Andrew, this video is invaluable! Least we forget what weasels these narc's really are. Sometimes, we have to go back to go forward. Your videos are a tremendous tool. Thank you.❤️🙏☮️👍

While you are being polite, the narc is stomping all over you with NO regard! Be Well 🌈🎀😘

One more chance is one too many with them. Once the trust is broken, doesn't matter how many chances you give, you just can never love them the same you did in the beginning, nor do they deserve it. All it does, is break your heart more and more.

The breadcrumbing and future faking is Unbelievable!!!!!

I really wanted to believe him. He cried and said he didn’t mean it. I thought he was like me. That with a second chance he would take that as the gift that it was. I didn’t know that people like this existed. Con artist! Deceiver! Liar! Thief! Predator! Evil Demon! Now I know.

Everything Andrew is saying is absolutely true, these people will NEVER CHANGE and you need to get that through to yourself. I had a Narc wife and I gave her Thousands of chances literally over a 37 year period that almost took my life because it began to ruin my health.

Speaking of boats...Narcissists love to masquerade as dreamboats, when in reality, they are shipwrecks.

For me, since I didn’t yet know about this narcissistic pattern, I thought I was dealing with someone who had ‘issues’ he could and wanted to overcome. Wrong. Now I know better.

No more chances for Narcs! No contact is the only way.

I had relations with a convert Narc and boy this was the worst experience of my life. It took 2 years to heal and I’m Still getting Hoover. Im so happy i found myself and will never let this happen to me again. I had no idea these evil people existed. You have to step out of the relationship in order to see the evil.

When a Narc Slams a Door in Our Face GOD Opens Up a Window of Opportunity.

Because they’re con artists and realize they can string along chance after chance into a ten year long relationship 😂. They are super confident in this to the point where they are shocked when you finally leave.

Listen to your body, it will scream danger, stay away even if you love them with all your heart and being. Thats how you know

They don’t hear you or see you you’re invisible to them.

Never stop little brother...never stop speaking the truth! love you man.

I don't ever want to see or hear from my husband. He better hire a lawyer if he ever wants to communicate with me.

As my beloved therapist has always said : The opposite of Love is NOT hate. It's INDIFFERENCE.

If you are honest with yourself, the reason we gave them so many chances was to KEEP OUR OWN FANTASY OF LOVE ALIVE. Simple. Now is time to give ourselves a chance. Blessings!❤

My programming since childhood was to be patient & understanding. To be polite & believe in the best of people. It all sounded good regarding values but all had to be rearranged on my healing path..I had to look & choose what serves me now, rather what was passed down to me. A must in this world to survive the narcissist! Be Blessed 🌈🎀😘

Oh my gosh. All so true. Believe all of this. I know because I lived this for 50 years! If you're in this kind of relationship just RUN as fast as you can. Never look back! If you continue in this craziness it will destroy you..Believe me please!

Everything you have shared is so true Andrew. I pray for you every day and I’m grateful. I don’t say this lightly. You saved my life. Keep doing what you’re doing. We need you.

If i ever tried to have a calm, rational, non-conflictual, gentle discussion with narc, he would go in to full-on aggression and fly into a rage and storm off. You just could not get him to constructively discuss any issues in the relationship. It was like trying to talk to an angry hostile hormonal volatile 13 year old teenager. These narcs are stuck in defensive survival aggression trying to cover up and deny their transgressions. Hence nothing small or large ever gets resolved or discussed. Communication is blocked between you, and you find yourself desperately alone and in deep despair and confusion.

You are a beautiful soul. Thank you

Great video Andrew!! Wishing everyone clarity and peace... 🙏

I fell for the hoover. I thought he had changed, I learnt quickly that he hadn't changed at all. I have been crying over a fake relationship that was an utter lie. I have felt stupid, unwanted and unimportant. This video was such an uplifting message that I needed to hear. Thank-you.

YES!!!! They NEVER change!!

I wish I found your channel months a months ago!! I gave so many chances, to many. In fact I would hear the constant apologies, but nothing would ever change!!! I am an empath. My serious down fall was always believing that deep down there is always something good in people. There is/was absolutely nothing good or nice in that narcissist. He would use everything that hurt as a weapon to hurt me further. It wasn’t until I seen the true evil behind the mask , that I had the true “ahhh haa” moment. The physical abuse was nothing compared to the mental abuse he inflicted on me!

I went back more than 20 times. We have a child together and when I first met the NRC I was blown away by how nice and patient the person was. That all changed in a flip of a switch and I never met that person again. I didn’t know about the trauma bond. I didn’t know about the witchcraft of idealization and how powerful of a tactic it is. I moved through the cycle and every time I went back less and less of that person I first knew remained. I was blown away. I admit now that person never existed. I admit to myself I was taken for a ride and have responsibilities now because of it. I have a beautiful daughter who knows nothing of this type of game and I pray she does not become like her parent I speak of. I try to not genderize my comments. NRC’s come in both genders and are pernicious no matter what. I hope everyone is safe tonight. I hope you all are listening to Andrew and getting nuggets of wisdom. Care about yourself. You can do anything! You can get through this.

What caught my attention with this video is the reverence of recovery surety. When you no longer binge watch videos, when the sight of the narc no longer triggers your senses, when you have returned to your former self plus the hard earned knowledge. they have become powerless. All us are at different ages , length of endured sadistic emotional daggers and different levels of recovery. The health improvement gradual and consistent. You discover someone you can count on. Yourself. Never again will what brought you down happen again. Its like no one else would even try. The vibe you put out is not harsh nor unkind. But there is a resolve that is unmistakeable. Just like Andrews tone. Something we maybe weren't born with but learned to adapt and adopt personal criteria that will not be given away...ever again. Great inspiring video Andrew !

My Narc told me he kick me down so hard, but he had respect for me, because I got up and went on so fast. They always are grading us. So sad they don't work on theirself. Some are criminals, and will pay the price at some time.

I was born into a twisted family system. Nearly 60, so late to learn I know, but in the past couple of years this new information is helping me to identify and work through so much. I can't focus on it all the time though because it's heavy. As I learn and re-frame some of the pain associated with events is lessening, much of the self-doubt and anger is being replaced with understanding, acceptance and release. This information and encouragement is freeing. Thank you for being here. I need this community too. Please remember that you are worthy of all the love and respect you have to give. Any hateful words or insensitive behavior that your loved ones (past or present) do, is not about you. It's all about them. Listen to your breathing. Inhale love, it's the air you breath. Exhale the hurt. ❤🤗

Love the glowing sunset 🌅❤️🌊🌳 Yes, we gave so many chances. And there is so much passion and truth in the message that THIS community needs you - the toxicity is draining. Here, is so much goodness and we actually heal. Fantastic message Andrew!

1 They dont take no for an answer. 2 They operate behind your back. 3 Attack you when you caught them out. 4 Note "You always want your way!" Married in community of property and disagree with your reason. Suppraise to find a second credit card. Verbally they attack you. 5 Never available to talk abhout problems. 6 Quiet factor if they do not give them their way. This can last for a week. 7 They hate when you stop to be jealious abhout them. Telling you straight that you are the jelious one. 8 They can not take no for a answer.

We Empaths Must Stick Together and not judge someone for being stuck with a Narc, Rather offer advice to help them through their struggles (No Normal Human Being Ever Asked for the Destruction by a Narc so lets Help Each Other Out...We Owe it to Ourselves and Each Other....God Bless Everyone...Sabian)

Three and a half years of chances. Never again. He is 2 weeks gone.

I recently told my 91 year old Dad that I was tired of being "An anchor around his neck" financially. " My Old Dad said, "An Anchor??!!!! You were his LIFEBOAT! And he threw YOU Overboard!" Words of the wise.....

Andrew, this is another awesome video! I moved 4 hours away from my daughter to marry a narcissist. After I officially moved in with him, I felt trapped and decided to buy my own house 3 months later. I needed a "safe place" to get away from him. But I kept going back and thinking if we didn't spend 24 hours a day together, things would get better. But they never did. Im now 2 months no contact and filed for divorce, but im struggling with a broken heart. It was the most toxic, chaotic, dysfunctional relationship I've ever been in. Im still trying to process the cruelty. The more chances you give them, the harder it is to break the trauma bond. Things never get better. It's pointless to keep giving them chances. Get out while you can.

We were in love, and they lied with so much skill.

One of my favorite videos, Andrew. This is a clear, succinct message to everyone that the narcissist cannot change for you or anybody for that matter. Now we are educated empaths who have healthy boundaries; no longer just people-pleasers. Take care.. Namaste 🙏

It’s sinking in that one more chance or breaking no contact is giving up reality for delusion. You have to give up yourself and your reality to go back into their world. The cost is too high for yourself and those close to you.

You who are newly awakend. Understand this. Many narcissists might seam kind and positive for a while. But most of them are really dangerous. Also, the one you suspect the least often can be the worse. It's not a game. These people are so deranged, they are out there to bring you down at any cost. Leave them!!

Before I knew what a NARCISSIST was I gave them Alot of chances.know that I gained the knowledge that I have now I'm not giving them a second chance

I can't shake the feeling that as soon as I find someone new, he will pop up, asking for one more chance!

Andrew I love you 💞. I'm finally healed ☺️. I discarded her first baby! But she was a demon, I Suffered, all the women of her family where Narcissistic. That's a new record: 5 in one family. The mother has lost her mind. Thank you Jesus Christ my Sweet Cute Lord and Saviour!

That’s exactly what happens! Roller Coaster, constant turmoil. Thank you for explaining it that way.

Change is absurd. I can't make people change. I can barely make me change.

Thank you so much for spreading awareness. This channel is not just a blessing, but beginning of many people's healing.

Amen. God Bless Those that carry the light...what is good and Honest. What the Narcissist does not realize is that we see them....we see them. It is very important to remove ourselves from the "entitled victim" for they will stop at nothing to drain the love and kindness in our Souls....they are dead inside...they are Evil and will destroy you. Make no mistake....YOU are on the side of Truth and Honor and Love...Leave them now. God Bless the light in the People. Amen.

I still come back here to listen to your wise words Andrew because I finally made it to the other side. I went back so many times. I can see now we had different expectations from the relationship and that I was just a vehicle to get his needs met. He did the love bombing, in and out over the years with a couple of sincere apologies but it's true, ...these people lie and lie... again and again and there's no helping them, or expecting them to change. They are souless. In reality nobody means anything to them because they mean nothing to themselves. Thanks for leading the way here. It's hard to let go, but once you understand how they operate and you see how they fit the playbook, you must steel yourself to get away and stay away.

When Andrew said, "We need you! We need you! We want you. We want you breaking free from the chains and the toxicity of the narcissistic relationship!" that really touched my heart, and I started crying like a baby. 16:53 Thank you SO MUCH for validating my experiences and for shedding your love and light into the world. THANK GOD FOR YOU AND MAY GOD CONTINUE TO BLESS YOU ANDREW AND EVERYONE HERE AS WE HEAL AND BECOME THE BEST VERSION OF OURSELVES!!!! 🙏❤🙏❤🙏❤🙏❤🙏❤🙏❤

Anyone who gives narcs chances is before we are educated about what narcs are all about. It took me a lifetime because I wasn't a computer , internet person till late in life - so I didnt have the information. And because of this -we treat them like normal people - which they are NOT. But I appreciate people like Andrew here to out them to stop their destruction. ❤ Andrew Thank you. In my case - better late than never.

Yeah, the competition is constant. Everyone is below them. Hey, Andrew. Wishing you a very nice day!

Thanks, Andrew. Everything you said is correct. Facing this was difficult and it took a while to make decisions.

Thank you, Andrew.... I do feel empowered listening to you.

My narc is a female adult sibling. Chance after chance. But no more. I have become very educated on the behaviors of a narcissist so I’m aware of the reasons she does what she does. I know her like a book. They are nothing if not predictable! Putting distance between us helps me. I keep things very simple when I have to communicate. Horrible people. Every word you say in this,and your other videos, is spot on! Thank you so much! Here is the quote I made up “ You can’t win with a narcissist. But you can’t lose if you don’t play the game” !

33 years of chances, i got one silent treatment too much. That was my final straw to go no contact with my dad

Each time I would go back ( because he was so sorry and how badly he said I had hurt him) , I’m talking over thirty times over 34 years, he saw it as a green light to be even more malicious since apparently I would accept and tolerate the last level he produced. I did not realize that each time he threw me and our children out and then insisted we come back , was a test to see how far he could push the envelope. I wish I had known that- I never understood why it got worse each time. I’m free and now I see.

Why is it that the people that are being abused feel horrible for having to stop and leave the relationship?

You do make me smile Andrew 😊 amongst all the pain they inflict....I agree with everything you say 💯. They are abusers on a path to destroy you, they will not change ever. Let go as difficult as that may be....now you have the knowledge. Practice self love it's the best love of all. Always thinking about those who may be struggling and experiencing very challenging times 💜

We are all inherently worthy of love and care. Fuck whoever says or thinks other wise. They are irrelevant. Keep fighting the good fight. People like you are appreciated. Life is hard. 24 and just beginning to live life. :)

Being convinced by their lies that I was a problem, I gave so much.

Yes, this is true. The new supply isn't educated on narcissism and doesn't know about the narcissistic abusive cycle during the narcissistic relationship or is a toxic person themselves. God-bless.

Thank you and God bless you Andrew for your help🙏🌞🙏🌞

Hey Andrew and friends! Sorry I haven’t been here today… DEBILITATING fibromyalgia pain 😢😢 medicines are actually EXACERBATING the problem. Anyway, I hope you all had a good day! I got a busy week coming up… no time to sit around feeling sorry for myself 😛😁❤️💜❤️💜

This still stings me. Our bright, adult daughter repeatedly tells me, "he is nice now".🙁

I kept choosing love over logic and thats why I gave him so many chances til I had no choicè but to walk away to save myself.

I love your sense of humor Andrew! It resonates with me and helps a lot! "we'll talk about it after I clean out the lint ! .. " This is so true, there's always an excuse to not simply be accountable. You end up enabling their toxic and abusive behavior when you give grace, grace and MORE grace 🤦 you have to accept that THEY think very differently than you!! And they honestly don't even BELIEVE they are in the wrong! These toxic individuals are so shame based and therefore incredibly INSECURE, that that's how they "love" you ... until they have godly remorse and full accountability for THEIR actions, nothing ... and I DO mean nothing! will change! You cannot MAKE someone be honest! .. So cut your losses and move on and focus on PEACE. Move forward seeking peace and eventually you will have joy again deep down in your soul. 🕊️🙌 God bless you Andrew!!

Yes. We keep thinking..surely they will love us after we do such and such. And it seemed so but was always very short lived and they needed more money, services or things. Where did I learn you had to try to EARN LOVE? MY PSYCHOPATH MOTHER!! ugh what a Rollercoaster life!! Very thankful I finally learned how to deal with them . Thanks Andrew!!

I agree 100% I am on that boat! I love you too! ❤

Yes - I gave my narcissistic ex many many chances trying to make him happy-- You are correct Andrew - it did not work!!! Funny, 20 plus years later, all of my animals are healthy and very content!! Thank you Andrew for another great educational session!! Sending love to all - the ability to LOVE is monumental!!! 🙏❤💜

COMPASSION, CARING We Are The Empaths SENSITIVE, INTUITIVE This is Our Forum HELPING, UPLIFTING It's Andrew's Decorum........ Poetry Fighting The Narcs......Sabian....Hi Everyone When a Narc Slams a Door in Our Face GOD Opens Up a Window.

Damn. Andrew. I want nothing to do with them. I see the holes and the left over flags of red. No joke . Great stuff. It brings tears to my eyes. I do come first , second, and third. No more bad, nasty behavior stepping through my doors. I see true colors and I'm by far super.

Hear that noise? That's the sound of the lock engaging! Yup! Yup! Yup!

🙏I got a court ordered life time restraining order, I've been no contact since I escaped 3 years ago. 🙏

Its like an addiction. One can find many reasons to find them acceptable. Like their poor childhood and how I'd hate to see them homeless. But they obviously dont care and can sometimes stay in 5 star hotels with prostitutes. They do not struggle as much as normal people do!

Good evening Andrew 🤗🙌💜

I am guilty of tolerating too much of the narcs bs, until she was doing nothing but trying to get a reaction out of me. I started to feel very uncomfortable by her presence and started questioning myself why am I still trying to make this work out... its amazing how low a narc can go when you keep putting up with their bs

I totally agree with you. We have to stop giving the narcissist second chances. As Maya Angelou said: „when someone shows you who they are, believe them” - the first time. We must be humble, it’s vital.

Needed this .....not been in contact with my narcissist for 4 years,just had a hoover because they have hit rock bottom, as an empath i did feel sorry......but only for a minute 😅

Yes! Your soul is at stake. They are chaotic and troublemakers. One said « I’ve done favors for you » which is untrue. I realize like Andrew has stated many times about everything being transactional B&W. I’m dealing with another elderly religious narc neighbor that calls constantly. She is indeed an energy vampire and never asks if it’s a good time and can’t get her off the phone. She also plays games by calling and not leaving a message to test if I’ll call her back. One of her daughters that lives in town hasn’t been by to see her in five plus years. They are cunning creatures and took me awhile to actually realize I’ve been targeted by her because she needs attention and a nasty gossip. She’s now trying to align another neighbor against me via the smear campaign.

Truths here Andrew,,,they're out to consume everyone they can,,No respect for anyone,,not even for themselves,,💖🌺💖🌺🙏👍

The dvp rocked his world love it 😂

You’re one of the best Andrew. Thank you

I left my narcissist 10yrs ago (after 27yrs). I didn’t have access to internet/information to know what I was dealing with throughout most of the relationship . I am an empath & I could always see his insecurities. I also felt it when things were off. I just didn’t realize how evil they were! I’ve only learned in the last few years that there is a disorder for this behaviour. This helps with understanding. I was isolated overseas with/by my narcissist, away from everyone & everything I knew. I realized when we came home that life would never be any different & I made my escape. Everything Andrew is telling you in his videos is absolutely true. Good on you Andrew ❤️. Your videos have confirmed the actions I took (instinctively) & everything I experienced. Thank you 💋. Your videos are so important 🙏.

I used to numb myself by inhaling and drinking substances to ease pain. ..until

This one hit home. Very accurate video spot on.

Thankyou for your video & sharing this was interesting. I did go through this giving him chance after chance with my ex & i finally realized it was a vicious cycle of abuse. I finally had the strength to walk away best thing i ever did.

When I called him a narcissist he said "you dont even know what it means"

This video came in at the right time. Thank you.

My bro, ive watched a lot of your videoes but this one hit different. Maybe because its good timing in my life. But damn, thank you for this video. This one helped a lot.

Thank you Andrew. Good message and I always need to hear your words of wisdom.

Thank you Andrew. Sadly, I gave him soooo many chances because every time he did something big as to show me he really cares about me. Gosh, I wish I didn't give him so many chances. After every argument, when we get together and talked things out, I felt like we are getting closer & closer to each other and our bond is stronger. 🤦‍♀️

ThankYou Andrew !!! ❤ 🕊 ⚜ 🌺🕯 MuchLove N Have a Great Day!!!

I like the saying l come 1st , 2nd and 3rd ❤❤🎉🎉🎉amen, Andrew this is a ministry which people need to hear more of!!

Thank You Andrew for your devotions on helping us got out of the narcissist fog. The narc keeps showing up at places I frequent. lol! I now see clearly how truly pathetic he is. I excepted the experience was part of my growing pain. I discarded my rose tinted glasses and see people for what they are, not saying I would jump to conclusions but trust is something you must earned. Namaste Andrew 🙏💜💐

I’m so so not there anymore, Father forgive me I have no more time or energy for this💔

You are a good person Andrew

Thank you again NARCDAILY 🙏

The more I listen to you, the more lightbulb moments I have! I lost my identity and thanks to you, I have realised this today. I can't begin to thank you enough. ❤

Bravo Andrew. This is who they are !!!