The first person to ever tell me "i love you" without me saing it first was my daughter at the age of 7. I was in tears the whole night.

About 20 years ago I worked in a locked mental health unit. There was an elderly man who was 99 who was there for suicidal ideation. He told me, " My wife is dead. My children are all dead and my grandchildren are all dead. I do not know anyone." It did not feel like mental illness.

I wish society would realise how emotionally efficient a man can be. 1 ‘I Love You’ … 1 hug out of the blue, 1 tiny comment to show appreciation, can keep our fire burning for so long. But many men don’t receive these tiny nuggets of motivation their entire lives. We don’t ask for very much at all… I’m a bloke but I still take responsibility of keeping the fire burning in other men. Always drop a compliment or raise something a friend or brother did well - out of the blue. As a kid me and my siblings were tucking into an amazing dinner and we all, almost simultaneously cried out ‘thank you mum!’ And she had the biggest smile on her face. I followed up with ‘thank you dad, you worked hard all day so mum had the tools and ingredients to cook in the first place.’ First time I saw a grown man cry. Try it, you’ll be amazed.

Sometimes life just becomes unbearable due to loss, finances, and circumstance. My heart and soul goes out to anyone also suffering. It’s not that most of us want to die, it’s just the pain, suffering and stress becomes almost unmanageable and suicide seems like the only solution. It’s like our mind is scrolling through all the solutions and suicide is just the one that is closest to our reach

Feeling lonely when you are in the presence of others is profoundly isolating.

Yeah, this is real. The feeling of reaching out and having no connections is real. That and the feeling that life isn't worth living. It is getting harder to see an emotionally and financially stable world right now. I relate.

Im a 35 year old single man, lives alone, no girlfriend, and most friends are in loving relationships. I feel lonely and isolated alot. My nephews birthday was just the other day and I bought him a marvel set of character toys as a present, my stepfather video called me to show me him opening my present i got him, i then asked my nephew who his favourite superhero is and his reply was "umm you". After i hung up i had to fight tears at work. Stuck with me all day.

I work with a guy in his early 40s. He’s got two full time jobs. Gets up in the early morning goes to his first one, arrives at the place I work around 2 and works until midnight, he has a half hour drive home afterwards as well. Man does 80 hours a week. Just a microcosm of the situation our working class people face. There’s a reason people feel out of options. Wishin the best for everyone out there 🙏

Ive felt this struggle. The first time i cried my soul out was when my daughter at 8 years old made me a bag lunch for work with a note that said "I love you daddy have a good day at work" sat in my car at work and balled like a baby because i felt no one cared especially my wife at the time and just took everything I did for granted. When she was older she told me she started making me lunch because she got tired of seeing me barely eat while mommy ordering food for herself and going out with frends to eat before i would get home. Didn't even know this was going on as i was working 2 jobs at the time. Happily divorced now. Daughter is 23 now and i still have that note. Its locked in a safe with my most valuable possessions. That note has gotten me through some rough days through the years.

“They try to connect with others and they get rejected.” I felt that one deeply.

I have had mental illness and depression problems for 40 years. He is right, reaching out and being rejected and forgotten by people you gave everything to is devastating. Probably the biggest cause.

Getting rejected several time while desperately in need is definitely frustrating

I told my friend “Be safe” when he was walking back from where we met up on campus. He’s tall, 6’2” or so, but he stopped and he stared at me for a few moments, and then he came over and hugged me. I was confused, and he explained, “That’s the first time someone’s actually said that to me.” and my heart broke a little, i think. Edited because multiple people have stopped to ask why I mentioned that he was tall. I mentioned he was tall because generally tall people are seen as more physically capable, regardless of whether or not it is actually true. This almost certainly lends itself to the fact that most people didn’t see fit to tell him to be safe because the idea is “he’s tall so he can take care of himself”, same with those who are more muscular, despite the fact that neither of these are going to significantly matter in a fight if the other person is carrying a weapon. So, ffs, stop getting upset that I mentioned he was tall - I mentioned it for a reason.

When I was at one of my lowest points one time, I called the suicide hotline to try and get some help, and after talking to the lady on the other end for like a minute, I got distracted by a car passing weirdly in front of my house, took maybe 5 seconds to look at it and that’s being generous. When I went to raise my phone back up to my ear I saw that the phone call had ended. It shook me so hard it completely took me out of my suicidal state and I started laughing like an idiot over the fact that I was suicidal, reached out to the suicide hotline for help, didn’t get help and got hung up on. Ironically enough, by not helping me not commit suicide, the suicide hotline helped me not commit suicide.

In life, we need hope. The moment we lose that, then it’s the end.

This is why religion is very important even today. It gives hopeless people some comfort, something to look forward to, something that says "Don't worry, it'll all make sense in the end" it gives them hope all their suffering in this life is not in vain.

being trapped alone in your own mind is the hardest thing having pretty much no one is exhausting

"They try to connect with others and they get rejected ” this statement hurts my heart soo much😢

This is so refreshing to hear. I work in the mental health and addiction field and the pathologizing of everybody’s struggles and making it a personal deficit or disease distracts from the actual causes which are pressures on families and communities, and a culture that puts us all in competition while requiring that we all be of service to the Almighty dollar not each other. it is so good to hear you. Please continue with this theme

Thank you for actually saying this word. Most channels bleep it or do some other BS. This is a huge issue and shouldn't be censored or cancelled. I appreciate you.

I felt that. I called 911 before my attempt and they hung up on me. When you reach out and it goes south when you need help you wont ask again.

My friend died earlier this year from suicide. Part of what fed into those feelings of despair were him feeling suffocated by his grief (his wife and youngest kid were killed in a car accident in 2022 and his other two young kids almost died in that same crash but they're still alive). When you feel stuck and have zero way out now or you think that there isn't going to be a way out later then you see suicide as a valid option. I miss my friend. This year has been hard.

Exactly why you need to learn to truly love and know yourself. It will give you a foundation you can’t find anywhere or with anyone else.

Last time I had a therapist, she wanted to medicate my depression. But I know my depression is due to circumstance, loneliness, reality. Not brain chemistry. So I refused to go on medication. She got frustrated and tired of me and found a way to release me as a client.

I remember hearing my grandmother advise my sisters to always offer kind words to the boys in their lives, emphasizing how seldom they receive appreciation. The more I learn about how society treats men, the more I realize she is correct

You have no idea how much success I've had with "my friend you don't want to die, you just don't want to be in your situation"

I called a suicide hotline before and the lady on the phone interrupted me and asked me to stop swearing Kind of ridiculous to ask that to someone on the brink of ending things

At 48 years old , these have been my darkest days between a devastating breakup and a struggle to find the positive in life. However , I have to stay strong. I owe it to myself. Especially to my future more successful self 🙏🏾💯

hes 100% right Cant afford hobbies Cant afford a house Cant afford a family Cant afford higher education Cant afford a car Stuck at a deadend job Minimal friends if any Its like society still expects men to be completely self-reliant, stoic and have all the answers even though the resources to give men that ability have moved so far out of reach they might as well be non-existent.

Man, looking through the comments really shows me how much pain actually is in this world. To all the people that are fighting, I hope it gets better for you!

That's so true. It's the feeling of there not being a point to living, and when someone reaches out for a connection it's the same as asking "Is there any point to me sticking around? Or should I head out?" and that rejection can sound like a firm "No, there's no point" to some people. I have so much on my shoulders and even though I do often have mildly 'Cidal thoughts I know there's always a point to living. No situation on earth is permanent except death, and I know I'm not done with my journey

Yeah, I've never been particularly worried about being homeless or losing everything because I always have that 'escape option'. It's helped me get through some really bad periods of stress because I know I've always got a way out..

I’ve seen some people somehow misinterpret entirely Dr. K’s point and dunked on him for “glorifying/justifying suicide”, when it isn’t the case. What he said is ABSOLUTELY correct. I’ve gone through depressive episodes, mild ones thankfully, but never have I been diagnosed with a mental illness, my brain was never truly malfunctioning. The causes were external, rather than internal. We need to make this clear for everyone.

My friend is a sociologist and tracked this in men over 50 who have retired. The level of suicidality is very high, as the men saw their jobs and careers as their role in society and once that ended, they felt like they had no role to play.

My father took the long road with alcoholism. In the end, it was exactly this. He saw no way out. It broke my heart to today, and I miss him very much.

Kudos to everyone who's keeping their hopes high amidst so many things going not in their way, keep thriving kings 👑

My daughters are keeping me here..Have no mental issues at all..This world despresses tf out of me.Being a man is rough..I almost cane close to ending it all and out of nowhere my daughters called me to tell me they Love me out of the blue..I was so hurt i was going to leave them alone..I made a vow to never think that again..

The most affection I've received in the past few months was when I bumped my watch on a plate of metal at work, and 1 of the managers nearby heard it and came rushing over to me asking if i was alright in a soft caring voice it sounded genuine and I just froze because even though It didn't hurt I brushed it off but her voice had so much concern in it, I cried a lot that night and couldn't think of anything else besides thanking her for checking on me

Lack of empathy and community is what is putting this phenomenon on the map…the digital age has warped humanity. It’s sad. I try to be kind to everyone of every age.

When one realizes there is no hope of sanity in a disconnected world run by narcissists opting out is absolutely painless and inviting.

100% accurate imo. I’m not depressed, just have nothing to live for. Sleep, work, eat, repeat. This isn’t a life, why endure it

"They try to connect with others and get rejected". Those words were really piercing, because that is the truth 😔 Edit: Thanks for all the upvote (I didn't expect such a response). Just wanted to add that I am not in such a situation at all, but I was there and can still remember the pain of being in such a situation. And I am also feeling sorry for those who are in such a situation at the moment. This world can be such a dark place, please threat other people with kindness and understanding 🙏

I could never understand suicidal tendences or ideation, thinking to myself 'why would anyone want to willingly end their life when the world is so beautiful and interesting; when there's so much to do and see?'... until two years ago now. He is absolutely right: it's the feeling of being trapped, of having no escape, no way out, that makes someone believe that death is the only way to end their situation. For the first time ever in my life, I suffered what wanting to die felt like. It was like I was already dead, the future already destroyed, and all hope for anything else vanished. I had people that loved me and were terrified that I had suddenly started to fantasize about dying. At first, I was thinking of what-if scenarios of the accidents that I could get in, the mistakes that would cause my death. They got worse, to the point of thinking of a time, a location, and method. I felt like I was dying anyway, and my physical health was declining along with my mental health. I lost all interest in the things I loved most: all my hobbies, favorite foods, shows, movies, I barely even felt like I could keep a casual conversation; it all was just more empty space in the black hole swallowing up my soul. A change was all I needed. My situation wasn't nearly as inescapable as I had thought it was, and in fact, I realized it was self-imposed. Anything, everything, would have been an improvement to where I was and what I was doing, and now I'm doing better than ever and came out stronger for it. I feel like I'm forever marked by my survival, and I'll know for the rest of my life, that nothing is inescapable, for any reason. Please, do not give up. Your life can change from youself, others, God, or just pure luck, and in ways you probably can't imagine. NOTHING is permanent... except death. Keep loving the whole world, because there's so much to do and see, people to meet, and things to learn. The future can change so fast, and not one person knows where it leads, so take it by the reins and charge forward. Don't give up hope.

What he said about men commiting suicide because they realize theres no way out of a bad place is spot on....basically my life right now ive been working since i was 6yrs old in mexico (im u.s born citizen) as a vendor then when i was 12 started working construction then at 24 started working in warehouses...and now at 26 im working at a kfc and you know what i have to my name ? Nothing...i barely even have clothes...and if i get the opportunity to buy clothes they end up becoming work clothes because all i do is work....and i still have nothing...ive never even had a car and honestly ive come with the realization that im simply cursed nothing i do ever works im not lazy and im not stupid but somehow someway nothing i ever do helps me accomplish anything it doesn't matter how hard i try and ive been at this since i was 6yrs old and i barely have clothes that look good enough to go to the gas station without looking like a bum....it be like that sometimes

This is spot on. A lot of guys aren't clinically depressed. The fact that things have gotten so bad in terms of society and relationships makes you look at things objectively and just be like "why would I do this for another 50-60 years?". It's only going to get worse.

We had an international student in our student house in college and he, for whatever reason, couldn’t make deep connections with anyone. He was friendly, easy to talk to and had good hygiene. He even bought a dvd for us to watch together but I was too busy with life to sit down and watch a movie. One day we were awake at the same time and he offered to make me breakfast. I realised he needed to make me breakfast more then I needed to eat breakfast. Again, we couldn’t connect on a deeper level but we both tried to talk about more than just the weather. His brother showed up a couple of weeks later and took him home for good because he had said some concerning things over the phone and his family wanted to keep him safe. After he left I found out that he had friend to connect with everyone of the 25 of us in the student building before he left. It made ever one of us reflect on how we treat others. He has a wife and kids now over in his homeland. He looks happy.

Yess 💯 And it’s not only for men. And don’t misunderstand the word connect. You can have a person you love and they love you back but they don’t feel like you, they don’t understand your emotions. So you’re connected but not connected. Like in those cartoons where there are 1000 people around 1 person but the person is still alone in their own circle. It’s worse on the rainy days.

I've debated killing myself a few times and while I don't if I ever actually had a mental illness, what really made me want to do it was this feeling that no one cares and while it didn't last long at all, for the brief period of time where I truly felt like someone cared about me I was great. Socially, mentally and physically. To this day I use those memories to keep moving forward

“Have a life that is no longer worth living”. That’s exactly it.

I've known this fact about myself for a long time. This is the very first time I've heard someone else actually say it. I'm not suicidal, I'm just in a place where I don't belong and I'd rather leave now than stick around for another few decades of misery.

The trying to connect with others but gets rejected hits deep. I know I have less than a year left in my life, I pray anyone who is not in to deep, to make it out❤️

As a dad i’ve considered it MANY times!!! the pain of losing our kids to divorce is incomprehensible to most people!! we suffer in silence and knowing that we are put on the back burner hurts more than anyone will ever know!!!

My landlord just killed himself, he was 80 and just in a lot of pain. No surgery or pill was gonna save him and he couldn’t do the things that made him happy anymore so he made what to him was a rational decision. RIP Bill

This is why it's SO important for men to build emotional connections and a community outside of their significant other. I did this and think it's what saved me from suicide.

The only times I've felt suicidal were times like this. People can feel worthless, betrayed or like there's little to nothing to live for or like life is unbearable regardless of if they have mental illness or not. While I don't generally support any violence (which include suicide), I can understand the urge for it at times. It is up to us to try to have self control and work through it but that's far easier said than done, especially when a lot of these men either have no support network, friends or family, or the ones they do have are abusive or users. Again, no excuse for violence or self-harm.. I'm just saying, we should try to understand these men and women (especially men for these sorts of issues) and understand where they're coming from.

Thank you for not censoring this video. Finally a video that's just straight up. It's a miracle

I have a friend that committed suicide from this exact scenario. Back in 2017, we were both in engineering school and 5 major things happened in his life that came in way too fast. 1st thing happened was that his girlfriend got pregnant and his daughter was born, 2nd was that his family’s childhood home burned down on thanksgiving the year prior and he lost his truck in the fire. 3rd was that he was failing engineering school and was just notified of academic probation for the following semester. The 4th thing was that his uncle that he was closest to died from a motorcycle accident 3 months prior to the thanksgiving fire. The final straw was when he found out his girlfriend was cheating on him even after his daughter was born. He literally had nowhere else to go. The worst part of it all was that he showed absolutely no signs of depression. There was none of his many friends that he could vent to nor could he relate his struggles to. He felt alone and out of options. Tbh it sounded like a desperate measure.

As a 27 year old man I feel like the only reason why I'm still alive is because my mom is alive and she is 67 if she passes I literally have no one to confide in or even to speak to so I don't know how I'm going to operate after the inevitable happens because I already know I'm going to be so lost

I got bullied from about 30 people. And they would try to get under my skin and kick my feet away. I was then 15 years old. This went on for about 6 years. And i did not want to live anymore. I got help, got back on my feet. And now i am stronger than ever.

I was rejected by a selfish woman who moved on quickly with a random guy she met in a bar into our home of 15 years, tried to commit suicide numerous times but i just couldn’t die. Fast forward 11 years and i have an amazing relationship with my two sons so i’m glad i didn’t leave them without a dad.

Well I can 100 percent understand that constant feeling of being rejected when trying to connect with other humans.

I would add that situational depression is real and can be just as devastating as clinical depression.

Couldn't agree more. Everytime I was on the brink of suicide, it was not out of depression. It was because was analyzing my life and seeing that me not being here may be a better option and bring more happiness to others. It was out of the feeling of hopelessness that I was only making things worse and that I could not become better. It was unfulfilled purpose. Fixing the suicidal feeling was never drugs, or therapy, or "focusing on myself" in a selfish sense. It was focusing on why I do the things I do, where I am in life, and changing the things for the better that I could change.

this is so true and I'm glad a mental health worker had the balls to say it. people love to over pathologize mental suffering and anguish when the root of alot of people's pain is external or systemic factors. not saying mental illness can't also just be internal, but it's important to look at the other side of the coin too

People who criticized him for this statement are idiots. We need to stop assuming everyone who turns to suicide “had” to have a mental illness. There are people who are paraplegic who would rather have euthanasia than keep living. Yet, the US system claims they have to be mentally ill if that is the case. We’ll never arrive at the truth if we refuse to admit we are living a lie.

I felt the same. I am usually a very active person, I have good self esteem. But one day, I started waking up, thinking that the reward that life was giving me didn't correlate the effort I was putting in, and it started to be painful. After some months, I started thinking that leaving this world was a good idea. Thankfully, this has changed a lot these past months 😊

I have been following you for some time Dr. K & I just want to send this as a thank you note cuz I believe the men you are talking abt in this video are the exact ppl you are saving with your vids, so - THANK YOU :)

Another thing I don’t think people realize is that those without mental disorders are wayyy more susceptible to taking drastic measures like that. If you’ve dealt with depression your entire life, you know how to claw your way back to stability or at least, how to keep surviving. If it’s something you’ve rarely experienced it’s just excruciatingly painful

Hopelessness. Feeling like you are out of options. Knowing that tomorrow will be the same as today, or worse. Knowing that your best days are behind you. These are the thoughts of a man on the edge.

The scary thing about it is that I'm constantly trying to connect to people and groups and I feel I don't belong in any of them.

thwarted belongingness is so true. I always felt extraneous in any situation once I stopped focusing on enjoying the moment or coaching myself through a boring job.

Suicide doesn't take the pain away it just gives it to someone else -a real gigachad

I would say the strongest tie is loneliness. Divorce, break ups, social outcasts, is pretty much the only reason men ever think about it. I don’t think it’s a selfish lonliness either, it’s knowing you have no one to show love to and care for as well as not feeling it yourself

I agree that not finding enough value in the world to desire prolonging the experience isn't automatically a mental illness. I'm glad someone had the courage to say it. People have to get up weekly, perform tasks of some sort, pay bills, run errans, do life maintenance things like wash clothes, cook, clean etc. and you have to really have a reason to want to continue doing those things. If we don't see the true problem, how could we address it properly. We have to create a new world of purpose and meaning.

To all the men who feel anxious in their lives, hear me out, I have something to share: Toxic masculinity hurts men too, the way men are raised and have all these expectations placed upon them RUIN their lives. I grew up as a guy and all my guy friends never were real with me, you couldn’t hug them when you were sad or be genuine with them because that would “make you gay” or something. I’m sure there are plenty of people in the comments who disagree with me and think all sorts of weird things about women and gay people, and I promise you those thoughts are contributing to your suffering. I used to be a little shithead who cringed whenever men cried or cared about people instead of sexualizing things or turning everything into a cruel joke. This behavior isn’t rooted in biology, it’s a social pattern guys learned unfortunately and it hurts EVERYONE, including men. We gotta fix it and learn to love each other even if we might not agree with them. Think critically, don’t turn to hate. Whatever you do, never fall into the trap of hating kinds of people as a first reaction. It will kill your soul and theirs. I’m a woman now, and I’ve learned a lot on the way but I still feel sorry for a lot of men who genuinely feel anxious about their own lives. I don’t agree with most of the men who stick their head in the sand and (for example) tell me I’m not a woman, or just generally be mean and ignorant. But I still feel like we can get better. I promise you guys that once you learn how to treat people equally, and I truly mean equally. (It takes a lot of work to understand your biases and what makes you feel certain ways about people, even if they might be of disgust at first glance), once you can do that, you will heal. Good luck men, women, and all the folks in between. We are all human and we all deserve love and respect, and if you can’t see that then you are only contributing to the high suicide rate among other problems.

This is actually horrifying. Because that's basically just realizing that your life is over and so you decide to do it yourself. I've had that thought many a times. The distance between those thoughts is shortening each time.

It’s that “aight ima head out” mentality

My brother died by suicide when I was 15. He was 22. It was the most shocking and depressing thing my family has ever gone through. Sometimes I wonder what he would be like today. Would he be married? Have children? I wish he had reached out to someone. I wish he wasn't so sad and hopeless to have decided death was the best solution. We miss him.

I have a history of depression and ideations and I can tell you that feeling of trying to connect with people (when you're not doing ok) and nor getting any support or sympathy is what makes me want to put my lights out

I told a therapist this exact thing about 8 years back, when I was around 20. I told her the only reason I'm still here is because I just couldn't hurt the people close to me like that. Not yet. Life wasn't that bad YET. A lucky break did hit, do I didn't have to hurt anyone else.

What Dr. K said is 100% true. I found myself in this situation in September 2022, arguably my lowest point in my life. I didn’t have anything to my name, lost a couple of my friends due to someone disassociating me from them, with said someone getting me addicted to drugs before completely exiting my life after the damage they’ve done. When you genuinely feel like there’s no hope left and you have no one to reach out to, you think this is the only valid option to take to “fix” everything. All the mistakes suddenly seem fixable within that moment. It wasn’t until I ‘woke up’ and realized that this wasn’t the way life was meant to be experienced I’m so glad I’m here today and have been going into my second year drug-free.

Every time I get suicidal it's always external. I have mental issues sure, but once I have a suicidal thought I can sit down, make a list of everything thats wrong, fix all those problems, and stop having the suicidal issue anymore until I feel trapped or stuck in a situation again. It's not shocking that people who are rejected socially at every turn would do this.

When I was young I strongly contemplated suicide, but then I learned that the folks who had caused so much chaos in my life were hitting the bricks in their own life. And then all my thoughts of suicide vanished, never to return.

As an empathic soul, this hurts me so much. I feel like there are so many men that just are not unconditionally loved in their relationships and it’s not fair. Men aren’t taught to ask for that, or are taught that if they do it’s not what should be prioritized. Everyone deserves to be seen and loved without asking for it. It’s so sad for me to see all the men here that didn’t feel that until they had children. I remember taking time out of my day to go to my dad and eventually my guy friends when I got older whenever I saw they were sad. I always told them that they mattered and that their ideas and life was worth living. I also want to note that if women expect to be treated a certain way, it goes miles to first treat the men around you the way you wish to be treated. Even if they aren’t perfect and didn’t ask for that treatment. I’m not talking about abusive individuals, I’m talking about men that suffer from the patriarchy the same way everyone else does. In some ways men are worse off because it leaves them so alone.

A starving man will survive the search for food through honor and duty, while a well-fed man, but starved of honor and duty, will eat himself in the search of both.

Definitely true and very relatable. I was 15 when I got diagnosed with depression, unsure of why I even felt depressed. About 1/2 a year later symptoms worsen, and I’m put into a residential mental hospital. Stayed there for 3 months, reflecting on how I don’t have a reason to be depressed and comparing myself to the others who have tragic stories. I end up getting raped by another female patient and she tries to extort me. Eventually I’m discharged and moved to php (day therapy at a mental hospital basically) for the next 4 months. Never getting better during any of this time. I was traumatized from the mental hospital experience wanting nothing to do with it ever again. Regardless I was still kept in php for another 3 months after about a month break. Eventually getting discharged and some time passes. During this time I missed about two years of high school, being an already bad student (not delinquent but just not very smart) I wasn’t going to be able to graduate. I still went to school anyways, but none of my old friends wanted to be around me anymore. I heard from my school counselor that they were concerned about me and said I was “acting different” that I wasn’t the same person. Which was true, I was completely numb a shell of the person I used to be. So I had no friends anymore. Then a girl asked me out. Never having dated before and being really defeated and vulnerable I agreed and we ended up dating. I ended up being cheated on, she left me for her abusive ex. This sent me spiraling back out of “control” and made the very numb me very emotional. This lead to a suicide attempt. Which landed me back in the mental hospital this time In inpatient (the highest level of supervision). Where I was able to make some “friends” and bond over our struggles. After getting discharged and going through the php program yet again, I developed trust issues, as once again my friends abandoned me after I helped them so many times. Leading me to this last year. No friends, I missed all of high school, I can’t drive, I ended up developing ptsd and a slight fear of women (especially when a woman touches me) I’m only taking college courses so my parents don’t kick me out of the house, I’m basically broke, I’m failing all of my college courses, I don’t find anything in life enjoyable, I can’t sleep at night, I hate how I look, I can only work so often without mentally breaking, and to top it all off I’m Christian- so I can’t bring myself to actually kill my self because I know hell is a worse fate. Though it doesn’t stop me from fantasizing about it. it all makes me feel as if I was never meant to survive my suicide attempt. That there was a mistake in letting me live. So everything I do feels pointless and only adds to my suffering.

I'm a sub teacher...yesterday another male teacher who's class I wasn't even covering said thanks so much for coming in and it brightened up my day...that was the highlight of my week.

This is 100% correct. Being alone sucks.

In Brazil we have a song called "Warrior boy" (Guerreiro Menino) which tells precisely about these invisible male battles that no one but us as men care about. The lyrics say things like "A man also cries, Also want lap, Kind words, Need affection, Need tenderness, need a hug of your own kindness" Meaning that sometimes we even stop taking care of ourselves even if that is the most important thing At another point the song says something very similar to what the short says it is "A man humiliates himself, Your dream is castrated, Your dream is your life, And life is work, And without your work, A man has no honor And without your honor If he dies, he kills himself" Something like "if a man doesn't see himself in some role that serves the community, family or something like that, he completely loses his value, and the best solution for him is to simply cease to exist. It's an extremely sad song if you're a man going through some difficult times, and sometimes in my worst moments listening to it, it even seems like a warning, so I don't give up.

"they try to connect with others and they get rejected" is the most most hard hitting sad but true facts i will ever hear because i am going through that right as i am sure others are too 😔🥺🙈

I feel this now more than ever after feeling like I lost the love of my life because of some fights I handled poorly. Going outside, partying, work, money, traveling. Since approx. 9 months none of these genuinely feel like they make me happy or at least make it a life worth living.

What he’s saying is exactly how I’m feeling. I don’t know where to turn, I’m scared to speak out because I don’t want people to think of me differently but hearing him say this give me hope I will still be here in the next 5 years ❤

I can tell you. I can deal with depression. I’ve dealt with it my whole life. It’s disappointment that gets me. The feeling that I need to do everything, and it still won’t be enough, and nobody cares. So I do it for myself. The only way for men to stay happy is through stability. That’s why I decided to see more friends, that get my thing and try to hope they don’t judge it. Works well so far. There are some that are kind of ruthless but most of the time, they don’t.

In 2018 my wife unexpectedly my wife of 25 years died unexpectly at the age of 49. I am normally a well balanced person with no emotinonal issues. With my wife passing I entered such a state of grief that I could not function. If I had not had both my adult sons living with me and providing me with emotional support I think that I could have gone done that path of no return.

I agree, all my addiction went away when I had a social group of friends to hangout with. It all came back when I hadn’t

Yeah dude. Society has got a lot of us in a choke. Sending love to my all my bros out there. - It’s a whole journey, stay on it!

a lot of people dont seem to realize that having a good life can make it harder because of the internal struggles of potential, the curse of potential as its been called, actually makes us feel more like a failure when we have so much of what we need to succeed but then cant use our free will effectively enough to achieve results. which also leads to the fear of failure as well. and this is only half the story.

I'm 36. Couple of days ago I was arguing with a guy inside a WhatsApp group where many of my friends are in. I pushed back on a heated topic. Anyways, I got dedicated private feedback from like 5 or 6 people, really appreciating in detail to what I said and that i fought back. And this was really making me feel strange. After a while I realized, that this was probably the most positive feedback I received in my entire life.

As someone struggling with suicidal ideations constantly, this resonates deeper than anything else I've heard regarding the topic. I feel seen. Thwarted belongingness. Thank you.

I got into helping people because of my dad. The more I have learned the more I see that men are deplete. You all don’t even need a lot, just genuine care. I say this to all of you the way I tell me old man now. I love you, thank you for everything you do and even if it’s not a lot to other people, sometimes the weight of the world is too heavy. I love you. Please be safe please be careful. You are precious cargo and this world needs you❤ I love you you are enough and you are appreciated. I say this now just as I do when I talk to my dad almost every day❤🥹.