Many clients tell me that they have had more than one #Hijackal in their lives. Maybe, they've married a couple! Now, they want to know why are they drawn to me, and why do I attract them? Today's answers can help you change things.
HIGHLIGHTS OF TODAY'S EPISODE:
- How you were groomed to be attractive to narcissists, and attracted to #Hijackals, especially people with narcissistic traits
- Why it is not your fault, or anything you consciously did, or decided
- How brain development has a lot to do with it
- Why #Hijackal behavior somehow seems "comfortably uncomfortable"
- How to stop making excuses for them and see narcissistic behavior for what it is
Oh, the joys of being love-bombed, right? Only you had no idea that that was what was happening!
You honestly believed you had found your partner, your person, your soulmate, the person who knew you so well, and could anticipate your needs. You just knew you'd be happy forever.
All was well...until the "Gotcha!" That's the moment when you realized--much as you tried not to notice--that things were no longer as rosy as they seemed. You recognize that you are often being discounted, being belittled, and often, too much rage. Maybe, there is too much name-calling going on, too much blaming, too much fault-finding.
And, on the flip side, there was not enough love, communication, emotional intimacy, or respect. You, if you were like most who found themselves with #Hijackals, found that you were being betrayed. Your trust was misplaced. You didn't want to believe it, so you made endless excuses and justifications for it.
Now, you see it. You were raised by a #Hijackal, loved a #Hijackal, married a #Hijackal, or divorced a #Hijackal, and you now feel worn down, torn down, and just plain duped, and angry. Right?
In today's episode, I help you see how this system works and why you are so attractive to Hijackal. Why you are drawn to Hijackals, even. And, once you see it clearly, you'll hopefully never unsee it again!
I hope this help you see that more clearly. If you need help with this, I'm here for you.
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* * Remember, narcissists and other toxic people come in all genders and ages * *
and toxic relationships can be at home, at work, at play... with your parent, boss, spouse, sibling, friend, co-worker.
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I am Dr. Rhoberta Shaler, The Relationship Help Doctor.
Are you in relationship with a Hijackal? That's someone who consistently puts you down, love-bombs and gaslights you, creates confusion and chaos, and causes you to second-guess yourself? I can help you recognize, understand, and make decisions about those kinds of narcissistic behavior…and especially, how to keep yourself (and your children) safe and sane.
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