When he ghosts you and comes back, Do this

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When he ghosts you and comes back, Do this || Coach Ken Canion
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@mademoisellemsc 9 ай бұрын

Never let a man tell you twice that he doesn’t want you. Ghosting is them telling you he doesn’t want you.

@madelinesantiago4150 6 ай бұрын

The piece of shit has done it all, and you're still dealing with him? Does that mean it's true love, or you've just settled for whatever? SMH

@CherieSores 4 ай бұрын

True

@danilima-fromrio7162 4 ай бұрын

Perfect 👏👏👏 never again💪

@evaa4242 2 ай бұрын

Thank you for sharing. This popped right in time for me.

@PamelaReyes Жыл бұрын

The best thing to do is to ignore the ghoster ...these people is just irresponsible, they know what they are doing, if I have to be on a relationship where I have to basically remind the other person of my existence then I rather be by myself

@joyabraham3630 Жыл бұрын

That's it 👍

@southnorthpaw-kq6ue 5 ай бұрын

Absolutely. My friend has been dealing with a guy named Elvis for a long time. I told her to stop responding to him. He doesn't care if she is dead or alive. In and out of her life playing games with her mind is a sign of his mental illness.

@maryreillyjo 5 сағат бұрын

They have multiple on rotation

@malenarobson5009 11 ай бұрын

They always come back! And leave again!!! Don't take him back. Neverrrrr

@danilaroche1156 25 күн бұрын

We all err. Your bitter.

@brendalott3090 Жыл бұрын

I don't have time for confused people

@emmarettalove486 11 ай бұрын

If a Ghoster reaches out, IGNORE PERIOD

@joyabraham3630 Жыл бұрын

I won't even bother having the conversation, it's rest in peace to a ghost (rip)

@darlinepascal1521 11 ай бұрын

The moment he ghosts you, delete his contact information or block him. You will forever forget about him.

@nayjavu 11 ай бұрын

No. You don't forget. That's a lie....but all this talking about it is terrible advice, so I agree with blocking. Lol

@sharonbartley808 8 ай бұрын

Yup

@sharonbartley808 8 ай бұрын

@@nayjavuOf course you can, unless you have self esteem issues.

@danilima-fromrio7162 4 ай бұрын

Exactly I did 💪👏

@laurasainz4836 Жыл бұрын

All these fucking games men play is the perfect recipe to walk away forever!!

@danilaroche1156 25 күн бұрын

Your bitter and you have a pottymouth.

@mochahoney7377 10 ай бұрын

Don't ever tell a man how you feel cause in the first place he is not a kid. Obviously he doesnt care about your feelings lol

@brendalott3090 Жыл бұрын

He did not find what he was.looking for so now he want to come back.

@sashaclarke2749 11 ай бұрын

Exactly! And won’t find it here either✌🏼

@nko5666 Жыл бұрын

A guy ghosted me after 4 mths of talking 3-4 times a day.... he came back out of no where and I played him... after him asking what's been going on in my life I told him I won a huge amount of money in the lottery...🤗🤗🤗🤗🤗🤗🤗🤗🤗✌🏿✌🏿✌🏿✌🏿✌🏿✌🏿 he was sick! It was a lie but I got the last laugh and then abruptly got off the phone with him. I was thinking go ponder on that, JACK

@shantavalentine9537 Жыл бұрын

😂

@mzsweetflower Жыл бұрын

😅😅😅😂😂😂

@lesleyannroberts4301 Жыл бұрын

🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣

@slimnaz00 Жыл бұрын

Savage 😂😂😂😂

@tiffanyyisrael7989 Жыл бұрын

😂😂😂😂

@rubydejesus9119 Жыл бұрын

Come on, if someone doesn't want to talk to you no more without an explanation don't allow him or her to just walked back into your life.

@nyesej 11 ай бұрын

🙆🏾‍♀🙆🏾‍♀🙆🏾‍♀"If you lie to yourself you have no one else to trust" WOW WOW that's bars!!!!

@Binamommy3 8 ай бұрын

Hard truth But needed to hear that

@majob2363 Жыл бұрын

My dad always told me leave the dead alone. 👻 be gone. I don’t allow them to come back, I block them.

@ms.diva0079 3 ай бұрын

Exactly! I always use Frankenstein’s monsters “, “Dead Should stay dead!”

@Akua-Bloom 2 ай бұрын

This made me laugh out loud so hard 😂😂😂

@dayanahmaahzhnahyasharahla7606 2 жыл бұрын

That's doing way too much. Why should I even waste my time communicating with someone who ghosted me in the first place? I hate when men waste my time so once I find out that I been ghosted, I always BLOCK AND DELETE the phone number. That way, they can NEVER COME BACK

@CoachKenCanion 2 жыл бұрын

If that works for u, it makes sense to do

@roseeze166 2 жыл бұрын

MY SENTIMENTS EXACTLY!👏👏👏👏👏

@tracey5215 Жыл бұрын

For real!! No time for the confusion.

@ronnietoni819 Жыл бұрын

That crap don’t work they will find a way out of none

@dayanahmaahzhnahyasharahla7606 Жыл бұрын

@@ronnietoni819 true so keep blocking their ass and give them some CRICKETS

@sharonbartley808 8 ай бұрын

This why you never get emotions involved with anyone you start dating. That way you can dismiss them when they keep up this madness

@jeanettecollazo9616 Жыл бұрын

Forget about the ghost they don't need your energy

@bluebirdie7241 11 ай бұрын

I strongly disagree with his advice. Ghosters are not worth the time of day, if he did it once he will do it again. Dont give him any chances to waste your time again. Lock and block immediately after 3 to 7 days of him ghosting you. Never ublock him, never allow him to return, never give him second chances to waste your time again. He will only do it again!!!! Guaranteed!!!!

@danilima-fromrio7162 4 ай бұрын

Agree 👏👏👏

@araenasanchez 2 жыл бұрын

I never allow a ‘ghost’ to come back and tell me a 2nd time he doesn’t want me. I believe them the first time. He reached out via text….via WhatsApp, lol. He had been blocked and deleted everywhere else. I left him on ‘read’ and blocked him. No response.

@vpisces85 Жыл бұрын

I hope I get a chance and do the same thing

@shevettejackson. Жыл бұрын

@@vpisces85 You will

@vernita0216 Жыл бұрын

Love that for you!

@OiVinn-eq1ml 11 ай бұрын

Damn. Some people make mistakes 🤷🏻‍♂️

@IndigoSeeress_Yaa7 11 ай бұрын

@OiVinn-eq1ml ...that thought process is exactly why he made this video. Why would a man in relationship fall off the planet, then step back in as though nothing happened. It is not a mistake. He is grown. We tend to accept way more than men will. Value Self.

@alecianicola21 Жыл бұрын

I've wasted 15 years with a man that doesn't know his end from his beginning... I don't have time for no more nonsense so keep it moving

@CoachKenCanion Жыл бұрын

👍👍

@Antoinette617 8 ай бұрын

Thank God the guy that ghosted me never came back.

@user-mm4lf4eb4i 8 ай бұрын

He ghosted me and I ghosted him...period.

@crystalclimenhage7159 11 ай бұрын

Say " hey sorry I've been too busy to contact you...how are things?" make it like YOU were ghosting him....OR ignore him until he says something significant

@isabellalapobo 10 ай бұрын

Ignoring until he says something significant

@helz13 11 ай бұрын

My ex ghosted me and had the nerve to text me 3 years later and say "Hey, I unblocked all the numbers" and I replied "Oh well block me again" 🙄 Boy boy 🙄

@worldbestalways 9 ай бұрын

An ex can not ghost you. He is a frigging ex. !!! Ghosting is when you are in the middle of dating!!

@helz13 9 ай бұрын

@@worldbestalwayshe is an ex now 🤦‍♀️

@worldbestalways 9 ай бұрын

@Helen13-pr4ui ok so you were together and he disappeared for 3 years. 😲

@helz13 9 ай бұрын

@@worldbestalways we were together and he left, blocked, deleted, moved on and when his new relationship did not work out he had the nerve to text me 3 years later casually saying, he unblocked my number and how am I? I told him to block me again. Only a coward acts like him.

@worldbestalways 9 ай бұрын

@@helz13 yes, of course

@nayjavu 11 ай бұрын

This is too much effort. These days, if someone ghosts me, I just ignore them when they come back around. They no longer get access to me. I don't need to conversate about my plan and how I feel about your actions. Best thing I've done for my mental health.

@debbieg7665 4 ай бұрын

@LoveLight23 11 ай бұрын

My POV I think it’s best just best to move on… the behaviour will be repeated and the person shows their incapable of offering a healthy relationship despite whatever you or that person may want.

@mmljane Жыл бұрын

Why do some play games that we gotta do all this? Smh am exhausted lol. Just easier die alone

@tracey5215 Жыл бұрын

It depends on the situation - if it’s family issues, personal issues, etc. I can work with that. If he’s playing games then I don’t got time for the games. That’s draining! I’m too valuable to be treated like an option platter or on standby. Not feeding into no toxic masculinity nor becoming a victim of mind games just to validate someone’s self esteem. I just block and delete the number.

@nessie1321 Жыл бұрын

Even in a real situation you have to communicate something. It’s called respect. There is too much technology that facilitates communication to make ghosting acceptable.

@tracey5215 Жыл бұрын

@@nessie1321 You’re right!

@mariameesu5821 4 ай бұрын

If they have family or any issues, it only takes a minute to call or text. Don't wait a week or three to communicate

@uzoo8002 Жыл бұрын

I have really learnt a lot from watching your videos. To be honest when a guy ghosts me I tend not to reply to the come back messages , I cut off the oxygen and ignore all texts msg because I want to believe that he knows what he is doing so why would I give him the chance to waste my time again by talking with him. I was brought up with high standards and its truth, loyalty, consistency with me which is why i don't do second chances. I just subscribed to your channel. Thank you

@Newsnosey 6 ай бұрын

LearnED

@Human_Organic Жыл бұрын

You were in an actual relationship with a man and he vanished? Mmm sorry, no. You went out three times and he vanished? Eh, so he's telling you you're a reserve, you're not a high priority, he wanted to see what else was available before pursuing you. So ... if you're fine with that, go for it. There isn't much reason to have patience for ghosting, it takes literal seconds to communicate in the digital age. You weren't worth seconds of this person's time? File it for reference and proceed with that awareness; this person has no value to you.

@kaywess1738 Жыл бұрын

That's a great way of putting it! I wasn't worth the seconds it takes to send a text. Wow! 💡

@robertpinckney333 6 ай бұрын

So damn true 💯

@danilima-fromrio7162 4 ай бұрын

True 👏👏👏

@juanderuano8969 6 ай бұрын

Cool video. My relationship of 5 years ended a month ago. The love of my life decided to leave me, I really love her so much I can’t stop thinking about her, I’ve tried my very best to get her back in my life, but to no avail, I’m frustrated, I don’t see my life with anyone else. I’ve done my best to get rid of the thoughts of her, but I can’t, I don’t know why I’m saying this here, I really miss her and just can’t stop thinking about her..

@juanderuano8969 6 ай бұрын

Amazing, how did you get a spiritual counselor, and how do i reach her?.

@juanderuano8969 6 ай бұрын

Thank you for this valuable information, i just looked her up now online. impressive.

@wandalee5977 5 ай бұрын

Guys, make sure she is really worth it.

@saintcecelia3945 4 ай бұрын

Juan, as a woman I'm telling you this ignore her for a long time, then when she finally make contact, be very nice to her find out hiw she's doing then abruptly get off the phone, that will leave her wondering..lol

@geraldwarren6438 4 ай бұрын

Pray for strength and if she's meant to come back to you trust GOD to work it out for you.

@worldbestalways 9 ай бұрын

A guy didn't write me any goodnight or goodmorning text after our second date with a kiss, for 2 weeks. He wrote after 2 weeks like everything was normal. And then wrote again after me visualizing and ignoring him. Very satisfying

@leezanewill-codrington7731 11 ай бұрын

Why should anyone let a ghoster back in their lives? 🤔.

@OiVinn-eq1ml 11 ай бұрын

As much I have people who ghost, some people do it due to miscommunication. People handle their problems differently. Yes it’s an passive aggressive. But sometimes it’s a little over analyzed. Ghosting can also be a coping mechanism or reaction to the Other person doing wrong. Like a narcissist or someone who doesn’t value respect.

@reeseyanceyms.rayiamwhoiam100 Жыл бұрын

This video was so valuable to all of us. The take away I got was we have to value ourselves and make sure we are healed before we can be in an healthy relationship. 🤩🙏🏽💗💪🏽💯 Thank you

@celestinebennett212 11 ай бұрын

😂😂😂😂..when a guy ghost you and you let him back maybe you are looking for closure which is a bad idea..very bad

@shalimarie9016 Жыл бұрын

Coach ,a guy slowed on communicating with me after he claimed he had to be present for his grandpa being in the hospital . I have him space ,and after a couple weeks no communication .I blocked him because I felt like he was playing with me and using his family emergency etc .as an excuse .Then he reaches out after a few months saying he tried to reach me through Facebook and everything because I blocked him . I threw the whole guy away because I don’t have time for excuses ,lies ,and deceptions .

@nessablair7928 Жыл бұрын

I finally had the guts to say no to FWB after being ghosted and come back..

@danilaroche1156 25 күн бұрын

Never do FWB. Your more valuable than that mess.

@shonnyd4071 Жыл бұрын

No offense, but this topic needs to be discussed by a female expert. I agree with a lot of his other videos, but this one is expecting women to do too much for a man who was blatantly disrespectful

@terryA228 6 ай бұрын

I had this happen to me The guy even sent pics of girls he claimed to be with after he told me he wasn’t interested in me anymore . I never responded!! Why would I ? Every day he calls & texts me still 😂 I never respond I don’t block him Becuz I want to make him crazy ignoring him & it’s working . After 4 years He started being narcissistic & saying cruel Trying to compare me to other woman & Becuz I didn’t let it bother me When it first started with this crap I told him I know my worth 👋🏽 God Bless you BLOCKED !!!!!! never let someone burn you twice ! Respect yourself you are worth it !! ♥️

@shunteshunte9294 Жыл бұрын

This is class for me. I’m a lover not a fighter but just didn’t know how to really communicate it. 🙏🏾

@heatherceravolo161 11 ай бұрын

His is great. A lot of coaches talk about the no contact and men that ghost, but do not say what to do when it happens. Thank you

@MichelleSummerDiiva 7 ай бұрын

That’s why I don’t save anyone’s number easier to detach my ghosted texted hi yesterday no response never getting one

@LadyLaBliss Жыл бұрын

Omg, I love this coach! Thank you so much for empowering us women the way Jesus intended!

@npkrn6764 Жыл бұрын

I was ghosted by someone who had been a close platonic friend years ago and we had just gotten back in touch around 4 months ago. We talked for a couple months daily. He was calling and texting consistently and even flirting and said he was interested in me romantically years ago but never said so. We live now about 100 miles from each other so we hadn't seen each other yet, just talking. Well, out of the blue he just disappeared. He sent me a text about 2 months later (a week ago) giving me some excuse and proceeded to write how it was because of something I said that upset him. 🙄 (which only added insult to injury by making it my fault). Regardless, I text him back two words: "Got it." --- thats it. No emotion, no debate, but I wanted to show I did read his message and I was trying to show indifference, really. Now I realize my two word text could be taken two ways - either that I was angry, or just matter of fact and unbothered, so he can just sit and wonder for a while! This was all recently and I just sent that "Got it" text a few days ago, so we'll see. I haven't heard back yet - and maybe I never will but I'll be fine either way. Videos with advice like this keep me strong and remind me I have value and no matter what I might have said to upset him, if he truly valued me he would've addressed it with me immediately - NOT ghosted me for two months! No way is that respectful. Further, I didn't even know or remember saying what he said that upset him so if he thought he was teaching me a lesson by ghosting me, it was a waste of time - I had zero clue why he was doing it! 😂 Just strange behavior all around.

@falidisu2139 7 ай бұрын

“Got it” was too long. “K” is what you send. 😂

@judithdeponte9540 3 ай бұрын

My guy ghosted me for 3 days. Before this incident he told me constantly how much he loved me. When he contacted me again after ignoring me, I ignored his calls. At 3 in the morning I sent him a message telling him his inability to be consistent did not measure up to my standards. I blocked him and never looked back.

@danilaroche1156 25 күн бұрын

3 days is not a huge deal.

@user-ln4qe1sh8i 23 күн бұрын

Good for you. It takes strength to say this is unacceptable behaviour. Know your worth 💯

@danilaroche1156 23 күн бұрын

Honestly, 3 days is nothing. Maybe he was sick. I would have had a conversation about it. These days alot of people are under spiritual attack. Anxiety & depression has skyrocketed. Again, I'd have talked it thru & not just BLOCKED him. That's infantile.

@danilaroche1156 23 күн бұрын

Your confusing standards with pride. Your going to have a hard time ever marrying. You need Christ in your life to show you the way.

@nmc1859 11 күн бұрын

You seem immature so it's probably fir the best..

@glendenesherrene7806 Жыл бұрын

..." well he will be talking to Chaspa and Co, then they'll understand each other. I'm out don't have time for mind games"

@whosyourdaddy4579 Жыл бұрын

Great coaching! Makes perfect sense!

@Redrose-zc7hj 2 жыл бұрын

Needed to hear this message. I had a passionate relationship with no stability. Led to 💔 Thank you ❤️

@andziagreen4922 11 ай бұрын

Know how you felt🤗, had same 'situationship' and still healing after 11 months

@Redrose-zc7hj 11 ай бұрын

@andziagreen4922 It's been 2 yrs, I'm still healing. Keep focused ❤️🙏🏼

@worldbestalways 9 ай бұрын

Men have no passionate relationships with no stabiity. He was just fucking , you were feeling this not him

@Binamommy3 8 ай бұрын

Very recent heartbreak for me

@Jjliveisbak 3 ай бұрын

Thats funny.. this shi is happening to me as we speak... Still no acknowledgement at all about how this hurt me do badly. .

@auntsally2704 11 ай бұрын

Great advice and love how you got to the point fast and succinctly

@rhondaprater7361 6 ай бұрын

That was dynomite!!! Always a masterpiece !!! Always walkin down my street. May. God.. continually bless and keep you too.. and your beautiful wife. Rhonda Prater . Merced. Ca.

@unezsimpkins9107 Жыл бұрын

You have great advice. Thanks 😊🙏

@Afternoon99 7 ай бұрын

Thank you for the messages in this video. These messages actually helps and you teach us how we can improve our emotional maturity. Unlike some other coaches who just give toxic and unrealistic advice

@bunnyboonot4u 4 ай бұрын

COACH!! Those 2 questions to ask them is great advice. ⭐⭐⭐⭐⭐

@tanyaholt7451 Жыл бұрын

He’ll be calling or texting but he won’t get a response from me

@PrincessDaberechiadieme Жыл бұрын

It only silent works for the ghoster Just ignore him I don't like when men ghost around Sha the steps you bring is amazing 💖 but him coming back after ghosting you around is because he haven't got what he wants Mine is just ignore them and move on Thank you 💖

@chelseajohnson242 Жыл бұрын

Good advice! ❤️

@jeannettesneed 11 ай бұрын

The random girl @2:41 blowing drying her hair i thought the video switched off or had a glitch or something 🤣🤣🤣🤣

@madelinesantiago4150 6 ай бұрын

Amen to this. Good Stuff.

@joannedomingo2398 10 ай бұрын

I’m glad I found your site. ❤ I’m with a man that’s been doing this for a year. But I still love him

@auntsally2704 11 ай бұрын

Wow you are so logical this applies for everyone who has been ghosted and for all generations pure logical THANK YOU

@brendalott3090 Жыл бұрын

I'm not doing all this baby it bye block and delete

@marissaali2233 Жыл бұрын

Loved this vid

@shanicrystal8671 4 ай бұрын

If you don’t want me the first time around they won’t be a second time around 💯

@minevermabula4981 11 ай бұрын

Great advice coach 🥰

@marissaali2233 Жыл бұрын

My fav video of urs Kevin!!

@laurendinamiller1225 8 ай бұрын

Wow thats very true and its powerful.Thats really true its powerful.

@elizabethomoregie279 Жыл бұрын

Seeing you for the first time and just subscribe now. Thanks

@user-jk1ky7vp6g 8 ай бұрын

This is damn good. Thank you.

@hajanicesissoho2431 Жыл бұрын

Thanks so much for your advice 🙏 😊

@CoachKenCanion Жыл бұрын

You are so welcome!

@EstherMunkondya-f6c 24 күн бұрын

Am definitely following this You are wise💕😂

@malaa2222 11 ай бұрын

I love your advise, I should have listened to your advise earlier

@tovagrace8214 Жыл бұрын

Baby you keep it 110 and I love it!!!! #ATL

@kerenlubin905 11 ай бұрын

Wow thank you sir thank you so much

@SisterGoldenHair111 16 күн бұрын

A wise person once said’ When someone ghost you, respect the dead and move in !

@shantavalentine9537 Жыл бұрын

The 2nd question 😢 yea I’m keep moving

@braaron77ify Жыл бұрын

Unsure in my case who ghosted who.. I stopped reaching out 1st.. so I guess that makes me the ghoster?? 😂

@rivylandtv38 Жыл бұрын

No you aren't

@10DebbieDoo 3 ай бұрын

Excellent advice!

@jb7160 6 ай бұрын

Thank you ! You are amazing !

@CoachKenCanion 6 ай бұрын

Thank you too!

@nellymarie5290 Жыл бұрын

I need to hear This 👀👀👀

@tiffanyyisrael7989 Жыл бұрын

I had someone else the whole time anyway. 😩😂🤷🏾‍♀️

@nicoleyulan3790 6 ай бұрын

😂😂😂😂😂 TRUE

@bernieoconnell5515 2 ай бұрын

This response made me howl with laughter.

@joannedomingo2398 10 ай бұрын

THANK YOU ❤ 😢

@AkabaPulcherieRose 3 ай бұрын

So accurate and very true talk 💯💯🙏🙏

@christinanarendra3071 7 ай бұрын

good tips, thank you

@CoachKenCanion 7 ай бұрын

Glad it was helpful!

@dianaverano7878 4 ай бұрын

Why do we need to talk to people who rejected us? They left for a reason. Who knows what. I want to have a healthy emotional environment where my friends, family and loved ones dont disappear. It's really that simple.

@Binamommy3 8 ай бұрын

Thanks Coach Needed this 😊

@CoachKenCanion 8 ай бұрын

My pleasure!!

@sanatm 3 ай бұрын

absolute accuracy 100 level.this worked for me .

@MJ-vt4nb 11 ай бұрын

I'm not a hardbody. It's easy for me to block and delete most guys. I do not care about them..but there's one. It's really hard to leave him alone. I love the part when you said its gotta be your decision, not your friends or family.

@Queenbeatifulbossbae Жыл бұрын

I did everything he said in this video it worked!!! Follow Coach.

@lightiz_biekie 11 ай бұрын

Great advice coach 😂

@BeautiifulliMade Жыл бұрын

Sooooo does this work if he ghosted out of nowhere for no reason and blocked your phone number and all social media? Again, no reason! Cause my heart can’t take him coming back🥺