stay away from me i have trust issues Thanks. This is based on my personal experience. I think women have really been cheated by the sexual revolution into giving away their power. Men get spoiled by too much sex, too soon. It’s not good for either sex. Sex should be the final seal on a lifelong love, not a freebie to get a guy interested. If that’s what it takes, then he’s not worth it.

@@revolutionaryviews9702 for men more sex is better

@@RK-su4hs till they get bored & then it’s next…

I’ve ended up holding out for too long now

@Ashley Chapman I understand. These are times when men’s hearts have grown cold, but I hope you don’t throw yourself away on someone undeserving. I also understand when women stay in bad relationships so they can have kids. These are hard times for women, with few honorable men, but women do have power and can change men and the culture by withholding themselves until they find the men who treat them right.

Just as i have observed

Yeah like me from broken family, grew up without parents especially my father to guide so i feel like when a man give me attention i get easily attached and i enjoy it, its like i long for somones love and presence since i dnt have parents by my side most of the time

ABSOLUTELY

Not only, I have a very great dad and great relationship with him but still I have been in several abusive relationships. For women the ratio for abusive partners if 3out of 5 relationships, while for men it’s 1 out of 9, not all women have bad fathers, therefore I believe the reason is that most men are abusive.

But in my Case, men Run away from me when I make the first move.

@@jenniferlorence1950 hahaha you make me 😂

@@SheilaLeighGwapa LOL, lol, lol, lol that is So Cute.

Jennifer Lorence lol He even literally ran away, like really really ran away whenever he see me, damn I swear I haven’t done anything strange to him! So confused 😅

@@lalitaanne I am Sorry for that because I understand where You're coming from. And You're Right it is very confusing when a person reacts that way when they See You and you know You did Nothing questionable, but at that point when a person behaves like that know that is usually because they have mental problems. That is Not the right behavior of a person who has a Sound mind. There are a lot of people that function, or apparently they do, function properly in Society, but they are High-Functioning because You don't know if they are taking medications for a mental-illness, or an emotional imbalance that You don't know about and they react that way. Just Know that NObody with an Sound Adult Mind will behave that Way, even if they didn't like the person, they will keep Grounded and Not Run away. Maybe in his Brain Development he is a 12 Year Old. Or, maybe he's Just a Dumb Old Man, I've Seen those too!!!!!!!! I know You must feel bad, but I Can guarantee You that is NOT YOU the problem, especially if You Know that you did nothing wrong to that person. Also, some men had a bad experience with a woman in the Past and they Stay Stuck in the Past and never move on, and then when They See a female that likes them (in the future) then they Run away, because they are Judging Every Female the Same. And if that is the Case, You don't want a man like that in Your life.

K A oh gosh 🙁sadly

I got creative once. It worked. But then she told me she had a bf. It crushed me. I want to do it again (with someone else). Just haven't found the strength yet.

You didn't say if there was a reason why you couldn't approach him now. If you're both single,why not.

​@@mariankyra6613relationship polarity is important.

I love shy men.

Same here Mar88 B, if I smile at them don't want them to think man she's bold.

Το ξέρουμε πως είσαστε εσείς οι άντρες - και τί παιχνίδια παίζεται !!! 😂

και ποιο είναι το 1 τοις εκατό

YESSSS

Can be more emotionally volatile and passive-aggressive though.

You are right. I dont do it, I should change that I think! 🤙🏼

@@Catherine_Kate Dating a shy guy and he IS passive aggressive. He isn't good at communicating when he's bothered by something or he doesn't like something so he just gives you the silent treatment....as punishment or whatever. I'm not sure I wanna live with that. I prefer open talk. But that's different for all shy guys of course!

Danika Exactly. The problem with ‘shy’ guys who give the silent treatment is they are likely covert narcissists. If he’s doing that to punish early on, what would 20+ years of marriage escalate to?

@@Catherine_Kate Nah in his case he's not a narcissist ( at least I hope so ). He admits mistakes and is loving. Good with his family, but socially awkward, was bullied a lot when he was younger. It was much worse when he gave me a few details than I thought. So he's withdrawn a lot. I washed his head though. He better not give me that treatment again. I might be gone. As much as I love him, I protect myself if a person becomes too toxic 😊

I think so too

Yes it's kinda sexy

I thought I was the only one! I literally listen to him every night as I have sleep problems and I fall as asleep so well now

actually he has a very nice choice of words...

@@sweetbutterfly5 Is he that boring?! 🤔😄

Life Traps and/or "schemas". I have a book on it, it's really intense stuff to look at and work through. Basically learned patterns from childhood, indeed. They repeat over and over and over, until ppl learn to unlearn these behaviors. It's really difficult stuff.

@@NikkoYM I hate the fact that I realised it only in my 30s, not earlier

@@Whoeverwhateverwhenever Don't be too hard on yourself. No one is keeping track or time. We only know what we know at the time. I also didn't have certain realizations until my late 30's and 40's. I am still learning and nowhere near perfect (!!!) at 52. Give yourself a pat on the back for even being open and curious on this liife's journey. 🌸

@@Whoeverwhateverwhenever me too but at least we did

@@NikkoYM what is the book called? I am interested in reading it.

yeeea. but of course there are "soft boy fuckboys" who don't approach you because they feel nervous or act as if they are shy because they think that shyness is an indicator of being sincere. but the minute you show them interest, they play games and take you for granted even if you don't show them an attitude that you're chasing them/being desperate. they like to manipulate. we don't want this kind of guy, ladies. it's good to be friendly and playful with the opposite sex, but we should not let our guard down easily, vet guys properly and not make excuses for soft boys once they mess up. because usually, girls make excuses for their inconsistencies and reason out that the soft boys are just shy or clueless about courting them/doing relationship stuff because soft boys are not like the "smooth and confident players". most of these guys are also love bombers once you start talking/dating them. they annoy me so much.

I feel your pain as a fairly attractive young man, in a different way. I have to overdo a lot of things to make girls feel comfortable. Being too confident in my approaches makes shy good girls mistake me for a player.

You'd be surprised to find out how difficult and afraid shy men can be. Another reason jerks will still win in these situations.

True! So the waiting game truly tortured me

@@Protestan88 probably true lol

Indecision or hesitation isn't always a bad thing. If he's a "nice guy", you could have just caught him at the wrong time. Bad guys will gravitate to that and suck that life out of you.

With all due respect, Brian is not suggesting you approach the man, but I believe all women know when a man is interested in them. In that moment you need to let your insecurities go and open the door for that nice guy. Don't wink. Just say "hi"and smile. That's all we need. If that doesn't keep him talking then he's got other things going on. He could be married, girlfriend, you really don't know, but he's just not ready. If I'm single and a lady I have my eye on speaks to me and smiles, then I'm about to lead the rest of the conversation. And, I will definitely tease you about how you were salivating over me when you first smiled at me and said hi. We will laugh about it a bunch of times.

WoW just listened this is so me! I really need to do this and not just reciprocate with the guys that have too much arrogance. Amazing content as always Brian so super helpful my fav coach on YT