That’s very analytical. Were you an engineer? Kidding a little… I haven’t sat down to put my activities on paper, because I know I’m ’upside down’ wardrobe-wise. Too many ‘dressy casual’ items (trousers, skirts, nice sweaters) even though I retired in 2012. But I have adequate yard work and errand clothes, and storage space, so I can keep them for a while longer.

@@gailwilliams5278 not an engineer but I did have an analytical job! Yes, I wish I'd kept some of my "corporate" wear. All those blazers would come in handy now that they're stylish for casual wear. I yearn for my hot pink blazer, especially! 😊

I’m definitely a future self shopper and a creative not an analytical person unless it comes to my design work. I’m so excited for this new thought process and impressed with how you achieved it. Thank you for sharing.

Thank you for sharing your process, i'm sure it will help so many of us!

I am on a path to do this. I have been creating photo look books but i want to categorize them for different activities. I think it really helps with making sure you feel good in what you are wearing each day and not looking into what else I can add or what other ppl have that i should also get.

Live out your fantasy 😊.

Thx for sharing your experience at 84! Such a blessing! This makes me so excited to know that us girls can still be into fashion & style no matter what age!

I am 79 I have a fantastic life.I am glad I found this video new way of looking at life. Thank you

I love everything about this.

You must be a redhead.

THIS ADVICE IS STELLAR! Thank you for sharing xo

Excellent comment!

Great comment.

OMG I LOVE THIS. Thanks for sharing :)

I miss dressing up for work every day too. I have so many great pieces I just will not get rid of.

This is fabulous! I have a boho fantasy self that has not fit in with my lifestyle since college. I think I’m going to try your approach by having Boho pajamas! Thank you!!

Agree! I'm astonished by the number of influencers, who just a few years ago said - don't buy X silhouette as it's generally unflattering - now telling us to buy buy buy it simply because the designers are pumping it out on the runways. We need to stick to our guns and say - nope, never gonna work for *me* and just wait the personally unflattering trends out.

Thank you so much for the kind words!

I don't wear high waisted trousers, I have a short torso, it looks odd and it's uncomfortable 😖. I just have to except that it's not for me.

It is most certainly an addiction - hard to crack - i'm so glad you find these tips helpful!

I like this idea. Not sure I could pick only 1 item of all, but my mind instantly flashed to what dress I would save, for instance. What jeans I would save... What t-shirt, too. That tells me a lot.

Those are really insightful comments thank you for sharing!

Good luck - honoured to be part of your slow fashion journey!

I can totally identify with your comment. I am constantly filling up my online baskets with clothes and then deleting them later on 😮😊

User-ok I can totally relate. I love charity shops here and abroad, a fun pastime but, think before even visiting I am learning, do I have room for anything more? No!!! So Im discovering other pastimes

Thank you so much I take this comment straight to heart - it means a lot! xx

I love this Kathy - a closet audit in sections is a great idea! So good that you are able to identify clothes you already have from your inspiration:) thank you for being here xox

Who cares about the environment, women have sooo much to worry about.

Thank you so much this is high praiase and I take it to heart! xo

@@AlyssaBeltempo you are welcome 😊 💚

This is what I love about Alyssas videos. They are appropriate for and appeal to all ages. The message is also consistent. I think you will benefit greatly and save a lot of money. I wish I had such positive guidance at 16 😊

Try to figure out what colors look best on you. You could pay a color consultant, but I imagine that might not be possible at 16. There are videos about determining which "season" you are. I would recommend those. You can go on-line and find your color wheel. Then make a list of which colors you always get compliments on. Go in stores and hold up different colors to your face. I even go find color charts on-line and hold up all the colors to my skin. Your colors might be different than your "favorite colors." Some of those might not work well with your coloring. There might be surprising colors that really look good on you. For clothes you already have that aren't the best colors, add a lighter color with it, stronger makeup or more jewelry to make them work. Good luck!

@@americafirst9144 Thank you! I'm still not sure exactly what colors look good on me, but those are some really helpful ideas that I will definitely try! 😊

Ahhh it's a journey! Enjoy the ride and thank you for being here! :)

Yes, please

My experience, at age 70, is that you get what you pay for. Better one high quality cashmere jumper than 3 of poor quality. I am talking Loro Piana... ouch. Or Falconeri. These will not bobble. They will last for years. After wear, lay out or hang up. Spray with a specialist wool/cashmere spray if you can (but this is not essential). Do not wash too much: as a natural fibre, it will not attract dirt or smells. I can wash mine on a delicates cycle in the machine, with a short spin. But prefer to hand wash fine jumpers. Short spin or roll it up in a bath towel. Dry flat on a microfibre cloth if you can - but I also dry, especially heavy ones, outdoors. Ironing should not be necessary. You can put light jumpers on hangers, but heavy ones are better folded

@@mariecurie7491excellent and thoughtful advice. Thank you

I have done this SO often with thrifting and still have to catch myself! I'm so glad you enjoyed the video!

@sandrarekker585 Maybe the people in your life already see you AS your fantasy self (or close)👣

🥺Wasted too much cash💰 buying for fantasy self. Found it interesting that Alyssa distinguished between our being ASPIRATIONAL (that's rooted in some reality) vs FANTASY (stemming from wishful thinking). Pure ✨️fantasy✨️ for me... ⚜️French Girl Chic💋 •Horizontal stripes are handsome, but enlarge my already big bust😔. •Fussy or overly romantic silky blouses paired w/jeans or traditional trousers. Lovely juxtaposition, but the reality is that I lean in toward more simplicity in my softness & prefer less rigidity/structure in my classic, staple pieces. Plus, prefer skirts over pants. Cropped pants over full length trousers. Long pants, like blazers, have a considerably longer "closet shelf" life vs actual wear in our extreme heat☀️. 👑Princess of Wales. •Brilliant fit & flare fitted coat dressess. Fabulous hats & heels. •Beautifully modern trouser suits. •Elegant English Country Estate Style. •Glorious & glamorous gowns. Must live vicariously through her amazing gear. Ist my lifestyle is far less formal. 2nd climate😎: would roast🥵 in her suits & coats. 🤫Plus, wearing flats is currently required for comfort & walkabilty. ♀️ Ultra Feminine & Floral 🏵Boho 🌼 or 🌸Cottage 💐 Confections〰️particularly those items w/ruffles, tiers, flounces, statement yokes or sleeves. 💖Love 'em all dearly on OTHERS or the HANGERS, but feel absolutely absurd😳 in these styles IRL. 🤔Plus, there's only been a few floral garments that I can tolerate. (Prefer solids, abstracts, vertical stripes, & plaid.) In my history, worn more bolder botanical patterns vs sweet petite prairie florals. ♂️ Ultra Masculine Tailored, Structured, or Rigid Apparel. Love the elegance & lines, esp. of a crisp cotton button up, but they can feel constrictive🙄 for my curvy frame. Prefer more slouchy, softer boyfriend styles juxtaposed w/a slightly body-conforming base. ❤Love a fitted blazer & pencil skirt to suit my extreme hourglass⏳️ shape, but they can feel restrictive😵 once the mercury rises🌡. Prefer silhouettes w/more aeration (like straight or a-line skirt) once it heats up😰. Button ups, gilets, & vests become a light topper & replacement for the classic blazer too. 🥰Adore suits, & using those pieces as separates, but have to keep a cap or limit on those purchases. Strictly rely on a "one in, one out policy" in that category at present. Like coats, my clothing is heavily restricted based on 🌞weather realities😂. 😊Like mixing graphic tees or glamour halterneck tops & slim slip-on sneakers w/those more tailored skirts in Spring/Summer👍. 🧐Once we nail down our three unique Style Words; accept & understand ourselves (body shape, color preferences, & values); & thoroughly evaluate our lifestyle (activities, level of formality, climate, etc.)〰️we will actually finally get ahead of the game🎉. 🤓It doesn't mean we can't incorporate some of those elements from our fantasy self. We just need to make sure the items we select align w/all those other factors. Cheers! 💚Bridget from Cali☘️ (using my pal's YT acct)

@@teresacarle294 Hi Bridget, thoroughly enjoyed your response to the 'Fantasy Self' reflection from Alyssa. With giggles along the way. Your passion for fashion absolutely shines through!! Have to wonder if you worked in the industry, in some capacity, at some point? I think you'd make a wonderful Stylist. Perhaps you already style your friends and family. (cheers from Kath ✨)

Oh yes, wear those clothes! I was the same way - I didn't want to risk something happening to the best clothes if I wore them too much (a stain? a rip?). But it was as if I didn't actually have them anyways, because I never wore them. Today is the best day because it's *real life right now* and today is an excellent day to feel wonderful in your clothes as you grocery shop, go to a salon, run an errand, etc. Do it as a gift to yourself!

I definitely can relate to saving clothes for special occasions. I have started to wear those with some of my go-to items so I don't feel to self conscious when wearing them. Like a dressy silk shirt with my beloved dark grey jeans. I don't know if this could work for you?

@@sigriddjernaes Thanks for the suggestion; it sounds like a good one!

@@JeanFB16 Great advice; thank you

I hear you! Lately I have been gently persuading myself to just wear the fabulous for everyday. I’ll dress it down, but I am wearing them. The special occasion is… I’m here!

Ahhh thank you so much - happy to be part of your slow fashion journey! xo

I'm so glad it was helpful!

thank you so much for the kind words and encouragement xox

Why not store them in a lovely box or basket for the memories but don't have them in your everyday wardrobe? Or take photos of them then donate to a favourite charity? I spent 2 years going through my wardrobe and now only have items that fit and I love to wear. It's a lot more casual but it actually suits my lifestyle and I can dress those items up with accessories and nice jackets.

Totally!! I'm trying to get into the habit of trying a new combo once a week. Sometimes it's a miss, sometimes I surprise myself and find a new outfit to put into my rotation 😊

You find your signature style by traveling

It's from Article!

@@AlyssaBeltempo Nice who knew. I love some of their furniture but have never purchased anything from them. As someone who values quality and craftsmanship, do you feel that is reflected in the sofa? Can you tell I'm shopping for a sofa, :)

I'm sorry. I have been there. Try to plan just one thing to do each weekend. Go to places where there are people independently doing their thing, like a library.

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🥺Sorry, sweetie. The pandemic & lockdowns has truly impacted the quality of our social interactions & connections. I'm sure your working such long hours adds an extra layer of challenge. 🤔Used to be way more independent, mobile, & active. Now, still recovering from two surgeries on a broken leg (& sprained ankle)🦵while awaiting a third operation. In the old days, I was quite content to go to church, movies, shopping, library, or park by myself. My bestie met friendly folks early Saturday morning at a crowded bagel shop where people liked to linger over their coffee & newspaper. Go to some lively place where you can hang out & people 👁👁watch. If you feel the need, bring a book or a prop (like a crossword puzzle or journal) to keep yourself engaged. Always found interesting people to chat or connect w/when out & about in the world. Know of a woman who moved to LA from the east coast. Her solution to meet new people was to set up a dating profile & join all sorts of online social groups. Never ever thought to do such things myself. She met a beau & other out-going people who liked to dine, cook, & do all sorts of activities like play board games together. You could volunteer a few hours on the weekend as a docent at a local museum. That could put you in position to meet interesting folks from different walks of life. 😉The name of the game is to get out there. Start out small. Test the waters, while you slowly build up your confidence & socializing skills. ✨️Blessings! 💚Bridget from Cali☘️ (using my pal's YT acct)

@elizabethsmith1803 hi Elizabeth 😊 I'm happy you felt safe here to describe what's happening in your work and personal life. I'm sorry it's such a heavy load right now. You have genuine reasons to feel this level of exhaustion. > Last week I read an article about 'Burnout'. Making the case that Burnout is more than just short term work stress, or pressure to perform. Burnout is the warning signs our bodies give that we're potentially heading for a crash. > What can you do to help Elizabeth right now? 😊 (i) can you negotiate reduced hours with your employer? You'll know that a standard working day is generally 8-10 hours. Is it truly necessary for you to work 20-50% more each day than other workers? Can you fulfill the job criteria in less hours? (ii) any chance that a colleague at the second site can drop you back to your car to save you the walk? (iii) Can I suggest making an appointment with your doctor (maybe a female doctor?) Explain your work schedule, and how you feel at the end of each day, and weekends. It would be normal for your doctor to test iron levels, Vit D, white blood cell count and thyroid function, amongst other blood work. There may be something treatable contributing to how you feel. (iv) When did you last have a vacation? You are not a machine. 🌼 When we're feeling as depleted as you describe, it can be almost too difficult to advocate for some healthy changes in our jobs. I send you strength and care from this beautiful community of women (Alyssa Beltempo channel).

Sounds like you need a new job. Life is too short to be under this much pressure. You deserve to be happy🌸