Idk what Gauri Shinde is doing right but it’s been 10 years since ‘English Vinglish’ and she wrote some good male characters.

1:35 I love how the French guy accepted shashi's rejection with dignity and grace ❤️

Aditya from jab we met...he was a very rare gentle Bollywood character

I know a guy who sooo fits this idea "man written by women". He helps out in the household, holds interesting opinions, listens to others, is rarely outraged but at the same time tries to protect his loved ones to the best of his capabilities. He is my roommate's boyfriend. Shout out to all such men!

Jane Austen made Men written by Women an aspiration and also accessible.

That's why korean dramas are so famous. The male leads could be seen being soft,sad and emotional. They are not afraid to express themselves and are not confined to the alpha male idea of musculinity. They are sensitive,strong ,protective as well as weak at times. That's what women like.

Some Bollywood characters who fit the bill: Shahid in Jab We Met, Aamir in Taare Zameen Par, SRK in RNBDJ and Dear Zindagi, Varun in October and Sui Dhaaga, Farhan in Dil Dhadakne Do, Akshay in Pad Man.. even Amitabh in Pink. And don't miss Pankaj Tripathi in Bareilly ki Barfi, Gunjan Saxena and Angrezi mein Kahte hain!

As a sensitive, emotional and soft man myself, I feel that girls/female partners appreciate and like this quality of mine more than my male friends. They feel that since I am 6 ft with a baritone voice and all, I should "act" like a "male". Today I understood what they meant. I should act like the version of male in their heads. Well, I couldn't care less.

I really loved the thoughtfulness of the character of Rana (Irfan Khan) in Piku, where we can see the kind of background he comes from - he doesn't make it a point to use against women but understands them even better.

As a male myself, I think this is a idea that could be implemented at both men and women. Masculine and feminine qualities are not inferior or superior, both are beautiful in their own way, but they are very different. By just accepting ourselves to be solely ‘masculine’ or solely ‘feminine’ we limit a lot of creative drive and energy that we might otherwise discover. So maybe it’s more about adapting the best of both the ‘masculine’ and ‘feminine’ traits to develop a more strong, independent, but ready to learn mindset, and this does not only applies to men.

Normalise using ’The Tragedy of Heterosexuality’ in daily conversation.

Apart from the men mentioned, I think Ross Lynch, Fawad Khan, Tahir Raj Bhasin, Parambrata Chatterjee and Abir Chatterjee. Also, he’s no more but Soumitra Chatterjee was up there as a man written by a woman.

It's a great thing that now women know what they want from a relationship, and how they want to be treated? Masculinity is not anti-feminism but it also does not mean showcasing it with dominance, aggression and violent nature

Thank you so much for making this video. With the hype around Chinese and Korean drama reaching its peak, I believe this concept of men is the most desired one now. The way the Swaddle team has break down this concept through their research is just applaudable. I must say Swaddle videos educate me a lot. Being a journalist student, this channel is like an enlightenment dose for me. 😇😇😇😇

when they showed sharukh on the screen i’m taken back to shrayana bhattacharya’s desperately seeking shah rukh - after having read the book where she breaks down why srk is a female icon and not a feminist one, i truly seem to understand where this idea of ‘men written by women’ started from (in context of present day bollywood)

Make a video abt how daughters "teenager" are shown as problematic PPL like of aarya, English winglish, family man ...why only daughters...

Jackson Wang 💕He is a man written by woman. Not a fictional but a real man. 😘Such a humble and sweet person.

Kim Namjoon comes to my mind when i hear this phrase "a man written by Women".

Kim Namjoon aka RM of BTS (a Korean music group) is definitely a man written by a woman. He's intelligent (IQ of 148, top 1% of south korea) talented, incredible lyricist, loves books and art, warm and kind, a feminist, nature lover, and so much more plus tall and handsome with a cute dimpled smile 💜

kim NAMJOON... all the way knj... he is writeen by a woman...i mwan seems to. i'm 22 and still can't get over him...uff...bless my soul.

Literally the whole of wattpad works on this phenomenon and the statements i get to hear that 'I don't have a crush but on fictional characters yes i do' or that 'the male characters in the book or this fictional character has so increased my standards that it feels like no other man around me can cross it' are some statements that i literally get to hear on daily basis in my school and their obsession towards fan fictions is on another level

patriarchy doesn't just effect women, but men to a large degree. No matter how fictional, media dictates how we see the opposite gender and how we ourselves resonate with our own gender. The problem with most of popular media being penned by men is that it gives an eskewed prespective on women making them one dimensional, and for men, dictating how a "proper" man should behave. I mean even as women, we see straight through the male gaze, an even femininity to what they describe. normal men, it's not that they don't posses these qualities but more so that they aren't allowed to. It may seem that our lists are long, but on a human level, every individual wants a partner who is supportive and respectful of them.

Sid from Dil Chahta Hai is an example of a man written by a man but from a feminist’s lens. He’s very much part of the boys’ gang but has a soft, sensitive and emotionally intelligent side. Can we have more of him? 🥹

What are responsibilities of females according to feminism?

4:15 "Both women written by men and men written by woman, tropes are the direct embodiment of the male and female gaze and their collective fantasies. But While the former reduces real women to the sum of their parts, the later is an attempt to redeem real men by infusing their fictional selves with more warmth sensitivity and compassion. "

I've always felt how Kim Namjoon is the man written by woman. I've grown up in a household where masculinity has been toxic and in that situation finding soft beautiful men like them really felt like a ray of hope and comfort. Since then I've changed my way of looking at people and I try my best to break the stereotypes. Anyway, it feels good to know such amazing men who truly mean so much to me now

I know it's a bit out of context but I really really liked the male lead in the kdrama it's ok to not be ok. I am not talking about looks, I am talking about his character. His charecter was very different from typical male leads. He was so selfless, patience and his struggle to live for himself rather than living his entire life for others was really heart touching. I never felt so much for any male as much as I did for him. Definitely my life was not as hard as his but the feeling of always having to sacrifice for others was relatable. That guy lost his father and then mother when he was just 12 and alone had to take care of his mentally unstable older brother. I cried many times seeing him crying because it felt like I am living it. He never attacked back on anyone who used to beat or shout at him because he felt like if he will remain quite then things won't become worst. So he suppressed his anger, his feelings, his needs just to make others comfortable. Always gave others more priority than himself. My mom was also like him.

ok so basically men who do the bare minimum for us and give us basic respect

Simple solution : Stop fantasizing on what you see on social media. True for both men and women.

Gilbert from Anne with an 'E'

Any man who can be gentle to take one's vulnerabilities and handle them with care is way more attractive than a tough guy who can't express his feelings openly.

All I see in this video Men written by women is right Women written by men is wrong It's time to rethink judgments made in this video. The fundamental problem is this "It's too much to ask for."

I’m grateful I have my husband who’s exactly “men written by women”. Smart, sensitive, in touch with his grace. I just sent him this video. ❤

"Men written by women" the moment I see this phrase, the first person who comes to my mind is Kim Namjoon.

Celebrities like: Tom Holland, Andrew, Chris Evans, Chris Hemsworth, Chris prett .. almost all marvel cast and in Bollywood our very own SRK

Kim Namjoon needed to feature in this video and Mr .Darcy from pride and prejudice is upfront representative of genre 'men written by women' kudos to Jane Austen for such timeless creation.

And women written by men will never include women written by Oscar Wilde, Russel. T. Davies, etc. and men written by women won't include Emily Bronte, Erika Mitchell,etc

If there's a celebrity who completely resembles this phrase “Man written by a Woman” it is definitely Kim Namjoon from BTS like that man sure feels like a mirage sometimes 😭

This can only happen when both men and women have the understanding to go beyond their fantasies...and take a peek on the person within.... Sadly with each passing day.... we are going away from this.

Hi, please make a video on jealousy in a personal relationship and restricting women's lives for it or constantly mentally torturing them. I've seen people very very close to me go through that, and it still haunts me. Also, make a video on stalking women. How this is so rampant. And, our system doesn't take action against the perpetrator, instead, restricts the victim; but stalking doesn't stop, results in more horrible crimes like murder; and more importantly, that is just so unfair.

Varun Dhawan and Vicky koushal can be. More than shahrukh i think the characters of saif ali khan can be included. There are many in kpop like jimin from BTS, Lee know from stray kids, the whole TXT, Jay from enhypen , atleast half of the members of seventeen etc.... Shawn mendes, timothee chalamet the list goes on..

The french man in English vinglish has my heart forever❤️

BTS are men written by women:”)

Don't forget the ghost from paheli. He is a ghost which highlights how impossible it is to find great men in real life- Pankaj sachdev

RM of BTS

Don't forget Ben from The Intern !!

kim namjoon 😍

And obviously expecting a man to be highly emotionally intelligent and being 'traditionally masculine' are not toxic traits at all

Lord you explained everything so smoothly and beautifully !! *Chef's kiss* I loved it 😭😭😭

Do Kyungsoo for me is man written by woman For me, he is close to definition of a man with whom I'll always feel comfortable and lovable Someone who has deep emotions, a straightforward mind and a sensitive heart I can go and on and on about him being my dream man and I hope he also meets his dream woman soon!!!♡

i am actually blown away by this video, so well though so enriching

Nothing beats Gilbert from 'Anne of green gables'

Umm for me it's SRK's character from Dear jindagi and Fl's father in thappad movie and ml (Irfan Khan) in piku Don't remember much about Hollywood actors/characters as I rarely watch those movies

Kim Namjoon through and through.

So I will share some of my experience and understanding as an Indian male here, even though very few are going to care. I am a 26 years old heterosexual male and I believe I am a compassionate, kind-hearted, and soft spoken person. I see myself as being both masculine and feminine. Masculine because I enjoy and desire having a strong physique and also enjoy some traits that are generally associated with traditional masculinity. My education is in engineering from a good institute and I enjoy painting, learning musical instruments, reading books and other creative stuffs. In my 26 years of existence, I haven't experienced any romantic interest from the other gender. Although my looks are average, my height is below average (5'1"). As a teenager, I used to worry about my height. I believe many men do because that is what is highly desired by those who we see as romantic interests. I saw few doctors and later understood that it is something that can't be changed. I had an intense liking for a girl and everytime I used to listen to her idea of a perfect man it used to break my heart. She wanted to marry a tall man with few more masculine traits. She eventually married a tall man and I am happy that the man she is with is a really nice person. I always wish them the best in life. However, I did felt less masculine in my teenage years and wondered how to overcome that. I thankfully followed my heart and learned things I love. My female friends always compliments me for my creative abilities. However, none of them desires a man like me as their partner. I don't blame anyone, nor do I think they are wrong. People can obviously have preferences. Women can have preferences such as a tall and masculine man. I just don't believe that anyone is ever going to love me for who I am and that's fine. I have accepted it with grace. I will continue to embrace my masculine and feminine aspects. I believe many women do like feminine qualities (like the ones I possess) in their husbands but only after they become their husband. In simpler words, women would choose a tall and masculine man as their husband and then want him to be a man with feminine qualities. Again, I am not saying that it is wrong, it is okay to have any kind of preference. I just want to say that I resemble these "men written by women" characters to some degree but I don't believe any woman is ever going to love me atleast as a potential partner. She might value these traits of mine if ever I get married to someone. As a man I feel it gets somewhat confusing for us as we don't understand what to become and whom to satisfy. Once I tried to become what my female peers desired and probably failed. Now I am getting these lists of things that I need to become by feminists. I feel tired sometimes. I feel that love is so difficult for people like me. The traits that women seem to desire in the real world and the traits that are shown as desirable to women in theory doesn't seem to match. What to become? How much more to satisfy ? Maybe I'll just workout in the evenings and play my harmonica from my balcony and enjoy alone. Maybe I'll also write some poetry for women who think I can never be good enough.

Lee Jun-ho (Kang Tae-oh) from Extraordinary Attorney Woo

A celebrity that not only me but many others see as having been written by a woman would be Kim Namjoon. He's the leader of the South Korean boy group, BTS. He's intelligent, handsome, immensely talented at what he does, is a feminist, is sensitive, warm and everything else. Some of his hobbies include reading books, visiting museums, taking walks in parks, admiring nature, etc. From what I have seen, what I personally like about him is his nature and the fact that unlike most men he apologizes for his mistakes, tries to understand the problem and makes sure that it never happens again. He is also a great leader and the other members appreciate him a lot.

Well I agree with the fact that 'women written by men' are not enough significant like 'men written by women' we should not generalise the former. There are some nice examples of beautiful and strong female characters being written by men. Like Bahubali (Devasena & Shivagami); The white tiger (Pinky), etc. Though they number pretty less.

Put up the good work, Swdl. Love it !

Lmao not ‘The Swaddle’ making my morning with the Hand Flex Scene from ‘Pride and Prejudice’ which I’ve recreated with my camera facing on point.

This is exactly what I disliked in the Barbie movie. She mocked everything about male and female stereotypes in the society, but the moment at the end all the barbies start to trap the kens, the moment where she says “just say you don’t know how to do some physical or technical work, just say you haven’t seen The Godfather, just say you haven’t appreciated something that the male population will crave and they can’t help themselves but try and explain or correct you” I started feeling Greta Gerwig really doesn’t like men at all..subconsciously. It went a little too far and made me feel, why is appreciating The Godfather a masculine thing and “toxic”? Isn’t it really a masterpiece? Why is asking for help doing technical stuff “toxic”? Not just asking for help, but HELPING A PERSON WHO’S ASKING FOR HELP DOING TECHNICAL STUFF! Wrap your head around that! That’s the point where I got disconnected from the Barbie movie and started feeling she’s hiding a lot of hatred for masculinity, even in the forms it is needed.

Harry styles and ayushman khurrana ❤️

when i saw Lee jung suk and Jackson in the intro i thought even the kdrama k-pop reference will be made, coz they have many "written by women kind of men" there. but nevertheless loved how almost all indian and western softbois are shown here... and the contrast between "men written by women" and "women written by men" was just so apt....

Wow thanku so much swaddle team for this

Women do u love us the way we wanted? The answer is big "NO" Isn't the very core of our modern society don't fit into someone's else expections?

Oh my God, I was a fool to think my man was a "man written by a women." Well, I am not also a "manic pixie dream girl". So, we both are disappointed for these two reasons. Now, tell me what to do to keep things romantic.

Loved this video the most this far❣️❣️❣️❣️❣️❣️❣️❣️ lots of love and good vibes to you all swaddle 💞💞💞

BTS, they are the personification of "men written by women"

To all sane minded boys who are gonna watch this video remember one thing REJECT WOKENESS EMBRACE MASCULINITY. be proud of your Masculinity and being a man.

Good video! Loved it!

Bangchan from SKZ, Jackson Wang etc 😭🏃🏻‍♀️

Jackson Wang....these two words and you have my attention 💯

The protagonist named Gary Preston from a British sitcom Miranda stole my heart

Personally I think the source of this is toxic masculinity tbh, if we men can be in touch with our emotions more and care about ourselves more as well rejecting toxic masculine norms of being the bread winner all the time of having to dominate (which often has patriachal notions) I think we can become better. Its like the one of the commenters said Patriarchy also affects men (ofc women are more affected in terms of their agency and autonomy). And I think it's in men's interest to address this, masculinity isn't the problem as a cis hetereosexual man I enjoy masculinity but creating a more emotionally intimate, caring and kinder masculinity. I'd even advocate for showing affection for one and another, and that doesn't make us less masculine at all.

wonder what pieces women have written about the real experiences with men, not their fantasies but the reality.. would love to read something like that..suggestions are welcome

Don't search who directed American Psycho

What a brilliant video !!!

What is "men born and raised by women" phenomenon?

Every line spoken in this video is 100% true. I have projected my fantasies on many a fictional characters and Jackson Wang.

Dev Patel was definitely written by women 😭

Men or women need to accept the other person as they are ! The fantasy that the perfect mate will be so n so is started by cinema ,art and social media.... It's time we respect everyone for themselves even if we don't believe in their ways. Saves alot of animosity. ... Being kind is the ultimate goal

SRK in Kabhi ha kabhi naa, yes boss, pardes and my name is khan, irfan khan in piku, the namesake and the lunchbox, Rahul Bose in The Japanese wife, mr. and mrs. Iyer, 15 park avenue, Johnny depp in benny and Joon, Edward scissorhands, what’s eating Gilbert grape, Donnie brasco, blow and Ed wood

Kdramas in the form of second male lead have shown us what a woman really wants in a man... Although the female lead goes for male lead there are plenty women who'll choose the second lead... I'd do that btw🤗... But these characters elaborate and show us that men are humans too who feel all these emotions and are accepted by women...

Work on yourself and get what you desire. Or Cry on the Internet. It's your life.

As the person whos presenting this video is Indian, i assume you know a dancer, actor and a comedian named Raghav Juyal. I have been obsessed with his persona since forever including the personalities you mentioned here such as Timmy, Hiddleston, Sid, Reaves, Ayush etc. (I personally believe DylanOBrien & Ben Barnes also belong to this though they didnt appear in this video) Now only i understand why they all make my heart flutter for all this time coz they all carry this soft masculine energy thats way more appealing to women more than biceps & triceps.

The men of JRR Tolkien : Aragorn, Frodo, Samwise, Merry, Pippin, etc etc...they were written by a man and boy oh boy what characters they are. Just sharing.

This is so good

its the way i knew this video would be good the secong i saw jackson wang. he is the embodiment of "men written my women"

Delusion is strong in this one.

so good!

I always wonder what women truly feels like. And I don't know what's in their heart deep inside. It feels like these characters are a window into their world. Its amazing just how different we all truly are and still we're all the same. Truly amazing thank you.

Rishi singh Shekhawat from Mismatched is a male written by a female.

Ritesh deshmukh for her wife

I was watching Mismatched and came across this vid...Rishi Singh Shekhawat anyone? Also in the Bridgerton series, Colin matches the description perfectly!

Irfan Khan from Piku

Now Heterosexual is the problem? 😮 You guys are taking this to a whole another level

Swaddle I would really appreciate if you made this video in Hindi as well to appeal to the non English speakers and make them understand such concepts.

Please include Chris Evans as well🤧♥️

How can we forget ✨Chris Evans ✨

Quoyina Ghosh , I am in love with your Dusky Tone , Not being Racist here but I simply loved her skin tone , She looks sooo beautiful 😍😍😍 Simple and Elegant you are.