Don't worry

Not foolish. Resilient, optimistic, loving. Those same qualities that kept you trying and hoping for change are the same qualities that will help you in your healing process. Pour all of that love you used to pour into the relationship into your own cup. Allow yourself the forgiveness you extended to them to flow to yourself. It's a tough, often lonely process, but you can and will heal. You are not a fool. You are a beautifully loving soul. Never doubt it!

@@RowanRiverstone thank you

​@@RowanRiverstonetoo much optimism is not good.

@@lorrainefrasier4096 It's up to every individual how much optimism they need. In my own personal journey, optimism grounded in real action, therapy, self healing, and making connections to others is what helped the most. I honor anyone who doesn't feel that works for them but encourage people to try it on for size. Blessings to you

They are empty or vapid.

Because everything is a lie

@@Escapingabuse101 💯

Spot on , they try to make fresh attempt to hurt again like nothing happened in the past

There's no shared bond, nothing to build on, no recognizance of past history, even of recent events. No ongoing topics about anything important to you, & if there's any type of ongoing theme, it's them complaining about you to you. They're a black hole void where the light anything good carries with it gets snuffed out on the spot. They have far-reaching tendrils, like Satan's fingernails.

It is so hard to stay quiet sometimes. 😒

I can tell by what you've said you've been dealing with plenty of narcissists. It's like the ability of a recovering alcoholic to spot the alcoholic behavior in others. What you just said perfectly matches what I've lived through. I'll just add that the purpose of the gaslight ing is to get you to question your own thinking. And also, you're damned right, they see something in you they are jealous of, & you will be punished for it! 😂

I totally agree; the challenge and mortification of other’s judgement all because the narc puts on that victim face and people believe them. I’m getting better at not giving a hoot because I want those people to get closer to the narcs and be the recipient of that same smearing.

Thank you for your words. I totally agree. I’m happily spending Christmas alone, out of the ‘narcissistic mini cult’ Peace at last 🙏

It is difficult!! The way I'm seeing the gullible "freinds " is that they're not much of a friend if they don't question the bad things said about you. With friends like that who needs enemies? As said ,the gaslighting is meant to make you think you are crazy. Who else sometimes questions if you are the narcissist? All of us. That is a sign you are not. Said by a npd therapist. We are, or have gone through this process of self evaluation. Keep up the fight,we will get past this and become a better/stronger version of empath. ❤️‍🩹✌️🙏💪

Fucking facts

Nope...forget about it

Very true

No self analysis..Exhausting.We try so hard to show love is the way but manipulation and lying and self gratification is the scene... But a horse,dog,cat,bird- whatever... Some are super intelligent but exhausting...To me it's so sad I am too old for the games played now. God help them and all effected...Yes, a spoiled child and many children are more mature.You are correct my friend.Im sick and exhausted from 3 working on me...expecting me to be like a calm mother... Ido not dislike any of them but finally realised I am no help or use... I have a disease( unusual-schleromyxederma and several more).That one takes 10 years off your life...but still I was used...I have cut them off bit by bit...praying they all meet the right friends... Thank you for your positive,useful info..😊

I want to tell you that you are so brave and strong!Unfortunately you are not alone with you pain about kids narcissistic used as a weapon against their mothers. I know you pain and I have same hopes for future reunion with my child some days. ❤

I'm still married, I think the stress of it all was more than hubby could handle, not my prob but I really suffered and my 27 yr old daughter is being difficult, I tell myself to keep helping her with kindness but she wants a friend to whine to, nope 🙅🏻, wrong number! She does well and I don't want to hear her complaints, she grew up being called the other woman cuz she and her dad ganged up on me, got away with it as I'm a stay at home mom, I no longer have to put up with it! Xox 🙋🎠

Thats really sad. I wish you all the best.

For what it's worth, so many wish they were brave like you. Self included.

@@joseenoel8093 hopefully your daughters will come around and see that you did the right thing! Have Faith!

Yea all this is so true

Very true. My ex from 20 years ago (whom I have a son with), still tries to trigger and insult me with silly crap that happened 20 years ago! His tunnel vision won't let him see that there isn't any power in any of those things anymore. I'm not the same person as I was when I knew him, but they're incapable of seeing the natural change & evolution of people over time. They're forever stuck in a rabid dog phase and it's actually kinda sad. Literally nothing he says stirs up any emotion from me anymore. He's just too blind to see it.

Yup my ex dumped me like 3 times before I finally had enough and said I was done being jerked around. Then he had the nerve to text stuff like "why didnt you chase me, why am i the only one trying??" 😭😭 (Sitting outside my apt when I didnt respond to texts) I was like "well lets review, you dumped me 3x, were seeing someone behind my back, id say thats a sign you dont want to be with me anymore" And he literally could not understand this 😂 what a shell these people are!

A Swiss cheese mentality - Big holes !

@HuHWhat-yi8cp Hahaha EXACTLY! 😆 Great analogy!

It is like you echoing my story. Glad to hear that you found comfort in The Lord Jesus. For me even I didn't know anything about Narcissism until God revealed to me through other people. Thank God. Knowledge is power. 🙏🙏

Beautiful words. Praise God.

If they can't show off their grandiose pathetic personality they crawl into a shell and come alive again when they either at work or within a crawd of people, little do they know though that when surrounded by intelligent men they roll their eyes backwards from the stupidities that come out his mouth, now when it comes to women he becomes so suave and compliments them even a clown and so on and they laugh at his jokes as long as his got full attention without realising his a pathetic comedian.

Well said!!!

I can’t remember what it is to tell you but that Statue of Liberty is connected to the devil - Freemasons something along those lines. You’re message is spot on.. 🙏🏽💗 God Bless you

Yes

Respectfully, no one is that powerful. You choose to stay and allow the abuse. Please consider yourself first. You were not put on this earth to be someone punching bag. I had a boss who thought I was the one, nope, I discarded her out my life and have a better job as well. .

Please listen to the comment above you. People need to stop giving narcs what they want en mass, that's the only way this bs will stop. I also quit and found a WAY better job with WAY better people. My career is just fine, lol. I'm not saying it was easy peasy lemon squeazy, but why wouldn't you be willing to fight for the best outcome for yourself and the defeat of a literal enemy who couldn't care less were you to get hit by a bus??

Make a plan to escape, and don’t share it with anybody (even people who are “on your side”). Invent an excuse for your job switch so you keep a good reference & don’t provoke any retaliation. If your boss is the type who might refrain from hassling you for a few days, laziness & fear of change *WILL* make you think: “I’ll work on my escape plan later. Right now is tolerable, so there is no rush.” You must fight procrastination. Do not contribute to your own abuse. Do not make it easier to abuse you. Also: throughout this transitional time, document any abuses with photos, videos, or recordings. Secret recordings are often inadmissible in court, but you’re not trying to have an official legal trial. The legally inadmissible recordings from your phone (just use voice memo app) should be kept because it really sucks when people don’t believe you, and if your boss is a true clinical NPD he’ll do things that are SO out of line, anyone would find your telling of them hard to believe. You mentioned “damaging your career.” Most people have a job so that we can pay rent, buy food, provide for our families, etc. if you have a pwNPD targeting you-at work-your whole reason for waking up and commuting to your job is bunk, moot, not applicable. Daily exposure to a real clinical NPD’d person: you’ll be notice TONS of hair loss when you shower, your appearance will take a precipitous drop-off, inside of two years you’ll look like you’ve aged 25 or maybe even 30 years. The unrelenting stress and the hypervigilance: without question will cause measurable, objective, real physical health problems. You’ll be so exhausted you’ll find yourself retreating from family & friends, which is extra bad because you extra need them. All the reasons & motivators that incite a person to go out and get a job or career will disappear.

Wow you said that? 😂💙 That's so awesome though

Yes they will never look at their own attitude and behaviours it's always others and they are the victims ..crocodile fake facial persona what they show the world

This is true of all narcissists. They say the same things. They act a like, they react a like. They all thing they are of superior thought and intelligence. I’ve had to warn people about my mother. I said it is fine to be friends, but NEVER, EVER tell her private or personal information about yourself. She will turn on you and do her best to embarrass you and destroy you. These people then come back week or few weeks later and say… “ you were right, she turned on me and tried to shred me.” They thanked me for the heads up.

Don't waste your energy on them.

You have to let it go. Many of us out here have this kind of suffering and watching Danish is so helpful. You are not alone.❣️

@@doobybro1207 thanx

@@anneofgreengables1619 Thanx for advice

Go your own way. Get better people. Ignore the rest. Don't feed these parasites, that's not why you were born.

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She will cause them to be people Pleasers with weak boundaries who are likely to attract a narc. (Me)

@@anneofgreengables1619 you're married?

@@ninii394 Divorced a narc 18 years ago.

@@anneofgreengables1619 can't we have normal life what's our fault🥺....why you didn't marry again sister ?

@@ninii394 I never met a suitable candidate & failed to realize I had not healed my childhood wounds. I did not have strong enough boundaries & was too forgiving of bad behavior.

They don’t see things, the way normal people do. They enjoy causing pain , to a person they claim to love. They feed off of your pain. They are unable to change , so the only thing we can do is to get away from these people.

@ruth. They are fkd too ! 🤣

@andron967 TINA TURNER 💜💪💜

Sorry, what do you mean. I don't understand any of this post