This! Her self worth was tied up into him.

THIS🎉🎉🎉🎉

She actually wasn’t in love with him, she was addicted to him. And infatuated. She didn’t love herself at all so how could she love anyone else. Nether of them knew what true genuine love is.

Wow!! This is spot on

Yup. This is most women’s issue.

😭😭😭😭😭😭😭 oh nooooo I’m hollering

Yes!!!😂

🤣

Lmaooo realizing that

As soon as I saw that I thought she was trolling Derrick and it made me click even faster.

Come on nigh 🙌🏿🙌🏿🙌🏿💯

Say that

Yes!!!!

A LUST spirit is never satisfied. It’s always craving more.

If that ain’t the gospel truth!!!!

EXCELLENT 🥇ADVICE

great advice, great parents👍🏾🖤🔥💥

wise people in your life

A whole entire word

Your dad is absolutely correct

Imo he's the best messenger cuz he was speaking about himself. Get it right from the horse's mouth lol

@@Garglemymayo that’s a good point.

Yeah, this is definitely a situation where you had to separate the art from the artist lol

Perfectly said.

​@@Garglemymayo right! That's what I've been saying as well. Very good point.

THAT PART!!!!!!! ❤❤❤❤❤

Amen 🙏

I just posted about this and my mom got mad🥲🥲🥲

The amount of times my mama preached this verse to me ☝🏽😂😂. It wasn't until I found the second part...she ain't mentioned it again since!

Baby…….THIS!

Yes generationally women have suffered with personal identity and power, it's now time to step into that value so the feminine and masculine can finally be equal in our society. Let's gooooo Godessssssss

Yessssss gurl 🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾

Yesssss to everything you said!!!💯👐💅🙏💞👏

👏🏿👏🏿👏🏿👏🏿👏🏿👏🏿

Each holiday I meant… Not each day!

💯💯💯

I was just saying, based on her name for every month, she is an AMAZING content creator/media personality. She must get her flowers. And I ain't talking about the high maintenance ones that die. I mean a golden trophy, the shape of a bouquet. Okay???! 🔥

I agree!

This is such a cute idea 😂

I didn’t even realize the connection lmaoooo

😂

😫

@@diallodiaries9612 Qp

I immediately starting laughing when I saw her in that car 😂😂

Exactly! It’s like it doesn’t register unless it comes out of a man’s mouth. Like will y’all please stand TF up fr??

Speak for all the pick mes. The irony of it all

@@min_blogs28landing32 I’m confused at your comment?

@@Shemashay I'm saying tell those ( Pick Me women) again and louder so they can try to finally get it. It's ironic (odd) for them to listen to men that are obviously manipulating their minds just to do the complete opposite of what they're preaching to these women, but the women won't take sound advice from Cynthia G who is trying to help them understand a dusty will forever be a dusty with complete data analysis

Yasssssssss

It’s not even on his shoulder it’s within his while underneat

@@femdivinemind7777 when I said something sitting on his shoulders… it’s an old southern figure of speech, that is a reference to demons mounting a person, and riding them like a mule so to speak. It’s just one of those old sayings like “eat the meat, and spit out the bones”…

@@shhhperry9852 oh I know 😄 I was just emphasizing all up in him underneat lol cs whatever he had had been at home for a looong time (a Caribbean way of describing it I guess lol) xx

@@shhhperry9852 sidenote - I genuinely feel like demonic ancestors come to earth same way some chosen ancestors come back

@@RearviewWisdom because they likely carry the same vibration - a lot of church leaders are walking demons 🤧💯🤷🏾‍♀️

She was sexually assaulted before she married Derrick. But I see the fake sisterhood is putting most of the blame on a woman who was a trauma victim and heavily indoctrinated by religion from her family at a naive young age. Women who come from hyper religious families then being raped on top of that can damage the brain. Any type of trauma affects rational decision making skills. But most women only have smoke for Da'naia. While leaving Derrick Jaxn unscathed. I guarantee the stupid judgmental bishes judging her are *still* subscribed to Derricks channel. Oh wait, they *already* are. Cheating narcissistic men are always coddled. While their victims are shamed.

I agree, and I question the therapists (3), and none of her giving her any type of diagnosis, not even PTSD, but the girl had unaliving ideations, loosing weight like crazy, and possibly hallucinations (seeing her daughter being lifted up from the bed). Something had to be going on there, even a smidge of depression.

@@deeniesmothers9310 I also think this girl is a great pretender and also a manipulator. Ex. She would be in the closet trying to get derrick to feel sorry for her, coddle her. Trauma that has not been dealt with will fracture an individual. It's like she has multiple personalities, given different parts of herself and showing up different for different occasions. The way she talked in that interview and the way she talks on her IG are NOT THE SAME. IT WAS SO MUCH TO UNPACK, and it can't be done with one go round. Lol

That last part!!!

Definitely in the spectrum

I agree

I agree. She took the scenic route on answering that question when all she had to say was, "I was getting attacked left and right. I was angry and lost my ish in that moment so I lashed out. Period.". Beyond that, I think she did a great job of being honest and taking accountability for her role in the dysfunction. It was enlightening and really sad at the same time.

@@vernette378 except she went with, "It's not my fault I know my Bible." I know that not only she was dealing with Derrick trifling self, but attacks on the internet too, that's a lot, but now, 2023 she still stands firm and doubles down on it with her master's degree from Oral Roberts University.

@@vernette378 she lost me when she said “it’s not my fault y’all don’t know your bible” as Jessie said, it’s giving very much extremist. But overall, she held her own in the interview. I just hope she properly heals cuz not taking accountability for that part but everything else has me like hmmm. But everything else, was gucci. She got personality and funny which can take her far to do other things ❤️

@@deeniesmothers9310 lol it’s the doubling down for mmeee

But u can do the work to heal and get better❤

Yes

Baliplaygirl Kji That's exactly right and my late father hated girls and women due to his own unhealed childhood trauma issues, hence why I used to be drawn to those types of men. 😥

I agree !! She said her mom was 16 Dad was 18 her dad wasn't sure she was his and all his attention went to his sons I guess her mom had to work and did not spend much time teaching her to love herself !! She was just a lost child and her husband use that

It was very honest...not sick. Sick is keeping it a secret and harboring hate. Not acknowledging your past feelings and being released from it. Huge difference

Yeah that was mad weird....it was giving drive off a bridge with the family type vibes....I hope she's truly healed

It’s something that happens all the time, it takes a lot of strength to acknowledge it & get help over it. I’d rather her do that than let it fester & harm or mistreat her daughter

She was really in a dark place. I don't think she's fully out of yet.

​@@Yespls888 it's sick and honest. Both are true. You got to look at the sickness in the light to cleanse it, but it's sanitation duty still.

💯🎯

This!! Never dim your light to find someone. And that includes women who are deemed “hard”. Nah. You’re perfectly fine being you!! You will get your person. There is someone for everyone (even the a-holes sooo)🤌🏾.

Laughing & agreeing with this message 😅

😂😂😂

😂😂😂

Why is this hilarious 😂😂😂😂. But I can’t shade the honesty. Growth is amazing

😂😂😂😂😂

Girl I also grew up SDA. All you said is true. The church allows abuse and church men/boys… let’s not get to that. I have seen soooooo much abuse in the church and a lot of leaders are sociopaths and narcissists. I wonder why abused women turn to the church for help ik multiple that have done that only to be blamed for breaking the marriage and causing abuse. Honestly better to reach out to a professional marriage psychologist or smth. Till date , I fear church men few are fully converted ( spiritually)

@@moriahminji allows abuse , hides it , facilitates marital and child abuse abuse forcing women to stay in marriages (humiliating and ostracizing if they don’t ) sends young women off to get quiet abortions because they got pregnant by PKs, etc etc the church is toxic af - most of my relational trauma both romantic and non romantic is from church people - my first proper church boyfriend in highschool (went to an sda school ) slept with my best friend within 2months of dating lmao like the way they used to go on was WILD even the “godly preaching” ones - it’s like the church was there to put a spiritual justification for suffering at the hands of men honestly - the amount of apples the passed round to show the diminishing of a woman’s value though… 🥴🤔🙄…let you be one to call it out and you’ll be branded as demonic for criticizing the church - I knew a case where a girl got abused as a really young child and this boy was allowed to be around us unsupervised be in the chior be preaching etc her father would give him lifts shake his hand etc looking back im like they don’t/can’t even protect little girls …I remember how many seminars we had about telling the church leadership before the police when abuse occurs 🫤

@@moriahminji 💯💯💯💯 absolute SOCIOPATHS they actually get angry when confronted and dole out weird psychological punishments and try break you down if they realise you’re a sovereign woman - the amount of times older men in the church , deacons and pastors warned boys off me yet I was a very naive very god centered virgin prude waiting till marriage and their daughters were laying it low and slanging it wide at camp meeting from early 🤧

Lol so true..I’m a preachers daughter and I avoided them all like the bubonic plague.

@@Mimi8402 y’all PKs are the worst wym 😂😂😂 jk jk jk !!! I was always an observer and wanted to wait until marriage so I was kinda out of the loins sharing loop lmao all through my teens I watched them run amok and see how older men would tell them to “sow their oats” but call lil girls fast and tell them they’re leading men to sin for showing their shoulders 🤧😐it’s amazing how many times I was called a jezebel - I didn’t mind much though cs I liked jezebel for some reason 🤷🏾‍♀️ she was a boss ass biblical baddie imo - lol

amen love this! well said

That's so cool that you're doing your PHD. Do you mind saying what you will do with a PHD? I'm planning to do my masters in marital counseling. I hope to be in your position what day.

Thank you for sharing! I’m interested in learning more about this. Do you have any resources I can refer to do a deeper dive? This is super intriguing

It’s not a delusion. It’s finally realizing that only God can give you internal peace and satisfaction. Not your wife, husband, children, education , career , money and what not.

🎯🎯🎯🎯you’ve said it all

Exactly, I found her channel through her LIB reviews/commentary. Jessie is so funny, but she also tells a lot of truths, she has a very open-minded perspective and I LOVE that ! She sees all sides of the conversation.

⬆️

Thank you for sharing. I'm sorry you had to go through that. I hope your mom will see the error of her ways & reconcile. Jesus.

Omg so sorry. 😢

🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾

(((hugs)))

Any month of the year 😂

No fr! I love seeing black woman support other black women

Yes ! Love it here.. I miss the brownies too 🤎

EXACTLY 🔥💥🖤❤️

😂chile...am nosy. Was it uptown?

@@seriously2798 lmao no it was a African spot in Addison 😂

What sad about this, it is those women don’t care if he is married or not they are happy he is fucking them ( but not for too long tho) because Derrick Jackson will be onto the next one quickly

I hope she gets truly healed instead of getting another man

I'm glad you were able to get clarity and draw closer to God. That's a blessing!

This right here! Same! I will not be anyone’s doormat.

Get a man don’t let your eggs all die get a baby no one is perfect. No man is perfect

@@wendybrewster3935 Actually, I don't want it any kind of way. I am working to heal to participate in healthy relationships. I won't miss the blessings God has for me. I'm being directed on His path. No, no one is perfect, and I am not seeking perfection. However, engaging with men who are extremely toxic, block building a bond, will not heal/grow, low self-esteem, emotionally abusive, sexually abusive, physically abusive, financially abusive, no commitment, plays games, does drugs, can't keep jobs. wants me to do all the work in the relationship etc. (the list can go on and on) ...that's not ok for me to parent with. Years of putting up with emotional abuse and toxic abuse in childhood and adulthood made me a perfect match for men who want to repeat those same patterns. I am worthy of more. You won't find perfect people in the world, but if you do the work and heal yourself you can be part of creating healthier relationships, where you aren't recreating trauma for yourself or children.

Girl you brave for stepping to your mama like that. 😅😅😅

@@shantesummers5775 🤣 It didn’t happen often! I’m fortunate she can be reasonable at times. 😬

@@agirlnamedkeith 😂 Well I applaud your bravery. 👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾

Me too!

😭

Omg yes I never clicked so fast 😂

Yes I love watching these during lunch, lol

What?! Lmao Ik y’all have this deep instilled hatred for KS, but cmon now. Da’Naia was not the type of woman Kev championed.

Yeah that did not make sense Ginger

@@raqirblack7689if you’re talking looks then that’s why KS advice was the bottom of the barrel. She was submissive , let him cheat, non confrontational, loyal, domesticated, all those things KS claims men want and got with him before she was even 20, meaning in her YOUTH AND PRIME and he still was dirt to her. KS was a hypocrite who died with I believe a hooker or something like that by his side, not married, not leading a household and a poor relationship with his kid, so no. Also, he took pride in hating bw and the women he praised like Jeannie Mai, saying men,I know he meant bm, marry women like her, well, the divorced in less than two years and it’s messy on her side, she’s having a whole. I guess he’d say she’s having a “feminine diversion”, spare me. And yes, he championed everyone other than bw.

Karma never misses any address, he will regret it..

Narcissist

Attachment theory is the truth. As a psych grad student this is what I am looking at and literally early life experience dictates your outcomes not just in relationships.

Really working on changing my anxious attachment style to secure attachment style. I feel like if u are securely attached u can choose what is good for and walk away from doesn't serve. Just relaxing in your self worth and confidence

@@sheila1391 Yes girl you said it so perfectly!!! I still have a lot of work to do but I can easily spot and walk away from DA's and FAs even though I am an FA myself lol. It has improved my work dynamic tremendously where I really struggled with being valued by trying to prove my worth instead of just being worthy

@@Haulapsychology I agree it can definitely spill into other aspects of your life, like self concept, work, career, friendships, family, money management etc. I still have so much work to do but my life has improved so much and I finally feel like I am on a path and not lost like I was. I am no longer attracted to other insecure attachment styles (at least ones who are not self aware nor working on themselves) and I feel like I have healed enough to match with a secure person. I can tell what attachment style someone is within a few dates. I am way more valued in the work place. It's truly life changing!

@@suras8984 turning 30 has really opened my eyes to how I move with no boundaries, people pleasing, being too nice and lack of self awareness and it has made me have low self esteem- I didn't even notice that. Affecting my relationships and my career goals. Honestly, I've been learning lot from you tube videos about being self aware and healing. I just want to be confident in who I am . Healed and happy. I can't wait! ☺️ sending blessings to you on your journey!

🎯 You're so right!

No, the three therapists aren't the problem. It's most likely she didn't see the correct type. She needs to see someone who is trauma-informed, whereas most work using CBT which doesn't work for a lot of people, especially those with severe trauma. Also she is suffering for toxic Christianity she is really caught up in it.

👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽😏 that alll that☑️

She had his kids by then - she said she wanted him to find her but I don’t know if he actually did - she was crying because of how he was behaving so I wouldn’t say it was manipulation tbf

She was absolutely manipulating the situation as well.

It's a blessing. She may feel rejected but it's the best thing to be pushed out of such a toxic relationship.

Facts.

Ooh, she is far from it. Hasn't it only been since last September? Nine years of abuse, plus abandonment, SA, ect., and in less than a year she's healed? It's great she can tell her story, but she's had a lifetime of issues.

They kept saying ‘healed’ cause it’s the name of the $7k course she’s selling.

We're all just human sis. At least you recognize your own humanity. Many people should really know the damage thay can happen when you are attached to a person who performs narcissistic behaviors.

I stopped listening right at that point because regardless of how she feels nobody lied. Her husband willingly left her unprotected and exposed to these attacks. And she knew this man wasn't shit before we did so that interpretation was trash, degree or no degree. Lost all empathy at that point.

People were also very arrogant with how they were coming at her. I honestly found it comical. I just don't think people like their own medicine at times. There's a time to be meek and there's a time to tell people to stfu...in Jesus name. 😂 Then again, if we like everything about a person...9 outta 10 they're not being truthful. So I'd rather get how someone REALLY feels, "right" or "wrong" than a water downed version of them

​@@andreacharles6123 that's some pretty conditional empathy 😂... Seems like only the people that were attacking her to begin with would take offense. Sure, I thought she sounded crazy at first but I gotta admit, she had a point too.

Yup, she was talking all that crap and now wants sympathy from us. Sad she went through that but I do not pity her.

​@@Yespls888 right. she was being tongue in cheek at that point. She was giving dry weird humor and that's why he was laughing. It's very interesting that because someone is Christian they can't really express anger or hurt. Now who she should have taken a page from was Tabitha Brown. Now she can give a sweet version of stfu and stop talking about me and mine. We're in the comment section and hopefully will never know what it feels like to be fodder for the blogs and KZfaq content creators who don't know you but have so much to say. Like even white outlets had picked it up at some point. I don't necessarily agree with her interpretation but she did what many folks who have an amen corner online do: use Bible verses how they want.

So sad

I love how they all skip pass that video

THIS IS MY MINISTRY!! WARNING YALL!!

They are the worst!!! They are feminine and try to talk to any woman possible pretending to be their friend.

Wait what’s wrong with cancers 😭 I just met one and I like him lmaoo

@@Minding_my_business for now… 😂 (jk)

I'm a cancer woman and I steer clear of cancer men....they are so sick

What is regular black…

Make jokes that make you look good

What does it even mean? We have to do better? 😒🙄😑😑

Low key anti black sentiment that a lot of “foreign blacks” spew. 🙄

@@gotKiaasoul literally just posted the same question then saw yours…. What The F is Regular Black ? lol 😂 Black that wasn’t dropped off? Like str8 from Africa original black? WTF 😂😂😂

Well said! My exact sentiments!

She admitted she’s not fully healed when she was asked about dating again.

Technically she was pregnant 6 times

6 times. She said she had 3 abortions.

When we look at some of these naturally gorgeous celebrity women who feel the need to keep going to get outrageous cosmetic surgeries that greatly distort and eventually diminish their looks...all the while continuing to deal with dudes who aren't nearly as attractive (in looks or personality...and sometimes financially).. Tells you all you need to know. The mind is something else. Low self-esteem, low self-respect, massive insecurity will have folks out here doing and putting up with all KINDS of crazy, illogical things... Not to mention, you combine that with other parties willing and ready to take full advantage... Nasty but very common combination and recipe for disaster. 🥴😔

Right 😂😂😂😂

Yes, this hurt that I am feeling over him building with a woman while I thought we were together. I began to act out of character, and this did not stop until he and I got back together

❤

This‼️‼️‼️

Yes!!! I was looking for this! I was wondering why no one was catching that extremist religious rhetoric she was speaking in that interview.

My mother was mean to me because my step dad left her to marry someone with my same name, so it was a reminder of that woman. She never wanted me to stay with her, always stayed with my grandmother and my aunties..