10 Things You'll Never Get from Hijackal Humans!

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Dr. Rhoberta Shaler - Help for Toxic Relationships

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Hijackal Humans are different than Healthier Humans. You look to them to think, think & feel the way you do, but they don't. Know these 10 things you hope are going to show up in your relationship with a narcissistic Hijackal Human, so you can STOP HOPING!
Because you're likely a Healthier Human, you want to believe a Hijackal will change. Sadly, no. The relationship will never be healthy, balanced, and loving. It's not what a Hijackal wants!
HIGHLIGHTS OF THIS EPISODE:
- Why you will never get equality from a Hijackal, a narcissistic person
- Ten things you'll never get that you really, really want from a partner
- Why the three must-haves of a healthy adult relationship will be missing
- Why it's time to recognize that nothing you do will change this for more than a hot minute
00:00 Introduction
01:50 Refresher on the 3 big ones
10:42 The 5 Relational Gifts you won't get
24:40 Last 2 things you won't get
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@kaystephens2672 Жыл бұрын

I wish I had heard this honesty 40 years ago.

@laurabeigh283 Жыл бұрын

Understand that these monsters do not have the capacity to care. Accept it.

@susancox9268 Жыл бұрын

This was so enlightening. I’ve been in a hijakal dance for 11 long years. Finally filled for divorce and he’s at it again trying to reel me back in. Listening to this confirms the fact that he does not see his verbal abuse as such. I just have never believed someone would think such verbal vomit is ok

@gabrielleaumont3971 11 ай бұрын

They are sick, will never see the light. Listen to Dr. Shaler and others. Learn. Leave. Heal!

@carolinelaronda4523 Жыл бұрын

It seems like all I have ever known is hyjackles . I’ll tell you what you’ll never get and that is peace , authentic concern or love for you and real reciprocity .

@sharonconstan8234 2 жыл бұрын

Oh my goodness! I just quit a relationship and Dr Shaler, you are giving me the understanding and verbiage of who he was and why I left him.

@kimberlymccracken747 11 ай бұрын

Somehow taking the limelight even when supposedly celebrating your successes.

@princesskileyrae Жыл бұрын

Commenting for the algorithms - your stuff needs to go viral Doc. ♡

@wingsly 5 ай бұрын

Dr.Shaler, this list has vital information for what to expect from Hijackels. Thank you always. Bless you! ❤

@DJ-fh7xn Жыл бұрын

Excellent Dr. Schaller thank you.

@eddiej9745 2 жыл бұрын

Can you do a talk on hijackal siblings? I have 3 and they have all tried to destroy me in their own ways. One other sister was also a victim, I remember they would gang up, call her crazy and try and get my parents to reject her....I was too young and didnt realise what was happening until they started on me.

@SpiritualTarotGoddess 2 жыл бұрын

Please add notification I've missed a few. I really like your videos. Really really

@ketherwhale6126 8 ай бұрын

Sounds like Meryl Streeps character in the Devil Wears Prada .

@marinvidovic763 3 ай бұрын

Though , first part of the video is extremely enlightening ... Second part I don't like. ...simply because I think that lot of people here can nicely present as * the victims by one line comments. ... we know very well how narcissists are skilful at presenting themselves as a victims. ...(* only carnage and huge destruction of the life of other party unfortunately ... nobody hears Here. ) Your very accurately delivered a folloving " bad News" ...that after persons final A) *Eyes opening events,... next to come is B) a very painful process of Going to a cemetary and endure a funeral of your entire LIFE ... (* at least a totally false , delusional Story that you were creating in your mind and your ❤).... C) is a very long and painful process of emotional GREVING ... D) ...and mental and emotional CLOSURE. Unfortunately, if you have children with that person. ..and you are a male , .. In many cases next step is E) a parental alienation .... ... simply by concerted effort of a narcissistic parent and fSS , who infiltrated and crested this anti male system. .. If you don't figure your WAY OUT from this intentionaky created anti male trap ..., very likely next step is your * Substance abuse ... * series of bad relationship with damaged people * Loss of job and health ... and * Suicide. Numbers and statistics clearly proof this described step by step scenario. Look for support in the Nature, ...🌳🌲🏞️⛄❄️🏔️🏜️🌋🌟🌔🌓🌖🌗🌙🪐🪐🪐🐈‍⬛🐇🐆🦍🐔🐣🐤🦉🦅🦠🐜🐝🐝🐝🐝🐝🐝 ...not in the Pubs, Bars and " friends" or family of origin. They all are not genuine support, mostly.... Or often not healthy support.

@translated3249 2 жыл бұрын

Dr.Shaler, you should really discuss how to deal with hijackal bosses. And the love hate relationships we have in professional settings… It’s such a big problem and it’s hard to find anything on it. Most of the advice out there is about romantic relationships but we spend just about as much time at work. I think there is a lot of turmoil and stress in the work environment. A lot of people don’t want to take responsibility so they lay their burden on a colleague or employee and then they make them feel like it’s their fault or their job or their responsibility. And if you tell them it’s not your job, they end up ignoring it so you end up having to take their responsibilities too. Then they make you think it has been your job from the beginning. They don’t praise you if you do good but reprimand you when you miss the mark… and if they do praise you it’s the most generic under stated and fake praise. I have worked for my boss 7 years and he has never ever recognized my birthday, or a holiday. I have never received a bonus except 1 time that I called him out for never appreciating anyone. Then he goes right back to his usual behaviors… The worst part is I always feel ignored and that my input is not appreciated. His radio silence is the most hurtful thing ever and I’ve told him but he gets defensive and never changes… I always celebrate his birthday and show my thanks by doing such a good job. And for always trying to improve things in our business processes. I’ve done things I haven’t gotten paid for time and again… When it comes to defending me: once I received a call from his girlfriend who cursed me out because she was jealous for some reason thinking that he worked closely with me and he didn’t stand up for me. She made me merge him into a 3 way call to prove I wasn’t with him she cursed me out and he remained silent. He apologized to me after but on the phone call between all of us he didn’t say anything… But he defends others when I have a gripe or say something, he always stands for the other person. Or if someone claims that they failed because I didn’t do something right he sided with them first then I have to prove myself by providing text messages proving that I did everything right… It just feels so unjust and that I’m of lower class. Another thing is if I discover his secrets I keep them to myself. Just recently I told him a very personal secret which would effect my work (or I wouldn’t tell him ) and for some reason he discussed it with a employee who is also a family friend of his. She went and told one of the clients that I am so close with and the client felt that I am lying to him because I didn’t tell this myself. I wasn’t ready to tell anyone yet because I didn’t know what the outcome would be… Why on earth would he have any reason to tell her my secret. He knew how hard it was to tell him… It is so hurtful. I’m mind blown and haven’t been able to bring myself to confront him why he told her… I feel afraid to confront him because it will just make things worse. I think this boss/colleague relationship needs to be discussed.

@anamikakapoor6998 2 жыл бұрын

Try KZfaq channel ‘permission to exist’