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Looking forward to this!! Wonderful to be along the path nearby learning.

What a magnificent gift for my birthday. Thank you Teal and Team.

Praise You, Your Majesty. 🙏

I second this! 🎉

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Interesting idea! ❤

I'd be on there so fast!!

Sweet idea! ❤ love it!

Wander.. am I ? friends house to friends house...showers/ it's camp grounds or truck stops.....they help me / I help them. If math is done....rental ........not being charged for rent...../ not only time but their money. Friends say ''we go way back'' if not for them% I'd be passed on / Thankyou Life for friends''. !!!!! Say ''your different'' .... Hey what ever it ''takes''....Take good care of friendships....that's why they lasted.

But he is a good father for the children 🙈

Exactly!!! Omg! So silent I stayed in an emotionally neglect marriage for 20 years!

Same…

me too

Same. I’m exhausted and will do everything in my power to end this dynamic in my life.

Isn't she the best? No one gets it like Teal 🩵

This is totally my relationship with my mom and my ex.

Life on Earth is so sick. So grateful for Teal articulating truth. ❤❤

I could have written this. Divorce is soon to follow. It's taken me 11 years.

Aww 😢 I know how you feel

Yep- mine told me that he didn't have "space in his brain" to listen to anything about our girls (they were very young at the time)- his head was too full of his job (Navy) and that guys were "losing it - mentally" all around him, so had to be strong for his group. He was home and not away on the ship when he made that comment. It was like he had NO interest in anything to do with me, nor our girls....scary. I decided to leave - a few months later after hearing that - 15 yrs of marriage - and I didn't realize until that moment that he had no interest in being emotionally available for me, nor our children. Took a long time to see and feel the damage....even though it was happening constantly!

tell him..I shouldn't have to ASK you for support, as my husband YOU should know that is part of your purpose. Do you feel supported or unsupported by me when you need attention/support? TAKE IT FROM THERE.

He is an avoidant

@@amberpiccoli6135these can drive you crazy

I drew the same conclusion. But until I find them, I will do my best not to neglect myself.

I am going through the same thing only in my mid 40's and feel a bit hopeless Because I don't even know how to know what a healthy relationship is. I am just now learning what isn't considered healthy..

@@Iris-vo5gd I wish you an abundance of ease & grace as you pour into yourself:) I’m beginning to accept that my soul chose to experience all of this & ultimately I just want to love & provide for myself at this age. I’d like to put my hope in things getting better, however the longer I study myself the harder it feels🤣 I’m great at assisting others through their spiritual journeys yet often feel burdened by my own sadly. I wish I could find that certain someone that feeds my soul the way I feed others. For now though it feels as if I’m discontent for reasons I’m meant to learn through otherwise I just can’t wrap my brain around why the need for so much struggle🤪

@@fools_journeyman I feel you, thank you for your kinds wishes, I wish it upon both of us, be well!🙏🏻🫂❤️‍🩹

I was emotionally neglected, was in an emotionally neglectful relationship, now I realize I have been emotionally neglecting my child, I will become better for her

Thank you! ❤

​@NumHeut thanks! Did you use AI to do that?

@@wendyhuntsman176 I didn't post it, I just said thank you! And no, I didn't use AI for the "thank you". 😆

I agree, if there isn't enough emotional engagement, there can't be a romantic relationship of a real friendship. Doesn't matter if someone calls themeself a partner, it doesn't matter if you live with that person, doesn't matter if you met their family, doesn't matter even if you're married... without the emotional connection, intimacy, honesty, commitment and mutual nurishment, it's still just a situationship,. Same goes for a best friend - if someone isn't actively helping when you are struggling, especially in a crisis, it's not really a friend. Someone who's only there to play with you and only meets you when they want to have fun, ignoring any serious issues and needs, is obviously not a friend, it's only an acquaintance. It's so dissapointing when people try to fill up the role of a partner or a firend in your life, but don't actually step up into that role, as if they only want to fill the space to keep you from having a relationship with anybody else, they want the label but not the actual role. And all of that often starts with parents who want the social approval of being a parent, but don't want to actually nurture a child, provide all the resources and be a rolemodel for their child. No one should ever be forced into parenthood against their will, because no child deserves to be negleted. Even people who really want to be parents fail at their role, because it's such a difficult role. Someone who really wants to succeed might fail, but someone who doesn't even want to succeed at a role has already failed that role. Things don't just "turn out right" magically, some roles require a lot of concious effort and responsibility in order to function. I experienced the kind of parenting Teal mentioned here, where my parents would be okay with bringing me to doctor and aplly "treatments", but never wanting to solve any underlying issue that would "make me sick". My mother would constantly look for different specialists, second opinions, new treatments... she would overmedicate me and even force me into acupunture sessions for being sickly and depressed, but what I actually needed was for her to not be violent and emotionally abusive at home. My father would question my mother's methods and often angrily oppose, telling me to not take some meds and just get outside into the sun or be more physiacally active, which wasn't bad, it was better than being terrorised into various procedures, but what I actiually needed form him, was to be more involved in my life, to be there for me when I needed support, to be understanding of my needs and helping me solve problems, not just to show up once or twice a year for a few days and break all of the rules I had to live by for the rest of the year, it was a ridiculous upbringing. Of course it lead to toxic relationship pattern later on, abusive environments were my "normal", so enduring abuse for years, even in adult relationships, was just the thing to do, the only way to survive, I didn't have a better reference. I was taught that emotionally nurturing relationships were just fairy tale scenarios scripted for tv shows and movies, not a real thing, real life was just enduring constant pain to make others feel better, so they don't lash out and hurt me. It's very convenient for for family and partners to make me ill and prentend to care for me when there's a label fo illness on my head, they can then act like some supportive hero in their story and threat "my ilness" like some natural disaster that no one could forsee or prevent and that no one is responsible for, instead of the ilness being a result of their abuse or neglect. When I started to cut people out of my life, when they were shaming me with their "concern" for my health instead of problemsolving and creating mutually beneficial life circumstances, I only got more backlash and people using my decision to cut off contact with them as yet another confirmation of my "crazy behaviour". It's exhausting. I hope I can also reemerge as a new, healthy person, like you. Thank you for sharing, Your comment is very inspiring :)

You couldn't have known what you didn't know and you did what you could when you found out❤❤

My family. Negligent. But when I pull away act like I'm the problem/ crazy.

@@alexisscarbrough4083 thank you 💙

You got this 💪 💕

Would probably be the best thing to ever happen for you. ❤️

​@@taramarsh5012 that's true!

Maybe this message is here for you to consider and see whats going on. And sometimes we aren't ready to do what's necessary yet, we can be, and quite possibly this is to start the process of you acknowledging your needs. Who knows but you. Many things that are out of our zone of comfort are scary and the road or path to what you need may not be exactly what you think it will be.

One of the best moves I ever did for myself and mental/emotional health was to step out of and away from my ex 💔 There is a beautiful life awaiting you ~ open up your hand to let go of your past and then to make room for your future!

Same situation

💜💚💜😘I'm so proud of you xxx

Sad but true 😭 🙏

I WISH I could just accept it for what it is! Instead I end up on the merry go round of hope/delusion. I fool myself, by believing in the love bombs, so desperate for the validation that I actually believe it. Only for the same pattern to continue regardless of the promises. I’ve blamed myself, forced myself, fooled myself… every time I begin to feel good enough to see some hope, I end up feeling abandoned and rejected which just starts the cycle all over again. Ugh.🫣😔

You might call it pampering and acts of self love. Loving oneself without expectations unconditionally is a mindset. Expectations of external fulfillment emanates from expressing gratitudes outwardly and to self. Once we know we have value we don’t expect ego to be acknowledged and validated externally. We are enough. No more, no less. It is. ✨🤍

No, they can change, they will change, You can help them, you can save them. No No you can’t And No, they will not change

she's awesome I am finishing her book, Learning Love.

She seems to teach a lot of tolerance for really toxic behavior. There is not a lot of support for those stuck in relationships with dismissive avoidants.

Well no one is stuck. When one gets a bit of input to make sense of an avoidents behavior then they have to decide what's next for them.

@@johnmaus4408 It actually gets confusing, and you also don't see clearly what is being taken from you. I was in this kind of situation for 12 years. Saying one isn't "stuck" is just word play. It's draining and exhausting, especially when children are involved. Most of Thais' advice is on how to help them, how to give more to them, not on selfcare or monitoring when things have gone too far. Discovering Thais' videos caused me to put even more into trying to work with him, finding more compassion for him. I was simply left more drained- although I did understand him better. Also, that "bit of input" didn't come until I was already 10 years in and living in a foreign country with him with a child, in the beginning of covid. It's rather arrogant to correct the language of strangers, but you do you. I'm glad it was so easy for you to handle your situation once you learned about DAs, but each person's life challenges are different- and it's usually better not to judge or compare. I was stuck, and I didn't realize how bad it was until thoughts of un-aliving myself started popping into my head. It was only then did I begin to understand that I was in trouble, and going about solving it all in the wrong way.

Avoidant attachment is a thing.

​@alexisscarbrough4083 the strange thing is, is that I am more willing to get close to my pastor. There is some kind of connection some kind of relatability. Oh and the fact that I was told not to do it not because I wanted to... you know being annoying and holding the cats against their will. But other than that it seems rather accurate. Though I also find this similar to how Sigmas are, but there are differences.

Sooo much!!

You dont have to be homeless get a career now. Even waitresses make good money today or get your real estate license or insurance license or learn a trade.

Microdosing helped me get out of the pit of my worst depressive episode, a three year long episode, enough to start working on my mental health.

Can dr.porassss send to me in UK?

​@HAMZAPINElook in a forest, under the trees, under the fallen pine needles during the winter

@ToniMonteroromanCan you please provide the full name or the link to their Instagram page here? I can’t find anyone with the name Dr Porassss

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Hi. I believe, based on what she said they won’t realize how grotesque they’re being. Best of luck to you!

OMG Thank you so much