Why You Feel Unlovable

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Psych2Go

Psych2Go

Күн бұрын

Do you ever find yourself feeling unlovable, despite the presence of loving relationships in your life? In this thought-provoking video, we delve into the deep-rooted reasons behind feeling unlovable and explore empowering strategies to overcome this challenging emotion. Whether you struggle with low self-esteem, past traumas, or self-imposed expectations, this insightful guide will help you understand the complex factors contributing to these feelings and guide you towards rediscovering your inherent worthiness of love and acceptance.
If you feel unlovable, watch this: • Watch This If You Feel...
Researcher/Writer: Morgan Swift
Editor: Caitlin McColl
Script Manager: Kelly Soong
Voice Over: Amanda Silvera ( / amandasilvera )
Animator: Krisha Que / @macchiusmoriatostudios07
Production Assistant: Thomas Kang
KZfaq Manager: Cindy Cheong
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References
Betterhelp Editorial Team. (2023, March 14). Feeling Like A Burden? What It Means And How To Overcome It. Betterhelp. www.betterhelp.com/advice/rejection/feeling-like-a-
burden-what-it-means-and-how-to-overcome-it/
Counseling Blog. (n.d.). Why Do I Feel Unlovable? [Blog Post]. Tumblr. onlinecounsellingcollege.tumblr.com/post/649437692819570689/why-do-i-feel-unlovable
Darcy, A. (2023, March 2). Why Do I Feel So Unloveable? [Blog Post]. www.harleytherapy.co.uk/counselling/why-do-i-feel-so-unloveable.htm
Geher, G. (2022, May 27). The Psychology of Feeling Unloved. Psychology Today. www.psychologytoday.com/ca/blog/darwins-subterranean-world/202205/the-psychology-feeling-unloved
Graham, L. (n.d.). The Neurobiology of feeling unlovable [Blog post].
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@buckfidencoincidencetheori7200
@buckfidencoincidencetheori7200 Жыл бұрын
Reaching out and needing connection equals pain This hits deep.
@nataleynakata3687
@nataleynakata3687 Жыл бұрын
I feel like this might have codified the Hedgehog’s Dilemma, or the other way around
@buckfidencoincidencetheori7200
@buckfidencoincidencetheori7200 Жыл бұрын
@@nataleynakata3687 looked up the theory. It’s more people in general scare me, wasn’t like this before tho. Seen some awful things to all types of good innocent people for no reason
@Lonebeastffjd
@Lonebeastffjd Жыл бұрын
So much pain. But I've come across it I need someone but they're not there..... It's just these people who think I'm a good for nothing. But I'll keep on beleiveing.
@skwishymrshmelogaming4234
@skwishymrshmelogaming4234 Жыл бұрын
I always avoid tell others my problems cuz then i feel like i shouldnt have told them that. So i always keep things to myself
@zoso1980
@zoso1980 Жыл бұрын
Yes it does, strips it right down to the core. It's remarkable in a way, I'm almost 50 and I've realized how numbed I am to it. I have moments I mourn the loss of connection. However, most of the time I just exist, work and one day when the end comes, I'll go down on the floor and be found 3 or 4 days later. In a nutshell, that's my remaining days.
@jakeaurod
@jakeaurod Жыл бұрын
No one is unlovable, but it seems that there are people for whom love does not happen. It's not that it can't happen, just that it continues to not happen.
@Fuerwahrhalunke
@Fuerwahrhalunke 10 ай бұрын
This. But also charisma. Charisma attracts love, even if it's not meant to happen. Seen some of the lowest humans gather such people around them, by simply having a little charisma.
@Kumar-bg6nr
@Kumar-bg6nr 10 ай бұрын
There’s no such thing as love. It’s all just physical attraction. people deny it all the time but it is the truth.
@SPHau
@SPHau 9 ай бұрын
​@@Kumar-bg6nr People who love their dogs and cats can't feel the same about humans ?
@GrekeFenris
@GrekeFenris 9 ай бұрын
No I'm pretty unlovable. Despite being a good person inside, it doesn't matter no one is willing to look past skin deep.
@Fuerwahrhalunke
@Fuerwahrhalunke 9 ай бұрын
@@GrekeFenris Well the way I see it, without knowing you of course; the effect your attitude has on other people will always come back in the same tonality. Maybe it's not what's inside but what's shining through.
@indecisitivity1832
@indecisitivity1832 Жыл бұрын
Ok wait this one has my attention… it’s just too relatable. Take care of yourselves guys, you need to find ways to promote self-love, especially when others can’t love and accept you for who you are.
@Psych2go
@Psych2go Жыл бұрын
Thank you for sharing your insight. It can be difficult to love ourselves especially when people around us don't seem to accept or love us. However, it's critical at times like that to love ourselves and understand that we are still worthy of love :)
@captsiro233
@captsiro233 Жыл бұрын
@@evermoore66665 Baby don't hurt me.
@marsmeadiuvat2439
@marsmeadiuvat2439 Жыл бұрын
@@captsiro233 Don't hurt me.
@giyonnabowens599
@giyonnabowens599 Жыл бұрын
​@@marsmeadiuvat2439No more.
@kumipfogog
@kumipfogog Жыл бұрын
​@@evermoore66665 I wanna know 사탕처럼 달콤하다는데 I wanna know 하늘을 나는 것 같다는데 I wanna know, know, know, know What is love?
@A55a551n
@A55a551n Жыл бұрын
Timestamps 1). An early defining moment 0:41 2). Rejection and abuse 1:36 3). Shame 2:18 4). How to heal 3:03 Hope this helps you out. Hope you have a nice day. 💙💙💙💙💙💙
@Psych2go
@Psych2go Жыл бұрын
Helpful as always :)
@A55a551n
@A55a551n Жыл бұрын
​@@Psych2go happy to help
@sonjakrsmanovic4470
@sonjakrsmanovic4470 Жыл бұрын
It does ❤️❤️💖
@A55a551n
@A55a551n Жыл бұрын
@@sonjakrsmanovic4470 not a problem happy to help
@sonjakrsmanovic4470
@sonjakrsmanovic4470 Жыл бұрын
@@A55a551n ❤️
@MiaCarter7
@MiaCarter7 3 ай бұрын
I want to leave the planet so badly sometimes. I just feel I’m not meant to experience the happiness I desire, and if I’m not, I don’t want to continue suffering here
@CaroLine-tj3qb
@CaroLine-tj3qb Ай бұрын
Hello there. You matter, so much! I'll keep you in my thoughts, even tho we don't know each other and it might seem strange, I just feel the need to tell You these words. It does gets better! I know it does and I'm sure it will
@RWQFSFASXC2023
@RWQFSFASXC2023 Ай бұрын
I want to leave life itself so badly either. But it's just would sound very silly and dumb to others. they'll say "that guy suicide just to run away from the pain of being unloved or unwanted. What a pathetic". Which makes me reconsider. Cuz I know someone there cares for me...or at least did or will do. The point is: you are loved by many people. You might not know them,but they do and care. And if you wanna be friends, I wouldn't say no cuz I feel you.
@RWQFSFASXC2023
@RWQFSFASXC2023 Ай бұрын
@@CaroLine-tj3qb I wish more people like you exist for all of us. Thank you for caring for our dude 💔🙏
@divine3096
@divine3096 12 күн бұрын
Same, for me it stems from a deep rejection of myself. Even if others want to love me. I often don’t feel worthy of being loved by them. I can’t even develop a relationship with God because I ask myself what did I do to deserve his Grace, Love and Mercy I’m a Pos I don’t even deserve Gods love
@CaroLine-tj3qb
@CaroLine-tj3qb 11 күн бұрын
​@@RWQFSFASXC2023 They do exist hahah And I would know, because I've concidered unaliving myself some time ago as well. I would wish every day to be stronger and happier the day after that. Life just goes its own way, and sometimes the way for us to be stronger, is to meet hardships on our way. Once we do that, happiness does comes along, in its timing, but it does
@nicholasleipzig5448
@nicholasleipzig5448 Жыл бұрын
This is relatable. I couldn't get enough marks in science and maths and my family started hating me for it. It was as if they stopped giving me that little bit of love i used to get from them. Although things have now improved i still can't get over it. My family always tries to make themselves look good in front of other people. They make excuses about my mental problems and always make me feel like I'm a burden to the family and that I never should've been born. I just envy those who have healthy relationship with their family and loved ones
@Psych2go
@Psych2go Жыл бұрын
That sounds really rough... We hope you know that you are more than just your accomplishments in academics and that you are loved regardless of how much you accomplish. How are you doing now? How has your relationship with your family been?
@nicholasleipzig5448
@nicholasleipzig5448 Жыл бұрын
​@@Psych2go I'm still having a tough relationship with my family. They are simply over narcissistic and hypocrites. Their presence in a room brings a negative vibe. I feel a lot better when i go to the gym. It's a major problem cause I'm an introvert with few friends that I don't even talk to.
@akshitaagarwal641
@akshitaagarwal641 Жыл бұрын
@@nicholasleipzig5448 Dw I am going through it to but hope you are ok !! xx
@NotYourRemy
@NotYourRemy Жыл бұрын
⁠@@nicholasleipzig5448 this type of family is way too common in China, I can confirm this
@ais3195
@ais3195 Жыл бұрын
​@@nicholasleipzig5448 oh my god you just described my life. I'm in the process of leaving but it's a really tough decision. I feel less alone now. Thank you for sharing, and I hope it gets better soon🙏❤️ is there a way we can connect privately rather than the comment section?
@Ads_1001
@Ads_1001 Жыл бұрын
Timestamps 0:41 An early defining moment 1:39 Rejection & Abuse 2:18 Shame 3:03 How to Heal? That's it Hope it helps!
@Psych2go
@Psych2go Жыл бұрын
So helpful! Thank you!
@Malakai__WeLoveYouMafumafu
@Malakai__WeLoveYouMafumafu Жыл бұрын
damn I have all of these. Not from my parents thankfully, but from a lot of other people...
@belliyt
@belliyt Жыл бұрын
It's also important to realize that, apart from being loved, you are love.
@Niuskayz
@Niuskayz Жыл бұрын
No, I'm stupid 😂
@wozsalam8942
@wozsalam8942 Жыл бұрын
@@Niuskayz and i'm hunger
@Im_Ron_btw_Ron_W3asley
@Im_Ron_btw_Ron_W3asley Жыл бұрын
I'm 'I don't give a darn go to hell'
@01FrozenFuze
@01FrozenFuze Жыл бұрын
Relatable... I feel that I am only valuable when I do things that my peers and parents want me to do at 100%. If I dont do that myself as a person is worthless and unworthy of love. I am only loved when I work hard. I am not useless, I am worthless because anyone can replace me.
@birbstick07
@birbstick07 Жыл бұрын
this hits really hard ;A; I feel you
@aniE1869
@aniE1869 Жыл бұрын
This is probably the most common kind of thoughts that wake me up in the middle of the night preventing me from getting back to sleep.
@boo_aa
@boo_aa Жыл бұрын
i guess i'm not the only one who is feeling like this, right?.. it' hard to believe that you deserve love or that someone loves you... thanks for the video !!
@Psych2go
@Psych2go Жыл бұрын
I think many of us feel this way from time to time. But it's always nice to be reminded that we are loved :) Thank you for watching!
@BurgerCreeper_
@BurgerCreeper_ 10 ай бұрын
When I like someone, then they hate me back. When someone likes me, I don’t like them. Why is love so difficult
@ravenomega2443
@ravenomega2443 Жыл бұрын
I was never in an abusive relationship. I WAS the abusive relationship. My feeling of being unloved comes from hating myself. Being bitter and ashamed of the things ive done. Feeling like ive betrayed life itself and now it will punish me for the rest of my days by keeping me with a perpetual feeling of loneliness.
@cursedanime.
@cursedanime. Жыл бұрын
Have a nice day, everyone. Remember that you're loved no matter what :)
@Psych2go
@Psych2go Жыл бұрын
Aw what a lovely sentiment! Thank you so much and hope you also remember that you're loved no matter what! :)
@Yukiyusitzmeh
@Yukiyusitzmeh Жыл бұрын
Thx I needed that
@tailgunner2
@tailgunner2 Жыл бұрын
Loved by whom?
@cursedanime.
@cursedanime. Жыл бұрын
@@evermoore66665 you see, it could be from anyone. maybe you haven't found the right person yet but don't worry because god have plans and he will let you meet the right person eventually so remember to be patient :)
@keiron.4612
@keiron.4612 Жыл бұрын
Nice words but all they are is words because I'm not loved just abused
@TheSelfCenter
@TheSelfCenter Жыл бұрын
We need to love ourselves! (: I've found that I can't expect others to fulfill this feeling... It just never works. I have to love myself to truly feel loved. ☀️☀️
@Vital4422
@Vital4422 Жыл бұрын
Today I reached out to my girlfriend whom I haven't heard from in a while, and told her I miss her and hope to see her soon. Shortly after, I had a mental image of my mom being annoyed or frustrated from when I was younger and would ask for her in some way, and saw very clearly one of the things that makes me afraid to ask for my girlfriend which makes me feel like I am intruding or being a burden.
@SuprEmpth
@SuprEmpth Жыл бұрын
I feel that way too. Do you get anxious and scared?
@Vital4422
@Vital4422 Жыл бұрын
@@SuprEmpth No, I just feel a natural inclination to have not even tried in the first place, like it will be useless or just cause more issues
@weightlossandwellness
@weightlossandwellness Жыл бұрын
This one made me cry because it's so true to me. I was rejected from the beginning and often in my life. It's hard to heal but I am trying.
@lindabusan4415
@lindabusan4415 Ай бұрын
prayers and God's love are with you ❤
@weightlossandwellness
@weightlossandwellness Ай бұрын
@@lindabusan4415 Thank you. God Bless you.
@grapefruit8171
@grapefruit8171 Жыл бұрын
this video was released at the right time as what I'm feeling rn, thanks Psi
@richardedward123
@richardedward123 Жыл бұрын
So sweet, so true. No matter how tough and impenetrable we think we are, we need love...just as we did when we were very young.
@julsjcjj
@julsjcjj Жыл бұрын
That's true. I felt unworthy of love almost my whole life and then I met a person (no not romantically, for anyone who's single and stuck in a mentality that they'll never find love) who appreciated me for me. Loving relationships can TRULY rewire your brain. I don't know how long it'll last but I'm happy someone finally showed me that I'm lovable and helped me with my self-esteem in such easy way.
@JoelDJohnson1986
@JoelDJohnson1986 Жыл бұрын
This is so relatable. My mind was telling me, that I don't deserve love from anyone, that's where the depression comes from. Now, I'm going to therapy and I'm also taking meds to help me feel better about anything. I almost always write about love in my poetry because I'm INFP-T, and I watch and read ROM COMS a lot, also sone funny comics, too.
@DaFishyBoii2009
@DaFishyBoii2009 Жыл бұрын
Man I have no idea what the hell happened to me because I relate to some of this but I can’t remember anything that would’ve happened to make me feel this way
@phuck8627
@phuck8627 Жыл бұрын
Something happening before you could remember it can cause all of those issues still even if you don't remember it happening
@woodyspooner
@woodyspooner Жыл бұрын
I am 67 years old. I have never had a loving relationship with a woman in my lifetime. The words "there's someone for everybody" just agrevates me. I stopped looking for "the one" aged 30/35. There isn't a miss right in the world for me. Self-esteem and self-confidence were bullied out of me at school from ages 5 to 16.
@alexbeboolin7002
@alexbeboolin7002 2 ай бұрын
Wym
@damiakinlaja6164
@damiakinlaja6164 Ай бұрын
❤🫶
@kristinac98
@kristinac98 Жыл бұрын
I wanted to thank you guys for your videos. they truly get me through so much and is my comfort channel. thank you
@Psych2go
@Psych2go Жыл бұрын
Thank you so much for watching! We're so glad that our content gives you comfort when you need it. Did you learn something new from the video?
@asgaiyawaya3973
@asgaiyawaya3973 Жыл бұрын
I felt this way for a long time and videos like this one helped me realize, I am actually more lovable then I gave myself credit for. I actually was loved I was just so in this melancholy and hopeless emotional state that I couldn't see that there were people around me that actually cared and possibly loved me. I just needed to look up and recognize what they were trying to show me to see it. So, I am very grateful for what I am learning from these videos and it is helping me redefine my surroundings and how to better read the people around me. I still have a long way to go but it has helped me make progress even though at times I feel like I was rather dumb when I let my emotions run my life but that realization helps me become better. Now I wish I can find those people that did try to show they cared and thank them for trying to help me. I don't know if I can but as long as I live my life the way it should be I guess that can be thanks enough to them.
@brain_respect_and_freedom
@brain_respect_and_freedom Жыл бұрын
As Maslow wrote years ago, love genuinely is a foundational experience toward thriving at all levels. When Paul McCartney and John Lennon sang, in 1967, "all you need is love," they totally nailed it.💙💙
@bobbruce4135
@bobbruce4135 Жыл бұрын
Chads get to have it. Sub-5's don't.
@manoftherainshorts9075
@manoftherainshorts9075 Жыл бұрын
And Lennon abused his wife. Physically and verbally. Apparently he also needed to smack some females as well, not only love.
@brain_respect_and_freedom
@brain_respect_and_freedom Жыл бұрын
@@bobbruce4135 don't play games🚩
@syzygy4365
@syzygy4365 7 ай бұрын
Self love helps too. I'm finally building mine back up. I'm finally learning I'm worthy of healthy reciprocated love.
@brain_respect_and_freedom
@brain_respect_and_freedom 7 ай бұрын
👍🙌
@the_chaotic_trio
@the_chaotic_trio Жыл бұрын
This helped me a lot on my understanding, keep up the good work ❤️
@jericojsays
@jericojsays Жыл бұрын
Of all your videos, this one hit me the most and brought me to tears. Crazy how childhood trauma and abuse could really set you up for all these "unlovable" feelings.
@jalencurtis7222
@jalencurtis7222 Жыл бұрын
Thank you for giving me ammo to fight my battle. I've struggled with this for a very long time, and this video brought me to tears. I'll keep going until not only do I feel lovable again, but until I can truly feel the love that the ones I value show me.
@flamegamer3424
@flamegamer3424 Жыл бұрын
Sometimes, I feel unlovable because there are others that think I’m not good enough. And I keep doubting myself. I realized that it’s not the case.
@neonredhex
@neonredhex 3 ай бұрын
Speaking as someone who feels undeserving of love, it's difficult to convince someone they're deserving of love because they don't understand why or how. You can't just say no one is unlovable or that someone out there loves you because often the question that'll be brought up is "what makes me lovable?" "Why do i deserve love?" "What would people like about me?" If you want to explain to someone why they're lovable, using real-world examples in regards to who they are and what they do can further cement the idea that maybe they do deserve love.
@SONGbyrdRYzing
@SONGbyrdRYzing Жыл бұрын
I definitely identify with this as someone with abandonment issues but therapy, self-reflection and dating have helped me to combat these feelings better. To anyone reading this: You matter, you are loved and you are not what those persons made you feel like. ^_^
@kristijan8518
@kristijan8518 Жыл бұрын
Dating only confirmed my thoughts of being unlovable.
@SONGbyrdRYzing
@SONGbyrdRYzing Жыл бұрын
@@kristijan8518 Same, but I would suggest linking with a therapist and do an autopsy of your past relationship(s). That will help you to avoid certain patterns and learn the areas you need to either affirm yourself in or set stronger boundaries in. Love is not easy but it’s not (as) hard when you know how to love yourself. 😘 I believe in you.
@alyjim1892
@alyjim1892 Жыл бұрын
Yes, thank you for this amazing video! Needed to hear this. Love the positivity!! 💖🥰😇🙏
@euPhoRic9713
@euPhoRic9713 Жыл бұрын
Your videos helps alot, I can't go and tell my problems to anybody because I feel so uncomfortable to tell about my feelings and problems but your videos help even without saying a word to anyone ❤
@victorialaing4227
@victorialaing4227 Жыл бұрын
This video makes me think of Heinz Doofenshmirtz from Phineas and Ferb. His whole life, his parents emotionally abused him and never loved him for not being good enough, they replaced him with better sons like Roger and only son. Heinz was told that he was a failure by his professor and that he makes her sick, and his own daughter Vanessa is completely unable to love him despite of how nice he is to her and everything he does for her. Also Linda broke up with Heinz Doofenshmirtz just like everyone else got mad at him and hated him for being a failure who messes up all the time.
@appleitree
@appleitree Жыл бұрын
They sending him to America was the best desicion they ever made
@appleitree
@appleitree Жыл бұрын
That guy is actually the most traumatised person in the entire cartoon world I guess.. neither of his parents showed for his birth
@munkeefinkelbeen5395
@munkeefinkelbeen5395 Жыл бұрын
Definitely going to give this a few more watches. Thank you for sharing this 🙂
@aishwaryanair1042
@aishwaryanair1042 Жыл бұрын
This video couldn't have come at a better time. I have been really struggling with this due to the circumstances that I am in. This video lists most of what makes me feel like I am unlovable but I have been working on that. Great video as usual and thanks a lot to the team at Psych2Go for the amazing videos you guys make. I have learnt a lot about myself and others through your content and really appreciate the work you guys are doing 😄❤️
@mel_justmel9569
@mel_justmel9569 Жыл бұрын
dear stranger, I’m glad you found this video and i’m sorry that you’re hurting. know that you’re loved! I hope things get better for you
@aishwaryanair1042
@aishwaryanair1042 Жыл бұрын
@@mel_justmel9569 That is so sweet of you 💙 Thanks a lot for your lovely message 😄
@fanfilmmerporoductions2691
@fanfilmmerporoductions2691 Жыл бұрын
It’s beautiful thank you for helping I needed this video 🥺💘!
@papares5489
@papares5489 Жыл бұрын
I feel this channel is a message from universe. The videos just pops in whenever i'm in the darkest mood❤
@clownkrieg6780
@clownkrieg6780 Жыл бұрын
Thank you very much❤❤❤ this video really helped a lot
@Racecar564
@Racecar564 Жыл бұрын
Painfully relatable, all of these points. Here's my story if someone wants to read. And before I start I'd like to say, you guys aren't alone and you all have my best wishes. ❤ My family always dismissed me as being too needy and demanding, and any time I'd make some mistake as a kid, they'd always carry on about it for years until it was to the point I developed self-hatred. That was pretty much my whole life until a few years ago. I'm almost 27 now and I'm slowly but surely healing. I still struggle with feeling unlovable at times, but I'm trying to keep in mind at least I have friends who love and care about me, even if my family is toxic. At the thought of anyone caring about me, I start to cry. But I'm slowly trying to default to positivity. So slowly, but I definitely am.
@wreck8
@wreck8 Жыл бұрын
These videos are so timely and have been coming out when I need them most. Thank you!
@miap6844
@miap6844 Жыл бұрын
Thank you - I needed this video today.
@maxxwilton9216
@maxxwilton9216 Жыл бұрын
amazing it almost like you guys post when i start to feel down and know exactly why i'm down and what to say to help not only me but everyone experiencing this to feel better
@cincampbell
@cincampbell Жыл бұрын
That was a wonderful video. Thank you. Your videos seem to come into my feed exactly when I need them. I love the animation and the calm, lovely voice and atmosphere in all of your videos. Keep up the amazing work!! I’ve always said that mental health is vital to the wellbeing of all of us. No one should fear talking about how they feel. It’s important to change society’s mindset about how you feel. Feelings are valid. Should be shared to understand each other and help each other through healing our minds. Suicide should not be taboo around the dinner table. Too many people don’t share how they feel for a lot of reasons. Shame, guilt, fear Children should be raised to feel it’s ok to share their thoughts with their parents and siblings. Don’t keep allowing them to sit Alone with bad thoughts because they’ll fester and rot Get darker and deeper into a pit of depression. Either they try take their life as a cry for help and accidentally take it too far and die or they succeed. Sometimes the trauma that comes from trying, gunshot wounds. Overdoses etc Or just the traumatic experience of that act can be devastating. Take care of others sometimes just listening is all anyone needs Feeling like it’s ok. No judgement say whatever you need to say attitude with others can be a blessing to another person
@andrewhinz8909
@andrewhinz8909 Жыл бұрын
Feeling unlovable started in middle school for me. I was bullied for years over my weight and social quirks. As everyone developed needs for connection, I was bullied for that too. Kids would tell girls I had a crush on them just to embarrass them, watch the disgust on their face. They would act nice to me just to laugh to the themselves if I thought it was genuine. Reaching out wasn't even a thought because I didn't have to say anything to be put down for it. I'm in my mid 20s now and despite years of self care and personal developement the thought of reaching out when I'm lonely or want to socialize makes me scared and angry at those memories. This kind of stuff sticks with you and working through it is a long journey, one that I still have a ways to go on unfortunately.
@JbJonesIV
@JbJonesIV Жыл бұрын
Thanks for bringing me one step closer to reconciling with myself, folks- I sincerely hope y'all the best for well-being, mentally or physically
@nemeo8391
@nemeo8391 Жыл бұрын
First of all, many thanks to thé while team for all your videos and the work you do to create these, and also for how active you are on this channel Concerning the video itself, and the one about personnal redflags, you've confronted me to my reality. I'm shaming myself all the time for mistakes I've made, and I'm putting myself down suite frequently. I identified these problems within me long ago, yet I wasn't actively looking for help, despite needing it. So, after I'll finish the mission I'm currently doing, when I reach home, I'll start a therapy Thank you again for reminding us that we aren't beyond Hope, and that we shouldn't hesitate to look out for help
@goditsme1171
@goditsme1171 Жыл бұрын
Thank you for posting this, I was feeling like this ❤
@laranjanegociadora9877
@laranjanegociadora9877 Жыл бұрын
This vid appeared in the right time, thank you. I needed that to overcome a bit of my frustrations
@ClefairyFairySnowflake
@ClefairyFairySnowflake Жыл бұрын
This video was very helpful! Thank you for making it! Stay awesome!
@zsoltvaci1943
@zsoltvaci1943 Жыл бұрын
This video got me really emotional... Had some tears running down my face..
@charlesmagrath5218
@charlesmagrath5218 Жыл бұрын
Long story short, thank you. Your videos have had a wonderfully positive response in my life, been awhile since I cried. It was a healthy one though.
@Plutoniumx
@Plutoniumx Жыл бұрын
I really needed this
@snehasoni7
@snehasoni7 Жыл бұрын
This is relatable. I'm suffering from mental health issues. I have nobody. I'm all alone. I'm taking care of myself 💜
@________1516
@________1516 Жыл бұрын
Thank you for this. I needed to listen to this.
@Z1PP0
@Z1PP0 Жыл бұрын
I needed this video today! Thank you ❤
@Josh_1312
@Josh_1312 Жыл бұрын
Well, I'm happy I've come a long way from feeling this way to understanding the opposite. I wish all folks having the same issue I used to have to heal from it. You deserve to be loved no matter what.
@lukeevans5698
@lukeevans5698 Жыл бұрын
You have no ideia of how much I needed to hear this today. Thank you.
@TheAnimator_AJ
@TheAnimator_AJ Жыл бұрын
I feel ignored and unloved
@gilbertcole8324
@gilbertcole8324 Ай бұрын
Same
@lillyfahey1921
@lillyfahey1921 5 күн бұрын
Thank You! Great Compassionate Video 🙏🏻
@DarknessXxMaster
@DarknessXxMaster Жыл бұрын
This video is relatable. I grew up wired into believing that I was just a burden. I struggle with believing that I have any value or importance to anyone. Which is why I'm thankful for my emotional support animal. I have no one to turn to except for one friend and I vow to cherish that one friend til the end of time.
@dmitrygaltsin2314
@dmitrygaltsin2314 Жыл бұрын
I did find this video helpful, thank you!
@TheNova801
@TheNova801 Жыл бұрын
Reaching out and needing someone will always feel painful to me, I'm going to be 30 this year and never shared a loving connection with someone, there's hardly any opportunity for me to meet new people, and when i do i dont have the social experience to take it to the next level and the few times i did try i just get friend zoned, or I'm met with "it'll happen someday" by people who are already in relationships, they don't know what it's like to be alone that way for over a decade. Therapy is no good because they suggest everything that doesn't apply to me and my circumstances, my hobbies are things most of the population doesnt involve themselves with.
@donaldpelletier2124
@donaldpelletier2124 Жыл бұрын
I just finished watching your video and it hit close to home for me! I have one other sibling and she's "The golden child" ..... According to my parents, always the problem child, the trouble maker, instigator, the never do anything wrong nor admit she's done anything wrong, and the baby!!! Me ... The oldest child, the quiet child, the stays mostly out of trouble child, dependable one, reliable one, trustworthy one ..... And got pushed a side years ago. Forgotten about and abandoned at a young age, when my parents and sister "want me in their lives" or "want something from me"! So yeah I know the feeling of unwantedness very well sadly! 💔😢
@mr.ghetto
@mr.ghetto Жыл бұрын
I'm sorry that happened donald.
@donaldpelletier2124
@donaldpelletier2124 Жыл бұрын
@@mr.ghetto Thank you! Unfortunately I had to learn how to survive at a young age and fend for myself, fortunately I found a great woman in my mid 20's and married her. So I'm a survivor! ♥️
@ArielCruzPizarro
@ArielCruzPizarro Жыл бұрын
Really really thank you!
@rinm0744
@rinm0744 Жыл бұрын
dude your voice is sooo relaxing and sweet i love it
@ericksanchez2496
@ericksanchez2496 Жыл бұрын
Thank you for this
@trainfan4014
@trainfan4014 Жыл бұрын
I totally agree with that. This is true thanks for the info!
@iansmith1965
@iansmith1965 Жыл бұрын
This video made me weep and break down in tears! 😪This was exactly me growing up, being abused, and having a family that didn't give a shit, and even now, years later, I still get feelings of: "I'm not good enough for anyone", and "I wish I were not me, but someone else". Being an INFJ doesn't help matters either!
@benleonheart
@benleonheart Жыл бұрын
I'm at the coffee shop. my 38 year-old ass... bawling with this video. I relate. but I also look back at everything and how much I've overcome over the past decade. I am in a better place without the abusive people in my life. 3:19 - even after years of therapy, I somewhat struggle to believe this, but I do know I am deserving of love... the ex wife leaving was a huge factor for this... i sustained traumatic brain injury and survived a murder attempt... it wasn't my fault, I didn't know recovery was going to take so long. For anyone that needs to read this: You can make it through, I believe in you. Keep going 🥺
@brittanylinson7665
@brittanylinson7665 Жыл бұрын
Oh I needed this. Been feeling this way for a few days and have shut down; I know it doesn’t last but it’s painful to feel that way.
@niklasengen1543
@niklasengen1543 Жыл бұрын
this video really touched my sore spots.. i do feel everything in this video
@kenomi3996
@kenomi3996 Жыл бұрын
Your videos are really helpful to understand more about psychology and ourselves!!
@isismeow111
@isismeow111 Жыл бұрын
Thanks, i need to hear that. Tonights been rough emotionally❤
@zlumi428
@zlumi428 Жыл бұрын
Yes, and you, by the way, have such a beautiful calming voice.😊😌Thanks for sharing.😃👍🏻
@SergantSpecial721
@SergantSpecial721 Жыл бұрын
almost scary how well this defines my past. thanks.
@LUxo323
@LUxo323 Жыл бұрын
Thank you for this helpful and educational video
@souhardya1487
@souhardya1487 Жыл бұрын
so relatable this video is like I am really talking to a therapist about my problem and he solving it step by step! Nice job Psych2Go.
@Mindful.Movement.01
@Mindful.Movement.01 10 ай бұрын
My mental health has convinced me that I’m not worthy of love and Am unlovable and no amount of “self love” is able to change that no amount of “healing work” or therapy is gonna help that.
@vennelagiddie.1614
@vennelagiddie.1614 Жыл бұрын
Thank you ❤
@Clouderz
@Clouderz Жыл бұрын
This channel is literally like my best friend. Understand me so much because no one else will
@kenrickbautista6141
@kenrickbautista6141 Жыл бұрын
Same!
@siddharthsirsat6654
@siddharthsirsat6654 Жыл бұрын
You are my go to channel whenever I feel low. ❤
@MsLilac88
@MsLilac88 Жыл бұрын
I always feel enlightened by your amazing videos, keep on uploading more inspiring content. 😊 Self care & self love are very important, we need to prioritise ourselves. 👍
@Scoutcast
@Scoutcast Жыл бұрын
I got broken up with by my first love around a month ago, and i've been feeling intense emotions recently of feeling unworthy or undeserving of love. It's still hard to believe that i'll be able to find someone to unconditionally love me and fight for me, but this video really does help me out. thank u psych2go
@krane7888
@krane7888 Жыл бұрын
Throughout my childhood, I was subject to abusive behaviour from my parents, and they always maintained that no one would help me as much or better than they did. They said that no one would ever love me more, and convinced me that in order for them to love me, I had to work hard and not feel sorry for myself. Years later, despite my objective understanding of the consequences of such relationships, I still find it difficult to ask others for help, much less hope for someone else's love for me. In this way, I push away anyone who tries to get close to me, for I fear that they will bring me as much pain as my parents did. If it wasn't for your videos, it would have been much harder for me to sort myself out. Thank you, and have a nice day!
@Cupid230
@Cupid230 Жыл бұрын
All day I was feeling this way. Ty for reminding me I'm not alone
@MarcosVinicius-nl4ur
@MarcosVinicius-nl4ur Жыл бұрын
Hi from brazil! your videos always help me when i'm struggling with emotional issues, Thank you
@itz_happyplays8275
@itz_happyplays8275 Жыл бұрын
Ty for the video
@souhardya1487
@souhardya1487 Жыл бұрын
This is what i need right now thanks
@_itsmark
@_itsmark Жыл бұрын
thank you psi, you are my go to for mental health things.
@CroiaSpiorad
@CroiaSpiorad Жыл бұрын
honestly these videos really help me and im always hurt by my so called "friends". they act like they care for me but in reality they dont. these videos help me but im still scared to leave them...
@BurritoM87
@BurritoM87 Жыл бұрын
...holy hell, this is so real for me. Too many points ring true for me...too many. I just discovered this channel by chance. Think I'll check it out more.
@a.d.samano7873
@a.d.samano7873 Жыл бұрын
It is helpful. Thank you. I can relate to some. The standards of your parents and demeaning words. Lack of encouragement. Then the person you like rejects you.
@hbudson1248
@hbudson1248 Жыл бұрын
I badly needed this video. And I needed it right now, I've been seriously hating myself recently. So even if, hypothetically, I'm the only one watching today who's in that spot- you made a guy smile a bit. Thanks :)
@Darylplayz
@Darylplayz Жыл бұрын
thanks... it helped me the part from Understanding love.
@prachitidatar9341
@prachitidatar9341 Жыл бұрын
Very helpful.thanks
@ananyapkumar7761
@ananyapkumar7761 Жыл бұрын
Good one! Actually helpful
@jhonrydc110
@jhonrydc110 Жыл бұрын
One of your best!
@robertredden2066
@robertredden2066 Жыл бұрын
It’s a really difficult topic for me. I know I’m far too old to be dealing with these feelings, but I’ve found myself trapped in a situation that I can’t find a way out of. In a nutshell, im now the primary caregiver for my parent who psychologically and emotionally abused me all through my life. It’s lead me to a place where I’ve had to step away from nearly every relationship I’ve ever had with people my own age in order to provide 24 hour care for someone who has told me numerous times that I don’t get to have a life other than the one she wants for me. I know im unlovable because I empowered this situation. I can barely handle it myself, let alone drag someone else into this. I just wish I could have been stronger when I had the chance to put this behind me, but I’m hardwired for guilt and empathy, and the thought of hurting her is something I just can’t do. Yet I still dearly wish I could have had the chance to have a mutual loving relationship….
@StopLookandListenwithSamantha
@StopLookandListenwithSamantha Жыл бұрын
Great video. Experiencing conditional love from a young age can bring these feelings well into adult life.
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