Oh, so you're here too, brother haha glad to know Dorian also inspires you. Keep posting videos, your channel's got potential.

I wish you a successful, fulfilling future 🧡

@@BaloonieFloat thank you.

I don't know how being a developper could be a dream ? It is a fantasm for most but the reality of the job is not that glamourous

@@Antoine-gx4yl Try working making charcoal for a while. Or braking your back in a plantation with no machines. Or unloading cargo all day that weights 50% more than your own weight, while having a heart desease. I've been on all those situations before 18yo. So forgive me if my dreams are plain and simple and only require a very strong will to achieve. I was build that way.

i think that any life sucks. Of course you can try to improve it, but its still a race without a purpose

I live in an African country with an underdeveloped economy. Yes, there is always some degree of 'luck' (if we can call that) involved, even in developed countries, but it is not impossible. Luck is something out of our control. I decided it's not something I should worry too much about. What I decided to focus on, however, is is the things that I have some degree of control over, which are putting in some effort into turning my life around, taking care of both my physical and mental health, and cutting the outside noise (both the positive and negative).

America is no longer the land of opportunity. Here you get discriminated from a job because you aren’t white. I worked at a company and 90% were all white and the only non white 10% were because they had so many degrees and super smart. So average non white minorities have no chance in America. Also if you think this is BS, there are studies done where a black person used two resumes. The content of the resume were same except in resume 2, she changed the name to a white sounding name. Resume 1 had her original black name. You know which resume she got called for an interview? Resume 2 (the white name resume). There is bias and extreme discrimination in America. It is no longer the land of opportunity

yeah. Im currently in a country with negative GDP and job market for people without experience mostly consists of guarding prison, doing crime or going to war

​@@Ankhar2332Mother Russia

Exactly, I live in New York and I’ll always be poor

i'm single, few friends, just quit a job, living with mom......but i have good health and a roof over my head. i'm also in a great digital marketing course that has live video chats to keep us on track and motivated. once i get money i will find a therapist. nobody should have the mindset i have. horrible self confidence and i manifested some crappy things because of it. now i live in a really boring area. at my age i should have things all figured out and having fun. the biggest thing where i think i messed up was pursuing graphic design. it doesn't pay that good unless u work your way up to creative or art director at a good place. it involves a lot of stress. being a digital marketer is so much easier. prospecting is the hardest part.

​@@infowazz hi, I hope you're doing good but remember this- you have not manifested anything crappy in your life because of low confidence. There are consequences to our choices, sure, but it's your journey. It's how it's meant to be. Not in the sense you deserve bad things and you could do better, but in the sense you have a unique life and you are giving your path to your higher power. Some of us are latecomers. It's okay. Getting it right means getting it wrong too most of the times.

its cringy to read my initial comment. i get so specific and let it all out like i'm typing to a therapist. thx so much for your wisdom. well received. nothing more to say, thx so much :) @@rose_yts

​@@infowazz yeah your life sucks

these lifestyle gurus don't want to hear that. it's always "everything is your fault." 🙄

For most there is no light at the end of the tunnel

It took me years to get the guts to do what I needed to do to change my life and I did it. Then COVID happened. Now, I've lost everything.

What's a trauma bond? I need explanation

@@Tenderofyggdrasil In "short" it's when you have been abused, usually in developmental years. You find yourself in the same relationships later in life, because they feel familiar. And when you try to leave, it's incredibly difficult. Because there are usually cycles. Where things seem good, then they get worse and you want to flee. Manipulation and control. Shaming and blaming. And at the extreme, violence. Then they reconcile, you feel safe again and they bring you in closer. And it repeats. Slowly you are chipped away. Losing yourself, your identity, your voice, and your power. So by the end you don't know who you used to be, and many don't even think they can take care of themselves without the help of the perpetrator. Even though that is complete bs. You don't want to lose them because you feel as if they are the only person who will truly see you, support you, make you feel loved and special. You bond over the mistreatment from your past. Because it's so easy to believe that someone else who went through the same horrible things as you will understand you at a deeper level. I've lived it and it's rough. Didn't even know it until i was 32 and tried to break a relationship with someone who kept pulling me back in. She had all of my dad's characteristics, tucked on mind games and manipulation. Trying to control, blame and shame constantly. Example; I almost broke my neck in a biking accident, so we couldn't go to an amusement theme park for her birthday. She kept blaming me for biking. Making me feel guilty and bad for ruining her birthday. Everything was always my fault. I could never be good enough. Needed constant attention and reassurance. The worst part? I don't think she did it intentionally. It's just she didn't know anything else. It doesn't make it right, but I feel sorry for her. And I wish her all the best in a safe recovery. Just like I am doing myself. Here's a pretty good overview. www.healthline.com/health/mental-health/trauma-bonding

How long it took you to learn coding?

Can you go to a careers place and have someone check your resume and covering letters. There are online webinars and resumes, applications and interviewing too. Reddit has some online forums about IT careers, I think in some of them they will give you feedback and advice and check your resume. I've heard people say it's tough at the moment to get a developer job. Keep going and don't give up.

​@@katec9893 I have tried but a lot of them are just out to take advantage of the needy. They say they offer career guidance but then send my resume to whatever high turnover supermarket or factory will take it, give no advice and I never hear from them again. For every piece of resume advice I get another person says it's bad, so I really don't know

Yeah am in the same spot as well I try a lot of risks and try to change my life as well but so far as of now idk where I am😔

I don't believe that at all. We all get to have a choice in how our lives turn out. Sure, things are out of our control most times, but you can choose to feel positive in those moments

​@TheFitCosplayer That's shortsighted. Many things are out of our control such as genetics, charisma, talent, intelligence and drive which are fundamental components that give you an advantage in life. If you are missing many of them, you are screwed. Once screwed, how can people be happy or content when they'll be struggling just to survive?

If you believe this, it will be true, FOR YOU.