5 Gaslighting Red Flags That Will Expose A Toxic Person

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Protect yourself from gaslighting and toxic people with our informative video, '5 Gaslighting Red Flags That Will Expose A Toxic Person.' We'll uncover the telltale signs of gaslighting and emotional abuse that often go unnoticed in relationships. Learn to identify these red flags, whether you're dating a narcissist, dealing with covert narcissism, or facing manipulation and control. Join us for essential insights into recognizing and exposing toxic individuals who engage in gaslighting behaviors.
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@CommonEgo Жыл бұрын

Don’t let a gaslighter get the upper hand. Download the free workbook here www.commonego.com/gaslighting

@bigdhell9303 9 ай бұрын

And your profession is? A plumber’s arguments and insights on the subject are untrustworthy, because he/she lacks a proper education and practical knowledge regardless of their life experience. Personality disorders are much harder to analyze and understand than most people think. I think it’s important to state your profession at the beginning of your videos so that people can decide if you’re trustworthy and reliable to watch or not.

@labakanurzidil2464 5 ай бұрын

ok, i dont let you, when you wish it ...

@mashaaaaaaa 9 ай бұрын

One of the worst forms of gaslighting is when a person says “I’m a good person” and keeps neglecting your needs even though you tell them 100 times what your needs are. This manipulative tactic is so subtle that makes you doubt your needs and doubt your reality. Does anyone else feels this way?

@coach_matteo_dagostini 7 ай бұрын

Oh ya definitely dealt with someone like that recently. But I always respond with “good isn’t a thing you are, it’s a thing you do.” A good person isn’t defined by who they are but what they do and the actions they take that make them a good person. Let’s just say everytime something bad happened to this person she always twists things around and tries to make herself as the good person without taking any accountability of her part in the problem or if she was the cause of the triggers in the problem and makes it question your sanity and your reality. It’s a very traumatic thing that I don’t wish upon anybody because there will be days you start to question yourself but you have to realize they will believe all the lies they tell themselves to their grave and you just have to leave them to it

@plumiish 7 ай бұрын

Yes, spot on!

@plumiish 7 ай бұрын

I’m afraid I’ll never get over it. I keep watching all these videos over and over and still can’t get my head around it. I’ve never dealt with a sadist before and boy is it destructive! I had no idea such gut -wrenching evil could exist...

@brianaacuna15 7 ай бұрын

I’ve noticed that people can say it on a first date….😅like I’m a good person….are you???

@joannaklepac78 7 ай бұрын

That was Alyssa on "Married at First Sight," several seasons ago! She actually said that constantly! On a personal level, my sister has done almost all these forms of gaslighting to me. She is a "good person" in the community because she does a lot of volunteer work and political work, but she is unable to come to see me, 2000 miles away for the past forty years! Never once. Now that I know about her narcissism, I can see why. Every time I used to have a conversation with her, I always heard, "I am a single mom with two daughters."(Her way of saying she is a good person.) She is a single mom because she divorced her husband after cheating on him. I finally put two and two (and five plus five, ha, ha)together, recognized her narcissism, and after the last episode of allowing her daughter to disrespect me, I bolted. And the only contact is "Merry Christmas" or whatever on holidays on FB. After years of hoping she would grow up and mature, trying to have a relationship with her, and listen to her complain, I am finally free.

@roypruett2844 Жыл бұрын

I had a friend who is an aging narcissist. He took advantage of some major health problems to separate me from friends and family causing me to totally rely on him. He needed me to need him. He is a grandiose storyteller. There was times he told me the same story several times and the details changed. I would ask him about the change in story and sure enough he would gaslight me. I stopped calling his home because he would be on his soapbox, and several times I could hear his signicant other yelling "stop lying John!" then they would start arguing because he would double-down and gaslight her. I heard the same story several times and each time the details changed so I knew he was lying anyways.

@artsiomnaidzich9515 Жыл бұрын

What a bunch of toddler tantrum moves. If one just can imagine that same gaslighter, but in a shape of a toddler, its kind of funny. Unfortunately, its a grown person that to outsiders can be very convincing, and that is dangerous.

@Changeling9au Жыл бұрын

Yes! There are a lot of fully grown infants running around.

@DudeRanchDan 9 ай бұрын

the absolute worst gaslight is when they say "I feel like you feel" then deny everything you say that clashes with their feeling about your motives. how are you supposed to get on the same page with someone if they tell you they'll never listen to you?

@kristahunter1588 4 ай бұрын

If you can't be on the same page as someone who keeps ignoring and dodgy. The only advice I could say at this point is just be transparent. Just be the best version of yourself to everyone. You meet and people who try to play you manipulate gas light lie mirror triangulate. Those are the people that have the problem. They can't handle life. They can't handle themselves. They can't handle themselves. They can't handle emotions and I would not even worry about it. I would just go on in ignore them. It's not easy to ignore them, but you have to because all they wanna do is drag you down in the dirt with them. Don't play around with pigs. My mother used to tell me a good saying, and it's so true. Don't s*** where you eat. And so you gotta be the same way with people. Don't give people the best of you yourself if they're just going to trample it like a pig or if they're just gonna s*** on it like a potty math, you know, just be true to yourself. And be genuine and kind and. Courageous and honest. And if people can't be that way with you, then don't waste your time. I'm speaking from experience and I thought I would share that with you. Take it or leave it how you want, but it is what it is.

@kristahunter1588 4 ай бұрын

Also, we have a dude ranch here in Eastern Washington.

@angieburnett4341 Жыл бұрын

These are awesome, thank you Christina. My ex-husband ("father" of my two children) is a pathic narc. My teens are aware of this but I am trying my best for my daughter to not choose a guy who is like him. I hope I'm wrong but her current bf is showing signs. 😔 I try to give her as much guidance with videos such as this so she will hopefully recognize. (My son too, but it's different, you know?) It's so hard because we notice these things early on but tell ourselves they're small and dismiss them. They're NOT small!! Love, hugs & God Bless you 💕💕

@frannavin3165 9 ай бұрын

My deceased husband of 33 years wanted me to not ever say anything to people but divulged anything i said to him even when i said it was just between us.

@nicolecarnevale3226 11 ай бұрын

Gaslighting requires a good self concept. Toxic people exploit vulnerability. Always trust your own judgment. If you feel you need to record conversations or explain every move you make, question yourself and wonder what You did to bring this toxic abuse on. RUN. Protecting yourself is the key to avoid toxic, self and other destructive people. Married to a gaslighter for decades, I can warn my therapist warned me these persons do not change. Most project, will blame you or the next person and continue this pattern for life. The question is will you waste your life? I know a woman who stayed with a narcissist and stood by him until her ran off with his stepdaughter. She was 65 years old… You determine if you want a life of health and authentic connection or control, and mind games. Some people are stuck for some reason. If I could I’d look for other options. Narcissist abuse. bully, isolate, destroy your self concept weakening you. Unless I was stalked by a stranger I would never tolerate a person playing games with me at my expense ever again. Never again…..

@mikesmith6594 5 ай бұрын

My narcissistic father keeps telling me lie after lie after lie then he uses everything against me like a corrupt cop. He does mock me making me question literally everything. He literally gets mad if I try setting boundaries with him.

@catb8661 Жыл бұрын

My 45-yr old daughter is a master gaslighter, and she just did it to me again today so this video is timely. My ex did the same thing to me which drove me crazy which was his goal. My daughter and her father are two peas in a pod, and she no longer speaks to him because he remarried. I guess I'm paying for his sins too.

@CommonEgo Жыл бұрын

Sorry to hear that. I hope you’re taking good care of yourself 🙏❤️

@greetverwoert8922 11 ай бұрын

My son does the same thing over and over. Breaks off contact over something small, I am left with questions and sadness. Seeks me again, praises me to heaven and does everything for me to then drop another totally unexpected bomb and we start all over again. Last Friday, it happened again, out of the blue. Something small blows up and then he wants to rest and not talk. It makes me desperate, deep in my heart I know it's better to break contact but I love him too much and can't.

@netosampaio8548 11 ай бұрын

I feel so sorry for you. This must be much worse than an narcissistic partner you can leave.

@susan-1love 11 ай бұрын

Wow I'm in quite the similar situation 💞 im sorry for your going through this.

@catb8661 11 ай бұрын

@@netosampaio8548 Yes, especially since I can't see my grandchildren.

@izawaniek2568 Жыл бұрын

Those examples of evil behaviours of people with malicious intent are spot on. Thank you Christina. ❤

@vickifallon9182 6 ай бұрын

After listening to this explanation of gaslighting, I relate all of it as narcissistic, from my experience.

@fairygurl9269 Жыл бұрын

❤ The Shirt

@CommonEgo Жыл бұрын

Thanks 🙏❤️

@fairygurl9269 Жыл бұрын

@@CommonEgoDitto For All You Do *Respect

@izawaniek2568 Жыл бұрын

Your list is Spot on and the examples as well. Thank you Christina.

@shwheat6315 6 ай бұрын

Agreed if your gut feeling tells you something isn’t right about a person or a situation trust it. Even though your gut feeling can be wrong at times but the only mistake a wise person only makes once in his/her life is ignoring it

@minkymandy6065 5 ай бұрын

I had a new friend who was quite charismatic & charming. One time, she wanted to meet up but I was really busy, so we agreed via text messages that I would call round and we would walk her dog round the block for half an hour and have chat while we walked. So I went round to her house 'dressed down' in my dog-walking coat. But to my surprise, she answered the door dressed up to the nines & asked why I had not brought my husband whom she really liked! I was totally confused & reminded her that we had arranged to walk the dog just for half an hour to chat. But she gaslit me & threw me a 'concerned' facial expression. I mentioned her text messages, but she simply glanced at her husband as if to say I was implicating her falsely in something. So I doubted myself & refrained from reading her texts out loud, thinking they would think me petty. I found myself obediently phoning my husband who thankfully wasn't able to come. I've never forgotten it & I distanced myself after that.

@BigPete44 Жыл бұрын

Hey Christina!! I hope all is well!! ♥️♥️

@CommonEgo Жыл бұрын

Hi Pete! Nice to see you… hope all is well with you too ❤️🙏

@lepiota1074 10 ай бұрын

Love your discernment, and your voice. Thanks, this is eye opening, specially for people with a background of abusive parenting,that were continually criticised and told they were always wrong.

@dinab7852 Жыл бұрын

Your extremely insightful videos & very soothing voice greatly help to prevent me from losing my mind completely due to my narcissistic ex-husband! Your channel is a life saviour !!!!

@tepe6340 Жыл бұрын

My name is Christina too ,much love from Australia ❤❤❤

@andrewrees8749 7 ай бұрын

Small world

@AndrewFosterSheff69 Жыл бұрын

Yeah I missed them dismissing my feelings. I should have seen it as a defo crossing of a boundary. You live you learn, it will NEVER happen again!!! 🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩

@Gurian-st9nn 7 ай бұрын

Ohhh, Kristena, I love you so much ❤

@emmarae4322 7 ай бұрын

It’s worse when they smirk when denying your reality.🙄

@freetrailer4poor 11 ай бұрын

5:30 Is the exact. In my experience gaslighters are poor dumb people. But they use gaslighting to get your money.

@riot.9 11 ай бұрын

I got a gaslighter who gaslights me about one particular story. A very important part of my life. It doesn't happen in other parts of life. So there are mutations of this.

@truebelieverinthelord7823 18 күн бұрын

It’s my family that did this to me 😢

@percubit10 Жыл бұрын

I needed ti get away from people I lost everything

@matthewwozniak9138 5 ай бұрын

I've seen other people let their Demons out and it's quite scary, even if your not on the receiving end.

@53strat55 10 ай бұрын

The funny thing about this girl is she basicly stole me away from her friend when I just started talking with her in a club. I thought it was weird to do when with a friend. My 1st red flag next to many others.

@anamei9923 Жыл бұрын

Thank you.💖

@benjamindrew9232 9 ай бұрын

3:52 Another possible gaslighting technique is the person will say one thing, then say another reason why they want, said or done something different by asking “Why can’t it be both?”

@torim1233 9 ай бұрын

Good video. Do you have a video on what sets a person up, for being a victim of these predators?

@AlexJames-jv3em 8 ай бұрын

Being a good and giving person sets you up as a target. Sad but true.

@creative-renaissance 11 ай бұрын

These examples aren't all necessary gaslighting. Recollections may vary and if the gaslighting statement is correct or even believed to be correct, then it's not gaslighting. Also accusations of gaslighting can be used as a form of gaslighting in-itself.

@Khiarika1 8 ай бұрын

I feel like this comment itself is a form of gaslighting. 😉 jk

@IrieAllDay88 8 ай бұрын

Coming from a gaslighter probably.

@emmarae4322 7 ай бұрын

Oh, I see, it’s “misdirection” right.😂 Go away narcy.

@tinagillispie6392 4 ай бұрын

Question , if a work meeting concerning double standards in production is getting to happen and supervisor walks up and locks handcuffs to a partie to the meetings work station could this be gaslighting.

@cuttypie30 3 күн бұрын

How I clear my name. When I get gaslighted

@EeliusAstaroth 8 ай бұрын

My only conflict is the confiding part. I get that to an extent, but it's also dependent. Modern times have shown ample of examples how privacy is limited, and plenty of information is abused in some fashion. I in no way condone being limited from, say, a Dr, therapist, trusted family/friend, but I do want to say that there are at times benefits to retaining a lvl of privacy. I can agree it would be gaslighting if it extended into that trust circle factor, but absolutely disagree if it goes beyond that. People underestimate something built for many years can disappear in an instant when it circulates as slander and gossip in the public. No, you don't have to take on or embody that, but there's still a means of harm that can be damaging whether it's mental, emotional, or physical. Just wanted to point that out because I believe it's important to distinguish sometimes, and privacy is still an important aspect to retain just as much as being vulnerable and confiding. I think a good example would be when a narcissist widtholds private information in a means of blackmail. Then they manage to use a form of punishment by leaking that out in a means to ploy the victim card to any he would want to appeal to further creating estrangement for the actual victim at hand. Same with sm and gossip collums who've given a plethora of examples of how far they'll go for a story despite throwing someone under the bus for it. Which may also incidentally create more slander because a person who was abused in that manner simply does what any person does when falling into depression, anxiety, anger, what have you. It's down coersive, and that form of abuse should be pointed out as well so we don't mislead others. Lots of clout chasers inevitably meet that downfall having taken it too literally thinking their audience won't turn on them at a drop of a hat. That's where it's important not to take everything at surface lvl, but sometimes it's just not considered so it helps to inform.