A 3-Step Guide to Believing in Yourself | Sheryl Lee Ralph

A 3-Step Guide to Believing in Yourself | Sheryl Lee Ralph | TED

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11 ай бұрын

Sheryl Lee Ralph is a force, delivering iconic performances both on stage and screen. But she didn’t always know if she’d make it big. In a lively talk sparkling with actionable advice, she shares how her struggles taught her what it takes to believe in herself -- and how we can all find the self-confidence to keep moving forward.
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@aurorasky123 11 ай бұрын

The way she speaks alone makes me want to believe everything she says, but "I do not look like my journey" is definitely something I'll be taking with me.

@SuperSayandas 11 ай бұрын

I wrote the same line in my diary

@Tresieful 11 ай бұрын

Me too.

@jaspergraham4438 11 ай бұрын

I loved the perfect delivery and attitude of that line too! It was perfection!

@melanielovick-lugo3118 11 ай бұрын

Yes, indeed. I know what you mean. But the actual expression is, "I don't look like what I've been through", but it has the same connotation behind it.

@_DixonCider 9 ай бұрын

The way she speaks is artificial, designed to activate emotions but ultimately meaningless.

@savannafilms23 11 ай бұрын

"You are rubber, they are glue. And every ignorant thing they said about you bounces off of you, and sticks to them" Damn, that's powerful.

@faithhope4703 11 ай бұрын

I loved this quote too🎉🎉

@YourProfessionalCousin 11 ай бұрын

A word, okay!!! Loved that.

@rrhines3151 11 ай бұрын

It’s similar to the childhood rhymes: “sticks and stones may break my bones (ouch) but names can never hurt me…” But they did and do. I LOVE this TED talk ❤I would bet almost everyone has experienced something similar, challenging us to believe in ourselves! I spend little time in front of a mirror… Do you? Let’s start!! 👍

@ldkea05 11 ай бұрын

@@rrhines3151and is !!!!

@kissit012 11 ай бұрын

Literally what we said as kids

@BriaBarrows 11 ай бұрын

Lol I love what her mom said about her. What our parents say about us matters. It sets the foundation for our self-esteem

@wallacerangel616 9 ай бұрын

Not everything they say matters.

@may_0reo816 7 ай бұрын

not if it hurts your self esteem some ppl didnt grow up with the most supportive parents

@YouTubeReady Ай бұрын

@@wallacerangel616@may_0reo816 Hence why the person says that the things your parents say set the foundation of our self esteem. I am someone whose parent used to always call me very nasty things, and it does indeed set your foundation, especially if said to you very early in life.

@AUGUSTO_SMILE 11 ай бұрын

..."start a meaningful practice of looking in the mirror and loving what you see. Believe in what you see. If you can't love it, then respect it. And if you can't respect it, then encourage it. If you can't encourage it, empower it. And if you can't empower it, please be kind to it."" Sheryl Lee Ralph

@sinpaiii 10 ай бұрын

this has to be one of the most beautiful things i’ve ever heard anyone say 😭

@mkretschmar58 10 ай бұрын

❤

@SJaxon Ай бұрын

I really liked that she said that too!

@ravendario860 11 ай бұрын

"I do not look like my journey". As a woman of color, this resonated with me a lot.

@ldkea05 11 ай бұрын

Reeeeeaallll deep down in me !!!!

@CassieJazz96 11 ай бұрын

Samee

@butterfly9841 10 ай бұрын

Woman of color? Are you a rainbow ?

@quinnieskitchen 10 ай бұрын

IT resonated with me as well. It's so sad and true. We look like we got it all together when the world is collapsing around us, in us . But, we are Resilient ❤. All Praises to The Most High.

@hnycrsps2658 10 ай бұрын

@@butterfly9841 seeing someone be foolish in real time is so rewarding

@shadyjoanneboots 11 ай бұрын

I love this woman so much, she is the definition of the word "regal" in every sense

@chioma916 11 ай бұрын

oh hey fellow pixel

@hausofash-zf8db 11 ай бұрын

Her voice screams "queen" 👑

@austingibson9291 10 ай бұрын

yes God!!!!!!!

@Squirrel36 7 ай бұрын

That’s why I call her Princess 👸🏿

@valeriejones3808 10 ай бұрын

My entrepreneur daughter met her at this years 2023 Essence fest and she spoke a powerful word of encouragement to her which was confirmation of what others have done. She said she was walking by and she looked at her and said "Come here sweetie" and when she was speaking life over her I was speechless as I needed it at that moment." God gives us what we need when we need it. 💯🙌🏾

@jaketasjourney 29 күн бұрын

That's beautiful. May the lord bless your daughter greatly 🎉🙌🏽

@fairytale143 11 ай бұрын

My god I love this woman. Didn’t really expect to watch a full Ted talk on my lunch break, and end up in puddles 😭

@gracecelofan 11 ай бұрын

Same 🥲

@adrienneb4009 11 ай бұрын

2nd. I thought I was going to watch a minute or two but this was so needed.

@karanshah902 11 ай бұрын

00:00:05 The Performance 00:00:20 Identity 00:00:53 Emmy Win 00:03:16 Current Challenges 00:06:09 Three Things to Believe in Yourself 00:06:21 See Ourselves 00:08:25 Think for Ourselves 00:10:58 Act Like We Believe 00:13:16 Encouragement to Love Yourself 00:13:18 Challenge to Look in the Mirror 00:13:57 Importance of Relationship with Self 00:14:32 Remember to Believe in Yourself 00:14:52 Never Give Up on Yourself

@lifeofayishat.y 11 ай бұрын

thank you so much

@ldkea05 11 ай бұрын

Really thank you 😅

@sharinaross1865 11 ай бұрын

Thank you.

@stripedsweater520 11 ай бұрын

I’m gonna try not to skip but my adhd is fighting lolol

@tamikewright926 10 ай бұрын

This TED Talk was very impactful! What a lesson in just a short timeframe.

@hrhsophiathefirst4060 11 ай бұрын

This moved me to tears in the middle of my pilates workout. As a middle-aged immigrant woman I have felt that pain, and shared that dis-belief in myself and it is only with age that I like who I see in the mirror. She is now my best friend and because of that I can be my best self to others. Congratulations on a well deserved Emmy, I have been a long-time fan.

@TAWJ7178 3 ай бұрын

This is so beautiful to hear. I'm happy for you.

@nikkiu.2148 7 ай бұрын

13:25 - "I challenge all of you to start a meaningful practice of looking in the mirror and loving what you see. Believe in what you see. If you can't love it, respect it. If you can't respect it, encourage it. If you can't encourage it, empower it. And if you can't empower it, please be kind to it! The greatest relationship, the greatest one you will ever have is with yourself."

@KCNwokoye 11 ай бұрын

What a powerful performer. God bless you Sheryl Lee Ralph.' One of the best talks on TED. Love this. What a triumphant talk.

@tamikax9738 11 ай бұрын

As a fellow Jamaican woman I salute you. Absolutely powerful and inspirational ❤🇯🇲

@duchessofst.andrew7210 11 ай бұрын

❤🇯🇲 ❤🇯🇲 ❤🇯🇲

@CaramelMsDelight 11 ай бұрын

That grown woman energy that we ALL need!! ❤👏🏽🤌🏾🔥🔥

@tinsaefikru5588 11 ай бұрын

"I do not look like my Journey" Speaks to my core.

@jasong.5887 11 ай бұрын

She gave this same speech to the Rutgers graduates this year. Was awesome to see in person.

@vesnabarrett2140 5 ай бұрын

A phony

@selfridgesforever4399 11 ай бұрын

She could’ve ended it at 00:46 and it still would’ve been one of the best ted talks I’ve watched

@misspriss2018 11 ай бұрын

She captivated me when speaking. This felt like a form of personal mentorship. It’s like she was speaking to me personally. Really loved this! ❤❤❤

@froeverfefe6636 10 ай бұрын

The comment I needed! I wish she could be my mentor 🥲

@lourdestardillo 20 күн бұрын

It was the best 15 minutes of my day! This TED talk was so worth it, what a woman Sheryl Lee Ralph!

@alishak4061 11 ай бұрын

Making the decision to lay and bed all day today and listen to motivational videos due to being overwhelmed in life. I already feel like this video is the right start. ❤

@Haywood.2802 11 ай бұрын

You got this. I used to do that When my body didn't have the strength to move. Then all of a sudden it was like life came into me. Keep listening to those messages, it works

@alishak4061 10 ай бұрын

@@Haywood.2802 thank you 😊

@jaredoaks 3 ай бұрын

Hope you’re both doing well. ❤️ This talk is filling me up faster than I can handle, haha.

@ushondaw 11 ай бұрын

Just love her!!! Her confidence is contagious!! ❤❤🥰

@user-nm3wx4vv9v 4 ай бұрын

yes，contagious！！！！

@cajh9993 11 ай бұрын

Wow! She sure has a STRONG voice, presence ,and force! *whew!* 😲

@funtertainment2552 11 ай бұрын

Look at her moves, hand to eye coordination, absolutely in sync and rhythm. Enjoyed watching listening to her.

@sarahjcao 11 ай бұрын

What an absolutely inspiring orator. Thank you Sheryl Lee Ralph!

@user-et1ux8ic6o 6 ай бұрын

In a long-term period of unemployment, trying to find work in a job market that I dont' think anybody completely understands, and feeling a little low today - thank goodness - I found this!

@nyaluv143 11 ай бұрын

She is amazing , when she shines it gives space for others to do the same

@coryjefferson6477 11 ай бұрын

As dignified as ever! Only a mature spirit can appreciate such an outstanding woman. ❤

@user-mb8uo2ou9w 11 ай бұрын

자신을 믿는 생각을 통해 성공한다, 라는 태도를 현실로 이루는 것은 정말 어렵고 힘든과정이란 것을 모두가 알기에 강연을 듣는 모든 순간 Sheryl Lee 당신이 존경스러웠습니다. "자신은 자신을 포기하지 않는다" 큰 교훈을 다시 한번 깨닫고 앞으로의 시간 속에서 저는 저 자신을 믿고 포기하지 않겠습니다, 감사합니다.

@Elle-gm9rt 11 ай бұрын

This was so theatrical, it also almost felt like a sermon. I loved every minute of it🥺

@MakeMeCare89 11 ай бұрын

This speech was terrible and unorginal because there was nothing solid about it......

@Elle-gm9rt 11 ай бұрын

@@MakeMeCare89 okay😂

@MakeMeCare89 11 ай бұрын

@@Elle-gm9rt believe in yourself - how many times we heard that before?

@Elle-gm9rt 11 ай бұрын

@@MakeMeCare89 🤷🏾‍♀️plenty of times

@MakeMeCare89 11 ай бұрын

@@Elle-gm9rt but the problem with the way she's executing this speech is that she sounds like a five year old who just learning the power of belief when she's been the industry for decades.........

@andreajackson4764 11 ай бұрын

No, THANK YOU, Sheryl Lee Ralph!!! This talk will be on repeat!!! 🔥⭐🧡

@lb1798 11 ай бұрын

AND SAVED😊👍🏾❤️

@R_L_1369 11 ай бұрын

This woman was a part of my childhood. She exhibited such class as Moesha’s stepmother and she still exhibits such class now.

@williamclark1244 11 ай бұрын

Perfect to hear this today. I was feeling a sense of defeat after the SCOTUS ruling on AA. This made me feel much better and confident to keep up the fight and have my voice be heard.

@ricarellan 11 ай бұрын

Agreed

@kdphilly 11 ай бұрын

No. Mrs. Sheryl Lee Ralph “thank you.” This talk was so powerful, uplifting, and definitively appropriate; in a time and moment when people lack simple compassion and belief in possibilities. You are simply the best! I will keep on keeping on.

@TheHeartfeltHoney 11 ай бұрын

This woman is simply phenomenal. A treasure. A true inspiration. May God continue to bless her in a mighty way.

@muvamiah1974 10 ай бұрын

Lord knows I’ve been becoming who I truly am. Releasing myself from watered down versions of myself. And this journey has been tough. God believes in me, now it’s time for me to believe in me. No matter what the world says. Or thinks. I am who I am. Thank you Ms. Ralph for reminding me. Hopefully I’ll be able to tell you that in person

@ntombifuthicaroline913 11 ай бұрын

Im going to listen to her everyday as my mediation 😢😢😢

@patriciablake8645 3 ай бұрын

So love the words this woman has shared with me today! Faith can make broken wings fly and we deserve to fly, too!

@beatrizbrito9509 4 ай бұрын

“Start a meaningful practice of looking in the mirror and loving what you see, believe in what you see. If you can't love it then respect it and if can't respect it, then encourage it, if you can't encourage it empower it, if you can't empower it please be kind to it. The greatest relationship that you’ll ever have is with yourself.”

@amyg8249 11 ай бұрын

THE DESERVED COURAGE. The BEAUTY and POWER. THE INSPIRATION. THANK YOU...Queen❤

@ShaniceN 11 ай бұрын

Tears man, just tears. She's incredible.

@marinafathy7 11 ай бұрын

Her voice tone while talking makes you feel so peaceful

@jeadymadellineatienza2320 10 ай бұрын

For someone who has difficulty in believing themselves I literally got enlighted and cried at the end of the video

@Electrified1337 11 ай бұрын

Surely be one of the best Ted Talks Ngl this really helps me on building up my self-confidence Not to mention the intro of this Talk is actually cutting-edge I seldom like videos but this will be one of my liked videos

@gospelician 11 ай бұрын

Play this for our children. They need this!😊🎉❤

@angelamoore6896 10 ай бұрын

Sheryl “Don’t ever give up on yourself.” You strength, perseverance, faith and confidence is so inspiring!!!❤❤❤

@jacksonconnell 11 ай бұрын

For someone struggling with self doubt all her life and now realizing she needs something to do in fixing it, this was exactly what I needed to hear ❤

@ardiavaniaa6573 5 ай бұрын

The opening and closing really giving the picture of confidence and every word naturally flow with an encouragement. Gonna take "think" for every aspect to take the positive. What a fantastic talk! Thank you!

@junejewell6004 11 ай бұрын

She is so talented and inspirational! ♥️

@b3nji369 11 ай бұрын

"i gave myself permission to take up space"... wow, i really love that!

@ReneHernandez-ts7yi 11 ай бұрын

Her words speak volumes, belief is so important in every aspect of this age.

@johnpaulp494 9 ай бұрын

I think this might be the most meaningful Ted Talk I have Ever seen! God bless you

@kellifletcher5440 10 ай бұрын

Her Tom Cruise story so resonated with me. I often forget the positives about me because the negatives take up space in my mind. I'm learning to believe in me and my abilities, regardless of what is thought of me.

@karlahughes1824 10 ай бұрын

I lost my job, listening to this made me THINK, and BELIEVE IN MYSELF to put my resume and cover letter out there. Now I’m back to teaching and doing what I love!

@vloggerpriyanka9759 8 ай бұрын

She speaks so confidently. I couldn’t get my eyes and ears out of her. Her each and every words are so enthusiastic that it gives me goosebumps. I also believe in myself but sometimes feels sad too but for a very short period. By believing in ourself we can achieve what we want in life. On 12 November 2025 I will also speak in TEDx and inspire people by my life story.

@osalorwonderfuleva5218 7 ай бұрын

Cheers to that

@kimkishamcghee8148 11 ай бұрын

She just has confidence in how she carries herself. I have watched several Ted Talks and watched so many people speak that did well, but their nervousness showed a little more than the power of their speech. That's just what I have noticed over the years.

@BloomByCC 11 ай бұрын

That’s called courage, being nervous and doing it anyway. You’re seeing courage.

@astin3407 11 ай бұрын

It’s interesting to see how someone else views the nervousness and how it affects the speech. Personally, most likely because I resonate with it more, I love when they look/sound nervous. To me it’s very powerful to think about how scared they must be and they’re doing it anyway :)

@carsonhunt4642 11 ай бұрын

@@astin3407unfortunately most of the world doesn’t see it this way. When you are nervous it means you are not confident, and so the recipient(s) interpret your nervousness as weakness and makes them subconsciously already reject you/assume you don’t deserve it. Logically this makes sense, if u ask someone to do something dangerous it’s a good thing to detect their nervousness and then turn them down. It only sucks because it doesn’t work in our modern game of social politics. There’s also a massive side effect where ignorance is viewed as confidence which leads to incompetent people being perceived highly and getting a yes.

@astin3407 11 ай бұрын

@@carsonhunt4642 I agree. It feels as though if someone says something with any sliver of confidence, people will follow in masses without doing any research of their own.

@dr.ankita4336 7 ай бұрын

@@carsonhunt4642yes thats called politics whether in office or college or family the less confident u are there the more adorable n family oriented society oriented... One high voice will be considered quareel attitude problem .. i have been facing this problem since college .. because i was always considered confident girl in school days i carried it further in college n society where it is perceived as rudeness n quarrel... Society and family like nervous and voiceless being .... It can only give u success in exams not more than that...😢

@taylorbri_ann 11 ай бұрын

I just love her so much, glad she's finally getting her flowers!! 🌻

@pamelaakoth7330 10 ай бұрын

I see myself I think of myself I act as is I believe in myself This is so helpful, just what I needed❤

@jennifergill3256 11 ай бұрын

I must admit I didn't give her much credit for acting but, I realize I can be very judgmental even about myself. Thank you for representing not just black women but, West Indian women with all this talent, and the gift of confidence in your public speaking. Thank you for being on this earth, and by the way I loved your character in Sister Act 1 or 2.

@StabbingKnifes 11 ай бұрын

I don't know her work but she's an incredible speaker. Wow. Blew me away.

@chantelvenessa 11 ай бұрын

She is fantastic. This was so powerful. She has put a smile on myself. I'm going to listen again.

@sharondavis3535 11 ай бұрын

“The Mighty Quinn” is one of her best performances in a movie ( with Denzel !).She has so many lessons for all who will listen. I knew ‘Abbott Elementary’ was phenomenally excellent from episode 1 and told everyone to watch (notwithstanding that I’m a teacher 😂).

@charitydoeses 11 ай бұрын

Such a great installment. Would love to read a book written by her!👏🏾

@karis3489 11 ай бұрын

This just changed my life living in a space alone but never lonely and needing to know I will take up space in BELIEVING!! 🥹thank you. This was for me! Thank you Mama Sheryl

@reshmirkn2513 Ай бұрын

The best TED video i have ever seen

@baulitious1710 11 ай бұрын

That's a Masterclass in authenticity! The wisdom she oozes...mmmmmh!

@princesski96 11 ай бұрын

She truly is a gift to us. Amazing!

@mahimajhawar3752 2 ай бұрын

I have never commented on a Ted talk, but this woman made me do it. Loved it! And feels like she planted an enthu seed in me that'll grow higher and higher no matter what!

@momentswithmajesty 10 ай бұрын

Her delivery, her tone, and her confidence is infectious! I’m so inspired🎉

@Dr.JudeAEMasonMD 11 ай бұрын

It’s inexcusable that I live in Vancouver and missed this. You are an outstanding human being, Ms. Sheryl Lee Ralph.

@ThePammyone 10 ай бұрын

Me toooo

@JHaygood-dq1rp 11 ай бұрын

🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥 Yaaassss 🎉 This is so appropriate wanted & Needed Thank you Mrs Sheryl Lee Ralph!!! I was about 7 yrs old, walking into the Beverly Center (A mall in California, circa '83)at the time there was a show on television called Fire Fox or either that was her character anyway, I was with my mother and as we walked in she was walking out and I did a double take with my mouth open not being able to utter a word, star struck I guess, and she looked back at me waved, smiled and gave me a wink!🤯 Her smile was so beautiful! It still is. Every time a baby or a small child notices me or we make eye contact I smile and give them a wink 🤗✌🏾

@ZiggyC 8 ай бұрын

I always loved her so much on Moesha!! Regal is the perfect word to describe Sheryl ❤

@MelanatedMaternity 11 ай бұрын

😭💐She got us doing the ugly cry and the happy cry all at once…. Phenomenal ❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤

@ldkea05 11 ай бұрын

Me af right now

@catherineramos1111 10 ай бұрын

Frfr she is awesome

@arianna_ca 11 ай бұрын

Beautiful presentation! I love her energy. What a gift.

@JaeDaishell 10 ай бұрын

I cried the whole time watching this! She is such an inspiration, it truly does start with loving who you see in the mirror and acting as so! Great speech! ♥

@LovelyTiya 11 ай бұрын

Wow. Such a powerful message. I’m loving her journey. It’s such an inspiration ❤❤❤❤

@truselv9999 10 ай бұрын

This is prime example of living as elder. I hear her, genuinely. I love when the generations before us give love in the form passing the baton. She didn’t just take her position in first place and revel in her success. She takes time to share her story, reaching to all of us behind her and passing the baton so that we too can live in first place. Love me some aunty Sheryl!❤️

@greatamongcommons7616 11 ай бұрын

This tells why she became very successful 💯believe in yourself legends❤

@siasontiffanyloue.2525 11 ай бұрын

I needed those words and I believe in myself now and the day forward!

@elohoraghanokpe 10 ай бұрын

I needed to see this... I started learning JavaScript this month... Today I got discouraged because I wasn’t understanding anything... I though of quitting. I’m going to be an amazing software engineer. The world will know me.... Aghanokpe Elohor Theresa, you’re going places and changing lives🎉

@DaenerysHeiress 11 ай бұрын

Iconic and so poignant ❤️💙☀️ Absolutely love her and wish her nothing but true happiness and bliss and much much more success she deserves it!!!

@shafirawd 10 ай бұрын

Three things that we all must do in order to believe in ourselves 1. We need to see ourselves; really, truly, deeply see ourselves for who and what we are in order to believe in ourselves. 2. Think about ourselves in order to believe in ourselves. 3. We got to act like we believe in ourselves

@user-mr2de8pm2e 11 ай бұрын

This woman is FANTASTIC! I have always loved her!

@rodolfojr.delrosario4512 6 ай бұрын

ill get back to this video after 5 or 10 years and i will not stop believing in myself, i promise that, my mom just died and and i just broke up with someone, i was totally blown away this year but, i believe i can do this, ill keep on looking at the mirror to empower myself, its lonely but it will worrk things out...

@lindakuranchie4444 3 ай бұрын

"Faith causes broken wings to fly, and we deserve to soar"❤ .. OMG!Sheryl❤❤

@MsHannahHT 11 ай бұрын

10 years of Nos sound easy when a successful person shares their story. It's tough! What year are you in? I love this talk because I am a Confidence Building Consultant and yet also going through a hard time. Yep... we all need a check-up from the neck up.

@bagfitted1380 11 ай бұрын

This is something people will go back to rewatch. Already saved it ❤

@miram2053 11 ай бұрын

I love "The Wiz" reference at the end!❤❤❤ such a wonderful woman!

@shambalifewithgathegugatun8889 11 ай бұрын

What a brilliant share. Thank you for coming back for the rest of us.

@nehakumar1152 11 ай бұрын

Oh Sheryl Lee Ralph! I am so sorry that you went through what you went through! Your Ted talk is indeed inspiring and very thought provoking as I too am a woman of colour and it gives me hope that some day I will receive my flowers 💐. Thank you 😊. I remember watching you in Moesha and you portrayed Dee's character so well. This has to be, by far one of the most impactful Ted talks recorded.

@FreeAsABird53 11 ай бұрын

Thé greatest relationship you’ll ever have is the one you have with yourself. ❤️🙏🏽

@recass0 7 ай бұрын

I have watched a lot of videos in Ted talks about boosting or improving my self confidence, and I could say from my preference that this is the BEST! VERY IMPOWERING💪