I too am living proof we CAN heal!!! Just last night, while watching a movie with family and friends, my fearful, anxious thoughts started up. I was mildly dysregulated. In the past, not knowing a thing about dysregulation and C-PTSD, I would’ve followed those thoughts right down the rabbit hole into major fear, anxiety, panic, and desperation. I might have acted out (shifting my fear and anxiety into blame) or I might have taken some regrettable action (like quitting a job) that was purely trauma-driven. These days I use the super duper uber-effective Daily Practice to deal with my dysregulated thoughts. It works! And since I’ve been doing the Daily Practice, exactly as taught, for many months now, I can sometimes just recognize what’s happening (“Oh, I’m dysregulated and can’t exactly believe these thoughts/can’t exactly take these thoughts seriously in this moment”) and get relief that way and shift right out of the dysregulation! Beautiful! Brilliant! Amazing! Thank you, thank you, thank you Anna for all you do!!!

I'm from India and a 23 yo women idk how much of an international audience you've but let me tell share that trauma has no geographical boundaries. I'm honestly so disappointed when people pull this rhetoric of developed countries vs developing countries or something from the past like Hitler's dictatorship. There are many places where dictatorships with despicable human rights violations still exist but healing isn't about trauma olympics. This is about the beauty of humanity where we all gather and celebrate each other's resilience and joy. When I listen to your wisdom I feel so warm and despite the cultural differences I appreciate your wisdom so much. I didn't have healthy parental figures in life neither did my parents, maybe I'm the 1st one in generations pursuing higher degrees in fields like law. I just wanted to say everytime I feel uncomfortable with C-ptsd symptoms I listen to your wisdom. I'm so happy to see that despite all the turmoil you endured, you've a beautiful life which you devotionally worked for and now you're sharing with us how we can be on the boat. People don't have to agree with everything you or anyone says but we all know the world needs more consciousness and optimism and you're one of those ray of sunshine. So thank you so much for everything ❤

"you can't go around being an angry woman all the time, but then I just couldn't NOT be an angry woman." I think this statement is profound considering that the world has always feared and condemned female anger and rage. We have been told directly and often in more subtle ways NOT to express anger which, as you know Anna, doesn't make it go away. I would love for you to expand on this subject of anger. Keep up the great work.

English person here saying we have some weird ideas about class and not getting ideas above your station and heaven forbid anyone smile at you on the tube but that is not mutually exclusive from healing. If anything a rising tide lifts plenty of other boats.

As a recovered "twin soul believer", I can say this is extremely damaging when the object of your fantasy does not outrightly push you away, but toys with you, enjoying the intention and energy but showing no intention of letting anything develop. Happened to me twice in my past...more than a year of interaction but not even a coffee date. Don't confuse a timewaster with a deep soul connection!

I feel very strongly about my crappy childhood fairy. She HAS shown me a lighted pathway. 48 years finally I found You, you give hope for the tortured child.

OMG! I drove off with a gas spout in my car too. It was very late at night at a 7-Eleven in a small town. Two drunk men that did not work there started really messing with me and trying to scare me and it worked. Then the gas station tried to sue me... a woman called me from the courthouse and I explained what happened. The case was thrown out. It's too bad this pessimistic viewer is jumping ship. I have found your channel to be very helpful. Thanks Anna❤

Omg! I love you. You don't have to explain any credentials to me. I accidentally stumbled upon you a few months ago. I was definitely rock bottom with depression and hopelessness. I binged you for a week! You definitely hit home for me. I never dreamed I had ptsd and never heard of cptsd. You have changed my life and helped me understand myself with all your incredible knowledge. You have made my life make sense. I have hope now and know it is possible for me to be a happy person and have inner peace. I'm still searching for my sole mate, but now I know it's still possible. The saddest part of this all, is I will be 70 years old in September😂. I wish you were here when I was 30. I wouldn't have lived such a lonely crappy adulthood. I thank you from the deepest of my heart and my inner sole.

There's kind of an x factor in people like this, where they suck the oxygen out of a room before anyone can really get a word in edgewise. They're just people who need to learn to have fun and enjoy their life. My girlfriend's dad is like that, everything is about the holocaust and suffering and sadness. They refuse to have fun or let there be joy. Once you're that negatively charged, genuinely happy people feel like poison to you. Keep on keeping on Anna and crew, thank you for all you do!

Oh, Anna, so sorry you were randomly attacked on the street after surviving your childhood traumas. That hurts my heart so much. And here you are helping all of us deal with our CPTSD. God bless you.

Some people scrutinize the messenger and forget to pay attention to the message. Thank you so much for bringing such important messages in such practical and down to earth ways.

Anna, I must say that I’m from London and I get you and understand completely how you put things. Your videos have been very helpful. I appreciate your down to earth, practical advice and the fact that you don’t pander to egos but call us out. I’m sorry I wasn’t able to attend your London workshop last month and hope I can make the next one. Ok, off to do the daily practice, thanks again. Jewel 💎

At 39:20 this explains why I sometimes feel I crave drama! Once again, Anna, you nailed it. The calmness allows the trama to surface. Yikes. When I first started doing the daily practice (see link in the description box) I felt a little overwhelmed. It was calming and i allowed all the thoughts (fears and resentments) to surface so I i can scratch them down on paper. But as soon as I wrote the final paragraph about releasing them from your thoughts.......etc., then destroying the paper, I understood how this can be useful. My mind was free, for a while. Rinse and repeat latter in the day. No need for drama now, to suppress the trauma. The daily practice helps release the trauma that's clogging up the brain.

I’m from Ukraine and I benefit from your videos. And no, Americans aren’t all positive, many are deeply hurt. Pain does not discriminate based on someone’s origin or nationality.

I so needed to hear this, this morning. Thank you, Anna. ♥ Ironically, a stage IV cancer diagnosis in Aug. 2020 sparked a level my emotional-spiritual trauma that I hadn't been able to access in my years of working to heal. But I've been haunted by one therapist from among the eleven I went to who spoke from that pessimistic mindset when I had come to her wide open and optimistic. I came to her in my early 30s (am 65 now), was so open and her words burned a message in my heart that has lurked even though I often find reason to feel joy and optimism. The way I articulated my goal when I went her was to "get to Square One". To me, that meant being whole enough to have say-so over my own choices and behavior, and not be driven by "mom and dad and big sister tapes" or by whatever upsetting input came my way. The "knowing" condescending smile on her face when she said "Your mother will always be hovering at your shoulder" and when she actually laughed when I said I wanted to be whole and then replied "That's a nice goal but no one is ever whole" are still haunting memories. After ending our association, I found out that she had learned her fiancé was cheating on her -- the fallout from that shouldn't have spilled into her work with people but I'm sure that was part of the attitude brought to vulnerable clients. There was an element of sadism from her. Anyway, as I listened to the way you have answered the person you first addressed in this video a felt a lightening and a sense of breathing more easily. Still am, and I'm smiling as I type this because I feel like remaining tentacles of an unwelcome long-term guest, that therapist's negating narrative, has finally left. You are such a healer, Anna. Blessings to you.

I learned more in 1 week with you than 2 years in therapy. Thank you❤

I have just completed a BS in Psychology and I am doing a trauma-informed mindfulness practitioners course too however YOU are my go-to for my own healing (experience is essential in the matter of trauma) Thankyou for helping people by sharing your experiences

I’m also from the UK, Anna, and I can tell you that we don’t all think that way. And I’m sorry you received this comment and it got to you. Your videos are always so insightful and motivating. Thank you for everything you do.

THANK YOU for sharing your opinion on "twin flames", I also had to deal with someone who became too attached to me and eventually had to enforce a boundary for my own well-being. I don't often hear from others with similar experiences, but it feels good to know I'm not alone. Sometimes it feels like I have to defend myself by my lonesome, but I'm trying my best to remind myself I am strong enough 🙏

I love the Daily Practice and add to it a gratitude list. A gratitude list is a list of what has really happened in my life and can be very personalized for each person.

I started doing your technique a few days ago… i give my fears to god daily now, and put myself in his hands, and say “not my will but yours be done”, and then… there is a deep sense growing in me, there is a type of inner strength based on growing faith that i really can make true progress if i lean on this deep conviction that i am being led rightly. Something very profound is already happening, and its only been a few days. And i want to go deeper. I can now understand why you would still be practicing this exercise all this time later. Thank you for being here making these videos, you are the right person for this. Thank you for sharing your technique. And thank you for explaining dysregulation, so much makes sense now.

I recorded a short part of the last daily practice. You answered a question that is running my life!! I could not believe your clear and strong answer that gave me such a relief of GUILT!! Such a wonderful answer!! We have tendency to go to guilt and shame and you are very well aware of what to DO about it. Thank you!

❤Anna! Bc of you, my women cave was cleaned today! ❤You Anna! Refined thinking, which is healing my broken heart🫸💔🔥❤️🫷. Sometimes I repeat your videos that bring light and warmth to me. I have yet to find a video that sucks!!

Love you Anna was so good to meet you and attend your workshop keep going you are healing the world from life lived experience which is much more helpful for us

Your videos on limerence finally gave a name to behavior I knew was my problem but lacked the ability to express. All it took was giving a name to the ghost that controlled my thoughts my whole life. It was like a switch went off. Healing and relearning to trust myself and my emotions has been one of the most positive experiences I've had in a really long time. I've even met someone special. It's fully reciprocated and so effortless. I never thought I could be so optimistic and happy and knowing it's 100% real. I would not be here without your content. Thankyou

I find Pessimism helps prepare me for the inevitable incoming difficulties. It helps prepare me for more hardship, and is unfortunately more accurate to reality than optimism. ALWAYS YMMV. I am cheerleader triggered.

Thank you Anna for sharing some comments that are difficult. I love that you are real and transparent. I’ve learned so much from your videos! Thank you!! ❤

Just for you Anne, my future daughter in law is a therapist, trained in one of the best universities on the East coast thinks highly of you.

Your story is deeply moving and inspiring. Not to mention how much courage you demonstrate in sharing your wisdom. Any and every blessing that comes your way ypu unequivocally deserve. May you receive many more!

Hello from Ireland 🇮🇪 healing nicely from complex trauma. Working with the nervous system and neuroplactisty. 🤗🤗🤗🤗

Yes, adult trauma letting the genie out of the bottle - the perfect description of how it finally cracks open.

I discovered this channel last year after searching for what the h*** was wrong with me (long story, won’t get into it here), and Anna described me to the T. I binge watched and cried for two weeks. Still watching, learning something valuable every week. Fast forward, I am learning to know the signs of getting dysregulated, and know better now what to do about it. The first time I did the daily practice, it was like night and day. Instant transformation. Anna also recommend waking up an hour earlier to avoid hurrying and to do self care, which I struggle with doing consistently. For weeks ago I started to shower right after work in the nursing home after changing out of my scrubs to go home, and my stress is diminished. Two days ago I didn’t, and I procrastinated on self care which led to hurrying and stress later on. Not good, it actually dysregulated me a bit. Picking up self care again, to let myself feel good. I started a while ago asking men who show interest important questions and have uncovered red flags and called out questionable behavior early on instead of playing cool and staying in the business of collecting red flags. I am serious about stopping re-traumatizing myself. I really am healing, and I am hopefull. In less than a year I have raised my self awareness and healed a lot, I am hopefull for the future, and I do believe that I can heal, and that there is a lot I can do myself to stay healed.

2:00 Dear Fairy I also saw that comment and I passed without reading. I'm here for YOUR input. Thank you for taking time to read comments. You handled this with gentleness and empathy. Your voice was so soothing to listen to. You helped me understand myself.

Hello Anna! I'm Tania 44 yo and I live in Portugal. I have CPTSDA and after finishing my 7 year process of psychotherapy I met your channel. Therapy helped me a lot. I started doing your daily practice and I've been able to live without regular therapy and I'm managing to balance my neurological dysregulation on my own. Thank you Anna for your service, for all that you teach, for having dedicated your life to this commitment. Hurted people, victims, attack a lot because they are in pain. I admire the way you addressed the letter of the person who invoked the theme of the holocaust. Good and evil exist everywhere and in all cultures. When we continue to cultivate ideas of separation that's a redflag that we're not okay with. Keep up with your work! Thank you very much. Hug from Portugal! 🙏

I am in the UK and I recomment you to people. I have learned so much! ❤

I've been doing the daily practice for 27 days. Already I've noticed a mindfulness I've never experienced before. I'm now aware of my triggers and the emotional/psychological response they evoke. I'm able to transition through disregulation in a fluid and effortless way. It feels as if I'm moving through water these days rather than barreling over a waterfall. It seems like a very slow process toward healing, but I'm determined to stick with the daily practice and realize the benefits I'm only now beginning to experience. Disregard the naysayers, Anna. This recent convert to the daily practice will forever be grateful for the second chance at life you've given me. Love.❤

I'm so sorry you get those negative comments, but I guess that comes with the territory. Very sorry you - and all of us here - went through what we went through, but I'm so grateful to you and this Community for giving me hope and the tools to heal.

I’ve been listening to you every morning and night since i learned that I had cptsd. Oddly, I can see that I had prepared my life for healing, even before I knew what was wrong. My therapist told me about cptsd after I sabotaged and ruined my 22 year marriage. I knew then that I had it and had to heal. I work in the mental health field and teach skills. So I applied skills, listened to you and learned about ifs. I doubled down in learning and started to actually call my trauma trauma. I know you can heal! Thank you so much for your work!

I absolutely adored when you started talking about limerence and horses and Laura Ingalls Wilder! You are the best Anna - thank you for being you!

Thank you for this video. I am self diagnosed CPTSD due to childhood abandonment, neglect, and abuse from being raised by an alcoholic mother. Your channel, videos, website, and free downloads have helped me tremendously. Thank you. Despite many many many years of working on myself and making strides; I am still often triggered and find myself emotionally dysregulated. Usually after a few hours (or in some cases days), I will have clarity about why I was triggered. Sadly, the damage is usually already done and then I am left feeling emotionally hung over and picking up the pieces of whatever was broken due to my lashing out. In high stress times, it becomes even more difficult to stay grounded and not allow myself to be triggered. Keep up the amazing work. Many of us need you!

I wish I would have known about my cPTSD 19 years ago and understood how it has taken me down a dark painful road with a controlling covert narcissist who I quickly merged with after my first divorce (and her second that she was still finalizing). We were married within 2 months of meeting and she has played on my inner critic, disregulation and insecurities for years to make my life hell. I am so grateful for the insights and information that those like yourself are providing to give us hope and healing in our broken cPTSD lives.

Hi Anna ~ Wow, lots to unpack with regard to this video. My impression is that you found the 1st comment discussed to be triggering - which is understandable when you believe passionately in what you’re doing here on KZfaq. Yet from what you shared of the British viewer’s comment, I didn’t perceive pessimism, but something more along the lines of realism. I’ll explain why. I’m American - and note that many Americans tend to employ language that is either ambiguous, imprecise, or smacks of absolutes. I wasn’t even aware of it until I entered my career in civil law - where care in one’s choice of words is extremely important. Assessing a statement like, “You can heal your trauma,” the first thing that comes to mind is, “What do you mean by heal?” Because “heal” implies that something can be repaired - and from my reading of Bessel van der Kolk .....in the case of developmental trauma and its impact on the brain, that’s not really the case, right? Now, that’s not to say that people who’ve experienced developmental trauma which has resulted in adult PTSD (or as you prefer, C-PTSD) can’t learn to manage their symptoms to live happier, more rewarding lives. It does, however mean that the injury itself is permanent; i.e. there is no cure. Hence the concept being more realistic versus pessimistic. It’s also beneficial in that it provides people with a better understanding of the gravity of the injury - as well as the consistent level of dedication one must bring to the problem if one hopes to “beat the odds,” shall we say. You have said one of your goals here is to encourage people - and that you’re concerned that those in a more negative place in their lives due to “C-PTSD” may be discouraged by reading something critical in the comments section. I actually worry that in holding out an overly optimistic prediction of how others lives will be “transformed” by pursuing your strategies, those whose lives do not experience a similarly significant, rapid, transformation will lose all motivation to continue work on themselves. Perhaps the British viewer holds a similar opinion - and as you said, perspectives will vary by personality type, culture, and life experience. Now, although I’m an extremely rational thinker, after watching a number of your videos, I actually WAS under the impression that you were a licensed therapist. I agree that assistance to those suffering the pervasive effects of developmental trauma can come from many sources: therapists are often unhelpful, it’s not only licensed clinicians who can offer good strategies, and you’re at liberty to share what helped you (a laudable goal). I think it would enhance others’ perception that you’re approaching this issue ethically be posting a short disclaimer at the opening of each video noting that you aren’t a licensed therapist, you’re not seeking profit, and that your opinion is founded on your own experience. With regard to the “twin flame believers” - I’d say this: Some of that concept is borrowed from Judaism, in which at least some sects hold the idea is that a soul has been split (at conception) and is awaiting reunion with its other half in adulthood. It’s not only a new-age construct, but actually developed in of one of the oldest organized religions on Earth. As you said - who knows what exists beyond the physical world. I appreciate your point about how magical thinking and an unfounded fantasy can deprive people of the opportunity to find real love - but have you considered that perhaps that fantasy is serving a function of keeping someone away from entering detrimental relationships until they do some serious “work on self” ??? Which is to say that unless a person is behaving inappropriately and not respecting boundaries, I’d be hesitant to discourage those holding such beliefs - as they may need that fantasy to prop up poor self esteem until they can actually build some for themselves. This may be more of a therapeutic approach than you’re comfortable with undertaking, but I’ll just suggest it may be of more help to offer something along the lines of the importance of living the life one has now, or that if they truly believe in that concept, they should engage in some serious introspection to develop themselves into the best version of themselves ...to be prepared for when they can be reunited. As you said, those folks clicked on you for a reason! Lastly, due to the possibility of C-PTSD being lumped in with Borderline Personality Disorder in the upcoming edition of the DSM (and the stigma associated with personality disorders), you might wish to assess whether implementing the alternate term “developmental trauma” will serve everyone better - especially since the name itself has the benefit of being more descriptive of what’s actually occurred rather than just labelling someone according to their symptoms. I know this was quite long - I really just wanted to show you what was in my toolbox. And while not a right guaranteed under the U.S. Constitution, the Declaration of Independence did indeed assert the importance of not constraining mankind from life, liberty and the pursuit of happiness ...and like you, my wish is that as many people as possible who suffer the ramifications of a crappy childhood will find their way to a path leading to the happiness they seek. I offer this in that spirit. Have a great day!😊

Pessimists are not the same as realists. Realism is a good touch to have while being optimistic.

We crave drama because that's what we're used to. Especially when we're talking to a healthy person and we don't know how to deal with them. Possibly even get jealous of them so we create drama to get our familiar feelings back. Some people don't want to be healed yet. Praying they reach that point ❤🙏

In my case, I don't think it's impossible to heal. It's just not easy and sometimes you stumble backwards often. Been on a healing journey but currently right back on the floor. Family members that give me anxiety recently came by for business and I've been dissociated ever since. It's been days and all I've done is roll around in the mud of poor choices. I wish I was stronger. But the past few days since seeing them, I've not been aligned with my best self. But I still have hope. Thank you Anna and Team Fairy ✨️

I have recovered from addiction, gone from being afraid to speak to anyone, to playing music and speaking publicly to hundreds of people at a time, grown in confidence in many ways. Whilst work is most definitely still in progress, I can honestly say, that the "experts" and professionals have not only been the LEAST useful source of help with all this, but in some cases they have caused serious setbacks through their ignorance and lack of real experience. Give me someone who has the experience, and is willing to share it, any day

Thank you Anna for showing us how to deal with criticism in a positive way. We all need to learn this wether we have CPTSD or not. I am a yearly member and finally two weeks ago left a 13yr very abusive relationship. I give you a lot of credit for helping me to start to heal and realize I’m able to chg. I have not been able mentally to stick to the courses because of having to move out of my house with one friend one day helping me and my Mom one day helping and the rest by myself one car load at a time 😢not complaining (well kinda hahaha I know I know do the daily practice 🤣… immediately after I finish this). I have a disability scoliosis so I use a walker and have had alot of pain and I’m not even finished moving it all yet but almost! So… I’m thankful for your channel and courses because I totally feel like The Lord has lead me to get real help from your generosity in sharing what worked for you! I just had to write and try to encourage you because it sounds like you might need a lil ❤so you remember YOUR MAKING A DIFFERENCE! THANK YOU FROM 🇺🇸lol I too love being American! 😂I love people from everywhere and really wish we could all just remember we are all children of God and are the same. P.S. I had years of therapy yrs ago and stopped because I was feeling worse instead of better and felt like I must just be too big of a mess to help. That help lead me into the last 13yr relationship with a REAL NARCISSIST and my family has been trying to get me out for years but I was too traumatized to leave. Then I found Crappy Childhood Fairy! ❤❤❤🙏of course I give my Jesus the Glory and He let me find you so let me make sure I give the credit where it is due! ❤😊 God Bless keep going 🙏I for one am so grateful for your example! 💯🙏❤️

I just wanted to correct a point made by the letter writer at 4:30 (back seat driver comment, I know!) ... Both the US Constitution/Dec. of Indep. and British Law are based on the same document, the Magna Carta. Our lawful system (not to be confused with the legal system) also comes from Great Britain, called Common Law. There are definitely echoes of the pursuit of happiness and natural, God given rights in English Common Law. Whether the present country of Great Britain upholds those rights or not is beside the point (certainly the US Constitution has been violated several times by our own legal system - this is nothing new). We weaken ourselves by playing the victim of whatever governmental system we're under. It's unfortunate that injustice happens, but being in a state of victimhood will not fix anything.

Anna, I feel so so so grateful to have found your videos! Such a relief to hear what you have to say. I will be starting the daily practice. I would also like to attend the daily practice calls you mentioned. God bless you and yours Anna! I think you are very intelligent and valuable! Sincerely, Penny Palmer from southern California.

So grateful both for your insights and also that you're willing to share them

I mean I’ve been through some brutal stuff (born in a 3rd world country too) but here I am healed and happy and hopeful and optimistic for my future. So yes it’s very very possible

I'm so impressed with the commenter who connected limerence and horses. My mind was blown when Anna introduced me to limerence, but not until this moment did I connect the dots that I suffer from it not only with men but horses!!!!! Wow! My whole life I would get obsessed thinking I had to have a certain horse, only to find out we were a terrible match. Lots of heartache and thrown away money. I now take lessons at a barn with wonderful horses and get my fix without trying to fill a void with impulsive purchases....💖

Thank you for all your dedication and hard work no one has done to date. Your material is life-liberating and welcomed. Keep it coming. This was very nice of you to give the public access to the daily challenge. God bless you and your endeavors.

I am tired of the soulmate and twin soul obsession. It makes more sense that it’s a form of limerance. Having said that, I do have spiritual beliefs mainly based on people who’ve had near death experiences. One person who had NDE addressed twin souls, and their explanation made much more sense. Not everyone has a twin soul and the purpose of a twin soul is not about a romantic union but to gain life experiences simultaneously. In other words, a soul could be a farmer and live that life fully, and also be a politician on the other side of the world. It’s a way to expedite the process of learning.

Thank you for being so honest and transparent. Thank you for defining issues that I didn’t have a vocabulary for. Thank you for all the amazing work you do. It is making a difference in the world. Healing, even if imperfect , is better than being stuck. Being stuck is a slow and painful death. Life can be painful but if you’re on a healing path, you won’t drown in the difficulties of life you can walk through them and do the work and feel alive and gain much in the process.

Anna, when are you writing a *BOOK*? Your knowledge and broad life experience is all invaluable to us. Thank you, to you and your team! And power to the other CCFairy pupils.

Understanding where you are coming from resonates with me. I am grateful for your efforts in helping to spread trauma information. Thanks ❤❤❤❤❤❤

Stereotype is a very dangerous thing when it's used extremely. No matter what country we're in, we all have a right to be happy. It has begun to be my experience that when I live in a punishing angry society, where there is a lot of put down and a lot of revengeful attitude, it does me no good whatsoever. In fact, these days although I empathize greatly with my roommate who struggles with depression, I can't be around that all the time because it does affect me and it does push my buttons and reminds me of how depressed I once was and how depressed I can be again. Instead of discouraging other people from being happy I try to be happy for them no matter how jealous or envious or resentful I feel. I'm reprogramming myself now to be happy cuz I know it's up to me. I'm in pain almost everyday. I suffer from terrible flashbacks. And yet I'm enjoying this beautiful day today. My roommate looks at me often like I'm nuts every time I remark everyday how beautiful the days are. I don't care. I really don't care. My heart goes out to him but I still think it's a beautiful day.

Pursuit of happiness is in the preamble to the declaration of independence, not even the constitution, it was a goal, a hope. Looking for triggers and not glimmers is a self defeating practice that has nothing to do with nationality or culture. I just started listening to your channel recently and the clarity that I get from you videos is amazing! You unpack all the complexity of emotions, better than most people on the subject of trauma and narcissism.

I love your pure caring nature. We have this, people we can heal..... xx

Hi Anna. I'm from England and we could really do with some sunshine here right now. I've only recently discovered your channel while being off work with stress, depression and anxiety - I've been struggling with these since childhood. I'd never been aware of CPTSD, despite all the therapists and mental health professionals I've had dealings with over the years - they never mentioned it. The way it's described and addressed in your videos is allowing me to make sense of how my experiences during childhood have influenced me throughout adulthood, even now (I'm 61 this week). I'm finding your videos very helpful, so want to thank you. Keep up the great work.

I used to be very pessimistic about healing, until my pessimism almost literally killed me. There was truly a learning curve to admit that I WANTED to get better and that I WANTED to live. I wouldn’t consider myself healed, but I believe healing is possible❤❤

I left a comment that had been removed . I was disappointed to see it removed.. it was in response to a -response.. I was sharing how much I enjoy your wit and style..it's been very helpful to me to learn about the things that trigger me . I now see people differently.. then I say 'Crappy childhood' I see their triggers now too.. Thank you for that..

About that lady who left & criticized you for being too “sunshiny”: It actually reminds me a lot of a video short on Patrick Teahan’s channel about affirmations, why they don’t work, and how to make them work. His view of affirmations sounded similar to her criticism here - basically that they sound super positive in a way that just doesn’t land with some people. The top comment elaborates on that, saying “[This] really explains why I would get frustrated and sometimes even upset by affirmations. My inner child was feeling even more unheard.” I think in both cases, people who aren't receptive to that level of positivity (definitely me sometimes 🙋‍♀it just depends) might be triggered by childhood or complex trauma, rooted in things like invalidation & neglect. You say in another part of this video (@29:56) “I leave it to the therapist to help you analyze what happened in the past. That may be part of your healing for you” and coincidentally, that’s exactly Patrick’s advice w/regard to affirmations 👍 His video short is called "Affirmations Don’t Work Without The Context Of Our Childhood Trauma" and he simply suggests adding your personal story to it, so that it actually makes sense to whatever bad happened to you that you're working to fix with the affirmation. Anyway, I hope that makes sense. I think her criticism of you was unfair. You absolutely do validate what people have been though & the advice you offer is brilliant & affirming, and clearly it's helped a lot of people get better. It’s just that for some people, your style might feel too much like the uninvolved, dismissive, “just get over it and be happy” type of attitude that some people got from their caregivers (instead of actual parenting), and something different, like what Patrick does with "reparenting" and settling "unfinished business" with the parents, might be a better starting point for them than the Daily Practice. One specific type of toxic family that comes to mind, from Patrick's channel, is called “Looks Good On Paper”, where the parents only care about the family’s public image. They push the kids to be high achievers, but never help them resolve any issues. They just tell their kids to “get over it”, put on the happy mask, and keep up the image. I think all toxic families are like that to some extent, but if someone had parents who really pressured them hard to "just look happy" all the time, they might be so fed up with it by now that they are hypersensitive to anything that feels even the slightest little bit like “just get over it and be happy” (bc it takes them right back to the type of crap-fitting they had to do as a kid, so it feels like they're right back where they started & naturally get pessimistic about the recovery process. But maybe with a completely different approach that meets them more where they are at, they'd feel hopeful again & be able to see a way out 🤷‍♀)

Anna Your a great American 🇺🇸! Very positive message always uplifting

Thank you for inspiring me everyday. Your sweet words are such gifts to us ❤

Anna, I have learned so much from you and I can’t express how much your videos and techniques have helped me understand and change my life for the better!!!!!!! I found you just when I needed you and I will forever be grateful for you! ❤

I’m so sorry that person said those things! You’ve positively changed my life for the better!

I am British myself and there are certainly differences between the culture as a whole but like you said everyone is different. I love your videos and have found so much value in them perhaps because i am ready to embrace change and healing. If you for any reason are not (sounds like this person), there will often be a reason not to get better . I see what she is saying, sometimes it feels like a certain 'American' (stereotypically) toxic positivity can be shoved in your face and of course that's not good so maybe this person is feeling overwhelmed by that type of thing on social media? In any case i don't feel that you give off that vibe and am very grateful for your videos and appreciate especially that you have actually been through a lot of the things you talk about. Thank you for all of these free resources especially for those of us who can't afford help. ❤

Thank you for your transparency Anna, it helps so much!! ❤

Bless you for reaching out to help humanity. I'm fairly new to your channel and at first the things you talked about was like touching a sore tooth. Now I'm going to have to play catch-up with older videos. I just had to give a virtual hug 🤗 to someone that gives so much.💕

This is one of the most helpful episode that you have done. Thank you?

I am a brit and I fully disagree with this commentator. I cannot tell you how much your wisdom and techniques have literally transformed my life. You are a God send Anna. We are all so grateful for all that you do.

watched a few of your videos now, very clean information and balanced perspectives, thank you and kudos

Dear Anna, you are a TRUE tressure gem! I can tell you, that your vid on limerance was my first from you but you got me so deeply. Within 20 min you explained to me not only my limerance that I had vor 6 year now but you also told me, where it is coming from and BOOM! That was my aha moment with you and ever since I do work on myself. It is hard, no question, but the little steps every day...that is insane. Every time you say, you went to therapy for years and felt worse after than before...I can so relate and probably nearly everyone here does. So thank you so much for your help for self help und every word of courage. For the first time in my life I am changing for the better because I want to and I know how to!

Wow...one of the best videos on her channel; i see where the people (family and friends) before me went wrong and i see where i can now do better in the present. Thank you

Gnaw ❤ ...Healing is possible, I'm working now, making new friends and keeping me safe. Sure I get triggered sometimes but short lived and way less disregulating...like an hour at most. I got a gradual incremental happy escalator I live on. Anna showed me where to find it.🙋‍♀️💛

So much love for you and for what you create ❤

Thanks for answering my question about merging! I feel reassured that I am not doing it currently. I just loved hearing about your Laura Ingles Wilder experience growing up. The ice skates, hahaha!! I know that feeling when a TV show doesn't capture the spirit of a book. It's so upsetting.

I’m glad you addressed the pessimistic comment. I know that’s a common thought and I definitely want more people to know that healing is possible even if gradual.

What I think is, we can get over our trauma but the long-term damage done by the trauma e.g. problem in getting a good education, bad financial situation, lack of friends or relatives, etc. take a lifetime to get over. You always start from minus in any new thing when others might start from zero. Its always harder for us cause CPTSD attacks basic survival skills or things like education, focus, keeping a job, financial position, relationships, etc. But thank you for showing that this trauma can be healed and the ways to regulate ourselves. Its only because of you that I came to know my problem and the fact that others are going through this and that it can be handled. ❤ Please continue doing what you do... You are doing something life giving for people. ❤

in your video and blog "if I had a year to heal from CPTSD" you stated you would be a better worker. If I were in a place of still feeling insecure about my job, this harmless sentiment would feel like an attack. As if you were declaring my happiness were attached to my job. But as somebody who THANKFULLY feels very secure and happy with their job, I see what you're saying - to be less miserable, it helps to work some place where you are valued, heard, and compensated fairly. not enjoying ones job, thus being a poor worker, is indicative that ones emotional or financial needs are not being met. It can be so tough to not hear somebody past our defenses when we struggle with CPTSD. I hope this person finds the strength to confront what is actually bothering them. Love your work Anna, keep it up.

I think you are amazing and you know what you are talking about because you have gone through it. All I care about is that you have helped me and been there through my own journey ♡

You are a really beautiful person, if I may say, and thanks for all the effort you are investing for improving people’s life, in such a deep and profound topic.

Thank you. Very inspirational. It’s good to see you word out your clarity. It helps us

Watching you from Turkey. You have no idea how much you are helping me. Thank you so much from the bottom of my heart. 🙏🏻🌺

You have helped me more in the few videos l've watched(just discovered you!) Than any help lve ever sought in my 59 years of life🙏

Keep doing what u do . We need u here

Very valuable content, thank you ❤

Youre amazing ❤ thankyou for all you do. Just listening to your videos is helping me massively. I feel empowered, understand and know I can and will feel better and create the life I want. ❤

Ohhhhhhh my, I soooooo love you❤🌹❤️I am in tears… thank you sooooo very much for sharing your story, your life and your healing.❤ You are the walking miracle that we needed, the hope of a different life, lived without crying and all forms of everything thing that you teach we can be healed from as a result of a crappy childhood.🌹🌹🌹

Thank you Anna for this encouraging video

ps, I absolutely love your videos because of the interactions you have with the viewers.

Its sad to know that was her perspective and take away from all you shared. Sometimes people hold on to fear, there is no love if fear takes up more space. I am thankful for all you share, i have healed different parts of me and i will forever be grateful, someday, i will be able to take your courses and i wish to send you some gifts to show you how grateful i am. Words will not ever be enough. Thank you. You are amazing. ✨✨✨

To me it feels like if I don't heal then the abuser won. And I'll be damned! So recovering and moving on peacefully and abundantly and beautifully means I win. The abuser wants you to never recover.

You have given me hope and I have tried your basic writing and it works so much! I write to be able to remember. It’s nice to write to let go to.

Anna, you are the very first person to ever pinpoint exactly how I feel! You have described yourself and through the letters you read other people with the exact same symptoms and experiences I have had in my life. I too have been too many psychiatrists, therapists with very little results besides medication and repeating my story over again. Dysregulation is the word that describes me and so many others in this community. The daily practice has helped me greatly also. It allows me to have a few hours during the day with a clear enough mind to get things done that I have never been able to before. Personally, my next step will be to join one of your online forums. I think it's on Facebook. I'm a little confused on how to do that. I'll be joining that and seeing if that will bring me to the next step of healing. Also, I have to get out there and try some of the things I've learned with new people, possibly old friends that I trust.

Your video today was just what I needed. Thanks❣️

Wonderful, thank you.

Thank you!! You are a life saver!!