Can NOT REACTING as part of RADICAL ACCEPTANCE make things worse with the NARCISSIST?

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@NarcSurvivor

Not reacting will really anger and irritate the narcissist. It will cause a narcissistic injury. They will feel rejected and abandoned. They will see it as an attack and then they may seek vengeance. So be very cautious.

@lisageeck

I pretty much "quiet quit" my marriage. I'm damned if I do and damned if I don't and, frankly, exhausted from trying by myself. Now he comes and goes like he's single, barely talks to me, never tells me where he's going or when he's coming back. I'm okay with that. So tired of worrying about everything.

@youngblood8540

You're DAMNED if you do and DAMNED if you don't.

@albertshinskiy

Excellent video, My relationship of 5 years ended a month ago. The love of my life decided to leave me, I really love her so much I can’t stop thinking about her, I’ve tried my very best to get her back in my life, but to no avail, I’m frustrated, I don’t see my life with anyone else. I’ve done my best to get rid of the thoughts of her, but I can’t, I don’t know why I’m saying this here, I really miss her and just can’t stop thinking about her

@amyjane6257

When I stopped reacting the abuse escalated to astonishing levels. It was already unbelievably bad but not feeding him with attention created a deeper rage.

@saranonimus9211

Yes, the narcissist will escalate, I know from experience. But their behavior isn't my responsibility. I can only control things within my control, like my choice not to engage.

@katydid594

Narcissists thrive on chaos and the negative emotions of those around them. No reaction deprives them of fuel and the result is rage. As you become more healthy and stop reacting the narcissist becomes more unstable, thus more dangerous.

@eq2092

As a child I learned that the best way to deal with my narc mother was not to react. And my none response to her rage just caused her to rage even more. I knew I was going to get beat no matter what. So I accepted it as I was a minor and had no choice. As an adult I pushed back and called out her BS. She refused to change so I cut her out of my life.

@sandyhenry3238

You end up getting so exhausted mentally, physically and you Don't care. So you unknowingly stop recacting.. Tell yourself IT ISN'T MY PROBLEM... IT IS THEIRS. Over time this will build u back up. What I did was figured a way to make the divorce his idea. It's still hard but, you are almost out of it. MAKE IT THEIR IDEA.

@lindsaybrandt6151

My mom is both a narcissist and a borderline. It's awful. I went no contact at 38 years old. It's been a little over a year. My issue with this is when it's a parent that is being passive about the narcissist's behavior. Had my dad stepped up and been the dad he should have been, he would have done something to stop the abuse of myself and my siblings. But he has always been all about my mom. He has no identity of his own. He's basically a puppet. He simply gave in and went along with everything. That's not okay when you're a parent and responsible for the well-being of your children.

@tonymartos2922

When I became used to the silent treatments as my narcs go to weapon, I became numb to it over time. Early on, I’d plead, break down and try to get her to say anything. And eventually of course, at random she would. I think she expected me to do this every time, to try and win back her favor. But towards the last 6-8 months of our relationship, I didn’t. Part of me really wanted to but I just couldn’t. I was at the point, I was hoping she’d cast me aside. Though the other part of me, hoped she’d stay and be that woman I had originally fell so hard for. That persona she won me over with was long gone. I could feel her disdain for me, and often heard it via under the breath insults (which were still loud enough for me to hear). I think not playing their games anymore is what eventually sets us free. They don’t care how much we were hurt, nor are our feelings ever considered.

@richardprice8951

Until the trauma bond was broken, I was unable to understand and implement radical acceptance.

@jamesm2359

It is so difficult to not react to my narc moms crazy alternative reality. It goes against all natural instincts when someone is THAT wrong. But while its exhausting, it is much easier when they arent getting their narcissistic supply from you. They do eventually move on. And its hard teaching my children about this radical acceptance because they feel like "she's getting away with it." But i keep explaining this is actually the best kind of revenge. You arent giving them their supply. You aren't waisting time. And she will go after others for her supply, therefore showing her "true" self to others.

@michaelgarrow3239

If you don’t react- they escalate.

@Luka-DanteGodofMischief

Dr. Ramani Thank you for saving my life and helping me get out of a miserable relationship i almost took my life over...i wouldve taken my life over someone i thought loved me

@LValley-kz3yc

Unplugging from the narcissist will throw them off balance. If you stay the course despite their reactions they will move on. They need emotional feed as a hook into you.

@imbonnie

Ultimately, everyone is held accountable at judgement day.

@sushmayen

Not reacting is difficult on our part since we're human and not stones. Better to check if we're in safe environment before any sort of reaction because No reaction will enrage them.

@TheMulattaMermaidShow

They tend to become hostile/violent 😣

@opticalmixing23

With narcissism, their goal is to provoke your anger. It doesn't affect them in the same way if they lose their temper. They are immune to guilt or mistreatment of others