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I can't remember when my wife started her evil behavior towards me , from so slow and subtle to blatant , nonstop , evil offenses aimed to destroy the one person who was fighting for her. This long time relationship left me feeling like Satan played a life long practical joke on me, what a waste of everything.

Wow! Thank you Darren, for describing narcissistic abuse and how it gradually takes over the victim's life. I stayed for so long because I didn't know that npd existed. I put his behaviour down to being grumpy, disagreeable, domineering. My dad is the same (npd) so it seemed 'normal' but at the same time awful. It was only after the discard that I stumbled across a description of npd and experienced an epiphany. My whole life has been one of abuse at the hands of a father and husband. Free now but a long road to get here. Narcissists enjoy watching you suffer so they try to prolong the pain. Just wish I'd known about the red flags when I was young. If they told us about this in school we would be able to see the warning signs and make informed decisions.

One of the less channels addressing narcissistic abuse without demonizing narcissist/ narcissistic behavior and on the same time acknowledging the victims suffering.

The reason you tolerate it is when it’s your child and you hope this is a rougher road to maturity than most others. You never want to give up on your child. It’s a shame, the tormented life you picture for their future.

being raised by a toxic mother...I didn't know that something terrible was wrong with her and her behavior...physical abuse/emotional abuse was "normal"...you don't know what you don't know.

I think that we believe the narcissist will change. After 8 years my wife has not changed a bit.

Great video ty. Can you please do more on trauma bonding, and how manipulators with narsistic traits and verbaly abusive can destroy families and lives, and how they can have no remorse in making thier ex sell their home, that he says he manipulated me into buying with him in the first place.... soul destroying. His verbal and emotional abuse and his name calling was unbelievable. But to everyone outside he is Mr. Wonderful, but to me he was frightening.

I have learned to make sure peoples actions match their word.

Its difficult, when your only parent was one.

This is the question I’m asking myself everyday, why I didn’t leave when he broke up with me at the first time. Why I didn’t listen to my friends' advice. Why I kept seeing good in him and wished he can change.

Thank you very much, Darren, this will surely help a lot free themselves from those narcissistic people! They deserve better! 💙

For me it was love. A better life, a family, and a husband. All of those promises turned out to be him telling me what I wanted to hear. That future faking was how I ended up isolated in another country with just the narcissist and I. His family are racist enablers (I’m mixed race 1/2 Puerto Rican 1/2 Irish American). They made it clear from the moment they met me that I wasn’t even worth a proper greeting. Not only did he allow his family to be disrespectful to me but he encouraged them by purposefully humiliating me. This was shortly after my mom passed away. I’m finally getting therapy and currently on antidepressants after 4 years of constant isolation and abuse.

Could you do a video on how to get over the anger at being taken in by multiple narcissists please?

Thank you.

Awesomely explained! Loving your eye opening videos. Thank you Darren ✅

Wow. That's spookily accurate.

Thankyou for this video,it was very helpful, my husband used me for all the things you've said.at least I know I'm not crazy,I just don't know how to get out of this marriage

My ex finished with me constantly over 13 years. Must have been every month at least, never felt any security, always on edge. Couldn't just have a disagreement, we'd always have to finish..strangely, like a child would behave. Chaos

I’ve been there, thank you Darren. 😊 Can you do a video on alcoholism and narcissism? Do alcoholics/addicts have narcissistic traits?

You are up there with the best Darren. Keep doing the great work that you do.

This is epic! So good!! Thank you!

Insightful...thank you!!

Thank you so much for this video.

This was a brilliant video 👍 You are excellent at explaining this....Thank you!

This video is absolutely great! We must stay independent. Thank you.

Oh so spot on.. U failed to mention sex..the temptation of just good sex that blew your mind but could never blow it up to pieces.. I knew that something was wrong when I wanted them gone the minute afterwards to somehow avoid the drama that was to come. Reaching for there phone or raging for one reason or another spoiling the moment... I wasn't so naive to equate good sex for being love especially walking on eggshells and fearing breaking one as I would do..yet through it. All I never gave up the truth of who I was to appease the narcissist.. I finally had enough of the stepping on my boundaries realizing to keep the peace I had to give up the illusion.. The narcissist has nothing to lose with provoking me.. But I on the other. Hand did.. They call it. Self love.. The narc is very in tuned with doing that and want to mold as many as possible into an extension of who they R in there misery

Omg you’re brilliant , how can I connect with you ? I had a breakthrough .

that does make sense ( must remember!)

I've been on both ends. But I'm wondering why when someone is romantically attracted to a person they seem even more determined when the person aggressively rejects them. When I was young and a cutiepie, I learned the hard way that being aggressive with men who are persistent had the opposite affect many times. Some people seem attracted to being belittled.

Thanks great video again, Please could you advise the name of the film you mentioned I’d like to watch it

Mine decided 3.5 years ago (2.5 months into our marriage) after a difference of opinion, that he was never going to listen to me EVER AGAIN. He starts a fight EVERY single time I want to express my feelings about his behavior towards me. My daughter, not his, died recently and 2 DAYS after…he told me that it was my fault. 2 weeks after I buried her he said it again. More recently, after I decided I was DONE. I packed his things and locked him out. He responded by killing both of our dogs. I’m pregnant with twins in a foreign country and have finished my lease on my apartment in America. I like where I am. His Visa interview just got approved now he expects that we will go to America together. I don’t want him to come back with Me, and I myself don’t desire to return 😢. I have no one here but I desire to stay, not sure what to do? He does not financially provide for us. I know it sounds like the decision is easy but I’m not sure how to proceed.

Haha... your title is exactly what I've asked myself

Dobar kanal...

Is there anyone out there suggesting that therapeutic treatment for narcissistic abuse and for leaving cults should overlap? Can you direct me to resources if this is a thing?

What about if you have a spouse that does that to her husband. 🤔

Why do we stay in a nutshell intermittent reinforcement

Answer: Read the book ET 101

What happened to the woman in the car in America? 🤗

Hugs Lets Stop Teaching Our Youth that @buse is Love ♡ (Including to ourselves) or that it is a "Logical" Strategy!! You'll be So Darn Surprised at How Quickly You can Recover Financial Resources when you Can Stop the Fruitless Depletion of All other Mental, Physical, and Emotional Resources. "BE YOUR OWN SOURCE OF LOVE SECURITY AND VALIDATION" Melanie Tonia Evans *Holding Much More Authentic Hope as we are Able to Pay it Forward ♡♡ *Much Respect

Why did I end up here? My parents had sex & I was born.

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