Even from afar YOU have made a difference in our lives. Thank you for being you.⚘️

Please pray for me. Going thru health & mental health struggles w/out a safe & supportive village around me. Going thru this by myself. So hard.

Yes - the casual “ how are you “ can be hurtful when I side you’re screeching HELP !! I’ve been blessed with a one or two REAL genuine “ how are you’s” - you know the ones that REALLY REALLY support xx.

You are a very, very special person! Thank you for the words of encouragement and kindness! ❤

As someone who has been suicidal, thank you so much for listening when someone said they needed to see someone right then. Thank you for sitting with him over 3 hrs. Just thank you.

What a great analogy…very helpful to me. Yes, you are so right-Depression is real! I have battled with anxiety and depression my whole life.

Most people dont care or want to know your not fine. THANKS for making a differrnce in lives

So chuffed you made a difference in that young man’s life. Thank you

3 hours of time invested for a lifetime! And wasn’t it worth it? Wonderful testimony. I tend to neglect getting my physicals and overwork still. And I miss my boys. Still I wake up determined to hold on to the vision God has of me.

You are a special person. Thanks for sharing .

Dee, I want to thank you for saving that young man's precious life! What a Blessing to hear back from him! ❤

The whole time i was worried about your arm holding that glass up....and also noticing how beautiful the garden shone through the water. This is my second video watch in one day of being your new subscriber.....and this is wonderful as well. Self care and speaking ones truth is the hardest thing to do because we are conditioned to think of others first and we neglect our needs and self care all the time. You are truly just what i needed today....and every day for a long while. Thank you. You are a special soul.

I appreciate your presence on KZfaq. You come across as authentic, wise, and at peace with yourself. The way you share your thoughts and engage with impactful content sets you apart from others on social media. ❤

I am so grateful that I discovered your channel. Your soul and physicality are soothing to me. I will return.

Hello!!! Just found your channel today and I love your content! Thank you for sharing the poem LET THEM!!! I love that!!!

Thank you so much Dee for your videos, your wisdom, your love, and your presence ❤

what a blessing you were to that young man ~

After having been touched by so many people as I go through very trying years with severe health issues, I have been trying more and more to be that person in return who just sits with them.

you made a difference in my life. your voice is so calming and your words are so poetic and smart. i love your channel so much. 🤍🤍

I just love your channel!

I watched your "Let Them" video and I loved it so much, so I looked in hopes to find a video on depression or something similar and here it is. When you talked about the young man and said "how are you really" I couldn't help but burst into tears. I've been suicidal for quite some time now. I'm so tired. No one has ever known. Right now it's getting worse and I'm trying to throw hints because it's not easy to talk about it, I'm not good at communicating things like that. I don't want to go suddenly, I want them to know how I feel so it hopefully hurts less when it happens. But no one ever asks "how are you really". I've cried so many times saying desperately "please ask me, please" but it never happens. I love that you made this video. It's not easy to speak up. Check up on your loved ones people

So delighted to have found you this Sunday afternoon. Best to you from afar, and your friends here. 🙏🕊️

all you have to do, is be there. It's so simple, yet so profound. thank you Dee. xxx

Holding the lovely, beautiful life giving water. It was resonating with what you were saying and taking it all in, purifying itself of all the added toxins that have been added by mindless humans. After your chat, the water is now truly "fine" to drink :)

Thank you for making these videos. Much appreciated.

That's such a touching story. Thank you.

Listening to you is bliss... So calm and peaceful like my Grandmother ❤ sending love🌿❤️

Thank you, Dee! I felt much comfort in listening to your thoughts, it surely is a difficult world we are in.. but with others, all things become possible again. God Bless you in all you do! 🕊️💗

I have always hated that expression - I'm Fine! - when in all likelihood you don't feel anywhere near fine. The problem is that no one wants to hear anything other than - I'm fine! - and you know this, so you don't want to burden people who might be dealing with their own stuff. I would say though, that a counsellor friend of mine made it abundantly clear she didn't like talking about health, so I refrained from burdening her. But... and this is the thing that hurts the most, she spent 30 minutes talking to me about her daughter's failed marriage! That, apparently, was worth discussing.

I also have serious health problems. My spine is deteriorating and activities are more difficult. My neighbors avoid me. They don't want anything to do with me. I am too old and lame. People in my apartment building are not nice.

I've been looking for a channel/ person that discusses/ chats about these topics and tonight I was suggested your way Dee. From nearby myself which is exciting to hear people from close by sharing such amazing messages delivered in such a fantastic tone. What a beautiful character. I left the air force myself in recent years so hearing your husband was also in, further enhanced my interest. Ive never been a 'crier' and have always felt watching others close by being able to cry, that it seems a real nice release. Sharing your story on the young man having never been asked how he really is got me... I cried. Thank you, youre providing a space for like minded but very different people. And that is special.

Stumbled across your channel when i was struggling tonight. Thank you.

Thank you Dee, the next time I see someone struggling I won't try to advice I'm just going to be there for them and let them talk. I hope you're alright, sending you a big hug from Perth Australia. xx

Beautiful.

That gave me chills! Dee, what a powerful experience for you both. Wow. You are so full of surprises. The F-bomb was priceless. Bye for now....better to let the tears fall.

I appreciate your content dear , thank you for taking out the time and energy to record it and put it out there ❤

The analogy with the glass of water is so powerful. It stuck with me and has made me implement some small changes in my life.

I love Beckey Hemsley's work,You read it so beautifully.I also have her work on my facebook page,What a wonderful story

You are absolutely right about being careful who you confide in. Sometimes a problem shared can easily become a problem doubled. I'm lucky to still have my mum who is a very good listener. P.S It's interesting listening to your musings.

Fine stands for feeling insecure and nervous ….thanks. For your motivational talk..xx

Thank you, you’re amazing! xx

Thank you so much.

Thank you im learning

You are such a wonderful soul and it's so pleasant to listen to you every time. You do really make a difference. Thank you for sharing your thoughts and experiences with us. Bless you !

I can’t, you are such a lovely person, kisses from Brazil ✨❤️

Wow….i got goosebumps at the end of video…..when that young man wrote to you…. Thank you xxx

Thank you Dee. What a lovely poem and story. And look at your subs 👀 700 🎉🎉🎉

Thank you Dee blessingd

Thank you 😌💖😌

Oh my goodness, what a blessing you are.

Thank you Dee

Thank you!🌹

Loved this 🖤

Yes, yes, yes. How precious those are you will just BE with us.

You are so wonderful. I'm so happy i found you ❤

I have just found your channel and subscribed. Thank you for your beautiful words. 🙏

Thank you a lot for telling us about your first client ❤ I am also a counsellor in Russia, so this video is really helpful and insightful for me.

When I walk into the Cancer Treatment Center, prepared to endure the next round of Chemo, I find "How are you" to be a bit heavy, as I hate to lie to be nice...but I do! I am Fine! LOL

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You made a difference today :)

Was not fine when I was asked by two people. When I responded honestly I lost both of those people. When was somebody I've known since I was a child and the other was somebody I considered to be my best friend.😢 I don't respond to that question anymore. I just don't care anymore. 🥀

Thank you 🩵🙏🏾

My adult self want to be like you thank you for sharing the advice 🙏😊

Not going to lie, I am so glad I found your KZfaq channel

Thanks Dee for your lovely words as usual ❤

Hello Dee I’m a new subscriber. I resonate so much with all you are saying. 😊❤

thank you so much Dee. I’ve been struggling a lot lately and I’ve had some thoughts and done some things I’m not particularly proud of haha. One of your videos was in my youtube suggestions and I decided to check out your channel and found this video. I also struggle a lot with opening up despite having an amazing support system (my friends and family) and I always feel bad about telling them how I feel. It always feels like I’m putting an extra burden, another weight on their shoulders. I know this is from the point of a person with friends/family dealing with depression but I viewed your advice as me supporting myself through hard times. It was really nice to listen to you talk about this issue and I was crying by the end when you told us to take care of ourselves, but don’t worry I think they were good tears. Also, it was just really nice to hear some gentle comforting words when I needed and wanted to. It will definitely be a long and hard journey, both fighting on and speaking up about my feelings, but I think I’ll be alright. Thank you so much again Dee, you’re doing amazing work and I really appreciate you! Even though I’m just a stranger through a screen halfway across the world from you haha. I wish you all the best, take care 💞 And to those also struggling, everything does seem so grim now and in the near future, but idk I think we’ll pull through. Like Dee said at the end of this video, “please take the very best care of yourself as you can!”. Hugs from an also suffering soul 🫂 I hope we’ll make it through these dark times!!!

Your channel may have saved my life and sanity

well said thanks again Dee

This was really wonderful!

I am going to remember to say this in future…thank you…

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Using CC helps me

Hi Dee! Just found your channel randomly! At 58, I have finally just realized my worth, working and not working. I let passive aggressive comments go and really try to just be authentic. I told my daughter who’s 25 that if I had my life experience and my 25 year old body and energy I’d be unstoppable. After listening to you a few times, I’m still unstoppable and mostly truly fine and very, very grateful ❤ thank you for a wonderful, calming channel. Ps the person you talk about at the end for me is my mom. She is just always there no judgement no prying… she just comforted and that’s enough. 💙

Oh I am fine!

What a great analogy…very helpful to me. Yes, you are so right-Depression is real! I have battled with anxiety and depression my whole life. For your followers who have not seeked out help, try searching Claire Weekes on KZfaq. She is a Doctor who has long since passed away; however, her work lives on through her book and KZfaq. She especially focuses on anxiety. Her work has been helpful to me.

I hate that statement I'm fine it was what I always said because when I did say what was wrong things would never change so I gave up. I felt like a broken record and at that point I was just done

I'm fine I have a theme of pine

That was wonderful to hear and I thank you… but how are you really?

Saying "I'm fine" is just the expected return to the question. Depends who asked you the question.

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Nice poem. Sometimes you can't tell the truth. No one would believe it.

I tried so hard to be this for my partner. Still, he wouldn't open up, no matter how hard I tried to prove my reliability. He feels he must fight everything on his own..

How do you offer a listening ear , can’t that person ruin your day from their negativity and problems ? Sometimes I’m having a good day then ppl over share and now I’m sad . please answer I want to be empathetic.

This is a very "female" trait--pretending that all is "fine" in your world--when it is not. We are busy rescuing and pleasing everyone else - family and friends - while we suffer silently. WAY past time to say "no" and mean it. You are not a bad person because you are taking care of yourself. Your tummy hurts...call off that dinner engagement and don't feel guilty because you disrupted someone else's plans. If they REALLY care about you they will understand. If they don't...best to know.

Dee, I am so happy that I have found your video after seeing ‘Let them.’ ❤️This story and message has really struck a chord within me. I believe I am a good listener already but I do not ask ‘how are you really?’ enough. May I ask what are some other gentle ways to check in with friends, family and strangers that seem to be upset? I often see strangers on the train who look very sad and I only wish I can make them smile and forget about their worries for a moment.

Why is she holding up the glass?

I really love what you have to say; however, I wish your volume was louder because I can't hear a lot of it. Maybe a better speaker is needed?

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I am not… far from fine i am for years now….😢😢😢😢

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