Why Love Makes Us Anxious - Valentine's Day Special

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On this special edition on Valentine's day, we'll explore why love makes us anxious and ways of overcoming this anxiety (with a bit of help from Shakespeare's longest play: Hamlet.)
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Chapters:
The Anxiety of Love: 00:00
1: The Ghost of the Lover: 01:52
2: When Love haunts us down: 04:41
3: Facing The Anxiety of Love: 06:52
Sponsor: 10:11

Пікірлер: 47

@BrittanyBWrites Жыл бұрын

This was a very interesting video. As a person who has never dated a day in her life [like never, not one date at all] I guess I am a scholar of love without the whole 'i need to be in a relationship just to be like everyone else' and just wait for the day that happens. thank you for the video!

@Tehrawrzorz Жыл бұрын

That's how i met my wife. Not frantically searching, just developing myself and we happened to find each other!

@frafraplanner9277 2 ай бұрын

Same

@Lee_x_x Жыл бұрын

you are 100% correct. I remember when my bf saw me for the first time and smiled at me, I was literally crying and shaking cause I saw what was coming next lol. but then everything becomes fine. I think love is not something you should be afraid of. it will somehow eventually be fine.

@losingaces Жыл бұрын

on the topic of love and anxiety, it becomes so much more complex after one has experienced the emotion to its full extent and has been stripped of it again. it seems as if a state of mind and being, and once its revoked its like starting over life again. i think this is why people are obsessed with love. They like the idea of changing the entire scope of their life through the simple action of entwining with a partner. this is why people love heartbreak or breakup songs too. because the topic at hand is freeing the self from this emotion or person that once meant so much to you. so basically i think it often boils down to wanting to change yourself, or free yourself- unless of course the love was not planned and it happened upon a whim.

@hope3496 Жыл бұрын

crazy how i had some similar thoughts today. i guess i truly am a scholar of love as i've never established a relationship but have all sorts of theories and explanations for what is or should be, and never imagined how this would affect my position towards love and the other person itself in actuality. in my head i also always picture myself as an awkward tongue-tied loser which is why i never make it past the online chatting stage on dating apps, but today i realized i can be quite inquisitive and a good conversationalist with most people when the moment calls for it. 😅

@lifeislife630 Жыл бұрын

Thank you for the video! As a rather anxious person, I can say that anxiety itself is a lot about expectations about me and others. But love is truly difficult one because, as you say, it is too subjective experience to deal with it with rationality (and ironically rationality is one of the most useful techniques to cope with anxiety 😅). Your video is really helpful!

@thucoantrannguyen6386 Жыл бұрын

I just finished my nightshift, was planning to practice my calligraphy before saw you upload a new video. I considered this the best valentine gift I have ever had 🫣

@jasminegold6890 Жыл бұрын

The best Valentine's Day gift is having dinner then going to a bookstore. My family and I love books!

@WorldhopperSterbb Жыл бұрын

Very good Robin. I like how you connected Hamlet to this video essay. And I found myself laughing throughout the video due to how accurate it summarizes my experiences, and I am sure many others. We often find ourselves becoming scholars when confronted with the unknown, and until the ever growing anxiety driven day arrives "The Date" we keep asking ourselves the dangerous question, "What if?" which destroys the romance. Yes, we should embrace the anxiety in a positive light, and let ourselves be taken on an adventure. That is true romance. Thank you for the video.

@any-box7537 Жыл бұрын

I love your videos man keep up

@rachelb9713 Жыл бұрын

Lots of my friends ask me advices when it comes to love, but I myself, get really anxious when I feel interested in someone (basically the start of love). I think about what could be and what should be. But feelings, especially love, is too complicated to be caged in a clear answer. Nice hearing what you have to say about it as it gave me a new perspective on love! Just seeing where it goes is also part of the adventure. Great video!

@alenescoblete5540 Жыл бұрын

Excellent video! You’ll make an awesome professor!

@chuucake Жыл бұрын

해피 발렌타인 데이~♡ happy valentine's day robin!

@MsGechi77 Жыл бұрын

This is so cute. 🧡

@surakshyaaryal5648 Жыл бұрын

I'm so grateful that I found you on the internet ❤️

@levonkutcy Жыл бұрын

Really impressed by this

@leonelrodriguez4010 Жыл бұрын

Estimulating essay, thanks. To define is to give an end, a goal, to something which, such as love, is mysterious in its comings and goings. Now, to live this insight is quite another matter, but worth the effort of being true to one's claritys (?). Greetings from México.

@feelswriter Жыл бұрын

Interesting -- fairly Meta! My fav type of analysis. Thanks for pulling it off

@BoReads Жыл бұрын

Happy Valentine's Day!!

@booshkoosh7994 Жыл бұрын

I never miss a video! Thanks a lot for the time put into these videos! 😉

@RoundSeal Жыл бұрын

As an anxious person that isn't quite 100% aromantic, this was a really interesting video! Thank you!

@briancoveney3080 Жыл бұрын

Looking sharp, Sir.

@xano2834 Жыл бұрын

As a single scholar of love, that was helpful and fascinating to hear.

@aadityaachauhann Жыл бұрын

"Ask the most intellegent person what books he read" idk who said this quote but i read it from insta and its kinda true. Most of my friends are smart, and not in academic way but mostly street smart and ive been like an npc most of my life. They way they handled the situation and their ideologies always inspired me. They are cunning at the right moment and sweet at right time. They know how to manupilate others and shit and extremely good at networking. I wanted to become more smarter and not feel like an NPC. So I started reading books and that made me see the world in different view but when i asked them, most of them said that they never touched a book. They say its all experience and real life shit and even andrew tate said he dosent read books. Not saying that books are useless and even if you are "smart" books will make you more smarter but I find that interesting.

@huugosorsselsson4122 Жыл бұрын

"even andrew tate said he dosent read books." That's truly the point that clinches your argument.

@MuhammadAlEmran Жыл бұрын

Love from Bangladesh.

@celineqoujaq2175 Жыл бұрын

6:23 7:21 8:14 overthink being anxious 9:41

@meeps0283 Жыл бұрын

Damn never thought about it like that. Thanks for the video mate :)

@imiikhan Жыл бұрын

happy valentines day brother 🥰💞

@chai9926 Жыл бұрын

thank you dearly for this wonderful video, Robin! Just as an idle curiosity, what are your thoughts on free will? I'm currently being forced to drown in Nietzsche as part of my highschool studies and i'm curious as to how your goal of developing practical philosophy intersects with free will.

@tallgeese7451 Жыл бұрын

This was a surprisingly good video; it was absolutely lovely. By the way, I wanted to ask, what was your initial inspiration for the design of your set? It looks great!

@TaniaC0009 Жыл бұрын

I particulary enjoyed the video, but I've tried not to apply it for romance but more for rather everyday relationships. It is true that in a world filled with fiction I may lose myself in the labyrinth of overthinking. Big breaths and closing my eyes help a little bit. :D

@christiangennari Жыл бұрын

Aren't you basically saying be mindful? Live in the moment, not in your thoughts? It's the all encompassing answer that we practicing buddhists believe is the answer to most if not all of our imaginary problems. The problem is not how you are thinking, but that you are thinking. Live in the moment, experience, don't theorize the experience.

@oEmmanuelAndrade Жыл бұрын

What is the song that starts at Ghost of the lover chapter? Very good imo.

@bekzodkhamutov2328 Жыл бұрын

Your thoughts are so similar with my owns that I would like just invite you to a peaceful, old restaurant in Paris and talk about life...

@RCWaldun Жыл бұрын

I’m heading to Paris in June. :)

@bekzodkhamutov2328 Жыл бұрын

@@RCWaldun Listen, I'm living in France at the moment. I'll leave a comment in June, and maybe we'll come across :)

@AbdullahA001 Жыл бұрын

Hey Waldun, have you ever heard about iCanStudy or justin sung ?

@MATHEW94061 Жыл бұрын

His accent make his videos more interesting where is he from originally?

@strawbasket1 Жыл бұрын

High philosophy

@ambreenali. Жыл бұрын

I know for sure I'm a scholar of love, I've always been scared to fall for the wrong guy and I've struggled with relationships my entire life, I friendzoned my best friend thinking being in a relationship with him would ruin our friendship but I was so fucking wrong, he's perfect and I only got to see that after he got in a relationship with someone else. Experience, be it good or bad is important, only thinking won't get you anywhere.

@lindaabraham8715 Жыл бұрын

Get back to us about love when you have stayed married long enough to raise a good human being. In other words, when you have been a good husband and father. Then I will believe you know something about love.

@freyasharman4384 Жыл бұрын

Deep understanding and knowledge of love doesn’t have to be validated in the social institutions of husband and father. Love comes in many forms and everyone has the agency to comment on it from how they perceive it.

@lindaabraham8715 Жыл бұрын

@@freyasharman4384 Oh what depth! I am so grateful for such understanding, oh Magnanimous One! A person doesn't come across such adherence to the party line so often!

@freyasharman4384 Жыл бұрын

@@lindaabraham8715 Happy to bless ☺️