5 Steps to Aging Freedom - No Botox No Surgery | How to Get Over Your Aging Face

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Let's talk about my 5 Steps to Aging Freedom that might bring you to a place that you can start getting over your aging face without Botox or surgery. Aging faces, Jowls, saggy necks, wrinkles, they're all natural signs of aging. So why does it seem to take us by surprise? I think I know, but first, let's get into why getting older makes us feel things like: sad, scared, invisible.... what happened? How do we get out of this?
Let's "face it", there's a grieving process to getting older... but WHY? What makes us feel sad about it when we are coming into a time of our lives where we have built a stockpile of knowledge, skills and empathy that we should be able to simply enjoy and feel freedom from the insecurities of youth? What's making us feel this way? Let's talk about beauty validation addiction and how to get past it. How do we let go of it? That' where my 5 step process comes in...
The 5 Steps Are: (You can skip right to this if you want to: 02:59 5 Steps )
1 Set it and Forget it
2 The Agreement
3 Shift the Focus
4 Thanks and shut it
5 Gratitude
LINKS
My Amazon list of favorite anti aging skincare: a.co/cdEob1e
My Amazon list of makeup favs for older skin: a.co/1IEg7FL
My Amazon lists are affiliate links, which mean that at no additional cost to you, I will get a small kickback if you were to purchase anything...and thanks in advance if you do!
My accessories store for simple high quality pieces and silk scarves: www.haelixdesigns.com/store/
My Etsy store:
etsy.com/shop/haelixdesigns
Chapters:
00:00 Why are we so sad about our aging faces?
00:35 How the media makes us feel broken
01:55 Beauty validation addiction
02:59 5 Steps to Aging Freedom

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@lindacurtis7267 Ай бұрын

I’ve never felt bad about aging, but I’m 67 and I don’t think the pressure of anti aging was as great for my generation! Also, in my head I’m tall (5ft 1inch )and 38 years old .

@marep5597 Ай бұрын

It’s so interesting how we see ourselves vs how others see us. I’m in my 60s and when I look at you I see a beautiful young woman. Enjoy your 40s and 50s because you are still young. I’m trying to view my 60s in a similar light because compared to the coming 70s and beyond I am young.

@lesliemacdonald7976 Ай бұрын

I couldn't agree more -- this woman is beautiful -- how can she worry? I too am in my 60s and say infact that I'm as young as I'll ever be.

@unblahyourself Ай бұрын

Thank you! We are all as young as we'll ever be. Just enjoy being your personal best at your current age, right?

@alla2204 Ай бұрын

I’m 32 and I’m super happy I got your channel in recommendations today. It looks like one of the few genuine things that left on the internet😊

@Lonniepsangel Ай бұрын

Me too!

@lisa_wistfulone7957 5 ай бұрын

Ahhhhhhh…! NOT “How to Fix/Smooth/Delude Yourself” but a frank discussion and guidance on self acceptance 💝 How can my wise fun artsy aunt be younger than I am?😅😉 (Added) Btw, I firmly believe that I can graciously and gratefully accept a compliment but still declare, ‘pleased as punch!’, that I discovered it at a thrift store!😊

@unblahyourself 5 ай бұрын

Hi Lisa! I'm glad you enjoyed this! I'm tired of the treadmill and expectations. I figured others might be as well! I also cannot help myself telling everyone I thrifted my outfit. It might not be classy but it's FUN! I once got complimented on my dress on Rodeo Drive in Beverly Hills and you better believe I said it was $6 at Goodwill!

@nelluke 5 ай бұрын

I love that message ‘spread the joy’. It feels so good to get a random compliment from a stranger, and you have the power to do that for someone else 😊

@unblahyourself 5 ай бұрын

Yes that's a good word... It's powerful! Thanks for hanging out with me!

@briannalilyharrison320 5 ай бұрын

I am a 55 year old single parent of 4, working as a barista with 18-21 year olds. I have to say that these steps laid out here are exactly how I live and it works. This is great information!

@unblahyourself 5 ай бұрын

So happy you enjoyed this! Thanks for being here! ❤❤❤❤

@unblahyourself 5 ай бұрын

Forgot to mention I once worked as a barista too! ☕🍵🫖

@briannalilyharrison320 5 ай бұрын

@@unblahyourselfsuch hectic fun!

@chrisgreek4285 Ай бұрын

I have always paid compliments to people who are wearing something that I find stylish - it’s so lovely to see 99% of their faces light up - the other 1% are snobby and look down on you but THEY are the broken ones. Being able to take a compliment, however, I still struggle with even, at 60 years old. I am working on it, however, and am really going to try just saying “thank you 🤐”. Teeheehee! I did have a strange episode - or more accurately, episodes - where a medication gave me a strange side effect. It is actually listed in the side effects as ‘moon face’ where your face gets super round, like a full moon. I have to admit that looking in the mirror and seeing a face that is not your own is extremely jarring! During those times, I was pre-occupied with and ashamed of my face all at the same time. Hopefully those days are behind me now. Honestly, Diana, while I love makeup, skin care has been my main focus since I was in my early thirties. Although I have used skin care since a teen, let’s face it, in my 20’s, it was ALL about the make up (weren’t the 80’s fun?!). Because of my focus on skin care for the past 30 years, I am very frequently mistaken for a person in my 40’s (or as my hubby’s daughter). I have been impressing on my tween granddaughters that in a few years, they will need to start taking care of their skin - very simply at first - but that is the secret to looking good later. They now know, by seeing my skin, that it’s worth the couple of minutes each morning and night.

@unblahyourself Ай бұрын

Yes skincare is EVERYTHING! And yes the 80s were FUN!

@Dwynfal 5 ай бұрын

Great insights Diana and I absolutely agree with you! I can't help but think that women who grew up pretty, or in an environment that prized beauty have a harder time growing older. I have never been pretty but thankfully, even though my mom was stunning, beauty was not seen as important. I, like my brother, strongly resemble my dad, and let's just say it's a countenance better suited to men! 😂 My journey throughout the years has been quite a roller-coaster, but since my late 40's and definitely now that I'm almost 55, I'm more daring, more colourful and simply more joyful with my style. I wear things that make me smile and don't care one iota about what others think about it. Sure I'd rather not have a double chin, wrinkly neck and the beginning of marionette lines, etc, but my jacket is fabulous, my hair wild and my eyes sparkle knowing I'm striding along in my favourite funky boots! And you know what? I get more compliments now than I ever did.

@unblahyourself 5 ай бұрын

I love all of this! Yes, it's true and it's happening: life can actually be more enjoyable at this point than it ever was before. This is another moment I wish people could post their pictures here! Thanks for sharing your story. 😘

@Horsefaire 5 ай бұрын

You are so different from all the others’ wow! A new fan!

@unblahyourself 5 ай бұрын

Thank you so much! I'm glad you're here! 😘

@Vivienwestphal 5 ай бұрын

I'm 32 and feel the exact same way 😮

@unblahyourself 5 ай бұрын

How awesome that you've joined the club so early! A lot of people have to be forced to come to these realizations after far too long of fretting. You're on a great path to enjoy life! Congratulations and welcome! 😘

@katelyngreller 21 күн бұрын

With accounts in this arena I'm always waiting for the other shoe to drop where the creator says "And with just a little Botox, " so I was so elated to see your title + hear advice I feel like I can take with me for the rest of my life. Just had to say what it means to me as a 29 year old swamped with anti-aging media!!

@unblahyourself 20 күн бұрын

Aw I'm glad I could do that for you! I do not think Botox is realistic advice. I'm not against it but, wouldn't it be better if we could figure out how to be happy without needles and injections?

@frederikac.5153 26 күн бұрын

This is great advice. Do your best and then move on with your day. Distraction is the name of the game. Grey hair? Wear a colourful top. Bad legs? Wear red shoes.

@poppy5081 Ай бұрын

Oh I love this! The constant vigilance that the media trains us as women to have towards our ageing bodies & faces (& newsflash: we’re ageing from the moment we’re born!) is so f***ing oppressive! Let’s get on with enjoying being decorative & unique beings who just happen to be 20, 30, 40, 50, 60… 100! Thank you for saying this out loud for us all ☺️

@Mirthe4390 5 ай бұрын

Hey im 17 yo amd this really helps me. Your so beautiful too. I wish to be more like u in the future.

@unblahyourself 5 ай бұрын

Wow, thank you! This makes me so happy to hear! I wish I would have had a fun older female as a role model at 17. That's part of the reason I'm doing this! Happy you're here. 😘

@lindaauld5423 5 ай бұрын

i totally agree ! since i retired from work i've been thrifting clothes and concentrating on my personal style , it brings me such joy and i've never had so many compliments from strangers . I think if you have a passion for some thing , like clothes it makes you seem more youthful in your attitude xx

@unblahyourself 5 ай бұрын

Exactly! In fact you made a point that I wish I had… It certainly doesn't have to be a passion for clothes. I choose clothes for most women because it's a very visual one that goes with you everywhere. But a passion for anything makes you far more interesting and vibrant. And also makes you too busy to be worried about your face. 😉

@theprousteffect9717 24 күн бұрын

Both of my primary female role models growing up, my mom and mom's mom, were very vain, appearance and youth-obsessed people. Reprogramming my brain is a long journey, but I'm so grateful I just found your channel.

@unblahyourself 18 күн бұрын

Welcome to our tribe!

@danab172 4 күн бұрын

😢 I goto go change my day and do this. I'm in a very bad life position, depressed about my aged face, and a really bad life. I started therapy... so I have a little hope. But I am always stuck. I like this idea about shifting the focus. Thnx

@edt003 Ай бұрын

The addiction talk was very moving and eye opening

@irenerivera6080 29 күн бұрын

Gratitude: thanks to the yt algorithm mischiefs that brought me to you channel. We are the same age!!! And I am so happy to have found a style/beauty/life content creator with a similar taste to mine. I am not the super glam lady, nor the I give up on this messy crappy world. I want to look and feel great, put together, and at ease within reasonable efforts. I will continue to binge watching your channel videos the next few days. Thank for your content, approach to life and vibe.

@unblahyourself 29 күн бұрын

Thank you so much! I'm glad you're here with us!

@mj_dolman5122 Ай бұрын

I'm almost fifty five and I'm still proud of my face and want to draw attention to it. As I know you do as well by all the choices you make in hairstyle, makeup, jewelry etc. Therefore I find your words contradictory and confusing. Perhaps I am literal minded. I think what you mean is to take our minds off of the things about one's aging face that create insecurity, not off our one's face altogether. I have days when I struggle because my face can look puffier bringing out the jowly look I do not like, or the light just hits it the wrong way. Even then, I'm not going to change my style to draw less attention to my face, because I am human and have every right to get older.

@unblahyourself Ай бұрын

Yes I think you get it. I do not believe there's anything wrong with aging, but there are so many women conditioned to hate it and their faces that I just want to help them in any way I can. You can not simply tell people to love themselves (because that doesn't work!) but you can lead them to enjoy themselves more and worry less.

@lesliemacdonald7976 Ай бұрын

Well done -- this is really needed right now.

@judyreilly5253 5 ай бұрын

Love this chat, Diana! It’s very true, gratitude helps a person navigate their own negativity and the negativity of others. And practice makes it a habit, which eventually makes it a mindset. Great advice and that scarf is lovely!

@unblahyourself 5 ай бұрын

Thanks for watching, Judy! You really can't go wrong with gratitude. This scarf is from my first collection of designs! Www.haelixdesigns.com/store So nice to hear from you! ❤

@divfae2792 2 ай бұрын

wow your eyes are so mesmerizing, literally the prettiest eyes ever

@unblahyourself 2 ай бұрын

Thank you so much 😀

@dinahsoar6982 Ай бұрын

That last one, when we get negative comments on what we are wearing, if it comes from a friend we can be thnag

@KarolaTea Ай бұрын

Hey "I got this from the thrift store for $2" isn't a bad thing to say! Thrifting is a lot of effort, finding a great piece is totally something you can talk about! (I just spent the day going through 17 thrift stores and found 1 basic sweater.) Great video! It's such a shame that society deems older women unattractive for some reason cause... no? In my opinion people of any age can be very attractive. A mature face looks like it might belong to a mature mind, and how is that not attractive? Not that you can't still be silly and discover new things at any age as well. But all those years of life experience are a great thing, and regardless of your current age you probably know more about yourself, who you are, and what you want, than you did 10 years ago. Also like... faces with wrinkles can be just as superficially pretty as faces without wrinkles? Who tf decided that wrinkles aren't pretty? 20 year olds dye their hair grey and that's cool but suddenly once you're 60 grey hair is considered ugly? Make it make sense. It doesn't make sense. You're pretty! My fear about getting older/looking older was more about feeling like I wouldn't be able to do certain things anymore. I felt like a "silly young person who does crazy things", and being "old" would somehow negate that. Took me a while to fully register that I can be a silly person of any age who does crazy things. (for the record, I'm still very young lol)

@unblahyourself Ай бұрын

Strange how the cosmetics industry has infiltrated our sense of self worth so deeply!

@dreamscape405 Ай бұрын

I had to do something similar when i was in my 20s, but for a different reason. My face has always been a topic of discussion because of my looks. Women hate me, and men only see me as an object. And women literally telling me, that's all I'll ever be, just pretty, and nothing else. So I cut off all my hair, and started wearing quirky clothes, and did my makeup in wild colors. Just Totally ditched the traditional beauty "standard ". I also started a small art business, so I could sell my paintings and jewelry. Also, I study several different subjects, one being psychology, in my spare time. I didn't want to be "just pretty ". Now that I'm in my 50s, and starting to show some age, I'm so happy I got a jump start on this attitude. It's actually relieving to me that men just pass my by now, and women see me as a friend. I still get compliments on occasion, mostly from women ❤ and that's just fine with me. That old saying...don't judge the book by the cover...has always stuck in my mind. Yes, I do some anti aging skin care, but no fillers, or surgery. I do still want to look my best at 52, but I don't need to feel like I need to look younger. We're SO MUCH MORE than our looks!!

@unblahyourself Ай бұрын

I love all of this! I always tell young girls that want to try short hair to not be afraid because short hair is a friendmaker!

@honeybee220 14 күн бұрын

I love this video~ thank you for dropping so much wisdom here! Playing with style is SO much fun, and your thrift haul videos give me many new ideas~~❤

@unblahyourself 11 күн бұрын

Glad you liked this!

@laylascott6096 Ай бұрын

I’m currently wearing my $2 thrift store pants that are my favorite and that’s always what I say too ! I’m going to stop that

@unblahyourself Ай бұрын

😁

@wendyheffernan2719 5 ай бұрын

Such an amazing video. Thank you ❤

@unblahyourself 5 ай бұрын

Glad you enjoyed it! THANK YOU for being here Wendy! 😘

@nymaksco1835 3 ай бұрын

Excellent insight and great advice! Thank you. ❤

@unblahyourself 3 ай бұрын

Thanks for hanging out with me always! ❤❤❤

@nymaksco1835 3 ай бұрын

@@unblahyourselfSome of my close friends are bo-toxins addicts! 😮

@violetsinspring5863 Ай бұрын

Great video!! New subscriber and I LOVE your channel! ❤

@unblahyourself Ай бұрын

Welcome!! Glad you're here! 😘

@victoriamuir8988 Ай бұрын

Here is the problem with aging…YOUNG PEOPLE. If we were all old there would be no stigma.

@AshBounas 10 күн бұрын

Im gonna be brutally honest i am 50 yrs old i hate wrinkles and i have had botox on my forehead snd fo get my nadabal folds with cheek filler and love how my face looks i dont try to please anyone when i look in th mirror i have to be happy when im happy i feel good cause i look good aging gracefully no thanks

@stefanopapucci9258 5 ай бұрын

I love your scarf ..❤❤❤❤ silk ??

@unblahyourself 5 ай бұрын

Thank you! Yes!

@stefanopapucci9258 5 ай бұрын

@@unblahyourself yesterday i wore the scarf tied around my neck like you....

@unblahyourself 5 ай бұрын

😊

@stefanopapucci9258 5 ай бұрын

@@unblahyourself helloooo how are you ?? Tomorrow i ll wear the my scarf silk hermes tied around my neck like you werar it... a single knot or double knot in the my scarf ?

@danab172 4 күн бұрын

Why do you look 30?