Yeah, even though we are speaking from a BPD perspective, these kinds of things could be relevant to any relationship! We’re all human ❤

You’ve just given us a great topic for season 3!!! Thank you!!! 🙏

I want nothing more than to work things out with my BPD ex girlfriend! 4 years, 6 breakups and two full discards. Got back together after a year and she broke my heart again one month after asking me to marry her 😞 I’m trying my best to be the partner she needs but it seems to not be working

@@thebpdbunchyes please do a video about awareness of needs, dealbreakers, vulnerability factors and how to know if ready for relationship and how to get ready for one and then when ready, how to find a partner that you can most safely match with because of all of those factors so they don’t waste time/heartache on so many people that aren’t right for them. I would appreciate a discussion on being able to recognize and accept that compatibility is important and how to figure that stuff out quickly before getting attached. Can you also do a video on disclosure of mental illness and special needs in dating/relationships and friendships…even family and jobs. How much disclosure is appropriate, when and how to share the news. Also, some easy early relationship activities/discussions that helps set the relationship up for success like openly sharing weak spots and triggers and how to and not to respond for the most successful recovery through those bumps and if there are plans that can be put in place ahead of time and agreed to together. What to do when having an episode and how to handle it and having the bpd partner agree to a plan ahead of time and each time have them work harder and harder at sticking to that plan…it helps protect the non bpd partner/relieve fear and pressure and reduces potential for abuse and if the person with bpd has agreed ahead of time it’s easier for them to take accountability afterward and help tweak the plan as needed until it works for both. Can you also do a video on abuse and bpd in terms of how the bpd person could use abusive tactics and manipulation and how intentional vs subconscious and innocent that might be for those non bpd partners that get the brunt of it trying to decide if their partner is someone that can get help, learn and change or if they’re just being an asshole and need to get help and not be in relationship because they don’t try or care to control abusive behaviors. I’d love to hear from some partners with bpd stories about how they ended up using abusive tactics, particularly manipulation, guilt tripping and having some patterns that get attention, draw someone back and and how they trick people to break their own boundaries etc…the non bpd partners really need to hear how this stuff works in the mind of the person with bpd and come to terms with their experience of it in their own partnership and how to think/feel about it or better understand it and also what questions, actions and precautions or boundaries a non bpd person can ask/do that helps protect them while the bpd partner is still unaware or still working on changing. I’d love to hear from the bpd partner how they figured out they were behaving abusively, how they felt and processed that, how they got help (what kin) and how they healed and what that healing looks like in terms of length of time and committment. It’s hard for the non bpd partner to decide to stay and work with them if they have no idea how long the behaviors will be around before actual change starts to happen….even if you want to commit and stay, the reality is, everyone has a burnout point or a limited emotional capacity and it would be so helpful for both partners to be educated on how to have these discussions and awareness of limits and making a plan and not dragging on a relationship that, with the right kind of discussion and forethought, could be ended early before they’re too attached and everyone gets their heart crushed. Thanks for your work and vulnerability! These videos are so helpful.

You are so welcome! Thank you for watching!

It’s our pleasure!! Thank you so much for watching ❤️

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If you ask us specific questions we are happy to answer them!

​@@thebpdbunch I do have a question regarding walking on eggshell/assuming my BPD girlfriend can't take criticism. Are all communications with her going to be subject to uncertainty of how she will take it (hurt, feeling rejected)? Is the correct approach to attempt to communicate but with positive reassurance that it doesn't mean I think less of her? Additionally, it feels very imbalanced that she tells me my faults/what I can do to benefit the relationship but never looks at what she can improve on (she tells me often she's broken/a lot to deal with/thinks she's not enough for anyone or any good, but when it comes down to it doesn't work to improve herself and loves to point fingers at me). Ultimately it feels that I'm not allowed to voice my suggestions/feelings/emotions that could be seen negatively. What am I not getting?

@@thebpdbunch More information that may be pertinent. She has been diagnosed with bpd at least 5 years ago, sees a psychiatrist but does not go to therapy nor has ever.

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