This Video Proves Women Are DESPERATE FOR ATTENTION

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Alexander Grace

Alexander Grace

Жыл бұрын

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@alexandergrace5350
@alexandergrace5350 Жыл бұрын
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@fredmercury1314
@fredmercury1314 Жыл бұрын
Doesn't this make women in power *incredibly* dangerous?
@rajakghosh6602
@rajakghosh6602 Жыл бұрын
Came across a post by a guy. He's in relationship with a girl for over a year. She proposed the idea to open the relationship. The guy shot down the idea that he's not sharing her with another guy. Then she proposed the idea of MFF. He shot that idea down too. She started pouting. He found that in the past she was sexually promiscuous while he was pretty vanilla. They were thinking of moving in together but now he's reconsidering the entire relationship. As usual the comments were her past is her past. Everybody has one. Be good to her and nothing would happen. I differed & said our past determines our present actions. She had multiple partners and it'd be difficult for her to stay faithful to one partner. My comment was immediately heavily down voted.
@gadohimself
@gadohimself Жыл бұрын
Of course it's gonna be downvoted bro. The machine doesn't like it when we force wxmen to take accountability 🤡
@nosotrosloslobosestamosreg4115
@nosotrosloslobosestamosreg4115 Жыл бұрын
Normies: He was a woman beater. Me: That is in the past. Normies: 🤬🤬🤬 Me: 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
@khawajamazhar9188
@khawajamazhar9188 Жыл бұрын
In going into a relationship, a man is judged by the potential of his future and a woman is judged by her PAST, not Pasta.😆
@DamianSzajnowski
@DamianSzajnowski Жыл бұрын
Link the study predicting worse long term relationship success and more divorces - at the very least piss them off more.
@ThatOpinionIsWrong
@ThatOpinionIsWrong Жыл бұрын
"Her past is her past" Yet they ignore that in 'her present' she asks her bf for an open relationship lol
@Chronomatrix
@Chronomatrix Жыл бұрын
Main problem is society does not shame promiscuities anymore.
@felipecourtois7883
@felipecourtois7883 Жыл бұрын
Wap. Funded from above.
@DamianSzajnowski
@DamianSzajnowski Жыл бұрын
Nah, you go girl, "be free" cus it feeñs so freeing to 90% of women who want a loving relationship.
@ricardodelacrvz1400
@ricardodelacrvz1400 Жыл бұрын
It does. Men are not reproducing with these hookers. Its subconscious. Only fools make babies with ratchet hoes. So let the genetics of fools be passed over. While the smart men are going extinct.
@uic505050
@uic505050 Жыл бұрын
Not even shame per se, but consequences. The pill and STD meds have removed consequences to being a hoe, so the natural control mechanisms for this behavior are gone. Morality follows incentives.
@theclimbto1
@theclimbto1 Жыл бұрын
Nothing to be shamed. Absolutely something to be avoided for those looking for long-term relationships. If some one wants to hoe, then hoe. But then don't be shocked when no one sees you as Wife material. That goes for the guys as well.
@robertfindley921
@robertfindley921 Жыл бұрын
If you want to understand how women really are, make friends with an extremely handsome, outgoing athletic guy. The real eye opener is when a woman you already know meets him for the first time. If you want to know the quality of a woman, watch her meet and interact with an extremely handsome man, and then a short ugly guy. The closer those two interactions are, the better the woman.
@nerychristian
@nerychristian Жыл бұрын
I would only do this if you want to lose your female friends. When a woman sees a handsome guy next to an average guy, she will question why she is wasting time hanging out with the average guy.
@Blox117
@Blox117 Жыл бұрын
@@nerychristian not gonna lie, i do the same. assuming they are equally interesting people, why not hang out with the more attractive one?
@themarathoncontinues4211
@themarathoncontinues4211 Жыл бұрын
@@Blox117 if you treat the less attractive one with disrespect/disregard, it says something about your character regardless.
@Magusgulf
@Magusgulf Жыл бұрын
Fantastic advice
@angelg3642
@angelg3642 Жыл бұрын
@@themarathoncontinues4211 Don't agree. Pretty privilege is real and almost every person on this planet subconsciously will treat the more attractive person better. What pisses someone off from a less attractive person will be seen as similar positive trait in the attractive person (arrogance, ignorance, clingy, creepy etc.)
@jamesr141
@jamesr141 Жыл бұрын
Reminder that giving attention to them takes time and energy from you.
@rrsp7148
@rrsp7148 Жыл бұрын
@@cv6176 Amen.
@dawnstar24
@dawnstar24 Жыл бұрын
Man I just stopped chasing girls some years ago. It's such a massive waste of time. You dm her and there's 30% chance she'll reply or engage even if you chat daily or hangout there's definitely many other dudes shes seeing at the same time
@obsideonyx7604
@obsideonyx7604 Жыл бұрын
Attention is a currency. Paying attention is saying they're worth the resource of attention (time, energy)
@Klausete
@Klausete Жыл бұрын
My Grandmother before she died told me about women: "Look at what they do, not what they say". When women complain about "all that unwanted attention" its because they are doing 2 things: Trying to stablish themselves above the women hierarchy above other women as more attractive and sending a message to her suiters that she perceives her value as extremely high, so "watch out and please me accordingly".
@jackjames1245
@jackjames1245 Жыл бұрын
Great advice. But your grandma 100% did not say this lol.
@Klausete
@Klausete Жыл бұрын
@@jackjames1245 she actually told me when I was 24 years old or so and I had a really bad breakup.
@cubandade8469
@cubandade8469 Жыл бұрын
@@Klausete lol yes she said that rite.. and what’s the second thing than
@CBfeb1
@CBfeb1 Жыл бұрын
@@jackjames1245 😂😂😂
@fatherleo4603
@fatherleo4603 Жыл бұрын
You're grandma was a wise, high value lady. Bless her!
@Kanfachan
@Kanfachan Жыл бұрын
“Social media is to women what porn is to men.” - Rollo Tomassi Each medium provides psychological and emotional stimulation which fulfill the needs of each genders sexual mating strategies.
@michaelzero5278
@michaelzero5278 Жыл бұрын
Very well said 👏👍
@SuperSAIYAN_NumbeR6
@SuperSAIYAN_NumbeR6 Жыл бұрын
I don’t watch corn I don’t date women . Why would I deserv one that is always stuck in the phone . Every time I walk on the road “ btw I lost ma ma phone months ago I can buy another if I want to but I got no one important to talk to really “ so most girls always have phones in their hands and taking selfies am just observing . It is a pandemic I always tried to fit in but I have had enuff I couldn’t even get the attention I wanted 😂😂😂😂😂😂😂 what a joke . Friends are just jokes if I’m excess😂
@rrsp7148
@rrsp7148 Жыл бұрын
No wonder all lot of woman have many followers on Instagram and they make their profile so decorative.
@fatherleo4603
@fatherleo4603 Жыл бұрын
Scary thing is women love porn just as much as men do, if not more.
@Kanfachan
@Kanfachan Жыл бұрын
@@fatherleo4603 Sorry bro, that’s not true. Women love porn about as much as men love social media. While it is a lot, it’s no where near as much as men’s love of porn. The porn industry (and by extension the sex industry) would go out of business if it relied solely upon the patronage of women.
@jamesmeezy3114
@jamesmeezy3114 Жыл бұрын
15:39 he is spitting facts. A UC Berkeley sociologist did a case study on teen pregnancy in the late 90’s. All the teen mothers knew unprotected sex could get them pregnant. She concluded there is no such thing as an “accidental” pregnancy. Women know the man they are laying with. Teen pregnancies are half planned by the woman by consciously putting herself alone in that situation with a man. All the teens mothers in the case study did it intentionally because they came from poor backgrounds and saw their parents working dead end jobs and didn’t see any future for themselves. They all had low-self esteem and thought having a baby depend on them would raise their self-esteem by having another human being love them and depend on them.
@technoloverish
@technoloverish Жыл бұрын
Are you saying it should be illegal for women and men to be alone together
@jamesmeezy3114
@jamesmeezy3114 Жыл бұрын
@@technoloverish No. I’m saying women KNOW where they are going and who they are with. They know what time it is when a guy text them to come over and chill. They are not doing that with a guy who they are not attracted to.
@seribelz
@seribelz Жыл бұрын
''They all had low-self esteem and thought having a baby depend on them would raise their self-esteem by having another human being love them and depend on them'.'.. ouch, that's so dangerous. It really fucks up a childs mind.
@markbrookman8233
@markbrookman8233 Жыл бұрын
Well... that AND the government pension and child support... Which is more likely the truth. ... 😉
@jamesmeezy3114
@jamesmeezy3114 Жыл бұрын
@@markbrookman8233 I agree. It doesn’t scare them of how they are going to feed their kids because they grew up with government support too being poor.
@anthonywilliams7052
@anthonywilliams7052 Жыл бұрын
Nora Vincent lived as a guy and was shocked how we were treated, when she spoke up her "side" turned on her so much in the end........ she "sent herself to Heaven".
@crimsonsr1000
@crimsonsr1000 Жыл бұрын
That is immediately what I thought of
@CloudSephiroth
@CloudSephiroth Жыл бұрын
And she only lived as a guy for 18 months.
@isnberg7029
@isnberg7029 Жыл бұрын
In Voluntary Madness, Vincent details her decade-long history with treatment-resistant depression
@isnberg7029
@isnberg7029 Жыл бұрын
@@CloudSephiroth she lived through decades of treatment-resistant depression
@nosotrosloslobosestamosreg4115
@nosotrosloslobosestamosreg4115 Жыл бұрын
@@isnberg7029 Men have to endure similar stuff but when it comes to self deletion, "he didn't man up."
@m4riokartph3nom
@m4riokartph3nom Жыл бұрын
I think the reason these women complain about getting attention is more so due to the fact that they feel the need to point out to other men/women that they are in fact getting a lot of it.
@uic505050
@uic505050 Жыл бұрын
@@hungrymusicwolf Means even more attention
@jimmydavo249
@jimmydavo249 Жыл бұрын
It's women virtue signalling saying essentially "better snap me up before the 40+ other options I have do", not realising men know *majority* of those guys are only keen to screw, nut and bolt, which repulses the men who aren't cuckolds or simps
@seribelz
@seribelz Жыл бұрын
humble bragging
@gumdeo
@gumdeo Жыл бұрын
Brag hags.
@senjusan6359
@senjusan6359 Жыл бұрын
My grandfather who was insanely healthy his whole life and hard working, around age of 85 fell down from staris and damaged his spine so much that he couldn't work anymore. He believed that men who is not capable of working and providing is useless and shouldn't exist, so he took his own life by hanging himself. That's how much he derived his worth from his responsibilities, that is why what you told in this video is 100% true.
@aren7138
@aren7138 Жыл бұрын
Rest in peace to your grandpa :( I'm so sorry that happened.
@senjusan6359
@senjusan6359 Жыл бұрын
@@aren7138 Thanks but we accepted what happened long ago. This was his own decision and his wife knew that this will happen as he told her that in such case this how would it end. We learned to respect his decision, he achieved a lot during his lifetime and without him most of my family wouldn't be where we are right now.
@mig7290
@mig7290 Жыл бұрын
That's incredibly sad. He was more than a real man but made a mistake.
@lenniegodber7805
@lenniegodber7805 Жыл бұрын
“Women are not the perfect angels that you think” Well … clearly
@eodyn7
@eodyn7 Жыл бұрын
You just know her dad isn't around.
@gertytk5528
@gertytk5528 Жыл бұрын
Women want attention even from guys that they wouldn't date or have sex with. It's just that it's annoying to them when those guys try to hit on her and it gets in the way of her trying to hook up with a guy she wants. In other words: women want validation from everybody, just not intimacy.
@Teglamen
@Teglamen Жыл бұрын
Seems right.
@uic505050
@uic505050 Жыл бұрын
I question how annoying it really is for them. Often the complaints are more to highlight how much 'better' she is than the 'losers' who try and hit on her. Essentially that she's so great that the average guy isn't even good enough for her. Pathological narcissism.
@technoloverish
@technoloverish Жыл бұрын
To an extent, yes, though some women are lesbian and not interested in attention from any men at all
@emmanuelignacio247
@emmanuelignacio247 Жыл бұрын
@@technoloverish I don't know why you're always pointing out that 2-5% (and that's stretch) of the population of every single country around the world. We're talking about the majority here. Oh wait, are you a woman?
@maidende8280
@maidende8280 Жыл бұрын
Absolutely. It’s only when men we don’t like get aggressive or handsy that we dislike the attention, generally.
@anthonywilliams7052
@anthonywilliams7052 Жыл бұрын
We should show compassion to people that show it to us, not to those that act like we are beneath them.
@anthonywilliams7052
@anthonywilliams7052 Жыл бұрын
I had a high school girlfriend like this I'd never have guessed she told me she'd had "fun" with 5 guys AT ONCE and did things like this many times.
@RR-et6zp
@RR-et6zp Жыл бұрын
total count of 2 is too much
@jkfd97
@jkfd97 Жыл бұрын
@@RR-et6zp Anything beyond virginity disqualifies any woman in the world from monogamy.
@RR-et6zp
@RR-et6zp Жыл бұрын
@@jkfd97 bingo
@sevinchorujova3114
@sevinchorujova3114 Жыл бұрын
I think she is suffering from sex addiction. She needs help!
@maidende8280
@maidende8280 Жыл бұрын
@@jkfd97 What about widows?
@rejectwokeness1314
@rejectwokeness1314 Жыл бұрын
The point about why women have kids to continue having attention is mind blowing... It's kinda true, post wall women post so much about kids, be it their own kids or their friend's kids. Cos they know kids get attention and can help in their own virtue signaling
@Torantes
@Torantes Жыл бұрын
This was eye opening insight!!
@kevinmurry8803
@kevinmurry8803 Жыл бұрын
Yesterday, a female security guard in the bank harassed me for some free attention. I am angry because I entertained it. I also have a female coworker who loves interrupting whenever I am occupied. I know now how to handle both types of situations.
@Clark_Kent_ZA
@Clark_Kent_ZA Жыл бұрын
Please tech me
@kevinmurry8803
@kevinmurry8803 Жыл бұрын
@@Clark_Kent_ZA First, ignore them. They are seeking attention. Don't give it to them. Second, if ignoring them doesn't work, interrupt them while they are speaking and advise them to get attention from somewhere else.
@alexanderhaven3289
@alexanderhaven3289 Жыл бұрын
You hit the nail on the head with this one. For most onlyfans models who retire it's not the money they miss it's the attention
@MemoryofSouthVietnam
@MemoryofSouthVietnam Жыл бұрын
There's a reason all major successful societies severely restricted relationship freedom of women and men in the past. They didn't have the statistics back then, but it made sure pair bonding remained intact.
@lxdead5585
@lxdead5585 Жыл бұрын
I got a shocker from my dad last week. My grandma is getting weaker each month and she became much more open, straight forward with stuff. Mym dad was informed - like it would be a statement about weather - that his father's father (my grandpa - died last year) wasn't actually his father. My grandpa's mom had an affair with someone. Over 60 years and secret like this is shared like it's nothing xD
@mob2081
@mob2081 Жыл бұрын
Wow.
@redrustyhill2
@redrustyhill2 Жыл бұрын
Just more proof that women have never changed and never will and its starting to make sense why ancient laws demanded adulterers be stoned.
@lxdead5585
@lxdead5585 Жыл бұрын
@@redrustyhill2 Kinda funny since my grandad had like 7 siblings, he was the youngest one and he was the only one that wasn't his father's son.
@redrustyhill2
@redrustyhill2 Жыл бұрын
@@lxdead5585 so she made him pay to raise another mans offspring for another 15 years? Despicable
@niojackson938
@niojackson938 Жыл бұрын
Like I told the broad I used to deal with.."you will get the power and freedom you trying so desperately to attain, it's inevitable, it's supposed to happen but it will also come at a very high price, a price that deep down you wish you didn't buy into..you want power, you'll lose love, you want love you'll lose power"..women not built for handling of power, so her chasing it, she loses herself, and has a miserable love life..and we all know how important that is to women... Everything has it's consequences.. THE GOOD, THE BAD, THE UGLY...EVERYTHING
@j4513
@j4513 Жыл бұрын
As a girl who is apparently an “angel“ for not letting a man touch me until I married my husband, and every female friend I choose to keep friends with is the same way… what we have reduced our society to completely disgusts and angers me. And the fact that so many men are left between choosing between trash “sloots,” as my husband calls them, girls who will only screw you over in the end as their complete lack of integrity already proves… Or being alone… (Or that rare off chance they meet one of the the unicorns.) Makes me simmer with anger. My husband and I are both Russian, so he found me in Russia. My husband says get the hell out of the west and meet women in other countries, including certain Asian countries. But he says do *not* bring them back to the west. It’s a rare woman, and only one with God-given integrity down to every drop of her blood, that will not be corrupted here. Don’t ever count on a woman being that. Angels exist, but they ain’t in the west. Not since your grandmother’s generation.
@owaingillam1665
@owaingillam1665 Жыл бұрын
FACTS
@neltins5308
@neltins5308 Жыл бұрын
There are some very christian communities inside America at least, probably UK & other western countries but I don't know too much about them. America despite all the degeneracy & hedonism in its culture is also still largely influenced by a Christian/conservative base and that is to be expected since, Christianity is literally a bedrock of America as a nation, so much of the way & the reason America evolved into what it is, the philosophies & way of perceiving the world is directly due to interpretations of the bible. There are even christian communities inside Africa if its a black American on the search for a virtuous virgin black girl to marry and Australia since the British influenced both as well. I do think the advice for the general average American white man to just go out to Russia or Asia, or more realistically with all going on in some countries right now Eastern Europe (excluding Ukraine currently sadly) to find a traditional women is solid as long as the man is a cosmopolitan type guy willing to embrace other cultures & even raise a family around a culture he may not have had growing up. For all men of Hispanic descent they can go to South America, or one of the island nations like Cuba, Puerto Rico etc in an attempt to find this as well. Of course, men will find that nature is on their side in all these places since they enter the top 1% just going there with American levels of wealth if they were only in the top 20% in terms of financial class there but the women are just in general more feminine, friendly, cooperative. It's every American's god given right to own a passport, travel & experience all the countries they want to, adventure outside of just America.
@johncarlson6472
@johncarlson6472 Жыл бұрын
You're right in your assessment. This is why men from the West are migrating to the Philippines, Thailand, some Latin Countries and other Countries where decent women can be found. However, like your Husband says, do NOT bring these women back to the West. Sad, but true.
@onthegogaming109
@onthegogaming109 6 ай бұрын
I'm sorry to say, but Russia and Eastern Europe are now almost the exact same way. I'm speaking from personal experience. Одни проститутки и измены.
@muhammedlawanmusa5738
@muhammedlawanmusa5738 Жыл бұрын
I think masculinity = competence. Even more than responsibility
@RR-et6zp
@RR-et6zp Жыл бұрын
with responsibility comes AUTHORITY. The west has unliked them
@proosee
@proosee Жыл бұрын
I'd say "agency" fits even better: you might be competent, but to scared to put it into good use, or, on the other side: there are disciplines where traits other than competence play a big role, like for example bravery, patience, physical strength - the common denominator for those scenarios for being considered masculine is agency: the fact that you can get your skills/features and build some value out of it.
@ricardodelacrvz1400
@ricardodelacrvz1400 Жыл бұрын
masculinity these days is all about being money smart, emotional intelligent and proactive. at least for me.
@muhammedlawanmusa5738
@muhammedlawanmusa5738 Жыл бұрын
@@ricardodelacrvz1400 It always has honestly but emotional intelligence is promoted more nowadays and that ain't a bad thing
@muhammedlawanmusa5738
@muhammedlawanmusa5738 Жыл бұрын
@@proosee Or maybe it's a combination of all 3 and more
@dlbattle100
@dlbattle100 Жыл бұрын
With online dating, women getting older isn't as big a deal anymore. I know women in their 50's and 60;s, and over weight women, etc who use online dating and still get hundreds of matches. They do complain that the guys only want sex once or twice and then move on, but it's not like they are completely cut off from attention.
@gumdeo
@gumdeo Жыл бұрын
Yeah, but they know that being used as a human toilet has little upside for them.
@goofywill90
@goofywill90 Жыл бұрын
Women need attention like Men need respect. Interesting stuff to know to meet others half way
@Meianju
@Meianju Жыл бұрын
I see, this explains exactly why most women get up earlier to put on makeup and why so many of them say it's for themselves. Even though it sounds like a lie it isn't entirely one, it's to feel validated. Also explains why their makeup is so over the top because they get more eyes on them, regardless of it it's shock or beauty that others see in them.
@MilanElan
@MilanElan Жыл бұрын
Thank you for this video! Female 5/10 AdHD engineer here, never had female friends. This explains my life, my mother is a narcissist who was once the prettiest girl in her village and married my dad for money, I got my dad's common sense but his ugly looks and I've never understood women though I'm biologically one. I always related to guys and pursued a degree that would provide me financial independence to make myself worthy of a good man that I could choose. So the even headed of us (not all but i did) still do things for a man's approval whether we admit it or not. This video also explains my mother who at 60 years old still goes online to find affirmation of her opinions and men to date at her age
@beeman7711
@beeman7711 11 ай бұрын
You understand that guys don't value women based on their education, accomplishments, and independence, right? It actually makes it harder to find a quality man. But a woman with an agreeable, feminine personality is better than a 10/10 woman with a combative, garbage personality... looks aren't as important as personality to me. I was married to a 9/10 vulnerable narcissist (divorced her). If your mother is an actual narcissist than I'm sorry you had experience that... people don't understand the degree of damage they can/do inflict on anyone close them... especially children.
@computerguymiguel
@computerguymiguel Жыл бұрын
For men to understand this well, I think the best way is having genuine female friends. I've always had female friends growing up, mostly because I enjoy talking about feelings and that is not something that I could find on my male friends. But the point is, getting to know women that aren't romantic interests to a deep level helped me see them the way they truly are, without sugarcoating them with love and delusion.
@e36do69
@e36do69 Жыл бұрын
Wimp
@Torantes
@Torantes Жыл бұрын
Where do you find them tho? I can't form friendships with women I am sexually attracted to
@Maybe-cg2tn
@Maybe-cg2tn Жыл бұрын
As a woman, I love having male friends. It's when a serious romantic relationship with a man that everything goes to hell. I think you should do well.
@Maybe-cg2tn
@Maybe-cg2tn Жыл бұрын
@@Torantes I believe you missed the point. Do you have to be sexually attracted to a woman to be a friend?
@computerguymiguel
@computerguymiguel Жыл бұрын
@@Torantes Don't try to be friends with women that you feel attracted to, that's the whole point. In my experience if you treat them with respect but with clear lack of interest in anything else, they'll feel comfortable with you. it's hard to explain because I developed this over years, but what I do is treat every woman in a friendly way and only once I see something that I like I would go for it. By treating everyone nicely they tend to be comfortable with you and friendships naturally happens. Having sisters may have helped me to have a reference on how to treat them.
@alinkuri4429
@alinkuri4429 Жыл бұрын
Gents, your time, attention and money are valuable resources. Dont waste them with wrong people.
@myentertainment55
@myentertainment55 Жыл бұрын
Yes, for the worst cases , don't give to people who openly disrespects you and don't value your time in a slightest. Yes, even if she is hot. You will be surprised who many people don't do even it.
@christoph3187
@christoph3187 Жыл бұрын
Great video, thank you for that. It struck me how you mentioned girls excluding each other from their circle as a form of punishment. I can see the same with my daughter in kindergarten, so much exclusion mobbing going on, it’s really stressful for the little girls. My son also in kindergarten resolves conflict much more often in other manners, so it does strike me as being engrained in our biology.
@metalgrinch
@metalgrinch Жыл бұрын
The funny thing is that every, EVERY woman will deny this about themselves vehemently, and may even fight you in denying it.
@ryanzhao2052
@ryanzhao2052 Жыл бұрын
The part about responsibility driving masculinity is so true. Life is always so busy that I’ve never stopped and analyzed that aspect of my life.
@thabangmogale8977
@thabangmogale8977 Жыл бұрын
I don't think responsibility is the direct male comparison to female attention, I think it is the RESPECT that comes as a by product of your responsibilities and successes being recognized. Being responsible for a myriad of things doesn't necessarily result in respect if those responsibilities are not recognized and acknowledged. But I suppose as men we inherently respect each other for the responsibilities we carry, so maybe it is responsibility at the core.
@yummygummy2133
@yummygummy2133 Жыл бұрын
Being respected for accomplishments is how a man measures himself, the better he's doing and the more he's respected, the more he'll gain confidence. Makes sense
@alexanderg8466
@alexanderg8466 Жыл бұрын
I would say STATUS
@kirdref9431
@kirdref9431 8 ай бұрын
Saved me some typing there...good job.
@jimlyon7276
@jimlyon7276 3 ай бұрын
Having retired from work, I'm SO glad to have now escaped from having to suffer from incompetent management, especially as they often project it onto others! ( While they may have "higher" education [ which is usually a scam &, being deliberately "dumbed down" is of poor quality for most courses ] ). In result of which, many people with degrees have a poor grasp of reality ! Thus are appropriately referred to as "superior idiots"
@fightinandirish
@fightinandirish Жыл бұрын
That's really interesting what you said around the 15 minute mark. You described my mother. She had her first child at 17. Throughout her youth, she watched her brothers be encouraged to succeed and off they went to become pilots and police men. She was never encouraged to do anything, she was often put down by her mother who told her "you'll never be as pretty as your mother." You've blown my mind with this insight, thank you!
@jonthomas9708
@jonthomas9708 Жыл бұрын
Not exactly a nurturing mother then - at least not for her. Children need fathers, imo not least to protect them from the mood swings of their mothers
@fightinandirish
@fightinandirish Жыл бұрын
@@jonthomas9708 Not nurturing at all Jon. Her Dad was harmless but more interested in partying with his pals. In turn, my mother wasn't very nurturing to me and my father died when I was a child. I was subject to my mother's wrath in the same way she was subject to her own mother's. I know it won't be easy, but I'm resolved to break the chain of poor parenting.
@jonthomas9708
@jonthomas9708 Жыл бұрын
@@fightinandirish Good for you. My childhood wasn't so bad but raising my children my guiding light was "not like that". They're doing fine and I'm very proud of them. I have always had great confidence in my kids; not that I didn't give them guidance. I just recognised their individual qualities and was reasured that they were not like me :)
@fightinandirish
@fightinandirish Жыл бұрын
@@jonthomas9708 That's lovely to hear. It gives me hope for the future. I don't have kids yet, but I hope I'll do right by them when I do. You sound like a solid parent. Having confidence in them and giving them guidance. I wish ye health and happiness, all the way.
@_6-6_
@_6-6_ Жыл бұрын
holy sh!t i've watched this 3 times and im so blown away how much this makes everything click
@ryanwelch1321
@ryanwelch1321 Жыл бұрын
This is why ignoring women destroys their psyche and their self-esteem.
@acdude5266
@acdude5266 Жыл бұрын
The best video you have made. Fair but honest and informative. Explains the source of obstacles that men encounter when dealing with attractive women online. Addiction is a generalized phenomenon that can be manifested in process addiction,s such as attention addiction and narcissistic behavior, as well as or in the absence of substance addiction. It is important for men to be aware and conscious of addictive and narcissistic individuals and groups such workplaces and candidate romantic partners. Thumbs up.
@1thim1
@1thim1 Жыл бұрын
Dear Grace, This video was highly informative, thank you so much for making it! I'm curious what men is likewise desperate after, and how to stay above it and why we have that craving as women has craving for attention.
@johntrench
@johntrench Жыл бұрын
Men seek sex, a bit of consistent admiration and respect, affection, domestic support and tranquility, and loyalty, fidelity, and submission the their leadership in a durable long term relationship. We are instinctively driven to seek those things from women. They are important to us because we instinctively seek stability, peace, steady sexual fulfillment, and confidence in the paternity of the children we have with the women we select to offer commitment to. This is why men are instinctively averse to offering commitment to women who have been promiscuous, because they cannot be depended upon to stay in a committed relationship-indeed, the CAN be depended NOT to be-and it is why men are generally averse to committing to single mothers, particularly single mothers who refuse to have more children with their new men. Men in general are instinctively repulsed by the prospect of investing their resources into the genetic legacy and equally repulsed by women who refuse to men their own genetic legacy.
@brbqsauce
@brbqsauce Жыл бұрын
Real world ended in 2012. This is hell. We all are in hell.
@critterdude311
@critterdude311 Жыл бұрын
I would argue 9/11, but yes, I agree in general.
@Fallensky17
@Fallensky17 Жыл бұрын
Everything turned upside down in that year I noticed. So you are correct. We got transported to hell.
@norapodlasky8278
@norapodlasky8278 Жыл бұрын
''You just want attention but you don't want my heart''
@Sasquatch10
@Sasquatch10 Жыл бұрын
This is one of the most eye opening videos i've watched from you.
@AlexBobalexRavenclaw
@AlexBobalexRavenclaw Жыл бұрын
This was really beneficial and well-articulated. Thank you for putting this in a compassionate perspective. I was just reflecting with my husband about this. When I was 18, I was taking selfies galore, basking in the likes and attention. It’s hilarious even, because 5 children later, I’m exhausted with the attention I get from them. So you’re right!
@corvus_knives
@corvus_knives Жыл бұрын
Happy new year to you, Sir A. Grace! XD
@ConservativeSatanist666
@ConservativeSatanist666 10 ай бұрын
13:00 This is absolutely true. The last relationship I was in was for 5 years. Most of the time it was okay but there were times when my ex would act a fool for one reason or another and be completely out of line. If I try to argue with her or set her straight it would only continue to fight and draw it out. But I learned really quickly that when I shut down and just didn't say anything other than are you hungry and only the absolute necessity in order to live with somebody. Not talk about this situation not talk about my feelings nothing.. it was business only or I went back to ignoring her and doing my own thing. Giving her the silent treatment had an impact on her that nothing I said ever could.
@Stupidspencer1
@Stupidspencer1 Жыл бұрын
Alex, you made a comment about how men's sense of purpose isn't tied to whether they have children or not. In my experience of life as a man, there did not seem to be any social pressure for me to have kids. But once I did have kids I noticed an extreme social pressure from anybody and everybody in my life. That was a social pressure to "live right" and to "do the right thing for your family". All of a sudden, standing up for myself seemed to become wrong. For instance, if a guy straight-up dissed me before I had kids, nobody would have cared that my reaction was to sock him in the face. But after becoming a father, that same reaction was met with scorn and shame. I don't know if anybody else has had that experience, but after a few years of this, I felt completely emasculated and really just fell into the habit of being a pussy to avoid being shamed by both men and women for "being a bad example to the children". Now that I am no longer married, I will say that conforming to the social pressure to be a pussy was the wrong choice. I should have pissed off all the people around me in defense of my ego whenever it was necessary, because not doing so led me to depression, anxiety, and low self-esteem, which in turn led to my wife taking the kids and leaving.
@Torantes
@Torantes Жыл бұрын
Thank you, noted
@jonthomas9708
@jonthomas9708 Жыл бұрын
Did you sock guys in the face a lot then?
@Soma2501
@Soma2501 Жыл бұрын
Needlessly escalating the situation with violence is irresponsible. What you need is stoicism, so you're not manipulated easily by emotions like anger.
@redrustyhill2
@redrustyhill2 Жыл бұрын
Punching someone because they say something you dont like is very immature and childish. No emotional control. Such a man is better off not raising kids.
@jetmad79
@jetmad79 Жыл бұрын
I do not want someone who is perfect, but I do not want someone this disgusting. This attention seeking is out of controll. Yesterday I found out that one of the girl I tutor is cutting herself. We talked about it, and one thougth crossed my mind is exactly this. She do it for attention. Women of today are lost.
@jetmad79
@jetmad79 Жыл бұрын
And she told me, in her middle school she is not the only one.
@oldscratch3535
@oldscratch3535 Жыл бұрын
Tell her to stop being a wimp and cut deeper next time.
@Gnomesmusher
@Gnomesmusher Жыл бұрын
I do think women do things for attention. But I can't agree with you on this one. Self cutting is not done for attention. It's a coping mechanism to deal with depression. It's because self directed pain or stress actually triggers the brain to inhibit negative thoughts and feelings. Of course self cutting is NOT a good way to do this, a healthier way is to take cold showers or baths, but self cutting is NOT an attention seeking behavior.
@jetmad79
@jetmad79 Жыл бұрын
@@Gnomesmusher no, it is about attention. She is lost in this world, and wants some guidance, someone who pay attention to her. Depression can cause suicidal ideations, but even depression root cause is in disfunctional relationship to the surrounding community. Which usually means that noone is paying attention to the depressed. It is a cry for help, without words.
@Gnomesmusher
@Gnomesmusher Жыл бұрын
@@jetmad79 No it's not. It's a sign that they need help for sure. But attention is NOT the reason they do it. Most people who cut themselves HIDE the injuries. How is that attention seeking? The neuroscience behind it is very clear.
@P_Mann
@P_Mann Жыл бұрын
There is a fundamental problem with society ascribing significant value to the results of simply not controlling your natural urges. Breeding is a default function, not an achievement, and keeping a child alive to adulthood is the absolute minimum.
@paulcooper5748
@paulcooper5748 Жыл бұрын
It's like dealing with a spoilt child.
@Seanidor
@Seanidor Жыл бұрын
I'm a 39 year old male that hates responsibility, I avoid it like the plague. Yes, I have a job, pay bills, take care of my family, and so on... but I don't enjoy it at all. I don't/can't understand how men can actually enjoy being made responsible. Maybe it's because I'm very likely on the autism spectrum, but to me the idea of finding joy from being given more and more responsibilities is just absurd. I take care of my responsibilities so i can then finally afford to do the things that I do enjoy.
@jianquanma
@jianquanma Жыл бұрын
no one enjoys it, you leanrs to enjoy because you get women and respect
@Maybe-cg2tn
@Maybe-cg2tn Жыл бұрын
You don't have to be solely responsible. Men could feel much better if they quit feeling solely responsible. That's on you. A lot of women these days don't see things like that. Take some pressure off yourself. These days there is immense pressure and not much can be done about it. It's not one person in a relationship to bear anything alone. That goes both ways.
@robertrichards4930
@robertrichards4930 Жыл бұрын
This is why "Karens" exist.
@Fallensky17
@Fallensky17 Жыл бұрын
Older women acting out for attention. It all makes sense.
@marcgardner9865
@marcgardner9865 Жыл бұрын
I’m reminded of a situation with my last girlfriend and my laptop. I had this very old laptop that barely ran so, I decided to put Linux on it. I was having trouble loading Linux and spent about 2 hours trying to get it to work. She got so jealous of me spending time with that laptop and not giving her any attention. I was expecting her to be encouraging me along in an attempt to get it to work but, instead she created drama. I was confused at the time, but now I know why she did it.
@DruuzilTechGames
@DruuzilTechGames Жыл бұрын
I don't even know what self esteem feels like.
@yitzchakepstein2142
@yitzchakepstein2142 Жыл бұрын
I have no empathy for this. Women are manipulative and play with men like we'rre toys, as if we have no feelings of our own, and serve no purpose other than provide, status, money, and attention. Maybe if I got something in return, I'd have some empathy. However whereas responsibility is a status symbol that requires work and benefitting others, attention serves nobody but yhe person who recieves it. It's devastating to find out a person you find so charming, is only charming because they like the attention. Whether it's a friend, a family member, or a lover. It's narcissistic and honestly revolting.
@alexanderg8466
@alexanderg8466 Жыл бұрын
I would say that it is both ways: Narcisistic but also attractive.. I mean men are biological design to fall into women's charm and femininity. It sucks but nature always win. Women will suck your success as if it is hers. She will suck your life and resources. Men are only the seed. Women are the generational success so humanity never perishes. Nature don't care about people, care about RESULTS
@carlospita6442
@carlospita6442 Жыл бұрын
I agree with you my brother
@marcbraun5342
@marcbraun5342 Жыл бұрын
I heard from a friend that a female acquaintant of ours really struggled through the pand*mic, just because she couldn't see people as frequent and easily as before, his description did sound pretty awful. Like me, he didn't bother about that condition, quite the contrary, we had an excuse for the sweet solitute that brought it and could secretly relish it. Not the reason for it, of course just the isolated situation it brought with it.
@mrneoneil999
@mrneoneil999 Жыл бұрын
Alex no one is living in that myth that women just want to get married we know it's false and have learnt to live in this reality lol
@alexandergrace5350
@alexandergrace5350 Жыл бұрын
Be careful with your assumptions. Lots of men are not aware, we were all ignorant once
@lepenseurfranc
@lepenseurfranc Жыл бұрын
You'd be surprised how many guys especially young and inexperienced men live in this fantasy. I was too.
@MiriadCalibrumAstar
@MiriadCalibrumAstar Жыл бұрын
if u all ever do is look in the same direction and see ONE color, you wont know that if u look in another direction you could easily see other colors. Learn to observe, learn to discern patterns of high quality woman.
@thechosenone93
@thechosenone93 Жыл бұрын
Exactly! They don’t want to get married! I’ve been saying this for years,they don’t want to be tied down but they just SAY they do because after 30 the whole game changes
@jl5264
@jl5264 Жыл бұрын
I believed in this lie til I was past 30
@Brian-L
@Brian-L Жыл бұрын
@Alexander, a fascinating topic and spot on, as usual! Is this a recently modern western construct? Do women in eastern cultures exhibit this behavior? What about indigenous tribal communities?
@Osamu_dazaiXD
@Osamu_dazaiXD Жыл бұрын
In india even women are just replicating the same behaviour as western women.
@BrandonCourt
@BrandonCourt Жыл бұрын
Feeling amazing after watching this an reading the comments
@keiko909
@keiko909 Жыл бұрын
lmfao! that guy on the end looking at her and thinking "wtaf?"
@Synochra
@Synochra Жыл бұрын
lol I remember a time where I woulda been shocked or at least surprised by any of this, a long long time ago that was
@kalalit
@kalalit Жыл бұрын
Is that York University? Looks like Vari Hall at YorkU. It's like 2nd or 3rd floor of Vari Hall.
@ot4kon
@ot4kon Жыл бұрын
Being that stranger and that guy ending sealing the deal in the first date I can confirm.
@Tormalima
@Tormalima Жыл бұрын
Recognition is the currency of masculinity. Just think of every male-centric movie you've seen. Regardless of whether the main guy won a volleyball tournament or a boxing match, or a war, the point of success is the moment he "wins". When the music kicks in and he's done the thing, and it's recognized. He's graduated to being a Hero. So recognition for men and attention for women isn't that different..which makes sense. As we're all human.
@iamsyourdadi
@iamsyourdadi Жыл бұрын
You are wrong. In your analysis you only used winners which is but a small subset of all men. the vast majority are happy just be of value and contributing even if no recognition ever comes of it. thats why those 2 are very different
@facelessandnameless
@facelessandnameless Жыл бұрын
The difference is that recognition comes only after hard work and sacrifice. Women want attention simply for existing.
@KC_Eden
@KC_Eden Жыл бұрын
OK, I was, legit, playing along! 😂🤭
@blackwater7183
@blackwater7183 Жыл бұрын
WDYM?
@khawajamazhar9188
@khawajamazhar9188 Жыл бұрын
A man is judged by his future and a woman by her past.
@G31M1
@G31M1 Жыл бұрын
The girl I'm talking to told me how she gets sad sometimes about the fact that her cousin usually gets so much more attention from guys than her. The thing is that they have more or less the same measurements (they share clothes often times) with the girl I'm talking to being 3 inches / 8 cm taller. Since she is 5 ft 10 / 1,78 people are maybe a bit intimidated by her height. Her cousin is also way more extroverted and maybe looks more approachable. But the girl that I'm talking to used to be an amateur model and has a way prettier face I would say. (I mean sure, you could say that this is just my personal taste or subjective impression I guess.) All in all I found her getting sad about this a little bit ridiculous because I don't depend on this validation through attention so much. But seeing this video made me more empathetic I think.
@Psacastillo
@Psacastillo Жыл бұрын
Thanks for sharing 🙏
@alltaken0
@alltaken0 Жыл бұрын
best hair style yet
@888records
@888records Жыл бұрын
I actually do think this video is staged due to her looking at the men at the end but the reason people stage these videos nowadays because their is truth behind it that there’s quite some women like this out there. They just know that people are getting more aware of it and that this kind of video format would go viral
@leopardsbasketball
@leopardsbasketball Жыл бұрын
It's just that bad behavior gets people's eyeballs. It's that simple. Who cares if the soul is destroyed, at least she got you to look.
@prbmax
@prbmax Жыл бұрын
As I grew older, I recognized that it was attention and drama that women crave but as you pointed out in so many words that drama is the means to more attention for women. Even if she is getting all the attention she wants from the HVM, it will wane in her mind therefore she becomes "Not Happy." The man she will most likely settle for is a man who will always be 2nd best at best. Women can and do leave these men in the blink of an eye because she can honestly say, "I never really loved you" or any iteration of this.
@trence5
@trence5 Жыл бұрын
Wow.... So you should genuinely ask her if you love me, or WHY do you love me , when the two of you are alone to get an honest reaction...
@Razorider1
@Razorider1 Жыл бұрын
i dont know about having empathy/sympathy for them (the modern day party girl). THey have the ability to choose how they behave. You can't just lay blame on "thats just their nature" 100%. of the time.
@caucasianafrican1435
@caucasianafrican1435 Жыл бұрын
Once women stop getting attention from the hottest men, then they want to get married? And if they decide to leave, their husband loses everything.... Hmmmm.... bad deal?
@lordtomosdecree
@lordtomosdecree Жыл бұрын
Put a finger down if you you believe society has reach the point of extreme moral decay
@mrpoopoohead7668
@mrpoopoohead7668 Жыл бұрын
the small town (8,000) that I live in the high school juniors/seniors had a competition throughout the school year, how many juniors or seniors could get pregnant from guy at school? either the juniors or seniors would win or it would end up a tie? not sure which class won, but imagine how many guys they were with to finally accomplish the "win"?????
@Victory4thePpl
@Victory4thePpl Жыл бұрын
Excellent video Alex. thank you for reminding me to empathize with my partner more. I have to constantly remind myself im not perfect either.
@pvvnz9031
@pvvnz9031 Жыл бұрын
I found an interesting post from internet comment somewhere. "Women are using 2 currencies: physical currency like us men, the other one is social currency called attention. The more attention they can get, the more social wealth they can feel."
@grizzmax
@grizzmax Жыл бұрын
I urge everyone to watch this video, it's extremely insightful. Only one point I disagree with which is at the very end. I follow the war in Ukraine closely and women do NOT make up 20% of the fighting force. This is not to say women are not as brave as the men. They are. But personel are needed of the home front as well. Protecting the family or herself by escaping the war is necessary. Families, children, the elderly all must be provided for and taken care of and this is where women are most needed. Men are dying and injured in droves on the battle front. I travel around the countries which are receiving the refugees from Ukraine. The vast majority are women or women and their families; children and the elderly. Hardly any husbands or fathers. Capable men are all either fighting, dead, injured or trying to keep the infructure going.
@diemervdberg7661
@diemervdberg7661 Жыл бұрын
men are not allowed to leave the country with some exceptions. That's why you see only women and children or 60+ yo men.
@jimmyjohn8285
@jimmyjohn8285 Жыл бұрын
Good video Alexander but not sure I agree with your responsibility analogy. I like my job and all but I mainly go to earn a paycheck, not to intentionally take on more responsibility 😕
@alexanderg8466
@alexanderg8466 Жыл бұрын
I don't think you like your job
@errorerror1337
@errorerror1337 11 ай бұрын
Instead of responsibility being the equivalent for, I think competence may be a bit more accurate. Just like attention, there are productive/good and unproductive/bad areas where men can be competent. Being competent at video games is like a woman who derives self esteem from random thirsty guys' likes or comments-it may fill a hole inside, but it's not helping either of them to develop into high quality people. I think this is a big reason why bossy women have a tough time: they have competence too and they're so often keen to demonstrate it, so they're more likely to criticize a man, even for something simple, because they believe they know better. I think a lot of women have had to develop that competence but then they don't know how or when to dial it back and let the man be the man.
@kirdref9431
@kirdref9431 8 ай бұрын
Recognized competence equals respect. Boss babes: Very few of them are competent. Mostly they are just playing an empty game of dress-up.
@DamianSzajnowski
@DamianSzajnowski Жыл бұрын
Doesn't being a good caring father correlate with responsibility?
@bigscarysteve
@bigscarysteve Жыл бұрын
Now I understand why women who were demure throughout their teens and twenties suddenly start flaunting their bodies when they hit thirty.
@michaelstrohmaier5456
@michaelstrohmaier5456 7 ай бұрын
9:50 How can taking responsibility lead to an increase in self-esteem? You simply take responsibility because you have to.
@josecortez5213
@josecortez5213 Жыл бұрын
She's cold and introverted. Unless Chad is around.
@Stassis
@Stassis Жыл бұрын
Attention is the coin of the realm in girl-world.
@dc1397
@dc1397 Жыл бұрын
I think that balloon comb popped on his beard.
@alexanderg8466
@alexanderg8466 Жыл бұрын
I agree with the attention thing. I think I've only sseen shy girls who hide their need for attention. But I've never seen a stoic woman ever in my life.
@TheArccam
@TheArccam Жыл бұрын
Disclaimer: I am not necessary trying to be divisive or attack his argument. I believe he extremely correct but I don't think responsibility is the same measure of masculinity. Masculinity I've always seen as being determined by some level of accomplishment. As a matter of fact the nature of men is competing against each other. Think about it... when a women see's another women getting attention it's the same as when you see another guy being accomplished. There's a sense of unease especially if that guy is someone you grew up with or went to the same school with or were friends with. You start to feel like you need to be better because this other guy is better than you and came from the same place. Not necessarily jealousy but like how Vegeta feels towards Goku (sorry for the anime reference). We crave success as men, that is what I've always thought masculinity applied to. Achieving the goals you set out for yourself, this is only time responsibility links to masculinity. When that responsibility is something you as a man set out for yourself. That's what attention is to women, it's why so many have social media accounts where they pose and put on makeup/nails/hair/lingerie and reap the likes and follows. Which only encourages them to post more...and more... and more. Even the laziest men, when put into an environment with hard-working men will simply try their hardest to keep up or at least look like they are doing something. The reason is the fear of being perceived as weak, something rather emasculating. Responsibility is a side effect of trying to achieve something really, not it's main goal. Think about how in the past and maybe even now a man would impregnate a women then abscond to avoid the responsibility. While yes it's cowardly, it simply shows that the nature of responsibility itself matters. Even the most headstrong of men have been guilty of this, the reason is they don't see the prospect of raising a child as a worthwhile endeavour. It's only really something that men want when they feel that having a successful marriage or relationship is a priority. That goals can be personal or communal, usually a combination of both. LIke Messi would tell you he'd trade all his individual awards for the world cup, because it's not just for him but for all of his family and friends in Argentina. A lot, if not all professionals would choose an award granted to the team rather than an individual award because of what it represents. Other than that though I learned a lot about women in this video.
@e-sportsorganization8082
@e-sportsorganization8082 Жыл бұрын
Hi there Alex, can I ask you, have you lived in the UK? Possibly Brighton?
@timwarren6469
@timwarren6469 Жыл бұрын
They need to get use to it, 30's
@somebody6972
@somebody6972 Жыл бұрын
As a woman I agree with what you said
@user-jk8ef7es9s
@user-jk8ef7es9s 11 ай бұрын
Can you tell me how to treat my woman well? I need a kind conversation with you to help me out with this cuz I see you are an honest woman and you deserve respect I appropriate your deed if you give a hand..
@coleydavis8456
@coleydavis8456 8 ай бұрын
I like Alex’s explanation of men needing responsibility but I don’t think it’s actually the responsibility that men are after but the respect that comes from having responsibility.
@elvisguerra
@elvisguerra Жыл бұрын
I was a DJ here in LATAM before pandemics, and noticed how women fight for to be with a good male dancer. Once I saw a small balding guy with a lot of cool moves, and women, young and mature, were waiting for his chance to dance with him. I think that was for the "fun" before, but now I know that was due that they become the center of atention at a party. A good dance partner put more spot light at a woman dancing.
@maidende8280
@maidende8280 Жыл бұрын
I am so glad not to be a regular woman, at least in this regard!
@maidende8280
@maidende8280 Жыл бұрын
I truly don’t think Aspergers women are wired to seek attention; instead we are wired to seek responsibility & base our self-esteem primarily off that.
@Curiousnessify
@Curiousnessify Жыл бұрын
"i'm not like most women" - most women
@Victhemighty
@Victhemighty Жыл бұрын
@@maidende8280 all women say that
@MB-ss1nq
@MB-ss1nq Жыл бұрын
Oh!!!! I saw the screen shot of the video and immediately thought she was about to have a train run on her.
@rapsack7058
@rapsack7058 Жыл бұрын
It is our up bringing that is differnty and defines the need of attention. The nowdays standard upbringing that cause this difference. Most woman do not learn to build up a true independend self esteem. Getting attention and validation is allways make you feel good. As much as she has access to it as muuch more she will rely on it in the futurte. In girls groups the other observe it and copy that behavior how to get attention and validation. It starts from early on. If the surrounding, the family, the paterents, the teacher and all the other around her give the girl much attentio and validation just for looks and some attention provocing behavior they suport this need for attention nad validation. In nowdays with the social media it even became much more problematic. Boys learn from early on to build up an independend self esteem that dont rely on getting attention and validation form others. They are seldom as much in focus jst for their exsistence. They learn to get confident about what they achieved. Look how adults react on boys and girls ( age 4-12) differently. Quote: to boy " oh that that is well build" to girl: "Oh you are a pritty girl"
@maidende8280
@maidende8280 Жыл бұрын
It’s not just our upbringing though, it’s biology as well.
@rapsack7058
@rapsack7058 Жыл бұрын
@@maidende8280 There is no evidence for it. In the opposite. If you look how girls are brought up and how they are "trained" than there is a strong indication that it is more educational than biological. If you look around you will find every where in between some woman who do not seek attention and validation and are not depending on it. YOu also find social groups where girls/woman are rclose to the boys/ men in regard of seeking for attention and validation and reactiing on it. You will also find some men who are extremly depending on getting attention and validations. When you look closer you will find out that it has this all has to do how we are brought up. You will find out that in some social groups, girls are not trained to push ther self esteem by get attention and validation BUT instead they learn to build up their self esteem like most mend do. They find it by working hard for their own targets and finaly reaching them. It is not about getting applause but the satisfaction you get when you reach your goals. WHat the goals are is not so important. This kind of persons do not depend on others. They have a stable "inner" confidence. This confindence you also find by not so pritty woman, woman who were not the center of the attention and validation as kids because they were not so cute. They found/ got teached other ways to build up their self esteem. The pritty ones the cute ones often had no need to find other ways because the got the attention and validation for free. WIth the result that tzhhis woman later on have self esteem problems. By men you can find the same problem but not so often. Boys who get a lot of attention and validation for winning for being the Nr.1 will be trained that only when you are at the top you are worth. This men even if they are successfull have a low "inner" self esteem. They are emotional not stanble. Because no one can allways win, be allways the Nr1. Those men will do nearly everything to win. Some will cdross all boundaries to do so. This all is not biological. It is pure sciological, pure how you are brought up. Look around you, look at people you know, meet, you are closer to and observe them. Look how the parents are. Lok how their friends behave. You will find groups where the girls/woman are quite confident but are not seeking attation and validation and you will find groups where they do. Then look how they interact. I am sure you will observe what i have observed and not only me others as well. In psychatric clinical context the self esteem of a patient is often a crucial problem. They found out that the upbringing by parents and the surrounding play the central role what is the source of the self esteem or the lack of it. Thats why the childhood is so important. As person that has an indepnended source to build up a self esteem is much more resilliant to become mental ill as those who dont have.
@maidende8280
@maidende8280 Жыл бұрын
@@rapsack7058 There is plenty of evidence that supports the heritability of personality traits, including self esteem, confidence, etc.
@rapsack7058
@rapsack7058 Жыл бұрын
​@@maidende8280 ??? To be honest the science, the serious science, has still severe problems to determin what is based by your gene, what is "teached" . It is hard to say. The twin science where identical twins grow up in different families helped alot, but it has it limmits.
@mikemorada6290
@mikemorada6290 Жыл бұрын
0:36 hilarious!
@wiseguy240Winston
@wiseguy240Winston Жыл бұрын
I like how they shove her away at the end 😆👍🏾
@MemoryofSouthVietnam
@MemoryofSouthVietnam Жыл бұрын
I've been saying this for a while now. Just because they're Asian doesn't make them traditional. I don't know why people have that notion. A good test is to close your eyes and see if they sound white/blackwashed.
@blackwater7183
@blackwater7183 Жыл бұрын
Westernized Asians are just as bad.
@syntaxed2
@syntaxed2 5 ай бұрын
I would say masculinity is more defined by the drive to improve - Scientists, programmers etc etc
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