I am introvert regularly forced into extroverted activities due to work/school needs. My God, it‘s exhausting, but I have to do it to maintain my job and relationships.

People think I come off as rude because I dont like to talk a lot with strangers. I am trying to get more comfortable with it but I do hate small talk lol

Yes, the world is made for extroverts. My boss keeps trying to turn me into an extrovert because that is a more profitable personality.

Very honest and eloquent. I once gave a lecture and the audience feedback included "Who was he looking at?" I only made eye contact with the exit door.

It feels like I am listening to myself talking. Just the thought of having to hang out with people instantly puts me in a mood because I know that I am going to have to chat and talk about things that I just don't want to. I am also not shy at all. I just choose to stay quiet because then people won't want to engage lol. People rarely discuss this side of themselves so I appreciate the honesty!

I can totally relate to you. We have moved to different countries many times and moving to different places and culture has changed me in many ways. I hardly have any friends but rather than regretting I focus on my family , their health , healthy cooking. This gives me immense happiness.

Being an introvert has become more problematic since having children. My young daughters get invited to many parties and playdates and I do not want them to miss out because of me. They love these social events and being with their friends. So I am forced to hang out with the mothers which I find excruciating. I love ever other aspect of being a mother but it has made me realise that my hiding from the world is not good for my children. Being an introverted mother is a massive struggle for me and a huge source of stress. I hope one day I will find a balance. Thanks for your videos.

I am an introvert to the point this is my first comment on youtube ever. I have the same feelings that you have and I can relate to that. Sometimes I can stay days without talking to any one but I am comfortable and happy, I am of course not a shy person so that is not an issue. I do like your personality. Thanks for sharing 🌹

I grew up many people telling me of how quite I am and some claiming there must be something wrong with me;that really made me so uncomfortable and initially twisted me into a mentality that I'm natured different from the whole society and that I'm actually a burden from a society As I grew older I eventually began to acknowledge mi internal instincts,self consciousness and unfolded mi soul ark for my radical acceptance. I then began to develop a positive mentality that there's definitely nothing wrong at all about me and began gaining some mental confidence thereby living mi life free from second party judgmental imprisonment That's when I suddenly realised that people who frequently pointed out my quietness are realistically uncomfort of their own insecurities around me thereby logic twisting the blame into mi own personality so I can feel bad about it and hopefully enough I no longer get these kind of comments from people neither strangers nor family members as much as before when I was still growing up I really hope u are coping well mi dear Jenni in this complicated world and hard life challenges we are facing today,I really do hope to meet u in person one day mi dear

You have such a sweet, gentle personality..bless you honey for your own truth. I love being an introvert, we are the most empathetic people, we dont like small talk, fakeness, we drain because we sense and feel energy. I love my own space. You have an amazing awareness..we are what we are and that's okay.

Some people think being introvert is an illness and for this reason try to change introverts into extroverts. Nothing wrong with being introvert, we don’t have to be all the same, each person is different. Some people need to understand that.

I had a university professor who explained what being an introvert meant. It was so enlightening to hear because I realized it was totally me. You enjoy being around other people but it is exhausting! For me the best way to relax after being around a big group is to read. It always helps me calm down. Enjoyed your thoughts.

Finally, I heard someone who can understand the feeling. I grew up hearing from my parents and some relatives that I am a "shy" person. Never did I say that word to my sons...will never. Being quiet doesn't mean that you're shy. One day they will learn that I ended up vlogging (I never told them that), I could see their reaction already. I love joining Forums...this is a great topic for discussions. 😊

I'm a introvert and love my quiet time, but I will be an extrovert in large crowds/work.....I prepare myself for events. I'm to the point with my words and do my best to be meaningful in connecting, when in conversation & if small talk is in the works, I politely excuse myself, lol!.... when I'm done, I escape into my pillow to recharge. Most people think I'm an Extrovert.

Small talk doesn’t create the barrier, I use it to pierce the barrier. The key is knowing when to engage at a deeper level. Unfortunately if someone doesn’t seem engaging in small talk it can give a sign that they do not want to engage in something more meaningful.

I feel very lucky and comforted to have discovered your channel, since I directly resonate with a lot of what you have to say on being introverted and wanting to put yourself out there more. Being 24 years old, I'm also not naturally comfortable putting myself out there, and it's a constant struggle trying to engage and form meaningful connections with new people, even though I do inherently value these things. I'm also a huge proponent on continuously learning and self-improvement, so I'm trying to actively put myself out there more this year so as not to feel like I am isolating myself from the rest of the world. It's certainly still a challenge as I also struggle with some deep set self-esteem issues and anxiety, but I hope to one to get to where you are. Thanks again for posting such wonderful content

I also feel introverted most social settings as well. I feel that my innocence in humanity is somewhat unmatched that I retract my part in sharing externally my own hopes and aspirations

I am INFP I have trained myself socially but it is very draining. I'm an admin and am expected to be "on" and small talk constantly. It is extremely draining. People think I'm angry if I'm not smiling all the time and it gets old. I have to basically be a robot.

my classmates tell me all the time that i am quiet and it bothers me because they make me feel like it's a bad thing. it's just the way i am. i can talk for hours on end if someone really listens and cares about what i have to say. i can't bear smalltalk because it just feels so meaningless and 'flat'. i don't really know how to describe it but it tires me a little bit i'd say. and as you mentioned it is soo soo meaningless and 'one dimensional', like i don't get to know the person. and to get to know someone i prefer sitting down and taking the needed time to talk about all kinds of stuff. some people don't understand it but those are usually the ones who can't stop being loud to such an extinct that it gets annoying. i have a lot of things to say and my mind isn't just a quiet, white room but sometimes i think i shouldn't even start talking because then i'll get lost in it and people will stop caring or even listening at all. i heard a sentence once that really stuck with me 'confidence is quiet'. (please excuse my english or grammar, i'm in eight grade and still learning)

Thank you for being so open about this, it doesn't get discussed enough. I've always been an introvert who's also shy, but sometimes can come off like an extrovert in very specific situations, depending on my mood. Even though I'm a socially anxious introvert, I still enjoy having conversations with people, so that can be difficult to reconcile. It's interesting that you mentioned disliking small talk, because I just realized within the last few years how much disdain I have for it. Small talk often makes me more anxious than deeper discussions. But I don't necessary want to have deep discussions all the time, obviously, so I have to find people who are good conversationalists and are able to tow the line between small talk and deep, heavy talk lol.

I swear to GOD i am just like you....Its great to see someone like me...

Dear Jenifer, thank you so much for your honest talking. The same as you I am also introvert and being quiet and no to hanging out with people not only doesn’t bother me, but it makes me feel more comfortable. The more we know about ourselves, the easier we can understand others and it makes life and relations predictable. That’s what bring safety and trust I think.

Yep I’m a 43 year old female introvert and always have been . There were times I’ve tried to make myself look more outgoing and extroverted but I felt like a phony . So I am mostly just myself now and that’s ok. Edit: came back to finish the video as I couldn’t watch all of it earlier . I only wish I had at least a few good friends like you do but I don’t . It seems there are introverts that have no friends at all and then some who still have a good number of them .

I appreciate this in depth description of the introvert behaviors and experience. My thing is that I tend to confuse people with my own behaviors because I seem extroverted and yet keep peoples at an arms length and keep my circle very very small. My inner circle consists mainly of family actually and very few best friends. It’s so strange because I don’t always forgive myself for being an introvert, I’m hard on myself for being too withdrawn or closed off. Instead, I worry that I am too conflicted inside or have “issues” or “social anxiety”. I have a lot of duality in this way. Because I am friendly and enjoy small talk. I always have a quick chat with folks in passing. I enjoy people and exchange in some banter and can easily joke around. But that’s as far as I want it to go and I sometimes feel I give mixed messages or confuse people. Your message is very clear and strong. Somehow your proud position as a true introvert helps validate my own introvert attributes. Thanks for being authentic and unapologetic about this.

Is it possible that from an extreme extravert in my early 20s I became introvert and almost antisocial in my 40s ? I like my own company, people make me very tired and drain my energy to the point I have to heal after each longer encounter with anyone (even family members) feeling literally hangover. Or maybe I've been an introvert all along but, coming from abusive and extremely intolerant family, I just wanted to be accepted at all cost (both by friends and strangers) and always sought acceptance outside ? In my 20s I never had deep thoughts about life. I felt miserable, I was running away from problems (I still kind of am) and felt like I was not worth a penny and that no one would ever like me for what I was because what was there to like anyway. I let people use me and abuse me as they pleased as long as they wanted my presence in their lives. I started to heal and learn about who I really am and what I want from this life in my late 30s. I'm 44 now and feel like a baby just starting to learn about the world, but at the same time I'm much more at peace with myself working hard on accepting other people, too. My family destroyed me to a very great extent so I guess it's going to take a lifetime to heal completely. Your channel is part of my healing process because I desperately need people who know their self worth and accept themselves in my life so thank you. Love from Poland

I LOVE, feel and understand everything you just said. Im so glad I found your channel. It’s so refreshing knowing I’m not the only one who feels this way.

I can absolutely relate. I hang out with the crows on my lunch break. They make great company. I avoid the elevator because I dislike the small talk. I used to have to drink to be social which was not a good thing and left me feeling even more drained and depressed. I'm more comfortable in my skin now that I am older.

You’re something very special , Jennifer! I’m truly grateful that I’ve found you in this new year and I have a feeling that you’ve already done so much for me... I’m very introverted and lately have been having a lot of anxiety and seriously destructive thoughts and I’m ready to start taking steps to become a healthier, happier, more balanced being. I wish I had a friend like you. Thank you!!! 🌄

Thank you Jennifer, love this.

I feel like this is so hard for me to explain to people & you just perfectly put it together in this video. It’s so comforting to know that it’s ok to be an introvert and your not the only one. I’ve always struggled with wanting to be an extrovert because I hated feeling awkward around others and not being able to meet new people, but the older I get the more I realize that I love myself the way I am. Thank you for this video ❤️

I just discovered your videos and this speaks to me so much. I'm in the process of loving my quietness and awkwardness. This is what makes me unique!

I’ve always been shy and quiet. I never realized how much socializing took a toll on me until I entered college. I had a roommate and would have mini meltdowns because I had no alone time. It got so bad I would wake up at 4 am to do my laundry just so no one can talk to me or see me. I am now currently awaiting to be evaluated for autism spectrum disorder. Yep that indeed took a turn. Wish me luck folks.

Thank you for your incredible honesty and making these videos despite the discomfort. There are so many of us who need to know it’s completely normal and ok to be ourselves. This was so comforting and makes me feel understood in a way that’s hard to describe. Thank you!

Good evening from the UK Jennifer. Really enjoyed listening to you. I am an ex-extrovert. Was frightened to death of talking to strangers, answering the doorbell etc. Went into therapy. Became the loudest and assertive person I know now. Peace. X

Hello from another introvert, thank you Jennifer :) I've struggled my whole life to find like-minded friends and now that I'm older I much appreciate my own company than having to conform to someone's expectations, not that I do anyway, but it's difficult when someone starts talking to you and they're outgoing and loud and you're just like :| People assume I'm conceited and/or pretentious and end up making fun of me :( I much prefer a quiet and slow-paced environment, otherwise I feel like my mind is running, I feel overwhelmed/exhausted and I need to go home and unwind, it's too much for me sometimes.

Im from an extroverted collectivist society where I was taught from a young age to “socialize” when going to family gatherings and social events. God knows I’ve been thrown into so many uncomfortable situations when I would much rather be sitting in the comfort of my own room not interacting with anyone. So now I force myself automatically out of habit to socialize when called for. But as an introvert by nature sometimes especially when I’m tired I can’t help my awkward, cold reactions. I seem like a “snob”. So it’s really nice to watch your KZfaq videos because you don’t pretend. And your introvert personality is amazing man 🥺❤️

It's so nice to hear from someone who feels the same as i do. I get so tired by interacting with people for too long, I switch off and need to leave. And it's exactly the same for me with small talk. I struggle to keep friends as it seems like I dont care because I dont want to talk too often. I love having deep and meaningful conversations with people I care about. I really appreciate you making this video and sharing your thoughts. Stephanie

I don't think anyone loves or enjoys small talk, but it's a natural process of communication. We don't communicate with just our words, but also with our body language, inflection, facial expressions, ect. So we can say "Love the weather today!" which is seemingly very superficial but can convey many different things about ourselves in the way we relay that sentence. Strangers can never become anything else without the first stages of surface level communication, and I do think there is value in it. Because you can still learn a lot about a person and exchange meaning and energy with "small talk". We aren't going to connect with everyone we meet, and I agree it can be exhausting. But I don't think it prevents deep talk, it's just the precursor and a way for us to figure out if we do connect and if we do want to allow someone into our lives in a more meaningful way. I certainly don't want a stranger coming up to me and dumping their deep seated issues or trauma onto me, but I'm always there for my friends if they need to talk something serious out. And many friendships do begin with something as simple as "Hey, I dig your bag, where did you get it?"

I am so glad you made this video! I've been watching for your beauty/wellness content that I really resonate this with (love it soo so much), but everything here is completely me, too. Thank you for sharing, it's really profound and less alienating (which I think it can feel like, even when you are confident and happy in yourself).

I am so happy that someone like you has the courage to put out youtube videos. Your videos make me feel less alone since I see so much of you in myself. I am in my first year of uni and still figuring things out. It has caused me so much anxiety to have entered adulthood and to have seen what is expected of me...I just have to accept I will not build a social circle and a career in the same way as many others around me. That's okay, I tell myself. Sometimes it gets to me but I am grateful for the life I have and the person that I am. I find peace in my alone time in my own space and it's okay to be alone most of the time and not experience things like others. I will keep watching your videos and maybe I too will find ways to grow as you have. Thank you Jennifer :)

Thank you for sharing your thoughts and feelings. I’m sure it wasn’t easy. It helps others in so many different ways. I’m not introverted, so it helps me understand. On the other hand, you’re helping other just like you to know that they aren’t alone and their feelings aren’t only theirs. I’m so glad that I found your channel. BTW... I’m 6-7 yrs younger than your Mom but I gained so much insight watch the two of you together and hearing her pearls of wisdom on aging. I’m hoping we’ll see your Mom again. You are beautiful inside and out Jennifer.

SUCH a relatable video, thank you for being so open about your introversion. It is very authentic. thank you :) ♡

I’m an introvert too and my biggest problem is that I need to sleep when my energy is drained after hanging out for eg 😞

Thanks for sharing. its so nice to hear someone else vocalizing how ive always felt. theres so much pressure to fit within an extroverted world. i've always enjoyed my own company, i prefer being alone.

I do get this and relate to everything you just said...I feel grateful I can be very happy in my own company...as I’ve matured I realise the world needs all types of people

I'm also am introvert and enjoy listening more than talking most of the time, but I really enjoy your videos and all the information you share. I've been simplifying my skincare routine lately and getting away from products with fragrance, and your skincare tips have been so helpful. Much Love to you!

I'm loving this woman more and more!❤️❤️

Everything you said spoke right to the core of me. Like many others, especially those of us raised in American families or the Western world, from a small child I remember being constantly asked why I was so quiet and told I was shy and treated like there was something wrong with me because I wasn't "on" or chatty or entertaining etc... particularly by adults. Both of my siblings are quite extroverted as well as many of the friends I gravitated towards during my life and travels. This changed me and helped me to learn to be very outgoing and as you said I am not shy. However, no matter how funny or entertaining or outgoing I learned to be... it still wasnt natural. As you said, I have to turn myself on so to speak. And it drains me. I am 28 now and finally starting to embrace that I need to go back to my roots and not try to morph into what society or even certain friends expect, but to honor my alone time and my quiet time and enjoy the few true friends I have who actually understand me and enjoy me when I am quiet too. You have been so inspiring to me. Extroversion is so pushed and almost forced and celebrated in the U.S. a lot of us get lost. Thank you for sharing, I think way more people than you know feel this same way and perhaps don't even realize that it is OKAY and normal to not enjoy small talk or un-connected socializing. I hope you and your family are well and filled with peace and joy. ❤

You make me smile. I appreciate how honest you are. You are touching so many people with your topics and realness; whether introvert or ambivert or any place on the scale. Your thoughtfulness and compassion toward others is beautiful. I really enjoyed this video. I thrive on witnessing authenticity, empathy, and compassion towards others. I agree about the small talk. I grew up so confused by the way so many ppl around me seemed to enjoy small talk and how naturally it came to them. Anytime the topic of emotional intelligence and/or social intelligence is hit upon, its a great day!! 🤩👍

Thanks for this video Jennifer! I think it's great you're pushing yourself outside your comfort zone.

Jennifer, thank you so much for sharing. I only just found your channel for your informative content on nourishing your skin. I just turned 35 and while I have great skin thanks to genetics, I believe you need to fulfil your side of the bargain if you want to maintain that into older age. I feel like I've found someone who understands exactly what I have been thinking about for the past few months. I'm borderline introverted/extroverted and it can also be difficult because I crave emotionally satisfying conversation, but find it hard to come by. Thanks for inspiring me to continue to challenge myself and to know I'm not alone xx

I can be very extroverted as I try to make people comfortable around me (which is draining in itself)but at my core I am an introvert. I relate so much more to someone like you than Someone that can have a frivolous conversation about nothing really. I think your authenticity is beautiful. Have a wonderful day. ❤️

I am so grateful for every video you make Jennifer. I "found" you just a short time ago, a few months, and I really enjoy watching your videos because I am an introvert too. I really find so much inspiration in every topic you post, thank you. I do leave comments here and there around the youtube. But one thing few people know about me, is that I really love designing clothes, and some times I also make them. Sew them that is. I wanted to take an education in that direction, but I did not have the guts to do so. So now this is my guilty pleasure, to draw and design a lot of different clothes, and some times I also sew them. Not many people know this about me, so now I'm practicing telling abut this. Well they know I sew, but I just don't show them everything, a lot of it is a secret because I feel so awkward having this interest. I know this is an old video and you will probably never read this, but I still leave this small note. To get out of my comfort zone. I prefer to be quiet and silent too. At least among most people. Among my "happy crowd" as I call them, I can also be more outgoing. But only to those who know me well. Have a happy weekend Jennifer.

Wow this video was two years ago, so maybe I'm the only one here. I am 26 years old and I have severe social anxiety and selective mutism. No one except for my parents have ever heard me speak in my life. I also struggle with agoraphobia. I believe that because I can't speak to people, and though it's understandable, they make it about themselves and get offended. Plus not speaking is considered rude. And I get uncomfortable going through all that every time I go out. Also, if you can imagine being out somewhere alone and you can't speak, but you are in a situation where you need to say something to someone and the words can't come out, how frightened and vulnerable it would feel. So I do give into fear too much and stay where it's safe. I keep busy at home. I love to read, write, cook, clean, dance, look after pets, research and learn languages to myself. I'm actually grateful to have found your channel because I appreciate your knowledge on things like bone broth and beef liver for health. I want to make it for my parents too. Also, you have inspired me to attempt therapy again. As I approach my thirties I feel I need to be more brave. They say that selective mutism is hard to fix once you're already in adulthood and is better to get help when you're still a child. My parents didn't know who to ask for help back then. I have tried speech therapy in the past a few years ago because I feel it is, in a way, a physical disability (and I do believe it is a disability for me as it is debilitating and like holding myself prisoner) and it is deeper than just shyness (I also don't think I am shy, same as you). So hopefully one day I will be able to go to a dance class. xD Sorry for rambling but I had to comment because I've watched a few of your videos and feel I can relate to much of your experiences and feelings. And I also want to be healthy like you too. Thank you.

this felt so comforting, i always felt bad for being so introverted but this was a little reminder that its ok to not come out of your shell for others comfortability

I can relate as well. I need to recharge in isolation after small talk. However, when talking to my actual friends, I could hang out for hours

Dear Jennifer, I am so enjoying going back to watch your videos from the start. The way you communicate, so eloquently, with such natural innate feminine grace and elegance, calm and mindful, aware and with soulful depth is nurturing, I am an introvert, and reserved as well and can totally relate to all that you are saying, although I consider myself to also be shy, but they are indeed different facets. I am fascinated by how you speak of doing these videos as a way to grow, as well as enjoying sharing certain topics you are passionate about. So one thing I will write as a response to your question is that I would love to have the courage to do videos as well in order to connect and share many things that are meaningful to me with like minded people that I may not always have the possibility (or the energy) to engage with "in real life". thank you, take care always many blessings your way

I just found your channel and love it. I could so relate to you. I’m an introvert as well and for years I thought that that was not normal. Now I realize that it’s very normal for me😊

I find it hard to classify whether I am introverted or extroverted. Perhaps I'm talkative when I want to be, and only in situations where I'm comfortable in. I tend to read people first and get a vibe check before approaching them or speaking. The one thing I've noticed about myself is that if someone appears to be more shy and reserved, I find myself talking to them more, whereas if I'm faced with someone who has a big and loud personality, I tend to feel overwhelmed by their energy and can't seem to hold a conversation. I've been really enjoying your videos, Jennifer! Raw, transparent, and refreshing in this space.

I am an introverted myself and find it so encouraging watching your videos❤❤❤

I completely relate to this. Thank you for sharing. You have inspired me tremendously.

Hi Jennifer I love this video I found your channel during the time that you were sick with coronavirus and then I started watching you from there on and I know you mentioned that you’re a very quiet introverted person and I respect that and completely feel you because that’s my life too. Sometimes people think I’m rude or standoffish and they don’t understand why I like to Keep to myself. Thank you for sharing, I love that you’re so sweet and honest. Take care

Jennifer I appreciate that you differentiate between being introvert and being shy. That's one thing people ususally misunderstands about introverts but being introvert does not have to mean that one is shy.

I'm a quiet and introverted person. Only when the subject talk related to my interests, like animals, nature, art, music, cooking, etc. I spend a lot of time discovering what I enjoy and what I like to do. People usually don't see introverts in me when discussing my happy interests. But I do the same as you, Jennifer. I don't feel comfortable in groups or put on the [ have to social mode ]. I prefer spiritual stuff.

Oh my gosh I feel the same way. Yes I wonder why anyone would want to talk about the weather! I love listening to you, and yes you are doing a good job Myself I am a very sensitive person

Hi Jennifer. Thank you for sharing aspects of your life with us. I can relate to everything you said. I too am an introvert. I think some people find me strange. But those who do know me well realize that I feel things very deeply and appreciate me for that.

Love your channel and I appreciate you! I can see that you have an intention and a purpose behind each video and I really admire that :) I noticed the tag in the description box #infj. That's my Jung type too. I'm on the enfj/infj cusp but lean towards introversion. It's hard... I really tried to push myself to be more extraverted at a young age when I realized that introversion was sometimes seen as undesirable, and that I wasn't getting as much attention as I was craving. I'm learning to embrace my natural introversion now though as an adult because it's exhausting to be something you're not. I realized I need to allow myself to be myself and embrace my introversion because it is just the way I am and I feel more relaxed embracing it rather than fighting it.

Hi Jennifer, I’m a natural introvert too 💙 and am mostly a silent listener, thank you for your inspiring channel. It’s good to hear that you are proud of your introvertness because I have never felt that way, constantly trying to force myself out, thank you for that because it’s allowed me to see that I ought to be proud of my personality too, rather then thinking I’m always at fault xxx

I saw your beauty videos, but was surprised to see this one. I, too, am introverted nut I'm not cultivating true, deep friendships. Thank you for sharing. I'm not alone in this :)

I'm probably opposite of you, an extrovert with a touch of shyness (it's a thing, okay! 😂). Right now in my life I love love engaging with people but I used to loathe small talks and found them awkward. With time I learned to view it as a starting point of getting to know someone deeper. It can be a tool to put guards down and see if you vibe and want to engage further. Just my two cents, hope it helps someone. Love your channel xx

I feel like I met a friend, where I can be quite and be myself. Thank you Jennifer.

Introverts unite! ❤️💥 Thanks for sharing. Could relate to everything you said. Bless you and your videos. Can’t wait for more content 🔥❤️🌈🌺

It’s really refreshing to hear someone go into detail about their personal introverted-ness like this; growing up I was taught to believe I was just “shy”, but obviously as an adult I’ve realized that it’s so much more than that. I never liked being called “anti-social” either because it always seemed to be a negative term. But your video really helps me accept that part of my personality more and learn to embrace. I have friends and family that support me for who I am and I’m lucky that they don’t try to change me into something I’m not :)

I’m an INFJ too. I’m finding this quarantine very, very soothing to my soul, it’s unbelievable how much relief I feel and after all these years of accumulated exhaustion of learning to coping with socialising as society expects one to, I feel that I’m finally getting a recovery, and I’m the happiest & most creative I’ve ever been. That being said, I’m sorry that you were infected and having to battle against the disease, sending all my best wishes to you. I hope however the condition is, you still get to enjoy the quietness brought to this world during this period of time. X

I just finished high school and I pushed myself to try and be extroverted in school and it made me say awkward things out of fear it didn’t help that my old friends called me weird. My boyfriends parents say I look like I’m scared to talk to people ( which I sort of am ) , but I also dislike hanging out with so much people or talking to! My family members are extroverts and bother me so much. I just find it better to be by myself because it turns out to be much more interesting.

You are inspiration. I am exactly as you describe yourself. I feel drained out of being with people, and it's so hard to share because it's not the norm and you could actually hurt or be offensive! I enjoy your videos you are peaceful! I'm want to have my best skin tone possible at age 52 🙄 so I am starting today with part of your skincare routines. Love

Doing what makes you feel comfortable is goood! Don’t worry too much. But I think it’s important for introverts to know, people do want to get to know you deeper, and sometimes it starts with small talk.

I strongly relate! In the past I had thought of myself as just shy/socially anxious and that I'd grow out of it through continual exposure, which is partially true... but it's only in the last few years (late twenties/early thirties) that I've started to really understand and honour my introverted nature. It's such a relief!! In my twenties I'd have these windows where I'd push myself to be super social because I had this conditioned belief that I needed to as much as I possibly could, a lot of pressure to have more connections, appear more popular, be bubbly and engaged in a way that didn't feel natural. It felt very forced, inauthentic, uncomfortable and unsatisfying even when I had social acceptance and didn't come across as awkward. I loved how you said in such a clear-cut way that you don't enjoy small talk or being around people. I used to think all of these introverted tendencies were unhealthy or not ideal and something to change. I'm so much happier and healthier now that I allow myself to be quiet and on my own much of the time, without the pressure to have an active social life and be so chatty. Understanding personality psychology has been so beneficial for me, and as you said, it helps build your social intelligence. It's lead me to be far less judgemental of myself and others. Have you done the big 5 personality test? A video going through your results would be fascinating!

I like to spend time by my self too. I am very much an introvert and always thought I was just shy but as I’ve grown up I realize I think I’m both!

I can empathize. I’m personally thinking about placing/wearing an INTP tag at all times. BTW Love your Vibes❣️✨ Subscribed!

Hi Jennifer. I've recently subscribed and spent the last couple of days binging on your videos! I'm not typically one for commenting/interacting on KZfaq but wanted to say thanks a lot and I look forward to your next one :)

I rarely leave comments but I truly enjoyed your videos! I’m also an introvert, but everyday I try to find a balance given I work in a big corporate office, I once read a book called “Quiet” by Susan Cain, it was very helpful and inspiring. Lastly, I wanted to say you have amazing personality, stay true/real and thanks for sharing!!

I was a quiet and shy child. From 18 to 35 I switched my shelf to a leader, 100 of friends, loved and welcomed everywhere... and then I had my first enormous panic attack. I thought I was dying. Today at 54, after this journey I am a quiet girl/person again...I always see myself as a girl. It’s like I close a circle. I m happier this way and work every day to find my inner balance hoping that panic attacks will end their circle too. I believe that my eyes and senses see and feel deeper than other people as I was a child I am fragile if I am crowded. I discovered you this week and I enjoy very much your videos. Happy Christmas from Greece

I am an introvert. I struggle to have friendships because I don't know how to develop them or keep them. If I talk I like to talk about things I'm learning or interested in or pondering. Not many people like that. I'm very different in the things I tend to like and not like. I also get exhausted being around a lot of people or noise. I think that is why I like You Tube. I can sort of interact with people without it being a heavy burden or stressful.

I’m an extremely extroverted person for most of the day but by early evening I’m done and just want to be quiet.. I am gravitated to your introverted personality and content. Would like to see more frequent videos!

I’m definitely an introvert as well. Growing up I was always labeled as being shy, (but I am not shy either) and I too had trouble creating friendships because I always wanted to connect in a more personal level, and not everyone wants that. As an adult now, I’ve come to realize that I am not good at small talk and I don’t enjoy it either , I prefer deeper and meaningful connections where I can understand someone and they can understand me.

It's refreshing to see and listen to someone who I resonate with in the sense of introversion, but not being shy, I'm awkward but I don't see it as a disability, I just see things from a different point of view, and my awkwardness makes me, well, me. Not having a large friend base by choice because it is exausting. It's refreshing to listen to a video saying "hey it's ok to be you, were all different and to understand that and to be tolerant of that fact" Thankyou for encouraging the silent listeners like myself to open up and share something about our selves ❤️ I like long walks by myself in nature and contemplating life, there you go something about myself. Loving the videos btw 🙂👍

Thank you so much I'm 19 and had been always in this dilemma of constantly trying to change my introvert personality. All my friends, familyand even my boyfriend tries to change me. At one point I honestly thought that being introvert is a really bad thing as you don't see many people appreciating your personality. I was literally practising how to talk to people on youtube as my college is soon gonna start. This quarantine is making feel relaxed and anxious at same time. Fortunately I found you and this video made me feel good about myself. I definitely see you as my guardian angel. 😇

Beautiful. It's taken me years to even begin to realise that I struggled for so long to try to present an extroverted face (long story) that I lost contact with my true nature - which is the opposite of most of the faces I ever projected. I don't know why I took so long to understand and accept this. 😳

Hi Jen. I'm a silent viewer as well. Lovely to meet you 😊 I just appreciate your authenticity. Thank you for being true to who you are. Much love from Swaziland (a small country next to South Africa) 🌼🌼

I am embarrassingly bad at small talk and I find it hard to find people who aren't put off by my awkwardness. But when I do find people who I connect with it feels so good to finally form a deep bond and then I actually don't mind having small talk with those people, once the walls come down. I literally am just happy having 1 or 2 people outside of my family that I am really close with. When I do feel comfortable with the people I'm with I can become a lot more extroverted.

I’m 19 years old and as I grow older I want to grow stronger and be the healthiest I can be. Your videos have already encouraged me so much to do so and I can’t wait to start doing so much more for myself finally!

I have always been an introvert and a socially anxious person, just being around people would make filled with anxiety. It’s mentally draining to go out for something that would require me to talk to other people and I’m always burdened with this fear that how would the other person judge me or what would they think about me. I want to thank you for making this video and sharing this part of your personality ❤

Realness 100%. Thanks for sharing👍

I wish I could find people in your personality traits around me because mostly my society is so blindfolded by overthrown habits related to ideology or diet or superficial meaningless interests. I know that I sound judgmental at this point but these are my honest subjective observations. I really love you Jennifer and your vibe you make me feel serene by watching you explaining things. I adopted many beauty and diet recommendations on your channel and I feel great difference. I wish you all success and everything beautiful in your life. Salutes from Egypt. 🇪🇬☘️🌻🌼🤍

I am so glad to have found your channel. I am an introvert, and have struggled with comments from others about my lack of conversation. I get a lot of..” most normal people would engage in conversation or just open up and talk..” I wonder if people say these things because they are uncomfortable with silence and feel the need to fill the quietness with unnecessary words.

I was a total introvert. I found the more you deliberately practice on social skills, the more extrovert you can become.I'm now an introvert and extrovert. I feel comfortable being alone and I was love to hangout with people.

I am also an introvert..I am one of five sisters and brothers who are all extroverts..I have always been labelled as (the shy one of the family) which has always made interacting difficult and awkward...i simply chose to be quiet ..I also do not enjoy engaging in small talk..but find the extrovert behaviour of my siblings hilarious..I am enjoying your videos very much.I am also a gemini . Perhaps this is a trait of our birth sign.Thank you for your channel ..I am enjoying it very much .

Hi Ms. Jennifer! I've watched this video twice already and the first time that I've seen this, I was unable to accept your challenge. Now that I've come back and watched again I realized alot of things. First off, I am a 22 year old woman living in the Philippines. Ever since I could remember, I've been having trouble making friends and always felt like I am an "outcast". Many people I've known from a certain period of time, was able to tell me that I look intimidating, others told me I look too shy and quiet and it always makes me sad. Through the years, I felt like I was really alone and strange. I felt weird in my own skin. Gradually, I was able to read about the different types of personalites and after some years of practice, I am starting to accept who I am. I don't view myself as the strange, weird girl who doesn't belong anywhere. 😊 Thank you for sharing this. I always love listening to people like me, regardless of age. Thank you for making me feel that I am not alone. Godbless you more and more videos to come! 😊❤