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I recently found out that I’m aromantic, and the hardest part for me was realizing what crushes were. I thought I had several crushes, but after thinking about it, they were never romantic. They were always just girls that I wanted to be friends with, and I just kind of assumed that that’s what a crush was. It’s hard to find out what romance actually is, because if you never experience it, you just assume what it feels like.

As an aromantic i've always felt that i was in love with the idea of love not a person

A few other signs you might be aromantic (or arospec) based on personal experience: 1. You can’t tell the difference between platonic and romantic attraction 2. You might THINK you have a crush on someone, but you’re never able to tell if it’s actually real. If you did have any feelings, they kinda just vanish after a bit. 3. One time I thought I had a crush on someone, but then I found out they had a partner and I realized I didn’t really care, and was actually kind of relieved. 4. You might tend to form really close platonic bonds with some of your friends. So close, in fact, that you might even start to wonder if your relationship is more than platonic (remember #1?) 5. The one time I was in a relationship, I very quickly started to panic and feel like I had made a mistake. I also felt like they loved me more than I loved them and I felt guilty for not returning the favour. This was before I realized I was Aro. 6. You can be Aro and still want to be in a romantic/semi-romantic relationship! I think that realizing you’re Aro can help you better understand what you really want out of a relationship. You might realize you only wanted it because society expected you too, perhaps you only want certain aspects in a relationship, or maybe you really do just want romance, you just don’t have the attraction to help you find it (Sorry for the wall of text)

"I love you" "Haha ok" I feel like I'd say that

1. You've never had a crush 2. You don't find yourself romantically attracted to anyone (often or it's confusing) 3. You experience platonic and familial love, but not romantic 4. You prefer being single 5. May feel sexual attraction, but no romantic attraction with it 6. You're ok with never having been in love

heyy! for the people who are questioning if they are aromantic please remember that some aromantic people still feel the desire to be in a romantic relationship! I'm aro and I'm not really okay with the fact that I'm not able to feel romantic love! I hope this will help!

My teen daughter has been schooling me about gender and sexual identity. I grew up and spent my life chained in religion. When she was talking about aromantics, things really started clicking in my head. I realized that I have never felt romance. It simply is impossible for me seems like. I can't relate in any way to whatever feeling romance is. Still learning, trying to figure myself out. Also, parents please listen to your children. You might find out just how much smarter they are compared to you.

As an aromantic, I often find myself giving this analogy for how aromanticism feels for people who do experience that attraction. I basically just say, "It's like when you're shopping for clothes and you see a really cute blouse! It's adorable! But you put it back because it's not your style, and although it would look super cute on someone else, it's just not your style." And that usually helps to communicate what it feels like. I think romance is hella cute. I love seeing couples and reading sappy romance manga, but that doesn't make me wanna date or marry anyone. I've tried dating and it just makes me feel alienated from myself, like I'm roleplaying.

Aromantic people generally don't feel like they need a romantic relationship to feel fulfilled and might be quite happy to stay single. Their lack of desire for romance can often cause people to think that they are "cold" or "prudish," but this isn't the case. Aromantic individuals can make social connections and feel platonic love, like between friends and family.

What if I wouldn't mind dating, or wouldn't be opposed to it. But I don't want to go out of my way to find a person. Like if an opportunity passes by and someone asks if they want to date me. Would it be wrong if I say yes, even though I never thought of them before.

Usually I feel proud of being aromantic, but today, I feel extremely upset, not really because I want a partner (because I don’t), but I feel left out because of it. Most of my friends aren’t aromantic like me, so it makes me sad that I can’t relate.

I would like to talk about the last point "youre fine with never being in love". I think there is a slight misconception that aromantic are just constantly chillin. Not caring about never being in love is really just a opinion. Apart of someones peronality, an emotion. Just because someone is aromantic doesn't mean they are automatically fine with it. But just because theyre not fine with doesn't mean they want a romantic relationship. Someone can be not fine with it and also not want a girlfreind or boyfreind ect. I hope this made sense as i didn't really do a good job of explaining it but anyway.

hi, i got excited bc im on the aro spectrum!! here u go: 1:01 youve never had a crush 1:19 you dont find yourself romantically attracted to others 1:41 youve experienced platonic love but dont desire romantic love 2:05 you prefer being single 2:35 you may have felt sexual attraction but dont feel romantic attraction along with it 2:56 you're okay with never having been in love heres more info just in case being straight up aromantic doesnt apply to you romantic attraction is the want to date someone. so if you crush on someone and have the thought of "i want to be in a relationship with them" that is romantic attraction. often comes along with that fluttery stomach feeling and having a better mood when this person is around. these symptoms can also apply to squishes, which is a term aromantic people use when they feel like this around someone but dont want to date them, therefore making it platonic! demiromantic: can experience romantic attraction after developing close bonds with people, no hallway crushes grayromantic: can experience romantic attraction, but not frequently cupioromantic: likes the idea of dating and might end up dating, but no actual romantic attraction along with it. there are more terms, but these are the basic ones! have a nice day

I'm aroace (aromantic asexual) and this describes aromanticism almost perfectly! Granted I don't know if there is a way to describe it perfectly, but this is pretty close!

Whenever I had a “crush” it was either someone I was really close to, or someone I found aesthetically pleasing. My last boyfriend was the only one I thought I had romantic attraction for, but he always made me uncomfortable with wanting to kiss or go further. It wasn’t until we broke up did I realize that I only liked him for his looks. I didn’t know romantic attraction and didn’t know that was a thing I didn’t feel. I was always told your partner or spouse would be your best friend. So I always saw love platonically but never saw it more than that. My parents are best friends so I thought that was natural. Then I was exposed to the aroace spectrum and everything fell into place

Aaah The never ending conflict of being an AroAce, and still not wanting to be alone LOL. Only late in life I've found out I fell into the AroAce spectrum. And for the longest time I thought there was something wrong with me. Thankfully there have been more and more youtube channels like this one bringing more awareness to this topic. Great work.

I’m demi-romantic, and I thought there was something wrong with me for years! My friends would all be drooling over a male stranger and I would just be sat there feeling nothing and not being able to relate. For ages I settled with the conclusion that I must’ve either been a lesbian or aromantic, but that didn’t make sense because I’d had plenty of crushes on guys. Then I found out about the possibility of being demi-romantic and it all made so much sense! There’s nothing wrong with me, I just have to form a very close bond with someone before I’m able to be romantically attracted to them :) In a way it’s a blessing because it means that I fall for someone’s personality before their looks!

As an aromantic asexual person myself I want to thank you so much for shining a light on this. There’s a lot of misconceptions about asexual people and a lot of people aren’t even aware that aromanticism exists. Number 6 is especially interesting to me as I only realized I was aromantic after I realized I was okay with having never fallen in love. The process of discovering who you are can be hard but having other people break down these concepts in a simple to understand way can go a long way in that process.

The idea of a relationship sounds more appealing than the actual relationship? Don’t really experience crushes mostly feelings of sexual attraction. Used to feel romantic attraction long time ago but I loose interest quickly due to expectations and stress😅

When I realised that I am aromantic the strongest thought I had in my mind and I still think about it every once in a while was: friends are the most important people for me and I simply can't imagine anything being more valuable than true friendship and I don't really think about being in a relationship because I just value so much the people that I have .. and honestly.. I truly love them (in a platonic way) :3

This goes out to all my fellow Aro/Ace people. TAKE CARE IF YOURSELF- it’s okay to not love someone back! It’s better to just tell them straight that your Aro/Ace and not interested in a relationship. Don’t be sad about not having a relationship either! You can still lead a life filled with love and compassion! Familial love, platonic love, love for a hobby- or a food- or even just something that makes you feel good. Having a dog, a few close friends, and your family is a TOTALLY VALID things and you can enjoy your life! Not every relationship has to end in romance! And if that’s what the other person wants it’s okay to turn them down- if you do decide to date them let them know your Aro/Ace so they might have to kickstart the romance stuff. For example I have a Mastiff mix I named Bones, a Betta fish, three neon tetras, And entire house AND garden of plants tho show my love to. Not to mention all my close family and friends! I lead a life full of love and positive relationships and I have no romantic or sexual relationships.

I settled with the label “aromantic” a few weeks back, and I find that it describes me perfectly. The closest thing I’ve had to an actual “crush” is a squish, which is somewhat like a crush, except with strong platonic feelings instead of romantic ones. While I currently have what would be considered a partner (despite it being unofficial), I still don’t possess any true romantic feelings and desires. I’m just hoping that despite having contrasting wishes and relationship goals, we’ll be able to keep this boat afloat.

I didn’t know about this for a while. When I tried dating, while I felt kinship and sexual attraction I couldn’t understand how I was supposed to feel to differentiate it from a physical relationship or just a friendship. I acted very clingy and dependent on my partners thinking that’s what I was meant to do and I hated myself constantly for saying and doing things. Identifying as I do now, bisexual aromantic, made me feel so free and content. Like I don’t have to pretend or force myself to do or feel things I don’t understand. 💚💚💚💚

For those of you who have had a crush, or numerous crushes even, but still feel aromantic there's a few things you should think about. 1. When you had these crushes, did you like them because of the logistics behind it (weighing out the pros and cons of being with them)? 2. Did you actually feel something for them? Or did you simply feel pressure to have a crush, seeing that everyone else did? 3. After losing that idea of having a crush on that person dud you ever look back with a little bit of hindsight and realize you confusedctge feeling of having a "crush" on them for simply wanting to make a greater effort to become their friend? If any of these are a yes than you probably are, this is just some of my experience with being aromantic so I figured I'd share some insight on the matter for anyone trying to figure it out (if this really good video didn't help).

Very happy to see a channel with so many subscribers go over what being aromantic is as someone who is aromantic! Also loved how you covered the fact you can be aromantic but not be asexual. So many people think that you can't be aromantic without being asexual.

*”Sorry I’m an anti-Romantic“* -TOMORROW BY TOGETHER. it just made me think of the song 😂

Raise your hand if you're ace, aro, or aroace (like me)!

I thought I might be aromantic for a while, because I have a long-standing aversion to relationships, but then I realised that being aro is NOT the same as being averse to relationships! It means being unable to feel the attraction in the first place, something which I experience on a regular basis. This is why it’s good to educate yourself 💚😌

i finally found a video about aromantism from this channel i needed one so bad, as you people make me feel so nice and safe although i have good family backgrounds i was still very much not sure that i am aromantic yet i am so sure about it I am just scared what if it's not me... i know it's normal as society is very much into the idea of romance so i think i just haven't found the "right one" i just relate to all the reasons so I am feeling confident that i am aromantic thank you for this video and i am super glad you made it

For me, it's not that I don't desire a relationship or anything like that. Actually, I wouldn't mind experiencing it at least once, but I just can't seem to get that feeling everyone describes. "butterflies" "thinking about them all the time" or wanting to do romantic type things is just something that doesn't ever come to me. I'm perfectly happy being single, but it feels kinda bad knowing there's this supposedly amazing feeling that most others can feel and I just can't.

Now that i think about it, some of my friends when i was a kid were apparently into me, but i just thought they were my friends (which is logic because i didn’t know) but even after my mom made me know that they really liked me and that they could potentially be romantically attracted to me, i still saw them as just friends, but nothing romantic. To be honest, i never really felt “romantic“ towards anyone. So, i think today might be the time i should stop seeing my aromanticism as “impossible“ and start seeing it at a real possibility.

Okay, as a greyromantic, i need to say that i desire romantic relationship but i just don't feel it. And i can't really imagine myself in it, but i really desire it. I think, the most useful think i've ever seen about being aromantic, that really helped me, is the book 'loveless' by alice oseman. It's really a good one and can help you understand yourself better. It was really helpful for me. I hope, it can help you too

I’ve been thinking I might be aromantic for quite a while now and this video was super helpful, thank you.It’s so great to see such an overlooked orientation talked about by a channel with such a big audience

I am very confused because I was a person most considered "boy crazy" as I always wanted to be in a relationship and had many crushes and as I got older I would consistently fantasize about being in a relationship. I started dating around and was really confused cause at first I would get butterlies of being with someone but after a month I felt nothing and actually wanted to get away from them so I ended the relationship and instead of feeling sad I felt guilty about wasting the person's time as it seemed they really cared and loved me more that i did to them. I notice I enjoyed being single more but then I would see couples and feel lonely or like I "missing out" so I would give dating another chance in hope to expirence a click only to just to repeat the cycle. Not to mention that I feel like I am a hopeless romantic since I watch, read, write romance and enjoy all the cliche and corny stuff. But more from a third POV. I get excited to expirence it one day but when I start putting myself in given scenario and realize that my reaction is the opposite instead of feeling appreciated I know I would feel more confused or embarrassed. (Sorry for the long post)

I’m glad someone with such a big platform is spreading awareness about aromantisism

A Couple years ago I discovered that I was Aromantic and boy did it open my eyes up on why I just never felt right with the whole Romantic thing. I tried and tried and tried because all my life I was told that Everyone has that romantic feeling. I thought something was wrong with me because I never felt romance and actually felt disgusted by the idea in general. I forced myself and Ruined many relationships because of it. I do have a very very slight Romantic feeling for some people but its mostly through Sexual Desires and the love we share afterwards but the Lovey Dovey stuff I still cant get no matter how much I try. some people still don't believe me because they see how Horny I act on the daily but they don't understand that my ways of expressing love is vastly different from them and I'm so happy I've found more people who understand that feeling.

My friend thought she was asexual. I told her she’s probably aromantic because she doesn’t feel romantic attraction. But she said she’s also asexual. That’s where the term AroAce comes in :D

For me, finding out that I was aromatic ended up hurting someone in the process. Story time begins here --> So, I meet this person online through a friend an after a few days of getting to know each other we got into a relationship, I know it almost felt like frozen, just without the bad guy. An I really did like them, I had a fuzzy feeling when I meet them and all the stuff one would feel meeting someone they liked romantically, however, my romantic feelings never developed beyond that point, and after some time, it felt more like a friendship but also being together then us being together romantically because we both like each other like "that". Thats where things went down hill, their feelings started developing for me way faster then I could keep up with, mind you I hadn't had a partner before so it was all new to me, I thought this was all normal and my feelings would develop more later into the relationship. But I was wrong, it got to the point were they were saying "I love you" while I'd say "I love you too" back but both would mean different things, my love for the was more platonic while theirs was more romantic. And so we broke up after a while, I was the one who broke up with them, I'm still young so I was the worst break up ever, not because I was all sad or crying, but because I felt I was a dick about it, it was really early in the morning and all I could say was that I didn't feel the same way as they did, and that we should break up. I felt awful, I felt like an ass and I still do, but now I know that I just can't see myself liking someone romantically, I've had crushes or really liked a character in a show, manga, or whatever but when I thought of my self, nothing came up, almost like an error. And I know some may feel happy that they are aromatic or that they found the term for it, but I hate that I don't feel anything, I hate the fact that I'm aromatic, because not only am I aromatic but I'm also asexual. I thought that even though I'm asexual I could lest have a normal romantic relationship but that didn't work out, and its not that I dont desire a romantic relationship because I do, I whole heartedly do but there's just nothing there. Who knows, maybe I will feel different in the future, but for now this is how I feel.

Really glad you made this. I know a few aromatics who feel really bad about their sexuality. This makes them feel really good about themselves now. Thank you! Happy pride :)

Thanks again psych2go! I think this video help to seemingly confirm that I might just be Aromantic. Never had a person who I would call a crush. I do have sexual preferences and desires, but never held any of that or romantic feelings for someone as of currently in my life. As with many commenters have said. I think it's the idea of being with someone you can connect with and truly understand is what we all secretly truly want in a relationship. For us Aromantics, I think this is where things tend to get messy as one might develop feelings In the process compared to the other. Meanwhile, I'm trying my best to accept that being single is okay, despite the constant societal pressure and constant comparisons we see daily. It's difficult, but I'll hopefully be okay. P.s: Butterflies in my stomach? Nah, that's just my anxiety flaring up again. Oops. 😅🤷‍♂️

I've had "crushes" before,but I honestly can't tell. My heart fluttered when seeing a non-binary person in my class,but I really can't tell If I like liked them or I just became really excited at the idea someone else in my school was lgbtq+(I don't see it that often). It's always been like this...I can't tell the difference from being happy and being "inlove"😓

Apothiromantic here! Thank you for this video, it's so nice to see one of my favorite channels talk about me.

As an aro person I just wanted to say thank you so much for making this video! I feel like aro people aren't really recognized as much within the lgbtq community and honestly people acknowledging our existence makes me so happy...

I've had crushes on people throughout the years until 2020. Finally got into a relationship that lasted not even half a year (I'm in highschool) and I haven't felt that anxiousness that I had before with crushes since. I'm honestly clueless as to why, because I want to have that kind of relationship, but I can't seem to find the attraction to take that first step-

So, about a year ago I watched your videos on being asexual, and that was the first time I heard of the word. That was the first step on the road to realizing that I am aroace and agender. And now, a year later, I am so much more aware of the things i feel and who I am. I am extremly greatfull to you for sending me out on that journey of self discovery, without even knoing that I exist. I am so happy that I found this chanel at 14 years old(about a year ago), because you helped me realize so much about myself, and helped spark my intrest in my psychology with your calm, yet informative videos. Long story short; thank you.

im so glad you decided to do this video, i've been waiting for you guys to do so! Aro rep is always nice!

Thank you for helping me finding my way to finding who I am The fact almost every one I relate to I was even questioning this and now I’m sure it’s me and who I am so thank you.

I always equated being aeromantic to being asexual so I'm glad to get some distinction, and I'm glad to hear it occurs on a spectrum, I've felt romantic attraction but rarely and in certain circumstances, even in an over 2 year relationship. this helps so thank you.

I’m glad you guys made this video! There definitely is a difference between asexuality and aromanticism

Psych2go thank you so so so much for making this video. Ive been aroace my whole life, but back in the day (when i started questioning so around 5 years ago) there was zero representation and I was so lost. I never heard of the term before and when I tried finding people who felt similar to me I just couldnt. To me it was like something was wrong with me and all the romance in movies, songs etc just reminded me of that. I even remember typing some comments under your videos about love to see if there is people feeling a similar way to me, but no one ever responded, haha. I'm doing better now, still having a hard time accepting the label, but Im getting there. Thank you for helping out younger aros like my old self who would have done anything to see that video.

This is such a good video on aromaticism! Thank you for making it. As a larger channel, I'm glad you made it, because it brings more awareness about it to other people, and can help more people to learn about it! Also, I was wondering if it wouldn't be too much trouble for you to make a video on QPRs (queerplatonic relationships) in the future? In the past I've tried dating on a number of occasions and it always felt stifling because of what people were expecting from me, and I couldn't give it to them, and I didn't know why. Turns out I'm aromantic ^-^' I feel like if I knew about QPRs a long time ago I wouldn't have forced myself into something I was uncomfortable with. Now I'm in a QPR with my best friend and I don't feel anxious the way that I used to when I was in a "romantic" relationship with someone else. Anyway, great video!

I am beginning to come to the conclusion that I am likely somewhere in the aromantic and asexual specteum. I've always preferred being single and I have had one "real" relationship and I was not comfortable with it at all and I noticed that prefer to be all on my own. I have had this on my mind for years and it is finally starting to sink in. I have felt attraction to others but I've noticed that once it goes down to a real relationship, I tend to not feel comfortable at all. Thank you for making these videos!

I've always said since I was a child that I didn't want to get married or even be in a relationship, the only thing I knew was that I wanted to have children, people around me like friends and coworkers insisted I should not be alone and that I needed a man in my life even when I said I didn't, they ignored me and said that I'll change my mind and that I need to grow up, I've tried to flirt with people but it got to the same place every time, I panicked and ran away, I also have poor mental health, they said being with a man will fix me, though, after learning about the term aromantic it helped me a lot, my two best friends said it was really not that surprising and they accept me fully, someone told me that I am aromantic if I feel like this term fits me, it might not in a couple of days, weeks, months, years, but right now it is and that's ok.

I just gasped so loud when I saw this. Thank you so much for making this 💚💚💚 Edit: my dumbass is about to cry

i'm so happy that you made a video about aromantic! i've been trying to figuring myself lately as i'm still confused with some stuff. i found out about asexual from the 10 sexualities video, and since that i thought i found my sexuality! but the thing is i'm still confused with the attractions, wondering if i really experienced sexual or romantic attraction. i think i may have trouble differentiate them and with other attractions too. i never had a crush on anyone. i thought a celebrity that i see as an inspiration was a crush, but after seeing some people talked about their crushes the way that i don't really see it like them, i realized maybe it wasn't a crush. i also like fictional characters more, but not really into them too. sometimes i enjoy romance stuff like movies/shows/games that include romance and fanfictions. but i also like it when it's platonic and doesn't include romance in it. i feel like i don't want to be in a relationship and i'll be fine being single, but sometimes i fantasize about having a partner and wonder what does it feels like. after realizing those, i feel like maybe i am asexual. but i don't think i am aromantic. so i search about asexuality and aromanticism spectrum. i came in conclusion that i am asexual/ace-spec and greyromantic. still i'm not fully sure with it, thinking that i might be greysexual/demisexual/aroace/demiromantic/cupioromantic/etc and i'm still young. but i think i fit in the label and now it's what i identify as. maybe some time in the future, i'll finally figured out who am i really is and be happy with it. sorry for the really long story and i apologize for any grammatical errors. but if you reach this point, thank you for reading. this is the longest comment i've typed and it took me a lot of time lmao stay healthy y'all and happy pride :) 🖤🤍💜🖤🤍💚

"Love" Is it edible? - Psychic2goers

OMG I'm SO happy that this channel made this video

Thank you so much for.making this video. As an Aromantic I feel so happy that there is more content being created for Aromantic awareness.

I've known I'm an Aromantic most of my life. Yes I can find a person attractive, no I don't have romantic feelings about it. What I can't stand are people I tell this too and their immediate reaction is. "OMG I NEED TO HOOK YOU UP WITH SOMEONE, YOU NEED A RELATIONSHIP, YOU DONT KNOW WHAT YOUR MISSING!!!!!!" I am perfectly fine with relaxing alone, playing my videos games, petting my cats I took in off the street because they were strays, and watching my dvd collection. I have been made fun of for not wanting an emotional relationship so much that now whenever someone brings it up I instantly want to slug them in the face, I don't because I hate hurting people more than I hate being made fun of but there are those times that you've had a bad day, week, month, and your barely able to hold yourself back. When I was in middle school I once threatened a girl with a bow and arrow for making fun of me (no I did not intend to make good on that threat, I just wanted to be left alone. However I was having a bad day that day and that was "the straw that broke the camels back" so to speak.) Yes the teacher overhead me... yes I was hauled to the principles office, and yes I was punished for saying what I did... I just wish people would take a hint when someone wants to be left alone.

Been aromantic my whole life and I'm glad I never gave in to social pressure because I have no regrets. Never fell in love in my entire life, never dated, never had a partner. Now that I got older and I got uglier (according to the rigid beauty standards of my country) I have to say that I feel so relieved and happy, unlike when I was younger and had people having unrequited crushes on me, that was a lot of stress for me. I'm glad aromanticism has more visibility and it should have more.

i feel so represented when i see people commenting about aromantics, i am 20 years old and i always consider myself weird because i can't feel attracted to anyone, all my life i liked only one person and even then it was short lived, nowadays i hear my friend telling me about her boyfriends and how she falls in love easily and i think there is something wrong with me because i can't feel it, i don't see it as a priority for me to have a relationship and every time someone shows interest i run away from the person lol understand my feelings and that there's nothing wrong with me so it's relieving

I'm both asexual and aromantic because I've never had sexual or romantic attractions to anybody. Ever. Thanks for clearing up my doubts it helped me! :-) And Happy Pride Month 🏳‍🌈🏳‍🌈

I only found out I'm aro/ace when I was 30. Then everything in the past started to make sense. Now I'm at peace with most of myself and better at handling pressures from the rest of my family who at times tried to encourage or rather force me to get into a relationship much like them trying to get me to like beer. Gross.

Aromanticism isnt a choice, and it's not tha romance "isn't their thing". There are plent Aros who enjoy romance-coded actions. It the difference between fantasy and realityAlso not feeling sexual attraction is NOT. a Aromantic trait, it's an Asexual trait. Some aros do feel sexual attraction. As I like to quote from a nice, aro-coded song, "I'm no missing someone that I've never met".

Thank you for posting this! I have been wondering if I'm aromatic so this really helped :)

ok but IS it edible?

It's funny cause my entire life I've never been in love, and I've never been all that interested in romantic relationships, but if I somehow ended in in one I'd be okay with it, I also tend to daydream a lot about being in a relationship but I don't really want one, sometimes when I meet someone or see someone I'm somewhat attracted to it's like "ohh I kinda wonder what being in a relationship with them would be like" but like, would I want to be in a relationship with them? No, not really, they just look cool In case anyone relates to this and is looking for a label to help them understand things better, I identify as quioromantic, which is basically not being sure if you experience romantic attraction or not hehe

As someone who is aroace, this video made me so happy. Thanks for spreading awareness:)

hihiiii thank you for making this video, it’s so nice to see us getting some attention lol here are some other aro experiences i had in case it’s helpful for anybody: 1. when listening to love songs, you’re thinking more about the production/instruments/etc. than the lyrics. you can certainly notice and vaguely understand what the lyrics are talking about, but you can never really relate them to something you genuinely feel or have felt, and most of the time they sorta just go over your head / are not that important to you 2. you are excited to date, but upon closer inspection, that excitement stems more from being able to fulfill expectations, not being alone, not being left out or left behind, not breaking hearts, getting validation, etc. than the actual romance part 3. (for arospecs in particular) you thought you were alloromantic because you had like 1-3 crushes in your lifetime, but you’re surprised to find out that most alloromantics have had 10+ in their lifetime, or have had crushes that lasted for years and years

Happy Pride fellow Aros and Aces, I've only officially labeled myself as aroace this yr but I've been eyeing it for yrs. I accept and feel validated being part of aroace community

I would just want to add one thing: Aromantic people can still want a romantic relationship! Just like asexual people can still want sexual relationships. It's called being cupioromantic/cupiosexual. For example, you want to have a partner, you want to go on dates, watch the sunset while holding hands or kissing, but when you look at people, you can't/rarely actually fall in love. Also, for aromantic people it can be really hard to distinguish between types of attraction. I'll use a metaphor to explain it. Let's say as a kid you were taught that there are apples (platonic/friend attraction) and oranges (romantic attraction) in the world, but you were never shown how they look like. But, turns out that you've seen only 1 of the 2 fruits in your life, an apple. So when everyone else talks about apples and oranges, you may tell yourself that since everyone else has seen oranges, you must have seen some too. So you start thinking that certain apples are actually oranges.

I see a lot of people being really sad they're aromantic, but when I found out it was a thing, I was really, really relieved. I never really "got" romantic relationships, even as a kid, I didn't imagine myself being in one, and romance novels/shows seemed really gaudy to me. I faked having crushes because my friends wouldn't believe me when I said I didn't have one. The only thing I feel sad about is how being in a romantic relationship means you're eachother's #1 ride or die. People place it on a higher pedestal that any other type of love. Over time, people usually forget their platonic relationships for their romantic ones. I kinda want to be someones #1 person, but not necessarily their romantic partner, if that makes any sense. I doubt I will ever find such a person though D:

Please make a podcast, I would love to listen to an hour of you talking about these topics with your beautiful voice Edit: OMG THERE IS BRB Edit 2: please make longer podcasts, I know its hard since these are kind of shorter topics but your voice is angelic and that paired with these topics really helps me

I'm definitely ace, but after watching a lot of videos this week I think I might also be aro. I just don't know. How do you know if you've had a crush? Or been in love? What does that feel like? Or butterflies in your stomach? I dated once and I felt queasy often before meeting him. The guy told me that feeling was butterflies but looking back I think it might just have been fear/anxiety because I was forcing myself to be "normal" while I really wasn't interested in dating and sex and everything. I'm also a big introvert so maybe that's why I prefer to be alone? It's so difficult to understand these things when you've probably never had them so don't know what you feel or don't feel. Even at 41 I'm still learning to understand myself.

It’s hard to decipher the absence of something, I’m still not sure if I’ve had crushes. There have been people I find physically attractive, but I don’t think the idea of dating them ever crossed my mind, though it’s hard to remember. I can hear people’s descriptions of romanticism and recognize romantic actions, but it’s hard to know if that’s something you do or don’t feel.

I remember being so bent on finding true love. I would force myself into relationships. Last year I found out I was Aro Ace and don’t really have a desire to date people.

I didn’t relate to any of these signs and only recently found out what aromanticism is at a presentation at my school for IDAHOBIT day but I’m so glad I know more about it now, thanks as always Psych2go!

I have no romantic attraction, never had a crush on someone, and don't really want a relationship but im okay with it! But still not sure that i'm an aromantic because im still a teenager so it was not a big deal if i don't want a relationship and not romantically attracted for someone but it feels weird :(( I'm still discovering myself now so thank you for this video!

Being AroAce is hard sometimes. Especially when you can't relate to others

Hey does anyone also get aesthetic attraction to someone and end up thinking they might go on a date with them but look further in and realize you just want to be friends with them and now your confused

Thanks.The video was very helpful and your voice is so calming!

What if you want a romantic relationship but haven’t really felt romantic feelings before? Would that count as aromantic?

I think that I may be aromantic to some degree as all of my "attractions" have been of a purely aesthetic nature, but I also don't know if that's just because I had a very isolated childhood so haven't *met* someone I could be romantically attracted to

Deep thanks for the video. I didn't know myself being an aromantic before this video, and didn't even notice that there is a term describing those people with those symptoms. Probably most aromantic don't know what to do, or even what's wrong with them, within some of them might even force themselves picking a partner. This video might not be able to let the aromantics know what to do, but at the very least it made me calm. Thank you.

Being aro is hard because on one hand I would love to fall in love and have someone genuinely care about me, but at the same time I can never truly fall in love with someone else. We've been taught to desire that perfect romance, but it can never happen. Quite a sad reality, honestly.

@Psych2Go , I'm about to cry. I just got my aroace flag in the mail and then this video comes out... I feel so seen. Thank you so much for making a video on aromanticism, I always see stuff on asexuality and not really much on aromanticism. I also appreciate the asexual video. Oh my goodness, thank you!

do some of you can relate to having the wish for a romantic relationship and often thinking about it but when it’s there you just don’t feel anything and the spark goes away?

well this makes sense. I’ve never even had ONE crush.

Finally I been waiting for it. I already knew I was aro but I been waiting for u guys to make a video about Aromanticism

I have never had a crush and I’ve really tried to feel romantic attraction but it leaves me feeling empty as if there is nothing there. I want to but my heart can’t

I always thought I had crushes. But now I have realised it is just platonic and aesthetic attraction, and my brain thought HEY THIS MUST BE WHAT LOVE IS

Man, I just want to thank you. This was very helpful, I connected to basically all of it... I'm sad but I can't fix it. Thank you for helping me understand it again.

I’ve recently discovered myself as aromantic asexual, and I wanted to learn more about the concept as I was never taught this as a kid. This video and my research support how I’ve felt over my childhood and adolescence where I never really wanted a relationship, but my “crushes” were more people I want to get to know and be friends with. And the one relationship I did have was more of a companionship and a bit of a QPR (Quasiplatonic Relationship) I’m happy with my new identity.

Thanks you for this video, I almost waited for it I know I'm asexual, but about the aromanticism, I am still questioning. But chances are high, and you brought me more clarity 1. I never had a crush (or "simped" for a singer, actor etc...) 2. I never felt romantically attracted (I thought I might have once, but now butterfly feeling ever. More like "deeper" friendship with some comforting cuddles allowed) 3. I guess I can experience platonic and familial love, but rather not romantic 4. I prefer being single 5. I don't really mind never having been in love. I don't even know what that'ssupposed to feel like. So 5 out od six. Likely aro-ace after all...

After seeing Johnny and amber the love notes and all the romance slim & Steve I realized passion can really be devastating and I’m okay abstaining from it.

I usually don't feel romantic attraction but every few years there's one that gets my attention

Please do more videos like this, there are so helpfully

I’m not entirely aromantic but I’m under that umbrella…I’ve found myself to be greyromantic which means I can get romantic feelings but it’s usually pretty rare. Not counting a celebrity crush I had as a child, I’ve only had 2 crushes in my life and they were like many years away from each other. I’ve been in a romantic relationship with my now ex friend (he’s shown his true colors to me after the breakup but I’m not gonna get into that here) and I broke up with him a month later because one of the reasons (among many others) was that I just didn’t have romantic feelings towards him. He even talked about marriage before we even got together and near the end of the romantic relationship, the thought of marrying him was freaking me out. I’m not sure if that classifies as greyromantic or aromantic but I currently see myself as a hetero-greyromantic asexual. I’m sorry if this is long btw

I'm aromantic! But I'll still watch because i love the content