I was in a relationship with a lovely deaf girl for a little over 3 years in Switzerland. She also had a cochlear implant, but rarely wore it because it didn't really help her understand spoken language any better and she found the implant's signal disturbing. Our first date went like this: We had already texted to each other beforehand and planned the date. We would then go for a walk and I would point to objects and she would show me the corresponding sign. We had a lot of fun, laughed and there was chemistry between us. At the beginning, when i didn't knew any sign language yet, it was a bit difficult to understand her because she spoke a bit unclearly, but after some short time, when I got to know her voice better, I had no problems understanding her anymore. In the years that followed, we communicated using spoken language in combination with broken sign language. I wasn't that good at DSGS Deutsch-Schweizerische Gebärdensprache (Swiss German Sign Language) and I couldn't use correct sign language grammar. It was a wonderful time with her. Nevertheless, there were difficult situations, for example when we went to family meetings together or when my birthday was celebrated and she was the only one who didn't understand what people were saying. I often wanted to translate things for her, but it bothered her because she didn't wanted me to take on the role of her interpreter. She thought I wouldn't be able to fully enjoy the moment and sometimes she went up to the bedroom alone. We talked about it and it made us sad. There were also situations where I was the one who barely understood anything when we spent time with her deaf friends. It was almost as if we came from different worlds. There is a difference whether you come from another spoken language culture or from a sign language culture. Sometimes I felt like I couldn't express myself freely, because sign language isn't my mother tongue, even tought i think they are beautiful languages. We loved each other very much and felt very close and connected. Unfortunately, the relationship eventually fell apart. We had no contact for a few years after that, but we have now met again and text to each other. We are friends now. ♥️
@josevazquez82742 ай бұрын
Wow thank you for cool sign language ❤❤
@braceletsbykatrina14242 ай бұрын
Do you have two coolers or one cooler?
@Addie-lm9rm3 ай бұрын
And by the way, I love the music music❤
@Addie-lm9rm3 ай бұрын
Omg huge congratulations to u and your husband do u know if it’s a baby girl or a baby boy yet! And the name
@ellerj6413 ай бұрын
Congratulations!
@KeyG1233 ай бұрын
Congratulations 🤟🏽🥹🤍
@epicnessfin3 ай бұрын
Congratulations!
@samechaleph18913 ай бұрын
I know you made this video 3 years ago, but just a tip in case it might help, maybe you can just type that you're hard of hearing and its easier to read text, so this way you don't have to fake it when you hear them calling your name
@samechaleph18913 ай бұрын
for getting attention, you can buy a little laser light, the kind that you play with cats :)
@Tom-zg6sb3 ай бұрын
I have speech apraxia I’d love to leave my body and be someone else my dream, I mean for my soul to find a new body
@resourceress74 ай бұрын
Did he say "if you think there's an alligator, stay in the water, but don't kick?" Yikes, okay. Good life advice.
@danielcamarena6225 ай бұрын
Very interesting
@mercygrace.5 ай бұрын
I'm literally cracking up 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
@tracyukaigwe256 ай бұрын
🤣😂🤣
@Bea-qx2pc6 ай бұрын
This is amazing! I love this trend, underrated❤
@Uxcci8 ай бұрын
fr😂
@emiliecahoon99798 ай бұрын
Causin Emilie?
@TheDaumWorld8 ай бұрын
You don’t use the water proof case?! I went scuba diving at 15 meters with them and it’s amazing. But mostly I just go without it cause of an ease mind and it’s actually soooooo peaceful and beautiful!
@tracyukaigwe2510 ай бұрын
Nice
@luckystar6871 Жыл бұрын
gonna have to push back a little on the disability discussion. you won't identify as disabled because of the negative connotation that it means you are less than? but that's just a stereotype. should people from other marginalized groups not identify with that group because of stereotypes? of course not. this is the same thing. it's important to show people that disabled people are normal people like yourself. you can be disabled, smart, interesting, kind, active, beautiful, etc. disabled is just another neutral adjective to describe oneself. calling yourself disabled shows people that disabled people ARE capable and equal human beings. there are plenty of Deaf youtubers who call themselves disabled. we can't have disability rights if we don't call ourselves disabled! please don't fall into that trap thinking disabled people are less than so you don't want to associate with them. look up internalized ableism and the social model of disability. <3 great video though and thank you for sharing! just wanted to let you know a different perspective that is out there and really important to disability rights!
@pmg1180 Жыл бұрын
Finally to see a deaf woman with hearing guy! not so many out there that shows on social media. Thank you for that! I definitely going to subscribe you guys. You need to interview many deaf girls how they feels about hearing guys. We need that!!!! Because so many hearing guys are so ignorant. Please make that video someday and interview deaf girls with their experience with hearing guys, even family, too!
@ellerj641 Жыл бұрын
Every business needs to be more accessible. Trying to find a business that has an email and actually uses it is like trying to find the fountain of youth while pulling all your teeth out. It is ridiculous. The worst offenders are those who work with deaf people. They are the most ableist people you can find and it is horrible especially when they also work with deaf children.
@catsmokingavape8269 Жыл бұрын
Maybe just don’t be deaf 🤷♂️
@derya111 Жыл бұрын
..
@derya111 Жыл бұрын
your joking… 💀
@TheDaumWorld Жыл бұрын
I rather be deaf than be you
@jakou31 Жыл бұрын
Hi, i had a deaf GF with CI too , it's sooo funny how our relationship is similar to yours ! she also work with blind/deaf people and we comunicate like you in the dark.. so funny to see ^^ (i'm French and i notice ASL is pretty close to LSF (Langue des Signe Francais) !) I also throw something to call her 🤣 I pass the vacuum cleaner early in the morning beside the bed without waking her up, so cool ! but the reverse is a nightmare if she wake up before me...
@Balthazar2242 Жыл бұрын
Also it's just nice to be outside.
@Charleyking99 Жыл бұрын
☝️👆🤙👊✌️🙌👋🤞👏👏👌🖐🤚👈✋✊👉👇🤲. 😂😂😂
@faithlcockrell2332 Жыл бұрын
😂😂😂
@louiedirt4888 Жыл бұрын
Just imagine if a croc or shark got her and you were the one to push her in to just be “funny” but now your daughter is dead forever? Idk bro seems risky business
@WombatCombatYT Жыл бұрын
Bro ima go deaf by that scream at the end 💀💀
@alexanderesquivel6120 Жыл бұрын
Real
@GabrielleSmith2 Жыл бұрын
It wasn’t even that loud
@WombatCombatYT Жыл бұрын
@@GabrielleSmith2I wear ear buds
@poponents Жыл бұрын
Relationship goals😢
@joylebron5539 Жыл бұрын
Beautiful moments, ❤
@ULTRAMAGATRUMP Жыл бұрын
He does have a point
@ellerj641 Жыл бұрын
Ain't that the truth 😂
@joman2222 Жыл бұрын
nice video
@rickybrock6092 Жыл бұрын
Works for regular hearing aids also.. its a microphone, it picks up ad amplifies the sound.
@brendanboy411 Жыл бұрын
That was fun! I’m trying to learn ASL so I’m watching as many deaf people as possible. I follow you on Instagram.
@ellerj641 Жыл бұрын
HAs too. To hearing people it sounds like a breeze. To us, it sounds like a darn hurricane.
@ellerj641 Жыл бұрын
My dog knows spoken English and ASL as well. I have to be so careful with what I say/sign or she will know what I'm talking about. It is quite hilarious though if I'm practicing new signs and/or having a conversation on zoom with another deaf person, she will have a fit. She's not recognizing the signs I'm using and in her head, "Are you trying to tell me to do something or not to do something?!" She'll jump around and climb all over me, paw at me, and just get fussy until the conversation is over. The person on the other end of the zoom call usually loves it.
@ellerj641 Жыл бұрын
They will actually accept deafness to get that pass? I'm so excited now! I've been looking at that pass and was wondering if they would accept deafness as a disability (even though it is). This will be perfect for my trip to travel across the country and see each national park :)
@r.m3194 Жыл бұрын
5:21 EXACTLY!!!!!!!!!!
@valerievalliartchannel759 Жыл бұрын
😢
@ellerj641 Жыл бұрын
I am deaf and desperately need to learn ASL, but I live nowhere near a deaf community. I took a few classes in college, but the highly ableist students there made it difficult (it's terrifying thinking how most of these students are going into careers to work with deaf children). Since then, I've been unable to practice and learn ASL for about a few years and I'm getting rusty on the few signs I know. I feel so isolated, especially considering my family (except my mom who does try) absolutely refuses to try to learn ASL to communicate with me. Even my own dad who is deaf himself. Between him and my sister, they always say, "Well you can speak just fine and you're listening to me now aren't you?" I grew up with their voices, so I'm familiar with it, but these past few years I greatly struggle now to understand them. Strangers are a no go. It's like the adults in the Peanuts show. I have no clue what people are saying even if I manage to hear their voice. HAs no longer work for me, but I am not deaf enough for CIs. I'm stuck.
@lillyb367226 күн бұрын
I know it's been a year, but I was wondering if things got better for you. ❤ Have you thought about moving to a different area where there is a larger deaf community? Is there Deaf coffee meetings near you or Deaf events? Your ASL teacher might know where you can meet up with some people...maybe email her? I know there are online asl courses that also provide online group meetings for people to practice with each other asl.
@ellerj64126 күн бұрын
@@lillyb3672 Hello! Things are better and worse. I have forgotten so much ASL at this point. I have spoken with my deaf professors. There's really nothing here. Online courses have been a no go as either I can't afford them, or it just doesn't work for me and my learning style. I have also considered other areas of moving to, but it's so hard trying to find where deaf communities are at. Plus, my heart is in this small town and I don't want to move away especially after being so established here. I did manage, after fighting for three years, to get bone conduction hearing aids. I do love them, but there are pros and cons. They help tremendously and I can now hold conversations with my niece when before I couldn't. Conversations with strangers is slightly better. Other things are easier. But with how bad my hearing loss is, they're maxed out trying to accommodate me. So they're extremely sensitive and scream a lot. I can't really do anything with my hair because of anything so much as lightly touching them, they scream. I still can't get CIs though I would qualify for one in my right ear now. I would like to try the most powerful Ponto bone conduction HAs since they're stronger and may possibly have less feedback. But since I got my bahas through voc rehab, I'm stuck with them for the next five years. Unless I can somehow shell out $12,000+ for the pontos. Which ain't happening.
@chrislynch1011 Жыл бұрын
Love his/her version of roll over lol
@malachijustmalachi3599 Жыл бұрын
Bruh all dog will follow the hand signals you thought them when you thought them the trick
@Vids.4.u Жыл бұрын
That is amazing🥹
@ellerj641 Жыл бұрын
My mom tries so hard to remember to be on the left side of me when she wants to talk to me. I can't use HAs but I'm not deaf enough for CIs. I have a little bit of hearing in the left ear. Not much but I still use it for whatever I can hear. But there are many times she forgets and I'll have her move to my left, or if we're walking and there's room, I'll move over to her right.
@rahima2558 Жыл бұрын
aww, first<3
@GuidingMyHome Жыл бұрын
What an amazing idea! I hope you do a lot of these!