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Me, who already knows I'm asexual but just wants to see my sexuality being talked about: **clickity clickity**

I hate it when I say "This celebrity is so handsome!" and people immediately go "How can you be asexual then?" like 😭 I'm asexual, not blind

I am an asexual, and the amount of times I’ve considered going to law school just so I could call myself the Ace Attorney is astronomical.

I'm a guy who has: - 0 interest in sex, in fact I dread the idea of having sex - No physical/emotional attraction to girls or guys at all - Never had a single crush on someone in my entire life (20 YEARS OLD I SHOULD ADD) ...Yet my friend still tells me "You just need to find the right person"ಠ_ಠ

😳 People are attracted to celebrities...sexually? I thought they just liked their mannerisms or just how they looked

As an ace and an artist, i relate to the aesthetic attraction. Some people think i’m weird when I say i like admiring bodies, but I just see them in an artistic way, I just see them as if they were renaissance paintings, and I think there’s nothing wrong with that.

It feels incredibly liberating knowing there's a label out there for people just like me. Not wanting to have sex doesn't make you evil or heartless, we are very much loveable and a sexual relationship isn't necessary to feel fulfilled in life.

I’m a 55 year old asexual female. I have lots of friends. I’ve always lived alone. I don’t feel lonely, and I don’t want a relationship. I went through a period of extreme anger as a teenager and 20-something because I did not understand why people were sexual. I did not even know there was a word for what I am. I just thought everyone was crossing the line to the “bad” side. It wasn’t until I was in my early 30s that I heard the word asexual. I still find it hard to believe there really ARE other asexuals. Any virgin asexuals like me? I wonder. :)

i HATE this oversexualized world who everyone think sex is love and sex is the only thing important to life and relationships...

My friends: talking about how hot their crushes are Me: ah yes... *cake*

Nobody’s going to see this because the video came out 2 years ago, but if anyone does, I saw this video about a year ago and it gave me a lightbulb moment where I realised I was ace. I had never even considered it before but now, about a year later, I’ve accepted myself and and so happy I’ve gotten to this place. I just want to thank Psych2Go for giving me the chance to understand myself.

When I was younger, I had crushes. However, looking back at it, it might be more of a admiration. Ever since I graduated high school (( I'm 22. graduated 4 years ago)) I never had a crush since. However, even when I had a crush, I still felt extremely uncomfortable. When a guy texted me implying a sex joke towards me, I didn't like it. I was so uncomfortable Ever since than, I been meh about sex. I honestly don't care about it. I don't have a sex drive. I consider myself asexual and Biromantic

As an asexual I laughed when I saw the “no celebrity crushes” bc the only people I have ever had a real crush on are fictional characters.

im a straight person who is trying to understand asexuality because my best friend told me she was asexual yesterday, im so proud of her for trusting me!

I’m currently questioning whether I’m asexual or if it’s simply a trauma response. (tw // sa) I was recently sexually assaulted by someone who I didn’t have any romantic feelings towards, but the entire situation only confused me even more because it was my first time. I’ve never been fully sexually active until then, and each time (even when our acts were still consensual), I really didn’t feel anything. it was more of a “this is what sex is all about it?” and that only reason I kept engaging in it was because I wanted the experience. once the sexual assault took place though, I only become more disgusted by sexual relations and even certain gestures such as kissing. its tough because so many factors come into play; I was inexperienced, I didn’t enjoy the consensual acts (but I didn’t have romantic feelings either), and it all ended with assault. it’s hard not knowing, but hopefully as a heal I’ll begin to learn the truth about myself.

my friend's a straight person and I came out to her last month. she said she accepts me and gets me being asexual. I'm glad I have friend like her.

As an ace I still can't believe some crushes are because of sexual attraction, not romantic. How???

also, normalize men being asexual‼️ men can be ace as not all men are sex crazy; ive been told so many times that it’s hard or unlikely i’m just bc i’m a guy.

I feel like I'm either asexual or demisexual. I never understood why people feel like sexual desire is a must-do thing in any relationship. I still would want to have children, but only with someone I can trust and feel comfortable with. I always thought that when 2 people date (regardless of their gender) they only experience do romantic things as a younger person.

My friends and I were talking about hot celebrities yesterday and our conversation went something like this. Friend 1: Ariana Grande is super hot. Friend 2: Adam Driver though. (Everyone looks at me) (Me: quick! Think of something!) Me, an asexual: You know what else is hot? Tomato sauce. (Me: Mentally facepalms) My friend who knows: (high fives me) Everyone else: wtf?

Me: [Googles asexuality] Psych2Go, a few hours later:

I am Asexual. I hate when people say things like “You just haven’t found the right person!” That happens to me all the time. No this isn’t a phase, its not that i haven’t found the right person. I just do not feel that kind of attraction.

I remember the first time I slept with my ex girlfriend I was always confused beforehand why i didn't want it and assumed id like it. Once the time actually came, I remember laying in bed with her thinking my brain was broken. After this happening a couple of different times with different girls I thought "maybe im homosexual, I've never felt attracted to guys but something isn't clicking" After pondering that i realised ive never felt attracted to guys unlike girls so definitely not that. I've always wanted someone to love and be with on my path of life, but i could never tell someone I'm with that i don't want sex in the relationship. Learning about the ace community has really opened my eyes and I feel less like my mind is broken. Its been such a good change in life being able to seek out others that feel the same way, and I'm glad youre spreading that awareness so others can find out that they're not broken and its completely normal. Thank you 💖

I am 25 and I have had sex in my prior relationships, however, ive only recently spoke to a close friend about how I always thought that sexuality was something that my partners expected of me and felt like if i did not serve them what they find so important, theyd become upset or angry or judging with me and leave me, so I kind of forced myself into all kinds of things that at best, meant nothing to me and made me feel nothing and at worst, felt awful and/or painful just so that the other person was satisfied with me because I had built my self worth and value purely on doing what the person i feel emotionally close to wants me to, or enduring what they want even if i do not. Most of this is connected to my psychological way of how i treat others and let myself be treated and the whole system of 'If i dont want it but you do, its real, worthy and important and if i want it but you dont, its not and should be forgotten about' or rather sacrifice and submission to an unfair and inbalanced extreme of letting my emotions, thoughts, sensations, vulnerabilities and borders be overstepped, neglected and hurt in the process is something that has nothing to do with my gender identity or sexuality, but affected those in a way where I completely ignored what i felt and wanted, in these sections of myself, too. So I just recently came to the realisation of how my experiences about sexual and romantic attraction, desires and satisfaction are so absolutely different from most people that i know nowadays, in my altered state of mind, where my own experiences matter and i ve started building a connection to my feelings. Very suddenly, i came to the personal conclusion that, not only do i find a different type of gender romantically interesting than those that i had been with thoughout my life, but also that i have no interest in sharing sexuality with anyone, not even my closest romantic partners. Its not that I absolutely dislike the idea and practisation of it, which was the main reason for why i thought that i 'am' far from asexuality. (I had very open and diverse friendships across all the years but never actually second guessed myself about the topics i knew and accepted from close ones). Then recently i heard for the first time that if I do not like and do not want to share anything sexual with someone and that it gets me upset when they do, that that is something that important and worthy to think about, and that, even when I 'can be okay with it for the sake of harmony' its 'counting' as difference between the wants of me and the partners i had, which would continue to have me force myself to something i feel uncomfortable with, unless i start respecting what i feel like. I have this one really great friend, who keeps empowering me to atleast try myself out with other types of gender than what i am used to, but to also start geetting friends with the thought that itll feel the same-ish way of 'i guess ill hold still until youre done and happy' and that in that case, i should NOT continue like that but search someone who can understand me. Ive always been inclusive and acceptant of my surroundings individualities, and i am thriving and happy that finally, i am starting to treat myself the same way. It felt like quite a shock when this friend of mine answered to me explaining how physical intimacy on a sexual level makes me feel with 'Its not supposed to be that way. Theres something off about what you feel and what you do, theres a dissonance inbetween which not natural and not healthy, please start thinking about this whole topic, for the love of yourself.' And I am trying my best to get to know myself. So yeah, thank you kind stranger, for reading through this, I just had to get this off my chest because there are very few people that I can talk to and even less that i actually do, and have a nice day wherever you are. And remember to be gentle, compassionate, and caring with yourself.

Friends: talking about sexual encounters Me: trying not to make a blank face

Me: Maybe I'm not ace. Maybe im overthinking myself. First sign: lack of sexual attraction Me: Nevermind.

This video feels like a warm hug for me. I feel like society puts so much pressure into sex when starting a relationship, when there's plenty of other things to look into when having a partner. To know that I'm not alone in this is so comforting. I fall into the side of the spectrum that can enjoy kisses and cuddles but not the sex part. I feel like us ace people get infantilization as well, I'm always told I should get used to sex because that's the world we live in, it's human nature and the typical "ugh, just grow up already!". It makes me want to cry because it breaks me how messed up this world is, but thank you, just thank you for making me feel seen. 💜

Yep- I've been struggling with this for a while. I like physical touch only, and I've finally found someone who's the same. I feel like we'd have a good relationship

*The worse thing is when you're parents don't understand this and thinks this is not normal. My parents will never understand :(*

Me, an asexual: *sees video about asexuality* Me: *IMMEDIATLY CLICKS*

Someone recently asked me why I'm so awkward in talks about sex and i just replied with "i dont see the desire for it" and after that my best friend asked if ive ever heard of asexulality and that lead me here and i swear every point you made relates to me and i now beleve im demi asexual

I hate my mom for not understanding that just because I don't like guys, that doesn't mean I feel attracted to girls.

The world should normalize love without sex is perfectly normal. Sex isn't about everything. Thnx for the likes! Please stream #PsychoSOTY :>

I'm 23 and never had an affair in my life. My friends says I'm missing out the good part. They laugh when I say I don't want to have sex ever in my life. I'm happy that there's some positive content about people like me.

For me, learning there was a difference between aesthetic attraction and sexual attraction is what helped me to realize I was a flavor of asexual... well into my 30s. Also, fun fact, swingers are apparently super respectful to asexuals as well and it has to do with the black ring. Apparently swingers will wear a black ring on one of their fingers on their right hand to show they're into the lifestyle, and asexuals will often wear a black ring on their right middle finger. I guess it led to some confusion when swingers would approach an ace, so swingers are like "Try not to wear a black ring on your middle finger, that's for the asexuals." Really cool of them.

Omfg, I’ve been so confused for so long. I think I’m asexual. I never felt straight or gay, or even bi. But this makes sense!!! I haven’t been this happy in so long.

My best description of aesthetic attraction is like this: how do you feel when you see a nice painting? Probably like “oh wow that’s a nice painting”. That’s how aesthetic attraction feels, except towards people.

i’m bi and ace and honestly all my celebrity “crushes” are just me being jealous of their style

I love this channel so much. The topics are useful, their voice is so calming and the art is so cute!

I'm asexual too and I have been for years. I'm so happy that you guys made a video about this. I love for who I am as an ace artist. Great video!

I never felt sexually attracted to any of my crushes. I just want to hang out with them, go to the cinema, walk hand in hand, play some games, and have a deep friendship. By this video I think I like platonic and romantic relationships more than a relationship based on sex alone.

Why do so many people assume that romantic relationships are about sex? There are so many things that are more important; relationships thrive when you establish trust and understand and care for each other. I'm only 24 but I know that more people should consider not carelessly give themselves away. Sex is more meaningful when you wait for the one you'll try to be with for life, and even then it's not everything. Ugh this world, man.

Thanks for this. There's this girl that I feel strongly for, and she is asexual. For the longest time I've felt that I needed sexual intimacy with a partner, but not so with her. I'm trying the hardest I ever have with a girl to understand her, and I hope we can make something work. Thanks for the video!

I'm bi/pan, but I am more than happy to learn more/be made aware about the needs & characteristics of the asexuals, since I never know if one of my best friends could be one! Anyway, here's my toast to all the aces out there - *Remember folks:* *Nothing's* wrong with you, You're *all* valid, You're *all* amazing, You *all* deserve the love you long for! Much love, *Gasper*

My boyfriend is asexual, so, this helped me to understand their way of seeing/feeling things, thanks you so much!

Well I’m an older generation and back in my days of youth they used to call asexual a tease and look down at them. I’m glad to see things are changing and people are actually recognizing that it’s not all just about sex. 😊

Watching this when questioning, ace-questioning, and finally ace has been very interesting. I really like coming back to Psych2Go videos from early in questioning and seeing how much more I understand now! To anyone who is ace-questioning, or questioning in general, I hope you figure yourself out and are surrounded by supportive people. I'm going to be cliche just this once, but take your time, you don't owe anyone an explanation.

I've been thinking hard about my own identity for a while. At first I thought I was bisexual, but now I'm starting to think I may be ace. Your voice is very soothing, and this video has given me some clarity on things. Thanks for making this, truly.

Me, who is currently thinking that I might be asexual: I have finally found the holy grail! Edit: I woke up to all this love and support, tysm! You are all lovely

Finally, a video about my sexual orientation. I used to think that I was a straight girl who just didn't find the right guy, but I knew for a fact that I was disgusted by sex. The very idea of being naked and exchanging body fluids with someone grosses me out, not to mention it puts me at risk of STDs and pregnancy. There are people I find good-looking, but never have I wanted to have sex with anyone. I used to have a crush on someone in high school, but it never progressed to anything more. And honestly, I'm way over it now. I want people in my life, but even if I were to get into a romantic relationship with a guy, I don't want any sex. Sex is hugely overrated, and I feel like society is too sexualized.

THE COLOR PALLETTE!! i loved this, thank you!!

Crying over here… I was unsure if I might be asexual or not - watching this and reading some of the comments and OMG I have never felt so validated in all my life, not a doubt in my mind now that I I know I’m asexual (possibly demisexual) have had so many men try to “fix” me over the years, now I know I’m not broken, I just have an orientation 🥰

It's irritating not wanting to do something with somebody and almost everyone asks you "what are you, gay?"

a lil' summary- i guess- 1:05 - the lack of sexual attraction 1:40 - asexuals could crave relationships without the sexual element 2:15 - they get over crushes easily 2:40 - not having any celebrity crushes 3:10 - some asexuals may only experience sexual attraction in certain circumstances 3:40 - sex depends have a good day, and be proud to be who u are !!

I was trying so hard to discover what my sexual orientations were for the past few years but as I grew older and did some research , saw interviews , spoke a little to my mum about this. It really depends on your perspective. Some might think it’s quite tough to understand and tell yourself that you’re have a certain sexuality and some might just easily accept and not let that part affect your life. People who have said : 1)Oh my gosh , you’re a bit weird ? 2)Oh you don’t know what it’s like to be intimate coz you never tried it. 3)Maybe you’re just scared of having sex. 4)I don’t think you can ever control your feelings when it comes to being sexual. My mind knows what it’s doing and I think it won’t kill me if I don’t have any such feelings. People who are asexual out there I wanna say you are amazing and do what you want to , live as you wish to even though it can be super tough sometimes. Thank you so much for reading my rant everyone. Also thanks Psych2Go for such amazing content. ❤️🌈 Proud Ace 😭

This clarified so much!! I have been in denial for so long and now I have an answer

wait people feel sexual attractions towards people? i only feel like aesthetic attractions, platonic, or sensual like hugging and stuff iv never felt anything sexual lol.

I’m 23 and my extreme religious parents always tell me, an asexual/aromantic, “Oh I KNOW you’ll find a nice husband someday. Don’t waste your 20s” and it makes me want to scream. Edit: 25 and still feel the same exact way 🙃

I love how inclusive and understanding this channel is ❤

I'm Panromantic Asexual, and when I came out to my mom she said I "wasn't old enough to know," meanwhile my friends are all over here super confused on how I just don't want the saxophone lessons All jokes aside, other than that, everyone I've come out to has been supportive and I'm very glad to have such great friends, especially with everything else that's happening in my life, so even though I know my friends won't see this, thank you guys, you're the reason I choose to stay in this world :D

any form of sexual relationship or act makes me feel so uncomfortable and sick. I dont even know why. it just makes me feel gross all over and it is the worst feeling ever, its worse seeing that all my friends talk about is sex. i just sit there all awkward and they call me weird for not liking it, or "uptight"

"Are your crushes short lived" Me who never had a crush: *confused screaming*

Thank you so much!, I have even struggling a lot with my sexuality and this helped a lot

I'm struggling to know if i'm asexual or not, it would explain a lot growing up and how I am now, but at the same time i don't know if past/childhood trauma is just making me feel this way. I've never wanted to be sexual in a relationship, it's always felt wrong, and at times really triggering. It always feels like I have to shove down how I feel and act a part with my now long-time partner when he wants that side of things, we now have kids together and it makes me feel worse (not the kids, can't imagine life without them), it's the sleep deprivation from having to be up all night, the last thing you want to think about is sex and that side of things. And he has a much higher libido, and I have so much guilt because I'm not on his page. I fear not being enough in that way for him. He seems to think because i'm quiet about things i must be thinking about them all the same as he is, i know i need to work on communication, but i'm scared of losing him and his friendship if i were to be honest about everything. I love the bones of him, at times i wish i could change how i am because i feel like i must be the oddity, i'm so conflicted.

Me an asexual: *beeming about seeing postive context about me*

hi asexuals, i'm not ace myself but you're all completely valid and ily have a great day

As an asexual person, you described it very well! Your videos are so helpful! I would say that what makes me consider I am asexual is the following: 1️⃣ I don't have the desire for sexual relations. (My native language is French 🇫🇷. So I might be misusing some words) I might be attracted to someone physically, but I do not want to make out with him/her. In other words: I don't want to have sex. It makes me feel so uncomfortable. Even the thought of doing it disgusts me. 2️⃣ I care for the emotional connection and physical attraction more. What I mean by “physical attraction” is just hugs, kisses 😚, taking his/her hand... And I care a lot for the emotion. I hate 😡 doing the most in a relationship without receiving anything in exchange. I need affection 😘 and passion and the feeling to be interchangeable. And sex doesn't interest me, so it is not like this that you will keep me. I don't think there is much left to tell.

Definitely food for thought! Thank you for the video!

As an asexual myself, I still don’t understand sexual attraction and it makes me feel inhuman sometimes. Edit: I made a typo lol 🥶

I always thought I was just weird for not wanting to wear revealing clothing and for being 22 and never dated before. I've always wanted a romantic relationship, but it always seems like every relationship has to lead to sex and that makes me nervous.

hey psych2go! I struggle alot with identifying my sexuality and im always going back and fourth about it. I would always get picked on because I dont know my sexuality. I get so overwhelmed with all the different sexualities to choose from, but i think i finally discovered that imn ace with this video :D Thank you and have a wonderful day!

😩😩😩It’s extremely tough navigating through life being an aesthetically attractive asexual. You’ll run into A LOT of awkward moments and non verbally offending A LOT of people😩😩😩💯💯💯

Ok but lets just talk about HOW PRETTY THIS FLAG IS. I LOVE THIS COLOR PALETE

I have always been confused on how people can have a crush on a celebrity Edit: thanks for the likes

So I am not asexual, but I’ve been really trying to figure out what exactly that entails for a person to try to better understand people just as a generality. This video helped define that in a way that makes sense to me so thank. And anyone who is asexual, I see you and I love you just the way you are. Keep being you! 😊

Thanks so much for this video! I’ve been pretty confused about sexuality lately and this helps a lot :D

This just made me realise why I've never had sexual attraction to someone I think I'm asexual thanks 😄 Edit:I didn't know so many people where like me it's reassuring to me that I'm not the only person like us

Who else here is asexual and very anxious knowing full well that we can't easily be happy because in most relationships, sex is very vital :(((

This video just listed how much of my personality showed asexuality, it’s true and I’m grateful that this video helped my questioning.

I already identify as asexual, but this video helped me understand my orientation even more! By the way, your art is so cute! :3

As an asexual who doesn't personally know any other ace people, seeing any sort of representation or explanations like this around online media is always so heartwarming to me! Thank you for such a great video Psych2Go! 🖤🤍💜

Just a reminder you don't have to decide on a sexuality right away. I feel like people are being told to define themselves too early, but you can wait. Now, I spent a good chunk of my life waiting for sexual attraction to kick in, thinking that I just wasn't done with puberty yet, but after awhile, I figured I might just not get it. I know a lot of other Asexuals don't like being told that they'll change their minds, but if I get into a relationship and turn out to be Demi, I'd be fine with that

Thank you so much for talking about this. Because of this video I have understood myself more!

Thx, i really needed something like this video. I was for some time by now thinking if i am maybe asexual, now i am sure about that! Thank you! ;)

When I saw the title of the video I grinned because I’m asexual

I've never enjoyed sex. I've never wanted sex. But it always seems the world forces it into my lap (no pun intended) and I always feel really uncomfortable. I want a romantic relationship, I want to feel close to someone, I want to love, but I don't want sex. I've never found a partner who understands this and I always have to have "the sex" to keep the relationship going. I've tried being single and I find it desperately lonely. So I seek a female companion, then she wants sex, I get uncomfortable and we break up. It's a recurring cycle that I don't think I'll soon break.

I don’t even get what sexual attraction is 💀 what does it feel like

i’m an asexual lesbian. Your videos are extremely calming, and removes all of the daunting, overwhelming things happening in our lives. thank you.

Sum: 1. Lack of sexual attraction 1:04 2. Asexuals could crave relationships just without the sexual element 1:41 3. Get over crushes easily 2:16 4. Not having celebrity crushes 2:38 5. Some asexuals may only experience sexual attraction in certain circumstances 3:06 6. Sex depends 3:38 Done

my mom: don’t have sex me: well that’s good i’m asexual anyway also mom: NO YOU ARE NOT YOU ARE STRAIGHT YOUNG LADY-

I had an identity crisis a couple of months ago, and your videos really helped me find out who I am. For that I would like to thank you! ❤️❤️❤️

Off topic but for some reason I find your voice very relaxing

All us Asexuals be flocking to this video

Me: is ace aro Also me: clicks anyways because the person who does the voicovers has an amazingly soothing voice

I’m asexual too and I experience a lot of acephobia 😢 It hurts but as an asexual, I have to stay strong 💪 Asexuals are valid ♠️✨

to this day,i still dont understand how ppl can get attracted to someone without getting to know them first. i never understood their memes and jokes and i feel like an outcast. then i get made fun of for having a different opinion from them

I'm gay, but I actually see myself in few parts of this (getting over crushes fast, not really needing sex and I lean on more on the romantic side of relationship) but it might be bcs of my last relationship that kinda drained me, bcs before it I was more sexual and looked at men more, now I don't really do. I might swing a bit demisexual but I dunno, I don't really feel the need to be in a relationship really (I'm more into career) but I still look at anime men at least I guess Anyways, asexuals are valid, wish yall great day if you've read my rambling here lol

I just wanna say this was extremely helpful thank you so much

I'm demisexual and bisexual too. Thanks to your videos I cleared all my doubts and insecurities. Your videos are very informative and helpful and make me happy.🥰😍