He started right out of the gate, the day I moved in. We all had to deal with the lockdowns and all of that, but they both had me believing I was this horrible person...all the usual stuff. Now that I'm well aware, and standing firm in my boundaries, they don't like it at all. Especially my "brother". There have been several altercations since I've really began pushing back. He actually physically attacked me one day after my aunt passed away last year. Long winded I know, but I am making it through armed with information thanks to you and others out there helping to educate people about this. I'm not doctor, but I am looking for ways to help as well. If you'd like, I can send you more details on my situation and what I've been doing to get through it. If will help even one person cope with a similar situation, I'm happy 🙂 Thank You for fighting the good fight. Greatly appreciated.

I loved it when he stopped talking to me….. ahhhhh time off. Now it’s WOW after 33 years of marriage yeah nothing . It was hard to adjust after all those years of patterns - but still happy he is not in my space anymore

We all just love you Dr Ramani. You have saved so many lives by your knowledge and wisdom that it's hard to put words to our feelings and gratitude towards you. May God bless you and may he give us survivors the strength and wisdom to help ourselves. Please take very good care of yourself Dr Ramani. The world is definitely a much much better place because of you.

I'm going through this right now with my ex. We broke up (I initiated that). Let him tell it, I've been the villain since day one. It's been hell ever since. It's so hard to not fall back into the rabbit hole and not be triggered by the things he say.

Dr. Ramani I have been watching your videos for about the past month while trying to leave a 15 year narcissistic relationship and damn it is hard! But I find a lot of comfort coming to this page and at least knowing that I’m not crazy and the actions of the other one are verified and legitimately on point so I know I’m not crazy lol just want to say thank you for being a support system through this rough time❤

This is a tricky one. Their silences eventually make you silent as well. I became silent over time because of exactly this. Is my behavior then also silent treatment? Because to me, silence has become a coping mechanism.

Dr ramani, Your words always resonate so much. I think you've just described my entire life with narcissistic parents and now ex partners. I am currently estranged from my entire family because of calling my parents and sister out on their controlling behaviour and their triangulation tactics. This is after just coming out of a "relationship" with someone very malignant/psychopathic (gaslightibg, stalking, intimidation etc.) that they were all so concerned about.... I'm glad I can now start to see things for what they are, it's just a shame that so many of us have to learn it the hard way. Despite this, I still have faith that there are good, loving, kind people out there who do genuinely care about others, it's just sometimes hard to find them.

About the silent treatment: My narc ex-fiance was so well studied on the language of psychology, she was great at setting traps to gaslight people. One of her fav tactics was to nag relentless until I was tired of arguing and couldn't stand to hear her voice anymore, then when I withdrew she'd say, "Oh, now you're giving me the silent treatment? My how mature of you. How manly!" I decided to not marry her.

My ex fiancé text me out the blue after five months of no communication, he broke our Engagement, won full custody of our son, after Destroying my life and giving me no reason why he did any of this… now he wants to talk. These people are lunatics

Like all types of abuse happens behind closed doors, thank you opening those doors today and helping address what is hidden inside, for most ❤.

Oh my, Dr R, how many nails can you hit on the head in one message? You have outdone yourself this time. Thank you. ALSO, one of the most satisfying parts of the film, GASLIGHT, is that the manipulated character turns the tables on her gaslighting husband. I won't say more and spoil it for those who want to watch this film for the first time.

I preferred the silent treatment over any other narc mischief from mother dearest Dr. Evil. It always just made me smile I couldn't help it. It was like watching a 5 year old. After years of insults, condescending digs, power moves to try and tare my son and I apart, on and on. Zero empathy, in fact, watching that evil smirk while at my lowest and desperately needing compassion, nope, kick you while your down. Her whole personality is a lie, how truly sad for her 😔

It was not at all uncommon in my family for the silent treatment to extend months at a time. This cycle prevailed well into my young adulthood. I truly believe athletics and being outdoors for disproportionate amounts of time were the only venues that kept my soul and sanity marginally intact. To this day, my physical strengths remind me of my worth.

the first three minute of this video explained a lot of my whole life living one of them. thank you Dr. Ramani 🙏

"I don't have these issues with anyone else" is a big time gaslight. It's a one two punch.

Dr. Ramani describing the silent treatment is describing my life right now. I would add though that when she responds to my questions about family matters that she purposefully avoided sharing with me, she answers with a tone of contempt that implies that I should have known.

This is one of your most powerful and clear talks ever! Please provide more of this type of analysis. Thank you

I actually grew to love it as I grew in my knowledge of Narcissism & was Mode confident in me and that I wasn’t going crazy. 5 yrs no contact. SO much peace ✌🏻

I’m not responsible for your happiness…..is one. Or ‘ it’s always about you!’

One of my relatives married a 160 pound baby. They don't know it but that's the truth. The baby thinks they can punish their way out of any situation. Sometimes it doesn't work because you just can't cave but it causes a lot of problems. Currently on a three plus year silent treatment in one situation affecting me.

So true. I feel / felt that way, against the silent treatment. Until your podcast. Many thanks 🙏

Thanks so much for the great video. Another example for gaslighting: 'I will not answer that, as long as you are acting so irrational', 'You are so confused, right now, that you don't know what you are talking about.', 'We can talk as soon as you come to your senses.' (meaning, as soon as you say you are wrong). Edit: It feels so absurd, hearing you talk about text messages and saying 'no, look, I didn't make it up, you really said that.' and instead of getting an apology or just a 'oh, I totally forgot', you are being treated as the enemy with an answer like 'oh, you feel good now? It's so pathetic, that you just care about winning. I think you are really unfair towards me, using me like that just so you can be right.'

Lived with this for too many years

36 years of the silent treatment. My soon to be ex husband spent an entire 30 days giving me the silent treatment. Normal stents were one to two weeks at a time. This was so good. Thank you for talking about this ❤

I love Dr. Ramani

🎯🎯🎯thank you Dr Ramini for continuing to highlight the low level disturbing behavior 💔🥹

My mother and my ex husband are masters at the silent treatment. No contact with them both. Set myself free from their drama and issues and punishment.

The silent treatment was the preferred punishment I got from my mother as child. But only I never my siblings which made it worse. The whole video describes the most of my relationships (platonic and romantic). Thanks Dr Ramani, now I get it and can heal! Greetings from Austria!💜💜💜💜💜

Is it bad that the silent treatment is the only way I can deal with my narcissist. I'm just so tired of hearing the same excuses over and over again that I just don't want to engage with him.

She doesn't attack my independence because she doesn't need too.. she does attack me emotionally all the time with her behaviours instigating jealousy, lacking consideration, lacking respect, triangulating with others, valuing the opinion of others against yours even when it is the same opinion.. and I often get confused with her intentions.

"ALL YOUR MOTHER & I EVER WANTED WAS FOR YOU TO BE HAPPY"!

When someone gives you the silent treatment give them one for life, I give people the one strike rule, one strike your out 👍 Dr RAMANI.