Your WHOLE LIFE is for firing dudes who don't act right. Your 20s is for learning, sharpening and polishing that skill.

"Get a large life, so even if a dude doesn't end up in it, you still enjoy it." 1:08 I love this line!

“You’re 20! If I had 20 back oh, what a mess I’d make. 20 is for you. 20 is for growth. 20 is for the pursuit of a tomorrow that is better than today. 20 is for options. 20 is for passion and knowledge and enjoyment. It is not for continuous compromise. It is not a time to say this is the guy that I gotta make it with, because this is the guy that I have. And no matter what compromises, no matter what I don’t like, no matter what he does, I have to put up with it, because he’s my man. 20 is for firing dudes when they don’t act right. 20 is for figuring out what you like in certain men. 20 is for finding what kind of men are out there and which ones you want to keep and which ones you want to discard. It’s not for picking up other people’s clothes, it’s not for sticking it out when you’re not enjoying it anymore. 20 is opportunity to move onward, upward, forward. Get a large life so that even if a dude doesn’t end up in it, you still enjoy it. 20 is for creating all of that potential, not just compromising your way into the corner of a closet somewhere, wondering what the heck happened? You don’t have any children, you’re beautiful. You’re working, working at a gas station. Nothing wrong with it. But at your time off, don’t be looking to spend time with him. Go look to spend time with some books and your brain, to get a new degree. So that you could put the gas station in your rear view mirror as you step forward into some other kind of existence, that won’t include him!"

Okay, I feel like every girl in their twenties needs to see this.

This made me leave my toxic relationship and I can never thank her enough

After putting up with a 29yr old with four kids, I am 19 about to be 20 in two months and man did I waste my 2 years of teenage life over a man who constantly broke me. This time I’m done. I’m living my twenties.

Preach lady! I love that LOGIC she give. I could sit at her feet and take notes all day.

They getting fired still in my 30s!!! And any other dudes who think I am gonna put up with bs!! They get fired at 40 and 50 too!!

Thank you I need to hear this. Just kicked someone to the curve. No children and not married. I’m ready to finish this degree and live life

Straight clowned we his ass in his face like he wasn't even in the room! So classy!! I love it!!

My now husband and I had a baby and were shackin up right out of High School & I love him dearly!! But I don’t tell our story like a fairytale, we had great times although neither of us were ready for the seriousness of all that a real adult committed relationship took. We fought and made it through 13 years and to marriage but I do not recommend it to anyone I heard a lady say “don’t look at my ending as your beginning” that’s so true! I tell my sons, nieces, nephews and younger cousins to take their time and don’t rush into a relationship especially when you’re young! What you like in your teens won’t be the same when you’re in your 20s..& what you like in your 20s won’t be the same when you’re in your 30s! LIVE!! Have fun and get to know yourself and most importantly LOVE YOURSELF UNCONDITIONALLY that way you will not allow anyone to love you conditionally! 💜💙💚

As a 20 year old I really needed to hear this after a rough divorce

unleashed her inner pastor

This is not the first time I'm watching this video, but right now watching it almost a year and half later, it really spoke to me, and I really needed to hear this.

I’m gay and I was in a very toxic relationship from ages 21-23 years old. I can say after being in that relationship I could never go back to anything like that. I just wish more ppl would realize how much better off they are being alone than being w someone toxic. I can say it’s much easier to fire guys now lol

I was 19 when this dropped, and this was gold then and gold now

THE absolute BEST advice my parents never gave me. I wish I'd gotten advice like this in my early 20's because boy what a mess I'd make!

Man im 21 an I’m happy to hear this from another person.💯 spending time with my books working on my 3rd degree . 🖕🏾compromising for any man

Can we please spread this all over the world?Knowledge needs to be dropped ASAP

I need to meet Judge Lynn. She hit the nail on the head. I remember the first time I watched this video. I was like 'yes, Amen' at everything she said.

Same advice could apply to any age not just 20. Love you Judge Lynn

In less than 2 minutes, you changed my life Judge!!! Forever grateful for you.

"That won't include him" OH I felt that👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽

OH I wish I had someone to talk to me like that when I was back in my twenties. smh

I am glad I am 20 and watching this

Ladies I am gonna be 29 soon. If you’re in your early twenties save this to your phone and put this on your wall. This is the truest goddamn thing I have ever seen. I was with someone from 14 to 24. If somethings wrong, SPLIT. Live your life.

Legit the spirit of God was on her... Goosebumps.

YES!!👏👏Wish a wise woman would've taught me.

Judge Lynn you always have that knowledge! Thanks I needed this.

I’m 21 and this resonates with me a hella lot. I have my Associates degree in Arts and now attending a university for my Batchelor’s degree of Science in Psychology in Summer 2020 with the help of Jesus lol can’t leave him out the picture. Just been focusing on myself and not focusing on nonsense from other people.

Oh how I WISH I had someone in my file, telling me these things 20 years ago🤦🏾‍♀️! Making sure my teenage daughter gets this life-changing knowledge on a consistent basis! I just pray she listens🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾...

lol I’m mid thirties...and still don’t feel the need to compromise nothing. Just enjoy life and build the life you want, be happy while doing it! Honestly, you won’t have to “compromise” or selling yourself short if that’s the right man for you. The right person don’t even want you to take BS and sell yourself short because they love you! Do you and be happy.

Oh yes when I was in my early twenties, If you said or did one thing I didn't like you were fire! I was very mature and independent. And I wasn't taking no one's mess!

Ugh! I need Mrs. Toler to be my life coach. I needed to hear this.

I love Judge Lynn. This woman knows what she says, she's like a source of wisdom or kind of.

Well in my early 20s I didnt really have a boyfriend till I hit 26. But man during my early 20s it was just me, my family my good paying job and my bed haha life was good single not that I don't enjoy and love my bf but I was single all my life so its an adjustment

omg his face when she said that

She does not look 20... At all

I love this lady! I love you! Judge Lynn I admired you because in some ways, you remind me, of me only with more wit, wisdom, experience, accomplishments, and spirit. I hope I can come of age gracefully as you and be filled with the understanding of heart like you. Thank you for the inspiration you gave this young lady. I really pray she will get every word, you said, to make the changes that will transform her life into exactly everything it ought to be. For every girl who never realized, your 20 is for you. Enjoy it. Enjoy it your way 😘😘💕💕.

Actually it's not just an advice for only women. Also for men

I watched this video at the same time after i broke up with my boyfriend it was the best day in my life am not depressed anymore i love mylife and am working hard to pursuit my dreams this lady made me stronge in 2 minutes she doesn't eve know me but thank you so much

she tells it like it is. . .

20 is for finding yourself and what you love and want. Maybe finding love but also for setting boundaries and standards.

This can flipped for men also

Gonna be 20 this year. This is so inspiring!

This video inspired me a little over a year. That’s how it all started.

AMEN JUDGE LYNN TOLER YOU ARE A SAGE WOMAN AND YOU TELL IT LIKE IT IS YOU ARE POETIC I LOVE YOUR BOOKS AND YOUR PERSONA THANK YOU FOR CONTINUING TO DISPERSE YOUR WISDOM

I just turned 20 yesterday and saw this video. such a powerful speech! Yes ma'am!

Go spend some time with your books🤗😍

We should give a golden award for the Judge!!!!

That dude got that SHITTY grin😏 on his face at 0:49-0:51 while Judge Lynn giving that lady the 20's speech...

Thank you Judge Lynn Toler. Settin that record straight.

I'm 18 now. I'll need this in my life 😂😂😂❤❤❤

Damn I thought she was 35

I'm 20 and I NEEDED this. Thank u!

I'm not already in my 20s but i watch this video i realize that you need to enjoy your young life and don't rush with everything because the right time will come to you just go with the flow whatever happens happens just keep growing.

Lord I wish I had someone telling me this at that age

After going through 2020 enduring 3 surgeries with no partner by my side, I will fire a fool in a nano second. They are rarely there when you need them but always there to use you for what they want.

I really like these Judge shows and I thought Judge Judy would be my favorite but I've gotta say, Judge Lynn does what Judy doesn't. Judy's way of acting is to tear people down, usually with good reason but Lynn can d that, lord can she, but she can also build people back up if they've been broken before. I really respect that and wish there were more role models like her while I was growing up.

You are on point every time.

Her words are poem to my ears

Exactly I’m wildin in my 20s tf I’ll calm down when im like 30 🤷🏽‍♀️

I’m watching this at 18... Very inspirational :)

Amen Praise !! for a moment i though i was in church.

beautiful words

My 20's were runied by being in an abusive relationship. DAMMIT

I always love hearing this video

Is there a link for the whole ep ? Thanks 😘

I'm in MY twenties, but I'm not seeing anyone. 😌

im 24 and been a 5 year relationship and she just made conformation

teach Sis

Judge Lynn Toler got a way with words- like Blake Shelton's song.

I’m 23 and just left a guy who seemed perfect but he told me that he broke up with his ex 6 months ago(they dated years), he wasn’t planning on liking me as much as he did and wanted me wait and to give him time because of emotional unavailability….cut him off immediately why would I compromise, it’s stupid I’m literally 23 and I could be waiting years for someone to get themselves together. If something is not beneficial to me in the now I will not be letting it stay dormant in my life.

Nice words 🥺♥️

The guy is clenching his jaws. He just want to choke the judge. Lol

When y'all uploading new full episodes??

I felt that shit.

I JUST LEFT MY TOXIC RELATIONSHIP OF SIX YEARS FINALLY

This made me feel better for leaving my last relationship which was clearly not right for me

I wish I’d have seen this 13 years ago. Ugh! You live and learn.

I wish I had seen this in my twenty s

20 is the age a male needs to prove he's a man and not a boy anymore, deserving of a good woman's love and respect.

Amen!

I NEEDED THIS

Preach

Absolutely

#WISDOM!

The men on this show are just 😂😂

all the gen z kids staying home from school sick are learning some valuable life lessons 👏👏👏👏

Judge is dropping knowledge

Doing that living it and what she is saying speaks volumes!!

Message.

Amen.

Yes agree

Where the full Episode at?

Nobody Tells women once you turn 30 you have 5 years to have kids before its consider a Geriatric Pregnancy. Biologically 20's are made to have healthy children, not to "have fun" Judge ...

I always come back to video when I feel lost. And need some relationship guidance. Self and other

PREACH!!!!!

i was going to say i wish someone would’ve told me this at 18 but i feel like i knew, to a certain extent. i should’ve heard this isn’t the guy i need to make it work with just because it’s the guy that i have. i knew it deep down but wasn’t listening to my gut.

Yes Judge👏🏾🙈👍🏾