A point to add about kids that age out in the uk from care. In wales(uk) starting this year, the government has started a funding service that will pay every person that turns 18 in care £1600 a month for i think the first 2 years to help get them on their feet, which i think is a great help ❤

Tori, God bless you! Love all of you! Thank you for blessing all the children you do♥️♥️♥️

She was a wonderful GUEST!! And her family seems wonderful, especially her grandparents. I agree with TORI, having family thru your childhood having fostering or living with adult fosters is good to have been in that growing up helps your life. I didnt have adult fostering at my home BUT my fave aunt/Uncle who i was with alot ran an adult foster care home at their house (I lived with them 21-22 years old) and it showed me more compassion and empathy (which i already had it alot)

Here in Ontario, Canada the foster family is to provide a "Life book" for each child that goes with the child when they leave foster care. If adopted or not. It cornicles the child's life from the beginning. Pictures, comments and things like that. Favorite stuffy or toy and comments or information.

Gonna be totally honest #crystal I bawled my eyes out during this. I have had a rough background and only just got closure in some of my history trauma wise from abuse after my 25 birthday on Nov 9. It unfortunately takes time. But being able to reinforce in that child. You are worth living. You are worth it. Is so important.

Tori, spot on. I’m here in Sheffield. My 3rd son is Autistic/dyslexic/😮dyspraxic at primary school he was written off, yet at senior school he was in a speech and language unit, integrated into a mainstream school. They taught him the way he learnt and helped him develop himself. He then went to Lincoln University to study Theatrical performance and he got a 1st in his degree. You can’t fit a square peg in a round hole……we all have potential, but we all have different learning styles.

I like when you have a guest. Great subject.

This one made me cry case I seen my older too kids Struggle when they was in school my youngest is in high school now and he is doing amazing

I loved this - I dont live too far away from Tori. The shared lives scheme was mentioned on daytime TV here yesterday and the couple on that were also from Liverpool I think

Im from the UK- I have been watching your channel for a while and love you guys

Love this podcast!!!

Adoption in the uk is very hard and huge family's like crystal are looked over somewhat as there is little one on one. It can takes years to be approved before you even considered to to have a child placed with you and the rules are alot tighter than many other countries and you often given an age bracket that best suits. I can't believe kids are thrown out here in the UK they are help to get into housing our Foster care end at 18 or 21 depending on the court order, and they are assisted from there to get into a HMO(house of multiply occupancies), flat and work😂

If you have so many more questions, can you do a part 2 with her? I would like to know more as well 😊

Hearing about the UK process was very interesting! On another note I made life story scrapbooks for foster kids and kids who were going to be adopted. As part of the process when I did a book, I read EVERYTHING about the child, conducted interviews with the foster family, the workers involved and in some cases did interviews with the bio family which gave me more info and any photos they had. Then finally put the book together either with no identifying info for the kids going to adoption and more info for the kids that were in foster care. It was very rewarding.

Although I’m not a foster care child I totally get the stuff at the end. I have epilepsy & I am autistic. I learned in a different way sometimes to the way schools would teach. It frustrated me at times. I didn’t do a lot of studying for my GCSE because I did t get it & when my dad tried to assist me it just made me more confused. A couple of times my big brother came over and sat down with me & did some revision with me & he knew how to make things click and make me understand. I wish he had lived nearer so he could have helped me more. I was very much a hands on learner & for science I remember the times we actually did hands on experiments. Yet the stuff we’re we just copied from text books or the board I didn’t remember. My parents paid for extra tutors in English and for maths lessons which really helped and meant my highest GCSE qualification was in Maths. I think a lot more needs to be done in schools to help with kids who who’ve learning difficulties. I agree why can’t someone write down what a kid dictates or sit and talk them through how to put their words to paper? Like was said they would do it for someone with a broken arm. I had a statement of learning in school so I had extra help with certain lessons in school. I had someone sit with me in English & an assistant in art. Also I was excused from language class as I wasn’t learning anything & instead during that lesson I’d go to a separate room & have one on one lesson with a learning support teacher to help me catch up in lessons I was struggling with or had missed that week because I was sent home due to having a seizure due to my epilepsy (which thankfully is now under control). I totally agree about grandest not being the most important thing. Why do we needed to learn algebra and the fine details of science if it’s never going to be used in that kids future? Surely it better they learn to read and understand basic maths & have the skills for what they actually want to do & have interest in? I think for children in care or not much more could be done in USA or here in uk to help children who struggle with their education & preparing them for eventually living independently.

Thumbs up on your podcast 100%!❤

Very good discussion

I had tutors as a kid and young adult it helped me excel

i was born in Romania and brought to the us as a baby through a adoption agency so now i know how the uk is doing there foster care

Tori is one hundred percent spot on

You guys should have Jarod and shelley on this podcast?

I feel that, even though the UK has a terrifying, stressful, exhausting process it is way better than the states. The kids have a better chance and even though no matter where you go they’re still going to be heartbreaking aspects and hopefully one day that’ll change. However, I couldn’t bear to separate sibling groups. I don’t care if one was 12 and the other two were one years old and seven months old I couldn’t do it. I know how it feels to be separated from siblings. My mother did that to us, and because of that, I don’t really have a good relationship with my brother, who is just roughly 2 years younger than I am, and my other three siblings who are still children themselves

I enjoy your new vlog tonight 😊

Harley is the podcast dog she is in almost every episode!! She's so cute is she closest with Aaron and Crystal?

It would almost be nice if other countries could get together to share there process like that and try and come up with the best way world wide when it comes to adoption, or adopt aspects that fit from other countries, ours isn’t , there’s isn’t great but get a think tank type group together let’s find a better way.

Kellypfister... don't know if you will ever see this....but I am thankful that you were my other mom growing up.❤❤ well done momma P❤

I was in a care home for children in the UK which is what it's called where I'm from, from the age of 6 till I was 12 from 1968 till 1973 and I was going to be adopted but my mam came back into my life and stopped this other family from adopting me and brought me back to her with her new husband but I do wish I was adopted out to this other family and yes the one I was in did make them leave when they were 18 and didn't do anything to help them when they left baring in mind this was the early 70,s it's different now I think there's 7 of us but unfortunately I was the only one not adopted there is a reason why they didn't want me to be adopted and now I understand why I wasn't ever allowed to be adopted out

Special needs people are very special and their sound like they are nice people to adopt and I'm glad she can give them a home

The UK should allow adult adoption like the USA Canada Germany and Japan does

Thank you for this one. Having watched Crazy Pieces since before it was CP - back when it was Missing Pieces - I found this podcast incredibly interesting and I too have even more questions now! I’m in Australia. Foster care is State by State run, Adoption falls under Family Law which is Federal Jurisdiction, and my understanding as a (currently inactive due to health reasons) approved Foster Carer in my State, is that when it comes to Adoption, Australia is one of the most difficult first world nations to be able to adopt a child these days if there is any close or extended or extra extended family members still alive. It’s insane! Surrogacy is also all but non existent, with couples wishing or requiring it need to head overseas. A solicitor(lawyer) we have had the fortune Dr to meet on several occasions regarding the meeting be for good or bad circumstances, is now Nationwide known for setting new precedent in case law for surrogacy here. What my state doesn’t have anymore is “group homes” in the same way you do. We do have “assisted living” but that is more for those who require a high level of care that can’t be accommodated in a regular home/family situation. And is usually in sn apartment form so the child has a permanent “home” with a rotation of 24/7 carers that commit long term to the raising of that child. We have many types of foster care. The main goal is reunification. If it becomes clear that cannot or will not occur the child can be permanently placed with their foster family (obviously with family agreement), until they are 18 and the family has full physical and residential custody and guardianship - so can make all important decisions from education to medical and all their needs - ubtil trey legally become an adult. The family received a $ ‘stipend’ for the child to assist in the cost of raising of raiding them, and also can receive extra assistance for extra costs like school overseas trips, driving lessons, costs of extra educational tools etc, upon approval of application for them. In our case the child just left for a school trip overseas. It was deemed to be advantageous to their education, so the responsible department paid the costs of the invoices from the school. As the carer family, the cost of a passport, luggage, everything on the packing list, spending money etc etc is expected to be met from the stipend required and the ‘Family Tax Benefit’ that every family in the country receives for assistance in raising children. Because of health system and our social security system, there is no real stigma attached to the fact that even a well off foster family receives what we refer to as a ‘concession card’ (there are several types that correlate with different social security payments) for their foster child/children. For example, that card sees the cost of thousands of different medications being only $7 each. S as bd there is a safety net for everyone when you have spent a certain amount on medication each year, it becomes free for the genetic brand for the rest of the calendar year- regardless if you hold a concession card or not. But I digress. In my state the types of fostering I can think of: - emergency - short term - long term - respite - kinship Now Kinship does not necessarily mean ‘related biologically’ but is closer to a ‘pre-existing relationship’ definition. Former step parent, family friend, family who’s own child is a friend of the child in need, there are many more examples too. Ours went through Kinship Care, but I’m also approved for all types care. Prior to being approved we had a young one placed here voluntarily for 30 days. Then extended to 60 days. In dealing with the government department, once the biological patent realised that at the end of the 60 days they couldn’t just take their child back, that they’d have to do classes, be monitored etc, they kicked up a fuss. At that point we were required to become accredited foster carers, which takes months of vetting and initial classes. And it broke everyone’s heart that the child had to go to already established caters for a long time while that occurred. But looking back it was worth it. Given this particular child is now in permanent care until 18, then will continue to receive different funding to transition “into adulthood” funding from 18-19years old, the parent has waived all parental rights in court, I still don’t understand why we don’t have the sensible foster-to-adopt option here. IF the child wants to be known by a different name we have the capability of doing that without needing to legally change it. for example you advise the school and the school, will enroll them as “legally is xyz, but is to be known and referred to as abc”. Once a foster placement is approved you are also then connected to outside government organisations for support. Be it classes for you, support/counselling for the child, youth group or school vacation activities with other foster children or mixed between foster and non-foster children, or support where no other child there even knows the other is a foster child. We have what’s called a “Blue Card” in my State - it’s a card to say you’ve been vetted by the the commission for children as a safe person to work with children. For fostering, unlike everything else, you apply for that same card through the government department who do a full screening first, before passing the application along to the commission for children for their usual screening and approval. We’re lucky. We knew this child’s history - not all of the individual incidents, but a lot of them as well as the bio patent and their capacity to parent. We did always hope they’d get act together and be a bigger part of the child’s life. But it never happened. In fact it got worse. As for the Mental Health issues touched on in this podcast - I’d be more than happy to provide a lot more info on the supports available here, funded by the federal government, for EVERYONE, and the other funding support available should things decline more to the point it’s referred to as a disability, and the national funding service we have called the NDIS, and the process of application, approval, what is and isn’t covered, for children and adults of all types of disabilities, and the difference it makes.

How do I turn off the fast forward on this? The video is going 2x fast

I work for new directions but in canada. We call it home share here.. we have multiple different areas on the company.

When are we doing Joe Bachelor?!

Interesting since I live in the UK

Lovely heart=Tori

I just watched the video ,drama on set ,the jc penny photo shoot ,guess what I saw ,a Joe without beard 😮I was shocked didn't even realize

The money is block over and over again through our political system. Look at who you vote for and what programs they support, and what politicians want to cut things like Medicaid, food stamps, school lunch programs. Remember this in some states they will not approve gay couples to foster or adopt. As a country we dint do nearly what we could do.

Windsor Ontario Canada your story's are amazing

She looks a little like Savanha

0:22 could feel the hate... 😬

There is nothing for disabled adults where I live…

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Crystal, are Joe and Aaron considered hosts on this podcast as well. You said you were host and just made it sound like they are sitting in. I think you all should be classified as hosts. I hope you see why I’m saying this.

First I think

I so wish my husband and I younger.Not old but not enough energy for a child of any age.❤️🥲❤️🤗😘