Thank you for watching! ❤️ Ladies, what does elegance in bed mean for you? To learn more about being a classy lady in the bedroom watch my next video 7 Things Elegant Ladies NEVER Do In The Bedroom: kzfaq.info/get/bejne/jtuTldui0b_RqXU.html

My mother always said “you can talk about anything in the right way”. This is a marvellous example ✨

Anna is a true feminist!!! She doesn’t drag other women about their decisions and I love that about her💗 feminism is about allowing women to make their decision, even if you disagree with them. I’m waiting for someone special, not marriage but someone who values me really and truly

I am 20 and virgin and I was always quite uncomfortable with the fact that if you have a boyfriend at some point you will HAVE to have sex with him to keep him. Thank you dear Anna for elaborating on this topic and reassuring me that to have or not is only my right and desire. If the man does not respect me or force me into something then it is not worth it. Much love xxx

Will someone please give Anna an award for her comprehensive and ethical contributions to womankind? Her philosophies are the perfect blend of tradition and modern thinking.

Title has SHOCKED me🤣🤣🤣🤣

Definitely not giving my cookie away to any man who doesn't deserve it, he better work for it 🙂

Excusing yourself if the sex is unpleasant or if he is in the process of doing an act that you do not enjoy is such underrated advice. I feel like a lot of ladies don’t stand their ground enough. I was in a situation in bed that I found unpleasant, and was even more uncomfortable with him being turned on by it, so I literally said “excuse me” and removed myself from there, got dressed and left 😂

if you decide to wait - you will see a man’s true colours of how much he respects you!

I can't with the flower and the gardeners 😂😂

From someone who is a bit older than most of the women on this channel, I can assure you, the guy doesn’t take off if you don’t give him what he wants. Not if he’s decent and not in my experience at all. If he does, he will never be satisfied anyway. Take care of you and your own body and live with integrity to your soul. I cannot express how important that is.If you’re not in the mood that’s OK! Do what’s right for you I totally agree with Anna, from experience.

I like that she says "Water your flower" instead of "Take your flower". Also, "Don't let any other Joe enter your garden." Spoken like a true woman. ✨💕

"You two have plans tonight?" "Just a little gardening."

I think of it that way: if you're looking for something serious then wait until you have an emotional connection with someone before you have sex. This has nothing to do with "not giving it away too soon" in a way of being "easy to get" or whatever. It has more to do with taking your time and adding a personal note to your sexual interactions. Sex will ALWAYS be better if you know each other a little more plus sex usually gets better over time so the first time usually won't be the best.

I love how Anna is becoming more and more daring😳😎

I love this woman. She is absolutely flawless in her mindset. Perfect balance between empowering women and dealing with society rules.

Anna, I met my partner and stayed with him for 10 yrs, when we met we had instant chemistry. I met him at a local restaurant for a drink. We had so much in common, he invited me to his home for dinner. I don't know what I was thinking I said "Yes" and we both drove our own vehicles to his home which was less than 10 minutes away. When I entered his home his housekeeper came to the door to greet us. She was preparing our dinner which was one of my favorite meals called Osso Buco. We drank ate and talk for hours, and by the end of the evening, I ended up going to bed with him. Years later he brought up, and you went to bed with me the first night we met. I've only been with five men in my lifetime at the age of fifty, he was number six. He had the nerve to say he's been with 68 women. What I am trying to convey, please elegant ladies don't go to bed with any man the first night. It doesn't matter how many women they have been with because sooner or later you will be judged. He never wanted to marry me I end up wasting 10 yrs with a man that never loved me. Please don't make the same mistake... Ciao Bella! 💜

I think elegant women will wait but I do think all women should wait and be selective of who they allow near their bodies.

Only Anna Bey can touch on sensitive topics with such elegance and class. So educational and helpful and I love the gardener and flower analogy ❤️Your humor is so refreshing ❤️

It’s the “being a playboy, isn’t elegant anymore”

I really like that you brought up how sex is different for women compared to men. Recently, I found out that, when a woman has sex with a man she produces a bonding hormone, the same bonding hormone she would produce after childbirth. Imagine all of the unpleasant situations, emotions, and drama that come about simply because of not knowing our bodies and how they work. Not to mention how a lot of men (and women) have been miseducated by adult films and don't know how to properly care for our gardens, as Anna put it. I will wait for marriage before being intimate with a man but for the women who don't mind I'd say three to six months of waiting. Usually by that time most of the unfavorable gentleman will have given up. Regardless of whether or not you choose to wait, you should always make sure that you and your partner don't have any diseases before you do anything. I really enjoyed this video and it has opened up a very interesting discussion. Well done Anna!

This is true feminism. This is why I appreciate you channel so much, Anna!

"Being a playboy is kinda just immature" - YES! I had to pause and like the video at that moment. I was going to like the video anyway haha, but had to go for it after Anna said that. I have been thinking this for a while as I have matured as a woman.

The way you encourage women to set themselves as a priority is unique and much needed in today's society. I really appreciate you Anna.

Anna really does feel like a big sister; gently nudging us into self reflection to see what we truly both want and deserve

I laughed soo hard when you said "if she had many gardeners coming and watering her flower shop" and seeing the gardeners collection popping out 😂

Anna never ceases to surprise me, in a good way!

I am 72 so these days are pretty much behind me but loved this video! Going to suggest my adult granddaughters watch it. Wonderful advice sprinkled with humor ❤️

I think we can all take a moment to applaud how Anna managed to discuss such an intimate and taboo subject while remaining elegant, funny and positive? Not dragging anyone down and taking the time to remind everyone of the most important aspects: to enjoy yourself, listen to yourself and be safe? And also, not do like some people who encourage you to use this area of life as a weapon or as a manipulation tool! She could so easily have given outdated or unfair guideline but she did not, understanding that feminism is about letting women make their own decisions! Perhaps it is because her view is quite similar to mine so I am biased but I really loved this video!

Anna really knows how to talk about sex in an elegant way 🙌

I am engaged to a such a good man who’s a mariner. I’m still virgin and I want to wait for our wedding night. It’s been a 6 years and our wedding will happening soon.. He respects and we both waiting patiently ❤️🙏🏻

This was a perfect balance of class and lightheartedness. I loved the phrases, "many gardeners" and "stinky flower." It got the point across very clearly without being overtly descriptive.

I'm so glad I found Anna under the age of 25. I feel like she's been training me for when I get on my 30s. I wanna be like her ❤️

Don’t sleep with anyone unless you accept the possibility of raising a child with that person. At a minimum don’t let anyone into you that you wouldn’t trust with your phone passwords and all your keys! Privacy is protection.

I am a 27 year old virgin, but I clicked so fast. LOL I need the tips, thanks Anna!

I love that you’re straight up helping women climb social ladders without perpetuating misogynistic ideas that support those social hierarchies. Getting very good vibes from you as a person

My husband, when he was my boyfriend, said he was so impressed that I didn’t throw myself at him sexually too early on. I got the impression that other women had and I was glad that I stood apart from them in that way. I wasn’t intentionally holding myself back to impress him but rather because I had my own standards of where and I how I would do things because of my age … I was much more free in my youth but by the time I met my now husband, my own standards for “the garden” were different

Thanks for emphasizing chosing to do sexual things when and as often as YOU want. It's so good to see someone in this community voice the importance of making that decision based on your own comfort and desire.

A few minutes of pleasure are not worth a potential lifetime of regret. Be selective. Take time to know the person. Never give in too quickly. Value yourself above all else. Protect your flower and your heart.

I think this is good advice not only for the bedroom, but for relationships in general. As a single mom I learned it the hard way. Sadly it still is highly accepted in society when men decide to step away from their responsibilities.

My husband is my first and only. I love Anna's input on watering the flowers.

She knew this would get clicks 🤣

When she said stinky flower, I spit my coffee out 😂😂😂 OMG lol

I love how open minded yet realistic your perspective is!The control over women's sex behaviour and seperating them to "precious" and "non precious" is such a patriarchal phenomenon few people are aware of.We us women should be careful with those people who believe these cause they might ..humiliate us

Hi Anna, I just wanted to let you know that I've been following you for 2 years now, I'm a university student and growing up I didn't have a feminine and elegant role model around me so I didn't know how to dress up, act feminine and behave with manners properly. Although I have no aspiration to find a rich partner, I've learned so much from you and I feel a lot more confident and strong as a high value woman. Thanks a lot for stepping up and creating this content 🌸

The sound of the multiple gardeners is priceless. 😂

Since I met you Anna, my life has never been the same. I get compliments from men that I haven't in my 30 years of existance. I love you and may you live forever.

I think Anna did a good job of explaining her points. And I agree with her. Male or female - remember: you hold the power for how far YOU want to go with a partner. You should NEVER feel like you "have to" just to appease the other person. And if you're being forced to do something you don't want to do but you can't leave, just know that it is NOT your fault.

I really value that you said that women should have sex when they WANT to have sex. It's sooo important and varies according to the woman, regardless of the expectations put on us by men.

I WAS SO SHOCKED WHEN I SAW THE TITLE 😳

"Ladies i dont want you to be a sexual doormat" haha ohh Anna you have such a way with words!

This is by far the best guidance I’ve ever heard on this topic! Anna perfectly and politely says to enjoy yourself while respecting yourself.

Anna is so refreshing 💙 she takes her content very seriously! Keep going with the good job Anna, you deserve ✨

Ladies let’s have our flowers watered elegantly

I mean, safety measures are never safe, except birth control probably. But even that wouldn't save you from a disease or an infection. I think it's better to keep men away until you find a trustworthy partner. Momentary "fun" isn't worth the health complications down the road.

“You don’t want to be q stinky flower” 🤣🤣🤣🤣 I’m balling.

Anna, I love the way you speak about different topics, especially controversial. I know people like to disagree with you (of course not everyone will agree, which is fine) and say you’re not a feminist, but truly, you are. You handle those situations with such poise, it is truly inspiring to watch you. I started watching your videos a few years ago, and was so glad to be able to be educated on how to become more elegant, things I never got taught but have always had an interest in. Growing up around people who don’t share the same ideologies when it comes to behaviour, there was never really anyone I could learn from (in terms of how I wanted to me). So truly, these types of KZfaq channels have been such a great help for 1) feeling less alone in my behavioural ideologies 2) providing advice in such an elegant way so that there is no offence if people haven’t learnt these things yet 3) being such a great role model Thanks Anna for great content. You’re doing a wonderful service and I look up to you immensely!

A lady should be able to say ‘no’ without guilt. And sex is not the most important part of a relationship/marriage. It constitutes a very small part in my opinion. Caring, respect and love are much more important.

Can I add point 4? Women don't "hate to" put up with anything they are uncomfortable with, emotionally, physically, morally, etc, even if "everyone is fine with it", be that sex acts, sexual behaviour, porn use, involve other people and whatever you don't feel OK with. It is ok to set boundaries. You are not selfish, prude, unrealistic, controlling, bla, bla, bla. Value yourself, your ethics, your views and feelings. If the guy is not OK with your boundaries, and acts with disrespect to your feelings, he is not good for you.

Removing yourself from an awkward situation is what I did too, that's a really great tip, you dont have to be somewhere you are not comfortable, specially if you are starting with your sexual life. Great tips as always 💖

Anna, this is my favourite video you've ever done! I feel like you're my wise, protective aunt giving me compassionate yet practical advice :)

Dear Anna, is so refreshing hearing someone talking elegantly about such topics. I've been following your channel for a while now and I have to absolutely say that you exude femininity and grace.

I was waiting for someone to cover this topic, I never thought Anna would be the one, eager to watch the video! Edit after finishing the video: I couldn't agree more.

Being true self is the hardest thing and the most valued by everyone. Elegance means high standards I expect and do offer, the respect for my needs same as for others’s. Love your videos Anna.

I love how she includes personal brand in here 😂😂😂😂 This is literally my favorite channel to watch on youtube ❤️ thank you for all the constructive advice Anna 💯🙌🏼

The mannerism you display Anna whilst debating on such a sensitive topic is highly appreciated.😊

This was so fun to watch! I wanna send this to all of my girlfriends who feel they need to please their insufficient boyfriends! Very good advice for any lady really

I’m honestly so thankful that you are talking about this topic!! It’s nice to have an elegant point to refer back to

I wasn't expecting Ana would discuss this. It was a good topic, love it and you are nailing it Ana. Discussing sensitive topic maturely and elegantly.

I am totally agree with you Anna. S£x must be taken seriously, and it's such a shame that this is still considered a tabú in our society. If everybody would talk about it openly, there wouldn't be so many problems like aids, hiv, undesired pregnancies etc. I'm glad that you are sharing this content with the world, and I genuinely hope you can reach out as many people as possible! We really need educative contents as this one. I've been watching your videos since the beginning of your channel, you're a great woman!

Anna you're such a botanist today!

No one ever told me these things- so I didn’t realize these things until this year and I am 30 and in a relationship with my sons dad. I Wish I would have had this video 12 years ago. I used to give it away to the shittiest guys. I’m so glad my sons dad is respectful and loving

Anna, you're so thoughtful with every topic you cover. I love that you are so positive and supportive of women and helping us understand our authenticity to ourselves is so important and CAN be elegant. I was laughing with you as well with the "gardenerSSS" part 😆

Such a fun talk for the younger ladies - your "special effects" are hilarious!! Multiple gardeners and then the squeaky springs while just laying there had me laughing out loud!

Anna's content is blooming these days!!!! This was a MUCH MUCH needed topic. Thanks Anna

I think "being present with your partner" is great advice. I've tried to be what I thought the man wanted, and I've tried to be what I thought I wanted out of a situation only to end up disappointed. Finally figured out that connecting in bed is similar to a great conversation: Give and take, reading the person, and being present in the moment. It also helps to get to know them a bit before hand. Think about how great chats are with a friend versus small talk with a stranger. It's just not the same.

Thank you so much Anna, I really appreciate this video, not only do you empower women to make they choices they feel are right, but you empowered us to be present in the moment. You know I have a few male friends and for them there is nothing more "man- repellant" than a lady who doesn't take initiative, always let's the man do everything on his own and never brings any new suggestions to spice things up. I am grateful for your encouragement to be present, live in the moment and just have fun.

Thank you for covering this topic, Anna. With so many false information roaming around, it's good to have this topic addressed by someone who is practical and honest. I love the fact that you put emphasis on safety and on treating sex as a duty. Many women think of sex as a duty, as something they have to do in order to keep their man. Love you Anna ❤️❤️❤️

Not being a people pleaser is key. I totally agree. I made that mistake in the past.

THIS is true female empowerment! Dear Anna, I’m 1000% with you 💗!

I personally think that Anna was trying to remind us that each one of us has its own needs to be fulfilled and that we also have the power to control our own destiny and take our own life choices

Wow i'm genuinely surprised but in a good way that she covered up this topic... Thank you, Anna! I have tought about this more than i was conscious to be honest

Ladies let's talk about flowers and gardeners! This was a funny surprise from Anna. Lol.

One of your most direct and funniest videos ever!!! So proud to be an A Lister. Anna you really answered these questions! Much love. 💚🌸🌸🌸

Anna you have a way of explaining certain topics like no other, you are amazing! I agree with a lot of things that you said ❤️ I personally want to wait until marriage, is a religious and a personal decision, I think that is something special and I want to share it with the right guy. 🌹

The most elegant delivery on this delicate topic ever! Thank you, Anna!

This video was so fun! I liked how she suddenly couldn't stop laughing but what she said was actually really good. I like how she always came back to ' whatever feels go for you'.

You just get better and better every video. I love the european in you that holds back/restraint on the intimate matters of sex. You didnt mention positions or sexual acts. You gave us the information to just think imagine what the benefits are when we apply your advice and make our own decisions.

Anna, could you talk also about this hot topic: not all women want kids and that is actually TOTALLY OK. And about the fact that a family can also mean just husband-wife, without kids and that dosen’t make it any less of a family? I was so surprised to see that answer on your IG story a while ago, with that lady who had the audacity to label a woman without kids in her ‘late 30’s’ ‘not elegant’? Some people do think like that and it’s their right, but at least they should stop TELLING SOMEONE this. Like ‘no, you are wrong and I am right’. It’s ignorant and immature. Personally I do want kids, but it bothers me to see women judging other women for not wanting them. I understand that women are associated woth kids cause they are the ones able to give birth to them plus they are on a biological clock men aren’t but it’s very personal and it’s everyone’s CHOICE. I don’t understand where the ‘love, peace and understanding’ are gone, as you said in your podcast:)))

Hey Anna, great video as always! I wonder if you could make a video about when to bring up serious topics (religious beliefs, how many children you want, finances etc) in a relationship because I'm really struggling with this. Obviously I don't want to look desperate, but I don't want to get emotionally invested in a man then have to break up with him because our hopes for the future aren't compatible.

Anna is a feminist to me, a 62 year old who remembers when that word was a positive. Anna wants us to take control of our lives and our bodies - including enjoying the heck out of having our flower 🌸 watered!

"Try and put a lock on the garden until the gardener has showed himself worthy enough to come and water your little flower" 🌼💧Couldn't agree more. A garden's key should be given to whom that would take good care of it 🗝

You handled this topic so elegantly and with taste. Anna is such a good communicator.

I lost it when you said “let’s talk about the gymnastics” Oh Lord🤣🤣🤣🤣💀💀

You know ma'am, I'm a menswear expert (and Master Tailor btw:) and gentleman ship trainer. Your style has made me subscribe to learn the other side of the coin. Also your funny, the multiple gardners made me laugh too. Have a good one and I look forward to your other videos to learn more. P.S. also I'm a straight male too (no shame to my gay friends, you guys are cool) P.P.S I just finished the whole video, the bad lay stare up the wall made me choke on my drink with laughter in a positive way 😆🤣.

"Especially if she has many gardeners coming & watering" I nearly died laughing at this! Oh my god 😆 but hey I envy how she looks so damn good and classy even when she's just laughing 🤍✨

Anna, thank you for being HONEST. Thank you for not regurgitating empty baseless third wave feminist talking points that, 'there are no rules', 'if people see you a certain way that's their problem', and 'casual sex is empowering.' There are VERY few women influencers who will admit these raw truths today, though these would have all been obvious five decades ago: that our society IS still structured with patriarchal norms, that frankly that will not change - biological imperatives drive men to favor women who have less partners historically because of the likelihood that resulting offspring will be his own, and her better ability to pair bond with him and raise his children - that women ARE viewed a certain way based on our sexual behavior, and that we CAN control more of our own image and the way we are treated by being selective with sex. Literally, what you say here would be considered controversial, and I wouldn't be surprised if some feminist finds this video and rips it to shreds under the title, 'can't believe this- female 'mentor' shames women and defends the patriarchy'. However, that's all irrelevant. You are being honest, and you are correct. (and yes, i'm a female and look up to Anna).

I respect this video a lot. I already know people will be shocked by the title but it is not judgemental and it is good advice

I'm so glad you're around, your advice is wonderful, and so many of us need a place to hear it.

I love that you are not pressuring anybody to wait till you are in a relationship! Because when I cliked on the video I was almost sure you would say to wait till commitment. I personaly wanna wait as long as Im able to, but I dont know if Im able to wait 3 months for example... it would be a challenge