Be an adult…communicate…

@@aurora5652 😅 hm well...

True. No one should need to wonder. Communication is very important. And if one has to assume, in any way shape or form then assumed that they were just being busy for family emergencies or something like that. But don't reach out wait for him to reach out to you.

i wish i could like this comment a million times! that is exactly how i operate. i don't make men read my mind. i open my mouth. i absolutely require the same! none of that guessing bs

@@aurora5652 not when you communicate too much and he chooses to shut down emotionally

"Give hime a push" 💀

Needed!😂❤

😂 best comment ever

Exactly

Yep 👍 best comment!

They will in initial stages when all is fresh and new but things will settle with time and that’s perfectly ok. Worst thing one can do then is to get annoyed or upset (mistake I made in past…)

That's wonerful❤

This statement you just made has made such a big difference in my life ❤️

Interesting. I actually don’t think this applies to everyone. Some people have things they need to heal from before they move forward and feel ready for a relationship. Pulling away doesn’t always mean a lack of interest. Sometimes it’s a lack of readiness. But with that being said, if it’s right, it will come back together. I never advise people to wait tho.

@@_jules86I totally agree with you. So true.

Do not date until you are ready or say I just want to hook up. It’s that easy

awesome thoughts

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I agree w you everything except he’ll always chase you. This is tricky bc most men I know have such lil self confidence and often want the women to chase

Why is being needy wrong? People can go thru bad seasons & don't have to pretend all is fine. There's no shame in being alone. Being single & independent isn't needy... it's actually strength & self sufficient. Be honest & proud!

Right.

100% agree

Yes, and then when he does this you know he's not the guy for you. The quicker you can get to that point, the better.

Absolutely 💯

Especially when you ask over and over again is everything okay and they assure you everything is fine and then finally let you know a month later you're the problem and they HAVE pulled away and it's not all in your head. Gaslighting.

Exactly how I feel people are making it ok for these men to treat women with no respect. When things are going wonderful and the last time y’all was together was great and then your ghosted for a freaking month & society is on their side cause something is wrong with you. No it’s the MFer that just ghosted you cause he’s an ass keep it real people.

Um, nope? Lol.

Ummm.... No, EASIER... but not easy! But relationships aren't supposed to be totally and completely easy. There should be some challenging times so you both can grow, and if it's the right person you'll grow together and your relationship will only get stronger! And BTW, if it's too easy, it's probably fake...

I care a damn, women can live without a man, bullshit,

I know what you mean. It doesn’t mean because everything is easier that this is the right person, but I agree, if they are the right person, no need for fear or games.

@@ImaginationTravelTips right ✅️

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So great inspiration. Thanks

YAS QUEEN 🙌

Amen I’m going through that now only it wasn’t just a relationship it was my husband who left me for another woman

Wow 💜💜

This is an awesome comment thank you

Thx for reaffirming my thought n reminding me...I know what I'm doing 😂😉 💛💫💚

Absolutely this!

Right!!! And they say women are difficult and drama. Some males like playing mind games. Why not be upfront and honest?

Completely agree Men are just becoming real assholes in these times.

Women, please! Why you always have to be so self centered and take down men? It might be, that your dream men already had their hearts broken, been abused by the previous women. Don't blame yourself, don't blame your men, instead blame the crazy women - and men - outthere who are dangerous to the community. A dog bit me once, now I am afraid even of the dogs who are smiling at me and wagging their tails. Be good women and show your men how to trust again. But don't even think about turning into a villain dog again, not for a little bit. Men already had villain dogs, don't forget this. Don't wish A and do B, be reflective all the time. We men have feelings too. But in the evolutionary context, men had to hide them during fight, battle, hunt or catastrophies, so men are good at not expressing them properly. The only space, where men were allowed to express their genuinely intimate desire, has always been in their caves or a secret spot, during mating time. This was during evolution. Today we live in revolution and globalization. Men are allowed to do nothing anymore, everything is wrong they do, they are loosing their maculinity slowly. Please women, gather in the streets, hold up signs that say: We want good and nice men back! Show them! Tell them! Seduce them! Thank you!

Totally agree with everything you said!

How many more years do you want to listen to this guy whilst being in a commited relationship. He's using you.

@@ellabella7071 You kidding me! 😹 The advice in this video was perfect - he came right back after a cooldown. I had been smothering. Exactly what Brian Nox warns of - I also got ahold of some of his books. No relationship is perfect! But the advice of this video came at the perfect time.

@@mayohsetsuna Great to hear that!😸Did you take him back? What happen then?

Are you still together? How’s it going?

Thanks for the concern! Yes, still happily together. He jokes that I was “overreacting” to his desire for a cooldown - which I think only reinforces the advice of the video.

I needed to read your last sentence twice ~ it makes perfect sense! Thank you.

well if they do come back, which in my experience they most always do, it's up to YOU whether you allow them back or not. If they lack respect or cross boundaries, they are done.

*be

hey same here. How are things with you now? I'm facing this currently :( i actually blocked him but then he found me, and told me not to unblock. But...he's not texting like he usually does

Omg this is happening with me now

Same 😮

This sounds exactly like the guy I just broke it off with. Is his name Greg 😂

Can I get an update on the situation? What happened?

Yes. Update please

what happened now?

Can we get an update!?

...and a man won't chase you, if he's being chased ~ Why would he? Don't de-value yourself. Keep strong.

That’s true, but be ready to lose them!

Yeah that's true. But then they can't handle the truth. And use their special weapon of choice. Called the Silent 🤫 🙊 treatment. Ooh 👎 makes me so angry 🤬.

Oh

So sorry for your loss, take care. Thanks for a grounded perspective

Love and healing for you! 🙏🏼♥️🙏🏼

I so align with ur text i am so sorry for ur precious loss i also lost my dad recently and its a hard experience.. wish u a all best

@@beecat9951 ❤️

@John Model I wish I could whatsup God and ask him why he did this to me.

That sounds lovely, Ellen, and very healthy. Congrats to you! 🙌

This man is serious about your future together and wanting harmony in the relationship

Congrates ✨

I need to come back here and listen to this, but also to read your post! Thank you for reminding me that not all relationships are war zones, made to make us feel miserable.

This is so great to hear ❤

Mh

I agree with you.

Im exactly the same way! I contact them as well.. just to see .. n well after that if nothing. I just let go

Because he knows its bad behaviour. How you react to him when he returns is what you have to focus on!

Better yet to forget about him.and move on.

​@@wyleecoyotee4252not that easy

He might not cares. He might respond, I am too busy, I have no time for love, etc..

😢 that was deep and sad

I do as well.

Isn’t it how babies are made (and kept alive - I precise « kept alive » because hostile environments can affect people in a suicidal way) ? How could there be a « future of humanity » without babies being made and kept alive ?

@@evat2945 I meant romantic relationships, not sexual relationships.

@@Lilith-9223 I understood that, that’s why I added « kept alive ». Sexual relationship are not enough to keep babies alive, but the tenderness, love, support (and all those sweet other things) we can find in romantic relationships can definitely help in that area.

First someone show they want u then pull u away i still can't get a closure 😵‍💫

Where do things stand now? Are you mentally in a better place?

@find purpose I wish it wasn't so hard. I don't think love is enough.

@@danap4840 I was for almost 4 years in a long distance relationship with a narcissist, he was cheating and lying, taking advantage of me and I understand that it's hard to let go. Loving someone who doesn't love you back is definitely very hard on us, hard for our mental health and affects all aspects in our life. When things ended with him, I didn't want live anymore, I was in a dark place, didn't understand why this always happens to me. However about 18 months have passed since the break up. The break up now feels like a blessing. I don't worry anymore about being cheated on. I don't worry about being taken advantage off anymore. I see the qualities in myself that I put into a relationship with a man that absolutely wasn't worth fighting for. It takes time to let go of a person, but once you overcome it, you will wish you let go much earlier. A guy that doesn't value you, that doesn't appreciate being with you and that doesn't make plans with you to move forward and doesn't support you, is not worth keeping around. Let him go, free yourself. Love yourself and build yourself a life you love on your own. And be open when the right one for you comes. 🙂

@find purpose I am so sorry you had to go through such an ordeal. I am glad to know you're in much better place now and I wish you to find real love and bliss. Thank you for sharing this painful experience with me. I love him so much I still hope we can make this work some how. I might be very deluded. You are a very strong woman you deserve to be loved and happy. All the best to you.

I think sometimes we expect people to be perfect and just be able to communicate directly. But people are different and one thing am learning is that when someone pulls away it hurts because we feel abandoned and rejected but Brian is right, this is an opportunity not to focus on them but to look within and deal without own fears. Let them go figure out what it is they want when nd if they come back then that is the perfect time to have a conversation about why they dropped off the radar without coming across needy or angry. It is at this point you can ask for clarity and it also allows you the chance to decide if you want to carry on dating them or not and who knows whilst they are busy ignoring you, you could actually meet o the men that can replace the ghoster. Sometimes we just have to be willing to let go of people and situations that are not serving us.

i agree.

No the man is not worth it. All these efforts. She should just leave him

did you communicate to him that you had your parents over and that you are so busy

Yeah, did you tell him about your parents, or you just ignore him? Because people do not know unless you tell him what's going on in your life.

You’re the one at fault tbh. You should’ve talked to him about it.

Women do it to. The problem is a lack of communication. The inability to communicate effectively because of attachment styles and psychological issues. Experiences in life, from childhood to current adulthood has a huge affect on social /interpersonal relationships. Some are fearful/dismissive avoidants and some suffer from BPD or NPD. Its really very simple - Be nice. Be thoughtful , be considerate , be patient , be transparent and positively vulnerable.

​​@@walkertranger5746 If what you say is true, then what's going on with a man who was in a 30 year marriage (ended in divorce and she has since died)? He lost his mom early, raised by a step mom, managed to stay married for 30 years, but seems to ghost me and disappears although he says he loves me and calls me his GF.

Nowadays they have to many options and they just can't pick one woman and focus on that. My last couple of dates have been like this. I go on awesome dates the chemistry is there but the men never want to convert those dates into commited relationships they want the benefit of having someone to talk to, stroke their egos, give them sex, but keep things casual. It's tiresome, you can be the greatest catch but they just want to be able to come and go as they please. So far the best advice I have received is put into any relationship as the other person is putting. If they text, call and make plans to see me regularly then I will reciprocate. If they act shady and they appear to be putting little to no effort then I reflect that behaviour too. I dont bother asking why they are not texting i just keep things moving. It has made life less complicated.

@@siriusakari6729 Meet widowers. They can be very solid men who are used to a steady relationship, one that didn't end due to drama or disagreements. They don't like the modern dating scene and are more mature and willing to be honest.

@@HeLpLOstGOdAny1 You're right that you can't rely on these videos to resolve complicated personal matters.

But how can I deal with it if it triggers my rejection sensitivity

@@Urfavv.khadija_ the more you deal with it the more your brain is able to handle it. Just relax and let him deal. Youll see he will come around

Guys are getting very bad advise or learned behavior on how to treat women. Any man (or woman) who goes silent for any reason, leave them behind. Period. They are emotionally damaged people who will do nothing but bring you heartache.

This guy had probably acted "needy" himself at times. We shouldn't beat ourselves up. Relationships are messy.