How did your anxiety start??..I’m also from Nigeria

@@invzedkontu9910 Through drugs bro

Facts coffee absolutely irritates my sensitized nervous system

I’m 6 days off caffeine just to see how I feel. Gonna try to take a month off and go from there

@@Smokebag How has it been so far without the caffeine? You still keeping at it?

Even though quitting coffee to decrease anxiety is a response to anxiety, which you should not do according to shaan(im not disagreeing with anything he says by the way) it truly does help with the your anxiety levels, that and nicotine in any form. These two ''drugs'' makes you more alert and increases sympatic nervous system activity. Especially when you are in your early stages of recovering, quitting this can really help you gain momentum and get that push you need to start your recovery for real. Again the ways shaan teaches is otherwise completely correct and i have managed to become anxiety free within a year, starting from having 5 panic attacks a day following his teachings through his youtube videos.

@@lmaostrnoobThe weird thing is Coffee has a calm to me . Now how ? I don’t know ? Maybe it’s part of my calming my self down . The smell ? Taste ?

Agree. I'm interested too

Agree. I really need help

Agree. Please do ❤

Yes please

Great point. A lot of us have been or are on medication. In my case I developed other symptoms while trying to quit medication. Symptoms that were not there the first time I saw a psychiatrist.

Hope u r doing bta now friend. It takes time

Thanks brotha! 🙏

Perfectly said... although so hard to keep that balance about not being hard on yourself but holding yourself responsible for your well being. How do you safeguard yourself from others' toxicity without judging them or being hard on them? It feels like I am evil if I think someone is bad for me or I should kick them out of my life.. I feel so guilty about it sometime later, after I have decided this person/friend is not right for me.

AHHH, reminds me of a toxic work relationship with my boss which left me with immense anxiety... I just kept going bcoz I was afraid I couldn't lose my job, eventually I broke down, started having full on panic attacks and had to quit my job. Now I am in recovery, and uncovering the attitudes and behaviors that pushed me into anxiety. If it costing you your mental health, I feel you should quit that situation, distance yourself from it as soon as you can. If it is extremely unavoidable (like if stuck with an uncompromising mother in law or boss), you should assess the situation. You should start looking for a new job, and meanwhile not obsess over how your present boss is treating you. Just think that nothing in life is permanent, what is the worst that can happen, your boss will be unhappy, he will argue with you, call you incompetent? I say you confront him/her, tell them your concerns and communicate that you are human and this is taking a toll on you and if forced so much, you will have to quit. I kept silent and never stood up for myself, and payed a very high price of it. Now I dont have my job, nor my mental health. With someone like an annoying mother in law, just like Claire Weekes says, stop assuming the worst about them, stop obsessing thinking they are watching your every move and that they want bad for you. Resentment in such situation can lead to even more resentment from their side and make things worse. Start thinking them as annoying person but not dangerous. It is not like they can kill you. What is the worst that could happen? They are a nuisance, not a life threatening situation. Know the difference and don't let them climb on your nerves. Anxiety is just that - bad nerves (from overthinking about a problem that seems unfixable/unavoidable).

Thank you for your thoughtful reply. Unfortunately, there is no way for me to leave or even make waves--to do so would leave me in a much worse situation. I so agree about the job--I am glad that you stood up for yourself. I have no in-laws. I hope if you do they are good to you. Unfortunately, I am not assuming regarding this person--in my case, it was pretty blatant. I like the way you described Anxiety at the end--so true and a great way to put it. That I guess is the crux of the situation I was asking Shaan and his crew about--how do you deal with the Anxiety Disorder if your reality is also causing fear. Is it possible ?? I am so happy you are recovering. I wish you all the best.

@@MsQUESTIONALL I totally understand you, you seem to be in a situation very similar to mine. No I am not married, but my ex boss was a nightmare. Because of her, the job I once loved became the job I hated and dreaded the most. And no, I didnt stand up for myself, like you I was extremely scared of what will happen if I rebel and complain against her, coz then she will destroy me and resent me even more. I finally broke down and when I became completely dysfunctional, I had to quit my job. I urge you to learn from my experience. What is the worst that can happen? Is your boss God? No! Such people have their own unresolved traumas they are projecting on us. They are bitter from their past experiences. You will not die if you lose your job. I did not. It would have been so much better if I had quit on time and expressed myself but I do understand the fear of the unknown terrifies you. Regarding your anxiety, your present situation is definitely fuelling your anxiety, it might even be the major cause of it. Have you read Claire Weekes book? She explains that dwelling on a problem is very bad for anxiety. You must accept one point of view and stick to it. Dont go back and forth over should I stay or not, just make one narrative, one decision and stick to it. If you want to continue, reach a compromise in your mind. Think of your boss as an annoying, insecure person who has their own issues. Stop giving them the respect and fear inside your heart. Maybe even laugh at them inside instead of being terrified by them. They are just like anxiety, loud and annoying, but fake. There is no real threat. Accept their annoying attitude as just that, dont create a monster out of them like we do with anxiety symptoms. When you will lose respect/fear for them mentally your behavior will automatically become more confident around them and about them. Trust me these people do not own us, they are hollow threats, just like our anxiety. I hope you find the courage to either quit or stick around and maybe even thrive in that atmosphere. It is all about confidence. When you will lose the fear of them (like our anxiety symptoms), they will no longer dominate you the same way. First you need to lose fear of them, then you will lose any respect (importance) of them in your min, when you will know they are not dangerous. They are nuisances but NOT dangerous.

Try to breath while putting 1 hand on your heart and I hand on your belly untill you feel you are breathing from your belly. You can do it sending you much love and healing ❤😘🇳🇱

@@lennekevanrossum8422 I did try this. Will continue it. Thanks so much 🙏🏻

Breathe in through your nose and then take another quick breath in through the nose again and breathe out longer through open mouth and sigh. Just make sure the breathe out is longer. Its about the mixture of air. It helps me. Otherwise, here's another - put your finger on one side of your nose and block off nostril while you breathe in through your nose, slowly. Breathe out through mouth with finger on other side. Then breathe in with that finger still on same side, nostril closed, put finger on other side and breathe out through mouth. Slowly.

Dont try to change the Way you breathe because that would mean u are responding to your Anxiety, when u do respond to your anxiety you tell your nervous system that shortness of breath is a threat. Which it isnt, is just a feeling and a anxiety symptom that appears to trick u into thinking u are not getting enough oxygen which makes u breathe faster and deeper and become ready to fight or flight. What u wanna do is Just accept that you have shortness of breath for now and breathe normally but dont do it to make it go away which would Also mean u responding to your anxiety. In short when u feel shortness of breath, feel the shortness of breath and go on with your day.

But obviously you should always get the shortness of breathe checked out by a doctor.

Hi people get better by just watching the videos on KZfaq do... Keep watching them sending you much love and succes and healing ❤😘🇳🇱💪🦸‍♀️

@@lennekevanrossum8422 thank you 👀❤️

I felt like that for years.. you WILL get better .. it is a long process but necessary and worth it .. keep going xx

Yes you can. You are stronger than you think you are. I was scared to go anywhere cause of my symptoms. Now I'm everywhere and sometimes anxiety comes and I just let it be. Its not easy but definitely possible

@@Jessica-bx6im thank you so much for your words ❤️