❤

So sad, but true, specially for us who actually loved them.

Exactly, the hell is the contrary.

😂

Yesssss I've had so much peace. Thank you Lord 😂😂

@@toknowistolove Thanks. I should have also disclosed that I heard that line whilst shamelessly doom scrolling the other day, so not an original. 🫣

Thanks however I should have disclosed that the above was stolen from an IG post I came across whilst shamelessly doom scrolling! It just came to mind during Dr R’s video. 💕

@@toknowistolove cheers. Me too 👷🏾‍♀️

This was right on time, Dr Ramani. You have opened my eyes. Thanks a million!

Didn't exactly go that way when there are cult-flying monkeys being fed to harass said designee.

I hate people. Pray for me. I cant stand almost all my family members

​@@dfuk66Am praying for you.

💯 FACTS

Yeah, there is no god... no, let me rephrase that... there is no GOOD god or narcissistic abuse wouldn't last very long. Maybe Lucifer had a point?? 😂

There’s a guy at my CHURCH who doesn’t even be in relationships with these women, but he breadcrumbs them in friendships where they hope, even for years, that he will finally choose them as a girlfriend and ultimately a wife. It’s so sad and I’m so glad I got out of it before I got stuck in this disgusting cycle.

Stay positive and surround yourself with positivity

Smart!! Smart!! Everyday it will get better. Ask God on your knees to give you WISDOM AND STRENGTH AMD HEALING. I will pray for you

❤❤❤❤

One day at a time! Enjoy the strangeness of feeling free and dont look back!!

Have faith in God🙏 everyday will get easier, stay strong 🙏

They.are.weak.

They can never be alone

I know a narcissist at my church that doesn’t even need to be in a relationship to get Supply from all of these women because he’s leading them on and making them think that he’s gonna choose them and he’s not!!! It’s soooo sad! I’m glad I got out before i waited for YEARS!!!! For a narcissistic Jezebel!

Or they try to string you along and bread crumb you

Exactly

Yeah got to put your foot down

@@BashayG7175i would say that’s exactly what being on a shelf looks like. I have been bread crumbed for the past year but i am finally awakened from this nightmare

Exactly on the shelf.

Yeah

Smart ones improve their strategy

You made me think of that song by Whitney Houston and Deborah Cox i believe...."Same acript different cast" these videos are so eye opening!!!!

Misogyny causes narcissism

Just as you said, it’s about him - his facial expression is really a reaction to his internal experience/feelings of deep inadequacy. Sure, you’re standing in front of him & it very much does look like he’s looking at YOU, but he’s really expressing how angry he is that he feels overwhelmingly weak.

@@ElleJordan8 Never understood why he looked that way! I could feel the contempt … probably why I never surrendered to him!

Memorize that look.

I hate it too but its honestly jealousy. Also if they hated me so much than why were they there? Because they wete the parasite, not me. They can take those facial expressions to h3ll with them :/ Sending you good thoughts ✨

Right! No counterfeits!

I love this comment!!! But I do feel bad for the new people who will come in contact with him… that’s so sad… bc he’s going to use them & keep using them until they FINALLY WALK AWAY!!!!!

@@4WallsDesignsthat’s exactly what I called him, a counterfeit!!! 😮

Congratulations! I am not in contact with my narc dad. His attitude, his problem, not mine(anymore)!

Think about what garbage is and how it becomes garbage. They've consumed what they wanted and the rest is useless to them.

They are cold blooded creatures.

Glad you know you are not garbage

If you feel hate, it means you have unprocessed thoughts and feelings. Write them down, consider them thoroughly, one by one. It will take time for hate to turn to indifference. Give it time, and put in the work.❤

Yes expressing in whatever way is right for you . writing or recording words ..and physically ..exercising, boxing with a pillow :) has helped me. I go through phases of grief ...takes time to process everything to the point where you calmly 'see' and feel through the pain. I remind myself in those moments of the beautiful relationships i do have ❤

Narcissists 👹👹👹

let me provide you an insight that clears everything up. the narc is NEVER really in a love bombing and charm phase. they are ALWAYS in the devalue and discard phase. they can't like or love people. they simply love bomb and charm to draw people in so that they can feed their supply and/or test their supply needs. they are always devaluing people. that's where they're permanently stuck. the charm and love bombing is just an empty tactic to suck people in. there's no honenst intent behind it. they didn't like you and never did because they're incapable of liking and loving people. when they shift to outwardly discarding you, that's the real them! internally, they're discarding and devaluing everyone they interact with ALL THE TIME! that's the secret! they don't like nor love anyone. they might charm others, but those people will soon experience the criticism and discarding....for criticism and devaluing and discarding others is at the core of narcs. the outward displays towards others means NOTHING. the narc can't love. narcs often discard fully when you become wise to them. and believe me, they are hurting, but only if you leave forever and entirely. this is good for the narc and the only thing that might get their ass in therapy and on meds. the narc leaves those that see them too clearly. treat a narc like you would a camera on set if you're an actor. no eye contact.

And no matter what happens to you, it’s happened to them- But So Much WORSE!!🙄😂

​@@suzyhomeacrethat's just their tactic to invalidate your struggles

@@andrewsmith3257 I tell them zero now. They know nothing of my present life. I’m pretty sure they know it’s better without them though. lol They can make up their own stories, just like they would have anyway. ☮️

Literally Everything

Yep! My Ex Narc was always on the phone texting or staring at other women in front of me (I'm surprised his neck didn't hurt from all the head turning). He would also place his phone face down to hide the screen (something he never did earlier in the relationship). I never wanted/ needed to do detective work because his behaviour was in plain sight; I just used to observe.

I feel that. Mine used to ignore me all the time. That hurts

Its like their phone is an extra appendage. They never go anywhere without it

My partner does this... he will literally ignore people who are legit trying to talk to him or show him something. Then he blames it in on ADHD.

I’ve gone through the same thing 😮

The only trash I see is him bagging up& leaving! You did right!

I back you up on this. Going through DV and divorce. Made me feel like a loser but it's alllll projection.

Yes, you found out their TRUE character by the way they discard you! Even before that but in the end you see what you knew allll along!

They cannot make you feel any particular way. They can try to do so and you can accept it but then it's your responsibility. We own our thoughts, and we own our feelings.

​@@sunbeam9222victim blaming

Not realizing until 40 years later this is what you were going through, looking back and thinking they were, with someone else and stringing you along. Heart breaking

I was discarded A lot

The hill to hell maybe (nothing else). Those people don´t change - they only change supply.

They won't change not even for another person.

They change supply …. that’s it and that’s all.

Dr. Ramani said it best: if a narc leaves you and starts a new relationship that seems to be going well for awhile, no the narc hasn't improved. It just means the narc has found someone who is willing to put-up-and-shut-up.

@@linneasimchah1621or who hasn’t figured out who they are yet! ❤

Please don't do the narc's job for them by devaluing yourself. When we know better, we do better. Just be willing to learn, one baby step at a time. Be good to yourself.

You need to be kind to yourself! Love yourself, get a good therapist who is knowledgeable about trauma caused due to living with a narcissist. Most importantly, get closer to God and to HIS love 🙏 HE will get you out of this situation.

@@patriciabell4238 Thank you!

@@linneasimchah1621 Thanks à lot!

You're not weak. You were abused. They refuse us sleep, sometimes even food when we live with them. It's impossible to protect yourself under those conditions until you get out. Then you can heal.

Narcissists have a special place in hell👹

I'm SOoOo sorry. I'm dealing with a terrible dad that tricked me for a long time

In reality nobody wants a man like him. 🤢

😂 my ex girlfriend said something similar. "You were like a god to me. My conscience is clear, but i am sorry that MY plan didn't work out. You'll never find someone as good as me."

My father (psycho narcissist) would never stop stalking me on social media even though I was a liberal red n loving commie. I had to block him everywhere - over a period of a decade. The fing worst person.

Same. They didn't tell me when my narc mother died...which is okay because I wouldn't have attended the funeral.

I learned at 36. It's a hard truth but it's a foundation for building a stronger healthier life.

I have yet to find a good therapist that understands narcissistic abuse. I'm glad you blocked him. I did that right away and I got off social media just like Dr. Ramani says in this video. It can feel like you're all alone and sometimes it does for me but it's better than the alternative.

Pretending to know better than therapists sound like what a narcissist would do to validate their victim made-up convenient story. 🤨

​@@Damesanglante indeed but shhh because how dare you blame the victim , another popular narcissist card🙄

One baby step at a time. You can do it. You're worth it.

Realizing HE IS A 1 DIMENSIONAL mentally ill person..... Helps. I swear.

I thought the same about my ex husband. I was completely broken for such a long time. Even though I left him. But slowly, little by little he has left my thoughts. And the space he youst to fill, became more and more full of more positive things and more positive people. And in turn I clearly saw how negatively my life had been consumed by him. I drove past him and his new supply the other day for the first time, and at the time I felt nothing. No sadness, no anger, no jealousy, nothing. 3 years after leaving, I’m now back to questioning why did he treat me that way, but I know that it’s only because I saw him and I know it will pass too. I’ll never truly have the answer to that, but apart from the odd blip, I am accepting that I’ll never know why and I’m grateful I don’t understand why, because it means I’m not like it. It will get better and you will be better for it.

Ain't that the truth. Same. Really at the discard. It wasn't going yo last from jump in his mind. He thought I was his retirement fund.

Mine too😢

I can relate.

Yup

Looking back , the facade must have been extremely difficult for him that 1st year..we married after 8 months and by month 11 the switch flipped..and for me to start seeing the red flags for what they are/were was 5 yrs into marriage.

You are straight tripping, accepting what happen and wishing them well will suffice, the irony is nothing they did positive was even genuine lol it was all a rooze and manipulation chest move. Don’t waste your time. Let your loss of memory, new journey of growth and self betterment and your heart handle the rest. Throw that list out burn it and never value anything about them and claim the experience you had as a beautiful gif from the universe to push you foward

Horrible

Offffffhhh what?? A new supply raising your children?? No come on… not accepted

May God be with you my friend is going through this currently😢 I care about you and her because that’s inhumane.

@@Islamiciman my compassion to your friend, and not to lose hope.

This is what my ex is currently trying to set up .. I can see it coming

You did nothing wrong, don't twist yourself into a pretzel for a partner, their logic is so flawed you will break your back doing mental gymnastics trying to understand, stick to logic and reason, if it doesn't seem reasonable, if it isn't logical, if it isn't rational, walk away, narcissist are never rational or logical, they do and say things that go against the social norm, they seem off, you may think maybe their parents just didn't teach them social skills, maybe they never knew love, so we try to show them how, and why and that's when shit hits the fan, they reject all that is good and chip away every good quality and personality trait you have, don't allow them to do so,

Thank you for this post! I’m 9.5 months in “after discard” after 26.5 years of Marriage. Talk about almost insanity… I’m better , in therapy, in divorce and on my knees in prayer daily. I pray I can get where you are!! Yes

Even after we divorced he was an @ss, had visitation with our daughter. He mellowed out for about a year and half and wasn’t so offensive. The reason was that he got a new girlfriend, our daughter was happier too when she came back from visitation. But he eventually blew that relationship. I knew she was a good woman because he never would go for someone who didn’t give a lot of supply.

Well said.It's like they would repeating their low level behaviour for shocking me.Like they would want to be a part of everything for giving the feeling that freedom is not a possible word.Free means to me without them.

Be never one of them again. Say: NO.

Tell them oh I’m sorry I have no more BLOOD for you vampire narc!

Nothing is ever enough for these blood suckers

Because they are energy vampires and take your "life force" you have that give life to things and people in your sphere. They don't have that light just darkness. They are dark demonic force entities that don't want good, light, love, happiness, joy or anything great happening in the world. GET AWAY FROM THEM!! YOU UNDERSTAND?? By them being drained means they are self destructing like they need to. They are addicted personalities and time wasters. Believe me, I married and divorcing one after six months. Was together one year, biggest regret of my life. I am getting my energy back. He discarded me like trash over lack of financial supply and chronic adultery. I am a spiritual empath and believe in sacred loyalty and commitment. We are the unicorn bada%sses the spiritual realm.

Yeah getting fired over and over because of Narcissistic crazies. You really call this a "culture"?

The fool had NO filter on his funky mouth.

Abuser is a weak coward. Fragile and weak minded. Strong people are balanced, smart and healthy.

You are worthy of being loved just as you are.

@@amazingjane2703 we all are. Unfortunately, not everyone sees it.

Love and respect yourself first and foremost...love and respect for others will come in time Good luck

We will never get answers we just have to learn to live with it ❤ we can do this 💪

I am so sorry that happened to you. I am glad you are able to move on. The pain will always be there, but not as strong. You are loveable - remember that. Satan wants you to believe you aren't = it's a lie.

😂

😂good luck to her. He’s her problem now x

What's funny about that? Is she not a victim like you were?

Whooo wouldn’t that be the ultimate karma? The Narc getting Narc’d! 😮

@@4WallsDesigns The fireworks are extreme!

😂😂 let's just say my husband met his match and hates it,

​@@4WallsDesignsoh they do! Narcs are "predators" so they predate other humans non Narcs or in some cases weaker Narcs or Borderlines. Another NPD can destroy an NPD. A Borderline can put a narcissist through hell. Not to mention comorbidity. Like NPD/BPD or NPD/ASPD etc.

Two romantic NPDs will abuse each other. It rarely lasts, unless they discover they can work together in getting their narcissistic supply.

Make sure you have a safe place to go to. I had this dilemma and no back up resources.

TBH what I read here doesnt sound normal or healthy.. You let a narcissist suck you back in, in return for money ? So a rich narc can treat you however he wants and just pay you to forgive him ? You realize a couple of thousand dollar can be nothing for some people.

If there's red flags run! I'm glad you got away. It only gets worse the more time you put up with the bad behavior. I had one date and I didn't want to see him ever again. It's a good thing to realize what you don't want. You don't owe them anything.

I am sorry you’re going thru this. I have been thru this with previous boyfriends. It’s super hard but you have to prioritize your well being. You are not responsible for her, so don’t let her manipulate her which is sounds like she’s doing accusing you of abandoning her. It’s a classic narc move. You can wish her well and let her go. It’s ok to take care of yourself. Keep your healthy boundaries for sure. 👍

I got a question for you, what do you see the two of you in the future?....Will the former relationship would last long enough regarding to your former gf's baggage? Do you think it's worth the time and effort fulfilling your life with someone who might not be really not into you to begin with? Dealing with a potential narcissist, it's carrying twice the heavy weight carrying on your shoulders. I'm recently divorced in a 18 year marriage with a covert narc and it was great at first, but in the latter, my ex started to show their red flags held high. Over time, my ex was acting incredibly defensive and I could tell my ex was lying stuff from me and even using me very out of marirital norm. So I started watching these YT from Dr. Ramani and I grew a "3rd eye". Later on, my ex decided to discarded me because we will be "miserable" together which as far as I know we weren't. So I asked my ex if she's being seeing someone else, and then my ex wasn't giving me a straight answer where I realized my ex was lying. From there, I left my ex for good and blocked from my phone. So to my conclusion, it's not your fault and I wouldn't be feeling guilty at all because I'm sure 10 times out of 10 your former girlfriend wouldn't care not even the slightest about you. Remember, narcissists are pretty much actors to use us into our authentic lives because they can't afford to be alone and overly defensive to their true selves, the narcs are literally afraid to the real world. So be strong, be self love, don't try to ruminate about the past (Its not easy, but itll take time to self heal) and don't try to fall into their trap because one way or another, they'll place a trap to fall for it. Best of luck to you, friend. P.S. keep watching those related NPD YT videos so you can have that "3rd eye". Once you get it, you'll be surprised and have self awareness.

It's healthy to let go of someone abusive. That's all you need to know. You're not abandoning her you're abandoning that behavior of her, which is what any sane person would do.

@@beskarman38 Thank you

@@sunbeam9222 Thank you

Nice

So sorry that happened to you. And you survived!! You are a survivor and that proves you are strong. Find just one true friend to help you heal. You will !

Coverts are annoying but Communal and Malignant can be way worse! But I've met some coverts. Nothing is ever their fault

My dad was the same ..I'm sorry

Make their voice in your head as small as you possibly can...and make the loving caring one...LOUD & CLEAR

I agree !