“Childhood signs” ah yes, the one time period I cannot remember. Let’s gooo

Personally It’s not that I’m uncomfortable with my gender it’s just that I wouldn’t mind if someone called me he/him or they/them.

My cousin recently came out as Non-binary and this content has helped me better understand their identity. Thank you and keep up the good work 💛

No one: Me: Is this my internalised mysogyny showing or is there something I should know?

I can't tell if I'm non binary or if I just find non binary people really attractive. Why does every problem I have boil down to "do I like them or do I want to be them?"

My main problem is that I can't tell if I'm a cis female or an enby who has accepted that I am female as that's just what I've been told I am for the past 15 years. I dislike my figure but I always connected that to my general dislike of my appearance and weight. Also, I didn't think about it because I don't seem to care about gender. I don't understand peoples dislike of certain pronouns, as to me they are just words, and how people know they are trans. I did have a thought one day that the world would be better if everyone was genderless which was a bit of a red flag to me not being cis. As well as this I want to be more masc presenting (although my dad tells me this isn't new as I've been a bit of a tomboy since I was young) despite my love for feminine clothing in the past. Possibly related, one of my favourite memories of myself was when I went to a princess and pirate party (girls dressed as princesses, boys as pirates) and I was the only girl who went as a pirate which made me feel really proud for some reason (although that may have just been me liking being unique and special) Sorry, this comment is an embarrassing mess, I feel like I'm trying to prove stuff because I am confused and I just want to know who I am.

Honestly wondering if I might be Demi-Girl (or Non-Binary, Feminine Leaning) because most days I just kinda... Forget that I'm a girl. I forget that I have a gender at all, and I just kinda.. Exist, y'know? I even go by a gender neutral version of my birth name, just 'cause I like it more - I only just recently realized that it was indeed gender neutral. And then someone would call me "Miss" or "Ma'am" or refer to me as she/her, and I'll have one of three reactions: 1, I'll mentally go "Oh right, I AM a girl, huh? lmao How'd I forget that?" and just carry on as usual, to forget after a few minutes that I am, in fact, female. 2, On days where I actually FEEL like a girl, I'll get a sudden rush of joy like "I AM a girl! You noticed! This is SO COOL! OMG I'M A GIRL" and be happy about it for a little while. 3, On days where I'm HYPER AWARE of myself, of how I walk, how I move, how I sound, how I act, etc, some piece of my brain is just "What is this? Is this me? Is this really how I move? Is my walk cycle really this bouncy? My hips move like that??? WTF???? WHAT IS THIS", being called female pronouns will either A,) Be like "Yeah, this IS me! Heck yeah!" or B,) Make me feel weirded out and awkward. I also sometimes get a rush of joy when someone calls me a masculine pronoun/mistakes me for a boy IRL, and don't feel comfortable telling people I play videogames with online that I'm a girl. I'd rather they think I'm a guy until I feel comfortable with them knowing... In the past, I actually yelled at one of my ex-friends very frequently for telling people I'm a girl, or using my actual name, in videogame chats. Screw skirts/dresses and shorts. I want pants please. Screw makeup, too. It's hot and icky and a big mess, and it's just not worth the effort. Oh! Also as a note, or, something funny I thought of: Demiromantic + Asexual + Nonbinary = Gender? The f*** is a gender??? Is that a new car or something????

I'm 20 atm and I'm just now questioning and wanting to explore gender identity. I think I've suppressed any thoughts like this for awhile bc 1: I assumed I needed dysphoria or crippling discomfort w my assigned gender. (Don't think this anymore) 2: didn't know what it meant to be non binary 3: possible fear or transphobia I didn't realize I had 4: I'm afab, hated sterorypes or expectations based on my asslgned gender when I was like 11 or something. I dismissed any "am I trans" thoughts bc I assumed I was just a tomboy who went thru a phase. Now I *think* the puzzle is coming together. Truth is, I'm just detached to my assigned gender and I don't get euphoria from it at all. As a kid, whenever a woman would pull me aside to have "womanly talks", I just didn't care or was indifferent... I never rlly "related" if that makes sense. As a kid and even now, I gravitate to GNC characters(esp androgynous ones. Hell! an androgynous character is kinda what led me down this rabbit hole, since I resonated w her) I don't think this is a coincidence. I'm driven to these things *for a reason*. I *might* have dysphoria in regards to my periods and the thought of pregnancy but I'm unsure. I do get discomfort from being referred to as my assigned gender or being perceived that way, I can at least say that w more certainty. Finally, I don't mind more masculine terms like "prince" or "handsome", hell being seen as a boy would better than my assigned gender and I think I want a flatter chest at times but I don't see myself being perceived as a man, living as a man or relating to men. (Well, I think at least... I'm kinda entertaining the idea of being a trans man. My brain has trouble ruling other possibilities.) The idea of a middle road, having both traits and ppl being unable to tell, that's appealing. That's what led me to considering I'm non-binary or under the umbrella... What's making this self discovery more difficult is two things; 1: dealing w imposter syndrome, just "wanting to be special", not sure if I want surgery or hormones if I do come out as enby which makes feel guilt and other transphobic nonsense that was drilled into my head 2: considering I'm just GNC cis Videos like this are helpful though. ❤ Tysm.

As a non binary teen who is still feeling a little bit of doubt, this was really helpful and comforting. Thank you! ❤️

*it’s mildly making sense now* I’m like a 12 yr old who’s currently questioning but I’m just doing research and stuff, a lot of this made sense but I’m also just rlly confused at the moment-

Puberty was a pain in the ass and like a weird horror show for me. It was already difficult being aroace in an overly sexualized environment. But then I also realized how stereotypical boys and girls were equally repulsive and I didn't want to associate with them. I wasn't sure if I couldn't identify with girls or boys because I didnt feel romantic and asexual attraction or if it's just a rebellious phase. Now I'm 29 years old and the feelings still didn't change.

I've wondered about this a lot. I hated it when my chest and my hips developed and I hate being treated like a girl. I prefer to think of my body as a container for my brain and it makes me happiest when my gender is disregarded. I think I would still be exactly like me if I happened to be a man.

u-um I'm gonna use this as a practice coming out...I am non-binary and my name is aster nice to meet you all

Thanks for making this video! I officially came to the conclusion I'm non-binary ~an hour ago and I'm currently binge watching non-binary videos for more clarity & validation. I had so many childhood experiences you mentioned that could be signs of being non-binary, I'm uncomfortable with being described as a woman, I'm bi, and I agonized over gender for most of my life, had internalized non-binary-phobia bc I questioned if I was even non-binary. All this time, I wondered if I hated being called a woman bc of possible internalized misogyny (even tho I love women), but while I was a bit timid with identifying as non-binary, it fits me much better and doesn't actively make me cringe every time like how the word "woman" does for me. You've helped to clear things up a bit further for me, thanks!

I remember when I first watched Mulan as a kid I thought the idea was fun to try to make myself look like a Man like Mulan did. I didn't want to be a man but I thought it'd be really cool if i were able to pass as one if i put my hair up.

i just don't wanna be any gender, i feel comfortable this way💖

Thank you I am currently questioning as an adult. Childhood signs- I hated being forced to wear dresses Even though I had 3 older sisters, it never occurred to me that I'd grow a chest. As a kid, kept my hair very short (cause I loved getting my first stuck in it) but people would misgender me often and I had a lot of fun with that. I liked rough housing with the boys I'd get upset about people trying to force me to be a girl As I've gotten older, I dont like people finding me sexually attractive. I've accepted make up as a kind of art I can do on myself, but it's something for when I want to use it, not because someone tells me I have to. I dont know if I actually experience dysphoria or not, I just dont feel that attached to my body. I'm wanting to bulk up a bit more and I hate being treated like I cant do as much because of my gender. I dont like being limited. So. I'm not solid yet. But definatly leaning towards gender fluid or non binary.. Thank you again

I usually say that I’m female, but I’m not a woman. The femaleness is something I pay attention to mostly for medical reasons, as it affects meds, tests and screenings, and possible dangers because of how I look. I like some feminine aesthetics and my clothing choices are governed more by accessibility than social interpretation of my chromosomes. I’m a Demi-girl and happier with that than I ever was trying to be a woman.

I was walking down the street and this guy call me a man than backtracked thinking I was a woman, literally the first time that ever happened. I could not stop thinking about that it felt good honestly. Glad I stumbled upon ur channel. ❤

I've been questioning it a lot recently because I really don't mind of people see me as a woman, a man, both or any. Gender is a social construction and I hate those stuff like "this is for boys, this is for girls" that's bullshit, growing up kids never liked me much because even if I dressed in pink I would aways want to play with "boys stuff" and vice versa. I came to a conclusion that I just don't wanna stress thinking about a label because I really don't like labels, I'm a person who likes a lot of stuff, sometimes I'm gonna be more "feminine" and sometimes more "masculine" and that's it, call me Ma'am, Sir, Mrs, Mr, whatever I came to the conclusion that I'm fine with anything Update: I'm non-binary y'all kskkd

so here's my story !! so basically as a kid i was super feminine and i was really confused with why that was looked down upon, whether it was being told to "man up" or being looked at as i was weird. also people mix me with a female sometimes, like when i got my first vaccine the nurse called me "miss" before my mom corrected her and being called a female made me feel good. i tried being transgender, but it just didn't feel right, so i think i might be non-binary or a really feminine guy.

I think I’m non-binary, but even if I want to tell my parents who I am, they have no clue what all this is so there’s literally no use for telling them-

i am a young teen. i identify as non-binary and it’s hard because majority of my family is transphobic. i actually had a lot of internalized transphobia and still do have a bit, but i’m learning how to cope with it. my pronouns are they/them and my name is soup. i’m proud of myself and i know my gender. i won’t let any of my family tell me who or what i am. this video honestly helped me validate myself. thank you

I remember wearing at the 5th grade graduation I hated the fact that I had to wear a dress so I went to the graduation in a suit. I also hate and always hated dresses I thought they where too feminine

My mother always said I never shown signs when I was younger that’s why she finds it weird when I came out as non-binary

I don’t know if I’m non-binary or just trying to convince my self that I am bc I feel left out bc I’m very gifted (I know I don’t mean to brag sorry) and can’t find anyone like me. I don’t know who to trust anymore wether it’s my parents or me or you.

Thank you so much for this. I’m older and I’m just coming to terms with my identity. This helps and is reassuring about not feeling super connected. Relate to the LOTR stuff. Haha.

This is great thanks. For a while people would ask if I'm a boy or girl and I've never been able to answer without feeling uncomfortable

It’s been confusing for me recently cuz my whole life it’s just been like I haven’t been passionate about my gender. It was just there and I’d go along with it and not really care. Now puberty hits and it’s very uncomfortable for me. The way I look feels more representative of how I feel. And now that it’s more defined it doesn’t feel as fitting to how I feel as a person. This is the first time I’ve ever thought about it. The first time I’ve even considered I might not be the gender I’ve always been. And I’m confused because it’s never been painful to be my assigned gender. But when I think again there were plenty of moments throughout my life where I’ve thought I wasn’t quite fitting in with how I felt it the gender should be. But I think again and know I’ve preferred to wear more androgynous clothes. Maybe I prefer to express more androgynously through how I look but I feel still the assigned gender? But then again I also feel just as comfortable being my assigned gender and the one opposite to it. So that would suggest that maybe I’m non-binary? But then again maybe even if I am non-binary it would be better to just still express as my assigned gender at least until I move out so I don’t confuse my parents and I can feel more ready to tell them all these feelings. But then again maybe I should just be open and tell them all these feelings because building trust is important and it would be hard on them if they think I’ve been lying or I didn’t trust them. But then again it might be even harder if I do tell them because they might realize their child has had feelings of a different gender than the assigned one and they’ll think they should tell my therapist because something went wrong. Except my therapist already knows and I asked her not to tell my parents and she said that it’s a big life decision and I’m still young and shouldn’t feel pressured to worry about it. Except I’m worried that if I don’t worry then by the time I say something and say how long I’ve been feelings these feelings they’ll just feel betrayed because they think I couldn’t trust them enough tell them the way that I feel and my dad will get mad cuz he hates when I bottle stuff up but it’s hard to know when to let it out and I don’t want to say anything before I’m ready but I don’t wanted wait too long. And I’m just so frustrated and confused. Edit: Hey! I wrote this comment about a month ago and I’ve got myself figured out now. I’m non-binary and prefer they/them pronouns. I hope whoever reads this can know if you’re ever feeling like I did that there’s no pressure with these things. Even if you decide you just don’t know your gender for a while that’s okay! You are completely valid no matter what ❤️

when i was younger, i found out about 💫surgery for changing gender💫 and spent too much time thinking about it, finally deciding that when i was older i would change my gender many times just because i was curious about how being a male would feel

not me crying at the end when you said "you are valid"

I know I'm just becoming part of the swarm but I want to say thanks. Both the video and the majority of the comments are really helpful and make me feel a lot less alone especially when it comes to stuff like imposter syndrome being afraid to make a wave so much love to everyone in this wonderful community

I’m almost sure I’m cis, starting to question a little tho. I’ve reached puberty and my body’s still developing, that meaning my chest and hips. I’m not curvy at all but I’m still somewhat uncomfortable with my chest, and it’s not big at all, but I usually like to wear sports bras because they flatten my chest a little and it feels nice. I also really don’t want to have big hips or a big butt or anything, sometimes, sometimes I wish I had bigger hips and sometimes I’m happy that they’re small. I also get really uncomfortable with my walk when I think I’m moving my hips to much or anything because it would “show of my ass” or something idk. Now I have no problem with being seen as a woman (ehm. Future me here to say that yes, I did feel uncomfortable with being seen as a woman. It was femininity and she/her pronouns I had no problem with, cause gender identity and gender expression are different thingsssss. Anyways lol, back to the thing), people call me she and it feels okay for me. Since I’m not very androgynous when it comes to appearance no ones ever “misgendered” me in real life so I don’t know how I’d feel about different pronouns. I’m okay with they/them pronouns too, at least when I’ve tried them out by myself. Now I could just be a cis girl wanting to be flat but it’s good to explore different possibilities so yeah that’s that💖 Edit: I’m nonbinary! or more specifically demi-pangender or genderfluid🎆🌌✨Pronouns are they/he/she/xe/xem/xeir and the name I’ve kinda settled on is Dani. Yay!☺️ Edit Edit: Name change lol, it’s Xan now, pretty sure I’m settled on that but I’ve changed my mind before so who knows, also, any pronouns work and I’m genderfluid Edit Edit Edit: OMGOMGKBJHVVBKBJHB guess what-･:*+.\(( °ω° ))/.:+………(๑˃̵ᴗ˂̵)..SOMEONE CALLED ME “HE”!! AHHHHHHHHHH♪( ´▽｀) MY LOOKS ARE CONFUSING PEOPLE! YESSS!ƪ(˘⌣˘)ʃ

Me: comes out as bi Also me: now I gotta come out as non binary I thought I was done

this video is actually really well explained (i know i'm non-binary but...) my parents don't understand so i showed them this video and they kind of got it XD thank you for that!

Tbh i never thought about my gender as a child (well, before adolescence), i just went with whatever people said until i somehow developed gender dysphoria under a year ago and realized i was trans/nb

I relate to this video more than other videos I've watched. It helps me feel more comfortable with myself. Thank you so much.

Everyone be like yeah I remember that of my childhood and me not remembering anything :)

I feel like this resonated with me more than I expected and I feel like I just learned something about myself.

This is relatable, I’ve been through all the signs, I’ve discovered I identified as non-binary for about half a year now but my parents don’t really accept/understand and constantly misgender me so thanks for making me feel really valid :)

thank you for making this video. i have been questioning my gender for a while and i have been using female non-binary and im still trying to figure my gender out. watching this and seeing that you have had similar feelings and experiences really helped me feel less alone and lost and let me now that others do feel the same way i do so thank you so much! this has really helped me :)

Just a nonbinary person who’s more comfortable with their body than they’ve been in years, wears whatever they want, has supportive friends, and is very happy. I’m here to say: it can hard to figure out this gender stuff but I assure u it gets better 👌🏼👌🏼 good luck to all u lovelies discovering urselves and remember, no matter what gender identity u have ur valid and cute, and I’m proud of u ilysm 💜💜

This helps a lot!! Thank you

Wow. This is great. Though I don't consider myself to be nonbinary, I am able to connect with these 5 points, especially the childhood and misgendering. Growing up, my dad was super strict with gender roles of what a boy/man could and could not do. That made me uncomfortable being a male. My mother tried to help by teasing me, saying that I was born the wrong sex. I understood that was her attempt at comfort. It was a little. Overall, anytime someone brings up the subject of gender, I get annoyed. I ignore it, and at times the topic isn't hurtful. I just link it to the negative memories that deal with gender roles my father desires.

me getting lowkey excited because sometimes i get happy when im called "sir" but other times im not excited about it, same as sometimes i get happy when im called "ma'am" but other times im just like "👁_👁": :000000 *yes im 13 but im still trying to figure myself out because i have some signs i could be enby, but im very confused cause i was a girly girl when i was younger but i became a little more tomboyish as i grew older* *i also didnt understand gender norms once i became tomboyish 😭* *i would always wear "masculine" clothing rather than "feminine" and hell even now i want my hair to be lowkey short* *although i cant remember much from my childhood i can say this- i one time asked my mom if a girl can be a boy and i literally would always roleplay as a prince in those kingdom roleplay games, hell i roleplayed as a male hobbit lmaoo* *i never became dysphoric though, but i do become euphoric when someone calls me a they/them, so this confuses me the most lmaoo* *this makes me confused whether or not im demigirl or nonbinary 🤔🤔*

I'm 35 and have only been able to come out as nonbinary to myself, my dad and my friends in August of last year. Looking back at my childhood now, and I can see a lot of signs. For instance, I used to write a lot of stories about shapeshifters.

In Germany we don't have a "they them" so i have to go as she her it makes me so uncomfortable if someone says you're a girl or "we have 2 girls with us" when there is one girl and me..

I felt that way because I was questioning and processing my gender. I did wear women’s wig, lipstick, and high heels since childhood. I did wear skinny jeans like glam rock and metal pants since teenage years. I did wear women’s clothes, makeup,nail polish, and eyeliner right now. I did get in touch with my feminine side since childhood to now. I did show my androgynous and feminine.

I am genderfluid, and as a child I was always sort of forced to believe that I was a girl, so I identified with it for a long time. I started coming across non-binary/genderfluid TikToks and KZfaq videos. The internet definitely had a play in my realizing I was not cis, but it’s not because I think it’s “cool and different”, it’s because it helped me realize who I was. And before I came across those videos and started growing up, I had to watch the video in school, and I was disgusted. Everything about growing up and being a woman was disgusting to me. And when my mom or adults to me about hormones and stuff, it makes me really flustered because I don’t want to have to be like this. I grew up Christian and went to an extremely conservative Catholic school, so I felt like I was completely alone when it came to not feeling okay in this body. I hope I’m not the only one who went through something like this. (Ik I’m not but yk what I mean haha) Anyway, know that you are valid no matter what ❤️❤️

Im thinking i may be an enby (demiboy-agender), sometimes im like “nah i just overthink things, im certainly a boy” and sometimes im like *massive euphoria* “damn i feel neutral as f” and i dont know whether im just cis or enby... I know that im not a binary trans woman (im AMAB) because once i did a little experiment on roblox, i bought a transgender flag shirt, a skirt, and some girly hair, but even before i went out of the character editor i said “hmmm nah this certainly isnt me” but when i bought more gender neutral clothes and an enby flag shirt i was like “okay new favorite costume”

I’ve just recently started my gender questioning journey and this is some of the densest intellectual material out there. I feel like every bullet point worth of information could and maybe should cause a five hour conversation with my parents.

this video was extremely helpful (and, terrifyingly, spot on) i've been struggling with trying to get a hold on my gender for a few years now and this video was kind of a breath of fresh air - i really connected to all of the signs you listed. i still have a lot more thinking to do but this video really helped me get a step closer. i do think that i could possibly be non-binary!

The only thing that I remember from my childhood is that I wanted to be a boy REALLY badly. I even prayed to god that I would become a boy when I grow up

Thank you for this. I doubt my identity a lot and feel like a fraud. That and being in the closet makes me have to bottle up these feelings. But you are helping me feel validated, so I thank you for so much. You are a hero.

Im not just uncomfortable with the gender roles, sometimes I'm uncomfortable in my own body, sometimes I want a cat and sometimes I want an Eggplant, sometimes I want more estrogen sometimes I want more testosterone. And sometimes I wanna curves sometimes I don't want them. I guess that makes me gender fluid but again I hate gender and I don't want to put myself in a box, I'm just whatever you can call me. But it's so bad I really can't help myself with it, I hate it.

Being called He/Him or Sir has always made me so happy! For the longest time I just told everyone I don't care if they use He/Him pronouns when talking to me, about me and it never clicked until this year that Hey! I am genderfluid. Watching these information videos have really helped me in figuring out Why I felt a certain way - there were days where looking at my body, my hips, my chest... I'd hate it. I would cry and fall into a depression those days and I had no clue why - so I would overcompensate and try to dress as "fem" as I thought I should. By allowing myself to be ME this past week, I'm not as depressed looking in the mirror. Allowing myself to be Me feels Right. And your videos like this, along with other creators, have been such a huge help!

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How did I not realize some those obvious af signs?? I literally cried after the first two cause they were so relatable and I never knew why I felt this way .... now it all makes sense 😭🥺 ty fr Btw I only started questioning and exploring my gender this year soo pretty new to it all 👉👈

I just wanted to leave a heartfelt THANK YOU for this video. When I first watched this video, some of the things you talked about really resonated with me, and I got confused. I wasn't sure if it meant I was non-binary or not, because not everything fit for me. It lead me to look up more information about non-binary identities and do a lot of soul-searching, and then I realized that I actually am non-binary! Demigirl to be specific. So, thank you for putting me on the path to discovering who I really am 💛🤍💜🖤

I recently discovered that I'm non binary.. like I'm still super confused but pretty sure in my identity and your video is just spot on and so helpful!! Thank you!!

Hey! Thank you for this video it's great ! I have some questions though, I've been thinking about this for a while but never really asked anyone bc i was scared to offend or sounding ignorant. But i'm really just curious, since i don't really know what i consider myself on a gender spectrum, there are things I probably just can't understand because I can't relate to, like dysphoria. I'm currently 19 and a female, but when i was younger (probably 13-14) i started questioning my sexuality and gender, and i never found any answers to both. I experienced with many different things, so i dated girls and boys, and tried wearing binders and i had short hair for a long time and i basically was pretty masculine. I liked it when people thought i was a boy. But then as i grew older, i started thinking a lot about the difference between a boy and a girl, and i found out the only real difference is the body. Everything else is basically social norms that we are taught and don't really exist in the absolute. And that's how i started accepting myself, my body, and my preferences. So I do consider myself as a female, since I basically have a vagina and have a certain body, but this word doesn't mean anything more to me. And I don't really care what people are gonna think about the way I dress or behave or think. So on a gender spectrum, I don't feel like anything in particular, I'm just me and I don't feel the need to put a word on that anymore. And that had me thinking, what actually is dysphoria? And that's where I'm very sorry cause I'm afraid of sounding rude when that's really not my intention. Of course, because I feel a certain way doesn't mean it applies to everyone. But what I'm saying is, since I started accepting my body after realising what the words 'boy' and 'girl' really meant, without caring of anyone else's thoughts, I started wondering where does dysphoria come from? Does it come from social norms regarding gender/sexes? So, wanting to resemble what the ideal male/female body is supposed to be like, to feel validated for being who you are? Or is it just preferences? I mean, it's probably a lot more than that for a lot of people. Personally, even though I accept my body, I still think I'd be happier in a male body. But I think it is mainly because of the way I am viewed by others, as a 'girl' and all the cliches that come with it, and Idk, I guess I'd like to have a flat chest and everything else a guy has. But again, I don't feel the need to change my actual body either. I don't know if I made this really clear, but basically, if there weren't any social norms based on sexes would some people still feel dysphoric about their body? Again, I accept any kind of response, and I hope my comment didn't offend anyone. If you experience dysphoria, I'm really not trying to say that your feelings are not valid, I'm just being curious since I have trouble understanding it. And I also accept the fact that maybe it's something I simply will never understand since I don't experience it myself. And would you say I'm non binary considering what I said? And I'm also still questioning my sexuality aha my mind is a mess (I hope there aren't too many mistakes and I made it pretty clear, english is not my native language) Have a great dayy!

I find it funny that the thing which, during my dumb edgy tween years, made me question the validity of non-binary/trans people may or may not be the thing that'll lead me to the conclusion that I myself am trans and/or nb Namely that I've never really understood the categorisation of 'this is feminine, this is masculine'. Like, I don't really feel like fully or partially this or that, I'm just kind of myself, whatever that means. And having only myself as a reference, I just assumed it couldn't possibly matter what you were like, there wasn't really much of a difference besides like...'biological'. I still don't really understand what feeling like you're a woman or a man or both is supposed to feel like, but at least I can say I'm no longer assuming nobody does and comprehend that it's actually important to people. I do find myself getting some rush of gender euphoria when someone calls me he or something 'masculine' without being asked to, though and have some occasional chest dysphoria.

I don’t want people to look at me and go “oh she’s pretty.” Or “oh hes handsome.” I want people to look at me and go “wtf is that green thing and why is it walking like that?”

This is gonna be weirdly personal, but I just needed to say here (since I'm terribly uncomfortable telling anyone in my real life, sadly) I literally started crying during this video. I never realized the signs and growing up in a rigid conservative christian house makes exploring my gender and sexuality feel constricting or wrong. I just wanted to thank you for making this, you helped me make sense of everything and I'm closer now to figuring myself out. Lots of love 💖💖💖

i’m lost and idk what i’m feeling ~_~ update: after some reflection i’ve told my close friends and family that i identify as non-binary >_

I should've know I was not cis because of my name... besides everything else about me, my name was a big one. I like my birth name, I think is very pretty, but feel very uncomfortable being called by it and only like being called my chosen name I have since I was a kid lol

At the moment, I identify as a demigirl but as a kid I was always described as "a feminine tomboy" and now I'm starting to remember the time I dressed up as goku for Halloween in 3rd grade and feeling so good when someone called me a little boy. In 4th grade, we had a pioneer day and all the girls wore dresses and aprons and the boys wore pioneer clothes but I wore what the boys did and nobody careD 😁 it made me so happy tbh. Right now, I dress feminine but I always wear sports bras and beg my mom to cut my hair short. I still don't know if I'm cis or not 😓

Hi Lynn, thanks for the info, I am enjoying your videos! May I ask where you get your background music? It sounds really nice and I'm hoping to find some nice tracks for my own projects. Thanks!

*me watching this, knowing full when im nb*

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Thank you so much for this video! I am at the beginning of my journey with exploring my gender identity and realizing that I got a four out of five on your list definitely makes me feel like I’m looking in the right place lol. I’m not ready to declare anything yet but it was definitely helpful. Thank you! I look forward to seeing more of your content!

Im 23 years old and today is when I fully realized I’m non binary. I literally related so much of what you said. I always questioned myself but I never cared for labels because my identity switches from nothing to both to nothing again all the time depending on how I felt and it was always hard to decipher what I was so i just went with the societal “she” but even then there are times when I’m like well I’m not the stereotypical societally viewed “woman” either and it was super cool getting mistaken for a man sometimes or getting told I “look like a man” So thank you thank you thank you for making this video

are you a Boy!? she/ her/ him/ please explain!?

Sign number 4 had me screaming! I just can't put into words how giddy and happy I feel sometimes when people call me "miss" despite not identifying as a woman. I've been questioning my gender for the past four years now, but never felt like 'trans' was the right label. But now I know, finally! Thank you so much, I'm gonna go do some more research now.

Okay, so I think I understand. This video was helpful since I’m trying to do research on my story since I will be having a non-binary character (I want to represent properly but I never went through this experience so I’m trying to read more on it) and this helps me understand how to write them better thank you!

Thank you for making this video; it helped me realize that I am non-binary. I've never really felt connected to my birth gender, never really minded being called she/her and at times I've even liked wearing dresses. But now that I've realized I'm nb, I don't want people to call me a girl or she/her anymore, I feel like I would be way more comfortable with they/them pronouns. If possible I wanna get a binder, just so I can know what I'd look like with a flat chest before actually considering whether I want top surgery or not. I recently looked through r/NonBinary, and I realized I wanted to look androgynous. I already have a new name I wanna go by, and I hope I get over my anxiety so that I can come out to my family soon. They are really accepting people, and accepted me when I came out as demiromantic asexual. I sometimes question if I really am nb and feel impostor syndrome, since I really like role playing as female characters, writing female characters and picking them in games. So I think I could be nb and slightly femme-leaning, but I'm not a Demi-girl, that just doesn't feel right. For me I was really happy to know I could find a middle between feminine and masculine, because I do want to have certain masculine traits and certain female traits. I have wondered if I'm just a trans man since I've heard of at least two people who thought they were non-binary realizing they were just trans men, but being called he/him does not feel right at all, also I like my higher voice and really don't want a beard, and being a man just wouldn't feel right at all.

I needed this alot, thank you

I'm watching this video after coming out as non-binary myself, and yeah some of these signs were definitely ones I related to. This was a really good video though!

I love your channel! It's wonderful!

thank you so much for making this video... I recently came out to some of my friends as non-binary and started using they/them pronouns. A few of them used other pronouns accidentally today and it kinda threw me into a gender identity crisis... lol. thank you so much nice again because this really reassured me and I should shake out of my "gender insecurities" and just correct my friends when they mis-gender me.

love the video! thanks :)

Me: I use they/them pronouns. Them: What is that plural? Me: YES!!! ME: I AM THREE DOGS IN A TRENCH COAT!!! ME: .... AND YOU SHALL REFER TO ME AS SUCH!!

The biggest thing I can remember before figuring out I was lgbtq+ at all was wearing slim fit shirts and saying "I look fat" but in reality they just exentuated my breast which I eventually found out I don't vibe with at all for my gender identity. I figured this out when trying to get clothes to make a style for me. I'm afab and realized I didn't 100% vibe with really feminine clothes (only when I was a child and didn't hit puberty yet and had a flat chest did I vibe with it), had an affinity towards guys doing creative makeup, then experimented with they/them pronouns and eventually landed on librafeminine and they/she pronouns. Yeah that's my gender exploration in short.

I feel kind of like the odd one out on this because I probably am non binary, or genderfluid who's usually non binary and occasionally fluctuate to one of the binary's, but on the other, I really don't care a lot about gender expression, which is a reason I often don't really feel at home in this community, where gender expressions seems to be such a big thing (which I get, it's just something that doesn't really fit me). I used to be very dysphoric when I was a teen, but for some reason just thought that was what every teen went through (I didn't had that many friends back then). Nice video, it definitely helped me come to some realizations I didn't had before. The first memory that comes to mind when I was 4 or 5 and wishing I could be neither a woman or a man when I grew up, because neither seemed like something I actually wanted to be.

Great video! I’m currently questioning whether or not I’m agender or bigender. It’s hard for me to differentiate. Also is that the Chronicles of Nick by Sherrilyn Kenyon on your bookshelf that I see? I saw it out of the corner of my eye and I just had to ask…lol. Amazing series!

Hey this may seem like a weird question: I´m kinda new to the lgbt community and I discovered so far: sex (like intersex), sexual orientation (gay, bisexual,...), gender (non-binary, demigirl...), transsexuality and the ace and aro spectrum. Are their more "subcategories"? Ofc I know not everyone wants to use labels or these specific labels but I want to be as inclusive as possible and haven´t known some of these laels and categories until very recently so I´m wondering if there are more I don´t know of?

Watching this video has helped me kind of better understand myself, I think, personally I'm still unsure and questioning both my sexuality and my gender identity but I know for a fact that I am showing the signs of being on the Non-Binary Spectrum, like- I always get kind of excited when someone uses she/her pronouns for me since I was born as a male, and I've always been pretty comfortable with being male but I just feel as if I don't specifically fit into being male, there's something missing and I'm just not sure what it is, I use any pronouns since it's easier and I don't mind it, but I still don't know what my true identity really is yet, although this video has given me some more insight, thanks so much!

I've been struggling with figuring this out ( especially since I have DID and some my alters are male, trans, gay, asexual and so on) but me personally I've always felt odd saying I'm either. It's like feeling being in between. I like combining male and female clothes though. I feel crazy lately and kind of sad because expressing this usually gets me bullied. This video helped alot :)

Hey! I'm so glad I found your channel. I'm someone who subconsciously uses a term of endearment when speaking to people, especially strangers, and it's something I would like to keep. Right now I find myself using "hun" and I worry that this term may be too feminine like "miss" do you have any suggestions or should I focus on dropping the habit altogether? Much love!

As a non binary myself, I can definitely say this video is pretty much accurate for information. Its often difficult for non binaries to come out because the spectrum they can be on is quite vast, and often difficult to understand where one is on the scale, and that can be very confusing.

Thank you so much for speaking on this topic. Knowledge is everything and educating people so that they at least understand is important. Red Delicious and Granny Smith are both apples but I prefer one not so sweet but with a little extra smoothness. Find your path and stay strong. You’re worth it. 💚You’re Awesome!

Having my first dinner with extended family (heavily religious) since coming out as enby and I really kind of needed this reminder I am valid. Thank you because sometimes I fear what they say, so glad my sister and her bf will be there because they are super supportive but i need psyche up too.

Hi! I don’t know if Lynn themself will answer this but would better preferring wearing something like gender neutral clothes (in my case hoodies & clothes without brand names) be a sign about being non-binary? I’ve been thinking about it and some of the signs definitely apply to me, and I want to look into it.

hey i have a quick question: do u have to get diagnosed with gender dysphoria to be able to identify as non binary? cuz some girl was talking about it and now i don't know if i am allowed to identify as non binary since i am not diagnosed

Thanks

I am non-binary, and I think what would've helped me better is the following: You would be okay with being a gender other than what you were assigned at birth. Because if you're "truly" cis, you would not be willing to be a different gender.

thank you so much, this video really helped me!

30 seconds into the video and my ADD has already been distracted by the fact that it came out on my birthday... GREAT START!

Damn I related to getting excited when people call you the opposite gender (although I really have no idea how I identify as). Since I’m (unfortunately) clearly biologically female, it doesn’t happen in real life, but online people usually assume I’m male, and when people use he/him to refer to me I’m kinda happy about it. And I have a friend irl who calls most people they/them, and it always makes me happy when they refer to me like that. Thanks for the video, it did clear some stuff up for me :)

As a AFAB somedays I'm proud of the fact I'm female and some days its just meh. I don't experience dysphoria, but sometimes if i think of being called they/them or wearing a binder I experience euphoria. I don't know what to think at this point. I'm almost 16 and I already identify as aro-spec and asexual.