It’s not nice from a man to ignore a woman, he just needs to tell her he is busy, or he does not have feelings for her anymore. Guys should be gentlemen.

This makes so much sense, everytime he ignores me I will start doing 100 jump squats, 100 pushups, 100 kettlebell swings, 100 burpees, 100 hip thrusts, 100 lunges, 100 crunches etc (alternating everytime)... Until every thought of him leaves my body 💥🏋️‍♀️. Sick of dating men that act like children and do not communicate.

It's so simple if a man ingnores you, ingnore him for good , delete the number, sleep, eat and move on. It hurts at first but 3 or 4 days ur good to goo.

Man, I just wanna go on a girl's trip with all the ladies in the comment section. It would be a night of lit stories and conversations and revelations and lessons. What a bunch of woke, beautiful, smart, independent women. 😍🔥🙌

Don't lie to yourself, you know inside when a man is interested in you or not! Women's intuition!

You ignore him back! The end! Bye boy bye! Ain’t nobody got time for that!

Texting is a man-child's playground. I replied "who is this" to a grown boy I thankfully wasn't really attracted to. He thought he could dissapear and pop up a few weeks later with an after 8pm text. He told me who he was and I never replied. I use to think it was rude to not respond and was surprised at how good it felt to not respond. Brought a whole new meaning to the term self-respect for me. There's always the "test" you see how poorly they can treat you and the go-to method is ghosting and reapearing at some point down the road and it's ALWAYS via text. Never ever reply to a text from a ghost.

When he ignores you... Leave him alone.

When a man loves a woman, he can't get enough of her. If he's ghosting, he not only doesn't love her, he's a coward, to boot... out the door. Life is too short to date disrespectful men. 😏😉

I was in so much pain during the worst heartbreak of my life, that I used the pain to earn my degree and now I write books.

What Ive never understood is why do people ignore each other? Are we not mature enough to show a small act of kindness and have enough respect for each other?

If a man ignores you he just doesn't like you , and most likely you don't even matter to him ... This is the rule , the other stuff is just an exception

It’s not about the chase. If a guy “ghosts” it’s usually because he thinks he has found something better. Period. It’s not rocket science and there’s no hidden meaning behind his rude behavior other than discard. Move on. That’s why you don’t attach yourself--you begin to form expectations. Don’t expect shit and don’t give a shit. You’re a gold mine and can find someone else that won’t disrespect you.

If he's in your life, you're ok If he's not in your life, You're ok A quote from the Dalai llama 🙏

If he wants you, he will let it be known!

Ladies , my best advice is : make some exercise, join the gym and regain your power! We are all worthy and powerful! Do not expect men to treat us certain ways to feel valuable. And trust me , if you feel strong, look strong and empowered , nobody will mess with you. Love yourself first , and people around you will hesitate to disrespect you!

Isn't there something wrong with modern day dating if women are being taught to have to "learn" what to do when a man ignores them? Why is there no video out there teaching men to have more open and honest conversations rather than ghosting the women they are dating? I mean I can do everything to forget about the guy that ignored me and move on, but I think there are more fundamental problems with society today if we are being mentally prepared for the person we are seeing to just vanish one day.

Ignoring someone is mental abuse...emotional abuse and hurts just as much as being punched in the face..Abuse is Abuse

I learned a LOT from my last “bad” relationship. My ex used to be pretty terrible to me with the ignoring. He just totally took me for granted. I did all the wrong, disempowering things. After the relationship finally really and totally ended, another guy asked me out. If I felt any kind of,”hmmm, where has he gone,(ignoring), instead of how I used to react, I totally did the polar opposite. Just did my own thing. I will never ever ever give my power away again for anyone. And it feels SOOOO much better to respond in this way.

I've learned to lose myself in God and His Word, so I never lose myself in a man. Best wishes ladies, decent men exist. Thanks Brian 😉

Some men just want to ignore you as they want to feel important and chased after i have given up on people like that. This shows immaturity and confused personalities the person who can not decide on what is good for him doesnt deserve my time and love

Stay single= no drama = happy life. Trust the time and The right guy will cross your path 😉

I have noticed in relationship I can get a little too needy/clingy.. So I used this method and it works for me. When he detach, I detach, When he gets silent, I get silent. And watch him start to open up.

I wish they would just be real and honest. Dont say your love me, act like you love me and then disappoint me. I cant. Being alone is better than being ignored.

I cut my grass today 😄...left my cellphone inside the house the entire time. It really works.. And I was able to save $40.00 by cutting the grass myself...

I usually delete his number out of my phone. Out of sight, out of mind. That helps me not have the urge to text him or have a way of contacting him and if his numbers pop up then I will choose whether I want to respond or ignore it. It depends on how far away I am from the feelings I was developing for him. One time, I did this and 6 mos later he came back and called me and I didn't even know who it was. The number was foreign to me because I didn't have his number memorized, just his name that I inserted into my contacts, so when he called I was like, who is this? Haha! That was hysterical. That was also very genuine because I truly had put him out of my mind.

How many people have recently been ghosted? And are now watching this. 😂

Exactly! Don’t take it personally. It’s their loss.😉

The secret is ignoring, so ignore back

In some cases it is because after the flattery and lovebombing, he is still not getting what he wants quick enough. So he pulls back after he feels the woman has emotionally connected hoping that his sudden withdrawal will turn the tables and get her to start chasing him so that she gives in to what he wants from her. Best thing to do is ignore back get further away. He needs to learn this is not what he can do to be rewarded.

When he started ignoring me, I went back Playing basketball, I really love bball. I didn't know this. But it really worked. I made him less important in my life. I hit the gym. Meet friends. Watch my favorite movies.

The reason people get obsessive when they aren't receiving attention from their partner is because they have made their partner the source of their love and happiness. The source of love and happiness is never found in others. It's found within. When people practice on being happy with themselves and alone, they are not dependent on the actions of others for their happiness. So if a partner does something that may appear like they don't love you, it's easier to judge whether to be with them or not because your reasoning won't be coming from a place of fear. Your mind won't be clouded by the fear of being alone. So you'll be better able to judge if this person is someone that you should retain or let go of.

Get comfortable with being uncomfortable

I usually remove the text thread after I've seen hes ignored me, after hes read it. Then I remove pictures, I wait a few days if nothing his number is deleted. And within this time he still hasn't replied back I'm entertaining other men with conversations maybe go on dates, doing me. I dont deserve to be ignored period! And you gotta value yourself and know it's not starting off good if he is choosing to ignore you. Baby move on down the road.. And I know its Gods protection...

Different times will come when a guy, or anyone or anything, ignores you or makes you feel bad. Understand now that your brain will get hooked on whatever brought relief so it is important to pick the right thing/action. In this case, do something empowering. LOVE YOURSELF THE WAY YOU DESERVE TO BE LOVED. GIVE YOURSELF the happiness YOU deserve & choose. Those actions will become what your brain will automatically want to do whenever you feel bad. So don't sit around waiting for his reply to give you relief, or even wait staring at his picture. In life in general, don't binge on series or junk food, alcohol, joints, smoke, or anything you know is not in YOUR best interest so that your brain doesn't end up marking it as something good/relieving in bad situations you can't control....which life is full of.

Fall in love with yourself. Spares you a lot of problems.

If someone do this you cut him off asap and never look back peace and blessing take care

He ignored my birthday. He's history! 😁

Don’t allow yourself to be ghosted! If he begins ignoring you, call and break up with him politely and warmly. Never ghost even when you think they deserve it. Men who like you won’t even fathom ignoring you for days, so end it when he does.

This is absolute GOLD! I figured out this “anxiety” after I realised that the small amount of time I had known someone didn’t correlate with how much I thought I liked them. This is precisely what you describe. It’s a type of irrational fear that you are desperate to get rid of and will easily take the “antidote” of hearing from them or contacting them yourself. This knowledge of the pattern is absolutely brilliant and once you know it you can overcome it.

This guy is my favorite of all the coaches: he is a normal dude! And he speaks to us like a mate would. I like it.

Brian is the best. Intelligent, sensitive and sincere.

Why aren't we taught this in schools?? 😂would save so much heartache

I could never chase after a guy. I love and respect myself too much! Then they still find fault in me. Lol

If he is a real man, he should let you know why he doesn't have time for you, just that simple. I am done with this kind of man. I don't even let this go this far if i feel he ignore me or i become '' the lamp in the corner'', to take when it is dark and put me away when there is light..I LEAVE! Because i can and i am more worth! I am 50 now, and can also feel very happy alone. I don't care. Who does he think he is? I have a lot to give, and i know i am an interesting and sweet person I don't need such a man in my life. Men become too lazy these days, they don't put any effort into this. Fine by me, there is the door, goodbye and move on, I am too old for this kind of shit............Well, maybe if he is Brad Pitt, i will reconsider..

Apparently, most relationships fall apart so easily when love and time don't go in sync. Love speaks of time, and how we spend it makes the difference. How hard is taking a minute of your time to make one feel seen, heard, and valued? I guess everybody is dying to look for someone who can invest time for them more than anything. The truth is, love makes ways not excuses, for no one is too busy if they think you are worth it.

He ignored me. I ignored back. He comes back to complain I didn't reach out bruh

I needed this so much, thank you. I'm healing from dreadful narcissist abuse. I get triggered when I know a guy has free time but chooses not to spend it on me. I need to value myself more. I'm am shifting from lack to abundance.

I would like to see more dating coaches in KZfaq teaching guys on how they should never EVER just ignore someone instead of discussing their feelings - or lack of feelings in this case. It just heartbreaking that they are so inmature.

I love that u incorporate the brain science behind our patterns and reactions.

When he ignores you ignore him then when he finally texts you tell him to F-off! Then block him and move on! Dont even bother explaining when they act stupid like they don't understand! They Know!!!!

When a man ignores you, it clearly means he's found someone better. I know it hurts but it's time to move on from that man. Been there and done that. This has taught me the strongest language of self love

If a guy ignores me I'll reach out a couple times and then if nothing it's bye bye because then it's a continuous cycle.

While I’m being ignored, I’m placing my valuable attention and effort into the sock I’m knitting and my dog lying on the sofa next to me. Thanks for this valuable information and the great (as always) advice, Brian. Love your videos and channel👩🏼🐶

WooHoo!! Just had this happen and instead of eating ice cream or crying I grinned and went out and did something fun! Thanks for the confirmation!

😃I love it when you say “Until that moment when that IDIOT suddenly ignores you! 😂 Thanks for being on our side here 💝

I'm still working on not caring but I still can't help but feel so sick and tired of being ignored by someone I care about. The first guy, I was with him for two years we were starting to plan our future together we both showed we were happy together and then he suddenly ignored me through social media, messaging, work, and at school. I was devastated, confused, and alone. The second guy, I was with him for a few months, he treated me like we were in a relationship, and then out of nowhere he ignored me. I was instantly triggered and felt so devastated and confused all over again like the first time. I still stayed with the second guy and let him do it all over again, on and off for almost two years. and each time I'd let the uncertainty of being ignored take control of me. Watching this video makes a lot of sense, it really is like a pattern. Luckily I'm in a better place now, it did take these repetitive experiencs to help me realize how important it is to value myself. Either way I'm really afraid of this happening again. I'm just going to assume most guys will do this and just stay away from them.

I wish I heard this last night! The guy I’m talking to didn’t call or text last night and I ran off to junk food heaven, and then got very angry with myself, definitely a pattern. Thank you for your insight and advice about how to replace the pattern and hopefully create a new pathway.🤞🏻

I am an experienced woman as I am 66... so I can tell it is a very good advise...Do not loose your time with "idiots" if they repeat this behaviour... your time is precious...you will feel better alone than not well accompanied, take the responsibility on your life and first take the habit of being happy by yourself ... I like you Brian...thank you for my little sisters...

I did that-checking phone messages, miss calls and emails. Then i decided to close his chapters. Thanks for affirming my decisions and hold my bad brain.

My 1 year long exclusive guy (we have never even had an argument) hung up on me (for a very silly thing) 3.5 days ago, I got laid off of work while he was ignoring me, I texted that something happened to me and I need his support, he continued to ignore me, then 36 hours ago texted he would call tomorrow which was yesterday, he did not. My whole life has changed in the last 3.5 days and he has no clue. I don't feel ignored, I feel abandoned. I am already looking at jobs out of state and am feeling very done with men.

A week ago I've been ghosted with my bf. And i feel horrible about it. But moving on is the best option i can do. Having a vacation for a week to have self love and confidence again.

THANK YOU Brian Nox. This is so incredibly true. I only recently found that getting lost in a hobby actually helped me reduce my anxiety and feel calmer about what you described. I was wondering why on Earth am I feeling so bad when this happens, and you explained it so well. I also think I associated being ignored with being punished, being wrong, or "too much". But none of that is true. Sometimes certain men cannot handle their own emotions and the really weak ones either have no emotional maturity to handle it well or downright use it to emotionally abuse or punish someone. Either way, I plan to distance myself and keep doing what actually feels good. I'd give a 1,000 likes to this video if I could!

This is so true. Late yesterday afternoon I was hitting PRs on my bike. After, I was walking my dog when I saw a gorgeous moon! I texted my "boyfriend" who was traveling asking for a brief call (wanted to share harvest moon). He texted a blunt relatively harsh text and I have not heard from him since. I am heading back to my bike and crank out some self created endorphins. I am creating not only great cycling numbers but a NEW neural pathway / habit to deal with potential stress! Thank you Brian Nox!

I guess, turn your brain off if you are dating or in the relationship or even better have at least 3 boyfriends so that way if one gets busy you can go to the next

Ladies, have 1 man for each of your needs, problem solved. I cannot tell u the power of options, With options come power with power comes respect🙏🏾

Communication matters in a relationship. When there is no communication or the man or woman is ignoring possibly they have choices. Don't force it. That is a sign they are not good for you. Relationship between adults should be mutual. Cherish yourself!!!

I probably one of this lady you're talking about! If someone ignores me they're dead immediately to me!! That's why I never get closed to people unless am 1000,000% sure who you are!!

Keep yourself busy and looking good always....either he will get right or you’ll simply find another man.Sometimes a man is busy but a busy person makes times for someone they care for period no excuses! My current man did this cause he was mad about something instead of communicating about it.I begin to treat him like he treats me and he got it together quick.Let these men figure it out while you continue to take care of yourself honey!

This is very much true. I've had this happen over and over, to the point where it became a real problem and a part of my depression. It took me a good while of therapy and medication to start changing my behavior. Even so, it is still difficult not to go the same old "oh, validate me!" path. Its a struggle.

Great video. No sign of life = move on. Do your own thing. Stop waiting for him to call or text. I've been there and slowly I've disconnected and realized waiting for signs of life are a waste of time and energy.

"When a man ignores you..." oh good heavens who cares, we all know men flaky delicate flowers, that waste our time, and downgrade our lives (or at least that has been my experience ).

the problem is when you try literally EVERYTHING and nothing matches the dopamine from the message

Brian, this is a clear and accurate explanation of an effective strategy I can actually use. I understand the concept of creating distance when a man “disappears,” but until now I hadn’t found a way to soothe the part of my brain that craves him. I think I’ll create new pathways with something physical (swimming and biking) and something creative (painting). I can’t thank you enough! 😘

Brian's right, ladies. It's hard to be ignored when he was initially very responsive, but if you obsess over it, you're more likely to act unnatural and create a vibe if he does come back. Most men usually navigate relationships in a different light and definitely communicate differently than women. If you're patient enough and he seems like a genuine guy, forget that he stopped texting/calling you if you've just started dating him (I consider this timeframe within the first 6 months). Sometimes they're busy or don't like being on the phone (clarify this). He will make effort when he wants to (or has time to) and you forcing him will only push him away and make you even more miserable. Stop falling back into self-fulfilling prophecies. Live your life with or without a man!

Sometimes I forget these skills and I tend to put men on a pedestal... your videos are a good reminder and really help me to get my head back on straight

It’s about neuroscience. You put it very well. Wow! 🙏👍

He does make a point, some of us panic if our date takes too long to text/message back. But then I keep on watching all these videos on how not to panic between texts or times when one's date seems to disappear. And I wonder, if I am working so hard to cope with the anxiety, then what's the point of even dating or even try getting into a relationship? I mean it seems to be harder to try to date, than to just stay away from dating all together. 🤔

Distraction is a most wonderful tool... for everything...

Excellent. We should train our mind not to be emotionally dependent on anyone ,rather be self dependent and believe in the beauty and power of self .

If it bothers you when he doesn't respond tell him. If it continues he may not be the one for you. A guy who truly loves you will not purposely hurt you.

Great, now my brain is addicted to your videos every time he ignores me 😂😂🤷🏼‍♀️

Genius. Since I was 17 years old I had exactly this painful habit obsessive and now I am 43 dealing with the same path. No question why and I am so glad there is an alternative to end that painful obsessive reactions from my brain.

This comment section feels like therapy❤

Thanks Brian, this was really helpful! I used to write, paint, read before I met this guy and suddenly he became the centre of my life. He stopped calling or texting me all of sudden and I was devastated. I used to check my phone every few minutes. After reaching out to him, he told me he was busy, which he clearly was not, I knew it. It's been a week and again he's doing it, but I'm not going to initiate conversation. I will focus on my hobbies and studies and do what's best for me.

Thats rude and disrespectful when a guy ignores you. Even guy friends do the same. I think its ridiculous. I avoid them and not give them bait. I rather stand in the corner facing the wall then noticing them or giving them attention.

This is brilliant. I often listen to KZfaq videos when I feel ignored. I will go running or something. Thank you Brian.

Or perhaps a red flag you’ll never be a priority in his circle ?

I'm going through this agonizing feeling now,we went on 2 dates,and no word from him,finding Brian's video is helping a great deal,I subscribed 👍 I'm just shocked bcuz I never done this to anybody even if I didn't feel a connection,guess I'm too sensitive 😭

My favorite advice from you so far. Finally not someone saying what I should text him - the idiot who ignored me - but how to deal in a healthy way with that crap that seems to be a norm these days. Creating a healthy habit can only be beneficial. Not trying to control or change a situation that obviously should be left behind. Might be good to leave a thought here; ladies going on a shopping spree with the thought you are treating and focusing on yourself is not the best route. It will not fulfill you truly and will leave you in debt and the void will still be there after the adrenaline rush passes. Focus on things that add to your personal and/or professional growth; now that's more power to you!!!

i was in a panic mode when he ignored me, I worked off the stress BY FULL BLOWN EXERCISE .....it worked !

When he ignores me l do yoga, dance, cooking, sewing or listening music and it's work every time to manage my emotions towards him and put him in the right place he deserves

Leaning back, leave him in his cave, and focussing on yourself. 😋 He’ll get closer or not, at least I am still happy ❤️ and when he coles back he sees a happy me instead of a freaked out me 🥳

Your video has just saved my relationship, my friends have told me to give up and move on because he doesn’t make me happy but he is trying his best and when he upsets me it’s just because I’m obsessing. You have truly helped me and I am so grateful

Thank you, Brain! I was a bit nervous to watch a dating advice video from a man because I have a hard time trusting men, but you seem like a wonderful example of a guy who is in touch with his emotions and mature. I like how your advice isnt about playing games

You’re so on point ! It’s like going down a rabbit hole ... it’s better to trust that when you move on from the wrong, you will walk right into the Right !

Thanks Brian. I keep on reminiscing about the time spent with my ex of 7 years. Still can't believe we've broken up. The reason why I ended our seven year relationship is because he did not propose to me. I loved and respected him dearly and remained loyal to him. Six and a half years into our relationship, I fell in love with a co-worker. After I shared a first kiss. I swear it was just a kiss. I broke it of with the boyfriend of seven years. Needless to say. My relationship with this new guy did not work out as he displayed narcissistic characteristics/behavior. I miss my boyfriend. He is dating someone else. I pray and wish him only the best with his new relationship. I am very scared about the unknown future. I find myself being very sad and heartbroken at times.

Thank you thank you thank you Brian! Although I "know" this stuff, and I tell myself this stuff each time I feel ignored, taken for granted or even abandoned by the man I love, your choice of words and light and breezy manner hit home and is truly calming, reassuring and motivating.

I love this video. You're so speaking to me right now. I've been obsessing over this guy I just met cos he started ignoring me all of a sudden & I just watched your video that laid out my wrongs, you're GOD sent. Keep up the good work. Thanks so much Brian Nox. GOD bless you immensely Amen!!!

This was great! Probably the best explanation of the emotions and how to deal with them- thank you Brian!