Watching your child is NOT babysitting!😡 Going to the store to shop is not quality time for yourself. That's running errands to purchase household needs! It's a chore, not "Mommy" time!!!

It's NOT just semantics. It's very telling. Saying he babysat his own child? Huge red flag. Huge.

I'm not against all age gap relationships, but this one appears on the surface to be what a lot of them are (especially a 40 year old with a teenager) where the man wants someone they can easily control. And you're right, it seems like they're baiting people for views.

The way the young woman was sounding annoyed/kinda in disbelief when she started that video about the husband "babysitting" as an extra christmas present- it seemed to either completely go over the husbands head, or he was pretending nothing was wrong with that on purpose, and you see the young woman smile/ back down when he says its the "greatest gift" for a wife/ mother and kisses her and his child... Its so sad.

He babysits his own child and marries other peoples child. You can never convince me that he met her when she was of legal age. As a mother to a daughter you would have to rip her from my arms and call the police if a 41 year old wanted to marry her

Dang Girlie that fit is gorgeous 😍

'When we were young'?? Girl, you're STILL young! And he was ALREADY old!! Wtf

It’s always the way older men getting with barely legal teenage girls that I’m always confused why people defend so hard. Like bruh are you under the impression you’re gonna get your own teenager?

this was a result of grooming, 100%. he was her high school friend's DAD, and her friend (his daughter) didn't go to the wedding either if that tells you about how it's perceived even by some of HIS family. they "got together at 19" but he knew her as a kid. the most damning part is that they've lied multiple times about their story to try and cover it up. first they told the truth on yt, then they deleted it and made up another story about her meeting him when she did waitress work, and then they lied again and said she met him when she was out at a bar with her friends. so while they're telling the truth about HER family and how they factor in, they're trying to bury his side which is significantly more damning than just a family not approving of their daughter marrying a way older man or something. i don't trust this for jack shit - both from the vibes in those videos, and from the facts.

“why are you having children?” Speaking from experience with the “men” i’ve talked to in my life; it’s all about wanting to continue their legacy. However that would insulting to the child lmao. They just want a mini me. They don’t actually want to raise a human

At 19, I dated someone much older. I am only 22 now but I hold it as the biggest regret of my life and have a lot of shame over it. I can’t imagine if I married them.

He keeps interrupting her which is another red flag. His energy is off, something is creepy about him 🫣

As a father, I've certainly never viewed spending time with my children as babysitting. If he had sent her on a surprise spa day, then he could call that gift. His father obviously failed in teaching him how to be a man.

I know some of these points are in the video, so consider them an seconding of those issues. 1) You don't 'babysit' your own damn kids, they are YOUR KIDS - don't have them if you don't consider it your job to look after them, whenever or however, because you literally never know when your kid might need you for even the smallest thing. 2) 'Freedom' shouldn't be a fucking GIFT to mothers - even if there's stuff only she can do, and the kid will tend to go to her for stuff, don't make your kid feel like only their mother will listen to them. 3) I confess, maybe I'm reading into this too much and I'm willing to admit this is from a white person's perspective, but anybody else find that phrasing REALLY FREAKING CREEPY coming from a white husband who's old enough to be this black lady's dad? Like, it would be weird and creepy from any older guy to his much younger wife imho, but that particular situation is just like 'ew, why would you EVER say freedom is a 'gift' to them?'

RTG is a bombshell. Even without the wigs 😊

Dude to SAY out into the world “I’m not gonna nor do I wanna have kids!” Is *SO* brave. *ESPECIALLY* as a person with a uterus. BRAVA chickie!! 👏👏👏 Blatant honesty. Another reason I adore you and you’re channel!!

my personal view on this age gap is very biased because i’m 19 and my dad is 42. he was 23 and my mom was 24 when i was born, which may be young to some people, but still, i personally cannot see this without also seeing power dynamics. even if it’s not predatory, most 41 year olds are pretty set in their career and may already have a child from a previous relationship, whereas most 19 year olds are taking a gap year or just begun college. very different life places, but we don’t know these people or their stories.

Im a gay guy, and when I was 18 my brothers ex girlfriend hooked me up with a 30 year old sex offender. Was a teacher who got caught with his student. She knew this before she introduced us. He was extremely controlling and abusive. I wasn't allowed to have guy friends, even if they were straight. He went thru my phone on multiple occasions, and found nothing. I was young, and stupid, but I eventually broke it off with him when he threw my phone out the window. After I punched him, and he left me on the side of the road. That age gap was way too much. What does a 30 year old man have in common with a 18 year old kid? It's sick, and I feel embarrassed about it to this day. I think people mature the most 18-24. I dont think anyone over the age of 30 should have anything to do with someone 6 years younger than them. It almost always ends badly. Just like mine did.

There would have to be such an unlikely set of circumstances occurring for it to be arguable that this relationship is anything but grooming. As a 25 year old dating a 36 year old, I am incredibly aware that it takes a very particular set of circumstances for an age gap to be healthy. I had a life that propelled me into desiring stability and having high expectations that many people in my own age bracket couldn’t meet. At 19 though? With someone actually old enough to be your dad? At 19 I wasn’t mature enough to be dating someone long term, period. And now she’s locked in with a baby and hasn’t even realized what is most likely years of manipulation occurring. The fact also that he was willing to say her mom was scared for her daughters life without feeling the need to clarify, almost sounding proud that the mother was so disturbed? Either they’re trolling or something is very very wrong. I hope this poor woman doesn’t become a dateline episode.

i just started watching ur channel, your tattoos are so pretty 😇 brains don’t fully develop until 25, not to say you can’t make sound decisions beforehand. ofc you can, but i think we can all agree you’re more prone to rash and not fully thought out decisions. a teenager (19) is so impressionable…

Babysit? That's his own child that he contributed to bring to this world! The heck! Does he want to get to know his child?

As a somewhat recently divorced 26 year old dating a 42 year old I definitely think where that younger person is in life and mindset play a huge factor. Never thought I'd be in a relationship with someone with such a gap but he and I met as adults I'm a homeowner etc. He meets me where I need stability and maturity wise and it's great but there's been very honest conversations about the issues age gaps can present and we actively communicate on such things. But he also completely understands the nuances of mens predatory behavior towards young women and can identify that and how he would feel if his young daughter once grown up was in a relationship with an age gap like ours

Okay so I was groomed by an older man from about 16-22. I never knew his real age, he bought me gifts and everything felt conditional. He scared me toward the end cause I wasn’t putting out (I later learned I was asexual). I’m now 35 with a guy that’s 14 years older than me. I have a better sense of self at 35, and there’s just a different air about the one I’m with now. It’s in the lack of leverage it feels like he’s trying to put on me. I’ve been chronically ill all my life to the point everyone is always going to have more experience than me, more money than me (I’m on disability) and stuff… but there is something to say between the night and day behaviors of a groomer and a healthy age gap relationship…

His whole demeanour ewwww. So…looking after his own child is part of her “present”? Was I hearing this correctly?

Watching your kid is not a gift... it's a responsibility

Just after my 20th birthday I met and started dating a 26 year old man. He was manipulative, abusive and cheated on me. At the time the age gap was a little strange but when I turned 26 I realised I would never date a 20 year old. It's also worse because Iv always looked younger them I am. His ouw mother told him I looked 14-16 when she met me. 😵‍💫

Ohhh no their shorts have been popping up in my youtube for like a year now and the guy is genuinely so creepy, some of their videos have such a dark vibe to them like he seems actually scary 💀 and the fact she moved away from all of her family to POLAND with this man…… I get such bad feelings about him

I’m 28 and my boyfriend is 39. Like that works, and we are at a mature level of understanding. Where as a 19 year old and a 41 year old is just wild. She gonna leave his ass lol

Reminds me of Boogie2988 where he's with a 20 year old woman and he'll be 50 years old in July, he's old enough to be her Father and she has daddy issues. I'm okay with younger/older relationships but there's a limit imo, like 10-ish years.

that shirt really suits you! especially with the short hair

I think this whole thing reads abusive. He gives me the creeps 😖

I just find it annoying how’s there’s a narrative when it comes to age gap relationships is that if you chase an older man he’ll take care of you or if you chase younger women they will keep you young when that’s not even true. Young people are not entitled to make old people feel youthful last time I check that comes within age and just life in general. Plus old people are not Guaranteed to give you an earlier retirement, I mean her giving birth to this guy kid shows what purpose she serve in. I don’t really care much for age gaps relationship because it’s really not my business but to advocate people to go an do that as if this is not the act of a grommer? It’s just very damaging. It’s like promoting every other degenerate narrative that’s celebrated on TikTok when in reality it’s not a fairy tale depending on the person you settle with. It’s just weird.

sooooo, i had many things that came to mind when seeing the tiktok & knowing the deets: 1. a 40-something father calling taking care of HIS OWN CHILD for a few hours babysitting? and sounding tired/annoyed because of it? 2. her father & brother didn't show up at the wedding and she's flippantly like "whatever", his dad walked me down the isle? i am 100% positive it broke her father's heart. 3. her father most definitely saw the flaring red flags in a FOURTY YEAR OLD man going after his 19 year old daughter. 4. what SANE / MENTALLY STABLE 40+ man marries a barely legal young woman and quickly gets her pregnant? 5. he most definitely wrapped his webs around her BEFORE she became 18... AIN'T NO WAY he didn't get to her when she wasn't a MINOR. age gaps are perfectly fine AFTER the ages of 21-25 to lets say 40 or even 50. but a BARELY LEGAL 19 year old & a 40 year old man? THERE WAS GR00MING INVOLVED.

What’s even creepier about this is that he already has a daughter and she’s the age of his now wife!

I question why anyone over 34 would date a person that is under 30. It just feels icky. 🤢

About the rain, yeah your audio is a bit echo-y, but still very understandable, and I'm just happy to see a new video from you, so thank you for the upload!

That guy gives me a bad vibe. He doesn't even let her finish sentences.

YOU NEED to look into Jessica Kent, she's gone WILD

Unrelated but I think you look great with shoulder length hair!

A lot of guys say that a lot of young girls look for older men because they are looking for stability. Which usually young men don't offer yet and for the most part they want to be messing around with different women before even thinking about settling down. I was 19 when I met a guy who was 30 about to turn 31. My friends were grossed out, but I thought I was just mature. I never had any boyfriends through highschool never dated anyone so he was my first one. It was hell and only as I got older and began to realize he was just manipulating me to fit what he wanted. Since we have been going out a lot I thought that we were girlfriend and boyfriend, but I was so wrong. He knew I had no experience what so ever. He worked with one of my friends and he was flirting with her and other girls. I could clearly hear him. Well when my friend asked him if we were together he said no. That he never asked me to be his girlfriend. So he had the right to be talking to other girls. To say the least I was extremely hurt I cried and by that time I had fallen for him. I had that little girl mentality that we were going to be together forever. It took me awhile before I finally was able to let him go, but through all that time I let him use me, I did as he pleased just so I can be his girlfriend. I later found out he had a 1 or 2 year old son and the mother of his child was one year younger than me (18). Thinking about everything that happened he had so many red flags, but I was just too stupid to see it. He really did get a gullible stupid girl. I regret meeting him and now im just grossed out that I even liked someone that old. Now that im able to see through their bs I tell girls younger than me to be careful and if I see something that is wrong I let them know so they can hopefully think about it. Ladies be careful and don't waste your youth on some of these older men. There is usually a reason why some of these old dudes are single.

Giulia, I really wish I knew you in real life. I think we would vibe well! Love your content, thank you for making it, I know life isn't easy and you are pushing hard. ❤

Oh my gosh, you look so good😭😭😭

Omg I’m so glad you’re making a video about this!!! Got a reel of this couple in my feed about a week ago and…. Well, I’m glad someone is talking about it.

Off topic, but you look badass in that outfit 🖤

Love your hair style and color

This is reminding me of Aaron Taylor-Johnson dating his now-wife when he was 18 and she was 40, which definitely started only then and not a moment before. /s.

This “young wife” and mother always looks mentally disturbed , like her eyes always look like there is a LOT of CRAZY energy behind them, like she’s going to snap at any point and do something incredibly horrific, like stabbing her family to death or something. This couple rubs me the wrong way and annoys me a bit for that reason. I think we will be reading about them in the future and not for good reasons.

It’s pouring rain here in Boston Massachusetts. You look great

looking good love the short hair. Rocking it. And the rain adds ambiance 😀

This man has cut her off from her family, all of her friends, and then has her living in that country illegally. It’s an entire mess.

He wouldn’t even let her mom be present at the babies birth and won’t let her family meet the baby

When it comes to age gaps, people support it if the woman is older than her guy. Why is that?

I’ve had a cautious eye on this couple ever since they started making content when she was pregnant. I could see a mile away that something like this was going to happen. If that much of her family was adamantly against their marriage, it could have been more than just the age gap they were worried about. I’m very suspicious of a man in his 40s who thinks it’s a good idea to peruse a girl who is only 19. A few weeks ago she posted a video that was just her standing in front of the camera with her baby and the caption said “I used to be a hot 19 year old but now I’m a wife and a mom.” That right there really seems to be saying a lot without saying much at all…

I rarely have seen your real hair and you look so BEAUTIFUL!!

unrelated- your hair looks gorgeous, stunning

so many of my guy colleagues have said over the years how much they hate being home with the baby. I could never have a baby, never ever, because i don't want to raise it alone, and apparently that's a very big risk

i seriously thought this trend was a joke, making fun of age gap relationships…

Another reason why I never want kids. That age gap though…Kids Too much of a strain on life, not for me ever, and nothing about a child creates happiness for me. Plus I’m a lesbian so physically impossible to have a child outside of adoption, as we both got “fixed”.

It is not babysitting, its parenting. Its important for ppl to know the difference for sure.

love your outfit.

I'm 41 and thinking of dating a 19 yo is disgusting to me

The Charlie reference killed me hahaha. I would also be like him in a situation like this.

I love your outfits and hairs.

But i think the question should be asked is "Why do young girls love older men so much"?

I was with a 30yr old when I was 19 and he was an awesome guy but I just didn't think we could relate with pop culture and stuff. Not a bad guy at all just thought it would'nt work out.

OMG YOU ARE SOOOO BEAUTIFUL

Big oof. I think it is weird but sadly legal.

Sometimes I wonder if the reason people start posting stuff like this is like a cry for help. Or to have evidence if anything ever happens to them… not wishing that on anyone clearly

Off topic but this hair is so beautiful on you! 🔥

this look *chefs kiss*

You know, as an 19 year old, well 20 this year. I can safely say I am not at all prepared to br an adult. I am not 100% sure what I'm doing and at this point I am jusy winging it. Like, if I dated someone in their late 40s they would be old enough to be my parents, which is weird as fuck, and we are at totally different parts of our lives. They're busy having their midlife crisis while my brain isn't even fully developed. Also, I can safely say I would not be responsible or finacially stable enough to have a kid, I would be completely financially reliant on an older partner, which on avarage is not a healthy dynamic

On topic. If my husband called watching our children babysitting we would have a SERIOUS issue. Shopping for the family alone is NOT free time. Cleaning without kids under your feet is NOT free time, a shower is NOT free time! As a SAHM of two toddlers I can assure you that. So gross!!!!

Also something you didn’t mention is that he has a daughter the wife’s AGE and they did NOT like each other when this all began. There’s even more to the story. 🤦🏻‍♀️

i wanna know how they met. my money’s on a sugar daddy website, or that was some sort of agreement before they became serious. idk what her background is but a lot of these age gap relations between old white men and young black girls/women is bc of that. i know several black girls from college that lived that lifestyle. and yeah you get your money but usually at the cost of your boundaries. and that may not be the case here but it should be a larger conversation than simple “get your bag, sis”

Great video! Yes the males in the girls life should vet the man she is dating, sounds like they did and saw his bs where she doesn't. Your look is awesome ❤ gorgeous ❤

you look AMAZING with short hair

Hi Glare! 😐🫤😑

Oh it seriously pisses me off too. Babysitting says to me that the parent who never or rarely takes care of their kid especially alone is doing so and the other parent (the one who is the primary care giver) should be gracious for that little gift. Absolute horse shit but not uncommon

it feels like these couples make these videos because people already criticize them, so might as well make lemonade. Obviously this looks like grooming and in a few years, when the glamour fades, she will realize that she is married to someone who took advantage of her. She already sounds kind of annoyed at his parenting style, imagine a few years with a little more experience, when she sees her kid become 19 and she realizes "i would never let a man take away my child, how could that even happen to me". These kinds of relationships are always like watching a car crash

It is not babysitting if its your child, im so over this bullshit my god, and the thing of saying its the greatest gift to a woman that she can go grocery shopping without her child wtf

Love your real hair ❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️

I had one of her videos pop up iny insta reels! Bunch of people in the comments were expressing concerns for the woman's safety :(

7:27 And that is why we have been #TeamCharlie since the very start!

My husband hates it when people call it baby sitting, they're his kids as well

Off topic, I am obsessed with this top! Can someone please tell me where it’s from 😢

Am I the only one who's actually kinda weirded out by the fact that he's a white dude joking about how he's giving the "gift of freedom" to his black wife who is taking care of his biological child? I mean I'm not even the kind of guy who "makes it into a race thing," but I can't help but wonder what sort of role this woman has in his life.

There’s 15 years between my wife and I, when we started dating I was 53 and she was a few days shy of 38. I'd known her for two years before that and as friends I had feelings for her. I never told her how I felt as I didn’t want to creep her out asking her to go on a date. She’s also several grades higher than me in looks, she is almost perfect except for one thing…her taste in men, she asked me to go on a date. This guy seems to act in a very paternal or older brother sort of way. There seemed to be a keenness to get across how much she owes his family. The connection just didn’t seem to be there. I mentioned in a reply to another comment that I think it’s impossible for a father to babysit his own children. He was with them whilst his wife did another important household chore.

Reminds me of my dad and his now widow...................

Oh I’ve seen this couple before. I had no idea the age gap was that much. My only concern is for the baby. As long as they treat the baby (and she really does seem to love her daddy) that’s all that matters to me.

Nothing against her, but I see this in a lot of the young women in age gap relationships. The BF/husband has groomed her by telling her how mature she is and how she's so grown up, that she feels the need to prove how smart and mature she is. Her immaturity is driving the need to prove their relationship. And I think the men go along because they think it somehow absolves them from being seen as pedos.

Sounded like English was his second language? Maybe that’s why he said “babysit”? However! You don’t say babysit when your own kids….you’re parenting. Just bc the other parent is doing other stuff….doesn’t mean you’re babysitting… Ppl will make videos about any minor inconvenience in their lives…some just need to stay behind closed doors. Not everyone needs to know what you’re doing or getting into arguments about & getting strangers involved with it all…no.

I am not agreeing with this man but I more think he was joking about using the word "babysitting" I mean if you read their emotions you can tell they were joking about it to me at least 🤷🏻‍♀️

7:37 Sure but is it okay then to ask why a woman is 41 years old but with no man? Of course not, because they'd tell me it's none of my business.

This one was hard to keep focus watching 😅 I am no better than a man.

Glare in leather! 😍🥰😘

Hate hate hate when parents say babysitting. Like take some fricken responsibility

I have seen a video of the couple were it also mentioned I believe that he is from a different country orriginally then her but idk the details anymore as this was ages ago

That shirt looks so bomb on u

Am I crazy or is there a high pitched noise in this vid

Absolutely disgusting. Poor kid