How I Rescued My 20s - 20 things I wish I learned sooner
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So I am 27. Jeez, I'm getting old. However, I think 27-year-old Zach is hugely different from 21-year-old Zach and tremendously different in a better way. In this video, I'll give you the 20 most important things I learned in my 20s (so far).
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Time Stamps:
0:00 Intro
1:07 Your 20s Matter
1:47 Savings Won't Make You Rich
3:21 Teach Yourself Anything
4:10 Find a Mentor
5:42 Succeed Efficiently
7:15 Small Changes
7:54 Be Brave
9:41 Avoid Underemployment
10:50 Say No.
11:51 Say I Don't Know
13:17 No One Cares
14:11 Learn to Adult
14:48 Don't Complain
16:05 Consistent Sleep
16:54 Five People
18:00 Read More
19:02 Do it Now
20:31 Don't Take it Personally
23:00 Healthy Body & Mind
23:52 All Shall Pass
24:44 Outro
Work Cited:
1. pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/2029368/
2. The Defining Decade book
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4. www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/arti...
5. Hölzel, Britta K., et al. “Stress reduction correlates with structural changes in the amygdala.” Social cognitive and affective neuroscience 5.1 (2010): 11-17.
6. Pruessner, Jens C., et al. “Self-esteem, locus of control, hippocampal volume, and cortisol regulation in young and old adulthood.” Neuroimage 28.4 (2005): 815-826.
7. Kelley GA, Kelley KS. Exercise and sleep: a systematic review of previous meta-analyses. J Evid Based Med. 2017 Feb;10(1):26-36. doi: 10.1111/jebm.12236. PMID: 28276627; PMCID: PMC5527334.
Mora JC, Valencia WM. Exercise and Older Adults. Clin Geriatr Med. 2018 Feb;34(1):145-162. doi: 10.1016/j.cger.2017.08.007. Epub 2017 Oct 10. PMID: 29129214.
Editor: Martino Gasparrini
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@bryanfeliciano4102 Жыл бұрын
I felt the exact same way at 22, so I taught myself programming and after 16 months I landed a blockchain job . Be prepared to feel disappointed and worthless at times but keep pushing trough until you make it,that's just how life is .
@bryanfeliciano4102 Жыл бұрын
@adan reyaz it comes in waves man, sometimes you'll feel smart and other times you'll sit there doubting every choice you've ever made. I learned Haskell (cardano plutus) and solidity (and got a job working with those two. But I did a boot camp a year prior after which I couldn't find a job for a year and 3 months (that was devastating) but I focused on a specialty and was able to make it
@bryanfeliciano4102 Жыл бұрын
@adan reyaz too many to count lol,but make sure you take that plunge early (bomb some interviews,get some feedback and come back stronger). I could of shaved off a few months if I just did that instead of doubting if I was ready or not
@Akichinay584 Жыл бұрын
Its just really hard to convince myself feeling like that is normal and that i am no less than others. Cause it always seems like they are smarter or more capable .... Pushing through my first programming project now :)
@bryanfeliciano4102 Жыл бұрын
@@Akichinay584 I'd tell you to start applying once you have one project you're proud of and an understanding of data structures and algorithms. You got this!
@simonchristian160 Жыл бұрын
@adan reyaz Learn Javascript and Python and you will be ready for frontend, backend and fullstack roles. Make sure you study data structures and algorithms to pass interviews.
@baoluong8839 9 ай бұрын
So I've written down the main key points. Hope this helps: 1. My 20s matter 2. Saving won't make me rich but investing in learning, overall habits like sleep habits consistently, 3. Find an appropriate mentor, and ask them how to do things you want 4. Succeed efficiently, always ask the questions what I can gain out of doing that thing 5. Small repetitive changes > success not occasionally big changes, 30 mins exercising, 30 mins reading 6. Avoid underemployment --> avoid jobs you won't gain anything out of it 7. Say no 95% of the times that won't matter 8. Say I don't know - No one care so just do it 9. Learn to adult - not complaining 10. Surround yourself with the people have an influence around you 11. Read more 12. Just do it - apply jobs, learn to code (do something) - just start 13. Don't take it personally - insults are not personal, the person who make it are talking about himself/herself 14. Cultivating a healthy mind. Achieving mindfulness - doing meditation - getting outside more- mind and body in good shapes 15. All shall pass - even if you fail, it doesn't matter. It doesn't mean the world will end, but it does matter if you can see how can you improve out of it
@payelmondal6400 5 ай бұрын
I took screenshot of it. Thanks.❤
@davidc4408 Ай бұрын
Legend
@CAM-hc8ip 2 жыл бұрын
As a fellow 27-year-old, I'm starting medical school next month thanks to advice from individuals like you. Thanks a ton, and keep it up!
@dry.colton Жыл бұрын
Awesome! I'm 27 and just started undergraduate studies!
@anne-mp5cy Жыл бұрын
Good luck with your studies😀
@madmax9769 Жыл бұрын
Man I wish my country allowed that. Always wanted to be a doctor but screwed up and had to go for a business degree.
@zah936 Жыл бұрын
I am going to start medical school at 27 too
@zah936 Жыл бұрын
@@dry.colton based
@GLamoRousCooKie Жыл бұрын
It's the opposite for me. I turned 27 not too long ago, I'm a med student (or was - I graduated a year ago) and I'm the most miserable I've ever been. Until now (with the exception of years 19-21 when I was clinically depressed) my life was put together. I was in med school, doing great, ambitious, etc. I'm a junior doctor now. Despite that I feel completely lost in life, I feel like a failure, my life is a mess because I'm disorganized and my ambition is almost gone. I feel like I wasted my 20's studying. I'm falling back into depression. Hopefully I can somehow pull through, idk. I guess I'd like to believe everyone's timeline is different. Comparison is the theft of life. Don't feel like you have to have your shit together in your 20's. Or your 30's. Or any age. Just enjoy life, take repsonsibility but live in the moment.
@edgarallentoe3080 Жыл бұрын
I was severely depressed and anxious coming out of grad school because it was the first time in my life where I was the one calling the shots in my own life - I didn’t have a school to dictate the time I woke up, the tasks I did during the day, who I socialized with, when I did certain things, etc. My entire life was school. When I graduated, I was kind of like “well….what now?” as I realized all of my ambitions at that point were achieved (they were mainly school-related, in retrospect) and really everything was dictated by school. My life had felt put together at that point, but was it really put together? Put together by ME? Now I was in charge of my own life - and that was petrifying. Fast forward to now, two years later, and I can honestly say that I am the happiest I have been in such a long time. I am really starting to figure out how to take control of my own life and to engage in the real world. And I’m really discovering who I am outside of academia. I, too, felt like I wasted my early 20’s studying, working, interning - doing all this academic stuff. But now I’m realizing that nothing is ever a waste. And, if anything, it has made me more motivated than ever to grasp at every opportunity that comes my way and live every experience I want to live - to travel, to connect with people, to spend money on me because I want to, to learn new skills, to discover new interests. My point with all of this is: you’re in a life transition now - it’s going to be hard for a bit because you spent the last 23ish years of your life living for school. Now, you get a chance to live for YOU. And that’s a really hard transition, but once you get out of this depression (and you WILL), you’re going to experience this wonderful rebirth. And you’ll start taking control of your life. It won’t happen overnight, but I am rooting for you, my friend. Wishing you the best of luck in all that you do!
@DrRussell Жыл бұрын
Jam today, nothing tomorrow?
@nathalyalarcon9394 Жыл бұрын
Hey! Depression is a common ailment! Some people are predisposed to have it. I was depressed for long time and sometimes I feel that I go back to it. My advice #1 if your mental health is not ok, don’t push yourself to hard, work on it with medical treatment, therapy, mindfulness, exercise or in my case get closer to God. It is not easy, but just accept the things you can’t change and work in the ones you can. The #2 advise is take some time off to reflect on yourself and what makes you happy, get away from everything, do the things you always wanted to do. You can always get back where you left things of, if you figure out that you wanted to come back. Because there is nothing more important in life that finding out what you love to do. Having a purpose and something that you enjoy doing everyday, it might not be all the time, but every day makes you happy when you do what you love. Everybody’s have a different journey and many people did great things when they were older. Try to find a way to enjoy your life and be in peace with yourself. That is the biggest success, then you are ready for the rest. I hope this helps.
@aliceandappetizers Жыл бұрын
You will pull through
@nargis6088 Жыл бұрын
My situation is almost opposite to yours, I am 24, I wanted to be a doctor But couldn't because in my country the fee of medical school is so high that only rich people can afford it and bank doesn't provide any lone for medical schools because of such high fee, so l had no choice but to abandoned my dream.I started my major in computer science engineering but during my third year it became very clear that I have no interest in computer science, and the jobs related to it but I had no choice but to continue I always feel this void, struggle inside me , my work doesn't fulfill me, and this was the major reason I wanted to be a doctor, because in the process of becoming doctor you may lose some joys of your youth, but it will be worth it because in the end the work you do has immense meaning, sorry to say but to me you are more of a Whiner as you had the opportunity to consciously choose what do you want to pursue, I am more than happy to be where you are but I guess this how a human mind works, you are unhappy because you think you sacrifice your youth in the process, I am unhappy Because I never had the fair chance to pursue what I really Want - I have no problem sacrificing my 20's in order to be a doctor I am more than happy to do it, and somewhere around the world a person is unhappy because He never had the fair chance even to study and to make a normal career .
@weisingchen5812 Жыл бұрын
I am in my late 20s now too and missed out so much. I was born and raised in a traditional Asian family and was only told to study for success which I am not very good at. Then my parents separated when I was 16 and migrated with my father to a different country. I had to readjust and help my father out because he also struggled hard with building social contacts after immigration when I can barely handle my own. The change of environment definitely made us suffer and socially secluded. Then my father got really sick when I turned 20. He struggled for 4 years before passing and I was his only caregiver. Had to say, the mental toll was tremendous. After his passing, I was emotionally needy and got into a group of frienemies who constantly stepped on me to make themselves look taller. I wasted two other years being with the wrong people and got stuck in a low paid job because I was too depressed to look for better opportunities. Now at 27, still fighting depression. Not giving up yet. I am rebuilding my social circle and try to get everything together 🙏
@star84eva7 Жыл бұрын
By how you tell your story I'm so touched and imagined all what you've said, that's really painful and depressing but I wish you to stand up stronger and get the right company of friends. We all struggle but sometimes we felt like we have the worst situation and no one can understand what we feel. I hope you find your peace and you are beautiful enough to be in this world.
@lectufacto-fi4oz Жыл бұрын
Make a mental note in your mind To S*it on your enemies(there is no frenemies) Write down if you became successful what mistakes will you not let your kids go through If you become successful your future kids will be happy and wife too Put it to your mind "only win" even had to break rules and take a little walk everyday Competition is only with you not others so be more focused and channelise your energy and put all your effort Hope you have a good day
@Atlas92936 Жыл бұрын
Two books for you my friend: Outwitting the Devil The Magic of Thinking Big
@DoyinVoice Жыл бұрын
So sorry you had to go through that. My deepest condolences- you are stronger than you know. Your a human being - they are pretty cool creations and you happen to be one of them 🤍
@voodooblue6162 Жыл бұрын
Bro, I just realized us 90s kids are getting old so fast and kids born in 2000 are 22 this year.
@S3verance Жыл бұрын
I am that 2000s kid
@MDobri-sy1ce 2 жыл бұрын
I made changes in my life mentally and physically. Like stop playing victim, wanting certain things but never putting in the work, being afraid to try new things, and staying in toxic or co-dependent relationships because it was "comfortable" when, I was 21 when college started. 12 years, later, a completely changed person and cutting out certain habits and replacing them with better one's. For example, I decided to un-follow many daily gaming streamers because, I was getting distracted. I had a few slip ups a few months ago but now, don't even miss it!
@ZachHighley 2 жыл бұрын
good job!
@snuppl512 Жыл бұрын
This is something I face as well, and I hope I'll change like you did! Good luck and continue!
@somebody1291 Жыл бұрын
Bro any advice for me I also set goals or want things but i can't put in the work for it ! How can i overcome this ??
@khalilahd. 2 жыл бұрын
This is actually so so helpful. I’m currently 25 and I feel like how you did when you were 23 so this guidance is much needed 😅🙏🏽
@ZachHighley 2 жыл бұрын
It gets better, I promise
@oliveirasingson7592 Жыл бұрын
@@mehdially dnt spoil the vibe here.. weirdo
@winks2910 Жыл бұрын
girl you're EVERYWHERE
@goblindoby9539 Жыл бұрын
@@winks2910 right?
@CosmicShieldMaiden Жыл бұрын
You’re everywhere Khalilah lol
@ianandres2774 Жыл бұрын
I'm turning 27 this year. Still have no degree, I only finished a 2 year associates, my job sucks, and I have no legit social life. But one thing that makes me proud is the fact that I'm striving and thriving to reach my goals and save my 20s. 💙✌️
@DJSSIALA Жыл бұрын
An associates is definitely a degree my friend. Do not be so hard on yourself. Remember to enjoy life. Take solo trips. Go on dates. Focus on loving life too!
@KRACHDUFE Жыл бұрын
If that can bring you any peace, most people I know, including myself, started taking things a little more seriously at around 25-26 yo. Keyword being "started", it takes time to get things going. Keep pushing on, you got this man. As a 29 yo, I noticed that it's not about being the first to "make it", it's about being content with what you do day after day in order to truly focus on what matters to you.
@somebody1291 Жыл бұрын
@@KRACHDUFE currently I'm studying biology and I'm not interested too much in it but I'd love to being studying veterinary médecine i tried 2 times for it but i didn't get the necessary grades to integrate it, their age limit is 23 and I'm 20 should I try again different way or even if i want i should forget it ?? Appreciate it
@DustyFirefly 2 жыл бұрын
At first this video made me feel extremely depressed... being almost 32, no degree, no relationships, working retail, and being addicted to wasting time. However... I thank you. This video presents ways that anyone can move forwards regardless of age. One can highlight their own strengths and weaknesses using this information as a way to build themselves up. I am not brave yet. My mind is currently weak. I may have missed out on many opportunities. I just hope I will be able to follow through and not burn out trying to build myself up. Again, thank you.
@missdayzieee1180 2 жыл бұрын
I believe in you bruvie! You are going to do amazing things and you will accomplish your current and future goals. I know it. I understand how you feel.
@jacobpompeii7277 2 жыл бұрын
You've got this, life isn't a race so just keep trying and you'll achieve the things you want to achieve when its meant to happen!
@harrisonjervis5819 Жыл бұрын
As long as you are alive, you are given the opportunity to keep improving your life, I cheer for you mate, goodluck in whatever.
@melicachorynmarapaovalbuen4624 Жыл бұрын
You have the right to feel life and do whatever you wanted to do with it but just come back. Come back
@user34274 Жыл бұрын
I wish you the best man.
@daniellebee9 Жыл бұрын
Just turned 25, and I can relate to your points, and appreciate you sharing this. It's wild how much time people in their 20s spend thinking about if we're utilizing our 20s to our advantage or wasting it.
@seysik3631 2 жыл бұрын
I am 22 now, I feel stuck in the middle of nowhere and i have anxiety about future and confused about life in general. And i know i lack discipline and consistency. I start something but I find myself not completing it. And my sleep schedule is messed up. I honestly don't know how am I going to reset and rebuild a new life and i don't know why I wrote this now. These are some of the valuable lessons that life taught you. Thankyou for sharing these life saving tips Zach.
@caitlynm924 2 жыл бұрын
i’m 24 and i can relate to you :) in the past year or so, i started therapy and really started working on my mental health above everything else. i still haven’t worked out consistently, budgeted, gotten a new job, etc. but i feel better about life, and that’s inspiring me to start doing more of the things i need/want to. i’m making progress little by little and i can appreciate that more now. i would say don’t worry about figuring everything out right now. just look for little opportunities and celebrate every little success, which helps strengthen your mental health, and creates positive momentum. sending you my best :)
@aryan7767 Жыл бұрын
Thanks. Weird q but how exactly do you start therapy? And is it expensive ?
@AbletonLiveTechs Жыл бұрын
dont worry man. im 30 and just lost 4 million with voyager past few weeks. I went thru what you went thru in your early 20s and now in going thru it again. Life is a rollercoaster set goals and keep pushing forward
@SilverXT Жыл бұрын
I'm 29 and made the decision to change my pathway. Prioritize work less and enjoy life while I can still move. You never know when u get too old to move. Before I worked my butt off to be successful, but realized it was too repetitive and I was draining my mental and physical health. So I'm moving on to fulfill myself and not others
@aleniha933 Жыл бұрын
Same with me! Same age, same problem, same goals) Good luck to us))
@DoyinVoice Жыл бұрын
Hey do you have any tips on how to live the life you want / career wise
@TheFiestafan123 Жыл бұрын
Literally the best ‘20 lessons from my 20’s’ video on the web. So practical, useful, realistic and relatable.
@evazolota-avdeenko6608 Жыл бұрын
I am 16 and you calmed me down.I feel now that being at the adult age doesn’t mean that u have to be a perfect person.People in their 20s and 30s etc. can also be lost in the life and can overcome themselves than.Things you said have so much sense. You didn’t just share your stories-you saved a lot people from doing such mistakes and from feeling anxious about themselves.Thank you!
@ProMethod2 Жыл бұрын
Something I learned in my 20s is that everyone is figuring things out as they go!! So don’t stress too much on that
@bladermusics Жыл бұрын
I will give you my fifty cents. I was living with my ex due to college and while I was being with her I not went on international internships or any other opportunities that are offered to students. I regret that and after uni she cheated on me as well... Another one is, not chasing the things that are my talent, for me that's languages and now I'm learning German ( that I had the chance to learn for free during uni, but i not used that because I was lazy...) The last and most dumb thing that I regret, not going to the gym. I'm 23 at the moment of writing this.
@imhassane 10 ай бұрын
@@ProMethod2this is actually very very very true
@jodisoakenwolf1950 Жыл бұрын
Watching this in my 50s while taking time out at home to deal with a wait cause by B5 for my neurology surgery. Instead of complaining I'm enjoying the time for self care. It's giving me time to mentor those I care about. Eating well, up at 4:30 still learning Japanese for medical interpretation. It's never to late to improve one's own life. No one else will do it for you. Life without procrastinating is living.
@joshuafreeman2261 Жыл бұрын
I agree with everything on the list except for saving. It is important to save a decent amount (10-20 percent), and with compounding interest you can amass a large amount of money in the future that can make you financially independent. 20s is the best time for saving!
@CamillyyB 2 жыл бұрын
This was great. As humans we are constantly evolving, but I think that in your 20s specifically that change is especially rapid and can be overwhelming (at least it has been for me). Just in the small part that you share on KZfaq your growth is apparent, and I’m really happy that you embraced your struggles and found your way so that you can now share what you’ve learned and positively impact others :)
@krismatic_ Жыл бұрын
That's interesting, I'm 26 and I've had the same realization in the last year or 2: You can learn anything, it's just a matter of time and effort. And they are dependent on 'desire.'
@HealthBookAffiliate 2 жыл бұрын
This really helped me, I'm 17, and I'm glad that you made content based on it, I know it's not too late for few of us and we can achieve things
@AshSenpai 2 жыл бұрын
I’m turning 20 this month and this video truly helps me to think more wide, to think outside the box. Thank you for this.
@ghewakalmonimarsh8000 2 жыл бұрын
Thank you for this! I am in my late 30s and wish I came across something like this when I was younger. Way to make an impact on people in the best way possible. Keep rocking out this final year before becoming an AMAZING doctor, I love your videos and look forward to what more you have to share!
@LinhWhin 2 жыл бұрын
I'm 23 now and this is honestly the most helpful video I've ever seen about advice for people in their 20s or even younger. The 20 things you listed are really insightful, drawn from experience, and not generic like other advice lists found on the internet. I have only been following you for a year but have learned a lot from your sharing, thank you Zack!
@lelsnow 2 жыл бұрын
Thank you so much for these great tips, I am 22 uni student. I have been watching your videos for over a year now and you''ve inspired me lot, your experience and advice have changed how I look at things in life. And please please never stop making these kinds of videos and I am looking forward to watching your upcoming podcasts. I am really happy for you one year to be called DR Zach Highley. Love you from South Africa, ya'll appreciated.
@majamirasandor2910 2 жыл бұрын
Hi Zach, I'm hungarian, and im actually live in Budapest, therefore i was sooo happy when you mentioned Budapest in this video and how much you liked! Thank you for your visit here. I love your videos. You're inspiring me to change. Not to mention your study with me videos. I 'm grateful for your work here in youtube and as a future doctor. Keep it up! 😊
@catvenom1646 Жыл бұрын
Thank you! I love how you realistically explained everything. No sugar coating of advice and I find this video more helpful than any other. ♥️
@zoejacobin4112 2 жыл бұрын
Loved the last tip. Tom Hanks shared “this too shall pass” advice on a Hollywood Roundtable ep. and it has help me be more present in my 20s. Great video!
@muskbakeshindi 2 жыл бұрын
I’m 22 and I needed to hear this, this is going to sound intense but I’m almost in tears listening to your tips and life experiences. A lot of your journey sounds similar to mine. Also, I noticed you use the same racquet that I do, Wilson Blade. Also, that white beard yogi guy was probably Sadhguru. Anyways. I’m grateful to have found your channel. Cheers.
@ZachHighley 2 жыл бұрын
Great racquet and thanks for the ID - grateful to have you, cheers
@marybaltic5084 2 жыл бұрын
I was really waiting for your video the last few days! Thanks for being here! It reminds me that it’s real to excel and do so well in different areas. And just having your virtual company is great. You’re so cool, good luck and we’re always waiting for new beautiful content!
@huny_watches Жыл бұрын
I just turned to 20 this year. I was surprised that some of the things on the video were what I've already been thinking about it. And there were something I seldom do, even though I've noticed 'doing that is way better for my future'. This video helped me a lot. I think this video gonna make me stay tuned for your channel!
@sparklinginnovia8425 Жыл бұрын
I am 22 years old and I watched this video like a lifeline. It was so helpful. I shared it with my friends too. Thank you so much Zach ❤️
@nucle4rpenguins534 Жыл бұрын
Hey Zach, thanks for this video it has a lot of good tips and I appreciate your perspective. I turn 25 next week and felt this video to be pretty reassuring as I approach realizing I'm just halfway there to 30. It's still something I'm coming to terms with, along with reconciling that there are some regrets on decisions I've made in the past and other ones that I've learned were the right move. Keep up the good work!
@anilsoncardoso4070 2 жыл бұрын
Thank you for this video, Zach. I recently turned 24 and since my birthday I’ve been feeling kinda lost, this video cleared my head and remembered me of where I am, where I want to be and how to get there. You’re a great guy and a role model to me
@byjess8712 Жыл бұрын
I feel the same
@monbebeminmoongie9409 2 жыл бұрын
Thank you for sharing your struggles and experiences and even pieces of advice. You don't know how your choices somehow made changes to others' lives too. Hearing that you'll be a doctor in just a year is really inspiring. Hoping for your success.
@ZachHighley 2 жыл бұрын
Thanks so much!
@dreiruzz8829 2 жыл бұрын
Heyy Sir Zach, watching here from Philippines! I'm still 19 but there's much to learn from you which may help change and improve myself. You're a good mentor! Thank for making informative videos, keep it up!
@jacobpanas105 Жыл бұрын
Hey Zach, first time hearing about your channel with this video. I am 23 and I’m half way to 24 and my life sounds so much like yours did at 23 except for the fact that through this year I found the thing I was meant to do and things are going great! New job opportunities. Started a business and I have lots to learn. So much of your advice I have experienced and some I have taken to heart. Video was much appreciated! Thanks for your life experience and sharing it.
@goldenkeys3 Жыл бұрын
I’m 26 years old and a final year medical student in Chicago, applying derm. I think the “do it now” tip is what resonates with me the most. Applying this principle has alleviated a lot of decision fatigue which lessened my anxiety. You’ve definitely inspired me to say yes to the things I’ve always wanted (spin instructor, KZfaq channel, and swiping right on dating apps lol) congrats on choosing IM!
@topshottamakonnen Жыл бұрын
Hey, Are you Kenyan? Your last name sounds familiar
@olerl2260 Жыл бұрын
Thank you for producing such inspiring content. With my 18 years, I will probably have to experience these "problems" myself to fully understand them but by giving an outlook you really encouraged me in many ways.
@bismarana9691 2 жыл бұрын
Your videos have genuinely changed my life. Thank you Zach!!
@sifar1857 Жыл бұрын
You are so so articulate and put so many things into words that I’ve been trying to figure out for a while now. Thank you.
@remithehustler8322 Жыл бұрын
I wish I had known these earlier. I am 25 and I still haven't figured out my life. Confused, depressed and anxious. I have made some bad decisions that I am regretting. It is good to invest in one's self when one is still young. Porn and masturbation have destroyed my life. I wish I wasn't introduced to it at the early stage of my life. It's made me have poor grades in school, lack of confidence, social anxiety, no friends, and weak physically and mentally. I have suicidal thoughts but this video has given me hope to rebuild myself and start all over. For those reading this, run away from porn and masturbation. It kills faster than anything.
@promessson7757 Жыл бұрын
I've encountered Jesus and it change my life. You can have a personal relationship with him!
@promessson7757 Жыл бұрын
I've encountered Jesus and it change my life. You can have a personal relationship with him!
@daisyc1741 Жыл бұрын
Good luck
@samuelzins5089 Жыл бұрын
I appreciate this a lot. I haven't yet hit my 20s but I think this will help me a lot. I love hearing different people's opinions
@user-pq5by5pw1b 2 жыл бұрын
well I‘m about to turn 20 so this video couldn’t have come at a better time. thanks zach, keep it up!
@lollypoppy7442 2 жыл бұрын
You're a great motivator, Zach! Thank you!
@simones.3811 Жыл бұрын
I just turned 20 so this was the perfect video for me to watch now. It really got me in the headspace necessary to work towards advancing in my nursing career, relationships, and personal finances
@TheHannahf98 2 жыл бұрын
This video was a great source of affirmation for much of the healthy habits I’ve been working on over the last year. Applying to PA schools right now and am trying to set myself up for success 🤟🏼
@skyfall1495 2 жыл бұрын
Not only the information and advices, but the vibe is also good. Thanks!!😍☺
@lady0shady Жыл бұрын
I'm 28.5, yeah, with the half 😁 and still fighting for my Bachelor Eng. title. The deadline is soon and I felt miserable about myself. That I'm failing again (in fact, computing stuff is failing, so I cannot finish it). That I'm nobody. But two days ago my manager told me: you will be a wonderful people's lead. My ego jumped, my confidence jumped... I needed it. Now I know I have to fight for this degree no matter what, take care of my future and don't give a f**k.
@KRACHDUFE Жыл бұрын
Hey you got this boss
@Grizzly855 Жыл бұрын
Hi there, I'm 27 and 3 days ago I finished my BA after 8 years. I had similar miserable moments, failed and dropped classes too. But at a certain point, I just gave up on being perfect or passing or failing. I gave my best effort while also refusing to give up on self-care time, and finally I'm done! You don't need an A in every class to graduate. Try to schedule your time properly and dont forget to sleep every night and have fun sometimes too. Everyone has their own timeline so don't worry, you can do it, I believe in you!
@Mia-ge7xf Жыл бұрын
this is gold listening to while im 18. thank you for this! i hope my 20s are valuable, productive, and fulfilling
@tulliasellen6483 Жыл бұрын
Such a beautiful video! I learned a lot from it, so so much value. As a 20 year old, I personally love my second, underemployment cafe job as it gives me a sense that I am giving back to my community by facilitating some leisure time for patrons❤️for this reason I wouldn’t classify it underemployment, in fact serving coffee is probably the most meaningful thing I currently contribute to society haha. I love and wholeheartedly believe in the notion that every small action or job has merit and keeps the wonders of the world alive.
@grilla4464 Жыл бұрын
That's a wonderful notion that I hold in kind! Be careful though, I can easily imagine someone misusing the idea to settle for jobs which exploits their value and labor, or as a way to rationalize their exploitation by convincing themselves otherwise.
@godfish16 Жыл бұрын
I can agree with you there! I found that all those kinds of jobs were exactly what I needed to build up my courage, work ethic, capabilities, people skills and confidence. And, they showed me what I wanted to do, by showing me what I didn’t want to do for the rest of my life, too. Eventually, unless you’re passion is for those industries, you get tired of it and decide to actually pursue your dreams!
@ayaden995 Жыл бұрын
I was just scrolling down and i really liked your comment. Thanks for sharing your thoughts.
@serenatian7086 9 ай бұрын
I Love how organized you are and thank you for providing the writing as well!
@wishingonthemoon1 Жыл бұрын
I’m 27 too! I just waisted 4 years of my life to an abusive, low-quality university. I decided to turn my life around too, and now I’m the happiest I’ve been in 4 years!!! Edit: cutting out fake friends, bad friends, and toxic people means the quantity of “ friends” goes down, but dang does the quality go up. I wish I had done this sooner.
@Thesurferfromthesouth Жыл бұрын
Ahhh happy for you ☺️. Are you currently studying ?
@wishingonthemoon1 Жыл бұрын
@@Thesurferfromthesouth yep! Did two bachelors, started a masters at the bad place and transferred somewhere else. Start my masters in September!
@Thesurferfromthesouth Жыл бұрын
@@wishingonthemoon1 ahhh so nice man. I dropped out of my university and starting fresh next year. 3 program but oh well. Good luck with the journey ☺️✨
@NoRiceToEat Жыл бұрын
At 18 years old I took a few years off after school because I was not in a good place mentally and it took me alot of time to get back into a healthy mindset and now at 20, I am preparing to getting into med school next year, I am so excited but at the same time I am a bit scared and ashamed because my friends are two years into their undergrad programs while I will be in medicine for the next 5 years probably and I hope I graduate before 27....I hate the way society expects us to do certain things according to our age and maybe I am overthinking it but being a doctor is one of the best things in the world and I am so ready for this.
@cynthiagilmore7024 Жыл бұрын
I'm not even 20 yet, but that just puts me ahead of the game. My favorite was focusing on the little things! It's what I struggle with the most, always swinging between idleness and over-productivity, always trying to balance. Thanks for this great video, I'm definitely going to send it to some of my friends :)
@happychemist 2 жыл бұрын
Thanks for sharing your precious 20s moments and lessons zach
@FutureDocta 2 жыл бұрын
You are going to be one incredible doctor. Keep up the great work. I have no clue how you are able to make all these amazing videos, work out, eat well, and do med school!
@Octapelow Жыл бұрын
Thank you for this wonderful video! I certainly learn things from this and I'm 18 yrs old trying to reprogram my thinking pattern to better myself and this helps. Keep doing a great job sir!
@gi-bondan 2 жыл бұрын
Thanks for sharing these tips, Zach! I feel inspired in my PhD studies after seeing your videos.
@zayna3208 2 жыл бұрын
I just discovered your channel , and I`m impressed with the quality , values, and information of your videos. Thank you for your hard work and efforts.
@bergsonferro6682 2 жыл бұрын
This is amazing. I needed to hear this so much! Thank you for the tips Zach.
@JakeGoodmanMD Жыл бұрын
Loved watching this. Keep doing your thing man. Proud Jeff Alum here 🙏🏼
@ZachHighley Жыл бұрын
Thanks dude! Jeff4lyfe
@AldanStOmer-wt6bb Жыл бұрын
Extremely insightful, I began the biggest change of my life back in April when I turned 23. Opting to not go for my Master's in the region I live (the Caribbean) and take two years off to work and save so I can start a new life in Canada. A few of these I unintentionally began to do but I will take all of them into consideration now. Thank you 🙏🏽
@demonrhythms8761 2 жыл бұрын
Thanks Zach as everytime you motivating us
@ahmedalhssar4377 2 жыл бұрын
Great video as usual, thank you Zach!
@StudyWithMe001 2 жыл бұрын
Great insights and advice - thanks for sharing, Zach! Good luck to all my fellow students out there!!
@kevinsjournal Жыл бұрын
19:43 So true, in most cases you learn more from just doing that something, than prepping for that something, after a certain point
@juliannaz2523 2 жыл бұрын
Really, really helpful Zach, thank you so much, currently in the middle of med school and stressing so thanks for all the tips☺
@exartic._ Жыл бұрын
There's a lot to learn from this video n I think I'm going to rewatch it a couple of times randomly through out the year cause it's just so valuable
@EduardoHenrique-nd1ro 2 жыл бұрын
Another amazing video, Zach! Thanks for sharing with us! Cheers from Brazil!
@joaquin67 Жыл бұрын
Ah yes, 27 was when my life was JUST starting to shape up. Finally landed a job that would set me on my career in a cool city, had a girlfriend, and was just re-starting my fitness journey. Then the pandemic and shutdowns hit. Had a mental breakdown, quit my job due to mental health, gained a ton of weight, moved back home in a rural town, car broke down, and my romantic relationship ended. It's been over 2 years now (going on 3) and am now 31. Still living at home, paid off a lot of debt, saved up an emergency fund, lost all the weight I gained, car works now, and essentially restarting my career from square one. This year I plan on landing a higher paying position, move to a city, and find another girlfriend because the dating scene in rural town at my age are single mothers and 18-20 year olds
@moisesjimenez4391 Жыл бұрын
I love that you brought up Meg Jay’s book. I’ve gotten a lot of clarity and made better life decisions because of that book.
@MrMiscellaneousOG Жыл бұрын
Excellent video Zach! First time watching your channel but I like how all the advice you give is pragmatic & relevant. As someone in my late 20s I wish I had learned a lot of these lessons sooner, but it's never too late to change now. You seem like a genuine person & thank you for the tips! I subscribed and can't wait to see what other content you produce.
@viccenzalucchetti1801 Жыл бұрын
Hi Zach! I’m from Brazil, I’m 23 years old and I started studying English when I found your channel. And man, I think this was one of the best videos I’ve ever seen!!!!! Thank you for that, your work is very important and I admire you a lot. I only wish success in your life!
@ConnorBrownArchitect Жыл бұрын
14:52 about complaining is helpful advice. I have a friend who always complains and it really makes the mood negative.
@dam1anwayn3 Жыл бұрын
Currently 21, still trying to find out who I want to be for the rest of my life. I know as time goes on, our personality can fluctuate but this is a great start. Awesome to hear from mentors like you on KZfaq.
@anabrr1123 2 жыл бұрын
This is so helpful! Although I’ll be out of my 20s in a couple years, I’m going to use these tips ❤️ the point you made about finding a mentor is so helpful. I always feel embarrassed to reach out to professors I really admire, but I’m going to write a few emails today. :)
@seysik3631 2 жыл бұрын
Girl same ✋
@Flo_T29 Жыл бұрын
Thank you for this video. I especially love your tips on don’t take things personally since i am someone that overthink a lot and take things too personal but now i am going to change my perspective on life and negative people.
@egypt6868 Жыл бұрын
19 years old but this caught my attention. I’m glad I found this video and hopefully I apply these tips in my 20s. Thanks for the great advice! 😊
@BBoskixd Жыл бұрын
Thank You for this video. It keeps me on the road
@hassaankhan5964 Жыл бұрын
Bro thank you so much for these wonderful tips. It feels good to know that you are not the only one out there dealing with these issues earlier in life. So arigato senpai
@wandererrrrrr 2 жыл бұрын
perfect timing love you Zac💜
@annaf515 2 жыл бұрын
Great video, Zach! Your videos always thoughtful and smart
@norabugazia5340 2 жыл бұрын
I wanna say thank you for this video, I was really need to hear this because I’ll start my 20s in July,and it was so beneficial ❤️
@ilovetotri5836 2 жыл бұрын
This is a very insightful Video and it brushes up on many points I have noticed myself, however I also think that many of the points can be achieved later in time it might not be as easy. But I thin the biggest thing I took from This Video is that: My choises matter, what I do in the years that set up my life matter. So thank you for helping me see that point more clearly. ✨
@yajursriraman9481 2 жыл бұрын
You're an inspiration Zach !! Excited to watch this
@ZachHighley 2 жыл бұрын
thanks for watchinggg
@saifthemedico 2 жыл бұрын
This was really helpful!!!! Thanks fro all these tips !!!! Keep making such content !!!!!
@janetheobscure3426 Жыл бұрын
This is so inspiring!!!! Thank you. Thank you.
@mohadesehamdollahzade936 2 жыл бұрын
Wish you the best Zach your channel helped me so muuuuuch
@nashe1462 Жыл бұрын
Amazing vlog. I have been trying to do this more and more in the past few years, maybe not as strategically or informatively. It is an exiting and fulfilling very personal experiences.
@kyawthiha7745 Жыл бұрын
Thank you for this video because this became a reason that I'm grateful for today.
@JHTL Жыл бұрын
This too shall pass hits hard. Especially as a high schooler about to enter senior year, I’m painfully aware of the time left to spend with those around me. I will be sure to cherish them. Cheers
@Vikram15583 Жыл бұрын
Thanks Zack for making this video. I needed to hear it!
@curioussrinija8738 Жыл бұрын
A Heartfelt Thanks to you.... Zach bro .....for sharing this👍✨ Needed it ! 😇
@radina2437 Жыл бұрын
Sooo glad that I found your videos 🥰 Thank you for all the information, it's truly helpful 🙏🏼
@TundeAdemolaDavid Жыл бұрын
Am 23 and this video was super helpful as it resonates with me as am on a personal development journey.
@rhimiles Жыл бұрын
I'm same age, same page, and couldn't agree more. Our messy early 20s are often described as our best years, and whilst they're certainly formative, really I'm just getting started. I've been really loving reaping the rewards of the "mop up the mess" stage from my mid 20s, now that I'm nearing 30.
@GLamoRousCooKie Жыл бұрын
Right? I just turned 27 and I'll be damned if my early 20's were the best years, I wasn't even aware I was alive half of the time and the other half I was dealing with a severely toxic friendship because my boundaries were non existent. Full of insecurity and self doubt. F that. My best years are still to come. Cheers to us.
@vaishnavk5833 2 жыл бұрын
This is liquid gold advice. Simply the best.
@padmeasmr Жыл бұрын
I did so much in my 20s including failing, a toxic relationship and losing yrs because of health issues. I studied philosophy for 5 yrs, went to acting academy, learned languages, improved phisycally and mentally, grew in my faith, built myself, met lots of people, do things I was scared of, started a YT channel, written short stories and a play. Cut out people and started prioritizing myself. Now I just had a series of misfortunes and illnesses that really knocked me down but as soon as I'm able I'll be working hard again and I expect to thrive in my 30s. All this hard work must get me somewhere I don't care where. I've changed my life and I a bright future awaits.
@user-kb2cy3xs3y Ай бұрын
How did you discover what do you want to do exactly?
@padmeasmr Ай бұрын
@@user-kb2cy3xs3y I haven't, I just did what I liked and felt drawn to but I tried to commit to it wholeheartedly every time. And I wouldn't change it, it was amazing.
@padmeasmr Ай бұрын
@@user-kb2cy3xs3y Part of it it's to discover what you do NOT want to do. I'm happy with everything I did so far but also realized many things about myself and what I don't like. As for the future I want to do a lot as well, anything I'm drawn to is good! You just have to really commit.
@caylinjade7979 Жыл бұрын
Thank you for this!! I always feel like I got a late start in life due to my strict parents, I didn’t start working till I was 21. And within a year I have worked 3 jobs, moved out and live on my own and signed as a model with an all inclusive agency and started making content on disability inclusion and my own blog! and working on a KZfaq channel! It’s really about taking a risk on yourself, time is the most value that we have, it’s about knowing yourself and taking small steps! You’re absolutely right! The smaller steps I took within myself to get a therapist, reading and staying organized has helped me with my bigger goals! I’m also about to start rock climbing for I hope USA paraclimbing! Thank you for this! It’s so true! Don’t be afraid to network and take the jump on yourself!
@phoqueme Жыл бұрын
Gonna turn 27 in a couple of months, and i gotta be honest I'm at my most "lost stage" than ever. I had a daily job and future plan whilst going to university, then when Covid happened that went to shit. I graduated late last year, and these last few months I've been dealing with some other unexpected stuff but yeah, been tough to find a consistent job again, what little savings I had went to shit cuz of family issues, i hope i find something soon and make a new life plan
@topshottamakonnen Жыл бұрын
Keep your head up G! I'm turning 27 in September and I'm scared af. Spent my last 10 months making all the wrong choices, nearly became an alcoholic after going on benders and wasting so much time. I'm on the path to getting back to myself and becoming better. Small steps in the right direction make so much difference in the long run.
@josephjennings6970 Жыл бұрын
I’m 25 and basically this resonates with me. Went to grad school during COVID and still feeling lost with one year of school left
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