I just dont understand why us as gay men have partners need to pursue romantic relationships with other people if we already have partners. How deep is the hole inside we are trying to fill?

I came late to this episode, but I would say I've never been addicted to substances when I was living in the Middle East. However, since I moved to Belgium, I started substance abuse, primarily smoking and doing drugs. I got caught in a vicious cycle of going to parties because I felt lonely, then feeling really bad all week long, then feeling better again, and then doing drugs again. After that, I started engaging in chemsex, where GHB, Ecstasy, amphetamines, and other drugs were involved. I did this for a solid four years. I was ignoring the fact that I was addicted to those substances, and when people pointed it out, I would become very defensive. Eventually, I reached a point where I admitted and confessed that I have a problem. Hearing you guys talk about your experiences makes me feel less lonely. Thank you for this podcast.

I think there's a lot of understandable fear around open relationships and polyamory from a stability standpoint, as well as self image and esteem. From my experience with both, i would say that there are specific challenges that arise tending to multiple relationships, but it isn't that different to looking after your multiple relationships with family members, friends, work, land, etc. You will need to balance time, attention, needs, desires, etc., but we do this with those other relationships without comment. You don't say to someone about to have another child, "You can't commit! How could you possibly care for two children at the same time!" I get it when people say it's not the same, and i isn't, but i dont think it's that different either. Think about what is your actual concern. Is it that you think you won't be able to manage your time, or that you'll be abandoned, or you'll feel less self worth...? They're all valid. I'd just say that there are different strategies for addressing them, and they'll work for different people. ❤

24:28 I loved this part so much, want them to win. We’re both two people looking for the “prize” which is happiness 😊

On Dr Ramani...i dont like her. I dont think she's a great clinician bc she's very angry about something. Frank Yeomans is way better bc of his neutral approach.

I loved this episode so much. I was actually reluctant to watch because I am not dating right now, but this was so refreshing and insightful. I feel like you guys are laying a lot of groundwork for me so I can avoid a lot of pain and frustration in the future when I take the plunge again. Thank you <3 And P.S. Michael, if you meet someone with a capital "B" and get married, I WANT AN INVITE TO THE WEDDING! :)

I love your channel. 🙌😍😘🏳️‍🌈🌈

Great episode! I’m in a frustrating spot with post first dates feeling like I’m the only committed one. These are successful first dates by the way, if some of the guys lied to my face. In one case a guy was honest with me that due to recent events he is not maybe open for a relationship at the moment. So that i can respect, you can set expectations correctly. But then there’s guys that want you to chase them. I’m autistic and frankly have no interest in playing games. But they guilt trip you every time you haven’t reached out for awhile. Even though every time you reach out they’re not available etc. or they claim they aren’t at least. so like after awhile you lose interest naturally and then reaching out going “what happened with” guilt tripping when you’ve started moving on. Have blamed myself and maybe thought it was the autistic thing and there having been misunderstandings.

So Kind !❤

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I just now learned of my fathers death. He was 86 and I am 65. He only answered and spoke with me by phone 3 times in my life only because He thought the calls were from someone else. He never called me even once in my life and although I long ago let go of any hard feelings or expectations , I suddenly realize that I truly will never get that call that the little boy in me still would love to have received. 😢😊

I don't know about dates but You are always successful at reaching You audience in a Profound Way ! 😊

I find a first date should be meeting for a coffe or drink. This way if you dont click you can make it short. if you feel a connection, plan another meeting or go further with the date,

Amazing episode as always! This was very interesting!

Not put a baby in me 😭

A very timely topic. Primary goal is to find Mr. Right but secondary goals are just as important and they include to have fun/excitement, to learn about myself more and to practice curiosity. The biggest insight for me was Reno's observation that even if you think the world of your date, if he doesn't love you back with close to the same level of interest, it is simply not a Match and you need to let it go. Wish me luck for a first date this Saturday with someone for whom I have very high hopes.

I was supposed to go on a first date this week, but got ghosted/stood up, so the first thing I’d say is to actually show up!🤣

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Nobody understands a Gay man better than another Gay man 🏳️‍🌈🏳️‍🌈🏳️‍🌈🏳️‍🌈🏳️‍🌈🏳️‍🌈🏳️‍🌈 Never allow that straight women and men divide us 💥💥💥💥💥💥💥 Gay men of all the world together forever 🏳️‍🌈🏳️‍🌈🏳️‍🌈🏳️‍🌈🏳️‍🌈🏳️‍🌈🏳️‍🌈🌎🌍🌏🌎🌍🌏

No matter where we are, we Gay men will always take care of each other 🏳️‍🌈🏳️‍🌈🏳️‍🌈🏳️‍🌈🏳️‍🌈🏳️‍🌈🏳️‍🌈🧿🧿🧿🧿🧿🧿🧿✝️✝️✝️✝️✝️✝️✝️

How do you find friends that are not superficial? it becomes challenging for gay men who who perceive themselves as physically unattractive (short stature, ethnic, average build) because of multiple past rejections. I find that gay men in general won’t even take the first step in getting to know you because you don’t physically look like them. People tend to cluster with other people who look like them physically.

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Lol until recently I was going round telling people how I don’t really experience anger and I find it really difficult to access it, and people describe me as laidback. This was very relatable and useful, thanks!

I definitely developed a porn addiction or compulsive relationship with porn from my first exposure to porn at the age of 7 till i was around 17 before i sort of got it under control. Definitely contributed to intimate issues and fed compulsive sexual behaviour as an adult. I was moving wild, sleeping with everyone men, women, trans - thought i was a pornstar minus the pay lol. I just wish i never got exposed to porn at such a young age, it messed me up in ways i am only now starting to unpack. Spirituality has helped me develop greater self-awareness and look inwards for validation and inner peace. I am celibate now and on a spiritual journey. Loved this podcast thank you.

Thank you guys 🤯

The philippines has an ever-increasing "ageism" problem and it doesn't look like it is going to get any better any time.

Ha! This is exactly what you taught me Matt!

I am a single gay man and i met a beautiful disabled man recently. He's such a beautiful person and i hope we can have a connection soon. He's a shy guy so i don't want to scare him off lol. He always stares at me and tries to get my attention but he is super shy too. Disabled people are wonderful people and just want to be loved like the rest of us. God Bless you guys!

Dr Evan is very good and knowledgeable, I saw him recently and now investigating my situation, his staff and Steve are polite and make me feel comfortable in the office.

Intimacy is another perk of being pretty. We ugly folks never have to agonize over half the crap you guys do. We don't have mirrors in our bedrooms, worrying about how we look from different angles. We don't obsess over sharing our feelings. We don't have to worry about intimacy, either. It's kinda hard to empathize with this. Poor you, I guess.

Vulnerability 💯

Happy International Gay Pride Day 🏳️‍🌈🏳️‍🌈🏳️‍🌈🏳️‍🌈🏳️‍🌈🏳️‍🌈🏳️‍🌈

I also believe that many of us who struggle with expressing anger than to take out our anger on ourselves.

Tyler needs to come to Australia. I’ll give him all the loving he needs 😅❤️

Tyler needs to come to Australia. I’ll give him all the loving he needs 😅❤️

I think I have read somewhere that repressed anger can also result in depression. Is this true?

So relatable! Thank you all!

So Wonderful that You Cover these Topics no one else may want to touch. 😊