Amen 💯 💯

Ditto

It’s a good sign of self-awareness if you’re self-aware enough to know when you’re not as self-aware as you think you are 🤔

@@rowanperegrine3562🤯

I am so sorry she did that to you. I know it must've been hard, but I hope you feel proud of yourself for going no contact with them. That was the most loving thing to do. Your son is lucky to have you protecting and supporting him.

I am so glad for you and your son! I've had that kind of parents (I am in the spectrum (Aspergers) and ADHD). No one but a few understand me (in my surrounding that is). Due to the occupations I had I met people in the same situation. Too bad the contacts were short and professional in nature. I could have made some great friends I guess. All the best to you! 🙏🙏🙏

Good for you guys.

And educator

You should try to change your therapist

@@GeminiSunrise06 3 yrs and changed 4 major psychiatrists. It just doesn't help ppl like me. We're doomed to begin with. I've yet to meet any acknowledging doctor.

@@rosy4213 that's sad. Sounds like they're not professionals.

@@GeminiSunrise06 apparently that's how professionals are in my country.

​@@rosy4213mine too. U from USA?

That's terrible... Although to find a silver lining there, she admitted her fault (which is not enough in terms of a solution, but it's one step). That admission can at least set you a bit more free: it's not your fault. It wasn't your fault. ❤

Gawd, that's terrible. I hope you are now getting the support you need and the real love you deserve. Stay strong.

I’m struggle with parent and wanting to have child even not getting married making me have fantasy with this sexual desire. Just thinking if I have child , I will be depressed

Hey, lots of things can cause these symptoms. I've had this for my whole life. at 67 years ago I would recommend to work on this issue while you can. Hungry angry lonely tired or halts is a start. Also the environment the air we breathe the water we drink and the chemicals contribute a lot as they disturb your whole nervous anotomic systems so it's hard not to overly react. Take it easy on yourself as guilt ain't going to work. Also there's so many crazed people doing weird stuff probably a lot worse than us, just sayin. Keep safe😉

I've been diagnosed with autism and personality disorder. I also have childhood trauma. That's why my brain keeps self-sabotaging. My therapists were not hard on me because I'm already hypercritical of myself a repeat of childhood. So my therapists had to teach me compassion and show me other ways of dealing with my intense emotions that are not maladaptive or dysfunctional. I'm not perfect but I'm having to learn now about dealing with autistic triggers. I have insomnia and it ruins my ability to go to work on time on top of the autism. But I do explain to my managers at work what is happening to me and human resources and occupational health are aware that I have neurodivergent disabilities. I have therapy to keep me from doing the most self-sabotaging things and diagnosis is a bit of relief and I don't feel like a bad person anymore. Just a person with a wonky brain. Lol! As long as I go to work and ask for a break I'm ok. I get anxiety attacks before work and my brain tries to dissociate that's why I'm often late for work...on top of the insomnia. I'm only finding out that I'm overstimulated in my job at age 42 and I've had this job part-time for the last 10 years!! No wonder my brain is tired!

Sorry I know this is long but please read it it may help you.. Yes I have gone through this too I’m 26 and from 18 I’ve had maybe 30 jobs some I forgot I had lol and it took me to lose my last job and potential good relationship to wake up and realize I have a bad temper/anger issues/ high anxiety and so much self doubt and low self esteem from never feeling good enough because I had a single parent who was hard on me and I held the title of the responsible obedient child which caused stress to be perfect and that kept me from feeling worthy in adulthood because there was no one constantly praising me and I was hyper sensitive to criticism so In turn I didn’t feel worthy of making or saving money( seeing my parent struggle with money have me a negative relationship with money like money is bad or they never had money to get me what I want I must not be worth having it so I spent it when I got it) or being in environments with people of different personalities made it hard to function because I didn’t know how to “act”. I’ve never knew who I was and still learning I always felt like I had to be a certain way in work settings in order to be accepted I felt like I had to fit in but when I didn’t it made me feel depressed so I’d quit or I took things way too personal instead of solving things logically instead of emotionally which caused me to quit too(it’s so many reasons but this would be a book long). It’s so much that I’ve discovered that I can’t say fully but I want to say look into why you feel you quit all the time and take things one by one and dissect how you’ve come to behave in such fight or flight maybe your parents didn’t support or protect you like they should have and now your trying to do everything on your own and it’s overwhelming you and causes you to be angry or you lack boundaries because you feel undeserving of being truly respected as you are and when someone crosses them you lash out because you feel taken advantage of.. I have always operated in my weaknesses due to negative programming and now I’m seeing I have so many strengths for example instead of thinking I can’t hold a job down so I continue to prove that right by constantly quitting I think about the jobs I have held done for a long period of time or a after school activity (when I was in school) or if you are a constant college drop outs like me I’m starting to reprogram my brain by stating the fact that I finished kindergarten through 12th grade I can complete atleast one course of college..

Your mentally insane until 25. It's ok give it a year.

Amen, and I have insurance 😅

A not needed reply because this video is from a licensed individual who knows so much better. It’s therapy and education, for solutions. That’s therapeutic to me just saying.

@@kimberlysanchez5321 I am a mental health professional myself so for me it works, but I do understand that for others it may not.

Thank you for saying this!!! I suffer from long covid as well and it’s been a nightmare. It has affected my memory and learning capabilities. The brain fog 😢 My ex used to think I was intentionally forgetting things and I used to feel terrible.

ADHD, Traumatic Brain Injuries, Dementia, Certain autoimmune conditions and other health issues can all cause memory problems. Not everything is emotionally connected.

It’s always good to know about mature and immature ego defenses and internal local of control vs external locus of control

​@@jeremywilliams1664Amen Jeremy 💯

I find the most frustrating thing is when ppl don’t take the time to understand why you have the pain in the first place … they just want to “fix” you … ugh, well cheers to you 🙏

@@ssburch3420 Yes! That what you mention is the crux! If you were able to tell your story and notice they really listen and care, that is already 50% of the treatment I guess! The feeling that their are people who care why you are that way! I worked with many (let's call them) extreme emotional and traumatized people (maybe strange for people to hear, but as a bouncer at nightclubs, gambling halls and in jail! The only thing you have to do when somebody is exploding is go and sit near them. Being an object that waits! And when their emotions are outed and their tantrum is slowed down offer them you want to hear their story! Never ever I had a fight that way and most were enormous grateful to me after! Now, I am in the same situation as those guys and I twice met somebody who did the same! To those, I am now grateful too! But therapists all fail in knowing what is the right thing to do!

Just remember that neither political party truly wants you to have free healthcare and that should take some of the load off.

Be angry ! Just don't act out on it in a way that harms you. Learn how to feeling your feelings in a way that is healthy. It's really hard to do but important.

You’re welcome and thank you!

This, I experience on a deeper level, I feel as if I live on "Autopilot" and normally I can't process my thoughts nor feelings and therefore I forget the positive more than the negative, (if that makes sense). Im not really being "in tuned" with myself nor surroundings. It's kind of like im there, but im not. Leaving me, not being mindful. Hope this helps ❤

The introspection starts to quiet when you don't resist it. That's what happened for me anyway. Instead of trying to clear my mind I just let it run. Now when it happens it doesn't feel so unpleasant. That's just my story though ❤

Good point. It’s not always aggression as some people are forgetful. But in this case it was because the character wasn’t forgetful under normal circumstances

@@DrTraceyMarks Could it perhaps be just our bodies physiological defensive mechanisms for stress reduction from being overwhelmed?

So did you have too much serotonin? I was told antidepressants can create more of it.

I live in the UK. it's a work in progress. Outside the UK, I found my local church community to be a safe place to process emotions in the Caribbean. We were able to address, drugs, sex, crime and unemployment which are real challenges faced by young people. Not all churches are like this but look for ones that do not set themselves apart and isolate their members. My church was like this, they allowed all members of the local area to come to the church even if they were not church members or Christians or religious. They looked for the common humanity instead of considering themselves as superior to the rest of society. I also found solace and community in the Local Lions club and Kiwanis clubs. Some people find support in sports clubs.

I love your term "unwanted promotion". I had such a thing happen to me and lost it several years back but kudos for naming it. I mean, simple concept but you are clever and brave for naming it!

Bipolar is very different from unipolar depression.

Why did your son have to go to your sister instead of his other parent/grandparents? You could be imagining it but it could be because of the traumatic stress you feel from your sister over the years as well as being separated from you offspring. Definitely see a clinical therapist especially as you said that you have been diagnosed with severe depression and anxiety. I was diagnosed with anxiety and depression for years but it actually turns out that I have Childhood trauma, Personality disorder and autism level 2. Although I believe in God and Jesus, the church has never been able to help me with my mental health/neurodivergent brain because when we get out into the real world most of the people do not have religion or they believe something completely different from a practising Christian.

You can't support them if they have severe issues. At one point 13 professional people were supporting me with my mental health. My former husband had no chance.

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Speak to another professor or pastoral care about your difficulties. I had to go to the head of my department when I felt like I was going to fail my degree exams. She really helped me and pinpointed where I was going wrong. I'm still learning to put myself first and stick up for myself as I've been diagnosed with Level 2 autism at 42. I wish I had known when I was in my early 20s because I could have gotten extra neurodivergent support with autism. I can always try to get the support now but it's more of a struggle as I have more responsibilities as an older adult. Speak to your degree support and also see if you can be assessed for any neurodivergent traits.

You need to show yourself compassion. You are no less of a person if you get a degree or not. You don't have to figure out right away what you want but you have to honor where you are now, even if that's saying I do want to go to school but not right now. If you keep fighting yourself it will just make it harder. Imagine yourself as a friend, who would you talk to them? Good luck ❤

I think gaming is ok as long as you don't substitute it for other coping strategies. It's a bit like addiction. If you put gaming above social interaction and self-care all of the time, then it can be a maladaptive way of coping and you never learn social skills or self-help. I have autism Level 2. Late diagnosed at age 42. Gaming can be your safe space and special interest but it cannot be the only thing that regulates your emotions. I hope that helps. I've had therapy.