Link to my best resources for healing: linktr.ee/narcabusecoach

She is most welcome to have her Son back, no problem 😏🚩🏃‍♀️

My husband hates being around his mother, but wants to have her nearby all the time. He will bring her to our home, and then go upstairs to “work” or lay down or something away from the two of us. truly a love-hate relationship. His mother treats me like I am a six year old, and she is my teacher. To say that she talks down to me is an extraordinary understatement. She does everything Danish outlines in this video. She makes me feel stupid, degrades my family and everything about my background-my relatives, the work my father did, the town I grew up in, everything. Thank you Danish for your videos. I see in the comments that there are thousands of other people who share my experience, and listening to your videos has made me understand that I am not crazy, and how to detach myself from these abusive attitudes.

“Not letting you live in peace”. That’s what the goal of a narcissist is when it comes down to it. Constant browbeating.

"My Son"...puke. If I had a nickel for every time she has said those two words. No contact for 2 years- ZERO regret.

Narcissistic mother in law destroys their own family because of their ego.

100% my life!!! We moved away from his mother for like maybe 3 months and my husband was so different he was awesome however as soon as we moved back his mom sunk her claws back in so yeah

The bit about the grandchildren is so true. My narcissistic mother in law has done exactly what you said and poisoned my daughter against me. I am glad that you believe me Danish because everyone else things I am the crazy one. The wicked evilness is unbelievable and yet I am right in the midst of it. As if this horror film never ends. I want to wake up and think "what a bad dream," and then I realise it's reality. I never felt this way towards my father in law or my own parents. I come from a loving family and then I met narc m.i.l.

Thank you Mr. Bashir, you have helped me to understand all the narcissists in my life and why they behave the way they do. Could you please do a video on narcissistic siblings?

"Yes, yes, yes, finally, I've been waiting for this video for a long time. Thank you. She initially portrayed herself as an angel, took advantage of me, and manipulated me until she revealed her true colors. She gave me terrible nicknames and marginalized me. Naturally, her son stands by her side and does everything she wants; she is his commander, and he is her puppet. He told me, after she repeatedly emotionally abused me, 'Since you're against my family, I regret marrying you.' When the other siblings got married, she reverted to her fake personality and portrayed me as the villain! The most shocking part was when his brother said to his new wife, 'If my mother tells you to hang yourself, you should damn well do it because her word is the law.' What a twisted and cult-like family they all are. All of this simply because I have my own opinion and didn't dance to their tune; they constantly tried to silence me."

I didn't get away from my narcissistic mother-in-law until she died of natural causes @ 90 yrs old. She had 2 sons - one was an absolutely wonderful man - the other - my dearly departed xhusband - was the core, the root of all that's wicked. There is no end to this abuse as long as there are grown children willing to adopt these twisted tactics/mindsets

This video was hard to watch because it's so true. My narcissistic mother in law has made my life hell to the point of deep depression and suicidal thoughts. She is the master of evil. Her late husband said when I asked him what the secret of a good marriage was "tolerance" and he spat it out with venom.

I watched my mother, who is a covert narcissist, marry my first step father when I was 3 yrs old and HE was also a narcissist. His mother was a narcissist as well and did all the things you just described. It was a very toxic abusive (and they were alcoholics) household. I was very fortunate to find a good man and marry into a wonderful family. I’ve been with him since I was 16, so high school sweethearts. We’ve been together 35+ years, married over 33 years. My in laws are the absolute BEST. I love my mom in law like she is my own mother. She stepped up and stepped in all those years ago and has been nothing but a support to me. I do realize how lucky and blessed I am. My dad in law was the same. I love all my brothers and sisters in law as well. I have seen the other side with the awful narcissistic MIL growing up. I pray for anyone going through that or anyone who has been through it and is healing from that trauma 🙏🙏 God bless you Danish for doing the work you do. God bless anyone who has suffered at the hands of a narcissist. I pray for you all ❤️🙏

I entered a painting into a 50 entrants exhibition. The artist who critiqued my work praised my painting highly. I was thrilled as my art work was always ignored by family. My husband made a lovely frame for my painting but it was not part of the critique. My mother-in-law said that the only reason my painting was praised was solely because of the frame. My husband didn't disagree and support my efforts he silently agreed with her. I worked full-time and had a 30 mile commute 5 days a week. I would do housework etc on the weekend. When I didn't agree with her on valuing my time for self care, instead of entertaining her every weekend, she said I was raised very badly. Her son agreed. She praised him to high Heaven.

Super thankful we didn't live in the same state as my narcissistic mother in law. The manipulation was limited to the phone, letters, gifts and a few annual visits. I am truly thankful!

Absolutely accurate description! 👏

Danish, thank you for actually talking about what we experience as victims and this is what narcissistic abuse looks like in a relationship. Being told the psychobabble and pushing therapy is obviously a money pit if we’re not being told what to be aware of in their behavior. 40 years ago, I went into therapy at 18/19 proactively to prevent ending up w/a marriage from hell and I wanted my children to be in a loving, healthy family. I went for years, even discussed my ex in the appointments, expressed my frustration in certain situations and would even ask if MY EXPECTATIONS were too high? Imagine, what a total witch I felt like when I was told yes. I was being too hard on him, it sounds like he is a slow processor and needs time. No suggestion of getting the hell out and run🤦🏻‍♀️ In spite of my inner alarms I married him anyway. Still would go to therapy and always needed to work on me w/no improvement in the marriage. Went to one guy one time and explained why I specifically chose a male therapist. He started screaming at me and asked me why I was such a witch to my husband and the audacity of me. I was in tears, walked out and never returned. Obviously, this guy was a narcissist and saw I was picking up something was right and didn’t want me to get any info to leave him. Walked out of that appointment and never looked back. Have probably spent thousands or at least a 100,000 over 40 years and nothing. You are the first person I am considering to contact. These other therapists are saying all the “right” things but not telling us what we have experienced or will experience w/them should be an ethical violation. I had no idea about developing asthma was r/t to him or his walking around nude. If they only gave me the information you give, so much could have ended the pain so much earlier! Thank you very much!

Exactly how my mother-in-law is. Spot on. Thank you.

Gosh Danish, this is scarily spot on, I'm speechless at your absolute accuracy....😮

Thank you Danish, it is good for people to know how narcissism works in side the mind of one.. Helps to put the puzzle together for sure.. Love your content.. Many blessings to you..🙏💕

omw this is so recognizable I am the daughter and both parents are “narcissistic” to give it a general name. This so happened with my husband and me obviously I have chosen for him even that they do not understand while normal parents understand they need to take a step back when one flies out. All they can do is distruct us and our marriage as if they should be most important always. Eureka at maximum.

totally true. tries to undermine your every step, bad mouth you behind your back even about the gifts you give, this was how my mother treated my golden brother's wife, well, his 2nd one, the first marriage my mother ruined that one as well (when they came to her for advice, my mother drove her to get an abortion, and never said a word about his shoving his young wife around and abusing her, etc.). the marriage died. my brother was horribly aggressive and mean and my mother used him to do her dirty work. (at one point he actually told me that she and him came to where I was living (I was renting in a house, I was young and she kicked me out, so I had no place to go) and he told me that she planted drugs in my suitcase and then they told the person I was renting from, "OH see how she is!? she is a druggie!" I did have to move after that and I swear I had never touched drugs, not once. So I know she did stuff like this, he was her flying monkey but he did tell me they did that). Anyway, I guess he couldn't help himself (wanting to please her for her rewarding him, spoiling him, making his "the FAVORITE") and he has always been derisive and demeaning to women (porn is huge with him in order for him to have sex, I know his 2nd wife told me that is how they had sex, and she told me it was like, "rape" with him). my mother seemed to hate women but I found out as an adult that while she pretended to "love men" and sought to sleep with anyone around (not kidding, esp. if there was a woman in their life), she also emasculated men horribly. I have had to admit that my mother really seemed to be a closeted lesbian, she always tried to be "the man" but was very covert in her narcissism, just cold and horrible. as a result, she did destroy our family but it didn't start with her, her dad was a monster and a child molester and a narc, everyone bent to his will (he controlled the $$$$) and my mother "worshiped" him, but always was in denial that he was a cheater, a child molester and a horribly mean and controlling person. my mother then became this as well..............and did always trying to destroy anyone who had my brother's attention. my mother always had to be the QUEEN. my brother (in the end) stole from her, manipulated her and controlled her existence to make sure no one could see her (for years) and so he got away with it. our whole family is so bad that people in our family have died and no one even knows who they are or where they are......and so it goes.......... this was a very good video, Danish. I have an idea for a subject, maybe my next comment, I will suggest it. this is too long already! God bless and THANK YOU. spot on.

Absolutely 100-/- true. Today by separating from me and my children she kept my husband in her control. Thank you Danish for having clear view of mil nature.

You just played my late paternal grandmother. Who passed on her narcissistic gene onto my older sister. That nasty old woman did a lot to triangulate, to use her health, etc. I had very little to do with her in her last five or so years. Much as I have had nothing to do with this older sister for four years.

Great video. I like that you played the part of mother-in-law. This reminds me of someone in my family, who goes off like this and makes me want to give my head a shake. She pretends to be the victim and uses me as her supply. But things have changed now. I’ve blocked her. Thanks for all your great work, Danish.

You NAILED it Danish, especially the grandkids part. Well done. Thank you for bringing back my sanity =)

This happens even before marriage. A narc mother of a man I was seeing intentionally invited his son to “dinner”, and invited a “new friend” and basically played matchmaker to hook them up. He claimed he didn’t like the girl but the girl and the mother both did everything to seduce him. Pheromone cologne, girl filled in in all kinds of details about him so he would feel like they are connected, and invited her over to the parents house and left them alone a lot. My interest ended up having sex with her and was in contact with me. I immediately cut it all off. I felt like a dagger or a big needle pierced my heart and my love just sucked out. I am surprised I am not as angry as I should be. But I actually feel relieved. I don’t have to deal with this crazy family mess. My parents are deceased and I am older than my interest. The mother would not be able to hurt ME, so she just manipulated the son. And I am left alone. I’m ok with it though because I can move on and find someone who can stand up for themselves and not have some crazy woman intentionally sabotaging my love.

You are absolutely correct, Danish. My grandmother was exactly like this. May she not rest in peace.

I watch my Narcissist uncle that convince his single guest to be married. He said it's better to get married so someone is getting you ready like a maid with less price to a real maid. Also your biologist needs is fulfilled. That time I'm still a kid is really shock because i believe in married is about love not slavery like that. I get shut down and called kids know nothing. Now I'm an adult know that looking a man that wife-up to partner for life is hard to found, a lot of them is looking for slavery by saying "I'm looking for a partner who is willing to live a difficult life with me." I know there's still a lot of good men that actually really looking a life time partner that royal to him so he's gonna royal to his rest of life. But, Narcissist men who's saying that have implies to "I'm asking you to be together with me just in difficult time, when my life get easier I'm gonna leaving you to better woman." This is exactly what my uncle do, he is divorce his wife to get younger woman.

Wonderful explanation about narc mother in law. The very same I suffered through out my life. Now after watching your channel only came to know the details of narcs. All those in laws act to much spiritual And manipulate me to do work always.I just can't explain in words the tauma I went through.thank so much Danish for the way you explain. I have started healing in my mind body and soul.

On my wedding day she was playing the victim and spreading lies about me - my mum's best friend told me what she had been saying about me after my now ex-husband left...

😱 that was my ex’s mom! Finally l ended up breaking up with him. I couldn’t take it anymore. His mom was a monster!

Super...such kind of a mother in law is always monster in law..a wife of her son

Literally right on time. Her son hates her so they bond over their hatred for me. Divorce complete✅

Your every words are true. I went through much more than that.

Mine has destroyed my relationship numerous times in 11 years..i seen through her eyes..its pure evil and jealousy and will go to any length to destroy..has broken my soul ..its demonic

Ha! So spot on!!!

Thank you!!! You are the light we have and the voice we don’t. I appreciate you!!!

Spot on! My ex mil (Napoleon) did all these things! Only escape to normal life is complete cutoff! I would rather do jail time than live through that ever again!

We need a similar video for a narcissistic father-in-law and how they treat their son-in-law.

It felt as if the MIL said all these so soberly and politely😂..... Sufferings are definitely beyond words n expression😢

Danish, at the time i wasnt even aware what i was going through. Now ur describing her to a T and i realize i went through hell.

I cry every time I watch you because you speak the truth so clearly. Thank you so much for doing that because I can finally understand it wasn't always me. You are a God send!

Danish please make video over how to look towards narcisistic abuse as lesson so I can sooth my mind crying over lost opportunities ,.lost time , lost hopes , lost tears ..cause it really painful to accept that the person you loved most in that time actually cause you falll over your mouth

Well AOA Danish I have been watching your videos since last months, each & every video i can relate with them Im actually shocked cuz i didnt know what happening with me now i came to know the reality & truth what people are playing with me so im thankful to you Its really helping me to get my self together again during my healing process thanks alot will watch more videos to get more clarity regarding these types of people ❤

Bashir, I am so glad to have found you, I sometimes giggle at your theatrics. Thank you for being present in this dark realm! ❤❤❤

May God bless you abundantly for sharing information like this, it’s truly liberating to know that the abuse you suffered was real and premeditated, as this removes the extra layer that emaths carry which is guilt for putting themselves first.

17 yrs of suffering, campaign...exactly what u have said and more. After 17 yrs of marriage, eventually have the courage to divorce myself out of hill. She played my life ,my kids

Yup this how it was for me. I married the narcissistic son. Double whammy for 37 years. Now I’m out.

Really true massage they did not allow him to love me and allow children also.i went in depression and sickness.

Very useful!

Very truly said sir

Damn Danish This was too close to home! 😂

Thank you Sir❤❤

Thank you Danish. Now I understand.... I was actually visualizing my mil as I listened to you in this video 😮

Yep my so called mother in-law lived so far away and she could cause harm from miles away . Her son is just like her. Absolute nightmare. The lies they can tell about me! The stories they made up! Shocking that people believe these two people. Although I found that she gossiped and said horrible things about everyone she knew. The so called boyfriend of hers was the one she would trash the most. Behind his back I wish I never met her or her son. The only good that came out of it are my children with this man.Who thank goodness are nothing at all like either of them. They lie, manipulate, gaslight, and are just miserable. They talk bad about my family people, even talks about her own grandchildren. . They pretend to be nice out in public. Although behind closed doors just awful! I don't know how she has kept a boyfriend all these years. She would just tear her boyfriend down. She was not even mad at him when she would say the most cruelness things. She once said he owed her 9,000 dollars because she would cook him dinner every night. 😮 She would talk about him like he was her enemy. So I don't know what type of person he is. I never met him or spoke to him. Perhaps he is like her. No clue! I can't imagine that she is not demanding and controlling with him. She was married 3 times, and lived with several different men. I can see why! She came to visit for an entire summer. She played the victim. That and lies to make herself look so good. She was on the dole in Australia most of her life. Although she made up lies about achievements she never did. She would say she studied law, was a teacher, and a nurse. Not true at all! Everything had to be her way, constant criticism cruelness control and just the strangers person I ever met. She would sickenly praise her son like he was the best thing in the world. She in her mind thought her and her son were the best. He is an alcoholic narcissist. Although even when trying to tell her son needed help. She refused to believe it. I was always the problem in her eyes. Even when thinks are right in front of their faces they don't believe it. They think they are the best and everyone is to serve them. I still live in this. Although him and I are not like a married couple. Basically I am a maid. I clean his house wash his clothes, take out the trash and do everything that is required in the house. He is drunk and every night by 6 pm. Does what ever he wants. He controls all of the finances. Although tried to convince me that I was the problem with money because he said I would buy to many groceries. I have always had to ask him for money. I can't buy things for the kids with our his permission. He was a drug addict back in the day. His cost of spending money on drugs and alcohol caused our home to go into foreclosure several times. His mother would deny it was him and just give him money to pay his mortgage. She has said that I am a kill joy. I don't bother her son. He does everything he wants. I went out with friends once and he accused me of an affair. She has called her own grade children stupid. Said she would not speak to them, because they asked her why she disliked eso much. I suppose when the truth came out she could not handle it. She would leave me the most critical messages on my answering machine. Basically one where she told me I should kill myself. My kids have heard it. She sent me terrible emails that she wanted to hire a hitman to kill me. This is why her grandchildren will never respect or even like her. She is a nightmare and so is her son. She is definitely welcome to have her alcoholic son back. I wish every day with everything I have to be away from him. I would pay his mother to take him. It would be the best and most peaceful day if she took him back and I never heard from either of them again.

The worst evil disguises itself as good.

Thank you.💔💔💔

It could be she as well. This would apply to my husband and my mother, his mother-in-law.

So true.

A video on narcissistic father in law please

All these and much more muck was thrown. Treated like something that is fit only to be flushed down the toilet bowl.

I took her dishwasher. She'd leave her dishes for three days before he came home from his foreign posting. Air Force. 😂

That was my mother-in-law 💯. She was involved in my marriage until and after he died. Her marriage sucked. So she took over mine.😢

This was great Danish ,the way they think is demonic

" I am in his life before than you, right. from beginning. I have been there for him, took care of him as a child. You have done nothing for him. ". Isn't it the highest level of craziness....How can a spouse be there to take care of her partner as a child..... totally non-sense...

Thank you for stating this and explaining this ❤❤❤-Xclusyph Icon

It can be daughter's mother also.

💯 my husbands mum!

Thats why I didnt wanted child from my narc husband.. Because in this way...my narc husband and inlaws because if that unfortunate thing had happened their every sin would have became legal and genuine🙂🙃 so that nor do I can live neither I can die

Begins at 3:10 if your on a break at work

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How do you know my mother-in-law so well?

You took away my son. I hate you. Yes, that´s what we were told every day. I was the grand daughter.

I gave the big boy in diapers back to them. They were more concerned he was in trouble for domestic violence than for my safety.. 18 yrs .. 😵‍💫.. but im grateful to see the truth. Now they hate me because I don't care about any of them lol 😊😂

I have exactly faced what Mr. Danish has been saying. My mother in law has all the bad qualities that he mentioned. My husband is more emotionally attached to his mother than to me. I have accepted this fact. She will never allow me to live in peace. But I have patience. Not because I am afraid but I have faith in Allah. This is my test from Allah. And I will face it. Though I am not contact with my in laws but still I have to share the the same kitchen and washroom with them. And she is the one who is not allowing me to stay separate.

Don't worry the inlaws get what they sow, now they feel lonely because their adult kids don't love them... they never taught their kids how to love.. now they complain of lazy 30 yr olds.. no one wanting to visit them.. health problems etc..

It’s my kingdom. Yeah you can have it. It’s the kingdom of satan.

Exely my mother in law 😂

She wouldn't put up with shit

yip.

what about a narsistic grandparent

What to do if husband is a flying monkey

I went on vacay with my daughter in law, my daughter, my son and son in law, learned she had an instagram account uploading porch pic with her, black cat and pumkin @ Hallowe'n b&b's front porch. My daughter in law's a little Goth, a nurse/works at a funeral home, I refrain from looking at her or my daughter's instagram accounts because that will somehow, eventually turn into judging them, there's enough (too many) persons out there undoutedly judging them wrongly at that, I'll skip the critisms and keep the loving!❤

This was not very nice of you, because it was sooo painful.

I only pray to Allah that my husband should be able to breakfree from his mother's clutches.